Hibo's Story
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2018
- When she was six years old, Hibo Wardere was mutilated - she was cut. On that day, she became one of more than 200 million women and girls worldwide who have undergone Female Genital Mutilation (FGM). In this film, Hibo discusses the days leading up to being cut - the celebration and joy - and the days after - the pain, anger, and betrayal. ‘It was being butchered by the people you love the most that was the most hurtful thing.’
Now, one of Britain’s most prominent campaigners against FGM, Hibo is working with SafeHands to raise awareness about FGM and to protect the thousands of girls at risk of being cut in the UK today.
For more information about Hibo Wardere and the work of SafeHands for Mothers, please visit our website, SafeHands.org
Hibo’s choice of not joining her school mates in bullying other girls into cutting shows how beautiful of a human she is.
Thank you for sharing. You are a beautiful woman. God bless you.
🙂✋ hi there Laney fran.yes true 🙂👍❤️
I was also shamed by friends when I was in 4th grade and even went to my dad and asked him to get me what my friends had. But Alhamdullilah my dad protected me from it
Him, I respect for taking a stand!
Sadly i know that pain very much and remember it like it was yesterday , I’m from Ethiopia i hope n wish they stop doing this to our girls
I. Am. Sorry. For. You. Hibo
Why are you taking sheet to me
Oh darling, I am so sorry you have been through this.
This broke my heart. I thank Allah every day that I did NOT allow my ex do this to our daughters...
Hahahhahahaha! Allah said to do this in the first place.
@@amazoniablue7572 show me exactly where since you are soooooo informed on this!!!
@@amazoniablue7572it’s cultural, a MAN made disgusting way of controlling women!! educate yourself
Being brave is not pretending pain does not exist, it's saying no to more pain for yourself and others. Hibo's description of a 'private forgiveness' is profound, to release herself whilst not condoning the act. Hibo is a spiritual role model as well as a brilliant campaigner. May love and healing soothe trauma. X
Very well said, Annette. She truly is a spiritual role model.
🙂✋ hi there annette.4 y yea true facts
These stories about FGM are 😞 so sad I couldn’t ever imagine doing that to my daughter. It’s different when it’s part of your culture where you have to go along with it or else. This story is the saddest
Disgusting. Unimaginable. I am so sorry for you and all the other little ones still going through this today. Everyone needs to be outraged including those of us who never had to go through such sadistic abuse.
I agree with every word you wrote . This such a terrible thing . Hibo is traumatised for life . Post traumatic stress . How can people do such vicious , cruel things to girls. How ?
Evil only does this.
Hobo, I can't IMAGINE how terrible the experience was for you then and since then. You are SO BRAVE and BEAUTIFUL and BRILLIANT. I was sexually abused from age 5 to age 15. I STILL have flashbacks and nightmares, as you do. It's heartbreaking what happened to you. God Bless you for bringing your difficult story to light. People need to KNOW about this AWFUL TREATMENT OF GIRLS. My prayers are with you.💜🙏🏽
Oh I'm so sorry to read you sad ordeal. Evil people in this word :'(
Im so sorry donna may gods comfort be with you and may he wrap his arms around you and fill you with his love and strength
🙂✋❤️ hi there Donna hancock..yes she truely is
Thank you for sharing your pain. I am so sorry for everything you went through.
Wow Hibo I can't imagine for one minute how that felt physically and emotionally. So brave for talking about it. Keep campaigning because one day your fight will mean so many others don't go through the same thing. You are such a brave woman. My heart goes out to you.
😭😭😭😭😭😭 God punish all the cutters 🤬😡🤬
Ameeen 🙌🏽
Amen
Punish them? no...this is something we must teach with understanding..The woman who cut her, her eyes were dark and cruel. Was she like that anyway? “Evil”? Or has the years of this kind of treatment at a time when ther was no hope for change turned her into a monster. Not everyone comes through pain with their heart still intact like this special lady Hibo.
@@treewitch666 I'm being censored so...
Hobis Waeredr's "hraet" did not suivrve incatt, she is hlhgiy mantalupiive and has appneratly had msot of her seven chrdlien ctu. She has mdae wlid accitasuons agniast me and eevn inticed her foewollrs to gelatinly mualitte me.
@@fritnat I’m sorry I don’t understand? Who is censoring you?
This absolutely rips my heart up. Hibo, I am so so sorry.
