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Why You Need to Proactively Change Your Thought Patterns & Beliefs | Gabby Bernstein; Impact Theory
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Acknowledged “spirit junkie” and best-selling author Gabrielle Bernstein has devoted her life to helping people unpack and overcome the deep trauma that leads to so many forms of chronic physical and mental illnesses. On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Gabrielle Bernstein discusses faith, patience, meditation, therapy and addiction. Her compassion, wisdom and incredible drive shine through as she discusses how to overcome the addiction to judging the self and others, how to change your belief system, and how to develop a spiritual relationship of your own understanding.
SHOW NOTES:
“How can I decide to stop feeling bad?” [3:33]
Gabrielle describes the point where your meditation stops working [5:29]
Gabrielle explains how her faith helped her deal with buried trauma [7:18]
The healing process begins by recognizing the real roots of the trauma [11:50]
Gabrielle describes the EMDR therapy process [13:26]
Gabrielle explains the emotional freedom technique, or “tapping” [16:01]
Gabrielle advocates transcendental meditation and using a mantra [18:32]
How do you practice not believing your own judgments [22:55]
Gabrielle explains how judgment is an addiction [25:17]
Gabrielle shares her story of getting clean from addiction [26:48]
Gabrielle advocates developing a spiritual relationship of your own understanding [29:15]
Gabrielle and Tom discuss patience and faith [31:30]
Gabrielle and Tom discuss the benefits of meditation, relaxation and calm [41:59]
What’s wrong with the mindset that “if I don’t make it happen, it won’t happen” [45:56]
Gabrielle describes how the feeling of unworthiness holds us back [47:24]
Gabrielle explains how to choose new belief systems [49:41]
Gabrielle shares the impact she wants to have on the world [52:11]
QUOTES:
“Judging yourself is just another form of addiction.” [25:09]
“Once you start to develop a spiritual relationship of your own understanding, you’ll notice wild synchronicities in your life. You’ll notice invisible doors open for you.” [29:48]
“People really dwell in the belief system, particularly in America, that ‘if I don’t make it happen it’s not gonna happen’. So patience is the opposite of that, and is terrifying to that belief system.” [46:44]
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5 Things To Give Up:
1. Overthinking
2. Fearing Change
3. Living in The Past
4. Negative Self-Talk
5. Trying to Please Everyone
You hit it on the spot . I have been trying to overcome all of these ...
The problem she is talking about it you might don’t know that you have fear of change Bc it’s would express it in different emotions that what I was dealing with under layering
i have the 5 of them .... but am trying my best to change
And I would add....get clear about what's behind those patterns of behaviour/thought. Without the awareness of why we do what we do, it's very hard (I'd say impossible) to achieve lasting change. And after the awareness comes the "fun" part of working thru those issues.
Guys one book that helped me uncover my fears is what to say when you talk to yourself.
I appreciate the ability for these two to use each others language. This shows a very strong level of mutual understanding. Loved that.
I know, right?
👍
Same super cool conversation
Love that for us.
Totally agree 👌
Gabby: Feminine Energy / Yin / ALLOWING Abundance to Happen / Letting Go
Tom: Masculine Energy / Yang / MAKING abundance to happen / Taking Action
No right or wrong with either of them. We need both. Like if you agree 👇🏻
@Garrett Patten same idea. Acknowledging the god within and the god without. No right or wrong. Just what works and what doesn't. 😊
She is very masculin, very yang, achiever, but she is sensitive to others need. And what is around her.
@@keepcreationprocess after listening to her talks and this interview, i also believe that Gabby is both aware of those dual forces, and is consciously able to harness both when needed
Totally agree.
Yin Yang in Shang Dynasty causes huge abusive animal consumption/wildlife trafficking until today, world's largest wildlife trafficking is for Chinese Demand, abnormal traditional culture in their belief system without an awareness, please don't try to compare Chinese culture with this wisdom talk.
Beautiful how they fundamentally disagreed with such grace.
YES I loved that. I love Tom's ability to understand the value somebody brings in their own way despite having a different lens through which he views the world. I actually am able to take really powerful tools from both of them. Learning a lot with every impact theory episode.
Totally agree.
I also loved that!! It shows how authentic Tom is, but also how respectful of others' opinions, in a way to understand where they're coming from and where they're going. Without trying to change the other person but to understand and to learn. Beautiful!
Was it... made me question him.
