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Countermeasures to Flooding
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- Опубликовано: 22 сен 2015
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Today Samuel discusses how to set up countermeasures which will prevent each spouse from doing any more harm to one another.
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When we flood, please don't assume that we are doing so in order to hurt the unfaithful. This is just not true. We may hurt the unfaithful with our words but it's not on purpose or intentional. We are in pain.
very true dawn. thanks for watching and sharing.
Horrific pain.
Absolutely !
My problem with this as a betrayed spouse is that when my husband attempts to leave the flooding, I freak out even more. I’m afraid he’s going to abandon me again. It’s horrible for the both of us and it’s unfortunately rooted in a lot of abandonment, neglect, and emotional abuse from my childhood.
umiluv i disagree - you are flooding and having feelings of abandonment NOT because of your childhood - do you think if you didn’t have childhood abandonment issues you’d feel less abandoned? Hell no. We betrayeds were abandoned by our betrayer spouses by their infidelity! The severed our primal relationship!! and you have every right to feel abandonment issues in this realm!
I’d try something different if I were you. Raising your hands and walking away is another abandonment. The betrayer should stay - not go - you’ve already done that in the worst way - show you will now stay through...it...all. Show you will stand with the betrayed spouse and will NOT abandon the vows we took - WE took - and you will stay through the “worse” part of “for better for worse” - THAT would be impressive.
My spouse stayed and listened even though it was painful. That really helped rebuild trust.
So many helpful videos! Keep up the great work!
thank you for the feedback my friend. means a ton.
So this all about helping the unfaithful spouse not to flood and further hurt the betrayed? She's got to stop before she makes you say mean things and you get to stop when you might say mean things? When does the unfaithful put their ego aside and listen to the betrayed while they're flooding and controls themselves while still listening to the betrayed? Seems like a recipe for giving all the power of what's discussed and when to the unfaithful. Am I missing something?
Good one
Exactly what is flooding?