I have no space left on my google and like 1000 notes saved one my phone. Some are recipes, some groceries, books, times when I have given my kids medications, even web links for learning materials. Much to my surprise, I home school my 3rd grader. If you would have told me that would be in my future 4 years ago I would’ve said that you’re delusional. Medication is what allows me to implement that externalization, and it quiets my busy brain so that if I do get off task, I can have the self awareness to stop & reroute to get back to where i left off. I can follow through to completion. Time doesn’t slip away so easily while I get sucked into some void. Quitting Facebook and Instagram has been immense as well.
He hits the nail on the head. This is why I hate technology. People think I am Luddite or "too old" and not technologically capable (and some ageist snottiness from Millennials, implying I am stupid because of my age of 52). But, I do so much better with analog calendars, address/phone books, writing letters and notes and reading hard copy things. My reading comprehension (and ability to focus on details) is greatly improved with actually books, papers and other print material. I can use technology, I just hate it.
Absolutely. I work remotely as a Contracts Administrator, and I'm much better at analyzing a contract if I can print it out and mark it up. I know the makers of technology mean well (bless their hearts), and I can use the Reviewing tools in Word very well...but I'm more effective with the printed page. I'm very grateful to have an employer who recognizes and accepts that. The company bought me a printer!
I like both. I love technology but there are some things, like calendars, that I prefer on paper so I can see things side by side. But technology has truly changed my life for the better. No more losing keys because my car and home doors can be opened with a pin number. Taking pictures of papers helps me to be able to find things. If I don’t have it on paper, or if I can’t find it, I have a picture of it on my phone. All my recipes and manuals are digital so I don’t have to look through files of paper. And I love being able to turn the heat and lights off and on without getting up when I forget to turn them off. I send myself text messages with PIN numbers or appointments.
Me too I've got a huge sand filled timer to chunk tasks as I can't stand phone or clock alerts.... also got an old-school barometer for weather, and a chalk blackboard for tasks
@@LillithLeonard I do contracts too and I really have to be able to print them out in order to be able to orient myself in the document and comprehend the text.
Does anyone sit down and watch these like watching Netflix? I listen to these while doing something else, such as driving, washing the dishes or making food. I can't imagine sitting down to watch and give it 100% attention. I suspect this allows me to get through those boring tasks. How about you?
I listen as I'm doing some other kind of chore that's mindless like pulling weeds or mowing the grass or something like that. And I listened to it at about one and a half to 2x the speed, depending upon the information, the enunciation of the speaker and the speed of the speaker himself. BUT THEN I go back and sit down and write notes as to what is said and more notes as to what it causes me to think about or do differently. I still listen to it higher speed but just have A LOT of pause and play moments. I've learned so much more by doing that. Yes, it takes up more time but it also puts it down into my long-term memory sooooo much better.
I began tutoring my adult son when he reentered college during the pandemic. He and I both have ADHD and often run into problems approaching his studies. Together we have been able to keep him on track and get past barriers that had previously held him back. Things like understanding where instructions are located, adapting to different organization scenarios for each online class, and going between topics without falling apart. He has earned a 4.0 average over the past three semesters, encouraging him to keep going. Still, it is always a struggle--we really needed this information and I am so grateful to have a greater understanding of how our ADHD minds operate.
I had an office and personal assistant for most of my working life. My assistant took care of office organization, supplies and equiptment etc., and did the same for tasks in my personal life such as picking up things at the cleaners, taking my car for gas, inspections, repairs etc. I was able in this way to off load a lot of tasks that were difficult for me due to ADHD. Because I can no longer afford this luxury during retirement. Once i starting being responsible for these tasks myself, i was really struggling, thinking i was getting Alzheimers, or going crazy. Once i found out i have ADHD, it was actually a relief. Ive read everything i can to help me learn about it. I've become aware of when ADHD is the cause or contributing to any problem. This awareness has taken most of the worry, frustration, guilt, and anxiety away. Fortunately, my spouse is very understanding and helpful. I actually think it has made it easier on him to know why i have been struggling.
Jeff Copper describes my experience exactly. I’m not dx but I have self dx at age 51. I have always felt I’m fairly intelligent but there’s always been a problem in converting it into action and results. Ambiguous problems are exactly when I procrastinate (aka find housework etc to do) and I do find breaking down complex ambiguous tasks causes more mental fatigue than I think it should. I can really relate to the need to reframe issues as ‘difficult’ (for me) that I have previously told myself should be ‘easy’. Leading to frustration when I can’t easily or quickly complete them. And sometimes conflict with others who also think I should have completed tasks sooner.
I love the jump to conclusions doodle lol The presentation was great and I enjoyed the reference/content from Dr. Barkley. His presentation changed my life. I was diagnosed at 28, and finally had something I could share with my family in a way that they could understand. I had to beg them to listen to it with me but when he got through his introduction they went quiet and didn't speak for almost 20 minutes. It began to make sense and my mom who is 70, also has ADHD, kind of saw herself as well as she's undiagnosed. Great stuff
This is the first time I've come upon this channel. Like one of the clients mentioned in the talk, I, too, am a 67 year old woman who only just got formerly diagnosed with ADHD for the first time a month ago. I always suspected it though, & some of my (now adult) children have been diagnosed with it, but because we're all relatively 'high functioning' - at least in some areas - we've all just muddled along as best we can. But each of us also have areas of our executive functioning where we don't do well. Keeping up with 'paperwork' & emails & filing, etc, has always been a challenge. All that to say, good talk! Very helpful. Thanks Jeff. Subscribed.