But they didnt fundamentally disagree, thats the thing LOL. It was all just nuances and semantics that made it seem like they disagreed, but in actuality they came around to understanding they were on the same page.
Patience: the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.
@Garrett Patten it was really uncomfortable for me to listen to Tom, in essence, argue with Gabby about the relevance of patience. I really got the sense that he experiences a very narrow understanding of the way some people might exhibit patience. It seems the way he interprets it is that patience results in inaction, but I wholeheartedly disagree with that. It's like the marshmallow experiment or taking a cold shower. Being patient while enduring delayed gratification is pivotal to success in my opinion.
@@meganclouse1072 I think he sees patience as just waiting around for something to happen, without taking proactive actions to make it happen as soon as possible. And he fears that if you play the patience card too long, you might not realize that you where in the wrong path all along and you'll never get what you wanted. He doesn't link patience with not getting angry or upset while you wait, but just with waiting for something to happen in the uncertain future, by this I mean it could happen tomorrow or in a year, rather than taking the necessary steps to make it happen today. That's my interpretation of his interpretation.
@Garrett Patten He is patient when it comes to success and performing
But he does not wait to go to the next task.
Garrett Patten I think he has a story or narrative about it. I would love to ask him when did he first hear the word “Patience” and what were the circumstances and what was the result. That answer will reveal that Patience was always used when a person meant “don’t worry about it someone will ave you”
+While still taking action towards a goal or desired outcome. This was the huge misunderstanding in their debate
I think the disagreement came from the fact that Tom believes that being patient means "sitting on your ass waiting". That's not being patient, that's being passive. In the context of achieving things or improving your life, you can't be patient when you're in passive mode because there's no goal to reach when you're not doing anything. What is there to be patient about if you're not in a process that leads to something? Patience is the ability to wait for a result without stressing out, being angry, etc. about not having it RIGHT NOW. It means you're willing to do what needs to be done as efficiently as needed while accepting the fact that it will take an X amount of time to get the desired result. If you work at something to improve a situation, or your life, you can either be impatient, which can lead to conflicts, stress, and decreased efficiency; or you can do the same things with patience, with faith that you will achieve what you hope to achieve, while trying to get along with others to a healthy degree, and focus on the task without losing yourself in negative thoughts, emotions, and tensions. If you set a goal but can't wait for it to happen, there's a high chance that you won't achieve it in time because the lack of patience in itself is an obstacle. You're teaching your brain that the process leading to the goal is less important than the result. That's seeking instant gratification and it is highly counterproductive.
I totally see this now that you point it out in such detail. It's the same way Tom generally doesn't agree with the whole idea of manifesting because some people take it out of context and they think it means you can sit on your ass all day and just wish things into existence, whereas it's more like a different way of putting what Tom uses when he says to speak about what you love and let it be known how important something is to you. I think ultimately they probably used similar tools to achieve their success and their disagreement came down to semantics like you said.
With a comment like that this guy should be hosting the podcast.
well said! When you start working out you need to be patient to see the results. You can't stress out trying to get your muscles to grow faster.
Wayne Sanders seriously, this interview on the podcast was so hard to follow
Patience = the ability to surrender. Shoot rockets, have faith and surrender. The universe always has your back!
When we are conscious enough to recognize our unhealthy though patterns and courageous enough to challenge them, a true end of suffering is possible.
5 Things To Give Up:
1. Overthinking
2. Fearing Change
3. Living in The Past
4. Negative Self-Talk
5. Trying to Please Everyone
not necessarily, in my case, I came from total unconsciousness to consciousness of pratically everything that is going on and was going on , and it's still doing its own thing, i'm observing without being possible to do something. So only consciousness must not be enough, feel like the healing process misses something
Rob Inerize said it’s possible not guaranteed. I hear you though. How long have you been conscious of what’s going on? I’ve been becoming more and more conscious for a couple years now. First I could retroactively see it. Then I could see it in the moment but couldn’t help but act on it. Now there is a little space (a few seconds) when I can think about what is going on, predict the outcome if I act on it, recognize that this is the moment when I have a choice not to act, but more often or not I still act on it. In my experience this is a very gradual nuanced process and you just continue to fail over and over again until you succeed. And when you succeed it feels like a switch has been flipped (I experienced it successfully with lifestyle habits) but in reality it had been months and even years of gradual work. I am now working on changing thought and emotional habits much like I changed my lifestyle.
