Every single one of them hesitated on the question "are you a feminist?" Because people have forgotten what the definition of the word is, and they now confuse it with misandry.
soo true ... at my side of the world being a feminist it's like a sin.. here arrange marriages are a norm where people go on looking for women who are NOT feminists .. like a whole survey whether u are or u are not in fact a feminist , whether u believe u have rights or not.. and yes alot of feminists' themselves have forgotten the actuall meanig .. alot of feminists' ive met so far in my society are in fact misandrists, but i can't happen to blame them the society i live in is in fact alot misogynist it self .. and to be honest not only men here are against women speaking up but alot of women themselves are against women speaking for themselves ... messed up world
It's because the radical feminism overshadows the innocent one, just open reddit and look up for anything related to feminism, what you will find is hatred after hatred. Unless the ideology clears out it's problematic parts I don't see it ever succeeding tbh, and they happen to be quite many on political level. As a guy I wouldn't never call myself feminism, but that will not stop me from striving for a fairer and more respectful world.
“I wore base makeup today.” Yes honey. “Well, humans have emotions.” Indeed. “Well, I’m ENFP, so I suppose that makes me emotional?” I felt this in my soul.
@@fireandsomethingsomethings8887 I was ENTP ten years ago but hey, I get the ENFPs. I am just so HAPPY this lad said it like, "I'm emotional, so the freak what?"
One question that really irritates me as a woman is when we plan on having kids. People have zero regard towards how this question can make a woman feel. You don't know if we're struggling with infertility, miscarried, want kids but isn't the right time, want to adopt/foster, or just don't want kids. I know a large part of the time the question isn't being asked in a mean way but frankly unless the person is actively speaking to you about their family planning it's no one else's business.
@@sarahsays194 yeah, and they’re always like “b-but you were born with…OVARIES,how could you not want kids!? It’s the womanly instinct!” Like,ok Derick,you try pushing a baby out of your vag**a. Oh that’s right,YOU DON’T HAVE ONE
I got unreasonably happy when the one boy said he would talk with his spouse and if they made more than him he would take care of the house and child. Someone is raising that boy very well.
I can’t speak on Korea but I did do a unit on discrimination(gender studies? It was mostly societal gender stuff) in Japanese society. There are different ways to speak about marriages, and some of the more traditional terms essentially equate the husband to the ‘master’ or household head while the wife is “house woman” or “inside the house”. Nowadays such terms are rare and generally much lighter terms are used, ones that don’t have archaic connotations. It’s becoming more common for both parents in a family to have successful careers and maternity leave and daycare is a big part of this. The term used for “house wife” is gender neutral, and as society changes more men are going by the same term. There is still an imbalance in terms of things like work life balance though. Usually, women still do the majority of the housework, even when also working full time. This kind of parallels with what the kid said, about how if his wife was his main source of income then he would try to do more, not all or the majority of the work. In the inverse situation, a stay at home wife would be expected to do all if not most of the housework. There’s also workplace discrimination, etc, but things are getting better and are not just archaic as some people expect foreign places to be. I think a lot of Japan’s development in this regard has been stunted by their history with invasion (lots of major cultural shifts that changed their views on sexuality, power dynamics etc, thanks America) and also their culture of “don’t stick out, don’t make a fuss”. Besides hetero couples though I know the attitude towards same sex couples is pretty mild. My Japanese teacher’s sister is gay and when her Japanese in laws met her sister and her sister’s girlfriend(or wife idk) it wasn’t really a big deal. Even if it was, the cultural attitude leans much more towards keeping to yourself if you don’t like something, maybe being a bit passive aggressive, but generally no bible bashing. There’s also the fact that gay couples are generally more prevalent in Japanese media, even if they’re more so treated as a novelty. In a way, Japan is simultaneously more and less progressive than many western nations. Religion is less prevalent and far less extremist, but a culture of “not sticking out” simultaneously softens hateful words and acts, and makes it harder to rally against unfair systems and biases.
I think the toughest thing is realizing that as women, we say or receive the same things from our female peers. It’s just as much an issue with women/girls making their own community self-conscious and uncomfortable with an image of what a woman “should” be.