I'm 52. Not officially diagnosed and see no reason to be. (When you know, you know.) My mother recently said, "All your life, you've struggled to survive. It's no wonder you're tired!"
I just talk out loud to myself 😂 My mother did it my entire childhood, so it became normal. When I did work, I worked on my own as a mobile groomer so it didn’t matter if it is socially acceptable. When I do it at a store I get some looks 😂. Sometime I will talk to strangers or employees. Externally stating my next goal or baby step just to myself is useful. Even if I have lists organized in aisle order, I speak to myself.
@@mrjohncrumpton ironically, I have mistaken other people as speaking to me when really they were using an earpiece hidden behind their hair or whatever 🤔 Phone to ear is definitely the way to go lol.
I also talk to myself, especially at work when I'm filling prescriotions. Other pharmacists can't understand why do I go to the stockroom and bring controlled drugs for the script one by one when everyone brings the lot at once. My working memory is short and I always prioritise accuracy over speed. No mistakes, my system is working for me 😊
I really needed this today because Ive been extremely challenged this week and it is a HUGE task I can do om my meds ususally. But a lot of extra stuff has happened and I keep freezing up.. stuck and I know we procrastinate but you gave me plan .. It will work I hope
Really great Webinar, it gives the Background for why Sometimes I function so much better than people around me, and sometimes I struggle enormously until I find a different way to do it. So helpful. Would love more of these information.
Too painfully familar to listen in one go. Perfect timing to receive just failed AGAIN in legal UK court case to pay for report accessments proving how invisible I remain. The truth so well described, threw me into serious grieving. Age 71, far to high functioning Aspie for my own good. My reality is invisible!
I have heard almost 10 recordings so far...mostly all of them wonderful and helpful...but this one is THE BEST....learnt so much...resonated so much...Thank You! God bless you! Both the ADDitute n Jeff...thank you!
There are a lot of great points in here and some very helpful ways of thinking about my ability to focus and be productive. One problem I have with it is that this does not take those of us who are introverted and have ADHD. I do not want to talk things over with anybody until I have had time to think and understand my own ideas. Without that time, I will just roll over to whatever someone else thinks, which may not be the right solution at all. I know we're a minority (25% of people), but I think we need a different strategy.
I find it so much easier to fall into a task, while doing something else. In other words, I randomly find something that interests me and would require action and effort to do. I can easily set off on the side quest, even a difficult one, and enjoy the process without any anxiety. What may also happen is i lose interest while working on the side quest, and abandon it. Somehow both of these actually are easier for me than starting work on the main project. I get a boost from completing a task, or if i stopped before finishing, I get a boost because i finished part. I rationalize by saying I'll finish later. I also really enjoy getting things organized and prepared to begin a project, much more than to actually work on the project. When I finish a big project, after extended procrastination, I dont get a boost. Instead, I just feel a sense of relief.
Whoa...... Thank you so much for posting missing pieces here. I don't even know if I would have listened to it if I had found it last year but now I am thank you so much
i hope this helpful because I am so tired of looking for hope and getting told the same useless stuff over and over. We know all this, we know that we do not want to do it so we do not do it. I don't want to look for a job. Why? Because 1) I have been having trouble even finding one to apply for and 2) I don't want to end up working in the same type of job I have had in the past anyway, where I will just get get bitched at for mistakes. People with ADHD aren't stupid, I'd argue we are much smarter than others and we are trying to just survive in a world that constantly criticizes us for EVERYTHING.
Omg. I am yet to finish the video but does this explain why I have to talk out loud when processing/ working through steps and stages. I always thought I was such a weirdo for needing to do this and it’s so validating to hear that part on working memory
I do too and the older I get or I'm tired I call it think outloud.. My husband has decided I'm loosing my mind.. I've sent him articles but I told mY doctor., this week and he works well with mental health. But he looked really weird at me when I stated that. So I've been taking to myself negative for 3 days. DID he say it is ok for us to or he keeps saying to talk outloud as in another person. It is a task.
"Thinking is hard". I've though for a while 'I can't think", which is difficult to admit because to other people that sounds like 'I'm stupid', yet I'm actually quite intelligent.
The benefit of email for ADHDers is precisely that it doesn't require ANY working memory because you always have your references in front of you. When you have a conversation face to face it's rude to reference your notes and you have to keep everything in your head.
The entire email and text part he is older and if you are the Boss ... He discussed, she can pick it but employees can't and all jobs require tech and it's not going away. It took me a long time. I also talk too much and if I had call someone I would get off task..
Discovering I am ADHD and starting Effexor has radically changed my life. I continue to listen to these videos and life is finally starting to make sense. I’m so very grateful for this information.
@@kobebryant-cl7ul it is an SSRI and it does seem to help with ADHD but mostly it helps reduce my anxiety and keep myself regulated emotionally. I learned about Effexor from Dr Amen in his book on healing ADHD.
@@kobebryant-cl7ul all of these meds can help in different ways. One of my doc said it's for depression, another said it's for anxiety, and another for ADHD. I was diagnosed with the first two long ago and tried various meds until this one worked. It appears to help in many ways but I do know that it keeps me from feeling suicidal. I have no idea why, but it is the one med that I cannot live without
I had to imagine 6 boxes 2 down, 3 across and put the picture of the word in each to “hold” them and then try to alphabetize them. (My 2nd try at the exercise!) I forgot one and got the order wrong on 2…but, imagining them as pictures really helped.