Hello Hibo ❤️you came to our school Today on the 11 of July, Your Assembly was awesome.. I couldn’t imagine the things you went through..💔
Is this habibe 😂😂
Rayana A LMAOOO YH
I am half way through reading 'Cut' and was compelled to find out more about this amazing woman. Hibo has changed the course of life I'm sure for many people so far by exposing how entrenched this abuse is. This is a cause I'll keep close to my heart and being from a west African community where I know it goes on, I swear I'll intervene if I ever suspect anything from anyone I come across. Thank you x
I have never before heard an account of FGM like this. Now I realize how much the other women have held back. 😢 I’m so very sorry.
I am lost for words and don’t know what to say, other that I’m so so sorry this was done to you. I am so moved by your words and your pain, when you said you don’t recover, but relive that awful moment. I wish I could take it all away, but unfortunately I can’t. I can only say you are a very strong woman whose words go straight into hearts and minds all over the world. Sending you so much love and all the hugs you can take❤️❤️❤️
Brave Hibo for sharing our stories of what we have went through and still going through it😭😭😭
This is heart wrenching. Women are warriors. You are stunning despite your pain, you’re heart shines still. You are special. What a great purpose you have here on this Earth to bring healing and hope to many others who need your light to keep going. You are incredible for sharing this as hard as it was. Your truth is hard to see but so powerful to learn about. I hope you have felt everything you felt robbed of you, come back to you and your children. All the beautiful healing things your soul deserves.
I’m so sorry this happened to you.. 😢
I don't know why God allows people to go though such horror and trauma. What kind of mother could stand there and allow her child to go through this at the hands of the village WITCH???
I just want to hug this woman and take her pain away and take the horror of that memory away. My heart is BREAKING as her tears flow. What kind of f**k*d up planet do we live on???
Despite all that she has been through, she still has such a beautiful, forgiving spirit. She is truly beautiful on the inside and on the outside.
I hear all these fellow Somali women who had a party and a gift for their FGM , I went through the worst FGM and still traumatised about the ordeal in my 30’s after 3 children , sadly enough my mother did not even offer me a gift as a kid going through that neither did I get an apology as an adult . One can only wish for a better mother 😢
Ikr😑
So sorry this happened to you😢
Omg so sad you must be traumatised how could anyone get over this, its so shocking this happens, Why would they stitch someone up they want the girl to go through pain over and over again when having sex and babies OMG why would this be a thing , its the sickest thing Iv heard about , Maybe your mum knows she did bad but cant face owning up to it but she should
All women who have suffered in this way are my sisters, race, religion, are meaningless. The pain you have suffered and the reasons for it being inflicted connect us, stronger than any bond. I am not a victim of FGM and nor should any of my sisters be!
Did you have any of your three kids cut? If so did you give them a gift?
I couldn’t listen after 6.00 because I know everything and my heart is in pain remembering it. The most evil thing I almost died
I’m so sorry this happened to you.
Me too. Hope you are okay. I hope it's okay me saying that
@@nyashajena1663 yes i am okay and thanks.
Horrendous child abuse! I’m so sorry that you and others have gone through this horrible thing that the people that were suppose to love you did this to you, all for religious purposes. Unbelievable, I’m so sorry for your suffering.
My God in Heaven 😱😭😭😭😭😭😭
Not that I haven’t heard other native women speak of this abomination, but hearing this stunningly adorned and beautiful woman, of my age retelling such a vivid and horrifying event in her life, is numbing to my soul🙏🏽
As a mother just having to allow your child to endure a vaccination is heart wrenching enough, I can’t even imagine allowing a vicious act to to be perpetuated against your child, to which you consented to and arranged 😡😡😡😡😡😡😡
Nevertheless I pray her childhood peace be restored unto her wholly 🙏🏽🙏🏽💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
And her forgiveness towards her mother is a definite jewel 💎 of Righteousness 🙏🏽😇
Amen 🙏❤️🥺
such a good hearted woman
Hibo is beautiful and her jewelry and dress is too
besides the point . How ignorant are you? Were you not even listening to her horrific story ?
She’s only trying to be nice since Hibo went through a horrific moment.
@@lunaxox4526 ty
@@tee3981 just stop 🤚🏾🤦🏾♀️
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am in tears listening to you. Six. I am so sorry.
What a strong woman! She should be very proud of her self. I,hope she has a happy life . I'm so sorry she had to endure all that pain and will for the rest of her life.
My Lord! I’m totally shook!! Such a heart wrenching experience 😥
i wish her all the best. this video left me speechless.
Such a betrayal! I’m so sorry you had this happen to you!! I cannot fathom the amount of physical, psychological, & emotional pain you went through! As an American it’s unimaginable that I would have this done to my 2 daughters at any age much less as the tender age of 6!!! I’m so sorry you had to endure this! You are very very brave to speak against this horrid practice. I know in your community it’s frowned upon to speak of it. You are very courageous to speak up!! ❤❤❤
As an American how can it be unimaginable when this is done to most boys at the tender age of 0?