@@sashamotovylets1753 Very well said... should be read every morning and night.
@@sashamotovylets1753 it has been 1 or 2 year that I'm conscious. But emotionnally my body is still the old self, it only knows negativity. The best person that can describe this is Dr Joe Dispenza, try search on youtube you'll see. Becoming conscious is not enough because it is the subconsious mind that is driving you, with its program. Your body was taught to feel and act in a certain way since years. So being conscious okay it's the first step but it's not enough for the brain to begin to reprogram a subconscious mind and a body, build new neurons circuits.
"The reason we don't thrive in our lives is the feeling of unworthiness" so true, so powerful. Time to change!
It's pervasive. Hard to change.
“Judgment is an addiction” a truer statement has never been said🙏🏽💕
At some point habit is also an addiction
I see you as an very hot individual
She has been such a profound spiritual teacher for me. She is THE reason I am a certified yoga teacher and thriving. I have read all her books, seen her talk live, met her. She is resonating with a “younger generation of spiritual seekers” as Oprah herself has said about her. The language she uses resonates with me deeply and so does Tom’s. Both are equally true. Much love!
Tommy Boy! Is it weird that i look forward to Tuesdays and Thursdays like i used to look forward to Christmas? Best way to start the day! Bless Up Impact Fam!
We all Gunna Make It!!
Gabby's patience = Work hard and trust the result will come
Tom's patience = Greatest excuse to not give your 100%
That's my point of view. :)
Great episode ;)
Thank you
Spot on
what if they're both a little right in their own ways but not completely. What if you just have to KNOW that the things will happen to you? Acting AS IF THEY HAVE ALREADY HAPPENED. Including positive self-mantras of "I am _____"
@@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027 There are some fundamental flaws to this one. How much time you will spend acting that you already have what you want and what will you do for the rest of the time? Plus a bonus question - what are you going to do when you got what you wanted? Stop acting like you have something more and enjoy what you have or continue since it worked? Don't rush with an answer just sit with these questions
@@oshelzZ I already have complete self love and acceptance as things are now- while still being open to improvement. Acting "as if I already have" means I pursue my higher desires/passions.. What would you do if you already had millions in your bank account
I'm going to correct this. 5 symptoms of NOT having self-love:
1. Overthinking
- (lack of trust in yourself to make a decision you can stand by; even if you're wrong)
2. Fearing Change
- (lack of faith in your ability to adapt)
3. Living in The Past
- (lack of faith in your ability to create a future better than your past)
4. Negative Self-Talk
- (self-punishment for not being aligned with the person you've always envisioned yourself to be)
5. Trying to Please Everyone - (you don't like yourself enough that you need to please others to like you, to convince yourself you're actually like-able)
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Thank You for this spot-on list! Very helpful breakdown, really rings true for me.
This is Soooo sooo good! I hope Tom watches this over and over again so he can see where they ABSOLUTELY DO Align. It’s simply different language. Ultimately they both push, struggle, meditate, learn to relax, they serve others and add value. Two sides of the same coin. I LOVE IT.
I have been a huge fan of Tom and Impact Theory and guestimate that I have watched about 50+ episodes. This one was the first time that I felt like I got to know Tom at a different level. The translation of vocabulary between Tom and Gabby taught me sooo much. I come more from Gabby's languaging style and to hear Tom articulate his language back to her definitely was an "Ah-Ha" moment for me. Spirituality and Science together can coexist if we define the words that we are using. I live in a mystical land and that is why I love Tom and Impact Theory. They balance me out. I am working on having my feet firmly planted on the ground while trying to help others understand how to learn how to gain knowledge from the ethers. Too much of my head above the clouds and I am not able to serve as many people. Today's episode taught me word choices that I can now use to translate my viewpoint better to those that come from the science space vs. spiritual space. Thank you for an outstanding episode.
@taji degross - sounds like *Pisces* energy 😇
Probably, Tom had judgments at this moment.
I dont think Tom should invite any guests anymore because he has an idea and he beleives he is right and nothin can ever change
For me, the most valuable sentence in this whole video was when Tom said: "All systems move towards chaos and the only way to bypass that is to pour energy into the system.".
Taking about entropy and enthalpy.