@@vibrantly50 Out of interest, have you memorised your timetables? I'm in my 40s now but recall at 10 years old being the only one who just couldn't remember them, much to the annoyance of the headteacher!
I don’t know what the order of the alphabet is unless I repeat the whole lot and run through the sequence of letters in my head to get to the appropriate letter. I know B is near the start and Z is at the end, but the ones in the middle are a black hole. I can't see the sequence at all.
I noticed visual imagery mentioned several times, but aphantasic people do not have this ability. Is there reseach specifically between ADHD / Executive Dysfunction and their relationship with aphantasia?
I use exactly the podcast technique he mentions! No too boring, not too interesting, volume set low. I'd say...8 times out of 10 it's enough for me to drop off.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 04:09 🎙️ *Introduction and Background of Jeff Copper* - Jeff Copper's background and involvement in ADHD community, - He emphasizes the need to probe deeper into ADHD-related challenges, - Jeff Copper's experience as an ADHD coach and his commitment to understanding attention challenges. 05:07 🧠 *Understanding ADHD Beyond Focus* - ADHD is viewed more as an executive function impairment than just a focus issue, - The importance of observing facts without jumping to conclusions, - Jeff Copper's insights on redefining ADHD and its root causes. 06:31 📚 *Dr. Russell Barkley's Perspective on ADHD* - Dr. Russell Barkley's argument on ADHD as an executive function impairment, - Importance of defining executive functioning precisely for better management, - Breakdown of executive functioning components: self-awareness, self-restraint, visual imagery, verbal working memory, emotional regulation, and playing with information. 10:57 🧪 *Dopamine and Motivation in ADHD* - Dopamine's role as a reward neurotransmitter and its significance in motivation, - Simplifying ADHD as a dopamine addiction for better understanding, - The influence of advertisers and social media in exploiting human desire for pleasure and escape from pain. 13:18 🧭 *Emotions, Feelings, and Reflexive Reactions* - Distinction between emotions and feelings as reflexive reactions and their physical manifestations, - The survival mechanism of fight, flight, or freeze during emotional states, - Importance of engaging the thinking brain to manage emotional reactions effectively. 16:34 🧠 *Working Memory and Goal-Oriented Thinking* - Definition and importance of working memory in thinking towards a goal, - Challenges faced by individuals with ADHD in internalizing the thinking process, - Different types of thinking processes: methodical, trial and error, and insightful thinking. 21:22 🚧 *Challenges in Thinking for Individuals with ADHD* - Acknowledging the difficulties in thinking for individuals with ADHD, - The tendency to bypass thinking due to emotional influences, - Jeff Copper's perspective on respecting and understanding the challenges faced by those with ADHD. 24:28 🧠 *Understanding the ADHD Brain's Relationship with Thinking* - The ADHD brain has a tendency to escape when faced with challenging thinking tasks. - The ADHD brain is reflexive, emotional, and seeks immediate dopamine-driven satisfaction. - When faced with tasks that require deep thinking, ADHD individuals may experience a heightened urge to escape or avoid. 25:53 📝 *Insights into ADHD and Procrastination* - Procrastination in ADHD often stems from ambiguity and lack of clarity. - There's a significant correlation between uncertainty avoidance and procrastination. - Around 80% of procrastination in ADHD is linked to uncertainty or ambiguity about the task at hand. 30:45 🗂️ *Organizational Challenges Faced by ADHD Individuals* - ADHD individuals often overlook the importance of choosing the right organizational system. - Picking an organizational system without considering individual needs can lead to inefficiencies. - Externalizing thoughts and discussing organizational options can aid in selecting a system that suits an individual's needs. 32:39 📧 *Illusions of Convenience and ADHD* - The modern world's conveniences, like quick emails or texts, might not always be productive for ADHD individuals. - Instant messaging or emailing can lead to unnecessary working memory challenges. - Conversations and direct interactions often prove more efficient than written communication for those with ADHD. 36:10 🚫 *The Urge to Escape in ADHD* - ADHD individuals frequently experience a heightened urge to escape or avoid situations, especially those requiring deep thought. - Saying "I feel like" often indicates jumping to conclusions without thorough analysis. - Recognizing the tendency to escape allows for better self-awareness and proactive strategies. 42:25 🛌 *Understanding the ADHD brain and sleep patterns* - Understanding the ADHD brain's emotional tendencies towards immediate gratification. - The challenges individuals with ADHD face when trying to fall asleep due to a restless mind. - Strategies such as engaging activities like adult coloring books or podcasts to help transition into sleep. 45:38 🧠 *ADHD, procrastination, and the role of thinking* - Addressing the misconception that procrastination is solely about ambiguity. - Emphasizing the significance of understanding ADHD as an executive function impairment. - Highlighting the importance of addressing thinking challenges rather than merely focusing on external organizational systems. 47:41 🎓 *Overcoming societal biases and advocating for personal ADHD management* - Recognizing the societal convenience in molding individuals to fit certain norms. - The need for individuals with ADHD to recognize and advocate for what works best for them. - Emphasizing the importance of understanding oneself and not being swayed solely by societal expectations. 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Regarding the six-word exercise, does Annie have ADHD or are they attempting to demonstrate how both neurodiverse and neurotypicals struggle with these kinds of exercises? I find it hard to understand when they are talking about people with and people without ADHD at some points.