Yes! And don't be labeling them if they are working in fast food. I had an older woman say 'If you stayed in school, you would have a better job.' 🙄I had my Bachelors degree for about 3 yrs by then.
EXACTLY. in my case, it comes from my own mom too who's supposed to be a role model for me as the closest fellow female in my life. Apparently, I act too masculine for them and I should be more ladylike (I really don't want to and I just want to be comfortable, not minding gender roles)
@@francinev3971 My mom is exactly the same way. She has a lot of good advice, but I found that much of it did more harm than good when I was a girl and young woman. We can be classy and dress/appear in a way that is appropriate for the situation but still be comfortable in our own skins. Sweat pants aren't appropriate for a dressy event, but that doesn't mean I can't wear a pant suit instead of a cocktail dress and heels. I really didn't find my own style until I was in my twenties. And at 30, married, and a mother myself, my mom still nitpicks me. But I've gotten better at standing my ground and knowing myself. And she's gotten better at realizing when to back off. Hoping things with your mom get easier.
It’s true, people of the same sex can be vicious towards their peers. I mean, just look at what happens to boys who don’t act like other boys expect them to. They’re harassed pretty much throughout their youth and then they have much lower chances of getting a mate in adulthood because women generally prefer a certain stereotype of men. And quite often they might get belittled by their girlfriend for not being ‘man’ enough (Lady Macbeth style - I’ve seen my own mother do this to my father and have witnessed him literally restraining himself from getting physical and removing himself when she goes ‘Other men would do x-y-z for their wife’ amongst other things). Sadly, people don’t just need to fight ‘the others’ they need to constantly resist their peers, who’re meant to be supportive and understanding.
ugh, i got this a lot growing up and from my own family too :,,( and it was even harder ‘cause i just struggled with coping with what was going on at home
That's right!!! What I do now even if it sounds "irrespecful" it's tell them: "Did you say something funny? If not why should I be smiling all the time??" And I don't care anymore, I guess as I grown up now I just don't let it pass, I don't have to try and be "polite" anymore, You get tired.. but no more
you know what’s a horrible feeling? Being asked these questions by grown men twice your age and still feeling the need to laugh it off politely rather than put them in their place🙃
And why do you feel like you need to laugh it off politely? Just tell them to piss off and tell them to look at themselves and mind their own business.
@@Euxiphipops77 We can’t just tell them to piss off. We will be labelled as bitches and hard to work with, lose good connections, risk being followed after the interview, harassed and so many more possibilities that seem wild but are way too real. Telling someone physically bigger than you and more influential to piss off is a death wish.
Someone mind explaining it to me? I'm girl and I have periods and stuff but, why other girls get offended by this question? Like, if it's not the case you could just say so.
@@lyac04 During periods many girls have mood swings, sometimes it can make us really depressed, or agitated with little things, etc. Therefore, when we get angry there are many people who disregard our emotions by assuming that its just 'that time of the month' and probably we are having a mood tantrum. This kind of thought process invalidates our feelings as if whatever happened is not a big deal and we our simply overreacting, thats why we get offened.
The whole period thing always makes me mad because it's very sexist and gives less value to whatever the girl might be feeling. Like assuming that we're mad just bc we're bleeding is hurtful.
Yes, the sad thing is I would get this from my own mum. But I have to forgive her because she has internalized misogyny. PMS can aggravate already existing anxiety or depression, but I found a lot of my anxiety around that time was because I was afraid my mum (or anyone) would find out I was on my period, so I would feel shame.
That remark has always hit me hard even though it's never been directed at me before. As a man I really do find it really hurtful since it assumes that people who do experience periods in general are only mad because of the bleeding and whatnot.
I mean, I feel like if men bled they would be mad about it too. Also the fact that the question is far too personal, like why do you think its okay to ask me something like that? Both incredibly invasive and demeaning.
Hearing these questions being asked as a girl made me so uncomfy because of the fact that I often hear them in my everyday life and am expected to answer politely or to just brush them off. The sad thing is that you could see on some of the boys that they felt uncomfortable hearing some of them too... Words really are powerful and I do not stand behind people who throw awful comments at others without thinking about how it could impact them first. Everybody is secretly going through something, so back-handed comments like these only make it worse.