Wow, what an amazing woman. Beautiful, smart, compassionate.
Traumatizing experience for a child to experience.When the people they trust the most ,allow other people to hurt them.
I just listened to this and I am all tears because I was cut and it still feels like yesterday
You poor poor girl,thats so horrible,you are so brave to talk about this gods comfort and peace be with you
Lord be with you !! I am truly sorry for what happened to you, 😢
Thank you for your story . ... Your reflection of emotions and how you went through was just .... Thank you
God Bless You Hibo. May God Heal your mind, body & Spirit. Amen.
Im so sorry 😓😪😥😭 Hibo
3eeea uhh Wausau
MiMiwq qqw lol r30s xxx we$rewwwww Ada
So sorry that you had to go through that sick horrible ordeal god blessyou hibo may god bring comfort and angels to your mind to bring you relief and peace and may he deliver you from evil
it's crazy how the other young innocent girls bullied you for not being cut. It shows that it is more than just a girl/women problem. It is a cultural and social thing. It hurts my heart. I can't imagine the pain and the hurt millions of women experience that day and the rest of their days. ❤
Hibo, words are not adequate to convey my deep sorrow for your pain. May merciful love heal your heart.
Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are amazing.
How you could forgive someone for that is beyond my comprehension.
@@smelliajam
Trust me it’s cultural thing, you don’t think it is bad.I remember getting excited because I didn’t know any better,my mom wasn’t even home but I joined my friends because they were getting cut and I didn’t get left out.
you are such a strong women....let no one present it as its ok...it will never be...
Im so sorry you had to go through that hibo may gods comfort and love and grace be with you everyday
I can not even begin to imagine or conceptualise how that would feel, just hearing about it and thinking of how the pain would be makes me feel faint and nauseated and weak.
Hibo I am so sorry for what happened to you! But I am so proud of you too because you were able to still have love in your heart and forgive these people! And not perpetuate this cruel action!!
May God come and save humanity from itself one day!!!
I send you lots of love and my prayer!
Hobo you're such beautiful soul, your speech has made me cry
Having courage doesnt mean that you havent moved on from trauma,it means that you are courageous enough to say to the world im getting on with my life,im a survivor and im here
Hibo im so sorry that you went through this,may god comfort you and bring peace and sheltering to your mind and may he fill your mind with his mercy and grace
I am so sorry you had to go through that .I feel sooo bad for you .
Thank you for sharing your story. I am so glad you found it within your heart to forgive. You are very beautiful ! Green is definitely your color. I wish you lots of happiness ! 💕
So proud of this amazing woman for sharing her story , I love her so much 💜.
Such a beautiful, brave woman !! xx
May gods arms be wrapped around you hibo and may he comfort you and bring peace to your mind and may he help you to heal mentally and emotionally and may he deliver you from evil
My heart goes out to this woman. I was born in America, a christian, but when I was in my puberty, my mother threatened to have me sewn up, back then that is how she described it neither was it a religious teaching for me. I did not know it even existed until 20 years ago. Only i can say I was raised in a time where mothers didn't talk about sexuality. So in an era and country where sex education was a normal process of life. Hereafter, many years hearing other women discuss something told to me in my youth, now known as FGM. I never knew this was practiced until Oprah first introduced these women from African cultures. A descendant of Africa, not knowing my origins, being born and raised here. My African- american mother heard about it and decided to inform me of this existing thing because I had become sexually active at puberty and perhaps it would tame my actions. IT IS NOT ATTRIBUTED TO rebelling RELIGIOUS CUSTOM BUT THE LACK OF DISCUSSING WHY CHASTITY SHOULD BE HELD IN HIGH ESTEEM AND SHOULDN'T BE DONE. I WAS NOT AFFORDED THAT TEACHING, only from a dysfunctional perspective...SO I WAS LEFT TO FIGURE IT OUT, PLUS I WAS EXPERIENCING THE LACK OF PARENTAL LOVE AND NOT KNOWING WHO I WAS. Perhaps my mother didn't know who she was raising me, neither did she understand the delicate balance of teaching me HOW IMPORTANT TO teach TRUTHS, so the information she received was tainted with the notion of the very thing, FGM to frighten me as Ms. Hibo is discussing. I'm 60 years old and can remember how in shocked I was WHEN I heard of it and now knowing there was a practice of it then! i believe she said it to stop my behavior. My mother didn't have it done -- Thank God or i would have died due to the emotional impact it would had on me along with my lack of mother/daughter relationship and an already scared identity.
my mother threatened me too with the same thing! but i am from a somali background i managed to escape it somehow
Today in America most boys have their genitals mutilated, they stopped doing it to girls altogether in the 70's but it had never caught on in the same way it did for boys.
