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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @cadencellchen7915
    @cadencellchen7915 Год назад +60

    The mum is a terrific actress. I saw so much of the women I know in her expressions and gesture

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +8

      Lee Chen is amazing! We now affectionately call her “everybody’s mom” now!

    • @lovemagicandroad
      @lovemagicandroad 19 дней назад

      Very funny!

    • @lovemagicandroad
      @lovemagicandroad 19 дней назад

      The cultural differences are hilarious.

  • @anaideitak6178
    @anaideitak6178 Год назад +490

    I see myself in this very melancholic film. How many single mothers and fathers are out there, trying to raise kids and forgot about ourselves, just to find us eating dinner alone, once the kids are out of the house. I pretty sure there are a lot of people identified with this. Just beautiful film 🎥

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +21

      Thank you for sharing Anaid. I feel that so much of the loneliness we feel in our current society is structural. In spite of it, I believe if there is an awareness and willingness, a pathway will always be open for us to connect with our children/parents.

    • @anaideitak6178
      @anaideitak6178 Год назад +2

      @@jigmedadul6440 welcome to the club

    • @shelbynamels7948
      @shelbynamels7948 Год назад +7

      Better than failing to launch. Happiest day of my life when I had the house to myself again.

    • @crsantin
      @crsantin Год назад +1

      I think it’s very common.

    • @vkrgfan
      @vkrgfan Год назад +10

      We lost the sense of community that's the real problem, nobody needs anybody anymore and you almost have to book an appointment to see your friend.

  • @sg639
    @sg639 Год назад +34

    This was rough, and I mean that as a positive remark. I sympathized deeply with the character of the mother. Her personal sacrifices were limitless, AND she lost her degree/professional standing. But she still had the strength/resiliency to be open to a new opportunity. So admirable.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      Thanks for watching. Really glad it resonated with you.

  • @jiamingju2471
    @jiamingju2471 Год назад +410

    The language/cultural difference between immigrant parents and kids is enormous, but this gap will minimize as long as we are willing to learn from each other. Thanks for a great film.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +13

      As long as there’s a willingness, there will always be a way to connect. Thanks for watching!

    • @nomada6789
      @nomada6789 Год назад +8

      @@qiricky
      Well, I taught my son my main language, why because it is important to me to communicate with him in my own language,( now he is an adult and he is the only bilingual in his job)♥️ your children are whatever you want them to be 🤷‍♀️ my son told me at the age of 3 that he didn’t want to learn Spanish, all I said was, your grandparents are too old too old to learn English, and you have time to learn Spanish and many other things to be better. 🌸 And he did 🙏♥️

    • @shelbynamels7948
      @shelbynamels7948 Год назад

      @@nomada6789 Good thing then that you know how to speak English. That way at least you will be able to communicate with your English-only grandchildren.

    • @Criminelsoyeux
      @Criminelsoyeux Год назад +5

      « As long as we are learning from each other » thats a good point.
      However im afraid in traditional type of families with vertical hierarchy, the adults actually dont wanna learn from their descendants

    • @bendemare5270
      @bendemare5270 Год назад

      the children can learn too

  • @qmkuhns400
    @qmkuhns400 Год назад +59

    My mom, originally from Taipei, died last year, and this sweet film made me miss her in the best way. Thank you for all the effort you put into making it!

  • @alo33
    @alo33 Год назад +119

    This story resonates with me so much because it's the exact same story with my aunt and her daughter. My aunt, along with her husband, son, and daughter, emigrated from Hong Kong to the US in the 70s and shortly after they arrived, my uncle passed away, leaving her to fend for herself and two kids on her own. She's a tough cookie, worked very hard and managed to send her two kids to college. Her daughter ended up becoming a brilliant doctor but very sadly, she fell ill and died just right before she turned 50, just about a year ago. We miss her everyday. From the side lines, I could see that my aunt and my cousin had their differences, very much like the mother and daughter in this great little film. I only wish they had a chance to make up before my cousin was gone too soon. So to all daughters out there - call your mom and when she offers you dumplings - take them and appreciate them!

    • @521venus
      @521venus Год назад +8

      I absolutely understand that but not all mothers are that great in reality 😢

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thanks for sharing about your family!

    • @conniepun6659
      @conniepun6659 Год назад +6

      My Chinese mom and grandma, aunts & aunties all have warm like this woman in the film. They would just starve as long as their kids are fed. 😢.

    • @araceli9753
      @araceli9753 Год назад

      @@521venusNeither are all daughters, sorry to say.

    • @521venus
      @521venus Год назад

      @@conniepun6659 I don’t think all people would believe that but my mother did starve me

  • @catrianahernandez2054
    @catrianahernandez2054 Год назад +265

    This was suggested to me by RUclips, I thought it was a trailer and then saw it was 26 minutes but I couldnt stop watching, very well done.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +11

      Thank you Catriana, that's a big compliment! Hope you enjoyed the film.

  • @rgb5811
    @rgb5811 Год назад +21

    The film is so realistic and the story is true! The mother prioritized hard work to raise the children over some of her needs, the children too are all in study and work - the best way to live that they learned. They are lonely too, isolated from the mother by their responsibilities. The film conveys loneliness very well!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      It’s a modern problem that needs modern solutions. Thank you for watching!

