What's your type? Comment below. Do you believe in them? Also, we did a complete video on the different types here: ruclips.net/video/NXcWZnQPUXw/видео.html
Well this changes bc I’m replying to this comment lol, but the very fact that we want to feel validated by having the “rarest personality” reveals our insecurity about having genuine individuality. Plus, our personalities change so much. Last year, I was an ENFJ. Now I’m an INFJ, and next month, I’ll prob be something else 🤷🏽♀️ it doesn’t rly matter, because you’re already special regardless of what u score
Every 3 months, I take the personality test and I always jump back and fort between INFP and INFJ having my P and J at close to 50%. The less depress I am, the more I lean towards INFJ it seems.
Oh my god- Same Mayn, I related to both personality types and was left wondering wtf does that mean? Sometimes I’m INFP other times I’m INFJ- but now it’s clearer that I’m moreso INFJ whenever I’m not depressed
Perhaps a big crowd, but at least we would all be kindred souls with genuine intentions. It’s so refreshing to know there are other people out there who feel and think similar to myself. I don’t think I know any other INFPs in my personal life, but I sure wish I had some INFP friends! ❤️
Ive accepted that we are only meant to adapt to the changes but trying to understand something will drive you Mad. I can’t imagine trying to understand me or who I am so I don’t try to get frustrated when people misunderstand me. I can’t blame them. Though the want is there I can’t understand myself so why expect others to? That’s at least how I go about it.
I am INFJ and my best friend is INFP. We always think we are so similar we are basically the same. This was very insightful as to how we actually differ. Very accurate
Contrast . I am n infp n my bestie is infj . We r soo happy together . What makes us feel more connected is her father n my father almost behave in the same manner . ❤️♥️
As an INFP, I feel like I am the most contradictive person ever. - I want to be alone & recharge myself, but I really need someone at my darkest times, or else I will end up hurting myself because I am my biggest critic. - I am seen really closed off and quiet in public and new environments, but I really thrive in environments I'm already comfortable with and would easily open up amongst my closest friends and family. - I don't like group settings, but I'm always the one who would take charge and engange with all of the members (even if sometimes I'm not helping myself in the process). - I seem like I'm selfish because of my introverted self, my prefered style of doing things, and reaching my goals alone, but I would lend all my heart, soul and body to someone who's going through a hard time, even when they aren't close to me. I would listen and comfort them as much as I can because maybe I just don't want them to the feel invalidated and misunderstood like I was. - I feel like not wanting to do anything for others because I need time for myself, but sometimes I couldn't say "no" to someone asking for help, maybe because of having a quite high empathy and that I will feel extremely guilty and anxious of what will happen if I don't help them. - I don't like social events, but I wouldnt hesitate go if it's about something I really love and passionate about. - I love but also despice myself the most. edit: aaah i appreciate all the support in the replies, it's a nice reminder for us that we're not alone :)) i hope we can eventually learn to overcome these things as we grow to get-to-know & appreciate ourselves more
ENFJ here and now i am sure that INFP is my type... Here in this world its easy to judge someone and assume that person is cold, icy etc.. But little they do care to understand the person. Everyone has their own shades, filters and way to present themselves in diffrent settings. Most of my infp frnds are considered quite, silent type, but on knowing them deeply they are pure softies
Quite same, coz I've done the 16 personalities test 2 or 3 times now and I'm very much an INFP per that (and I would agree, much all of that be rly accurate for me) but multiple times throughout the video I was here tryna decide if I'm actually INFP or a combination of the 2 lol
About INFP in the test results page: Mediators sometimes see themselves as selfish, but only because they want to give so much more than they are able to.
As an INFP, it's hard for me to express emotions. It's hard to even ask for help with my emotions too. I like to keep everything to myself. I love exploring, taking risks that are within my comfort zone.
Oh my! I’m so sorry about that! But remember that the only thing that can stop and ruin your day is yourself! So don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone and start giving yourself a fresh new life with just simply expressing emotions! I know this might sound offensive, but if you feel like ripping apart someone, go ahead! Only you can stop you! Feelings is just as important as thinking! But still remember to treat other people the way you want to be treated! 💖✨👑😍🌈🍬🙏💪
@@angell111 yeah ikr me too...I love talking abt my feelings. Maybe they are shy or have anxiety disorder...? (Although I do have anxiety disorder as well but still I wanna give em the benefit of the doubt)
I think INFPs need to remember that we should accept ourselves for who we are. Many of us seek validation because oftentimes we feel like outcasts as society doesn't favor individuality but instead favors traits that contribute more to it. As a result, we see the world as if looking out the window, wondering why everyone outside has it better than us. We end up knowing how it feels to be rejected. However with this in mind, we are able to understand many complex emotions and use our creativity to do amazing things with them. This is why INFPs are considered optimistic, authentic, and sympathetic. We are able to draw out even the smallest hint of good when it seems like there isn't any left. If you're INFP please remember to not lose your true self! It isn't easy fitting in and the chances of feeling misunderstood is high, but that doesn't mean we should automatically ignore our passions and our strengths too.
My husband is INFJ and I am INFP and though we are opposite in a lot of ways we are perfectly equipped to help each other with the things our personality types struggle with. It isn't always easy but it's incredibly worth it. I hope all of you out there find your unicorn.
same TT But we must learn to say no, even if it hurts other people's feelings. In the end, we remain kind-hearted . We should think about ourselves a little ....... ( IM an army and jk stan😂 ) :)
We say "no" because we dont want to be percieved as "bad", we dont want to be judged and most imortantly rejected..not because we have a selfless desire to help an other person or to not hurt their feelings... this may sound bad but its not all the time like this. At least for me. But it happens very often.
Im an infp and have a best friend infj and its hilarious when we are Round each other BC we always look like extroverts BC we are so comfortable with each other
@@muhawanticemocha if you understand the functions. INFPS can have more probability for being selfish bc of their introverted feeling dominant function.
I was initially INFJ before healing from my trauma. I felt like I was so structured and organized then because of parentification and I was basically programmed to be "responsible & mature one" and also because all of the trauma was locked away so I could function so well then because I was basically numb and living on auto pilot and people pleasing. Years later, dealt with a lot of my shit and am at my happiest, best self and definitely resonate with being an INFP. I feel that INFPs struggle with being called "selfish" a lot because feeling is literally our first instinct so please know it's okay to put yourself first, you're not selfish for listening to your feelings and you'll figure things out. Follow your heart and don't let anyone talk you out of anything that lights your heart on fire 🌈✨
I am an INFP. It's difficult for me to open up things to other people. Even with my friends or families. I love to bond with my friends, but i get happier when the plan got canceled. I kinda hate it when people can't understand what i'm trying to say. I can't say "no" to other people even if i can't or i'm busy. Like help them to finish this or that. My loudness depends on the people i am with. Sometimes, i based on my emotion when it comes to decision making. I'm also unorganized i must say. I feel better to walk alone when going home rather than being with someone. AND IM HAVING A HARD TIME TO FIND MY OWN MOTIVATION TO FINISH SOMETHING UNLESS I REALLY HAVE TO.
To my fellow INFPs who are having a hard time making decisions: If you’re picking between two things or more, just stop weighing on whatever will turn out to be “better”, and just RANDOMLY pick one! Don’t overthink it and just pick *quickly* too, then adjust yourself in the situation and things will eventually fit together.
Omg while reading this, I catched myself thinking you are crazy for saying smth like that. And then I realised that I just approved that deciding between smth is actually a big problem of mine lmao
I relate to your shit,I always compare things that matters from unimportant stuffs from myself,my crush and even the clothes I will buy I critically compared all of them and it's exhausting most of the time
No one can really be 'both' types as both of them are very different. The cognitive function INFP and INFJ uses are very different. INFP: Fi-Ne-Si-Te INFJ: Ni-Fe-Ti-Se None of their stack is the same. INFP's are Fi-doms, INFJ 's are Ni-doms. INFP uses Ne, while INFJ uses Ni. You can't use both Ne and Ni. Again, only THEORITICALLY speaking, like I understand how some people uses functions in different order than the 'typical' INFP or INFJ or whatever type, BUT THIS IS IN THEORY IMPOSSIBLE. However, at the end of the day, it's all just labels.
I am both/in between INFP and INFJ. I’ve taken the MBTI test twice (once in high school, and again some years later in college). The first time, I was INFP with just 2 points over the Judging/Perceiving line on the P side, and the second time I took the test I was 3 points over the P/J line on the Judgement side. Watching this video, it’s still difficult to figure out which personality type I lean more towards. I’m very analytical and organized, but greatly enjoy art and being creative. Some days, I’m rigid and have to stick to a plan, while other days I want to be spontaneous and explore all of my options. As for my feelings, I’m very empathetic and find myself sometimes lost in loved ones emotions, but still have self-awareness for my own feelings and tend to keep them to myself. Like the video suggested, MBTI is just a reference, people are complex and don’t need to fit into one box, ya know? ^_^
maybe u should check out cognitive functions to see if u have more of a dominant Ni or Fi. Being more rigid or non rigid doesn't result in u being one or the other tbh-all personalities of ppl use all the cognitive functions. also maybe check the test u take-as some may not be as accurate
I think it's fine to identify as both because the 16 personalities test are just tendencies and not a rigid grouping - it means you do have all 16 personalities, it's just that that gravitate the most towards infp or/and infj. I am like that as well. It's just something to remember: this is just a tool to figure out who you are and how other people works, it's not perfect but is widely accepted.
@@farzanaazmy Have you looked into both cognitive stack? INFPs and INFJs have very different cognitive functions. Also, it's about how you are and not what you identify with.
Since it seems that everyone is already talking about the "selfish INFP" stereotype, I'll just add my own thoughts to the mix… I can see why certain INFP behaviors might come across as selfish to others - i.e. cancelling plans with friends, withdrawing into their own world, seemingly thinking about themselves a lot, etc. However, I really don't think this stems from an inherently selfish heart. A selfish person by definition is someone who has an excessive or exclusive preoccupation with themselves, to the disregard of other people's welfare. Let's face it - any personality type can fall into this trap. Still, all the INFP's I have met are not like this at all. In their hearts, they care very deeply about other people and truly want to help others, especially "the underdogs" of society. But because INFP's interact so deeply with others and are very connected to their emotions, they also tend to burn out a lot faster than other people. Not that other personalities don't make deep interpersonal connections - I just think the INFP combo of wanting to deeply understand others as well as themselves at the same time can make life pretty exhausting. Considering that INFP's are constantly evaluating the world through their emotions, it makes sense that they need a lot of self-processing time for their head to catch up with their surroundings. It's not necessarily a bad thing - it’s just the way they are made. Some people don’t need to know their feelings on something in order to interact properly - INFP's on the other hand do. And I honestly think that is ok. Overall, the INFPs I know would like to give so much more of themselves than what they can personally manage. Or they see other people who are able to "do more" for others, and negatively compare themselves. INFP's - you already have such a harsh inner critic, don't add more fuel to the fire! Just take your time, and give to others in your own way at your own capacity. Thank you for listening to my ted talk, I'll leave you in peace now.
thank you so so much taking the time to write this, your comment makes me feel a lot more understood and your comment is very reassuring and i know it would be to other infp’s as well:D i wanna give you a hug 🥺💕LAMAMKMFF (i only will with your consent) and your comment seriously makes me feel so understood i think i’m gonna pee glitter because this made me really happy to hear
im definitely my own worst critic and I thought they were saying I’m selfish. I always give so much so I couldn’t understand why they would say it’s all about me me me😩 thank you for saying this, i understand the meaning better
INFP are honestly treated garbage in comparisons like this let's be honest. These kinds of videos make people think we always cry, be selfish, and loathe life like wth? As much as we are an emotional train wreak who gets sensitive, we have a LIFE and our own strong passion for something that nobody can take away.
The internet makes INFJs look like the best type ever. "The most extroverted introvert. The most rational feeler." Those titles should actually belong to ISFJ, but due to the amount of people on the internet being mistyped as INFJs, they have this thought that they are 'special snowflakes' and like to make themselves seem SO unique.
@@woosh5102 I wouldn't wish being INFJ on anyone, it's fucking terrible. Anyone who is making INFJs seem like the best type ever is also most likely not an INFJ as most INFJs wouldn't want to make that impression in the first place. So what you're seeing are most likely people who are not INFJs, typing them selves as INFJ because of ulterior motives like having a need to be snowflakes and unique - traits that most INFJs wouldn't want to have stuck on themselves in the first place.
I'm an INFJ and my best friend is an INFP! We're a little too similar at times, but the differences sure are there! She brings me out of my shell most times which I appreciate, though her emotions and lack of thinking can be overwhelming I don't know how to react lol.
she sounds more like an ISFP. they often mistake themselves for INFP’s for some reason. your friend may be near 50/50 S/N. traits like a hybrid. as an INFP, i think way too much for way too long & then continue on overthinking into infinite. i even wake up in the middle of the night with new epiphanies regularly. NP’s are endless visionaries. they have a hard time knowing when to stop thinking, pick something, & act on it. NJ’s reach a conclusion much sooner, stop dwelling on more/endless possibilities, & then implement the decision. that’s why INFP’s have slightly higher IQ’s but are less successful, in general/on average, than INFJ’s. i WISH i had more J.
As an INFP I kinda wish I was best friends with an INFJ as not only would "Letting things out" be easier, they could also help me learn a little more about how to organise my life as the feeling inside my head saying "I just don't feel like it" is too strong for me to be able to organise my life without mental crises arising every 20 minutes of a project!
Actually the mother Katharine C. Briggs (who actually started it) was an INFJ, and her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers (who continued her work) was an INFP. Then Isabel's son, Peter, was an ENFP. He says it all is a family work :)
To the infp reading this: You are not self centered so stop thinking that you're self centered. Caring about yourself isn't selfish. -infj Edit: this is my most liked comment thank you guys. Also, I'm glad this comment made you guys feel better, stay safe and stay awesome❤️.
I'm INFJ, my daughter is INFP. I show her the world and how it works. She shows me into her world, which is colourful and magical. I'm enriched as a result. Because INFJ's flaw is that we see and understand the world, but lack inner richness. Hence, these two types really work well together, balancing each other's empty areas. ❤
I'm not sure if anybody can relate, but this is me: I feel like I have a power that is so rare, yet I have a feeling there's something for this. This is the closest I've gotten . And it's ironic though, because a true INFJ would just retain this information to themselves and collectively intellectually agree. Me? I'm trying to tell this to everybody to make them understand or find somebody to relate to, which is so much like an INFP.
@@yeetusdeletus8628 If what you're referring to is like a very strong intuition, then you might be an INFJ. If you want to be sure on your personality type, take a closer look on the attributes of the personality types and find which one resonates the most with who you really are.
Hm idk but after reading these comments I can agree with you guys and I feel the same, but my theory (and this is out of personal experience so it might not apply to you) is that a lot of INFPs deal with insecurities and self hatred since we’re so idealistic and dream of the perfect personality that we could have. I think that we do tend to be selfish (in a normal way I guess) , but we spend too much time overthinking it. I assume we’re probably not as selfish as we think, but since we’re so idealistic and need constant validation from others, it makes us think that we are. I hope this made sense and I love you all, my fellow INFPs
As an INFP I now understand the reason why no one in my life gets me nor understands me, they don't see things like me and they don't think like me. I would like to meet someone who understands me and how I think so I don't have to feel alone anymore. My mom always told me I think differently and see things completely different from everyone else and she's right and it kinda hurts that no one understands where I'm coming from
I am an INFP as well and I get told similar things. It’s very hard to fit in and I never have friends that are remotely similar to me. I get told a lot that I am an “empath” and I’m very in touch with emotions and feelings. I also see the big picture and go crazy with hidden meanings/ ideals/ fantasies. Welcome to the club! 😂💕
@@reiflower9918 this is normal! Its very normal to us But the problem is we need to find people that can understand our behaviour Btw 2 days ago i played a game called 'before your eyes' i cried straight up for an hour afterwards And still watched pewdiepies walkthrough and cried again lmao Am i that complicated ?
I (INFJ) had a close INFP friend in highschool and I used to think we're really similar in a lot of ways, but our values always clash. Now I feel like I understand them a bit more :)
1:23 Analytical vs Artistic 2:19 Desicive vs Exploratory 3:09 Absorbing vs Mirroring Emotions 3:58 Understanding vs Validation 4:51 Internal Control vs External Control
I really can't decide whether I'm an INFJ or INFP. The test that I took tells me that I am in fact an INFJ but what if it's not accurate? What if I am an INFP?