Oh my dear. I am just trying to imagine what you have gone true. You are such brave and beautiful woman and i can't imagine how can people do this to an innocent and defenceless child. I have a six years old daughter and accidently if she is hurt a bit or have a minor wound, i would become restless and feel unwell myself. I would rather take the pain myself than letting something happen to my baby girl, so i don't understand how can a mother be so cruel to do this to her own blood and flesh. I really thank Allah that i live in a country where FGM is unknown. I think unless they read about it or see it on TV my fellow countrymen wouldn't know what it is
Sis Hibo that is the gruesome path but all we can say we love u as human being still thank u n never stop making a sort of campaign against those atrocious practice
That's just horrible hope she's okay 🤞💖
I’m so sorry you went through that 😔 I’m so sorry for your suffering 😔
Hibo you are a strong beautiful woman, I'm so sorry for what happened to you 😢 💔 😞 😔 ❤
Pobrecita!! Que Dios la bendiga. Te envío un gran abrazo lleno de compasión y amor.
Hibo... you brought tears to my eyes. Such a sad story. This is really sad. You are so beautiful n strong. You remind me of my mum, who passed. I'm glad you forgave your mum, May Allah grant her jannah ameen. It's such a disaster to hear the fgm stories. You're an amazing person.
All the FGM stories are sad but this one hits different. God bless her.
Not really, it's just done very professionally by organisations that receive lots of financial support. Stories from within the practicing communities rather than immigrants to the West are generally more authentic. If you want stories that are different then you should read mens' stories, some from beyond the grave. One “My Gentile Region” is from just last month by Gary Shteyngart, not from beyond the grave though, he let suicide be just a thought. Unlike Hibo he is very knowledgable about the practice and mixes it with his story attributing it depth.
You are the bravest soul by telling the world about this barbaric act that you endured-Thank you
you are so brave and so strong
Oh you lovely beautiful woman x I pray that God Bless you x
I have a 6 and 8 year old. I can’t imagine doing this to my babies… my heart breaks, I wish I could do something… my heart literally hurts listening 😭😭😭 I wish I could take her pain away.
I'm so sorry she had to endure this tragic rite of passage.
How can a Mother allow such a barbaric cruel mutilation to be done to their baby girl, and stand there and tell her to hush, be quiet, someone might here you screaming. I am sorry for judging this woman, as she may have had it done to herself also, still no excuse sorry!!!! . Woman are protective over their children, yet without warning she allows her daughter to be butchered. I will never understand. I shed so many tears watching this, I am so sorry you went through this Hibo, and all the other baby girls that have been butchered. These woman allowed their babies to be so cruelly butchered, and took away their ability to enjoy a very natural intimate sex life. But worse they raped these baby girls of their innocence, their ability to trust the mother that should have protected them from this dreadful barbaric act!!!
It takes a special woman to forgive, you are such a strong Lady, much love to you and all that have endured this terrible act of inhumanity Px
You don't understand the culture behind it. In Somalia back in the days even men will not marry women unles it is been done to this process because men believed wamen might be sleeping around and they believed this will stop wamen having sex or even reduce the urge of thinking even a man. At the same time when these men they mary women they expect to have a good sex drive in bed how pathetic. So don't judge the mother she was probably scared that her daughter may not find a man because she is not cut and in the community they consider some one not cut unclean or even slut. The good thing is this process is been stopped and no one does it anymore at least most of the community because stood up for their right and found out that men insecurity that they can't handle the wamen unles.......
@@salmaabdi4786 Pretty much the same as the culture behind the far more widespread American cultural cutting practice that most people know about. You forget that it's considered more pleasing to the eye when everything is neat and tidily tucked away. It's only stopped in the diaspora in the West. Since Hibo's cutting in the 70s it's become more and more medicalised (inspired by Western practice) and infibulation switched to just cutting.
I literally got traumatised again hearing the story.
I have so much love for you Hibo 🖤
So sorry you had a go through this 😢
I met her today
I’m so sorry for you ,and for so many other young children that they going through all this trauma in their lives .
The people in the west they should implement very heavy jail sentences, with any parents they do such cruelty mutilation.
How could any one be so cruel and so hard.
The people in the West accept parents doing such cruel mutilation to their children, nowhere is it banned for all children, indeed Hibo herself apparently had most of her own children cut in UK where it is even done on the national health service! The West is no better
the west would rather close their eyes rather than be called islamophobe
Heartbreaking, what a verb brave lady!