  • @evab6420
    @evab6420 Год назад +28

    My heart breaks when I see the mother alone at the table.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      🥲

    • @MariaWerner-sf1ef
      @MariaWerner-sf1ef 2 месяца назад +2

      I’m 61 and have never been married, no children. I eat alone every night - including my birthday, Christmas, New Year’s and other big holidays. That’s just how my life panned out.

  • @heejaejae
    @heejaejae Год назад +67

    I thought I'll just watch it for a few minutes, but couldn't stop. Laughed and in tears until it ended, as an immigrant mom myself. Thanks for making such a good movie.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      Thanks for sharing! It’s comments like yours that make my day!

  • @rominalaudiaz8444
    @rominalaudiaz8444 Год назад +38

    "I'm just an empty vessel" wow 🥺 Amazing what single parents sacrifice for their kids!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      Thanks for commenting. Glad you enjoyed the film!

    • @1catmac
      @1catmac 4 месяца назад +1

      Thank you for this.

  • @user-gk7fo5gi3c
    @user-gk7fo5gi3c Год назад +153

    Beautiful - had me in tears near the end. Sometimes we forget the sacrifices our immigrant parents make for our happiness and the unconditional love they show us. Thank you for reminding us of that.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +6

      It’s easy for both sides to forget the sacrifices we make for each other, but as long as we’re willing, there will always be a chance to understand each other better. Thanks for watching!

    • @MikeWildfrog
      @MikeWildfrog Год назад +4

      ​@@qiricky
      Both sides ?
      What sacrifices do the children make ? Not to turn up on thanksgiving /Christmas, then stay for 5 minutes the Next day only to leave because because they're having an adult tantrum.
      And it's not "Immigrant" parents, it's parents in general.

    • @MikeWildfrog
      @MikeWildfrog Год назад +2

      Our "parents" no immigration needed for this comment.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +7

      @@MikeWildfrog whether immigrants or not, all children strive to please and accommodate their parents to one degree or another. Sometimes that can come from a healthy place, and sometimes it comes from a place of anxiety and loss due to a need to be connected with parents who don’t know how to connect with their kids because of their own unaddressed traumas. I understand how you feel, I’ve been that person you described. But I do think that every relationship is built upon mutual sacrifice. Like the saying goes, “it takes two hands to clap.”

    • @GFINHK
      @GFINHK Год назад +2

      @@qiricky But it takes one to slap

  • @Sdfordactor57
    @Sdfordactor57 Год назад +6

    Had a director’s callback for role of David. They hired the right guy, he was great. Wonderful short film. I laughed, cried and was moved. Congrats!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it, and hope you get called back for many roles in the future!

  • @lucyk2371
    @lucyk2371 Год назад +78

    That's so sad. She put herself out there and he took advantage of her. That had to be devastating. I'm glad she had her family to help her. Great short story. I was really emotionally invested. The actors made it seem like we were looking through the lens into someone's real life.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +16

      Thanks for sharing Lucy. When we finally work up the courage and allow ourselves to open up, we also let in opportunities to get hurt. I think it's important that when we do get hurt, to process our traumas with those with whom we trust, and to continue to put ourselves out there. Because you never know... Life is full of beautiful surprises!

    • @lucyk2371
      @lucyk2371 Год назад +3

      @@qiricky So true! You always take a risk when you put yourself out there, but we must never stop. When it works out, it's the best thing in the world.

  • @cannonstreetstudios8167
    @cannonstreetstudios8167 Год назад +37

    I love how the daughter and mom reconnected...

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @qiricky
    @qiricky  Год назад +56

    UPDATE 08/17/23: Over 220,000 of you have seen Year of the Rat, which is to say if this film were screened at a traditional cinema, you could have filled over 730 packed movie theaters. Never in my wildest dreams have I imagined that my humble little film would be seen this way. When I was making it, I had severe doubts as to whether or not anyone would resonate with this story... But I now see and hear you loud and clear, and I'm overwhelmed by the support you have shown.
    If you'd like to further your support, please think about "buying me a coffee," or rather, a retrograde movie ticket, so that you can directly support the making of more films such Year of the Rat.
    www.buymeacoffee.com/rickyqi
    A long time ago, a friend told me that anything made in our world today requires three things: a good idea, good execution, and money.
    That's why every dollar donated to creators is a vote for more thoughtful, meaningful stories such as this. They go towards buying time for us, so we can focus on attuning our antennae to stories worth telling, and bring them to you. Once again, thank you for your support!