Yes 👏👏👏👏👏 It is so "normal" being asked such questions over and over again😩 Even my mom asked me such questions from time to time🤦🏻 it's crazy considering that these questions are just the harmless ones ..... Sometimes it really sucks to be a Woman😒
3:08 this was adorable, the way he just completely ignored gender roles and went with what would make more sense for him is awesome. the complete lack of hesitation when he said he would be ok with staying home to take care of the child was really admirable in my opinion.
Like what questions? edit: thank you to everyone that answered me i get it now, i dont need any more answers. 2nd edit: this is 7months old and ive read a lot of interesting answers. no offence but ive read enough answers. thank you! Dont tag me anymore plz
Interesting how they’re basically talking back to the interviewer for asking these questions, but if a woman talked back to a man who asked her these questions, she’d be labelled as “rude,” “un-feminine,” “doesn’t know any manners,” etc.. It goes to show that even if a woman tries to defend herself, no man would take her seriously. These boys keep bringing up “should it be different for boys and girls then?” as a response to the interviewer, but watch what happens if a woman says that. Good video!
None of those matters. What other people say is irrelevant. The mind is where the matter is. It doesn't matter what society thinks, it is what is inside your head that controls you.
Maybe it depends on where you live on the world? I don't hear that a lot where I live but maybe it could be the case for a place that has supported suppressing women for years? I don't know I would let someone who does live in those areas talk about stuff like this
the boy with purple tie was clearly so uncomfortable but kept answering all by smiling and being positive/honest about his style and mannerisms and it was quite interesting to see but also quite relatable to some extend, being nervous and uncomfortable but still trying to stand up for yourself (for reference I'm a trans man so I grew up hearing these a lot "as a girl") that was a very intriguing experiment
ENFP boy was precious!😭 "I would discuss with my spouse and if my spouse makes more money than me then I will take more care of house chores and parenting." Finally someone understands that the goal is to make sure someone is at work making money and another is available to raise the children not trying to conform to what society deems as a 'normal' family life.
Yeah, exactly, I would just add that it's not even about simply distribution the roles and who makes more money, cause it would be one-sided (though in our society it WILL be one-sided most of the times); it's just that for me I would want to alternate these roles and make it more balanced, for example, I spend some time home with children doing chores, and then when I have some work to be done, my husband replaces me for some time or takes a paternity leave and so on, but it's not quite possible when one has a stable job from 9 to 5 and the other doesn't have any at all. That's why most couples quarrel and can't find the common ground. But I'm really pleased that this boy is ready to communicate and discuss such things with his future wife so he will be a good, responsible partner. Such an understanding at this age, really mature)
It can certainly be changed though. I was an ExFx when I was little, always optimistic, emotionally sensitive, and outgoing, and I had tons of friends. But after certain *impactful* events during my teenage years, my personality took a 180 degree turn and I'm now a full-blown INTJ. One's personality is shaped based on one's genetics, environments, and life experiences after all.
@@MapleKemon Expecting your MBTI to not change as life continues is like saying you’re not bound to change as you grow as a person. Not saying that you were saying this but there’s a lot of people who say that MBTI is fake because they got different results between the years when that’s what’s supposed to happen. It is concerning if someone who is 18 has not changed at all by the time they are 25.
I like the answer "I'm acting boyish..." "What is boyish?" "Uh, me...?" That says something about being secure in your gender identity. You can't define what makes you feel like a [insert gender here], you just know that you are.
No. You can define it. The definition is right here: mas·cu·lin·i·ty /ˌmaskyəˈlinədē/ Learn to pronounce noun qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men. "handsome, muscled, and driven, he's a prime example of masculinity" His words don’t prove that you can’t define what makes you feel like a specific gender, they only prove that he didn’t have a ready answer.
@@Joseh-le4yl do keep in mind that the defination of "masculinity" has and does keep changing, it differs to various people. So idr think their argument is "invalid" Just cuz u see masculinity with a different view.