As a psychology major, I can say that no test can tell your personality aspects one hundred percent accurately, human personality is quite complex and changing throughout one's life. Of course the core aspects are hard to change or maybe impossible, but every incident we experience in life adds some new aspects on or ommits some aspects from our personality. Thus, personality cannot be that simple to be defined by strict classifications. Maybe that is why, MBTI is quite popular since it implies that these attributes are only rough tendencies. Although I took the test so many times and I came out as INFPT every time, there are so many aspects I also have from other personality types. For instance, I am both intuitive and critical; I am also idealistic and into art and I am both introverted and extraverted depending on my mood, experiences or context. Also I should pursue something about art according to this Inventory but I am studying psychology at the moment and planning to study politics and be a politician because I am an idealistic person who wants to make a positive change in her country and also in the world. Therefore, this test can be taken to explore and have an idea about personality aspects but it should not be followed as a life-guide. Some people take this so seriously.
Finally! An intellectual who spoke out my thoughts. True words have never been said. I hate how people take their personality too seriously. They think being an INFJ/INFP or any other personality type you are identified as is the CORE of who you really are when it is not. We are all different in certain aspects regardless of what your MBTI is.
You're right; it was relieving to me when I did the MBTI test because I felt lost for many years, trying to find out why am I like the way I am. I could only see the bad parts of myself. I also have INFP-T result and I read how it was fitting to how I am mostly (though I have other traits of other personality types), it helped me to start to accept my true self without restricting me overall.
Agreed - The MBTI system should just be considered a tool to determine one's cognitive preferences and not as a determinant in terms of specific behavior. Human beings a complex and regardless of MBTI type and we all have idiosyncrasies that differ from the general pattern described by whatever type we get on a MBTI test or MBTI counselling. To complicate matters, past trauma and childhood wounds can seriously affect us in such a way that they make us subconsciously "override" our inherent cognitive stack preferences, causing us to be typed as something different than what our "natural" cognitive function stack would result in. Also, people generally seem to misunderstand the MBTI as being exclusionary (you can't use x function when you have y function in your stack), when it's simply indicative. Everyone uses all the cognitive functions of the MBTI all the time, our MBTI type just codifies which functions we prefer to use, which functions we have difficulties using and in what order we prefer to use them when experiencing existence.
As someone who keeps retaking the test because I keep on scoring between INFP and INFJ, this video managed to help. Although I don't believe I'm set on either one.
*It can be hard for INFP’s to connect with someone who doesn’t see the things the way they do* -> This. I couldn’t relate more tbh. I just can’t be around people who don’t get me or just don’t see the things the way I do, it makes me feel so uncomfortable at some point
Ashamed to admit, but Ive even gotten angry at people for not getting me when I've tried to explain them something or explain to them how I came upon some conclusion. Which happened a lot in my teenage years... Nowadays I try to take it more calmly and accept it. I dont lie and tell them they got me, as I also did at one point. I'll simply tell them I dont know how to properly explain to them what I feel, so let's just talk about something else or leave it. Not going to lie, it is still frustrating. But its definitely a lot better with no regret on my shoulders from lashing out again and again because of how often I get misunderstood.
I look down on people. Its like you have one life and you are wasting it. It just shocks me to see how people are using themselves so I don’t talk to anyone but my family and my best friend
It's not just that. Like, I don't care anymore if you're not thinking the same way, because I know that not everyone is the exact same, or it's impossible. BUT I do want to feel valid and understood. At least TRY to know why I think the way I do or at least make me feel valid. I want to feel like I am valid, because I *AM* valid, but the opponent doesn't think so because they don't understand me and try to brush me off, smh.
I couldn't agree more. It always feels like everyone is misjudging me..I just can't connect with anyone and haven't met one single INFP in my entire life
As an INFP, i’ve weirdly always felt selfish when prioritising my own emotions before focusing on others, this video made me realise so many of my traits aren’t necessarily „bad“ but simply different from my own expectations. thank you sm for this!!
Yeah my friends told me that i was more like a child so they can't did a deep talk with me as i seems can't understand their problems. After several depression times, i just realized that i can be selfish if i am 'right'. I just enjoying myself and I don't have to hang out too long with my friends to just stay update with them. But for you all my friends, i just suggest you to open your mind and truly feel the story of the people around you, not just heard it and pass it by. Because if you understand them, when your other friends comes to you to have a deep talk, you can gave them "your perspective" from what you have understanded before. Don't be too honest because it can hurting people and also because maybe it's just your "perspective" that sometimes can be blurred. You have to ask yourself whether it is a right things to do/say or not, try it until you can believe in yourself to take the judgement. And then you can be a selfish person, in a good way!
Infp moment is when there’s an inconvenience that is out of control your control but you still feel like it’s your fault and you overthink that your friends will think less of you.
The "circle of influence" means nothing to me. I feel I should be able to control everything that bothers me and inconveniences others. Very hard to change this way of thinking.
3years ago, I did the test and I was INFP. About a month ago, I did the test again, and now I'm INFJ. As I am growing up, I feel like am changing, and this video is so true. 😊
@@Jackal_El_Lobo34 @Mr. Slim im an infj too and i agree with u. I see so many people saying in the comments in videos like this that real infjs won't say they're infjs. Mbti doesn't fully describe who u are lol
Me, 2 years ago: “I’m an INFP!” Me, taking the test again: “I’m an INFJ...?” Me, looking more into INFP vs. INFJ, and taking more tests: “I definitely relate more to INFJ than INFP! I must be INFJ, though I technically test to be perceiving instead of judging!” Me, watching this video for fun and relating to both INFP and INFJ traits: **confused screaming**
I'm dealing with the same problem 😔🤔 I don't know what to think, even in this videos i feel identified with some Infp and infj things at the same time 🤣 literally WtF
Yep, thats also my story, when I was new at mbti I got INFJ on two different test, but a few days a go I did another one, an I got INFP, the I come to realize that I look to myself as if I was more spontaneous rather than organize, but the truth is... I kind off plan/organized and be very methodic most of the time, so base on pure judging vs perceiving, and I thought that I tend towards judging more. *but I am relating to both traits*
I’m an infp that’s studying social work and want to become a therapist/psychologist This videos makes lots more sense to me about why I’m having a bit of a struggle with my study choices lately
what should i do if i have both the traits. like sometimes when i feel depressed i might be more infj and then when i feel better like be infp or vise versa. i have both traits and it depends on how im doing in life. maybe when im an adult ill find which one i really am
As an INFP, if I have to schedule something, I want it scheduled early, otherwise it'll ruin my day knowing I have to do it later because I'll keep checking the ⏰.
@@Umeshukitsune Exactly, and I would play out all kinds of conversations in my head and look at it from different angles without being able to focus on anything else.
To my INFP's fellows- - I often smile at things that hurts me deeply coz I'm very sensitive in nature that what's silly for you is not for me but I tear up in silence. - I love being in my own world of day dreams where my delusions sometimes makes me feel like a psycho. -i go out of my way to make you feel better even when it won't make me feel the same. -In any arguments, my silence speaks louder than my willingness to express how I really feel. - death is something I often thought about but seeking to live a unique one of the kind life excites me even more. - I hate dramas(gossips) especially bs that people gives out when they talk about others or themselves and I don't make time to entertain them. -No conversation excites me unless until it's profoundly deep and honest. -the simplest thing like watching a clear blue sky completes my day but I can only enjoy it if I'm alone or with my soulmate. -I love to dig deep into mysteries and stuffs that can never be explained out there in the world because I truly belief the unexplained stuffs are far more real than the man made one's. -i love my alone time but get bored easily, yet will still choose to be in my own world. -human rights and freedom is somethings that defines my core life values, which is why I get triggered easily when those are taken away from me or someone else. -in a room full of crowd,my Focus would be away from popularity and more towards the ones who are weird or silent. -i stand up for others easily but not myself but I won't let people to decide how my life goes. I can be stubborn af when it comes to what I want. -Labels are one of the things I disagree on the most. -i love love and fantasize a soulmate of my desired choice but never want to be hitched up in real life because my fear overwhelms me when it comes to my make beliefs and reality of a relationship. -i definitely do not believe in marriage and prefer to remain single but idealize a perfect partner who gets and wants me. -when in a relationship, I always want your attention more than material stuff and I easily feel less loved when you don't spend enough time conversing with me. -i choose wisely where to put my energy in chores or work that at times I easily can come off as being lazy and I don't mind it at all. -i give less important to what you think of me and more focus on how I feel when I'm with you but I drag the unworthy relationship for years because of the guilt of ditching someone which in return turns me into a depressive sad person. -i always believe in the good in you even when you are a stranger to me and most often I get hurted because of my naivety. -people find my self friendly and easy to mingle with but till now I have not found one person who can make me comfortably happy and feel blessed to have in life. By ur INFP-T fellow.
Another INFP-T fellow here! I do never say anything, just reading but BRUH... You got me even on the unworthy relationship (almost 5 years)... and I'm only 25. Nice to meet you. Much love on you, thanks for saying all of this. ♥
@@NergalSmk hi there, yes, same here 5yers and now it has been 7months since I left and I have to say, it's a weight lifted from me...tbh the more we drag it , the more we cause harm not only to ourselves but also to them..that's for me btw..wish u all the best and thanks for mentioning, much love to you too 💜
Used to be INFP which I tested many many years ago, but I recently retook the test and I am now INFJ. Watching this video does clarify a bit, I realised how much my thinking process has evolved over the years.
INFJ AND INFP must get two of these lectures. ruclips.net/video/aJqwSHUdETA/видео.htmlsi=rbIWk33-Yq9RY4x2 ruclips.net/video/j0Xg-1C4xV8/видео.htmlsi=AUs07W5Su1de1izF
Hi, I'm an INFJ... My friend introduced the MBTI test to me. I took the test for a few times and the results were just the same. Because of that, I gradually understand why am I acting and feeling this way. The realizations of how I helped other people without thinking about my own self, putting down my pride as if I do not care of myself, why I can put myself in their shoes so easily.... I also started to became so interested about reading people's emotion based on their MBTI after. This helped me a lot to understand others, but it's actually tiring... It was like there's a lot of explanations in my mind that I want to tell to my family & close friends, but I'm just ignoring it. It was like no need to tell them, It was like my mind is telling me that If I tell my story to them... I might say, either too much of information or I might say it incorrectly. (So they might misunderstood me) (Sounds crazy right?.....) IF YOU ARE AN "INFJ" tell me if you're also experiencing these thoughts and feeling. I... need.... some...help......
I'm so glad I saw a comment about an INFJ, I was searching it so much in the section comment. Yes, I can understand you!! I keep in myself a lot of thoughts but in the past three years some bad things happened and I was so lost, I didn't know what was with me, I wanted to tell others what bothered me but I didn't know how and when I tried a little bit I feel more worst that I do it. I feel like everyone didn't understand me or didn't care so much. They become annoyed when I say just a word about my past. I want to help others because I love to do it, I love to see other people happy and I also want to be with everyone equally, I want to spread positivity because this world is already cruel for many. But when I needed help no one was there for me...so this make me want to help more others no matter what, no one deserves to be alone when they need it. It sound weird? :')
Gosh. I’m INFJ and I have to make sure I have a plan for my future. I list everything and weigh all options. Highly empathic…it can be exhausting. Good luck to all you INFPs and INFJs. It’s not easy having our types that for sure.
As an INFP and friends of two INFPs, I know that INFPs are self centered and make choices based on their beliefs instead of truths. The foundation of their beliefs are built from experience and emotions. A lot of people think this is a bad thing, which it is not. Because INFPs are more in tune with their feelings than others, they are honest to themselves and know when others are being dishonest. So, INFPs can see exactly what someone is feeling and why. They know when someone is influencing them and how, and know when they are feeling destructive emotions like jealousy, obsessive hatred, possessiveness, etc. For these reasons they have a lot of knowledge about psychology, and they know how to harness their own feelings to use it for good. They are good listeners and make others feel comfort in letting out their feelings. When INFPs make choices, they take notice how a specific choice is going to affect others. Some of the bad INFPs manipulate people into thinking they are lesser than they really are and sometimes are not aware of how bad their actions were. They do not reflect on what they did, and always focus on other people’s mistakes. They can be impulsive, too. I hope people realize that INFPs are not just trashy crybabies that are self centered and do not know how to do anything. Please do not emphasize the flaws of INFPs and make them look awful. They are great friends to have! Edit: I am glad a lot of people are seeing this comment! I only emphasized the "bad" aspects of infps because 1) I do believe in these bad aspects, I can see a lot of these traits in my friends who are infps 2) it seems like I am supporting the idea that infps are superior if I only speak out about the good traits. here are some more things I would like to add in my comment to add some positivity (I also deleted some unnecessary words and phrases in the original comment to make it shorter): infps do not judge or assume the amount of pain others might be receiving for themselves. This is because they know that they don't know everything--especially other people's backgrounds. So, instead of trying to comprehend how much pain others might be feeling, they try to understand be supportive. They will be there for you when you are having a hard time :)
Yes! A lot of the INFPs in the comments seemed incredibly upset by this, when that’s not the case. There’s nothing wrong with prioritising yourself and your experiences. I lean towards INFJ so maybe that’s why I didn’t take the results of this video as personally, because I could tell what they meant when they said the ‘negative’ things about INFPs. It’s factual differences. INFJs aren’t better because they study other people more than themselves
As an infp I had a friend who was going through a very hard time and I would always be there 100% of the way. Then when I asked my other friends for advice on how to better support my struggling friend, they called to attention the truth about their behavior. My struggling friend lived off the sympathy of others and never truly tried improving themselves. Rather they lived in their own bubble of constantly needing attention and sympathy. They were living off being a victim. This connection was insanely toxic and dishonest which is something as an infp, I really hate in a person so I cut them off. Unfortunately when I did they instantly threw hate and I got backlash being called "selfish". I felt a bit guilty but then I realized that taking care of my own needs and not just trying to take care of everybody else was a perfectly normal thing to do. In conclusion, I tried helping someone who didn't want to change. Don't try to hold onto a connection my fellow infp's, thinking that you can change someone when they don't actually want to change themselves. You're just wasting your precious time and energy going in circles.
I'm an infp but I always try to put my feet on other people's shoes and try my best to see things in their pov but I mainly develop that trait bec people didn't understand me so I don't want others to experience the same
Me too! I’ve always felt really bad for ppl when no one understands them bc I’ve felt like that my entire life. So I always make it a priority to show ppl I care and understand them, I’m also an empath so I find it easy to understand how ppl are feeling and empathise with their situation INFP-T
that reason and because I want to see what they're problems are so I could remake it into characters or colors in my art,,, going into the car and looking at people's houses thinking what they're life is; there's a chance that they're experiencing the same things I do. I like that
I’m an INFJ and my best friend is INFP. I think I now understand why she used to think of herself as a villain, but it really isn’t something bad to prioritize your well being, rather than get random panick attacks for the most random things ever.
I don't know if it's necessarily prioritizing well-being per se. I'm INFP and currently dating an INFJ. I find I get very intense protective feelings and find myself going through scenarios in my head of how would I react if they were in danger or threatened, what would be the best way to get us to safety and for me to help protect them, and none of them involve me prioritizing my well-being. 😅On the contrary, it's a foregone conclusion I'm at their side thick or thin because my feelings for them just *drive* me and I'm intensely loyal. Or... well I guess they do in a sense, because my well-being is tied up with theirs. It's more that my feelings are *always* kind of driving me. So if I feel hurt or attacked or sad, my feelings are... likewise very loud and intense, and drive me to try to protect myself too. I've had trouble throughout my life really prioritizing my own well-being and finding myself going out on a limb for people who would not reciprocate, and have had to struggle to prioritize myself more.
In general it appears that INFPs are more self-centered... I'm an infp and I kinda relate to that. Because whenever I'm listening to someone even speak about their problems I kinda think about myself, like if I were in their position what would I do, in order to understand the gravity of their problem... But isn't that what putting yourself in someone else's shoes mean? It makes me feel selfish more often than not but I can't change who I am and my entire thinking process or the way I feel right?