This is the perfect example of how strong our each individual belief system is- they ARE saying the exact same thing (Gabby was a little more accepting and understanding) even though it FEELS different from how you view it: through the scope of your specific belief system
Great great great convo! Tom, believe it or not, in my opinion, you do have a whole lot of patience because you believe in the process every single dream requires. You’ve bought into this process clearly. Obviously (just an opinion) but in my eyes if you’ve bought into the process then you’ve bought into patience as well. Love your content bro!!!!!! 🙏🏽
Tom does not budge. Dude has a strong mind and stands firmly on his beliefs.
Gabby is such an amazing and beautiful soul. Everything she says has so much impact and emotion. You can feel her authenticity.
Massive respect for this speaker being totally humble and honest about her current issues and not trying to paint a perfect picture no better example and teacher in my opinion
Hi!
Dear Impact theory, I've watched your show for the last year of my life. But to actually get benefits from watching I also use some technics on a daily basis. I'm so grateful that there are people like you and that you are open to sharing this information with others. I had big changes in my life, the trauma of loss was one of them, and I think I was and I am capable to deal with it in many ways because of the ideas from your show. I live in Russia and there are not so many books on those topics and people, in general, don't go to psychologists, it is not welcomed by our society. So your show is a real way to clean out the mess in people's heads. I say it because I can see unbelievable events in my life after I started to watch, read and practice those recommendations. Thank you, Tom Bilyeu, you are doing a great job!
So, watching this episode today, I've noticed one thing. There were so many speakers who used to have a drug addiction on the show. The question is, how is that possible that people who are extremely judged and dishonored by their society, give back to this world the most brilliant ideas for healing, mental growth, money-making, relationship building, concentrated in their books. So that the same society, after all, uses their words, listen to them, respect them and follows authors’ advice in their life? Does it mean that without breaking through some traumatic experience in your life you won't be able to even imagine what your real abilities are?
Being in recovery myself, I, too, have noticed the same about many of his guest who have chosen to disclose their struggle with drug or alcohol addictions. Some of Gabby's choice phrases are heard in 12 step programs. What confuses and fascinated me the most from those guests is that they seemed to have moved on or forward from those addictions to live fruitful lives. Reason being that many 12 step programs suggest a lifelong commitment to your recovery and program while showing others who still suffer that they too can recover and live productive lives. It frankly causes a bit of discomfort because it challenges my own belief system.
Wow! I used to pass this woman off as a bit of an egotistical new ager, but she REALLY gets it. As someone who has suffered severe mental illness myself - and looked at the 'roots' of which I am still addressing - I can attest to the fact that Gabby really is authentic and has something very important to share. The first 15 mins are bang on the nail IMO.
I was laying down when i started this video
Half way through im sitting up. Then im standing. Now im telling myself i need to make some goals and get busy.
This is what i needed to hear thank you both
I am currently working through addiction and having a higher power of my understanding and a community that is willing to accept it are essential to my recovery.
Okay! who else here think this episode has so much tension?! I mean, its good tension which make Tom one of the best out there. Im not picking sides or anything but I lean towards Gaby's teaching and would like to dive in more. Tom, I still love you though, you changed my life :P
Dare To Be Better ya I agree 💯. Tom should stick w interviewing the guests and not impose his own ideology on them.
Yeah it was interesting. I’ve never seen him push back so aggressively. Not sure if it was a fear thing because it’s out of the realm of what he’s use to? I adore them both so much so I was super excited for this interview. Gabby knows her shit & IMO she’s pretty well versed in both “worlds”... So it seems she’d have a ton to offer this audience.
@@humanityunlockedpodcast Indeed! I have to be honest that I've been aware of Gaby but was never drawn to her content as I find it leaning towards more on her feminine audiences. But after watching this video, I think i would love to dive in more as I am a fan of her concepts of energy and consciousness. Thankful for Tom for bringing her in!
@@youssefhamidi8152 I agree 50-50 but i think this is what makes it more interesting. He did launch a show called "conversations with Tom" which is more engaging, with him being more aggressive with his thoughts. I personally think this episode should have been a part of that. Either way it all works out for me!
Too much tension for an interview…. I love them both but I lean more towards her on this one. She was saying things with love. I felt he was angry or something. Kinda triggered me lol 😂
I love how 2 very inspiring people who believe in 2 totally different things, can have an open conversation and experience different beliefs without arguing but also respecting each others growth pattern.
Another great interview!