I don't understand why using technology and not using it has to be mutually exclusive. I take online classes and some things I love doing on the computer and some things old school. It's the best of both worlds.
I guess the intros are there to validate the competence of the speaker to the sceptics amongst us, since we know this is part of their formula, fast forwarding through them is the answer 🙂😉
@Pebbles..im already tuning out just trying to listen to the lady's voice doing his credentials & house-keeping.. I'm also Aspie, & voices can be difficult, such as hers.. Would like a list of bullet points just to state the main points!! Sigh. Hugs to you
@@pebbles8022 ~thank you, hug gratefully received 😍😊🤗 And I like your perspective, about us not for us!¡ May we find & receive all we need (including plentiful hugs) & feel supported, functional, & happy.. 🙏😇.. 🌟🌟 Love from Judith x (UK)
I have not watched about 10 of these. I'm always puzzled as to why you guys make your guests sit there for so many minutes while you do your housekeeping. I'm not trying to be insulting. It's just an interesting choice.
This is a great one also as help against the self-torture, or otherwise in the end indifference, that could hit those bothered enough not to be much able to reach possible goals, or "dreams", that goals then could possibly widely be named. How ever: Regarding "stimulation by reward" BE SURE to avoid rewarding kids (or anyone else, self included) with sweets! It's time to further realise that exchanging all refined sugars (and I mean all!) with fats and starges is greatly helpful also to those bothered by ADHD, as to many others suffering from one or more dysfunctions of the brain. Though, take one such life saving advice, do not then extend further with MCT-oil, as "ketones" if approching ketosis already may not only be harming due to the toxic breakdown of fatty acid surplusses, but will also be risky, in particular what the glucose adopted brain censerns, but also where ketosis is actual. Otherwise: Teach the body and the brain to make use of fats, saturated and mono-unsaturated, and be sure not only to take advantage of the to the lesser teared and easier fed mitochondria, but also no doubt of the lesser teared and easier fed brain. In fact, provided also a fiber-fed gut, lowering medicine doses will take one further on the path to a well functioning short term memory, how ever hard it may be to reach the "well planned life" for anyone not receiving the special attention also required.
maybe you could try to listen to a slightly interesting or slightly boring podcast or audio book...I cannot sleep unless I do this...usually I listen to something about history that is not too upsetting or the Gospel of John
I laugh everytime that a leader, a preacher..boss.self help Doctors, tell us that we are watching Netflix or Social Media in a wrong way. I KNOW it is an issue.. But within 2 min. He is telling us to watch Netflix to kearn about this . LOL
He is so spot on about ambiguity and lack of clarity being the basis for procrastination.
Talk begins at 4:59
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Imagine being somewhere to record a presentation and having to clench your teeth for 5 minutes straight because of the introlady
Imagine having ADHD and giving up on watching at 4 mins
Thanks.
I have no space left on my google and like 1000 notes saved one my phone. Some are recipes, some groceries, books, times when I have given my kids medications, even web links for learning materials. Much to my surprise, I home school my 3rd grader. If you would have told me that would be in my future 4 years ago I would’ve said that you’re delusional. Medication is what allows me to implement that externalization, and it quiets my busy brain so that if I do get off task, I can have the self awareness to stop & reroute to get back to where i left off. I can follow through to completion. Time doesn’t slip away so easily while I get sucked into some void. Quitting Facebook and Instagram has been immense as well.
I rarely do Facebook now, no Instagram or Tik tok.
Ah, the time thing… now I know that I’m not the only ADHD’er for whom large chunks of time slip away in nano seconds!
He hits the nail on the head. This is why I hate technology. People think I am Luddite or "too old" and not technologically capable (and some ageist snottiness from Millennials, implying I am stupid because of my age of 52). But, I do so much better with analog calendars, address/phone books, writing letters and notes and reading hard copy things. My reading comprehension (and ability to focus on details) is greatly improved with actually books, papers and other print material. I can use technology, I just hate it.
Absolutely. I work remotely as a Contracts Administrator, and I'm much better at analyzing a contract if I can print it out and mark it up. I know the makers of technology mean well (bless their hearts), and I can use the Reviewing tools in Word very well...but I'm more effective with the printed page. I'm very grateful to have an employer who recognizes and accepts that. The company bought me a printer!
I love technology and I can use very well.
Is user friendly!!!!
My intuition helps.
I like both. I love technology but there are some things, like calendars, that I prefer on paper so I can see things side by side. But technology has truly changed my life for the better. No more losing keys because my car and home doors can be opened with a pin number. Taking pictures of papers helps me to be able to find things. If I don’t have it on paper, or if I can’t find it, I have a picture of it on my phone. All my recipes and manuals are digital so I don’t have to look through files of paper. And I love being able to turn the heat and lights off and on without getting up when I forget to turn them off. I send myself text messages with PIN numbers or appointments.
Me too I've got a huge sand filled timer to chunk tasks as I can't stand phone or clock alerts.... also got an old-school barometer for weather, and a chalk blackboard for tasks
@@LillithLeonard I do contracts too and I really have to be able to print them out in order to be able to orient myself in the document and comprehend the text.
Does anyone sit down and watch these like watching Netflix? I listen to these while doing something else, such as driving, washing the dishes or making food. I can't imagine sitting down to watch and give it 100% attention. I suspect this allows me to get through those boring tasks. How about you?