Yes and no. You are trying to understand how they are feeling from YOUR perspective which is the "selfish" part. INFJs are putting themselves in another's shoes from the other person's perspective (ignoring or being unaware of their own) most of the time. Both are great for working to have empathy, the first will appear more sympathetic rather than empathetic without some fine tuning. Doing either will display a great deal of compassion if acted on.
I took this test a couple years ago and i remember always being a INFJ but recently I had to take it again for work and now I’m a INFP. Over the past year or two I’ve wondered if i changed a lot due to trauma and healing from that and this test really solidified that I have and maybe for the better.
@@Brightest_Vibration Capitalist society tends to look negatively at originality and independence that can't immediately be exploited for profit. Don't feel bad, it's the individuals like you who make this world more interesting.
Yeah same.. like I already feel like I’m a bad person and don’t show my appreciation towards my friends enough and that I’m too focused on myself and this just made me feel worse lmao
every time i hear something about infps i always feel like 'damn that sounds like the worst personality type out of all the others', but then i think that's very infp of me to say that
It's not all black and white...maybe you show both traits at different times depending on how you feel. Our personalities aren't totally fixed and they change over time.
@@moon_marina I wouldn't use that one. It's actually quite bad. This test isn't aware of the cognitive functions at all and that's the most important part of your personality type. Infp's and Infj's have literally no single function in common. It's not like “are you a feeler ?“ it's more like “ do you prefer extroverted or introverted feeling and how much do you use it?" There are better (not flawless) tests on the internet. Just search for "mbti cognitive function test". I think a few better test will pop up
I remember taking an MBTI test for my Human Resource course back in 2016. I was the only student in the class who was an INFJ. My Professor said INFJs are rare because he is also an INFJ lol and explained it to the entire class about INFJs.
me, a INFJ: yes, indeed, i'm studying psychology so i can help people feel better with themselfs because i'm extremely intuitive and can read other's emotions easily ( ◜‿◝ )
Like me, this is wonderful. I love psychology and I want to become a professor in psychology. I feel good about myself if I affect anyone positively. What a nice thing😊.
summary of the video: 1. Analytical vs. artistic thinking 2. Decisive vs. exploratory 3. Absorbing vs. mirroring emotions 4. Understanding vs. validation 5. Internal control vs. external control i recommend watching the video for more info.
Im really sorry you feel that way, but personally I feel INFP's are most definitely not selfish humans. It is often that people may interpret INFP's self-awareness and aspiration for authenticity can be perceived by others to be selfish. When in reality your high morality allows you to have strong ideals that cannot be changed by anyone, which is definitely something that should be seen admired. You are most definitely not a selfish personality type and no video or person can ever tell you otherwise. I hope you have a good day and feel a little better about being an INFP
I used to think and worry about being selfish too when I was younger, but one must not confuse looking after oneself and trying to figure oneself out as selfishness, as that is a mistake. It would only be selfish if you ONLY cared about yourself and I really doubt it would be the case for anyone who is worried to be selfish in the first place. Keep your chins up infps. ♡
1:45 you described intuition vs sensing tho. All intuitive types (INFPs included) prefer a big-picture view, whereas sensors prefer the individual details. But in terms of the two types of intuition, “Ne builds the maze, and Ni solves it”. They’re both big-picture focused, just with different ways of approach.
As an INFP, this all makes sense. I like to be alone a lot of the time but also wish for friends that are understanding. Also I tend to feel somewhat selfish in a lot of stuff so I end up hating myself for it but now Ik why and that I’m also not alone
YESSS OMG it’s like I can always see both sides of the story and why they are both valid so I can’t make any decisions on anything because I understand everything😂😭 INFP☝️☝️
So most of the people that are the rarest types like info and infj are people that crave a label to stand out so not only do they take it by choice instead of an obligation, they also vocalize it more. How often do you see a ‘where are all of my Infjs at’ in comments but not ‘isfp’ which is the most common
I’ve talked to people in these personality types before and came to that conclusion. I don’t mean it to be rude as I don’t think it’s necessarily negative to identity with a word. It can become that way. As in if someone is obsessed with zodiacs, you can read your horoscope and feel connected to it or read your compatibility with your crush. But please don’t let it dictate your life especially if you won’t put in the time to at least understand the legitimate religion it stems from
INFJ is rare but you could say INFP is uncommon. But people tend to claim themselves as the rarer personality cuz they wanna be quirky or stand or whateva. I’m an INFP btw
honestly, i love love knowing about my mbti so much that i'm grateful that i immersed myself into this. it's healing for me. i get to know myself more and learned to accept the way that i am. i love how i'm not trying to be anyone else now and just really in the path of embracing myself more than ever. it is because through the years, especially in high school, i struggled a lot since i felt like no one could understand me. when i finally realized that i have myself anyway, it's actually freeing.
Would like to clarify here for those who are confused. 1. 'Feelings' in mbti is less about emotions and more about morality Infps' introverted feeling (fi) is actually not about 'emotions' and more to personal values and morality. Infjs' extroverted feelings (fe) is not about other's feelings but more about social values. Put an infj in a room and their main concern would be 'what is done' (external action done). Put an infp in a room and their main concern is why something is done (internal reason why something is done). An infj would think that the act of 'greeting strangers' would be good (as long as you did a good thing, you're doing good). An infp would argue that greeting a stranger when you're disinterested in them is insincere (if the reason you did something is not good, then you're not doing good). This is the reason why infps can often do things that make others confused. From the outside they're doing completely insensible/odd actions, but for the infp, they are doing it for a good reason. This is the reason why introverted and extroverted feeling often butt heads. 2. Another thing I'd like to point out is the comparison between Infps (inferior thinking) with Infjs (tertiary thinking). For those who don't know, mbti has 'functional stacks' which are a bunch of our functions arranged from best to worst. Infps functional stacks is: introverted feeling (internal morality -> best), extroverted intuition (brainstorming), introverted sensing (taking information from memory and experience), and extroverted thinking (making decisions based on goal and planning -> worst) The infjs functional stack is: introverted intuition (making logical deductive connections -> best), extroverted feeling (understanding of social values), introverted thinking (making decisions based on logic), and extroverted sensing (engaging and taking information from the world -> worst). Frankly put, it's a no brainer that infps are gonna be bad at planning because it is their worst function. It's not something you can blame them for. It might be better to compare inferior function with inferior function for fairness. 3. Lastly, extroverted intuition is portrayed quite badly in the video but here's a big reminder that it is an infps second strongest function. This means that the chances of their extroverted intuition to fuck them up (make them indecisive etc) is less likely to occur. To set the bar here, the infps extroverted intuition is at the same level of 'functional' as the infjs extroverted feeling...which is the function that is worshipped throughout this video (both are second functions). So no, fellow infps, your extroverted intuition doesn't make you an indecisive asshole. That could happen for people with extroverted intuition as a tertiary or inferior function, but for us, it is a great supporter in daily life that pushes our creativity and problem solving capabilities. It's our big 'inventor/mad scientist/I can make dinner with only two ingredients' function that gives us the power to overcome our terrible lack of goal planning. That odd capability to write your essay a few hours its due? Yes that's your Ne (extroverted intuition). So are those weird ' cheat list' ideas you make up to clean up your room quickly when someone is about to visit. It's a wonderful function that'll help you throughout your life. Appreciate it more.
This was way more informative then the video :) Especially the part about 'F' being more about morals then emotions. It has removed a lot of confusion for me - like wondering if strong empathy ('F'eeling other people's emotions, after all) necessarily makes one more likely an INFJ. Can you recommend any resources that inspired your comment? Because what you're saying is making sense and I wouldn't mind reading/watching more along these lines. I know there is a lot of there on MBTI but not everything is great.
@@MusParvulus Hello, thanks for your reply. Yep, I definitelt agree that emotions can be tricky in mbti. I think a common misconception is that feelers are over emotional while thinkers don't have emotions. Everyone has emotions but a feeler's emotions are often tied to their morales and then turned to actions, while a thinker's emotions are more often tied to their logic and are turned to action. Actually I just made a quick browse over the empathy problem that you asked and found some interesting results. To avoid confusion I gotta say that everyone has capabilities with empathy and sympathy (they are a sort of emotion after all), but feeling types tend to use them more because situations that needs empathy or sympathy are usually connected to morality a lot (seeing someone being treated unjustly, poverty, etc). In my previous comment I said that fi cares about personal values more. As a result, they often think that personal relations and feelings to people are more important as a basis to make a decision. Therefore, Fi empathise, which means they see how your feelings, values, and morales connect to them personally (usually they use their si to recall a time where they experienced what you feel or value) and so their decision to help you ends up becoming...well personal (which is what fi is about), because they see themselves in you, and by helping you, they'll sort of feel like they're helping themselves. Fe on the other hand is more sympathetic. They get emotionally involved with you to the point of feeling what you feel, but they don't exactly view you as themselves. As such their decision to help you is more general. So basically, fi uses empathy more because empathy is a more personal way to understand people (and they usually suck at sympathy...kinda). While fe uses sympathy more because it is more general and therefore fits better to their method of decision making. You can read more about it here: www.personalitycafe.com/threads/fi-sympathy-vs-fe-empathy.146733/ It's a discussion forum though, so I suggest you to read it till the end to see the arguments presented. As for where you can read further about mbti, I'd personally recommemd personalityjunkie.com (specifically their cognitive function articles) as a start. Most of the things I said in my previous comment is based from the basic knowledge given here accompanied with the knowledge from many forum browsings. Speaking of which, forums are a good place too because you usually get a more personalised reply based on different people's experience. Anyway, I have to admit that my understanding of mbti is still vague too, but it's better to start somewhere. Good luck!
Very good explanation! Thanks. The info in this video was inaccurate and bothered me. But I would say that Introverted Intuition has nothing to do with logic.
It’s crazy I just found out I’m an INFP, and everything makes so much sense now. Reading these comments makes me feel so much better because ive never met anyone like me. It’s nice to know I’m not alone
It's so true, I am the absorbent type. I can experience others emotions so strongly and am able to look at other people's perspectives very clearly. I also love analysing people's behaviour and discussing their actions. I like meaningful conversations and existential questions. Also I work as a counselling psychologist.
I can't figure out if I'm an INFP or an INFJ. It's like, I feel like INFJ is more "me" but at the same time I have many traits of an INFP too. Unfortunately I still can't figure it out after watching this video 😭 Every time I take the 16personalities test, I get INFP, but when comparing the descriptions of that and INFJ, INFJ just touches my soul, like it literally describes me to a T. I also took this other test (can't remember what it's called), and it said that my cognitive functions are INFJ whereas my Myers briggs is INFP. So I'm CONFUSED //edit: Allow me to clarify some things. Yes I have figured out I'm an INFJ. No, it's not a big deal and my comment was never meant to be a big deal lol. I was mostly just being dramatic because it was, and still is, something that really fascinates me. But no, figuring out a Myers Briggs personality type is not a big deal and does not define anyone.
Only problem with that statement is that now you're scaring all the real ones off or even making them come out and try and prove that they are where you will then proceed to not believe them. Very shortsighted mindset.
@@kermitthefrog4830 except it isn't. Ever think so many people come out as one of the two on this video because it specifically talks about them? There's billions of people on earth. Sure some are liars but a good chunk aren't.
@@dutchvanderlinde248 but some people who think they are INFJ refer to inaccurate tests or RUclips videos that are obviously not professional (Sorry for the bad English)
My best friend and I also are INFJ and INFP. We share many things in common. Sometimes it's like we can read another's mind. Yes, I agree that INFPs and INFJs will have a good relationship.
Well since I was tested professionally many years ago, then tested again a few years ago, I'm an INFJ. Why did I test twice? The first time I was just curious. I had been reading articles about MBTI, and wondered about it. The second time, I was seeing a psychiatrist and she wanted to test me herself. I started to tell her what my type was but she stopped me. She said she already believed she knew, but wanted to see if she was right. When it came back an INFJ, she smiled and said she knew it would be this. She told me things about my personality that I hadn't read about, since it was gaining in popularity, but still wasn't well understood. So I was surprised at some of the things she says about me. I cheekily accused her of being psychic, but she just laughed then handed me a booklet she made with traits for INFJ personalities. Now the info is everywhere, but only through this particular channel is it consistent in a growth of more info and understanding. But no matter what, it holds true for me. Some of the things I'm learning seem to come with different phases of my life, it's uncanny and exciting to realize I'm not just some weird, strange, and complicated person. There's a method behind the madness and helps me to understand why and what is going on with me. My immediate supervisor is an INFP. Man you should see how well we get along. I sense straight away if something is troubling him, and sometimes it's so heavy I tell him I feel his angst, but there's no way I can just leave without telling him I'm here for you, because this is different for you! He's always flabbergasted, and has even tried to hide his feelings from me, only to be called out by me because I KNOW. On his end, he KNOWS what I'm best at doing before I have even tried. He'll assign a duty to me, and I'll tell him, I've never done that, and have no clue. He just nods his head, and tells me he'll walk through it with me for a minute, then he walks away. Me standing there wondering how the hell I'm gonna figure out the rest on my own. He knows when I'm thinking that and turns around and tells me, just dive in, you've got this! Next thing I know I'm completing the task then he and the general manager walk by and the GM stops and says PERFECT! I didn't know you knew how to do this. Before I can answer her, he jumps in and says, she can do anything, she just needs the basics and it gets done even better than I expected. You should see us work together on a project, it is crazy! Where I weigh every single pro and con, he jumps in with let's try it like this. Where he just jumps in, I say stop let's consider the easiest and fastest way, and it's a success! Little twists and turns here and there, I trust him and he trusts me. My strengths are his weaknesses and vice versa. I feel like he's my perfect younger brother. He tells people I'm like his big sister who worries too much, but never lets him down. Or parallels run copacetic, even perfectly in some areas. His wife says we are hilarious and if only we had a business together it would be the most efficient and funnest place to work. If only we had the money, it would be a hoot to find out.
First RUclips comments??!!! You joined RUclips 8 years ago and your 1st comment was made just 2 months ago😯 Well I am an INFJ too.I was just going through comments and I found mostly "As an INFP" comments and was in search of what an INFJ would say about the video and here I got your comments which is not related the video though but then 1st comment thing............ 😶I don't know why I wrote this much
Man, this video makes me feel so selfish. "They focus on how THEY feel about a thing rather than its actual purpose." "INFPs are also gifted in reading emotions, except their concern and interest is in their OWN feelings." "Trying to bend everything to their view." I've always been terrified of accidentally being manipulative or selfish. Now I know that there's nothing I can do about it. That's just how I am. That sucks. I wish I was someone else.
I'd call it self love! infp's mirror other's feelings right? they're emphathetic too but they love themselves more and I think it's good to love yourself more than others.... just not being self-obsessive
Dude I’m going to be honest this video is very misleading a lot of the things she said about infps are not true (saying that I am an infp) please don’t feel selfish bro I have felt selfish all my life and as it turns out “as my therapist says” I’m not selfish I just feel bad because I’ve given so much that I dont have anymore to give. And that really helped me realize all my life I have been terrified of being selfish or manipulative for no reason... but alas I still feel selfish every day even when I constantly put others before my self and spend pretty much all of my time on other people I can’t stop the feeling. Now I have depression and anxiety
TL;DR No one can ever understand someone else as good as the person who understood himself/herself very well. It's a harder and more dangerous road to take, but the destination pays it all off. This video is garbage. INFPs are not selfish. I don't know why the fuck are they telling people that. INFPs are introverted feelers, which means they make decisions emotionally to sort the things present in their HEAD (which is usually ideas, theories, memories etc). INFJs are extroverted feelers which means they make decisions emotionally to sort the things present in the the environment (which is usually events, reactions, real world systems etc) You pick up the works of INFP authors, and you will see how INFJ-ish their protagonists are because these writers are INFJs only, but in their head. They like to be righteous, moral and sensitive in their head because they are introverted when they are defining an ideal world. INFJs like to be righteous, moral and sensitive in their way of dealing with the world because they are extroverted when they are defining an ideal world. So it may seem that INFPs are selfish but they are not, they have the same purity of intentions and the same strength in integrity as their Judging counterpart, it's just that it is directed to a different world. Just like INFPs find it hard to judge in the real world, INFJs find it hard to judge in their inner world which is why INFPs have an advantage in having a better big picture and a more consistent belief system because they are not just focused on what IS happening but all that has happened and can happen and every belief that they hold should take into account all of that. They are more patient when defining what is right and have more depth in their understanding which makes them more likely to understand someone else's feelings. They might not be able to help that person as much as their Judging counterpart, but they can surely understand them better. And I would never risk saying that helping someone out is less selfish than understanding someone. I think they are as noble as the other.
