Parenting Styles and their Effects on Children
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- Опубликовано: 25 дек 2019
- In this video, we continue our discussion of developmental-or child-psychology by learning about parenting styles. We'll focus specifically on the outcomes associated with each parenting style, as well as which parenting style is best long term.
Parenting Styles: The standard practices and strategies that parents use in their child rearing; parenting styles vary along two dimensions: warmth (or affection) and control (or structure).
Authoritative Parenting: The first style of parenting in which the parent gives reasonable demands and consistent limits (high control), expresses warmth and affection (high warmth), and listens to the child’s point of view; children of authoritative parents tend to have the best outcomes, including high self-esteem, better grades, and excellent social skills.
Authoritarian Parenting: The second style of parenting in which the parent places high value on conformity and obedience; the parent is strict, tightly monitors children (high control), and expresses little warmth (low warmth).
Permissive Parenting: The third style of parenting in which the children run the show and anything goes; the parent makes few demands and rarely uses punishment (low control), trying to play the role of friend rather than parent (high warmth); permissive parenting is associated with good social outcomes, but poor academic outcomes and often substance abuse problems later in life.
Uninvolved Parenting: The fourth style of parenting, sometimes referred to as neglectful parenting, in which the parent is indifferent, uninvolved, and sometimes neglectful; the parent does not respond to the child’s needs and makes very few demands; uninvolved parenting is associated with the poorest outcomes for children.
I hope I remember this in like 10 years when I have kids
I thought my mom was the second one but when you said "giving their kids the basic necessities and being otherwise uninvolved" i was like oh thats spot on
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And how did you turn out?
My mom is permissive and my dad is authoritarian and I turned out to be a people pleaser with anxiety 😂💀
My dad is permissive and Mom is Authoritarian. I turned out to be Careless and emotionally withdrawn 😂
Dad authoritarian and mom uninvolved and I'm emotionally stunted les goooo
SAME
I'm here trying to figure out my parents' parenting style and I think it's a mixed bag. I think at least mom tried to be authoritative, but it came off more as authoritarian, no privacy, high expectations, on the good days and practically like she wasn't even there on the bad days. All the days became bad days when I just stopped talking to her about anything. She told me to shut up once, haven't broken that silence in a decade. All I really remember from dad when I was a small kid was that he would go to work early, come back hours after the rest of us, and just watch tv or yell when he was actually home. So yeah, I never really bonded with him that much, just the occasional time he'd take us swimming or play mario kart wii with us, or when he read science and mechanics magazines for bedtime stories before I learned to read. The thing is, I know they tried their best, I know mom has had untreated depression at least since I was 4 and got it treated just last year, I know dad's had depression for ages too and only gotten it under control in the past couple years. I know that they're good people, and that makes it feel so shit to never want to see them again, to not bare going to their place where I grew up because the flashbacks are so strong, to accept that they were part of the reason I got fucked up. To accept being bullied for six years wasn't the only problem, that there were problems before that, before I was 6. To accept that even though my childhood ended when I was 6,5 years-old, which is too early for anyone, even my childhood wasn't as happy and healthy I thought it had been for ages. To accept that I don't know what healthy relationships and a healthy self image are because I never had them, so I have no idea of knowing if mine are healthy. Parents, raise your kids well.
I'm glad you've accepted that. It's hard to forget the past, but we can always be forgiving and understand everyone has flaws.
@@andina5269 It is important to accept for oneself, but it doesn't require forgiving or forgetting. People have their flaws, for sure, but they still screwed you up and you shouldn't validate them just because they had it hard too. Acceptance gives you the keys to leave, it doesn't fix the trauma
@@artbookgaming You are right, not everyone deserves to get validated. But I do think that forgiveness is also a part of acceptance. It's for us to move on from the trauma.
Been living with authoritarian and uninvolved at the same time. It's kind of funny when you think about it.
I get you, my mother switched constantly between the authoritarian, permissive and uninvolved and was rarely ever authoritative
Parenting is the most challenging but rewarding job.
Yes it is every day we are learning and growing
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Hey there! When it comes to parenting styles, finding the right balance is key. Be loving and supportive, but don't forget to set boundaries too. Your parenting approach can have a lasting impact on your child's life. Show them empathy, communicate openly, and be a positive role model. It'll help shape their confidence, resilience, and overall happiness as they grow up. 👌🏻
One of the best videos i have ever watched
I am still not married neither have children so i am glad I watched this now before i do
I grew up with a warm persistent mother. I got in trouble several times.
Now I feel loads of anxiety if separated from my mom for more than a day. It's weird asf to feel this way when things like seperation becomes a factor.