Reading comments and TV is running, thinking about different things.
I listened while doing my work. Thankfully, I work alone, and my work is more physical than mental
I do use webinars to get through boring chores too!😊
i usually play candy crush or solitaire because unless there's some visual stuff I get too restless
I listen as I'm doing some other kind of chore that's mindless like pulling weeds or mowing the grass or something like that. And I listened to it at about one and a half to 2x the speed, depending upon the information, the enunciation of the speaker and the speed of the speaker himself.
BUT THEN I go back and sit down and write notes as to what is said and more notes as to what it causes me to think about or do differently.
I still listen to it higher speed but just have A LOT of pause and play moments.
I've learned so much more by doing that. Yes, it takes up more time but it also puts it down into my long-term memory sooooo much better.
The six word exercise and the implications is fascinating. It makes it clear how limited I am and how I can make life easier for myself.
I began tutoring my adult son when he reentered college during the pandemic. He and I both have ADHD and often run into problems approaching his studies. Together we have been able to keep him on track and get past barriers that had previously held him back. Things like understanding where instructions are located, adapting to different organization scenarios for each online class, and going between topics without falling apart. He has earned a 4.0 average over the past three semesters, encouraging him to keep going. Still, it is always a struggle--we really needed this information and I am so grateful to have a greater understanding of how our ADHD minds operate.
That's great!
Good work. It's challenge you've managed it well, applying right concepts
ADDitude is an amazing platform
I had an office and personal assistant for most of my working life. My assistant took care of office organization, supplies and equiptment etc., and did the same for tasks in my personal life such as picking up things at the cleaners, taking my car for gas, inspections, repairs etc.
I was able in this way to off load a lot of tasks that were difficult for me due to ADHD.
Because I can no longer afford this luxury during retirement. Once i starting being responsible for these tasks myself, i was really struggling, thinking i was getting Alzheimers, or going crazy.
Once i found out i have ADHD, it was actually a relief. Ive read everything i can to help me learn about it. I've become aware of when ADHD is the cause or contributing to any problem.
This awareness has taken most of the worry, frustration, guilt, and anxiety away.
Fortunately, my spouse is very understanding and helpful. I actually think it has made it easier on him to know why i have been struggling.
Jeff Copper describes my experience exactly. I’m not dx but I have self dx at age 51. I have always felt I’m fairly intelligent but there’s always been a problem in converting it into action and results. Ambiguous problems are exactly when I procrastinate (aka find housework etc to do) and I do find breaking down complex ambiguous tasks causes more mental fatigue than I think it should. I can really relate to the need to reframe issues as ‘difficult’ (for me) that I have previously told myself should be ‘easy’. Leading to frustration when I can’t easily or quickly complete them. And sometimes conflict with others who also think I should have completed tasks sooner.
I love the jump to conclusions doodle lol
The presentation was great and I enjoyed the reference/content from Dr. Barkley. His presentation changed my life. I was diagnosed at 28, and finally had something I could share with my family in a way that they could understand. I had to beg them to listen to it with me but when he got through his introduction they went quiet and didn't speak for almost 20 minutes. It began to make sense and my mom who is 70, also has ADHD, kind of saw herself as well as she's undiagnosed. Great stuff
This is the first time I've come upon this channel. Like one of the clients mentioned in the talk, I, too, am a 67 year old woman who only just got formerly diagnosed with ADHD for the first time a month ago. I always suspected it though, & some of my (now adult) children have been diagnosed with it, but because we're all relatively 'high functioning' - at least in some areas - we've all just muddled along as best we can. But each of us also have areas of our executive functioning where we don't do well. Keeping up with 'paperwork' & emails & filing, etc, has always been a challenge. All that to say, good talk! Very helpful. Thanks Jeff. Subscribed.
I'm 52. Not officially diagnosed and see no reason to be. (When you know, you know.) My mother recently said, "All your life, you've struggled to survive. It's no wonder you're tired!"
I just talk out loud to myself 😂 My mother did it my entire childhood, so it became normal. When I did work, I worked on my own as a mobile groomer so it didn’t matter if it is socially acceptable. When I do it at a store I get some looks 😂. Sometime I will talk to strangers or employees. Externally stating my next goal or baby step just to myself is useful. Even if I have lists organized in aisle order, I speak to myself.
I'd you hold your phone to your ear while talking it looks like you're having a conversation with someone.
@@mrjohncrumpton ironically, I have mistaken other people as speaking to me when really they were using an earpiece hidden behind their hair or whatever 🤔 Phone to ear is definitely the way to go lol.
I also talk to myself, especially at work when I'm filling prescriotions. Other pharmacists can't understand why do I go to the stockroom and bring controlled drugs for the script one by one when everyone brings the lot at once. My working memory is short and I always prioritise accuracy over speed. No mistakes, my system is working for me 😊
Life coach would be unbelievably helpful 😕
I really needed this today because Ive been extremely challenged this week and it is a HUGE task I can do om my meds ususally. But a lot of extra stuff has happened and I keep freezing up.. stuck and I know we procrastinate but you gave me plan .. It will work I hope
Really great Webinar, it gives the Background for why Sometimes I function so much better than people around me, and sometimes I struggle enormously until I find a different way to do it. So helpful. Would love more of these information.