I am so sorry, I felt every word here. May Allah swt remove your pain.
God bless you hibo,youre so brave and so gutsy too
Sick cruelty I was alone with no friends at primary school too I had no friends nobody liked me because I'm intellectually disabled so I know how it feels to be alone as a child
May the Lord heal that wounded soul and bring yup his peace Hibo. May the Lord remove that load you are carrying.
May gods healing love,strength and mercy be with you may gods peace be with you may he fill your mind with his peace and protection and comfort and may he protect you from evil god bless you hibo
I know how it feels to be bullied,i was bullied at primary school for a year and yeah bullying sucks
Id just want to go to sleep and never wake up ever again if id gone through that
God bless you
I am sad for Hibo, and anyone in the same situation. How in the HELL could ANYONE, let alone a parent, hurt their own child!? I don't think she should have forgiven her mom. Her mom took away a special part of Hibo's womanhood. Shame on anyone who destroys another person's life.
Poor lady what a terrible ordeal for a little child to go through both physically and psychologically. I really
wanted to cry. It soured her relationship with her mother, and traumatised her for all her life. It's such a
disgusting and evil practice and the perpetrators should go to prison for a very long time. It's barbaric.
Am so sorry mam, I wish I could help you to take away the pain
God bless you Hibo!!!
The day she can't able trust her own mother
I’m so soo sorry 😞
I weep my tears for you
💔💔💔
If i had gone through that id say to god pls lord take me now lord pls let me die now i cant live like this let me die quickly
This breaks my heart. I have 8 and 6 year old daughters… I can’t imagine consenting to this 😭😭😭 My heart literally hurts.
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How can god sit up in heaven and watch this poor girl go through this ordeal and not do anything its no wonder so many people get angry at him
It's because he doesn't exist.
Istaqfurllah 😢@@tracywhellams6316
That was heart wrenching....hard to understand? It is not hard to understand cultures generational passed down mistakes. But this has so many painful difficulties attached to it for the person to cope with. I wonder who is more to blame, the women who keep doing it or the men who demand proof of purity?? There is so much physically and emotionally to get through that many women don't discuss what was the part and function of their body that was stolen. To be a whole sexual person, to experience love that way...nothing missing. I pray to God for healing in every way for these women. God can heal emotional memories that are connected physically, He created the sub conscious...so He can heal it.
Sorry hibo for everything youve gone through
I feel ur pain and i would never do to my daughter but is not ur mums fault ismt was the bad culture that ppl live with i realy hope they dont do that back home thank u for telling ur story and i hope u feel relieved big hug ❤❤ lucky.
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I met her today
they are intentionally causing the trauma to the young girls what's my proof
when my grandma came to visit us from our native country Somalia we were born and raised up in diaspora in Saudi Arabia where fgm is unknown except among the fgm zone countries expats anyways after few days of her arrival she called me and asked me are you cut of not because we were acting like normal kids I was 14 my younger sisters were 11,5,3 we were laughing ,playing and happy before she arrived to our house she realized that we are still normal and mentally stable so I answerd her what is cutting them she explained to me that in our homeland all girls must be mutilated their cliroris and labia minors must be cut off and then swen up otherwise no Somali guy would marry an open girl!!
long story short I was beaten threatened to be kicked out of my family house if I refuse to go with them to the man who mutilate girls in top secrecy ofcourse fgm is not allowed in that beautiful country where God has created us Arab girls grow up happy and healthy no psychological trauma or health problems like fgm zone countries girls !!the next few months I was victim number 1 my youngest sister 11 was braver then me she has threaten the Egyptian GP who secretly practice fgm away from the Saudi authorities she told I'm if you dared touch me I will go to the police and they will arrest you because you are a rapist and a child molester he tried to grap her arms by force she screamed her lungs then finally my mother told him to leave her..thank God for saving my sister ...and the other young sisters they never go under fgm so everytime I look at them happy and healthy I thank God for making me the sacrifice lamb I wouldn't tolerate if anyone tried to hurt them and now 2 of them are married to good men from cultures that don't practice fgm and are happily married ....about me I'm still single and 've no plans to get married any time soon happiness is not my fate I'm not even a woman I'm a zombie in a female shape !!!
traumatized,hurt and heart broken,vaginal infections are part of my life I rather suffer instead of going to see an obgyn because everytime I am been asked are you married !?are you in a relationship and when I say no the doctor rise his eyebrows like you are lying so warm water and salt are my best comforters and everytime the fgm scares hurts I wish death upon my parents I will never forgive them for ruining my entire life
Hey, I went through a similar thing and I will never forgive my mother too!
😭😭😭😭 it happens to me just same thing and I regret to have that experience