Very on point descriptions of everything. Thank you!
Thank you for recognizing the cultural differences and the fact that Authoritarian can result in the same as authoritative depending on the living circumstances. Great video
Thank you very much for this time and effort . It gives a clear idea on the topic. You're in my today's gratitude list
My mom is Authoritarian and my dad is Uninvolved, the outcomes are very accurate.
Very honestly, I cant pinpoint which my mother (only parent) was. I feel like she was constantly switching between the 4. I grew up to be anxious, very depressed, diagnosed with BPD, struggle with self motivation and self discipline, having big problems with making decisions (even small, like, what should we do or what phone should i get - i usually ask my bf of 5 years to choose for me because i just CANT make the decision and feel anxious and overwhelmed with it).
I was definitely showered with nice toys, clothes and holidays upon the sea every year but the emotional warmth was very low. Id say a literal on and off switch between permissive, uninvolved and autoritative.
I meant authoritarian*
Excellent video. I'm 35, watching this to reverse engineer my childhood. Very, very interesting! Thank you.
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My parents are a mix of authoritarian and uninvolved. Now I care more about good grades than my mental and/or physical health, I take forever to admit that I need help, always think that I'm faking it and that others have it worse and I seem to jump from one addiction to a bad coping mechanism to the next; I'm talking alcohol, pain meds, self harm, sleeping to escape reality, the list goes on. I just get a bad coping mechanism, realise that I'm hurting myself, force myself out of it and then just fall back into it or another bad coping mechanism. It feels like a cycle that I can't escape.
My single mom is an uninvolved parent and she will be loosing custody over me and my sister very soon and we will be moving to other families. We live in our grandmas apartment with her but shes starting to get dementia so she screams at us all the time and says really hurtful things. Mom technically lives here too but she bought a little cottage in the middle of nowhere where she is all the time with her boyfriend when shes not working. She sometimes visits us but she just goes straight to bed and we dont even talk. I wouldnt wish my childhood on anyone...
I hope that you are okay and that you are with loving parents now. You are valid and this phase in life will change and eventually you’ll be able to take control of your life. Please try to seek someone to talk too instead of substance abuse. It will only get worse if you chose illegal substances to cope. I know bc I was neglected and abused as a child by both of my parents
I am currently an ECE student, thank you for your representation of this topic, extremely helpful, caused me to reflect on my upbringing as well as the parent I have now because.
Thank you Daniel Storage for this video. It gave a clear idea on the topic and helped me to convey it better for the group I explained it yesterday. May many get helped through your rich knowledge.
what a great video with full explaination. Thanks
Thank you for good presentation.
very useful information about parenting.
Every new parent needs to pick a parenting style and stick to it.
So clear ,short n sweet,thanks from India
This was great information! Thank You!
My parents switch through authoritarian and permissive, it's either one or the other, nothing in between
Your videos helped me a lot - very nicely made and easy to listen to!
I'm definitely a permissive parent who tries to be more authoritative. I'm just so bad at it and hard to take serious. Trying to find videos to help but not having much luck.
You can do it!
Dear Parents, Want to Raise Brilliant Kids? well, trust me, nothing worth fighting for if it wasn't for your children. Invest in your child's future by teaching him/her to read in early age in a very efficient scientific way using a guaranteed exclusive program because as parents, we all face the challenge of how to best help our children develop. You won't loose anything. Watch those typical instructions and don't forget to share with your loved ones:
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Good that you recognize your parenting style. Get the right strategies and start implementing take small steps at a time
Helpful, Thank you!!
Thank u so much
Thank you for making this!
Thank you.Your explanations are apt yet very simple and straight to the point.
Dear Parents, Want to Raise Brilliant Kids? well, trust me, nothing worth fighting for if it wasn't for your children. Invest in your child's future by teaching him/her to read in early age in a very efficient scientific way using a guaranteed exclusive program because as parents, we all face the challenge of how to best help our children develop. You won't loose anything. Watch those typical instructions and don't forget to share with your loved ones:
ruclips.net/video/RR3reaJHV_8/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/YN8lUKyBLBQ/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/w9Lj1KQtvPU/видео.html
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This is great, Thank you!
beautifully explained.... very helpful 👍thanks
love this!
Nailed it. Great video.
Good class sir.ecp for a psycholigy student like me. Would remember this concept forever
my parents are a mix of all these styles 😝
So you must be well rounded lll
Thank you
Hey your style is very nice.