Wonderfully clear. I feel so seen. This is a terrific one for all the folks saying, "so what? everyone has ADHD."
i kind of wish everyone DID have it...
OMG “the ADHD brain is different not deficient!” This is exactly what I needed to hear - thank you SO much! ⭐️
“And I mean frequent”. 😂 Love it.
Too painfully familar to listen in one go. Perfect timing to receive just failed AGAIN in legal UK court case to pay for report accessments proving how invisible I remain.
The truth so well described, threw me into serious grieving.
Age 71, far to high functioning Aspie for my own good. My reality is invisible!
I know the feeling
For an ADD/ADHD focused channel, they sure have a long preamble before getting into the talk, holy crap
I have heard almost 10 recordings so far...mostly all of them wonderful and helpful...but this one is THE BEST....learnt so much...resonated so much...Thank You! God bless you! Both the ADDitute n Jeff...thank you!
There are a lot of great points in here and some very helpful ways of thinking about my ability to focus and be productive. One problem I have with it is that this does not take those of us who are introverted and have ADHD. I do not want to talk things over with anybody until I have had time to think and understand my own ideas. Without that time, I will just roll over to whatever someone else thinks, which may not be the right solution at all. I know we're a minority (25% of people), but I think we need a different strategy.
I find it so much easier to fall into a task, while doing something else. In other words, I randomly find something that interests me and would require action and effort to do. I can easily set off on the side quest, even a difficult one, and enjoy the process without any anxiety.
What may also happen is i lose interest while working on the side quest, and abandon it.
Somehow both of these actually are easier for me than starting work on the main project. I get a boost from completing a task, or if i stopped before finishing, I get a boost because i finished part. I rationalize by saying I'll finish later.
I also really enjoy getting things organized and prepared to begin a project, much more than to actually work on the project.
When I finish a big project, after extended procrastination, I dont get a boost. Instead, I just feel a
sense of relief.
Whoa...... Thank you so much for posting missing pieces here. I don't even know if I would have listened to it if I had found it last year but now I am thank you so much
4:58 to save you some time
i hope this helpful because I am so tired of looking for hope and getting told the same useless stuff over and over. We know all this, we know that we do not want to do it so we do not do it. I don't want to look for a job. Why? Because 1) I have been having trouble even finding one to apply for and 2) I don't want to end up working in the same type of job I have had in the past anyway, where I will just get get bitched at for mistakes. People with ADHD aren't stupid, I'd argue we are much smarter than others and we are trying to just survive in a world that constantly criticizes us for EVERYTHING.
I do like to talk through things but I also need to write it down or type it. That way, as time goes by , I can find it in writing.
This has brought me such clarity
Omg. I am yet to finish the video but does this explain why I have to talk out loud when processing/ working through steps and stages. I always thought I was such a weirdo for needing to do this and it’s so validating to hear that part on working memory
I do too and the older I get or I'm tired I call it think outloud.. My husband has decided I'm loosing my mind.. I've sent him articles but I told mY doctor., this week and he works well with mental health. But he looked really weird at me when I stated that. So I've been taking to myself negative for 3 days.
DID he say it is ok for us to or he keeps saying to talk outloud as in another person. It is a task.
By what he states we need to talk or think outloud but he is stating when we are home and can't. I TALK OUT TO MYSELF SOME TO FOCUS
Thank you, this was great info!
"Thinking is hard". I've though for a while 'I can't think", which is difficult to admit because to other people that sounds like 'I'm stupid', yet I'm actually quite intelligent.
Precise and helping insights and advice.
Thanks for the repost. It's an amazingly helpful reminder
Great video thanks for sharing.
If the channel could time stamp this information, that would be really heplful.
The benefit of email for ADHDers is precisely that it doesn't require ANY working memory because you always have your references in front of you.
When you have a conversation face to face it's rude to reference your notes and you have to keep everything in your head.
The entire email and text part he is older and if you are the Boss ... He discussed, she can pick it but employees can't and all jobs require tech and it's not going away. It took me a long time. I also talk too much and if I had call someone I would get off task..
Really helpful n informative..
This is excellent
Raise your hand if you are ADHD and have restarted the video multiple times because you stopped paying attention!
i often don't bother even restarting, just keep half-listening!
“Not too stimulating, not too boring” this lecture at 4am…. Thank you :):)
Brilliant👏
Discovering I am ADHD and starting Effexor has radically changed my life. I continue to listen to these videos and life is finally starting to make sense. I’m so very grateful for this information.
Isn’t Effexor an SSRI? Does it help your ADHD symptoms!
@@kobebryant-cl7ul it is an SSRI and it does seem to help with ADHD but mostly it helps reduce my anxiety and keep myself regulated emotionally. I learned about Effexor from Dr Amen in his book on healing ADHD.
effexor keeps me alive
@@kobebryant-cl7ul all of these meds can help in different ways. One of my doc said it's for depression, another said it's for anxiety, and another for ADHD. I was diagnosed with the first two long ago and tried various meds until this one worked. It appears to help in many ways but I do know that it keeps me from feeling suicidal. I have no idea why, but it is the one med that I cannot live without
"I feel" like this video read my mind. Couple instant questions I had were answered 10 seconds later... some kind of pattern here.
I love Jeff!! always super insightful and engaging
I had to imagine 6 boxes 2 down, 3 across and put the picture of the word in each to “hold” them and then try to alphabetize them. (My 2nd try at the exercise!) I forgot one and got the order wrong on 2…but, imagining them as pictures really helped.