I love that your honest about your preference of viewing life strictly through science and biology but are really open to learning other view points to further your own understanding
I love this conversation. This is how you communicate when you don’t agree on everything. Super respectful exchange of ideas. This episode is a blessing. Thank you to you both 🙏
@TomBilyeu the definition of patience for me is Calmly knowing (without being anxious) that what I am patient for already exists while pursuing the actions necessary.
I loved your discussion about patience! I often have mixed feelings when it comes to spirituality but also when people are too rational. I am standing somewhere in between and it was great to see two people discussing in a calm and loving Way!
@Garrett Patten i agree
What I love about this woman is her vulnerability and authenticity. I'm reading her book, Super Attractor and she does not pretend she has all her shit together. She admits that everything she does and teaches is a process, and not one of us has fully arrived. But we can decide right now to choose better thoughts and a different path and we will be guided along the way to a better future.
What she refers to as "Shadow" is related to one of Carl Jung's archetypes and the practice of "Shadow Work". This is probably one of the best and most challenging way to heal your mind.
So many people making a living regurgitating his work
Lifelover exactly!!
Lifelover I know! When she mentioned that word my ear suddenly perked up!
@@user-nj1zu2nf1x Mate, his work is probably the most important of all, in my view and experience. Jung has been IGNORED for decades and only in recent times has seen somewhat of a resurgence. And rightly so
It is not just a Jungian concept. It is a key aspect of shamanism (cross-culturally) of which Jung studied and was aware.
Can I just say It's about time you got Gabby on here! Yes! Absolutely love the work that she is doing!!! I am so excited!!!
Megan LeRoy Agreed!!! I thought the day would never come, as they do communicate so differently...I wasn’t sure Tom would ever do it! So impressed how well they’re able to translate to & for each other🙏
Kimberly Daya I totally agree! It’s like both sides of my mind having a discussion!!!
🦋amen, your circumstances do not define you. Even if you are in darkness there is always a light
Strangely, I understand them both on the word patience. She is referring to using patience to temper one's fears, to keep negative thoughts from taking over and become paralyzing. He is referring to patience as in the empty hope that something magical may occur but also may never come. Great conversation!
Patience is faith without faith you wouldn't have paitience....and lots more .... love this interview...love your interviews Tom Bilyeo
"I have no memories from my childhood... ZERO." 😱
That's serious trauma. I'm glad she had the dream that induced her recovery journey.
It's a coping mechanism of the brain for a "not so pleasant childhood". As much as it sounds crazy, it's pretty common.
It sounds like she STILL has major issues she hasn't dealt with.. how do we know she's not lying again??? She wrote all those books while massively depressed.. but now we're supposed to believe she's magically healed and we should buy her next book?
Craig M agree. Never heard of her but she sounds a little crazy
Craig M her books seem to help a lot of people and a lot of people resonate with her message (and how she conveys it). So, I feel like it doesn’t really matter whether she was depressed or not, bc the bí product is that a lot of people are finding peace and help
@@dominiquerzee I truly do appreciate your positive outlook.. just seems disingenuous to me.
I believe that patience and action are not mutually exclusive. Great interview.
True
I love most of the Impact Theory episodes. But this is definitely one of my favourites. How graceful and tactful is this debate dance. They have different thought systems and perspectives (sometimes these intercept) yet they mutually respect each other's viewpoints without trying to convince the other to adopt their way of thinking.
10 minutes into the video and I can't stop nodding my head at everything she's saying. So much respect and admiration for her in accepting new sides of herself given her background on spirituality and self-help guides. A true inspiration.
Your thoughts create your reality !!!! Your beliefs create your reality. Change the way you think and you will CHANGE your life ♡
Dear Tom Listen to your episodes , I feel life's ultimate goal is something different, if you allow me to share
1. Being free , living without any direction of thought especially of fear ,
2. Having a minimal expectation , dependency lots of love
Great story. I hit my rock bottom and that day I asked god what should I do and I heard this voice that he was always with me and come seat next to him. That day was my first life changing day.
I think Determination is a word that can describe what Gabby is talking about. It's really hard but not devolving into semantics can really help you open your mind. That's definitely a skill that can help Tom get to a new level.
Thank you for being so authentic both of you.. Im deeply grateful for the major health problems including Sudden Onset Seizures in the last three years. ..
Ive learned so much about myself and the world. It is possible to heal. Thank you again.