Hi there, this video has greatly helped me for my upcoming video :) I'll be referencing it in my description :)
I grew up with 2 sets of parents. My parent both divorced when I was 3. They both remarried thier current partners of 30 plus years when I was 5. It wasn't just the authoritarian parenting style by both my step parents and my father, and the authoritative style by my mom, that caused trauma and sabotaged our happiness. With my mother at least I knew she loved me. Please don't marry someone who has children from a previous relationship if you want nothing to do with those children. Children can feel your vibes and can tell you don't like them. Growing up feeeling unloved by more than half of your parental figures, and doubting about the love from the other destroys a child. When you add on top of that the screaming, put downs, being made fun of, mocked, critism, being called names like stupid and idiots, throwing toys and prized possession away, having unrealistic expectations, the severe punishments, and never getting rewarded for doing the right thing, only punished for the wrong thing. When you ask why you don't get rewarded for doing the right thing it's because that what you should do. My father believed spare the rod spoil the child so he beat us with our pants down, barebutt, made to bend over and grab your ankles. )so you couldn't tense/flex your butt muscles) He would lined us all up, whipping his belt, all 3 siblings standing in row because one of your brothers (maybe both) misbehaved or broke something. Your step mom always convincing dad I was the master mind. My father always gave us time to admit who committed the crime and he said he'd only beat the one who confessed. My brothers never admitted to thier bad behavior so he beat us all saying it was the only fair way. I got many beatings that I didn't deserve. I asked him years later why I got beat for things I didn't do as a child? His reply was "maybe I wasn't the best father" but he never apologized. Im the scapegoat of the family. The black sheep.. I could have dealt with authoritarian. What we had was toxic and abusive. No cps involved back then. My mother slapped me across the face around age 4 in front of a social worker for pointing out the social worker had a mustache. Case worker didn't blink an eye. Nowadays if you yell too loud and a neighbor complains the next thing you know you're in court fighting the state for custody. I'm not a perfect parent and as a result of my disfunctional childhood I suffer from anxiety and ptsd among others mental illnesses (some I think i was born with). I have had to fight with not wanting to be alive since age 4 and started praying to God to take me home to heaven every night as I lay in bed trying to fall asleep. The abuse from my family continued into my 30's. I left town 10 years ago and it was the best descion I ever made. It cost me tremendously but I now have two beautiful boys and a wonderful fiance. They boys don't have a relationship with my family except they have met thier grandma a few times. Ee text occasionally and she sends a birthday or Christmas gift..I'm happy to keep my children as far away as possible. My daughter was not so fortunate. Im pleased to see that authoritive parenting is not determental. Im trying to break a generational curse. I was looking into trying to switch to gentle parenting (not mentioned here) because it's how I usually am, gentle with them, give choices, explain consequences until I have to say no and they throw a fit or they repeatedly don't listen with clear directions and requests. I don't ask much. We were doing dishes, cleaning the house, and doing our own laundry around age 6. I won't do that to my kids. I think it mus have been nice for my parents having live in housekeepers. When I get triggered and yel. I'm working on it. I have only spanked my children as toddlers, over the diaper, just one swat no more than 3 times, and usually only when thier doing something that is dangerous and they could hurt themselves. I want them to remember the first time not to do that again. I didn't yell for over 3 year until we came down with covid a couple months ago (the entire household). We are still experiencing some symptoms from covid and it's taken its toll on my mental health. Easily annoyed or irritated, easily angered, less patience and more yelling than typical. This is not a life I want for my children or how I want to interact with them on a daily basis. I'm trying to break the cycle. My boys will never question that I love them. I would do anything in my power to protect them and encourage them to live the life of thier dreams. I have only had the courage to be who I really am and to start to follow my dreams, spiritual path, discovering my purpose with love and support from my little family and a couple of close friends. Without the doubt, the fear, the insecurity, the judgment, the ignorant opinions, the spreading of lies and false information and without the condemnation from the people who were entrusted to protect, to love and to take care of me I'm blooming. I would of done so much better if I had been parented by any of these other parenting models. Low control low affection would have still been better. I think some kids and other adults don't really understand what true abuse looks like. Quit judging. We all have our childhood traumas to heal from and I believe we are just doing the best we can with what we're left to deal with. Be kind to eachother. Be kind to your children. Be kind to the planet. Just be a good person and treat your child like a person deserves to be treated. A little decency and respect and we should all be just fine.
Wow!!! This is deep! I salute you. Good job, Mama. I know it’s not easy, but keep going. Love, light, and peace to you and your children, and loved ones.
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Great video!