  • @Spring_Moon_7501
    @Spring_Moon_7501 Год назад +36

    This is really sweet and touching.
    Although their stories are different, this movie made me think about my grandmother. She was not an immigrant, but she became a widow when she was quite young, while raising 4 girls all alone.
    She was born in the South of Italy and never went to school: it was considered a luxury for female children. She started working in the fields at 6 and then married when she was barely 18. She had 4 girls (which was seen as a misfortune at the time) and worked as hard as a mule in order to be sure that her children had everything they need and her husband was not drained, since he was poor health. When her husband passed away, leaving her and the girls in poverty, she became a cleaner in an asylum, while continuing to work in her family fields.
    In the end, my mum and one of her sister managed to got a university degree and then established in the North of the country.
    She is still in pain because of all the physical fatigue she had to endure during her life and some days she can't even walk. I don't know if she has ever looked for another significant other, but she is still devoted to the memory of my grandfather.
    I hope to become as strong as her, both for me and my future family.
    P.S. I'm sorry for my poor English, is not my native language.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +5

      What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing about your grandmother. 💕

    • @readyforknowing3009
      @readyforknowing3009 Год назад +4

      Your English is perfect 🙌. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story 🙏

    • @bendemare5270
      @bendemare5270 Год назад +2

      damn patriarchy is a joke... I'm sorry she couldn't go to school, and that her daughter weren't perceived as the gift they are

    • @shespeakssoftly
      @shespeakssoftly Год назад +3

      Thinking of your grandmother. May she have relief from pain. I’m so glad you value her. I’m sure she would be so touched to know her story matters so much to her family.

    • @Peeweesachi2023
      @Peeweesachi2023 Год назад +4

      What you wrote was so lovely know it shall touch many hearts….I’m Greek and my grandmother suffered much the same…..bearing eleven children…..forced sadly to marry her first when she was sixteen he thirty. Women bore so much in those times….she was and still remains my hero of what a real woman is and was. Her life was so hard and yet she bore it as her journey and daily even after her husband had passes he was so much older then her in her daily prayers she still prayed for him, never said a bad word……she was very religious and her faith gave her the will to live a long life. I miss her to this day and I was so close to her…..I visited her often she was such a roll model for me. I bless your memory of your story it really touched my heart!

  • @tiffanyf9336
    @tiffanyf9336 Год назад +77

    It is such a great short film and it touches our hearts as Asian Americans. It literally made me cry just in 3 minutes after watching it….

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +4

      Thank you for the kind words Tiffany. I’m happy you enjoyed it.

    • @markbigelow2608
      @markbigelow2608 Год назад

      Yeah, me too. Poor lady.

    • @sko1beer
      @sko1beer Год назад

      @@qiricky the dumplings needed a dipping sauce but i like mine grilled.
      apart from that great film

  • @sunflwr729
    @sunflwr729 Год назад +53

    As an immigrant mom with a daughter like the one on this film, I could totally relate to this empty nester mom and her relationship to her daughter. Well done!!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +4

      Thank you! I’m Im glad you liked it!

    • @shelbynamels7948
      @shelbynamels7948 Год назад

      So do you also greet your daughter at your door with accusations and recriminations??
      Do you sit at home watching soaps in your native language, or do you go out and engage with others around you??

    • @BlameAkon
      @BlameAkon Год назад +2

      @shelbynamels7948 Lol I saw another comment you made and I'm wondering what is your issue is, geez.

    • @shelbynamels7948
      @shelbynamels7948 Год назад

      @@BlameAkon My issue?? The mom isolates herself from the world around her, and when the daughter, who has her own life to live, shows up, instead of being happy to see her, showers her with recriminations.
      No wonder she is lonely and isolated.

    • @SculptExpress-gv8jp
      @SculptExpress-gv8jp 2 месяца назад

      Shelby, we are all human and mom needed to vent out a bit. She was hurt by her daughter not giving a damn about a holiday that is very important to her. And why has mom isolated herself? Circumstances perhaps?! I see lots of older isolated people, especially in America. My in-law never met or talked to her neighbor down south (what a myth that southern charm 🙄). People today suffer a lot from isolation and it’s horrible that the families are broken and friends hard to find. Yes, you can always engage in some fake, candy floss conversation with someone, but it’s not worth it.

  • @EbonyBladeXX.mp3
    @EbonyBladeXX.mp3 Год назад +198

    This is one of the best short films I’ve seen in a long time! I come from a family of immigrant parents and a lot of this resonated with me. Thank you for creating such beautiful work! ✨

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @lisagreen-cudek9735
    @lisagreen-cudek9735 Год назад +3

    A touching, nuanced story told in such a short time. The actress who played the mother gave a superb performance and she was beautifully filmed!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you! I’ll be sure to pass on your compliments to Lee!

  • @nat0reeree
    @nat0reeree Год назад +9

    I cried. This made me think of my mom. She is Filipino and we don’t see each other enough

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thanks for sharing. Hopefully she and you can find more time going forward. 🫶🏼

  • @yixiuchan
    @yixiuchan Год назад +32

    Ayyyy! This gave me the feels. The mother-daughter dynamic and the incorrigible bluntness of Chinese parents resonated hard, and the complicated hopefulness of a lonely parent embarking on a new adventure … !!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you for the kind words! I really appreciate how you summed it up!

  • @margotlescargot
    @margotlescargot Год назад +5

    I was like « Take the damn dumplings!!! »
    Loved it! Especially the cut from the cute couple to mom uploading her profile. 😂

  • @TheMrrabbit1968
    @TheMrrabbit1968 Год назад +36

    Really touching film. I find myself living in Asia in my mid fifties (Man, that came around fast!). I got burned by a liar, the same as Joy, but she took everything before I realised who she really was. Cross cultural relationships are hard work, but loneliness is worse. Joy's character was brilliantly played. I really enjoyed this movie.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing, I hope that this film gives you hope in your life going forward!