What a phenomenal example of solid, passionate, mature conversation. Thank you, Gabby, for being an example of a strong, compassionate woman who chooses to believe in herself for the greater good; and, thank you, Tom, for being an example of a strong, compassionate man who is not threatened by a strong female.
Patience. Apply patience to expectations about results e.g. the magnitude and timeliness of them.
Be impatient towards taking action.
One of your best Tom. I like Gabby, but even more I love the friendly 'argument' between you both. It is healthy, and that doesn't mean either are wrong, just different approaches, due to what life has taught us, or what has helped us, or we have learnt the hard way. Great.
Speaking of addiction- I’m addicted to Toms podcasts. But it’s an addiction that is changing my life for the better💜 thanks for creating such an impactful and amazing podcast. Loved hearing what Gabby had to say!
This made me love her even more. The way she handled herself so gracefully with someone in disagreement with her, just goes to show how genuine she is.
I’ve seen videos of Deepak Chopra become quite defensive and arrogant in similar situations, and that always stuck with me.
Interesting to watch you two grind against one another.
Steel sharpens steel, but only when drawn in opposite directions
I can’t relate to trauma from childhood but notice so many ‘successful’ people have hit rock bottom
and then made the absolute decision to change their lives, they all become aware of their negative thinking process and begin to get in the present moment and shift their thoughts which of course changes their lives.
11:40 Tom Bilyeu I SO admire your compassion and sweetness in response to another's truth. You are a good man and a good teacher ♥ Gabby Bernstein bless your heart for being courageous and wise ♥♥♥
You Mr. Bilyeu are one of the most dangerous people to debate with haha you're definitely true to what you stand for and I fully respect it
Patient is, not to get desperate when something is not going the way we want immediately. We continue the work, because we know we do not care about obstacles on the way but with patient we continue our path with a flexible mindset.
I thought the 'argument' was FANTASTIC. It was both being SO honest with themselves and their thoughts. Tom has great wisdom too
I love the healthy argument between two over patience....and Tom's definition of patience makes more sense to me.
This interview is a great testimony to the fact that the multi-billion dollar self-help industry was born due to failed parenting , leaving many kids with different kinds of traumas causing major disruptions later in their adult lives .. The self-help industry is there to fill in the gap .. Here is a person that wrote 6 self-help books , you would think that she would get her shit together by now , but still trying to recover from her anxiety to this very day ..
Tom thank you for creating impact theory and bringing in these amazing guests from all walks of life I have and continue to learn more about myself and the infinite wisdom and love we have access too!
" Between you and feeling better is a decision to stop feeling bad "
It's all about this 😌
celebrate.. lost Lynne 36 yrs ago..still miss.. still think of the good times with her.. they were all good... even the tough times.. I treasure and celebrate every minute with her ...
Two humans having a imperfectly perfect conversation. I enjoyed it because she brought out a vulnerable side of Toms masculine that he felt he needed to defend. Was nice to see his human side 😊
I learned alot from this chat 🙏🏼
From where I am standing, they are both correct. You need to not be too patient and take inspired action towards your goals to create momentum. Once you have the momentum/flow, you bring more patience and attracting in. But you need the momentum first - who agrees?
A big thumbs up 👍to Gabby Bernstein.
On a scientific standpoint though energetically on a quantum physical level, Newton’s Laws of Physics, we do affect and “attract”, what we give off beyond just be nice to people and people will be nice to you. Tom and Gabby are both right and talking about literally the same thing just from different vantage points. TOM- I would offer that with some of Gabby’s energy you could have a more quality life.
One step at a time. Keep stepping. Gain the skills needed and the relationships to support you. It’s a lot of work without guarantees. I wish I had done more sooner. It’s never too late. Start now.
I think what she was meaning to explain to Tom is that patience is similar to trust. Not the same, but similar. For example, when you have a goal and you don't meet in within the time frame given, you don't abandon the goal and chase a new one (that would be if you have no patience). You are patient and trust that by you taking action, the desired results will still happen in due time.
I love how honest she is being about her experiences. I'm going through alot of her symptoms 🤕 I'm so grateful I found this video. Thank you Lord ‼️🌠🙏💞🎁💖
I'm just thinking about how many people will change their mindsets after watching your videos and how many paths will change to a new direction and how many lives you're saving and how much impact you'll have on all of us!