As an INFJ i think its important to remember that the MBTI is a system that uses rough tendencies to map out your persinality, so its ok if you feel you can relate both the INFJ and INFP regardless of the one you may be.
It looks like the designers (Myers-Brigs) were deeply attracted to binaries. Some people just are. So there’s no category for ambiverts, no category for people who are equally comfortable with analyzing and intuiting. But this modeling system has some interesting things to say.
@@elizabethl6187 MBTI is deeply misunderstood. People actually have 4 sides of the mind with each his personality type, and they switch temporary from one another. For example INFPs have ENFJ unconscious, so they behave like them in some occasions. Combining the 2 things they end up believing they are INFJ and vice versa. There is a lot more behind the 4 letters. Learning cognitive functions and their meaning it's the only way to get the right personality type. Also "ambiverts" are people that can switch easily from their primary side of the mind (the ego) and the subconscious or unconscious. If the first is introverted, the other 2 are extroverted and vice versa. That's why they appear introverted in some situations and extroverted in others.
@@INFamousJudge576omg can you suggest videos or links where these things are further explained? I’m so curious but I’m finding it hard to fully understand the meaning of the letters. I’m an infj so i NEED to fully understand 😂
@@lisca.2000 You can ignore the letters. Search the 8 cognitive functions, there are a lot of channel that describe them. The best I found is C. S. Joseph's channel. He uses the 4 sides of the mind model, which is different from the common MBTI system but definitely more accurate and explain in detail how to type people in real time (without some stupid test). I tried it with people I know and it worked perfectly. If you want to check him, I have to warn you: he can be a bit harsh as he talk about both the strength and the weakness of each type. Also he is an ENTP so he tends to go on 20 minutes tangents about society and the rest of the MBTI comunity in every video🤣.
Making some notes: Analytical vs. Artistic thinking How do they deal with information? Infj: Ni (introverted intuition) -patterns and connections -They look outside-in -the big picture, the meaning and purpose of it all Infp: Fi (introverted feeling) -looking inside-out - give the objective situation as a subjective meaning and let the subjective lead -organising everything to their own ideals and values Decisive vs. Exploratory Infj: -Try and want to reach a decision efficiently -maintain a goal-> pin down choices -thoughtful, strategic+observant, organised -satisfied by the result of the decision by not wasting time and recourses Infp: -satisfied by the possibility and exploration rather than the result/the decision itself Absorbing vs. Mirroring emotions Infj: -Taking over the emotions and thoughts from a person, treating it as an own state -not being able to separate emotions from them-self and another persons -the need to help -compassionate Infp: -tend to conceal their emotions -mirror the emotions of others while still maintaining to be completely aware of their emotions and being able to separate theirs from anothers -drawn to art, literature, film and photography (creative pursuits) Understanding vs. Validation Infj: -the need for others to understand themselves is stronger than the need of being understood by others -the most insightful personality type -crave validation from others instead looking at themselves -taking joy in analising and observing -they want to help people realise things about themselves Infp: -also gifted at reading emotions but their concern in interests are coming from their own feelings rather than of other people -main desire: feeling understood -individualistic--> difficult to connect to someone who has a different view on things Internal control vs. External control Infj: How do you react if someone doesnt go with the original of the plan or doesnt go with your idea/plan/image? -tidy, organised -finding comfort in having a plan -they aren’t rigid with their own opinions and feelings, so they remain adaptable and open-minded Infp: -seem spontaneous and easy-going -inner value system: consistent and uncompromising - a rigid sense of right and wrong -> try to bend everything to their view
As an infj, I just wanna feel impactful, helpful and satisfied. There's probably more things though. I can't choose one thing out of all because I can see how they are all important.
@@rriallitty8540 Wishing you good luck with your endeavour towards those feelings 🙂 I admire your guys Fi. I'm not really that tuned in with what i want.. gotta be based on others needs before mine. its automatic. and their imagination is impressive
I can say that: many INFPs are commenting here since we all want to be understood and sympathized with. i’m also an INFP lol😅. And after reading many of you guys’ comments i finally realized one thing: i became so self-centered in my friends’ eyes not because i was selfish but because i just wanted to express all my feelings, my thoughts and my burdens to who i believe in, which obviously didn’t make them comfortable at all 🙄. For years i just spent most of my energy helping others without letting out my own thoughts, so when i tried to do it, it went too much😑.
‘Ain’t no such thing as ‘too much emotions’! Those friends are just sensitive to your true colors! But let your colors burn fiery brighter than the sun and moon! ✨💖😍🌈🍬’ ~A fellow INFP-A! 👑
LITERALLY ME, I have a feeling i overshare alot, i text abt whats going on in my life on my groupchat sorta like im on twitter, ofc no one rlly replies, i jus stopped talking abt myself, tbh i just want someone that can understand me and hear me out while geeking together ;;;
Falling under INFP myself, I have to say this was surprisingly spot-on. Analyses of our personality type often come from an outside, first-impression kind of perspective, but with this video, each of the points given resonated with me. I love writing, but I find that I want each sentence (the details) of my writing to carry the right feeling, which makes it hard to focus on the larger structure of the thing I'm trying to write. We love thinking about possibilities, which is why making a final decision can be so hard. This sort of goes back to the first point about focusing on details and feelings, but it exists in other parts of life too. It can even be hard to, say, order food at a restaurant because the idea of having possibilities seems better than being locked into a decision. "Mirroring rather than absorbing emotions" is the most apt description I've heard of that difference from our INFJ neighbors. And that bit about "desiring to be understood" really struck home. We appreciate validation, but it's truly feeling understood that we value most. The problem is that we tend to not be as open as we'd like in sharing our own emotions with others (hence the mirroring, not absorbing), and because of this, it can be hard to feel really, deeply understood. I find understanding in art more often than from people, but when a person makes me feel understood, it is one of the best things in the world. I cherish those relationships.
Yeah. Those tendencies really struck me. I sometimes hate myself because I find it hard to properly confide about myself to others, I often want them to know me but then when it comes to actually saying it, I end up censoring what I say and become upset with them and especially myself after, but I never try to make them feel upset. Its a crazy cycle. And oftentimes makes me feel and think I'm selfish then I try to reassure myself that I'm not followed by criticism of trying to make myself feel good and rationalize my actions.
You're correct about infj. As an infj, i think about my mom's needs a lot more than that of my own a lot. and whenever i make a decision, i think things logically about the ups and downs of each option. i'm even open-minded about others' ideas and try to make compromises to end things peacefully between me and other people so at least both parties are satisfied. thanks for helping me visually differentiate bw infj and infp. theese past few days i've been re-evaluating myself; being impulsive when i was a kid, and am a little bit now. all 5 of your differences that you mentioned helped me see myself as an infj, so ty again!
@@poornima3998 No, it really is throwing shade at INFPs. I have many INFP friends and they're all sweet most of the time. This video didn't sound like any INFPs I know and it's obviously portraying them badly.
Who else has always been an INFP? I’ve been taking this test since probably middle school and have always resulted as an INFP. Even across many variations of the test :o
i'm still an infp ever since 5 years ago. My friend told me to take the test again several times because they said it sometimes can change but mine is not...
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i've tested both infp and infj and even though i got infp more, i still wonder if i'm infj
INFP
Hii!
i’m INFP and INFJ because it changes sometimes and is almost always at the 50% crossover for P/J
as an infp i simply become overjoyed when plans are cancelled 🤩
Isn't that just an introvert thing?
Oh yess
Im infp but i like having plans unless its not something i want to do so
Omg yes
As an infp I can confirm 😂 and it doesn't matter how small the plan is...
The real INFJs: *nodding along with all the signs of their personality type, and leave without declaring themselves in the comments*
Lies
You got me😂
Well this changes bc I’m replying to this comment lol, but the very fact that we want to feel validated by having the “rarest personality” reveals our insecurity about having genuine individuality. Plus, our personalities change so much. Last year, I was an ENFJ. Now I’m an INFJ, and next month, I’ll prob be something else 🤷🏽♀️ it doesn’t rly matter, because you’re already special regardless of what u score
Jan Captain Very true
I declared it and I acc took the test um
As an infp i usually imagine that everyone hates me or they will eventually hate me when they get to know me better😅
This ^^^^^
wtf that's so me
I feel the same, I am INFJ
u r not alone😂
Yep same!
Every 3 months, I take the personality test and I always jump back and fort between INFP and INFJ having my P and J at close to 50%. The less depress I am, the more I lean towards INFJ it seems.
Oh my god- Same Mayn, I related to both personality types and was left wondering wtf does that mean? Sometimes I’m INFP other times I’m INFJ- but now it’s clearer that I’m moreso INFJ whenever I’m not depressed
@@minako_mini4071 AAAAA sameeee!
saaaammeee!!!
I would suggest taking a look at the cognitive functions of each personality type and see wich one fits best
Same
To INFPs out there, I wish we could all meet and be friends. :))
Sounds like to big of a crowd. We'd all be uncomfortable 😅
Perhaps a big crowd, but at least we would all be kindred souls with genuine intentions. It’s so refreshing to know there are other people out there who feel and think similar to myself. I don’t think I know any other INFPs in my personal life, but I sure wish I had some INFP friends! ❤️
Yeah same but for INFJ . It would be really cool to be around people you can relate to. As INFP and INFJ are quite rare personalities right.
Lol even with other personality types I wish that too ;-;
Omg I wish
rarest types: infp and infj
mbti community: litteraly only these two types everywhere xd
Eventually because more infp and infj are interested in psychological themes ? I don't know, but it could be.
@@zoejacobi8530 thats what I was thinking. Or maybe deep thinking types in general.
Yes because we are only interested in these
@@zoejacobi8530 omg that actually makes so much sense
Because most other types actually have a life instead of obsessing over self reflection 😂😂
“INFP’s are so unique and individualistic that it can be hard to connect with someone that doesn’t see things the way they do.” Well RIP me
Yass yass yass
Ive accepted that we are only meant to adapt to the changes but trying to understand something will drive you Mad. I can’t imagine trying to understand me or who I am so I don’t try to get frustrated when people misunderstand me. I can’t blame them. Though the want is there I can’t understand myself so why expect others to? That’s at least how I go about it.
same 🥲
same lol
@@nadinewoods6467wow thank you this helped!! ☺️
I am INFJ and my best friend is INFP. We always think we are so similar we are basically the same. This was very insightful as to how we actually differ. Very accurate
I'm an INFP and yeah I think INFJ's will be very good friends to me, pretty tough to find one though
Me too... I'm an infj and my n'est friend is infp
Contrast . I am n infp n my bestie is infj . We r soo happy together . What makes us feel more connected is her father n my father almost behave in the same manner . ❤️♥️
My friend is also INFJ and I'm under INFP.
That’s so wholesome! I love to see INFJ and INFP duos. I need to find myself an INFJ
As an infp I never talk about myself in conversations and still think I’m a self centered brat
sameeee, or when i open up to a person for the first time i feel guilty
saame
true
As an INFP, I hate using the word I when talking to people, but always catch myself doing it in a conversation and it upsets me a lot.
omg so mee
To every infp out there:
You are needed. You are important. You are loved. Thank you for being you.
Edin Okanovic Thank you :"
Thank you very much! I needed that:-)
Thanks man
Thanks.
Thank you, I needed to read that, I was starting to cry because I felt like I was a terrible person...
As an INFP, I feel like I am the most contradictive person ever.
- I want to be alone & recharge myself, but I really need someone at my darkest times, or else I will end up hurting myself because I am my biggest critic.
- I am seen really closed off and quiet in public and new environments, but I really thrive in environments I'm already comfortable with and would easily open up amongst my closest friends and family.
- I don't like group settings, but I'm always the one who would take charge and engange with all of the members (even if sometimes I'm not helping myself in the process).
- I seem like I'm selfish because of my introverted self, my prefered style of doing things, and reaching my goals alone, but I would lend all my heart, soul and body to someone who's going through a hard time, even when they aren't close to me. I would listen and comfort them as much as I can because maybe I just don't want them to the feel invalidated and misunderstood like I was.
- I feel like not wanting to do anything for others because I need time for myself, but sometimes I couldn't say "no" to someone asking for help, maybe because of having a quite high empathy and that I will feel extremely guilty and anxious of what will happen if I don't help them.
- I don't like social events, but I wouldnt hesitate go if it's about something I really love and passionate about.
- I love but also despice myself the most.
edit: aaah i appreciate all the support in the replies, it's a nice reminder for us that we're not alone :)) i hope we can eventually learn to overcome these things as we grow to get-to-know & appreciate ourselves more
I feel the same
I feel you
I feel you -fellow INFP
You speak for our people! Lift them up so our town can sing praises!
ENFJ here and now i am sure that INFP is my type... Here in this world its easy to judge someone and assume that person is cold, icy etc.. But little they do care to understand the person. Everyone has their own shades, filters and way to present themselves in diffrent settings. Most of my infp frnds are considered quite, silent type, but on knowing them deeply they are pure softies
Instead of finding the differences I realized I am a combination of both.
lol same im deciding wether i should just leave it at that because everytime i compare the 2 i realize i have both values
Quite same, coz I've done the 16 personalities test 2 or 3 times now and I'm very much an INFP per that (and I would agree, much all of that be rly accurate for me) but multiple times throughout the video I was here tryna decide if I'm actually INFP or a combination of the 2 lol
me too lol😅
It's called being an INF-Pb&J
Come my fellow sandwiches!
sameee
About INFP in the test results page: Mediators sometimes see themselves as selfish, but only because they want to give so much more than they are able to.
As an INFP, this is so true!
as an infp, i definitely constantly call myself selfish... but i don’t think it’s for such a nice reason, i think i’m just selfish deadass
:'D
THIS EXPLAINS A LOT, thank you so much, i was so sad about this and now everything makes sense
As infp I hate myself 😳👌
As an INFP, it's hard for me to express emotions. It's hard to even ask for help with my emotions too. I like to keep everything to myself. I love exploring, taking risks that are within my comfort zone.
Oh my! I’m so sorry about that! But remember that the only thing that can stop and ruin your day is yourself! So don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone and start giving yourself a fresh new life with just simply expressing emotions!
I know this might sound offensive, but if you feel like ripping apart someone, go ahead! Only you can stop you! Feelings is just as important as thinking! But still remember to treat other people the way you want to be treated! 💖✨👑😍🌈🍬🙏💪
Same glad to Know these some else there!!^^
You kind of sound like an intp to me
@@angell111 yeah ikr me too...I love talking abt my feelings. Maybe they are shy or have anxiety disorder...? (Although I do have anxiety disorder as well but still I wanna give em the benefit of the doubt)
Same!!... I can't share my problems to someone cuz maybe one day they're going to ignore me
I think INFPs need to remember that we should accept ourselves for who we are. Many of us seek validation because oftentimes we feel like outcasts as society doesn't favor individuality but instead favors traits that contribute more to it. As a result, we see the world as if looking out the window, wondering why everyone outside has it better than us. We end up knowing how it feels to be rejected. However with this in mind, we are able to understand many complex emotions and use our creativity to do amazing things with them. This is why INFPs are considered optimistic, authentic, and sympathetic. We are able to draw out even the smallest hint of good when it seems like there isn't any left. If you're INFP please remember to not lose your true self! It isn't easy fitting in and the chances of feeling misunderstood is high, but that doesn't mean we should automatically ignore our passions and our strengths too.
We're waving through a window
Cant agree more to this 💖
So true! I've almost forgotten who really I am beneath of every masks I've worn.
idk why you made me cry 🥺💓
this slaps hard
My husband is INFJ and I am INFP and though we are opposite in a lot of ways we are perfectly equipped to help each other with the things our personality types struggle with. It isn't always easy but it's incredibly worth it. I hope all of you out there find your unicorn.
Same here😊. My husband is an INFJ, finallly found someone who is always excited to hear about the weird things that go on in my head😂
Found a unicorn that ran away from me after some years being friends.
Im an INFP. I feel like I'm very self centered but at the same time i find difficult to say 'no' to others :/
same TT But we must learn to say no, even if it hurts other people's feelings. In the end, we remain kind-hearted .