    • @shelbynamels7948
      @shelbynamels7948 Год назад +3

      Loneliness is the default condition in life. Learn to be your own best company,

    • @dbuck1964
      @dbuck1964 Год назад

      @@shelbynamels7948no, you are referring to being alone.

    • @gypsy_soul49
      @gypsy_soul49 Год назад

      Hey hello 👋🏻

    • @gypsy_soul49
      @gypsy_soul49 Год назад

      Hey hello 👋🏻

  • @hajoung2647
    @hajoung2647 Год назад +14

    Amazing. The mother-daughter relationship in this movie is very relatable. A very similar pattern can be observed in Korea ,too. Thank you for the beautiful film and soundtracks.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for watching. Hope this film has encouraged you!

  • @maureenpalmquist08
    @maureenpalmquist08 Год назад +24

    This was one of the best short movies I’ve seen in a long time. It evoked so much emotion in me. So so good!!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      I’m glad you enjoyed it so much!

  • @esterrios3998
    @esterrios3998 Год назад +42

    I have always been a daughter that believe in never forgetting the debt I owe my parents for giving us life and nurturing us. The least I could do is to give them respect and consideration and once in a while try not to take them for granted!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      That’s the best we can do!

  • @kemillegreene9743
    @kemillegreene9743 Год назад +23

    When the mom sat at the table with all the food. In my mind I was saying “oooh! Someone’s going to be in trouble “ when my mom cooks, especially from scratch she expects me to be at the table when it’s hot! When she yelled and and then got to the ziplock bag I was thinking that the daughter better accept the food.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      Oh yeah, haha. I have gotten into some pretty hot water for not accepting food. Thanks for watching Kemille!

  • @judyyu9009
    @judyyu9009 Год назад +2

    Extremely relatable. My mother was a single mother and she chose her career over us kids (her words). We are still repairing the damage, it will never be fully undone.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing. Hope and your family find peace.

  • @Karen-0
    @Karen-0 Год назад +17

    Ugh I teared up almost right from the get go with Joy eating alone on CNY. Dont want to imagine my mom going through that. Well done.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you Karen. Hope you enjoyed it!

  • @sprosahury5214
    @sprosahury5214 Год назад +12

    I watched it with my teenage son. We laughed and I was in tears when she got her daughter's understanding. Hope to see more of this short film to help us learn to communicate to be understood

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you Sprosa, I’m really happy you both got to enjoy it together!

  • @pnthien21
    @pnthien21 Год назад +9

    Im sorry for taking all of your opportunities, mom. I love you with all my heart. I promise I’ll give you back all that you have sacrificed.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      ❤️

    • @pnthien21
      @pnthien21 Год назад +2

      @@qirickyI'm crying my heart out watching this video. thank you so much for making such a great film.

    • @suzanneseeger8404
      @suzanneseeger8404 2 месяца назад +1

      You say sweet true, Blessings

  • @Meowza08
    @Meowza08 Год назад +52

    This was so touching and relatable. Really reminded me of my relationship with my mom before she passed. Truly an touching short film and great acting!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      Lee Chen, our lead was such a pleasure to work with! I'm glad you related to it, and it was able to remind you of your mom! Thanks for sharing!

  • @iammilorex
    @iammilorex Год назад +2

    Beautiful film. Really enjoyed the cinematography. Many immigrant families can relate.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for the kind words. Glad you enjoyed it.

  • @alexliaao
    @alexliaao Год назад +10

    As a Taiwanese American who grew up with immigrant parents in the suburbs of LA, it was relatable to see the cultural and generational differences in this short film. Thank you for telling our stories.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      Thank you for the kind words Alex! I have a similar background as you, and wanted to make a film that showed some form of optimism toward these kinds of relationships, in spite of all the difficulties we encounter. I appreciate your comment!

    • @alexliaao
      @alexliaao Год назад +2

      @@qiricky You did great at capturing just that. Happy AAPI month!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you! Happy AAPI month!

  • @colorfuldaffodil
    @colorfuldaffodil Год назад +14

    So good! Love all the little details… like how the mom was starting to spell out Stephen’s name, and the daughter found him right away… and when the mom flushed the toilet. Perfection! Bravo on an honest, humorous, and hopeful film.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      I appreciate that you noticed those things! Thank you!

  • @sheilalaffey6
    @sheilalaffey6 Год назад +7

    loved this thoughtful and heartwarming film. I was engaged the whole time with the main character who I cared about during times with daughter and on line dating efforts.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for the kind words Sheila!

    • @sheilalaffey6
      @sheilalaffey6 Год назад +1

      @@qiricky keep up the great work! I hope it's ok I am sharing it in a film studies class that I teach..

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      @@sheilalaffey6 go for it!

  • @suhashiethalgaspitiya
    @suhashiethalgaspitiya Год назад +1

    I think it’s really sweet that you replied personally to each and every comment. Even the rude and brash ones. You were so polite in replying to those.
    You have a great future ahead of you. Best of luck!
    P.S. I haven’t watched the short film yet but I will. Today.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for the kind words! I’m happy that this film has found its audience! Hope you enjoy it!