The fact that this is still a very "kind" version of what we get to hear on a daily basis is so sad.. And when we complain about it its always "well they meant it as a compliment" even tho it sticks with you and make your stomach hurt all day. I will never raise my daughter to take any negtive comments from stangers, and I will always listen and be on her side. You dont always have to "make a scene" when someone is acting bad, but I wont raise another generation who feel like they need to agree and laugh it off to feel safe and aproved. So many times I can think back to my teens and think about what strangers have said and get so angry for not standing up for myself. Just because I was raised to never raise my voice or talk back to adults. That ends with me.
Yeah, the fact that we should be HONORED and THANKING them for asking such intrusive and insensitive question makes me so angry and sad and disappointed
Growing up as a teen, my 1st generation immigrant mother grew up and being told to be a goody two shoes people pleaser and I came out as a complete opposite temperament and I respected some of the morals she taught me but also didn’t approve the fact that she never stood up for herself to people that had their way with my mother but preferred to just ignore and keep being nice and generous.
We need more parents like you that will stand up for their children against questions like the ones in this video. My grandfather used to ask me questions such as "how much do you weigh now?" starting at the age of 11 and it made me incredibly uncomfortable. Being so young, I never thought that I should stand up for myself, but I was very thankful when it stopped a few years later. I thought my grandfather had just lost interest, but I recently found out that my grandfather actually stopped because my dad had overheard one of the most recent inappropriate questions and swiftly made it very clear to my grandfather that unless he was complementing me in a way that would not make me uncomfortable, then he was not allowed to ask about or comment on my body under ANY circumstances. Parents like you help children build self-respect and feel like they have a support system. That is such a paramount thing for kids. Thank you so much!
@@alyl.9430 I think as a parent, it is a very important responsibility to keep children feeling safe not only physically but also mentally/emotionally. The problems that I have faced being raised in an immigrant household is the notion of children being conditioned at a young age that they are suppose to behave/be obedient toward adults b/c we are made to believe that adults or just any person older know more as well as suppose to set a good example. This is clearly not a reality unfortunately and parents need to step up and let their children know that even their own friends and family members are capable of being toxic and not saying anything will only make it worse…
“Don’t you think cooking is a boys job?” The sudden look of death is his eyes was my everything. His eyes said in panic ‘there’s no right answer to that question’ and he’s completely right.
As long as someone doesn't burn their house down when they cook, and it doesn't taste totally horrible. They're more than qualified to be in the kitchen, no matter who they are.
Oh and this isn’t even HALF of the bs most women hear on a daily basis. But I’m really happy that this was brought up, specially the “are you a feminist” one since it has such a negative connotation in Korea because people will immediately assume you are a radical feminist. Keep up the good work 👍
@Ruth Zamorano well, "radical feminism" is a subset of feminism that can be described as TERF ideology (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminism) which isn't radical at all, it's just transphobia disguised as "feminism." If someone's idea of feminism doesn't include trans women, and reduces women to their genitalia, it's not really feminist or radical. Not sure if that's what OP was referring to, but that's what the term means if that helps :)
@Ruth Zamorano to add on to what Hyperfixation Station said, "radical feminism" or "radfem" ideologies typically revolve around the idea that women (usually means people who are AFAB to them) are inherently better than men, and that men are less worthy or less pure because of their state as a man. There is also the idea that sex work and kink are demeaning, and anti-feminism, regardless of any reason for doing so. Hope this helps !!
They should have done this with adult men. It's really hard, at least as a mom, to watch kids smile and try not to cry as adults are asking them mean insensitive questions. I get what they were going for but, when I was a teen, it was grown men, not my peers that made me uncomfortable. Like, it was easy to tell a boy my age who was being rude to STFU...but the men always came off more threatening.
This is the entire point of the experiment. Teen girls, and little girls alike go through this on a daily basis. These kinds of questions are asked to those girls by ADULT MEN. That’s exactly what is happening here. An adult asking these questions and making them cry or uncomfortable is exactly the point being made.