We should think about ourselves a little ....... ( IM an army and jk stan😂 ) :)
@@sunshineluna3006 you're right... ( hello army :) )
We say "no" because we dont want to be percieved as "bad", we dont want to be judged and most imortantly rejected..not because we have a selfless desire to help an other person or to not hurt their feelings... this may sound bad but its not all the time like this. At least for me. But it happens very often.
Annyeong, ARMYs!
Omg same
I’m an INFJ and my friend is an INFP; this describes us perfectly.
My best friend is an infp and i'm one too and we understand each other and connect very well
Im an infp and have a best friend infj and its hilarious when we are Round each other BC we always look like extroverts BC we are so comfortable with each other
My best friend is infj and I'm infp lol.
I am an INFJ too
My friend doesn't know about the mbti and I'm too scared to bring it up with her
INFPs are not all selfish, just so you know. They just want to be authentic. 😊
Don't take INFJ for selfish either *X-D
As INFJs gives the impression of an extrovert, but often withdraws from social gatherings.
@@PinkLady15 No personality type is selfish. It's a choice really. 😊
U sure ?? Im an infp too and i really think i am selfish 😩 its not like i do it for fun but i just wanna be that kind of unique person😔
Being selfish is not something based on your mbti type
@@muhawanticemocha if you understand the functions. INFPS can have more probability for being selfish bc of their introverted feeling dominant function.
I was initially INFJ before healing from my trauma. I felt like I was so structured and organized then because of parentification and I was basically programmed to be "responsible & mature one" and also because all of the trauma was locked away so I could function so well then because I was basically numb and living on auto pilot and people pleasing. Years later, dealt with a lot of my shit and am at my happiest, best self and definitely resonate with being an INFP. I feel that INFPs struggle with being called "selfish" a lot because feeling is literally our first instinct so please know it's okay to put yourself first, you're not selfish for listening to your feelings and you'll figure things out. Follow your heart and don't let anyone talk you out of anything that lights your heart on fire 🌈✨
I am an INFP. It's difficult for me to open up things to other people. Even with my friends or families. I love to bond with my friends, but i get happier when the plan got canceled. I kinda hate it when people can't understand what i'm trying to say. I can't say "no" to other people even if i can't or i'm busy. Like help them to finish this or that. My loudness depends on the people i am with. Sometimes, i based on my emotion when it comes to decision making. I'm also unorganized i must say. I feel better to walk alone when going home rather than being with someone. AND IM HAVING A HARD TIME TO FIND MY OWN MOTIVATION TO FINISH SOMETHING UNLESS I REALLY HAVE TO.
Holy crap are you me?
I'm glad you say that for me
YESSSS THIS IS EXACTLY ME DAYUM
Ditto
Are you reading my diaries or something??
To my fellow INFPs who are having a hard time making decisions:
If you’re picking between two things or more, just stop weighing on whatever will turn out to be “better”, and just RANDOMLY pick one! Don’t overthink it and just pick *quickly* too, then adjust yourself in the situation and things will eventually fit together.
That's how I always do like how I shop and took a long time to choose. Sometimes days. So I gave up and chose randomly lol
I do it but I feel so manipulative when I do TT
Omg while reading this, I catched myself thinking you are crazy for saying smth like that. And then I realised that I just approved that deciding between smth is actually a big problem of mine lmao
Yeah, I actually do this sometimes and it helps me not to be overwhelmed.
I relate to your shit,I always compare things that matters from unimportant stuffs from myself,my crush and even the clothes I will buy I critically compared all of them and it's exhausting most of the time
I feel like I’m a mixture of both INFJ amd INFP personalities
Check it out yourself :)
www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
Get a personallity test to assure yourself about who u really are
@@malina7524 i do it for like once in 2 months sometimes I get INFP sometimes INFJ
@@setareblackcat3632 same and there are things i relate to more with both i feel like, but idrk lol
@@malina7524 That test is VERY inaccurate and types by letters, NOT cognitive function! Don't use that test.
No one can really be 'both' types as both of them are very different. The cognitive function INFP and INFJ uses are very different.
INFP: Fi-Ne-Si-Te
INFJ: Ni-Fe-Ti-Se
None of their stack is the same. INFP's are Fi-doms, INFJ 's are Ni-doms. INFP uses Ne, while INFJ uses Ni. You can't use both Ne and Ni.
Again, only THEORITICALLY speaking, like I understand how some people uses functions in different order than the 'typical' INFP or INFJ or whatever type, BUT THIS IS IN THEORY IMPOSSIBLE. However, at the end of the day, it's all just labels.
I am both/in between INFP and INFJ. I’ve taken the MBTI test twice (once in high school, and again some years later in college). The first time, I was INFP with just 2 points over the Judging/Perceiving line on the P side, and the second time I took the test I was 3 points over the P/J line on the Judgement side. Watching this video, it’s still difficult to figure out which personality type I lean more towards. I’m very analytical and organized, but greatly enjoy art and being creative. Some days, I’m rigid and have to stick to a plan, while other days I want to be spontaneous and explore all of my options. As for my feelings, I’m very empathetic and find myself sometimes lost in loved ones emotions, but still have self-awareness for my own feelings and tend to keep them to myself. Like the video suggested, MBTI is just a reference, people are complex and don’t need to fit into one box, ya know? ^_^
maybe u should check out cognitive functions to see if u have more of a dominant Ni or Fi. Being more rigid or non rigid doesn't result in u being one or the other tbh-all personalities of ppl use all the cognitive functions. also maybe check the test u take-as some may not be as accurate
I think it's fine to identify as both because the 16 personalities test are just tendencies and not a rigid grouping - it means you do have all 16 personalities, it's just that that gravitate the most towards infp or/and infj.
I am like that as well. It's just something to remember: this is just a tool to figure out who you are and how other people works, it's not perfect but is widely accepted.
@@farzanaazmy Have you looked into both cognitive stack? INFPs and INFJs have very different cognitive functions. Also, it's about how you are and not what you identify with.
Ah humans… Me too
I’m also a borderline P/J
Your perfect Don't over think itt 😅
Since it seems that everyone is already talking about the "selfish INFP" stereotype, I'll just add my own thoughts to the mix…
I can see why certain INFP behaviors might come across as selfish to others - i.e. cancelling plans with friends, withdrawing into their own world, seemingly thinking about themselves a lot, etc.
However, I really don't think this stems from an inherently selfish heart. A selfish person by definition is someone who has an excessive or exclusive preoccupation with themselves, to the disregard of other people's welfare. Let's face it - any personality type can fall into this trap.
Still, all the INFP's I have met are not like this at all. In their hearts, they care very deeply about other people and truly want to help others, especially "the underdogs" of society. But because INFP's interact so deeply with others and are very connected to their emotions, they also tend to burn out a lot faster than other people. Not that other personalities don't make deep interpersonal connections - I just think the INFP combo of wanting to deeply understand others as well as themselves at the same time can make life pretty exhausting.
Considering that INFP's are constantly evaluating the world through their emotions, it makes sense that they need a lot of self-processing time for their head to catch up with their surroundings. It's not necessarily a bad thing - it’s just the way they are made. Some people don’t need to know their feelings on something in order to interact properly - INFP's on the other hand do. And I honestly think that is ok.
Overall, the INFPs I know would like to give so much more of themselves than what they can personally manage. Or they see other people who are able to "do more" for others, and negatively compare themselves. INFP's - you already have such a harsh inner critic, don't add more fuel to the fire! Just take your time, and give to others in your own way at your own capacity.
Thank you for listening to my ted talk, I'll leave you in peace now.
thank you so so much taking the time to write this, your comment makes me feel a lot more understood and your comment is very reassuring and i know it would be to other infp’s as well:D i wanna give you a hug 🥺💕LAMAMKMFF (i only will with your consent) and your comment seriously makes me feel so understood i think i’m gonna pee glitter because this made me really happy to hear
im definitely my own worst critic and I thought they were saying I’m selfish. I always give so much so I couldn’t understand why they would say it’s all about me me me😩 thank you for saying this, i understand the meaning better
I feel validated. Thanks for taking the time to write this 🥺
I second to the comment before me. Thank you 🥺🥺🥺
Wow this hit the nail on the head. Such understanding of our personality type with such reassurance, that's amazing :') Thank you :')
INFP are honestly treated garbage in comparisons like this let's be honest. These kinds of videos make people think we always cry, be selfish, and loathe life like wth? As much as we are an emotional train wreak who gets sensitive, we have a LIFE and our own strong passion for something that nobody can take away.
I mean, they arent wrong
Stop this immature response. Look at this rationally. She is not wrong. She is biased and manipulative in how she is expressing her opinion.
The internet makes INFJs look like the best type ever. "The most extroverted introvert. The most rational feeler." Those titles should actually belong to ISFJ, but due to the amount of people on the internet being mistyped as INFJs, they have this thought that they are 'special snowflakes' and like to make themselves seem SO unique.
@@woosh5102 I wouldn't wish being INFJ on anyone, it's fucking terrible. Anyone who is making INFJs seem like the best type ever is also most likely not an INFJ as most INFJs wouldn't want to make that impression in the first place.
So what you're seeing are most likely people who are not INFJs, typing them selves as INFJ because of ulterior motives like having a need to be snowflakes and unique - traits that most INFJs wouldn't want to have stuck on themselves in the first place.
Agreed. INFPs are treated like total garbage.
INFJ: saw the video, leave.
INFP: saw the video, T O A L L I N F P S O U T T H E R E .....
was scrollin thru the comments and saw dis.. opened youtube app so I can reply to dis comment:
Spot On!
-INFP
HAHHAHAHAHHAA.
Omg. This.
Infj at shopping
Objective: speedrun
I am also an INFJ and saw the video ;-) ^^
Ahahhh
I'm an INFJ and my best friend is an INFP! We're a little too similar at times, but the differences sure are there! She brings me out of my shell most times which I appreciate, though her emotions and lack of thinking can be overwhelming I don't know how to react lol.
she sounds more like an ISFP. they often mistake themselves for INFP’s for some reason. your friend may be near 50/50 S/N. traits like a hybrid. as an INFP, i think way too much for way too long & then continue on overthinking into infinite. i even wake up in the middle of the night with new epiphanies regularly. NP’s are endless visionaries. they have a hard time knowing when to stop thinking, pick something, & act on it. NJ’s reach a conclusion much sooner, stop dwelling on more/endless possibilities, & then implement the decision. that’s why INFP’s have slightly higher IQ’s but are less successful, in general/on average, than INFJ’s. i WISH i had more J.
As an INFP I kinda wish I was best friends with an INFJ as not only would "Letting things out" be easier, they could also help me learn a little more about how to organise my life as the feeling inside my head saying "I just don't feel like it" is too strong for me to be able to organise my life without mental crises arising every 20 minutes of a project!
Fun fact: the woman who invented MBTI is INFP
At least that's what I read
Yup i read tht too
And INFP is basically the most common result for people who take the online tests. Could there be a connection? :D
@@zoushuu I just think other types don't really care about this stuff, it's just we INFPs like to search everything about us
@@ndhdkssx6744 That definitely has truth to it and it probably helped motivate the women who designed the test.
Actually the mother Katharine C. Briggs (who actually started it) was an INFJ, and her daughter Isabel Briggs Myers (who continued her work) was an INFP. Then Isabel's son, Peter, was an ENFP. He says it all is a family work :)
(Describes INFJ traits)
Me: *Oh that's a me!*
(Moves on to describe INFP traits)
Me: *Wait, that's also me!*
Hey it me I'm both too
Yep. I'm kind of both, but leaning more towards INFP.
lmao same
i am infp and why are there so many ppl infp or infj here
Lol, I'm going through same thing
To the infp reading this:
You are not self centered so stop thinking that you're self centered. Caring about yourself isn't selfish.
-infj
Edit: this is my most liked comment thank you guys. Also, I'm glad this comment made you guys feel better, stay safe and stay awesome❤️.
im one infj too
Thank you.
I am INFP and my twin sister is INFJ. This is exactly what my twin used to say to comfort me 🥰 🥰
I still think it is tho, mate. Why do I deserve more than anyone else?
Haha thanks. I was like... wait. I'm sorry.
Haha
I'm INFJ, my daughter is INFP.
I show her the world and how it works. She shows me into her world, which is colourful and magical. I'm enriched as a result. Because INFJ's flaw is that we see and understand the world, but lack inner richness. Hence, these two types really work well together, balancing each other's empty areas. ❤
I haven’t seen any INFJs here lol. Hi guys don’t worry I’m here too, an INFJ
thank you... so many INFP attention here '-'
Eyyy! INFJ here 😁
I'm not sure if anybody can relate, but this is me:
I feel like I have a power that is so rare, yet I have a feeling there's something for this. This is the closest I've gotten
. And it's ironic though, because a true INFJ would just retain this information to themselves and collectively intellectually agree. Me? I'm trying to tell this to everybody to make them understand or find somebody to relate to, which is so much like an INFP.
Hi! I'm an INFJ. 👋
@@yeetusdeletus8628 If what you're referring to is like a very strong intuition, then you might be an INFJ. If you want to be sure on your personality type, take a closer look on the attributes of the personality types and find which one resonates the most with who you really are.
I'm an INFP. (Yall made us sound unpleasant and selfish, lol.)
exactly! lmao
I'm an INFP and I'm pretty selfish ngl lol
Man i am quite selfish too just realized that
KnightlySkye wow you just about described me lol 😣
Hm idk but after reading these comments I can agree with you guys and I feel the same, but my theory (and this is out of personal experience so it might not apply to you) is that a lot of INFPs deal with insecurities and self hatred since we’re so idealistic and dream of the perfect personality that we could have. I think that we do tend to be selfish (in a normal way I guess) , but we spend too much time overthinking it. I assume we’re probably not as selfish as we think, but since we’re so idealistic and need constant validation from others, it makes us think that we are.
I hope this made sense and I love you all, my fellow INFPs
As an INFP I now understand the reason why no one in my life gets me nor understands me, they don't see things like me and they don't think like me. I would like to meet someone who understands me and how I think so I don't have to feel alone anymore. My mom always told me I think differently and see things completely different from everyone else and she's right and it kinda hurts that no one understands where I'm coming from
*SAAAAAME!*
I am an INFP as well and I get told similar things. It’s very hard to fit in and I never have friends that are remotely similar to me. I get told a lot that I am an “empath” and I’m very in touch with emotions and feelings. I also see the big picture and go crazy with hidden meanings/ ideals/ fantasies. Welcome to the club! 😂💕
@@klaceymusic yesssss!! Wow you just described me lmaaoo
Even as a guy i cry at the ending of a movie lol i just get so emotional at everything
@@spirit4440 I cry at the end of movies too, I cried during endgame and I got made fun of for it by my family, not fun
@@reiflower9918 this is normal! Its very normal to us
But the problem is we need to find people that can understand our behaviour
Btw 2 days ago i played a game called 'before your eyes' i cried straight up for an hour afterwards
And still watched pewdiepies walkthrough and cried again lmao
Am i that complicated ?
I (INFJ) had a close INFP friend in highschool and I used to think we're really similar in a lot of ways, but our values always clash. Now I feel like I understand them a bit more :)
INFP's carry the burden and move on while INFJ's try to solve the problem before moving forward
What an interesting perspective! Thank you!
that made me go "hmm"
And add to that, infps are often more impulsive. Romantically especially.
Personally as an INFJ I actually take the burden and move on. I rarely solve the problem first.
Bella and as an INFP I prefer to solve the problem or I will simply dwell on it and implode
1:23 Analytical vs Artistic
2:19 Desicive vs Exploratory
3:09 Absorbing vs Mirroring Emotions
3:58 Understanding vs Validation
4:51 Internal Control vs External Control
I'm infj :))
@@InfrequentOutrage me - analytical, INdecisive, absorbing(?), understanding.. internal control...
@@stevethea5250 ooooo
nice...
I really can't decide whether I'm an INFJ or INFP. The test that I took tells me that I am in fact an INFJ but what if it's not accurate? What if I am an INFP?