  • @g.a.mendoza1064
    @g.a.mendoza1064 Год назад +7

    A very straightforward and clear cut Asian-American culture. Love it. Btw, PT school is not 2 years, it must be PTA. And, I’m bawling. It’s 8am. 😅😅😅

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thanks for the kind words! Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @vanessaland5090
    @vanessaland5090 Год назад +4

    Beautiful storytelling. Love how intricate and piercing this film is.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @eychoi
    @eychoi Год назад +30

    To be honest, I accidentally clicked on the video but I could not stop watching it all. I love it so much. It is a great short film and I felt that my different emotions were dancing through the flow of story. I am looking forward to see more of your creative work!! :)
    Btw, I have decided to try to make some dumplings from scratch for my family as the mom did. Since my grand mom died 30 years ago, I have never had homemade dumplings. I missed her so much and I deeply appreciate her love and care for me.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you for the kind words! I’m glad you’re making your mother’s food. Sometimes the act of even trying to cook something our parents made helps take us back and feel their love. Even better when you can share with your family and create new memories!

  • @BonsaiMachete
    @BonsaiMachete Год назад +2

    the fridge at the end is so relatable. a good reminder of how immigrant parents will show their love and what they sacrifice.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Really happy you felt that way. Thanks for watching and sharing.

  • @bayha5065
    @bayha5065 Год назад +7

    Captured the mother daughter experience spot on, great short film!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      I'm happy you enjoyed the film Bay. Appreciate it!

    • @SculptExpress-gv8jp
      @SculptExpress-gv8jp 2 месяца назад

      It made me so sad when the daughter rejected her mom’s ravioli. Such a terribly insensitive attitude after she forgot the Chinese NY and then undermined the significance of it.

  • @batterbury4477
    @batterbury4477 Год назад +2

    What a great actress! I believed I was watching MY mother. And I felt everything the character was feeling. Terrific everyday story telling. Great camera work and editing. And congrats on making the 'sets' and production values so full and real. top notch production all around.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Haha! Amazing! I hope she reads this! glad you enjoyed it and found resonance!

  • @marty1159
    @marty1159 Год назад +3

    My life is like the mom in this short film, but I understand my son has a life and a job and responsibilities. I don’t have it in my heart to guilt him by reminding him what I’ve done for him. What I did I did for love and never expecting anything in return. I want his love and attention but not at the expense of pity.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thanks for sharing. Appreciate it!

  • @alyssakuchta6233
    @alyssakuchta6233 Год назад +2

    This was beautiful and so relatable, it felt like watching my mom and her experience of online dating right now.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you so much for the kind words!

  • @macybrown1903
    @macybrown1903 Год назад +8

    Very touching. I cried when the mom and daughter sat down and talk/communicate. Subscribed. Looking forward to more great works from you.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thanks Macybrown! I'm glad that the film resonated with you, and I'm looking forward to making more films!

  • @MarianaGarciagmariana2010
    @MarianaGarciagmariana2010 Год назад +1

    This is one of the best films I've seen in a long time. It hit me at so many levels. From the online dating to desire to take care of my mom. Amazing!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you. These words mean the world to me, and I’m really glad you enjoyed it on so many levels!

  • @mahe-2268
    @mahe-2268 Год назад +8

    A story told brilliantly. Best short film I have watched in a long time. Well curated. No detail gone missing. Impeccable acting. Kudos !

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you for the incredible compliment! I’m really glad you enjoyed it!

  • @immanuelrose5502
    @immanuelrose5502 Год назад +2

    Okay, for the record there is no way ever any Asian person will deny their mother’s dumplings, ever. Plus, my own mother nags me constantly about what I eat, what I wear, where I’m at and what time am I coming home. I’m 41 year old single woman. 😅

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Glad you found something to relate to in this film!

  • @quinnnguyen8090
    @quinnnguyen8090 Год назад +3

    This is such a beautiful film! It made me cry and and laugh and think of my mum, I’m a Vietnamese Australian girl in New York and my mum is in Australia so I miss her so much. Thank you for creating such a great piece of art

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for sharing. Glad it resonated with you! Go call her!

  • @yingjiepear6220
    @yingjiepear6220 Год назад +5

    What a beautiful story to tell about a mother/woman/immigrant. Thank you for the great short movie!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you Yingjie!

  • @karlmeyer6482
    @karlmeyer6482 Год назад +10

    This is amazing! I was sucked in right from the get go. You tell so much story in 26min and the attention to detail is fantastic. The dried out plant at the end was a great touch. Keep it up!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you Karl, we wondered if anyone would clock them, I’m glad you noticed those details.

  • @rachelbetty
    @rachelbetty 3 месяца назад +3

    If people knew how many professionals immigrate to take low level jobs they would be shocked. I worked with an immigrant family where the dad was a doctor and the mom a nurse in Vietnam. They butchered chickens in Iowa and had two beautiful teen children. I think of them all the time and their graciousness amidst really terrible situations.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  3 месяца назад

      Yeah it’s pretty common, you could say a tale as old as time even. Like you said, always impressed by their resilience.