@@anvitamohan7939 hun its called a social experiment for a reason. It doesn’t make us better or worse. It’s just informational, a lot of the times boys my age(im 17) and even men wont grasp the position they put us in until it’s being done to them. this is definitely not bullying btw… if this is bullying then what would you call the things that we’re told? And the people who say these things irl are definitely not trying to prove a point, they’re dead serious.
@@bpv8816 they are also bullying and so are these people and advertising it as an experiment for the world to see. If they wanted to go with this concept and prove a point they should have made a scripted skit or something. Grown ups are making children uncomfortable in both scenarios. This is not done. Plus, how do we know these boys who have done that to someone? They are sobbing, are you immune to that? If someone asked such things to girls I would still be angry and I am still angry when these boys are asked these. Both are bullies Two wrongs don't maje a right.
I really like this type of videos, it just reminded me why as girls we tend to be so insecure growing up. I heard this types of questions daily when growing up whether it was directed at me or women around. Even if you try to ignore them at the end of the day they will affect you and you start having thoughts like "maybe I should loose weight to look better", "if I behaved more 'like a girl' people would like me more" or "maybe I was wrong for defending myself and I was overreacting because 'women always act like that'"... It honestly f*cks you up real bad and it's hard to ignore those thoughts even when you have grown and know these thoughts are wrong 😔
And it's so integrated in each generation women really do believe in it. I grew up with my mom always trying to loose weight, saying she was "fat" when I didn't see that at all. My grandmother was annoying, too. Was always saying I had to behave more like a girl, the way I sat with my legs slightly open wasn't "girly". Even when I had a friend who was very affectionate and sweet she'd complain when we were hugging or close to each other because she was worried we might 'turn' lesbians. I think what bothered me the most was everytime both my mom and grandmother would say that we couldn't go out at night because "two women and a girl alone at night was no good" as if if a man was there everything would be magically okay. One day my grandma even told my cousin, who was 14, to accompany my mother who was getting some luggage from the car in brought daylight although he didn't want to. Her argument for this was because "he's a boy, he's stronger". Everytime I'm upset, sad for no reason or angry and my mom says it's "probably just your hormones" or "your period must be coming soon". That absolutely disvalues someone's sadness or pain because "op, women have hormones and aren't emotionally steady" I don't know. You could tell it pisses me off a bit. It's a bit worse growing up with a sexist religion where men are put above women, yet if you ask them it's because "god gave us different privileges" yet he gave much more to men than women.. (Sorry for the long text)
@@aaa-tp6ud I do encourage you to stand for yourself. Ik your self later on will question it, but never bother to that voice. This standing up & defending yourself will save you tons of time. I actually have my best friend's mom here telling how I am "living an ideal life" living with no care in the world.. going on walks at evening etc. Although it's not like I don't have my problems, I just tend to not to show it, well... Atleast "prefer" not to...
@@aaa-tp6ud you mentioning the religion thing reminded me of when my older brothers would pray my mom would cover her head out of respect or something like that and I never understood why and my grandmother when she lived with us would always criticizes the way I dressed saying that my shorts were to short and that was provocative and the way I would sit too she’d say it wasn’t lady like and when I burped too and she would tell me I should try doing my hair more often and would annoy bc for so long I was obsessed with the way I looked and how others viewed me and now that I was finally ok with the way I looked she moves in and starts saying things like this that kinda made me go back to that
I grew up with 3 brothers and 6 sisters. I have to admit my dad was pretty sexist af sometimes. He would say how women should be dressed up nice and clean. I would play outside all the time with my brothers and sisters so it wasn't bothering me at all. Sometimes I would be told by my dad that I was skinny and shit but I did not give a single fuck. Sometimes my brothers would tell me why don't I leave my hair down. Reality is I just like pony tails. I don't act like the typical feminine girl ig. But it doesn't matter to me. Just know you are responsible for letting your thoughts affect you or not. In the end negative shit like that shouldn't make you want to change if you know it's just ignorant comments.
Asking someone "are you on your period" when they're upset is extremely rude and belittling. It is the equivalent of telling someone they're being overdramatic because of the connotation that question has gained from society.