Is it possible someone is both lol
As a psychology major, I can say that no test can tell your personality aspects one hundred percent accurately, human personality is quite complex and changing throughout one's life. Of course the core aspects are hard to change or maybe impossible, but every incident we experience in life adds some new aspects on or ommits some aspects from our personality. Thus, personality cannot be that simple to be defined by strict classifications. Maybe that is why, MBTI is quite popular since it implies that these attributes are only rough tendencies. Although I took the test so many times and I came out as INFPT every time, there are so many aspects I also have from other personality types. For instance, I am both intuitive and critical; I am also idealistic and into art and I am both introverted and extraverted depending on my mood, experiences or context. Also I should pursue something about art according to this Inventory but I am studying psychology at the moment and planning to study politics and be a politician because I am an idealistic person who wants to make a positive change in her country and also in the world. Therefore, this test can be taken to explore and have an idea about personality aspects but it should not be followed as a life-guide. Some people take this so seriously.
Finally! An intellectual who spoke out my thoughts. True words have never been said. I hate how people take their personality too seriously. They think being an INFJ/INFP or any other personality type you are identified as is the CORE of who you really are when it is not. We are all different in certain aspects regardless of what your MBTI is.
@@_D5thSeraphimInfinitySix. Love that song.
You're right; it was relieving to me when I did the MBTI test because I felt lost for many years, trying to find out why am I like the way I am. I could only see the bad parts of myself. I also have INFP-T result and I read how it was fitting to how I am mostly (though I have other traits of other personality types), it helped me to start to accept my true self without restricting me overall.
Agreed - The MBTI system should just be considered a tool to determine one's cognitive preferences and not as a determinant in terms of specific behavior. Human beings a complex and regardless of MBTI type and we all have idiosyncrasies that differ from the general pattern described by whatever type we get on a MBTI test or MBTI counselling.
To complicate matters, past trauma and childhood wounds can seriously affect us in such a way that they make us subconsciously "override" our inherent cognitive stack preferences, causing us to be typed as something different than what our "natural" cognitive function stack would result in.
Also, people generally seem to misunderstand the MBTI as being exclusionary (you can't use x function when you have y function in your stack), when it's simply indicative. Everyone uses all the cognitive functions of the MBTI all the time, our MBTI type just codifies which functions we prefer to use, which functions we have difficulties using and in what order we prefer to use them when experiencing existence.
I feel like so many people have to read this...
As someone who keeps retaking the test because I keep on scoring between INFP and INFJ, this video managed to help. Although I don't believe I'm set on either one.
Same here.
Samee
Same
*It can be hard for INFP’s to connect with someone who doesn’t see the things the way they do*
-> This. I couldn’t relate more tbh. I just can’t be around people who don’t get me or just don’t see the things the way I do, it makes me feel so uncomfortable at some point
Ashamed to admit, but Ive even gotten angry at people for not getting me when I've tried to explain them something or explain to them how I came upon some conclusion. Which happened a lot in my teenage years...
Nowadays I try to take it more calmly and accept it. I dont lie and tell them they got me, as I also did at one point. I'll simply tell them I dont know how to properly explain to them what I feel, so let's just talk about something else or leave it.
Not going to lie, it is still frustrating. But its definitely a lot better with no regret on my shoulders from lashing out again and again because of how often I get misunderstood.
I look down on people. Its like you have one life and you are wasting it. It just shocks me to see how people are using themselves so I don’t talk to anyone but my family and my best friend
It's not just that. Like, I don't care anymore if you're not thinking the same way, because I know that not everyone is the exact same, or it's impossible. BUT I do want to feel valid and understood. At least TRY to know why I think the way I do or at least make me feel valid. I want to feel like I am valid, because I *AM* valid, but the opponent doesn't think so because they don't understand me and try to brush me off, smh.
I couldn't agree more. It always feels like everyone is misjudging me..I just can't connect with anyone and haven't met one single INFP in my entire life
self centred and small minded
As an INFP, i’ve weirdly always felt selfish when prioritising my own emotions before focusing on others, this video made me realise so many of my traits aren’t necessarily „bad“ but simply different from my own expectations.
thank you sm for this!!
this is so true like i would always feel guilty to think that i might be making things more about myself than of others.
Yeah i feel really selfish because i just sit around and think about myself all day lol im even doing it right now in this comment
Well, when you said it like that, it really is true
Omg!! I do this too! I thought I was selfish, but I really am just trying to understand my feelings.
Yeah my friends told me that i was more like a child so they can't did a deep talk with me as i seems can't understand their problems. After several depression times, i just realized that i can be selfish if i am 'right'. I just enjoying myself and I don't have to hang out too long with my friends to just stay update with them.
But for you all my friends, i just suggest you to open your mind and truly feel the story of the people around you, not just heard it and pass it by. Because if you understand them, when your other friends comes to you to have a deep talk, you can gave them "your perspective" from what you have understanded before. Don't be too honest because it can hurting people and also because maybe it's just your "perspective" that sometimes can be blurred. You have to ask yourself whether it is a right things to do/say or not, try it until you can believe in yourself to take the judgement.
And then you can be a selfish person, in a good way!
Infp moment is when there’s an inconvenience that is out of control your control but you still feel like it’s your fault and you overthink that your friends will think less of you.
oh damnnn
Noo, why you gotta be so on the nose. I felt that🥺🥺
That’s a struggle!
The "circle of influence" means nothing to me. I feel I should be able to control everything that bothers me and inconveniences others. Very hard to change this way of thinking.
Or if you make a mess you don't mean, you feel like it's definitely your fault.
Yes,
3years ago, I did the test and I was INFP. About a month ago, I did the test again, and now I'm INFJ. As I am growing up, I feel like am changing, and this video is so true. 😊
Don’t mind me, I’m just an INTP procrastinating by watching this.
Same 😂
Lolz I'm an INFJ procrastinating too by watching these wahahahhaa
You are not alone 😂
same
Bruh stop picking on me
I love how all of the infj's don't comment that they are.
Also, INFJ here 😁👋
Who’s to say that we don’t but maybe it’s just me. 🤷🏻♂️
But then again I probably got carried away and should know better than to boast of it.
@@Jackal_El_Lobo34 @Mr. Slim im an infj too and i agree with u. I see so many people saying in the comments in videos like this that real infjs won't say they're infjs. Mbti doesn't fully describe who u are lol
Ikr, samee
Infj’s wouldn’t brag about it. It’s not something to brag about either. Stop making a fool out of your pathetic life
Me, 2 years ago: “I’m an INFP!”
Me, taking the test again: “I’m an INFJ...?”
Me, looking more into INFP vs. INFJ, and taking more tests: “I definitely relate more to INFJ than INFP! I must be INFJ, though I technically test to be perceiving instead of judging!”
Me, watching this video for fun and relating to both INFP and INFJ traits: **confused screaming**
yes, that’s exactly me!!
i'm in this comment and i don't like it
I'm dealing with the same problem 😔🤔
I don't know what to think, even in this videos i feel identified with some Infp and infj things at the same time 🤣 literally WtF
@@andreawong4671 you could be infj-p if you're leaning more towards the infj traits (like i am) or infp-j if you're leaning towards infp :)
Yep, thats also my story, when I was new at mbti I got INFJ on two different test, but a few days a go I did another one, an I got INFP, the I come to realize that I look to myself as if I was more spontaneous rather than organize, but the truth is... I kind off plan/organized and be very methodic most of the time, so base on pure judging vs perceiving, and I thought that I tend towards judging more.
*but I am relating to both traits*
I’m an infp that’s studying social work and want to become a therapist/psychologist
This videos makes lots more sense to me about why I’m having a bit of a struggle with my study choices lately
what should i do if i have both the traits. like sometimes when i feel depressed i might be more infj and then when i feel better like be infp or vise versa. i have both traits and it depends on how im doing in life. maybe when im an adult ill find which one i really am
As an INFP, if I have to schedule something, I want it scheduled early, otherwise it'll ruin my day knowing I have to do it later because I'll keep checking the ⏰.
Just the same! I get very anxious knowing that I have to complete plans xD
Loool so true!
Same haha!
Lol same and I often end up doing nothing until the appointment.
@@Umeshukitsune Exactly, and I would play out all kinds of conversations in my head and look at it from different angles without being able to focus on anything else.
To my INFP's fellows-
- I often smile at things that hurts me deeply coz I'm very sensitive in nature that what's silly for you is not for me but I tear up in silence.
- I love being in my own world of day dreams where my delusions sometimes makes me feel like a psycho.
-i go out of my way to make you feel better even when it won't make me feel the same.
-In any arguments, my silence speaks louder than my willingness to express how I really feel.
- death is something I often thought about but seeking to live a unique one of the kind life excites me even more.
- I hate dramas(gossips) especially bs that people gives out when they talk about others or themselves and I don't make time to entertain them.
-No conversation excites me unless until it's profoundly deep and honest.
-the simplest thing like watching a clear blue sky completes my day but I can only enjoy it if I'm alone or with my soulmate.
-I love to dig deep into mysteries and stuffs that can never be explained out there in the world because I truly belief the unexplained stuffs are far more real than the man made one's.
-i love my alone time but get bored easily, yet will still choose to be in my own world.
-human rights and freedom is somethings that defines my core life values, which is why I get triggered easily when those are taken away from me or someone else.
-in a room full of crowd,my Focus would be away from popularity and more towards the ones who are weird or silent.
-i stand up for others easily but not myself but I won't let people to decide how my life goes. I can be stubborn af when it comes to what I want.
-Labels are one of the things I disagree on the most.
-i love love and fantasize a soulmate of my desired choice but never want to be hitched up in real life because my fear overwhelms me when it comes to my make beliefs and reality of a relationship.
-i definitely do not believe in marriage and prefer to remain single but idealize a perfect partner who gets and wants me.
-when in a relationship, I always want your attention more than material stuff and I easily feel less loved when you don't spend enough time conversing with me.
-i choose wisely where to put my energy in chores or work that at times I easily can come off as being lazy and I don't mind it at all.
-i give less important to what you think of me and more focus on how I feel when I'm with you but I drag the unworthy relationship for years because of the guilt of ditching someone which in return turns me into a depressive sad person.
-i always believe in the good in you even when you are a stranger to me and most often I get hurted because of my naivety.
-people find my self friendly and easy to mingle with but till now I have not found one person who can make me comfortably happy and feel blessed to have in life.
By ur INFP-T fellow.
INFP-T too here.
I need to say, I relate to this so much. Thank you for sharing, it helps me feel a little less alone.
@@sogeka2569 😊 I'm just happy to know that I have someone who gets me the way I get them. Nice to meet you and you are not alone 💜
Another INFP-T fellow here!
I do never say anything, just reading but BRUH... You got me even on the unworthy relationship (almost 5 years)... and I'm only 25.
Nice to meet you. Much love on you, thanks for saying all of this. ♥
@@NergalSmk hi there, yes, same here 5yers and now it has been 7months since I left and I have to say, it's a weight lifted from me...tbh the more we drag it , the more we cause harm not only to ourselves but also to them..that's for me btw..wish u all the best and thanks for mentioning, much love to you too 💜
Yesss we are the same i feel exactly the same way
For an INFP to have depression and anxiety disorder, the struggle to be understood is insurmountable. Geez. Hugs to all fellow INFP's.
Hugs for all INFJs and INFPs!!!
Hugs back mate
Hugs right back. That's real life
Please help the others to better understand you most people don't want that you have depression they just don't understand what you're trying to say
Have a virtual hug back. Thank you
Used to be INFP which I tested many many years ago, but I recently retook the test and I am now INFJ. Watching this video does clarify a bit, I realised how much my thinking process has evolved over the years.
INFJ AND INFP must get two of these lectures.
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I’m always swinging between infj and infp
I’m literally in the middle
I was really struggling figuring out if I'm isfp or infp but I'm 100% sure I fit into the INFP stereotype
me too!!
Me too lol
That may be impossible
Hi, I'm an INFJ... My friend introduced the MBTI test to me.
I took the test for a few times and the results were just the same.
Because of that, I gradually understand why am I acting and feeling this way.
The realizations of how I helped other people without thinking about my own self, putting down my pride as if I do not care of myself, why I can put myself in their shoes so easily....
I also started to became so interested about reading people's emotion based on their MBTI after.
This helped me a lot to understand others, but it's actually tiring...
It was like there's a lot of explanations in my mind that I want to tell to my family & close friends, but I'm just ignoring it. It was like no need to tell them, It was like my mind is telling me that If I tell my story to them... I might say, either too much of information or I might say it incorrectly.
(So they might misunderstood me)
(Sounds crazy right?.....)
IF YOU ARE AN "INFJ" tell me if you're also experiencing these thoughts and feeling.
I... need.... some...help......
I kind of had the same problem and I never really talked about it and I am fine. But I don't know tho maybe we have different environments so?
I'm so glad I saw a comment about an INFJ, I was searching it so much in the section comment. Yes, I can understand you!! I keep in myself a lot of thoughts but in the past three years some bad things happened and I was so lost, I didn't know what was with me, I wanted to tell others what bothered me but I didn't know how and when I tried a little bit I feel more worst that I do it. I feel like everyone didn't understand me or didn't care so much. They become annoyed when I say just a word about my past. I want to help others because I love to do it, I love to see other people happy and I also want to be with everyone equally, I want to spread positivity because this world is already cruel for many. But when I needed help no one was there for me...so this make me want to help more others no matter what, no one deserves to be alone when they need it. It sound weird? :')
@@ElenaGhigeanu goddddd... I totally understand you as an INFJ🥺🥺
@@Candy-bw6xs it's so amazing to meet other INFJ
I'm also an INFJ and I can relate to this so much :)
if you're lazy and love to procrastinate, then you're an INFP
HEY! I feel attacked! (LOL Not really) :D
we’re not lazy, we’re just unmotivated! big difference 😂
im procrastinating rn lol, and im also an infp so-
@@mvtildvz exactly!! 😂
I'm beginning more and more to think that INFP is just a flavour of ADHD
Gosh. I’m INFJ and I have to make sure I have a plan for my future. I list everything and weigh all options. Highly empathic…it can be exhausting. Good luck to all you INFPs and INFJs. It’s not easy having our types that for sure.
Sometimes I feel like I’m an INFJ and an INFP mix-
Edit: thanks for so many likes!!
same here
Same lol
Yeah, I think that's what I am too.
Same and I thought I am the only one and it confuses me.
me too still befuddled
As an INFP and friends of two INFPs, I know that INFPs are self centered and make choices based on their beliefs instead of truths. The foundation of their beliefs are built from experience and emotions. A lot of people think this is a bad thing, which it is not. Because INFPs are more in tune with their feelings than others, they are honest to themselves and know when others are being dishonest. So, INFPs can see exactly what someone is feeling and why. They know when someone is influencing them and how, and know when they are feeling destructive emotions like jealousy, obsessive hatred, possessiveness, etc. For these reasons they have a lot of knowledge about psychology, and they know how to harness their own feelings to use it for good. They are good listeners and make others feel comfort in letting out their feelings. When INFPs make choices, they take notice how a specific choice is going to affect others. Some of the bad INFPs manipulate people into thinking they are lesser than they really are and sometimes are not aware of how bad their actions were. They do not reflect on what they did, and always focus on other people’s mistakes. They can be impulsive, too. I hope people realize that INFPs are not just trashy crybabies that are self centered and do not know how to do anything. Please do not emphasize the flaws of INFPs and make them look awful. They are great friends to have!
Edit: I am glad a lot of people are seeing this comment! I only emphasized the "bad" aspects of infps because 1) I do believe in these bad aspects, I can see a lot of these traits in my friends who are infps 2) it seems like I am supporting the idea that infps are superior if I only speak out about the good traits.
here are some more things I would like to add in my comment to add some positivity (I also deleted some unnecessary words and phrases in the original comment to make it shorter): infps do not judge or assume the amount of pain others might be receiving for themselves. This is because they know that they don't know everything--especially other people's backgrounds. So, instead of trying to comprehend how much pain others might be feeling, they try to understand be supportive. They will be there for you when you are having a hard time :)
🥺🥺🥺🥺 - infp
I dont think they only focuses on other's mistake rather they blame themselves first and try to understand the situation.
-An infp.
Yes! A lot of the INFPs in the comments seemed incredibly upset by this, when that’s not the case. There’s nothing wrong with prioritising yourself and your experiences. I lean towards INFJ so maybe that’s why I didn’t take the results of this video as personally, because I could tell what they meant when they said the ‘negative’ things about INFPs. It’s factual differences. INFJs aren’t better because they study other people more than themselves
@@grayolsen8769 the thing is, we don't even care about ourselves. We always take the blame on ourselves.