  • @the_katiegibbons
    @the_katiegibbons Год назад +17

    This is incredibly heartwarming, grounded, and sweet! I loved it. I even laughed out loud a time or two. Really wonderful short

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thanks Katie! I'm glad you had a good time! That's what we're all here for! Appreciate the watch!

  • @humphh
    @humphh Год назад +8

    This was very well done. RUclips algorithm sent me here and I'm very thankful.
    The Chinese American representation was very authentic. This type of film needs to get a wider audience.
    Did you submit to CAAMFest 2023? It's running right now in San Francisco.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      Thanks. I appreciate your kind words. I did submit but didn’t get in! Glad it’s found a home here on RUclips though!

    • @humphh
      @humphh Год назад +4

      Ricky - I'm sorry to hear that. This was very well done and I'd like to see more Asian American films of this caliber and material.
      I just watched Dealing with Dad last week and thought it was good but you conveyed so much more emotion in your short film.
      Can you recommend any other Asian American films/directors similar to your quality? I'd like to go down that rabbit hole.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +6

      I’d recommend Christopher Yip’s Streams Flow From a River, as well as any works by the Japanese director Hirokazu Kore-eda!

    • @shespeakssoftly
      @shespeakssoftly Год назад

      @@qirickyI love Kore-eda 🤍 I Wish is one of my favorite movies ever.

  • @sethallyn7712
    @sethallyn7712 Год назад +10

    What an incredible and well told story! The relationship between the mother and the daughter is so complex and masterfully developed on screen

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you Seth! I appreciate your kind words and your support! 🙏

  • @elleobi
    @elleobi Год назад +10

    That lonely dinner scene made me want to call my mom 💔 Beautiful film

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thanks for sharing 0bia. Hope you ended up calling her!

    • @haditwithwork
      @haditwithwork Год назад +1

      Obia! Call your mom!

  • @robinbelsaas1216
    @robinbelsaas1216 Год назад +3

    So well done and touching. Thank you. The actors (especially the lead are so talented.

  • @keesmuch
    @keesmuch Год назад +6

    the opening scene where the mom is preparing the dumplings got me hooked. it was shot so beautifully.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      Thank you! We had a lot of fun shooting it! If you like that, I recommend RUclips searching for the opening to Eat, Drink, Man, Woman. That’s the best food opening I’ve ever seen in a movie, never fails to make my mouth water!

    • @keesmuch
      @keesmuch Год назад +1

      @@qiricky holy Jesus in wheels! that scene woaaaah!!! it's midnight in Hong Kong and I'm craving Chinese food!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      @@keesmuch I knowww! I'd go get some food ASAP if I were you :P

  • @chrysallis317
    @chrysallis317 Год назад +20

    What a beautiful piece of art. Loved watching that, will make sure my parents watch it too! The video chat at the beginning with Mark was quite entertaining. Fantastic story-line, beautiful music and the actresses were fabulous. Well done!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you so much Chrissie! I’m so glad you enjoyed it! 🫶🏼

  • @TeamJesusGo
    @TeamJesusGo Год назад +1

    Oh no! I feel for her... And all the parents that give their all and then are looking for that special person to share their lives with. ❤❤❤

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Glad it resonated with you! Thanks for watching!

  • @conservativemovement
    @conservativemovement Год назад +3

    Beautiful.

  • @kaywoodward9283
    @kaywoodward9283 Год назад +2

    A lovely short film. Well acted and put together. Thank you everyone.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts!

  • @lx425
    @lx425 Год назад +3

    Even down to the Mom choosing 2 years of PT school. My Mom chose to be a radio tech after immigrating to raise me and my sister. Thank you for making this. Wow, what a powerful film.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      I’m glad it resonated with you, there’s much to be thankful for. Thanks for sharing!

  • @Peeweesachi2023
    @Peeweesachi2023 Год назад +2

    I’m also single and was eye opening as I’ve had these types sad men do what they’ve done to this amazing woman…..despite she was an actor… there’s such truth in this story and I’ve asked myself countless times “why are there not more GOOD MEN AROUND WHO VALUE HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN?!”
    This was beautifully done, and said so so much to everyone about not only dating but the loneliness of losing a partner and trying to find a connecting to love again and hope!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thanks for watching and sharing!

    • @Peeweesachi2023
      @Peeweesachi2023 Год назад +1

      @@qiricky you are so welcome. I have never been so moved by a video and I watched it again today I’m a music teacher with lots of Asian clients also identifying a lot with their stories and I wish there was more like this because we need to understand the Asian culture every culture but this was very moving and I sent it to at least 10 more people today so I want to thank you so much and I’m looking so forward that you will do this again with another wonderful short.!

  • @Pam-hw3gz
    @Pam-hw3gz Год назад +4

    Much emotion packed into a short film. Definitely watch it!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for the kind words Pam! Glad you enjoyed it.

  • @jazziegurlt22
    @jazziegurlt22 Год назад +4

    Okay but the immediate tears though. Im not a crier, but this short film got me so many times. Thank you, I needed a beautiful and soulful story today! ❤🙏🏾

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you Adorable Earth Angel! I’m so glad this film encouraged you in this way! 🫶🏼

  • @IdreamIsoar
    @IdreamIsoar Год назад +8

    Love this short film. Made me think what my life will be like once my child grows up. Being a single mum isn't easy. I tried online dating years ago and faced the same challenges of preconceived notions of Asian women. Gave up. Watching this made me reconsider trying again.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Do it!