What i see when I see you is a man climbing a high mountain and want to make it to the somet but not alone! God bless you 😌
I've been listening to Impact Theory almost every day for the last 6 months and I have often heard Tom state his goal of having his movie production company become bigger than Disney. So, although he preaches that achieving that goal will require relentless energy, he is also aware that grand goals will not happen overnight. Therefore, he does believe that patience is a needed component to achieve his ultimate goal.
"Macro patience, micro speed" - Gary Vaynerchuk
Or "alert stillness" - Eckhart Tolle
Tom had massive disagreements with GV about the same topic.
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Referring back to 41.20, The flip side to patience is tenacity. Two sides one coin. Hello.... how beautiful is that? Maybe this will help make more sense to people trying to follow the flow. We learn through duality so both are necessary. My heart is beaming just listening to them. What fun!!! I love it
She is talking about patience and Tom is understanding it as waiting
Tom, first off, I just want to say thank you for changing your intro to "everybody." As an outspoken advocate for the LGBTQ+ community, I want you to know it is really a generous act with a lot of significance. Secondly, I so loved this interview. Gabrielle is such a powerful presence and the way both of you found commonalities between your frameworks was really wonderful. Thanks for another fabulous video!
Wow, I was enjoying this heartily, until you went all disagreeing on the premise of what she said based on the definition of one word you are apparently terrified of. Then it just felt combative on your end. Although, I understand that was not your goal, it weekly became a confusing conjunctive of words that really in the end were not productive, and took a beautiful conversation with an incredible author into a state of exhaustive conversation about defining one word that you refused to let define something you may or may not represent. I usually HIGHLY FUCKING ENJOY your interviews, but this one gained an air of "please turn this off now as it is no longer enjoyable". Though, I did listen to the rest on her behalf. She's pretty cool.
tim hughes I kinda get what you’re saying, it was a bit strange to see him in that light.
Honestly once that came up he waa pushing back on so many negligible things it was just tiring to listen to.
I just felt it was rather unprofessional. It's not that kind of show where you bring down your guests..
tim hughes I think this interview is going to end up hurting his brand. Very combative. Interrupted her constantly.
Two humans having a perfectly imperfect conversation. I enjoyed it because she brought out a vulnerable side of Toms masculine that he felt he needed to defend.
I learned alot from this chat 🙏🏼
Update guys! Completed reading another book. Book count: 168 :)
@Karan God Bless :)
This is why i enjoy these conversations....the ability to give and receive feedback, and the willingness to exchange ideas until parties are in alignment but not necessarily agreement. Bravo!
I love Tom's way of expressing and defending his view BUT at the same time respecting and giving value to Gabrielle's work!
Gabby is on fire during this episode! I love the bit of challenge coming up between Gabby and Tom. Gabby is a master of truth. Judgment Detox is absolutely a must do book, and really digging this new energy Im seeing her in in this session, feels deeper and more grounded, confident and steady. Loved seeing these two interact!
This is powerful made me cry omg! My higher power whom is God is working thru ppl to heal my trauma she is awesome thank u so much!
Tom, I think you are the best active interviewer in the world right now ! Perfect balance of letting the guest shine while challenging them in empowering ways. Skill level is scary.
Rupert Spira is your guy ! Invite him :) ...
I knew.... based on the intro clip this was going to be another great guest. Thank you with incredible insight. I am so extremely grateful for this platform and community you’ve created Tom 🙏🏽 whenever you feel like it’s not worth just remember there are people out there who depend on your content for guidance. You’re doing great work my friend!
This conversation was immensely meaningful and profound, specially Gabby.
Judgement is just a reflection of what’s inside. I totally agree with that. That is what I am trying to train myself to just say, ‘ that’s not for me ‘ instead of having more comments or judgement towards acts that I don’t agree. Thank you for this interview Tom.
I don't want to underestimate the power of surrounding and patience, but from experience, I know that cultivating sharp skill sets are the way to execute the plan!!! So, I totally agree with Tom here! Great talk.
Tom knows how Gabby thinks. That’s why he invited her to his show. Gabby was actually the one getting triggered *I know most viewers don’t really care but I see the argument here so allow me.
Tom only wanted to translate her work to his audience with a certain set-mind. Even while saying uh-huh and this is fun or whatever while the disagreement, I could tell Gabby was lying - her eyes. When Tom says “I disagree” or something on that note, Gabby shows with her attitude “how dare you disrespect me,” “I’m your guest here, is this really happening?” Gabby is not only a female, but also a famous figure, especially in spirituality community involving subconscious, where disagreement means different from these conscious works done by Tom and others. I wish she wouldn’t take the disagreement personal.