As an infp I had a friend who was going through a very hard time and I would always be there 100% of the way. Then when I asked my other friends for advice on how to better support my struggling friend, they called to attention the truth about their behavior. My struggling friend lived off the sympathy of others and never truly tried improving themselves. Rather they lived in their own bubble of constantly needing attention and sympathy. They were living off being a victim. This connection was insanely toxic and dishonest which is something as an infp, I really hate in a person so I cut them off. Unfortunately when I did they instantly threw hate and I got backlash being called "selfish". I felt a bit guilty but then I realized that taking care of my own needs and not just trying to take care of everybody else was a perfectly normal thing to do.
In conclusion, I tried helping someone who didn't want to change. Don't try to hold onto a connection my fellow infp's, thinking that you can change someone when they don't actually want to change themselves. You're just wasting your precious time and energy going in circles.
I'm an infp but I always try to put my feet on other people's shoes and try my best to see things in their pov but I mainly develop that trait bec people didn't understand me so I don't want others to experience the same
same for me! I try to put my feet in other people's shoes too to try to understand them better
Me too! I’ve always felt really bad for ppl when no one understands them bc I’ve felt like that my entire life.
So I always make it a priority to show ppl I care and understand them, I’m also an empath so I find it easy to understand how ppl are feeling and empathise with their situation
INFP-T
same same
that reason and because I want to see what they're problems are so I could remake it into characters or colors in my art,,, going into the car and looking at people's houses thinking what they're life is; there's a chance that they're experiencing the same things I do. I like that
Omg sameeee! I learnt it the hard way too lol
I’m an INFJ and my best friend is INFP. I think I now understand why she used to think of herself as a villain, but it really isn’t something bad to prioritize your well being, rather than get random panick attacks for the most random things ever.
I don't know if it's necessarily prioritizing well-being per se. I'm INFP and currently dating an INFJ. I find I get very intense protective feelings and find myself going through scenarios in my head of how would I react if they were in danger or threatened, what would be the best way to get us to safety and for me to help protect them, and none of them involve me prioritizing my well-being. 😅On the contrary, it's a foregone conclusion I'm at their side thick or thin because my feelings for them just *drive* me and I'm intensely loyal. Or... well I guess they do in a sense, because my well-being is tied up with theirs. It's more that my feelings are *always* kind of driving me. So if I feel hurt or attacked or sad, my feelings are... likewise very loud and intense, and drive me to try to protect myself too. I've had trouble throughout my life really prioritizing my own well-being and finding myself going out on a limb for people who would not reciprocate, and have had to struggle to prioritize myself more.
I told my friend she was an ESFP and she was like “you mean spf like sunscreen?” I-
😂😂😂
this is underrated 😂
🤣🤣
Well your friend is really an Esfp LMAO
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i don’t like how y’all made INFP seem selfish
Literally.
And generally negative like the worse type next to the infj
We're not , we may seem like that but we surely ain't
caring about yourself is not a bad thing
it's when you stop caring about other people is what's bad
I don't think INFPs do that
Pretty INFP of you to want to seem ‘good’ and being represented as better. The Inferior Te function is behind this behaviour.
In general it appears that INFPs are more self-centered... I'm an infp and I kinda relate to that. Because whenever I'm listening to someone even speak about their problems I kinda think about myself, like if I were in their position what would I do, in order to understand the gravity of their problem... But isn't that what putting yourself in someone else's shoes mean?
It makes me feel selfish more often than not but I can't change who I am and my entire thinking process or the way I feel right?
Yes and no. You are trying to understand how they are feeling from YOUR perspective which is the "selfish" part. INFJs are putting themselves in another's shoes from the other person's perspective (ignoring or being unaware of their own) most of the time. Both are great for working to have empathy, the first will appear more sympathetic rather than empathetic without some fine tuning. Doing either will display a great deal of compassion if acted on.
*There’s nothing wrong with feeling empathy* and it shouldn’t be mixed up with being self-centered. I luv ur profile pic pls
@@boppop8703 thanks for saying that but usually that's how INFPs are projected or made feel. And yeah i love that pic too
This literally means that we’re empaths, not selfish
It's empathetic, we tend to internalize situations and feelings. Selfish would be not caring about how others are feeling in the first place.
I took this test a couple years ago and i remember always being a INFJ but recently I had to take it again for work and now I’m a INFP. Over the past year or two I’ve wondered if i changed a lot due to trauma and healing from that and this test really solidified that I have and maybe for the better.
This video felt like a light drag of INFP's lol
Dude right it made me feel bad every category lol
@@Brightest_Vibration Capitalist society tends to look negatively at originality and independence that can't immediately be exploited for profit. Don't feel bad, it's the individuals like you who make this world more interesting.
Yeah same.. like I already feel like I’m a bad person and don’t show my appreciation towards my friends enough and that I’m too focused on myself and this just made me feel worse lmao
every time i hear something about infps i always feel like 'damn that sounds like the worst personality type out of all the others', but then i think that's very infp of me to say that
I know, I'm an INFP and this just attacked me! And glorified my infj friend!
I'm so torn between infp and infj I can relate to both personalities. I'm literally questioning myself. Who am I??
It's not all black and white...maybe you show both traits at different times depending on how you feel. Our personalities aren't totally fixed and they change over time.
You're the one
Youre beginning to believe
I recommend that you do a test to make sure, I think the most popular is the one from 16 personalities
Same tho
I think I'm both
Like INFP-J I guess
@@moon_marina I wouldn't use that one. It's actually quite bad. This test isn't aware of the cognitive functions at all and that's the most important part of your personality type. Infp's and Infj's have literally no single function in common. It's not like “are you a feeler ?“ it's more like “ do you prefer extroverted or introverted feeling and how much do you use it?"
There are better (not flawless) tests on the internet. Just search for "mbti cognitive function test". I think a few better test will pop up
Psych2Go: “Are you an INFP or INFJ?” *Nope, I’m just a random ENFP passing by...*
Lol!😁
Same
Hi👋
Sup campaigner
You must be looking for an INFJ cuz ENFP & INFJ go well together
I remember taking an MBTI test for my Human Resource course back in 2016. I was the only student in the class who was an INFJ. My Professor said INFJs are rare because he is also an INFJ lol and explained it to the entire class about INFJs.
me, a INFJ: yes, indeed, i'm studying psychology so i can help people feel better with themselfs because i'm extremely intuitive and can read other's emotions easily ( ◜‿◝ )
Like me, this is wonderful. I love psychology and I want to become a professor in psychology. I feel good about myself if I affect anyone positively. What a nice thing😊.
yeah i was just thinking the other day that a field in psychology would be one of the few things id be really good at lol.
I'm studying psychology too🥺
Haha yeah.
hii there :) i am also an INFJ -A & i'm currently studying BA psychology 2nd year so that i could help people through my work in the future
summary of the video:
1. Analytical vs. artistic thinking
2. Decisive vs. exploratory
3. Absorbing vs. mirroring emotions
4. Understanding vs. validation
5. Internal control vs. external control
i recommend watching the video for more info.
Thankyou for your efforts :)
Thanks😇
These vids always make me feel bad about being an infp bc it makes us look selfish and I want to be everything but selfish :(
The guilt is real
Im really sorry you feel that way, but personally I feel INFP's are most definitely not selfish humans. It is often that people may interpret INFP's self-awareness and aspiration for authenticity can be perceived by others to be selfish. When in reality your high morality allows you to have strong ideals that cannot be changed by anyone, which is definitely something that should be seen admired. You are most definitely not a selfish personality type and no video or person can ever tell you otherwise.
I hope you have a good day and feel a little better about being an INFP
as an INFP I feel the same way.
This hits hard because that's how I feel everyday.
I used to think and worry about being selfish too when I was younger, but one must not confuse looking after oneself and trying to figure oneself out as selfishness, as that is a mistake.
It would only be selfish if you ONLY cared about yourself and I really doubt it would be the case for anyone who is worried to be selfish in the first place.
Keep your chins up infps. ♡
1:45 you described intuition vs sensing tho. All intuitive types (INFPs included) prefer a big-picture view, whereas sensors prefer the individual details. But in terms of the two types of intuition, “Ne builds the maze, and Ni solves it”. They’re both big-picture focused, just with different ways of approach.
As an INFP, this all makes sense. I like to be alone a lot of the time but also wish for friends that are understanding. Also I tend to feel somewhat selfish in a lot of stuff so I end up hating myself for it but now Ik why and that I’m also not alone
YESSS OMG it’s like I can always see both sides of the story and why they are both valid so I can’t make any decisions on anything because I understand everything😂😭 INFP☝️☝️
"INFP and INFJ are the rarest personality types"
now that doesn't seem right
So most of the people that are the rarest types like info and infj are people that crave a label to stand out so not only do they take it by choice instead of an obligation, they also vocalize it more. How often do you see a ‘where are all of my Infjs at’ in comments but not ‘isfp’ which is the most common
I’ve talked to people in these personality types before and came to that conclusion. I don’t mean it to be rude as I don’t think it’s necessarily negative to identity with a word. It can become that way. As in if someone is obsessed with zodiacs, you can read your horoscope and feel connected to it or read your compatibility with your crush. But please don’t let it dictate your life especially if you won’t put in the time to at least understand the legitimate religion it stems from
INFJ is rare but you could say INFP is uncommon. But people tend to claim themselves as the rarer personality cuz they wanna be quirky or stand or whateva. I’m an INFP btw
skinny sistrr exactly. I am also an INFP
skinny sistrr yeah- honestly I had no clue that personality types could be rare 👁👃👁 I took the test and I’m an infp :’)
other ppl: sees other people as zodiac signs
me: sees other people as mbti types
Me: both
Pd: I like pfp ❤👄❤
i’m both LMAO
Im both aswell.
Both hahaha.
I do both. The funny thing is me & my mom are both Capricorn’s but she’s an infj & I’m an infp
honestly, i love love knowing about my mbti so much that i'm grateful that i immersed myself into this. it's healing for me. i get to know myself more and learned to accept the way that i am. i love how i'm not trying to be anyone else now and just really in the path of embracing myself more than ever. it is because through the years, especially in high school, i struggled a lot since i felt like no one could understand me. when i finally realized that i have myself anyway, it's actually freeing.
I feel like I’m constantly inbetween both INFP and INFJ.
same... ... ............. .. Wanna be friends?
Hard to admit but here I am.
literally same...
same
Same
Would like to clarify here for those who are confused.
1. 'Feelings' in mbti is less about emotions and more about morality Infps' introverted feeling (fi) is actually not about 'emotions' and more to personal values and morality. Infjs' extroverted feelings (fe) is not about other's feelings but more about social values.
Put an infj in a room and their main concern would be 'what is done' (external action done). Put an infp in a room and their main concern is why something is done (internal reason why something is done). An infj would think that the act of 'greeting strangers' would be good (as long as you did a good thing, you're doing good). An infp would argue that greeting a stranger when you're disinterested in them is insincere (if the reason you did something is not good, then you're not doing good). This is the reason why infps can often do things that make others confused. From the outside they're doing completely insensible/odd actions, but for the infp, they are doing it for a good reason. This is the reason why introverted and extroverted feeling often butt heads.
2. Another thing I'd like to point out is the comparison between Infps (inferior thinking) with Infjs (tertiary thinking). For those who don't know, mbti has 'functional stacks' which are a bunch of our functions arranged from best to worst.
Infps functional stacks is: introverted feeling (internal morality -> best), extroverted intuition (brainstorming), introverted sensing (taking information from memory and experience), and extroverted thinking (making decisions based on goal and planning -> worst)
The infjs functional stack is: introverted intuition (making logical deductive connections -> best), extroverted feeling (understanding of social values), introverted thinking (making decisions based on logic), and extroverted sensing (engaging and taking information from the world -> worst).
Frankly put, it's a no brainer that infps are gonna be bad at planning because it is their worst function. It's not something you can blame them for. It might be better to compare inferior function with inferior function for fairness.
3. Lastly, extroverted intuition is portrayed quite badly in the video but here's a big reminder that it is an infps second strongest function. This means that the chances of their extroverted intuition to fuck them up (make them indecisive etc) is less likely to occur. To set the bar here, the infps extroverted intuition is at the same level of 'functional' as the infjs extroverted feeling...which is the function that is worshipped throughout this video (both are second functions). So no, fellow infps, your extroverted intuition doesn't make you an indecisive asshole. That could happen for people with extroverted intuition as a tertiary or inferior function, but for us, it is a great supporter in daily life that pushes our creativity and problem solving capabilities. It's our big 'inventor/mad scientist/I can make dinner with only two ingredients' function that gives us the power to overcome our terrible lack of goal planning. That odd capability to write your essay a few hours its due? Yes that's your Ne (extroverted intuition). So are those weird ' cheat list' ideas you make up to clean up your room quickly when someone is about to visit. It's a wonderful function that'll help you throughout your life. Appreciate it more.
Thank you for the detailed clarification 😊
This was way more informative then the video :) Especially the part about 'F' being more about morals then emotions. It has removed a lot of confusion for me - like wondering if strong empathy ('F'eeling other people's emotions, after all) necessarily makes one more likely an INFJ.
Can you recommend any resources that inspired your comment? Because what you're saying is making sense and I wouldn't mind reading/watching more along these lines. I know there is a lot of there on MBTI but not everything is great.
@@MusParvulus Hello, thanks for your reply. Yep, I definitelt agree that emotions can be tricky in mbti. I think a common misconception is that feelers are over emotional while thinkers don't have emotions. Everyone has emotions but a feeler's emotions are often tied to their morales and then turned to actions, while a thinker's emotions are more often tied to their logic and are turned to action.
Actually I just made a quick browse over the empathy problem that you asked and found some interesting results. To avoid confusion I gotta say that everyone has capabilities with empathy and sympathy (they are a sort of emotion after all), but feeling types tend to use them more because situations that needs empathy or sympathy are usually connected to morality a lot (seeing someone being treated unjustly, poverty, etc).
In my previous comment I said that fi cares about personal values more. As a result, they often think that personal relations and feelings to people are more important as a basis to make a decision. Therefore, Fi empathise, which means they see how your feelings, values, and morales connect to them personally (usually they use their si to recall a time where they experienced what you feel or value) and so their decision to help you ends up becoming...well personal (which is what fi is about), because they see themselves in you, and by helping you, they'll sort of feel like they're helping themselves. Fe on the other hand is more sympathetic. They get emotionally involved with you to the point of feeling what you feel, but they don't exactly view you as themselves. As such their decision to help you is more general. So basically, fi uses empathy more because empathy is a more personal way to understand people (and they usually suck at sympathy...kinda). While fe uses sympathy more because it is more general and therefore fits better to their method of decision making. You can read more about it here:
www.personalitycafe.com/threads/fi-sympathy-vs-fe-empathy.146733/
It's a discussion forum though, so I suggest you to read it till the end to see the arguments presented.
As for where you can read further about mbti, I'd personally recommemd personalityjunkie.com (specifically their cognitive function articles) as a start. Most of the things I said in my previous comment is based from the basic knowledge given here accompanied with the knowledge from many forum browsings. Speaking of which, forums are a good place too because you usually get a more personalised reply based on different people's experience. Anyway, I have to admit that my understanding of mbti is still vague too, but it's better to start somewhere. Good luck!
Very good explanation! Thanks. The info in this video was inaccurate and bothered me. But I would say that Introverted Intuition has nothing to do with logic.
Thank you for the clarification
It’s crazy I just found out I’m an INFP, and everything makes so much sense now. Reading these comments makes me feel so much better because ive never met anyone like me. It’s nice to know I’m not alone
Nobody is ever really alone
It's so true, I am the absorbent type. I can experience others emotions so strongly and am able to look at other people's perspectives very clearly. I also love analysing people's behaviour and discussing their actions. I like meaningful conversations and existential questions. Also I work as a counselling psychologist.