    • @thefirewren
      @thefirewren 10 месяцев назад +1

      I hear you - I can't imagine how it must be being a single mum. Online dating can need some work and time but there are still good people there to be met. I have been with my caring and understanding partner for eight years now. It took me different periods of doing online dating over years (I took breaks away from it when I needed to have a rest!) and different platforms before I met him. The last 3 weddings I have been to were also couples that had met each other online. If you choose to keep going with online dating (whenever the time is right for you), I hope for you that you find someone who fits well with what you want for yourself. Take care and all the best to you and your family.

  • @viewfromthetop176
    @viewfromthetop176 5 месяцев назад

    So sensitively handled. I loved the acting. Nothing over the top, very natural and the film delivers the message with finesse. Great job by the director and crew!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  4 месяца назад

      Thank you very much! Appreciate your encouragement!

  • @irenegordon2779
    @irenegordon2779 Год назад +4

    Amazing film! Very heartwarming...very timely...I shed tears for the Mom

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thanks for the kind word Irene, I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  • @silvertip185
    @silvertip185 25 дней назад

    Not many films have left me speechless. Thank you so much.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  25 дней назад

      Wow. That’s a huge compliment. If you enjoyed this film, you might like the other short film on my channel, Three Bows. Thank you for watching!

  • @CeciliaDing
    @CeciliaDing Год назад +48

    Wow, Ricky, this is such a great piece of work. And right there in the Bay area. Makes me miss home. keep up the great work. We need more Asian-American artists like you.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thanks Cecilia, I'm glad you enjoyed it!

  • @ellieb9
    @ellieb9 Год назад +12

    Relatable as a 1st generation immigrant with children. Made me think what life would be like after my kids grow up and leave home..

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Definitely, same. That was the initial spark for this film.

  • @rjkma
    @rjkma Год назад +5

    An honest, sincere heartfelt film. Well done. Lee is great!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      She is! Thank you Raymond!

  • @vyvienvp3413
    @vyvienvp3413 Год назад +1

    What a wonderful story, quite beautiful, like a sweet fable. X:)

  • @luuluc11
    @luuluc11 Год назад +22

    Loved it! The story line is so accurate and realistic. I like how you guys portray the mom's dating journey. It's not just a one shot experience to find Mr. Right. There are a lot online creeps and dating "etiquette" that the mom needs to learn. Hope you guys continue to make more great stories!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +2

      Thank you for the compliments! Glad you enjoyed the movie!

  • @thaixgrrl
    @thaixgrrl Год назад +1

    Sweet and beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful film!

  • @kimiehirlinger6941
    @kimiehirlinger6941 Год назад +4

    I enjoyed this short film. I, myself as a foreigner living in Berlin and found some similarities in her. I understand her feelings as a mother and also as a woman . It’s nice ending, too. Well done !

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for sharing Kimie. It makes me happy that you felt those things. Thank you for watching!

  • @hoppab14
    @hoppab14 4 месяца назад +1

    As the daughter of a Taiwanese mother, I can so relate to the home cooked Chinese food, especially the dumplings! And even when they were fighting, how the mom tried to send her daughter home with them. Perfectly captured a Chinese mother! They truly show their love by feeding others. My beautiful mother passed away 13 years ago and I still yearn for her delicious food. I almost never go to Chinese restaurants because they can never live up to her food. God, what I wouldn't give to eat her food again. I hope by writing this someone else may see this and go visit their mothers, eat their food, learn their recipes, and just treasure the moments with them. 💗

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  4 месяца назад

      Agree, nothing like home-made food! This is such a beautiful thought. Thanks for sharing with all of us!

  • @jennifersnuffleupagus249
    @jennifersnuffleupagus249 Год назад +8

    Ricky, thank you so much for making! This was such a pleasure to watch. What direction - beautiful cinematography, and love to your main actress. Thank you!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you Jennifer, really glad you enjoyed it! We had a great team and an incredibly talented cinematographer in Allen Liu. He was a big reason why it looked as good as it did!

  • @feized
    @feized 7 месяцев назад +2

    reminds me of my chinese mom & grandma 💔 as much as i can’t stand their nagging and hurtful statements and constant criticism, i still wept at this and the thought of them feeling lonely. i know in reality i most likely won’t be able to retain a relationship with them forever as i am about to start HRT but god…if we could just find a way to connect and set boundaries so that we still could still be in each other’s lives somehow 💔 as much as they have hurt me i know that they were just doing their best. i know that they are just loving me the only way they know how to. i don’t want to completely cut them off from my life. i know i don’t have to, but i am willing to to sacrifice my sanity the way they have sacrificed their time, energy, and money into me growing up ❤️ i want us to love each other, as flawed as that love may be ❤️ i love you mom. i love you grandma

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  6 месяцев назад

      Thank you for sharing. Connecting and setting boundaries is a never ending process of finding out what works! Keep trying🌞

  • @hori166
    @hori166 Год назад +5

    Great film. Reminds me of that classic 20 years ago--yeah you know which one--about the relationship between 4 mothers and their 4 daughters. This one was a tear-jerker too...