Thanks that's helpful! I only remembered two words and I'm still not 100% sure about the order of the alphabet. I can see why this is a disability!
@@mrjohncrumpton Exactly, I never understood why doing math equations in my head was soooo difficult! And couldn’t recall if “i” or “j” came first.
@@vibrantly50 Out of interest, have you memorised your timetables? I'm in my 40s now but recall at 10 years old being the only one who just couldn't remember them, much to the annoyance of the headteacher!
I really appreciate these videos.
Great informative webinar! Thanks 🙏
Life changing ❤
I don’t know what the order of the alphabet is unless I repeat the whole lot and run through the sequence of letters in my head to get to the appropriate letter. I know B is near the start and Z is at the end, but the ones in the middle are a black hole. I can't see the sequence at all.
For an audience off add people that intro was too long….😂
it's not too bad if you can play a video game during
All the additude ones are lol. I always skip to the start coz otherwise I’m too frustrated by the time it starts 😂😂
I noticed visual imagery mentioned several times, but aphantasic people do not have this ability. Is there reseach specifically between ADHD / Executive Dysfunction and their relationship with aphantasia?
I use exactly the podcast technique he mentions! No too boring, not too interesting, volume set low. I'd say...8 times out of 10 it's enough for me to drop off.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
04:09 🎙️ *Introduction and Background of Jeff Copper*
- Jeff Copper's background and involvement in ADHD community,
- He emphasizes the need to probe deeper into ADHD-related challenges,
- Jeff Copper's experience as an ADHD coach and his commitment to understanding attention challenges.
05:07 🧠 *Understanding ADHD Beyond Focus*
- ADHD is viewed more as an executive function impairment than just a focus issue,
- The importance of observing facts without jumping to conclusions,
- Jeff Copper's insights on redefining ADHD and its root causes.
06:31 📚 *Dr. Russell Barkley's Perspective on ADHD*
- Dr. Russell Barkley's argument on ADHD as an executive function impairment,
- Importance of defining executive functioning precisely for better management,
- Breakdown of executive functioning components: self-awareness, self-restraint, visual imagery, verbal working memory, emotional regulation, and playing with information.
10:57 🧪 *Dopamine and Motivation in ADHD*
- Dopamine's role as a reward neurotransmitter and its significance in motivation,
- Simplifying ADHD as a dopamine addiction for better understanding,
- The influence of advertisers and social media in exploiting human desire for pleasure and escape from pain.
13:18 🧭 *Emotions, Feelings, and Reflexive Reactions*
- Distinction between emotions and feelings as reflexive reactions and their physical manifestations,
- The survival mechanism of fight, flight, or freeze during emotional states,
- Importance of engaging the thinking brain to manage emotional reactions effectively.
16:34 🧠 *Working Memory and Goal-Oriented Thinking*
- Definition and importance of working memory in thinking towards a goal,
- Challenges faced by individuals with ADHD in internalizing the thinking process,
- Different types of thinking processes: methodical, trial and error, and insightful thinking.
21:22 🚧 *Challenges in Thinking for Individuals with ADHD*
- Acknowledging the difficulties in thinking for individuals with ADHD,
- The tendency to bypass thinking due to emotional influences,
- Jeff Copper's perspective on respecting and understanding the challenges faced by those with ADHD.
24:28 🧠 *Understanding the ADHD Brain's Relationship with Thinking*
- The ADHD brain has a tendency to escape when faced with challenging thinking tasks.
- The ADHD brain is reflexive, emotional, and seeks immediate dopamine-driven satisfaction.
- When faced with tasks that require deep thinking, ADHD individuals may experience a heightened urge to escape or avoid.
25:53 📝 *Insights into ADHD and Procrastination*
- Procrastination in ADHD often stems from ambiguity and lack of clarity.
- There's a significant correlation between uncertainty avoidance and procrastination.
- Around 80% of procrastination in ADHD is linked to uncertainty or ambiguity about the task at hand.
30:45 🗂️ *Organizational Challenges Faced by ADHD Individuals*
- ADHD individuals often overlook the importance of choosing the right organizational system.
- Picking an organizational system without considering individual needs can lead to inefficiencies.
- Externalizing thoughts and discussing organizational options can aid in selecting a system that suits an individual's needs.
32:39 📧 *Illusions of Convenience and ADHD*
- The modern world's conveniences, like quick emails or texts, might not always be productive for ADHD individuals.
- Instant messaging or emailing can lead to unnecessary working memory challenges.
- Conversations and direct interactions often prove more efficient than written communication for those with ADHD.
36:10 🚫 *The Urge to Escape in ADHD*
- ADHD individuals frequently experience a heightened urge to escape or avoid situations, especially those requiring deep thought.
- Saying "I feel like" often indicates jumping to conclusions without thorough analysis.
- Recognizing the tendency to escape allows for better self-awareness and proactive strategies.
42:25 🛌 *Understanding the ADHD brain and sleep patterns*
- Understanding the ADHD brain's emotional tendencies towards immediate gratification.
- The challenges individuals with ADHD face when trying to fall asleep due to a restless mind.
- Strategies such as engaging activities like adult coloring books or podcasts to help transition into sleep.
45:38 🧠 *ADHD, procrastination, and the role of thinking*
- Addressing the misconception that procrastination is solely about ambiguity.
- Emphasizing the significance of understanding ADHD as an executive function impairment.
