This is just about where my wife and I are at. We're starting to work as a team again, but she'll get awful triggers that I have to find a way to be patient as she works through the pain.
I can understand what your wife feels, I feel the same way. When my husband and I become intimate, I often feel as if the prostitutes he used are in bed with us, I have the inner pictures of how he is almost senseless with lust with these women - with exactly this body I'm just caressing, that his hands that are touching me have greedily groped the hookers... etc, etc. It's a terrible feeling and it takes a lot of strength to push this feeling and the thoughts (which then always bring the sadness with them) aside. I love and desire my husband more than anything, and our sex is now finally - after 30 years in which he was often rather inhibited and dismissive - free and without any shame. If only it weren't always so difficult to distance myself emotionally from negative feelings and thoughts.
My heart hurts for you. My man just confessed his sexual infidelity, and I dont know if I'll get to feel safe in his arms again. Im in excruciating pain@bittehiereinfugen7723
Don't know if I will ever get to "acceptance".... too much collateral damage and emotional abuse over the decades. Guilty consciouses can cause such ugliness from the unfaithful towards the betrayed... while they don't even know that they were being betrayed.... 13 months post discovery.... 36 years post affair with my close cousin
This is just about where my wife and I are at. We're starting to work as a team again, but she'll get awful triggers that I have to find a way to be patient as she works through the pain.
I can understand what your wife feels, I feel the same way. When my husband and I become intimate, I often feel as if the prostitutes he used are in bed with us, I have the inner pictures of how he is almost senseless with lust with these women - with exactly this body I'm just caressing, that his hands that are touching me have greedily groped the hookers... etc, etc. It's a terrible feeling and it takes a lot of strength to push this feeling and the thoughts (which then always bring the sadness with them) aside. I love and desire my husband more than anything, and our sex is now finally - after 30 years in which he was often rather inhibited and dismissive - free and without any shame. If only it weren't always so difficult to distance myself emotionally from negative feelings and thoughts.
My heart hurts for you. My man just confessed his sexual infidelity, and I dont know if I'll get to feel safe in his arms again. Im in excruciating pain@bittehiereinfugen7723
Don't know if I will ever get to "acceptance".... too much collateral damage and emotional abuse over the decades. Guilty consciouses can cause such ugliness from the unfaithful towards the betrayed... while they don't even know that they were being betrayed.... 13 months post discovery.... 36 years post affair with my close cousin
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