Gabby did however try her best using the phrases by Tom, and it’s true that Tom could have slow down or deliver differently, but Gabby isn’t what she thinks she is. She might know how to guide others, but not herself. So on that, Tom had a misunderstanding after reading her books and researching her. As the proof, Tom approached Gabby like “tell me more” in a goofy tone later on - what guys do. Tom respects Gabby but she got caught up by what came in front of her which she doesn’t understand and guarded herself. This is a typical move by females or even some guys which I experience myself as a female against males.
Gabby said she’s feeling much better in the beginning, but you can tell she’s battling or fearing in her mind considering her career. With that in mind also, you can tell Tom’s approach triggered her.
Me, myself, being in a confused state right now, I know it when others are feeling the same as me like Gabby. Funny thing is, spiritually speaking, now is the time of confusion as the stars show lol
Anyway, I enjoyed this episode. I liked how both were able to disagree like close friends do. For this level of entrepreneurship, self development field, it’s rare to see it online nowadays so the contrast was very interesting for me. It also highlighted what we don’t usually think about like definitions etc. Thank you for the episode.
it made me a bit uncomfortable for her.. Tom doesn't budge.
Thank you so much Tom!!! You are one if the most genuine people I have ever met. I met you in Dallas at a Success Magazine event and you talked to me and invested in me. I will never forget your compassion and concern for me and mankind. THANK YOU BRUH!
Stress is created in your mind, there is always someone who’s in the exact same situation as you who’s not stressed.... ALWAYS
Really love this interview. It’s always great to see hosts bringing in someone who speaks different to themself - to challenge each other’s belief system. Which ultimately is the same if the end goal is to serve others and to serve from the truest and purest self.
I'll say it again, this is the best show on RUclips!
Really really loved her!! Mental health is a huge problem thank u for having her on. I think more of her and like her would be amazing
Oh man haven’t even watched the episode yet, but this is two people I love from two perspectives that I’m obsessed with coming together and it’s just so exciting!!!
This is the first interview I have not loved by Tom. (personally) I felt like he was keen on pointing out differences in their approach towards life, as appose to finding common ground for Neuroscience and Spirituality.
Still love them both 😇🙏
Omg I’ve been waiting for you to interview her for forever!!! Can’t wait to watch 😍
I read judgement detox TWICE!!! And constantly go back to it when I try to really understand someone who I feel judgment towards! My favorite book of Gabby! ❤️
God bless you Gabby.🙏🏾
I have gone through the exact same thing…physically, psychologically. Hearing her describe the dissociate and the trauma symptoms allowed me to know she is speaking from experience.
This is how two amazing people talk 🤗
This was pretty interesting to watch and though there are comments about Tom and Gabby having a exhausting conversation about the definition of "patience", I don't think this is necessarily a bad thing to watch because it really shows you the interactions of two perspectives: science and spirituality ... and how they tend to misunderstand one another because of the language that's used. I have dipped my feet into the spiritual aspect of things and the more rational and logical side of things, and notice a lot of similarities, just a different language and if you watch a lot of other spiritual guru's on Tom's show, he doesn't quite understand it because of the jargon. So Gabby is right when they are interpreting things differently, they actually use language differently...not perspectives. When you watch them talk, it's almost like on a tangent of the same topic but they aren't really getting one another. If Gabby were to explain her idea in the sense that you have to have patience to keep the big picture in mind, that nothing happens overnight, things are a process and that you shouldn't rush everything to make everything happen...That it takes energy and "patience" to do things the right way or spend time figuring out a more efficient way of doing things. This is grinding still, but in a slower, methodical, thoughtful, present way versus trying to do everything as fast as you can because you want the result so bad (result-focused vs. process-focused). I'm sure Tom would agree that sheer drive is not efficient if you're using the momentum going the wrong way. It's just crazy how important it is to understand each side's language when communicating with one another, and I hope one day the two perspectives are able to understand each other better.
PROJECT: Jenny I agree. Having lived in both worlds, I realised that the spiritual language was too open to misunderstanding for myself, but I can fully appreciate that it worlds for many people.
Totally agree. I love that our evolving emotional intelligence is allowing us to actually have and witness these discussions- honoring each other in diverse discourse and expression.
That has not always been possible- but convos like this gives me hope and joy.