- Highlighting the importance of addressing thinking challenges rather than merely focusing on external organizational systems.
47:41 🎓 *Overcoming societal biases and advocating for personal ADHD management*
- Recognizing the societal convenience in molding individuals to fit certain norms.
- The need for individuals with ADHD to recognize and advocate for what works best for them.
- Emphasizing the importance of understanding oneself and not being swayed solely by societal expectations.
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Regarding the six-word exercise, does Annie have ADHD or are they attempting to demonstrate how both neurodiverse and neurotypicals struggle with these kinds of exercises? I find it hard to understand when they are talking about people with and people without ADHD at some points.
Can anyone explain why the lectures on a channel dedicated to ADHD are all 1 hour plus? Just give me the dot points.
I use ASMR videos to help me go to sleep
I don't understand why using technology and not using it has to be mutually exclusive. I take online classes and some things I love doing on the computer and some things old school. It's the best of both worlds.
whats up with ad intrusions probably 7 times and two back to back for each
you might want to invest in youtube premium, the ads otherwise are insane
Great video but I had to slow down the playback. He speaks so fast it hurt my brain.
that's what the speed playback is made for :)
SHORTER. INTROS. PLEASE.
This one is more boring than usual
I guess the intros are there to validate the competence of the speaker to the sceptics amongst us,
since we know this is part of their formula, fast forwarding through them is the answer 🙂😉
You can always use the fast forward buttons.
I too 52
for a few more
weeks
that is uhhh
anatomy of attention....
Tampa you say!
coach me
you can
coach me
Allday
Adhd videos shouldn’t take 5 mins to even start getting to the point
😂
😂😂😂
Hardcore History. You’re welcome.
Oh dear, 8mins in and I’ve lost interest/ the ability, to sieve through for points that will help me 😢 maybe this is for ‘ professionals‘ ?
@Pebbles..im already tuning out just trying to listen to the lady's voice doing his credentials & house-keeping.. I'm also Aspie, & voices can be difficult, such as hers.. Would like a list of bullet points just to state the main points!! Sigh.
Hugs to you
@@manyBlessings2all 😂 guess it’s about us, not for us, still, lovely to receive a hug, sending one back x
@@pebbles8022 ~thank you, hug gratefully received 😍😊🤗
And I like your perspective, about us not for us!¡ May we find & receive all we need (including plentiful hugs) & feel supported, functional, & happy.. 🙏😇.. 🌟🌟 Love from Judith x (UK)
@@manyBlessings2all Those points are in the video description, with time stamps. Judging by many of the other comments here worth the effort.
@@rdklkje13 Thank you, appreciate you letting me know 👍😀
I have not watched about 10 of these. I'm always puzzled as to why you guys make your guests sit there for so many minutes while you do your housekeeping. I'm not trying to be insulting. It's just an interesting choice.
This is a great one also as help against the self-torture, or otherwise in the end indifference, that could hit those bothered enough not to be much able to reach possible goals, or "dreams", that goals then could possibly widely be named.
How ever: Regarding "stimulation by reward" BE SURE to avoid rewarding kids (or anyone else, self included) with sweets!
It's time to further realise that exchanging all refined sugars (and I mean all!) with fats and starges is greatly helpful also to those bothered by ADHD, as to many others suffering from one or more dysfunctions of the brain. Though, take one such life saving advice, do not then extend further with MCT-oil, as "ketones" if approching ketosis already may not only be harming due to the toxic breakdown of fatty acid surplusses, but will also be risky, in particular what the glucose adopted brain censerns, but also where ketosis is actual. Otherwise: Teach the body and the brain to make use of fats, saturated and mono-unsaturated, and be sure not only to take advantage of the to the lesser teared and easier fed mitochondria, but also no doubt of the lesser teared and easier fed brain.
In fact, provided also a fiber-fed gut, lowering medicine doses will take one further on the path to a well functioning short term memory, how ever hard it may be to reach the "well planned life" for anyone not receiving the special attention also required.
Enough with the endless intro info. I've already wandered away.
they have to do that....just jump ahead
I avoid going to bed so I’m not crying myself to sleep because of RSD.
maybe you could try to listen to a slightly interesting or slightly boring podcast or audio book...I cannot sleep unless I do this...usually I listen to something about history that is not too upsetting or the Gospel of John
he said anxious🐣
Barnum effect.
43:46 ...or watch educational videos, in an attempt to face the ever pressing, elusive yet so well known, by flight....
I laugh everytime that a leader, a preacher..boss.self help Doctors, tell us that we are watching Netflix or Social Media in a wrong way. I KNOW it is an issue.. But within 2 min. He is telling us to watch Netflix to kearn about this . LOL
One of the things that bothers me deeply about Dr. Barkley's definition of ADHD is that it seems like he barely thinks of ADHDers as human.
he does, his brother was killed due to adhd..it's just that Dr. R is very blunt and does not like when people give false hope
Too much waffle at the beginning!
52:58 how much of and when, the day dreaming by a adhd'er amounts to MDD? Maladaptive Daydreaming.
This talk might be about adhd. But it definitely is not for adhd audience. Its too long, wordy and too long.
Seeing emotions as a reflex and feelings as a reaction is ... wrong and lacks grace. This video misses the mark.
you don't think reflux and reaction is true? is it bad?
Um….. You lost me at the beginning!!!!!! So sorry!😳😐
Anyway to find the most important bits?