I can't figure out if I'm an INFP or an INFJ. It's like, I feel like INFJ is more "me" but at the same time I have many traits of an INFP too. Unfortunately I still can't figure it out after watching this video 😭
Every time I take the 16personalities test, I get INFP, but when comparing the descriptions of that and INFJ, INFJ just touches my soul, like it literally describes me to a T. I also took this other test (can't remember what it's called), and it said that my cognitive functions are INFJ whereas my Myers briggs is INFP. So I'm CONFUSED
//edit: Allow me to clarify some things. Yes I have figured out I'm an INFJ. No, it's not a big deal and my comment was never meant to be a big deal lol. I was mostly just being dramatic because it was, and still is, something that really fascinates me. But no, figuring out a Myers Briggs personality type is not a big deal and does not define anyone.
don’t worry I’m the same :)
I’m pretty confident I’m a infj tho
same with me:(
Yeah same but I am still not sure
Welcome. I have a good combo of both. It is annoying yet intriguing
Same I'm more of a combination haha
I love how the INFJ percentage is really small but 3/4 of the internet is INFJ
Btw I am an INFP
Only problem with that statement is that now you're scaring all the real ones off or even making them come out and try and prove that they are where you will then proceed to not believe them. Very shortsighted mindset.
@@dutchvanderlinde248 I know it's a problem but that's a fact, I can't do anything about it
@@kermitthefrog4830 except it isn't. Ever think so many people come out as one of the two on this video because it specifically talks about them? There's billions of people on earth. Sure some are liars but a good chunk aren't.
@@dutchvanderlinde248 but some people who think they are INFJ refer to inaccurate tests or RUclips videos that are obviously not professional
(Sorry for the bad English)
@@kermitthefrog4830 then they aren't liars and can figure it out for themselves (or with this very video)
I'm an INFP, my husband is an INFJ.
There are definitely challenges, but a lot of times we understand each other because we're similar.
That's good! God bless your family!😊
What’s the difference?
My best friend and I also are INFJ and INFP. We share many things in common. Sometimes it's like we can read another's mind.
Yes, I agree that INFPs and INFJs will have a good relationship.
@@Vivivofi Watch the video
me an INFJ and my only son is INFP. and we r vibing amazingly.
Well since I was tested professionally many years ago, then tested again a few years ago, I'm an INFJ. Why did I test twice?
The first time I was just curious. I had been reading articles about MBTI, and wondered about it.
The second time, I was seeing a psychiatrist and she wanted to test me herself. I started to tell her what my type was but she stopped me. She said she already believed she knew, but wanted to see if she was right.
When it came back an INFJ, she smiled and said she knew it would be this. She told me things about my personality that I hadn't read about, since it was gaining in popularity, but still wasn't well understood. So I was surprised at some of the things she says about me. I cheekily accused her of being psychic, but she just laughed then handed me a booklet she made with traits for INFJ personalities.
Now the info is everywhere, but only through this particular channel is it consistent in a growth of more info and understanding.
But no matter what, it holds true for me.
Some of the things I'm learning seem to come with different phases of my life, it's uncanny and exciting to realize I'm not just some weird, strange, and complicated person. There's a method behind the madness and helps me to understand why and what is going on with me.
My immediate supervisor is an INFP. Man you should see how well we get along.
I sense straight away if something is troubling him, and sometimes it's so heavy I tell him I feel his angst, but there's no way I can just leave without telling him I'm here for you, because this is different for you! He's always flabbergasted, and has even tried to hide his feelings from me, only to be called out by me because I KNOW.
On his end, he KNOWS what I'm best at doing before I have even tried. He'll assign a duty to me, and I'll tell him, I've never done that, and have no clue. He just nods his head, and tells me he'll walk through it with me for a minute, then he walks away. Me standing there wondering how the hell I'm gonna figure out the rest on my own. He knows when I'm thinking that and turns around and tells me, just dive in, you've got this! Next thing I know I'm completing the task then he and the general manager walk by and the GM stops and says PERFECT! I didn't know you knew how to do this. Before I can answer her, he jumps in and says, she can do anything, she just needs the basics and it gets done even better than I expected.
You should see us work together on a project, it is crazy!
Where I weigh every single pro and con, he jumps in with let's try it like this. Where he just jumps in, I say stop let's consider the easiest and fastest way, and it's a success! Little twists and turns here and there, I trust him and he trusts me.
My strengths are his weaknesses and vice versa.
I feel like he's my perfect younger brother. He tells people I'm like his big sister who worries too much, but never lets him down.
Or parallels run copacetic, even perfectly in some areas.
His wife says we are hilarious and if only we had a business together it would be the most efficient and funnest place to work.
If only we had the money, it would be a hoot to find out.
I'm INFJ while my wife is INFP. I wonder what personality type will our son inherit. lol. P.S. this is my 1st youtube comment.
First RUclips comments??!!!
You joined RUclips 8 years ago and your 1st comment was made just 2 months ago😯
Well I am an INFJ too.I was just going through comments and I found mostly "As an INFP" comments and was in search of what an INFJ would say about the video and here I got your comments which is not related the video though but then 1st comment thing............
😶I don't know why I wrote this much
INFP: Wants to be understood
INFJ: Wants to understand people
This relationship makes so much sense lol
OoOoh
Then I think you are very lovely couple 👫❤
I am an INFJ and my boyfriend is an INFP! Hehe
Man, this video makes me feel so selfish.
"They focus on how THEY feel about a thing rather than its actual purpose."
"INFPs are also gifted in reading emotions, except their concern and interest is in their OWN feelings."
"Trying to bend everything to their view."
I've always been terrified of accidentally being manipulative or selfish. Now I know that there's nothing I can do about it. That's just how I am. That sucks. I wish I was someone else.
I'd call it self love! infp's mirror other's feelings right? they're emphathetic too but they love themselves more and I think it's good to love yourself more than others.... just not being self-obsessive
@@ZainabKhan-wr8ug yeah lol self love but don't complain that people don't understand you and infps are sympathetic*
Dude I’m going to be honest this video is very misleading a lot of the things she said about infps are not true (saying that I am an infp) please don’t feel selfish bro I have felt selfish all my life and as it turns out “as my therapist says” I’m not selfish I just feel bad because I’ve given so much that I dont have anymore to give. And that really helped me realize all my life I have been terrified of being selfish or manipulative for no reason... but alas I still feel selfish every day even when I constantly put others before my self and spend pretty much all of my time on other people I can’t stop the feeling. Now I have depression and anxiety
Same :(
TL;DR No one can ever understand someone else as good as the person who understood himself/herself very well. It's a harder and more dangerous road to take, but the destination pays it all off.
This video is garbage. INFPs are not selfish. I don't know why the fuck are they telling people that. INFPs are introverted feelers, which means they make decisions emotionally to sort the things present in their HEAD (which is usually ideas, theories, memories etc). INFJs are extroverted feelers which means they make decisions emotionally to sort the things present in the the environment (which is usually events, reactions, real world systems etc) You pick up the works of INFP authors, and you will see how INFJ-ish their protagonists are because these writers are INFJs only, but in their head. They like to be righteous, moral and sensitive in their head because they are introverted when they are defining an ideal world. INFJs like to be righteous, moral and sensitive in their way of dealing with the world because they are extroverted when they are defining an ideal world. So it may seem that INFPs are selfish but they are not, they have the same purity of intentions and the same strength in integrity as their Judging counterpart, it's just that it is directed to a different world.
Just like INFPs find it hard to judge in the real world, INFJs find it hard to judge in their inner world which is why INFPs have an advantage in having a better big picture and a more consistent belief system because they are not just focused on what IS happening but all that has happened and can happen and every belief that they hold should take into account all of that. They are more patient when defining what is right and have more depth in their understanding which makes them more likely to understand someone else's feelings. They might not be able to help that person as much as their Judging counterpart, but they can surely understand them better. And I would never risk saying that helping someone out is less selfish than understanding someone. I think they are as noble as the other.
As an INFJ i think its important to remember that the MBTI is a system that uses rough tendencies to map out your persinality, so its ok if you feel you can relate both the INFJ and INFP regardless of the one you may be.
It looks like the designers (Myers-Brigs) were deeply attracted to binaries. Some people just are. So there’s no category for ambiverts, no category for people who are equally comfortable with analyzing and intuiting. But this modeling system has some interesting things to say.
@@elizabethl6187 MBTI is deeply misunderstood. People actually have 4 sides of the mind with each his personality type, and they switch temporary from one another.
For example INFPs have ENFJ unconscious, so they behave like them in some occasions. Combining the 2 things they end up believing they are INFJ and vice versa.
There is a lot more behind the 4 letters. Learning cognitive functions and their meaning it's the only way to get the right personality type.
Also "ambiverts" are people that can switch easily from their primary side of the mind (the ego) and the subconscious or unconscious. If the first is introverted, the other 2 are extroverted and vice versa. That's why they appear introverted in some situations and extroverted in others.
@@INFamousJudge576omg can you suggest videos or links where these things are further explained? I’m so curious but I’m finding it hard to fully understand the meaning of the letters. I’m an infj so i NEED to fully understand 😂
@@lisca.2000 You can ignore the letters. Search the 8 cognitive functions, there are a lot of channel that describe them.
The best I found is C. S. Joseph's channel. He uses the 4 sides of the mind model, which is different from the common MBTI system but definitely more accurate and explain in detail how to type people in real time (without some stupid test). I tried it with people I know and it worked perfectly.
If you want to check him, I have to warn you: he can be a bit harsh as he talk about both the strength and the weakness of each type. Also he is an ENTP so he tends to go on 20 minutes tangents about society and the rest of the MBTI comunity in every video🤣.
thank you! @@INFamousJudge576
Making some notes:
Analytical vs. Artistic thinking
How do they deal with information?
Infj: Ni (introverted intuition)
-patterns and connections
-They look outside-in
-the big picture, the meaning and purpose of it all
Infp: Fi (introverted feeling)
-looking inside-out
- give the objective situation as a subjective meaning and let the subjective lead
-organising everything to their own ideals and values
Decisive vs. Exploratory
Infj:
-Try and want to reach a decision efficiently
-maintain a goal-> pin down choices
-thoughtful, strategic+observant, organised
-satisfied by the result of the decision by not wasting time and recourses
Infp:
-satisfied by the possibility and exploration rather than the result/the decision itself
Absorbing vs. Mirroring emotions
Infj:
-Taking over the emotions and thoughts from a person, treating it as an own state
-not being able to separate emotions from them-self and another persons
-the need to help
-compassionate
Infp:
-tend to conceal their emotions
-mirror the emotions of others while still maintaining to be completely aware of their emotions and being able to separate theirs from anothers
-drawn to art, literature, film and photography (creative pursuits)
Understanding vs. Validation
Infj:
-the need for others to understand themselves is stronger than the need of being understood by others
-the most insightful personality type
-crave validation from others instead looking at themselves
-taking joy in analising and observing
-they want to help people realise things about themselves
Infp:
-also gifted at reading emotions but their concern in interests are coming from their own feelings rather than of other people
-main desire: feeling understood
-individualistic--> difficult to connect to someone who has a different view on things
Internal control vs. External control
Infj:
How do you react if someone doesnt go with the original of the plan or doesnt go with your idea/plan/image?
-tidy, organised
-finding comfort in having a plan
-they aren’t rigid with their own opinions and feelings, so they remain adaptable and open-minded
Infp:
-seem spontaneous and easy-going
-inner value system: consistent and uncompromising
- a rigid sense of right and wrong
-> try to bend everything to their view
As an Infp.. I just wanna feel..APPRECIATED
As an infj, I just wanna feel impactful, helpful and satisfied. There's probably more things though. I can't choose one thing out of all because I can see how they are all important.
@@mysterical- pretty late reply- but I do feel the same way too,, :'>
@@rriallitty8540 Wishing you good luck with your endeavour towards those feelings 🙂
I admire your guys Fi. I'm not really that tuned in with what i want.. gotta be based on others needs before mine. its automatic.
and their imagination is impressive
I can say that: many INFPs are commenting here since we all want to be understood and sympathized with. i’m also an INFP lol😅.
And after reading many of you guys’ comments i finally realized one thing: i became so self-centered in my friends’ eyes not because i was selfish but because i just wanted to express all my feelings, my thoughts and my burdens to who i believe in, which obviously didn’t make them comfortable at all 🙄. For years i just spent most of my energy helping others without letting out my own thoughts, so when i tried to do it, it went too much😑.
No I completely understand that. You are not alone 😭
‘Ain’t no such thing as ‘too much emotions’! Those friends are just sensitive to your true colors! But let your colors burn fiery brighter than the sun and moon! ✨💖😍🌈🍬’
~A fellow INFP-A! 👑
LITERALLY ME, I have a feeling i overshare alot, i text abt whats going on in my life on my groupchat sorta like im on twitter, ofc no one rlly replies, i jus stopped talking abt myself, tbh i just want someone that can understand me and hear me out while geeking together ;;;
Falling under INFP myself, I have to say this was surprisingly spot-on. Analyses of our personality type often come from an outside, first-impression kind of perspective, but with this video, each of the points given resonated with me.
I love writing, but I find that I want each sentence (the details) of my writing to carry the right feeling, which makes it hard to focus on the larger structure of the thing I'm trying to write. We love thinking about possibilities, which is why making a final decision can be so hard. This sort of goes back to the first point about focusing on details and feelings, but it exists in other parts of life too. It can even be hard to, say, order food at a restaurant because the idea of having possibilities seems better than being locked into a decision.
"Mirroring rather than absorbing emotions" is the most apt description I've heard of that difference from our INFJ neighbors. And that bit about "desiring to be understood" really struck home. We appreciate validation, but it's truly feeling understood that we value most. The problem is that we tend to not be as open as we'd like in sharing our own emotions with others (hence the mirroring, not absorbing), and because of this, it can be hard to feel really, deeply understood. I find understanding in art more often than from people, but when a person makes me feel understood, it is one of the best things in the world. I cherish those relationships.
I believe I'm INFP because I strongly relate to what you wrote, esp. the decision-making part.
Yeah. Those tendencies really struck me. I sometimes hate myself because I find it hard to properly confide about myself to others, I often want them to know me but then when it comes to actually saying it, I end up censoring what I say and become upset with them and especially myself after, but I never try to make them feel upset. Its a crazy cycle. And oftentimes makes me feel and think I'm selfish then I try to reassure myself that I'm not followed by criticism of trying to make myself feel good and rationalize my actions.
You're correct about infj. As an infj, i think about my mom's needs a lot more than that of my own a lot. and whenever i make a decision, i think things logically about the ups and downs of each option. i'm even open-minded about others' ideas and try to make compromises to end things peacefully between me and other people so at least both parties are satisfied.
thanks for helping me visually differentiate bw infj and infp. theese past few days i've been re-evaluating myself; being impulsive when i was a kid, and am a little bit now. all 5 of your differences that you mentioned helped me see myself as an infj, so ty again!
We are not selfish or strange. We, INFPs are all unique and beautiful. ❤️
we INFPs do care about others but find it difficult to show it.
thank you so much for writing this :D
@@AlHaitham_ exactly!
@@AlHaitham_ Yes... That's the problem...
Why does it seem like this video is praising INFJs and throwing shade and INFPs
It definitely is.
it's the truth tho you guys can't accept the truth ironically you fail to see how you actually are
@@poornima3998 No, it really is throwing shade at INFPs. I have many INFP friends and they're all sweet most of the time. This video didn't sound like any INFPs I know and it's obviously portraying them badly.
@@poornima3998 This video is just talking about how all INFPS are selfish
@@poornima3998 what did we do wrong :(
Who else has always been an INFP? I’ve been taking this test since probably middle school and have always resulted as an INFP. Even across many variations of the test :o
3 years ago i was an ENFP, then i got my first Big life crisis, and since then I am an INFP,
I got INFP most of the time but I got ISFP and I really agree with that too after that I kept getting INFP
i'm still an infp ever since 5 years ago. My friend told me to take the test again several times because they said it sometimes can change but mine is not...
@@hatercualquiera3386 Bruh your MBTI can't change
@@Nikol-lu4so yes it can, i mean ur MBTI is based on ur personality, and ur personality can vary through ur different life stages..
Cant help but notice one was seen in a better light than the other.
The Office is not a personality, Cynthia.
I feel called out. 😅
*Karen
@@aeralv8649 i mean you're not wrong
Lmao
Most people here are talking about INFP but I am an INFJ. Hi! 💙
Hi
hi♡︎
Sup comrade
I'm INFP and my best friend is INFJ.
I'm infj and my best friend is infp 😁
Whoa...guys... I think you may be each others best friends....
Same
Never met one... Sigh
Ohhhh, the same bro 👏👏hope our friendship will last for years 😌😌