I was in the Zoom meeting on April 23rd (Nick Woods Knocker)
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I was in the zoom meeting on April 23rd
i can't say which parenting styles my parents follow , but what i can say is in a way their style is a mix of permissive and authoritative ig ?
but more or less i turned out to be a person who is a people pleaser , with great communication skills and too many emotional hurdles
as my heart is always on my sleeve lol
Why isnt there a medium category instead of only high and low? If you add a medium level, which is more realistic as most people are medium isnt it, then you have 5 more parenting styles potentially....
I grew up with an Authoritarian dad and a permissive mom. Always told myself that I will raise my child opposite of how I was raised only to catch myself making the same mistakes mine did.
I thought I was the only person who felt like this.. respect ✊🏾
The fact that you can recognize this is more than what my parents could and probably your own
Don't be to hard on yourself sometimes what our parents did was not all bad there might be some good in their parenting just delivered the wrong.way
My parents are working so my nanny is the one who teach and took care of me
shee is authoritarian because she focuses on punishments.I'm disappointed because she hit and yell when I made a mistake. Even though she is like that, shee is kind
That's why i'm afraid to commit mistakes because even she says That spanking is love,, i don't feel any love when it comes to discipline. Is it ok to use phissical punishments?
my mom tries to be authoratative but is too exhausted to follow through with it and ends up being kinda permissive
I'm making a video on parenting strategies and I think your video here is been helpful... Lovely video 😍
Dear Parents, Want to Raise Brilliant Kids? well, trust me, nothing worth fighting for if it wasn't for your children. Invest in your child's future by teaching him/her to read in early age in a very efficient scientific way using a guaranteed exclusive program because as parents, we all face the challenge of how to best help our children develop. You won't loose anything. Watch those typical instructions and don't forget to share with your loved ones:
ruclips.net/video/RR3reaJHV_8/видео.html
ruclips.net/video/YN8lUKyBLBQ/видео.html
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Thank you. my research paper is half done
Awesome perspectives! I just finished up a Parenting Series on my channel that I hope inspires & encourages parents to dominate parenting from the inside-out, just like this video has. I hope our videos are useful to parents out there! Just subscribed to you too.
I want to use this piece for my sba could you please tell me the exact day you published this video🙏🏿?.
i was in the zoom April 23-kevin clark
Hey is there any way to try to get my parents to change from authoritarian.
Is it possible to have 2 types of parenting styles???
I never think I was good enough as a parent. Do other parents feel this way? I had to do everything entirely alone because their dad basically abandoned them and any responsibility went to me.
If authoritarian parenting is as effective as authoritative parenting, how do we determine which has the best outcomes for children? How do we properly determine which is actually the best method?
When examining both explanations in your video about authoritative parenting and authoritarian parenting, it clearly shows a more negative affect on a child when authoritarian parenting is enforced. What evidence is there for your claim that you can acquire the same results in children by some parents who used authoritative parenting style vs the authoritarian parenting style?
Studies show that those that grew up with authoritarian parents are more likely to suffer from anxiety, impulse control, anger, drug addiction etc" those who grew up with authoritative parenting were more likely to be successful in life, high self confidence, better at decision making, emotional maturity, they know how to process their emotions and self regulate. They are very opposite parenting styles so they also have very opposite outcomes
I can attest to the same outcome because of my own upbringing with authoritarian parents however I use a combination of because I live in Canada and it's a different culture
thank u it was helpful but cant a parent b friendly and be authoritative at the same time?
Yes, absolutely! Authoritative parents are typically warm-which you can think of as consistent with "friendly"-with their children.
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Is it possible to be authoritative with a sprinkle of permissive.
What the difference between the last two?
Permissive parents are very warm, but uninvolved parents aren't.
My mom and dad are authoritative parents, but my stepmom is authoritarian😅😅😅the mix is very confusing
Is this supported by strong evidence? Does the evidence take into account heredity? Might parents bring up their children in a particular style because of their genes and might children of those parents turn out that way because of genes rather than environment?
These are good questions.
I have a authoritative dad and permissive mom
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my parents are authoritarian and im pretty sure im fucked up ❤️❤️
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I prefer to use authoritative parenting so I know best for my child
Authoritarian father & uninvolved Mum
Permissive is the best parenting style because it gives the child the freedom to do what he or she wants without the parent controlling their lives. Such as their hopes and dreams won't be shattered because the parents give them the trust and responsibility to achieve a certain goal in the future.
My mom is a permissive parent and let me say that it is NOT the best. It took me until age 18 to start having self discipline and clean up after myself and regulate a lot of other things. There was little to no structure from my mom discipline wise. I am 21 now and I am a people pleaser and I have anxiety. So no this parenting way is not the best.
Wrong, they grow up spoiled brats and listen to rap music and degenerate garbage.
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I was in the zoom meeting on April 23rd