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you so much! That’s a massive compliment! Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @itskrissart
    @itskrissart Год назад +2

    I cried watching this.. Bravo!! 👏👏👏🎬

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you! Glad it resonated with you!

  • @conniehanses
    @conniehanses Год назад +7

    So true, we pour every drop of ourselves into our children. When they leave, (which I always encouraged because there is so much to see), its a rough transition. You know its coming but when it does, you can feel lost and empty....I've raised two great, independent and kind people. Now its time for me to find my identity again...Loved this film. Thankyou💙🌎 All moms are moms, no matter what culture we come from. This relates to us all...😊 I also had to realize that they weren't little anymore, and I had to start talking to them like they were grown, and reveal a bit about myself. We're getting there. Now moving to be able to be in their lives as adults. Big change but I'm ready and excited..

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you for sharing that. Sometimes I have to remind myself: like our children, we are always growing too. Best of luck with the change!

    • @g.flesch9731
      @g.flesch9731 Год назад +1

      You will find being friends as an adult to your adult children will bring joy.

  • @emeralddreams888
    @emeralddreams888 Год назад +3

    I don't really think there's an excuse to not celebrate the one holiday your single parent cares about with them. I don't give a crap about Christmas but I spend it with my partner's family and my partner spends CNY with my family.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      “Youth is wasted on the young.” By the end, I hope our characters have learned that.

  • @juliecameron6078
    @juliecameron6078 Год назад +2

    This short film was very touching - both heartwarming and hilarious. I can see why it won an award.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @sufei4776
    @sufei4776 Год назад +11

    I crying when I saw the big bag of dumplings 🥟. My mom always did the same thing.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for the kind words Su Fei, I’m really glad you enjoyed it.

  • @CapsLock33
    @CapsLock33 Год назад +2

    I love theses kind of short films. Keep them coming!!!

  • @lilypatel3161
    @lilypatel3161 Год назад +3

    This is incredible! The cinematography, casting, locations, STORY!!! All great!!! Congratulations!!!!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you Lily! Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @anjetka_2910
    @anjetka_2910 9 месяцев назад

    So refreshing. Joyfull, not too heavy, optimistic, reconnected. I liked it very much. Thank you for filming it.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  9 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you so much. I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  • @bluedaffodil2023
    @bluedaffodil2023 Год назад +5

    12:24 is relatable to me. My grandmother was a dentist and oral surgeon in Moscow during the Soviet Union. She worked as a home aide here before she retired
    Edit: she also chose to not pursue accreditation in the US so that she and my grandfather could take care of my cousins, my sister, and I so that my aunt and my mom could pursue education in the us and work full time. So much sacrifice in immigrant families

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thanks for sharing. Really appreciate you sharing your family’s story. It’s countless acts like this that gave us the opportunities to be where we are today.

  • @tcot5190
    @tcot5190 Год назад +1

    Good reminder for me to appreciate the food my mom ‘force’ me to take home when I visit. I know she puts all her heart into cooking them.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thanks for sharing. Love comes in so many forms, we sometimes aren’t able to recognize it in the moment. Glad you had that realization for yourself. Thanks for watching.

  • @lindayamada2709
    @lindayamada2709 Год назад +3

    Great film. Thanks for sharing. RUclips suggested it and I didn’t know what to expect but the 27 minutes just flew by. I was sad when it ended. It was heartwarming and a bit sad at times but it did have some funny moments. Keep up the great work. I look forward to seeing more films from you.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thank you Linda! I appreciate the kind words!

  • @hyeeunjung4451
    @hyeeunjung4451 Год назад +1

    Such a great short film. It depicts so many things: love, family, life as an immigrant, the gaps between generation etc.. thank you so much for sharing this wonderful film🌷

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you so much! Appreciate it!

  • @AnnYe-n3k
    @AnnYe-n3k Год назад +5

    Our English teacher just recommended your film to us and it's so great! The Chinese songs in it remind me of a Chinese film called Mountains May Depart and I enjoy your film very much. Thank you!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад +1

      Thanks for the recommendation Ann! Glad you got something out of this film!

  • @estellegregory2522
    @estellegregory2522 Год назад +2

    I'm not an immigrant (or child of one) but found your film so wonderful... thank you!

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thanks for watching Estelle! That’s really encouraging to hear! Glad to hear this story is universal!

  • @johnwitman8171
    @johnwitman8171 Год назад +1

    One of the best short movies I have ever watched!
    One thing though, too old fashioned they depicted the Mum, as I am about the same age I know. It's we who opened up the internet era, remember? She must have been learning computer since her college in China. With that clumsy on keyboard she'd never have graduated 😅😅

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thank you for the compliment! Re: the mom, she might just be playing 4D chess with those prospective dates!

  • @getwellcollective
    @getwellcollective Год назад +11

    Totally caught me off guard. Great job!!! Very well done.

    • @qiricky
      @qiricky  Год назад

      Thanks Micaela! Glad it surprised you in a good way!