Yes, because sometimes people are indeed upset because of their period, and that's okay, but the implication 99% of the time is "your emotions are not valid if you're on your period". It's basically blaming and gaslighting the person for having a working uterus... Instead we could all be considerate of people being emotional during their period and take their struggles seriously, and then that question would become okay, because it would imply "are you going through a hard time?" instead.
I think it depends. As a woman I've asked and been asked that. Because we're women. We literally can sense, smell, and know when another woman is upset because of her period so I think we have that right. Example my boss was pissy and snapped at me on the phone. An hour later she's apologizing and literally crying. "You're on your period aren't you?" We get it. Hearing it from a man is like... Not the same.
@@BlueDragon-vm1bt like the person above you said, it really depends on who's asking. If any man other than maybe my dad asks, it's rude. If it's my mom, or my sister, it's understandable. Especially my mom, since mine is extremely punctual and her's comes right after mine.
@@uncreativename4249 That's understandable. It also depends on who's being asked, though. Personally I have no exceptions and I would be extremely uncomfortable no matter who asked me, even doctors. I know that's bad and I shouldn't be like that etc etc but that's how I am right now. My point is that no one should assume you'll be okay with them asking the question, no matter how close they think your relationship is, unless you've already talked about it or brought it up yourself
The question about being a feminist was pretty interesting, cause I think it can get misinterpreted really easily if you have zero clue about SK. They weren't just afraid of responding to that question cause they're not feminists (necessarily), but because stating you're a feminist can get you very serious backlash in South Korea, as it is seen by a great part (perhaps even the majority) of the population as an unacceptable thing. That doesn't go to say they are or aren't feminists, I just thought it was pretty interesting to see the fear of saying anything at all when asked about it. I'm not from South Korea, so seeing that as a bit of a 'third party' was really revealing about my own society and the global context we live in as a whole. I think a lot of people from around the world would have the same reaction, cause there's stigma and backlash for either saying you are or saying you aren't. It's a good measurement of the way feminism _is_ and is _seen_ nowadays, regardless of right or wrong, and it paints a good picture of where feminism is now and where it's going. Again, saying this without any judgments of value. It's just that seeing it from a 'detached' perspective in relation to SK has made me able to see it in that sort of 'detached' manner in general. It's even interesting that I feel the need to say this, cause I just made this whole comment about how it can be difficult to take a stance and I already now the kind of ideological comments I might get just by mentioning the word, even though the comment isn't meant to talk about the ideology itself at all.
This reminds me of a recent discussion with a man. The topic was the problem of misogyny in a community we were both members of. He felt that we shouldn't use the word misogyny to talk about misogyny because "some people may find it offensive". Giving these definitions a negative connotation just makes it easier to ignore the problem because no one wants to even talk about it.
@@StreamHypeBoyByNewJeans in most western countries, for the kost part, everyone has the freedom to dress however they want and wear whatwever they like. it is only a matter of their taste/preference.
The obscenities that are said or even implied in questions like these is infuriating a lot of times, but if you show any ounce of announce or anger, it’s your fault. “You’re being too sensitive” or “it’s just a joke”.
fr. this is why im having trouble finding out my emotions back then bc people would talk down on me then I'll become upset, they would tell me that "ah it's a joke, you're so dramatic". young me would ask "oh am i being too dramatic?" and that shit affected my whole life and i couldn't distinguish my own feelings and emotions as if im invalidating myself. but gladly im starting to validate my feelings now a days, no more listening to other people's bs !!
@@kur0_m111 u see..one time a boy classmate called my girl friend "fat", i scolded him, and he said "but, it's true though. Why r u angry?" Then i said, "do u like if i call u stick skinny?(add on multiple insults that really describe him)". Then he just shut up. So, my anger was valid. Everyone else would be angry if they r insulted
The fact that they couldn't answer when asked if they were feminists is so sad. It's seen as such a controversy to say that you're a feminist you'd literally get attacked for even implying that and it's just sad.
What makes you think they support equality in the first place ? Men usually don't like women being equal to them lmao that shit hurts their sensitive snowflake masculinity ego so bad 💀
This really opened my eyes, because I’ve actually asked some of these questions and I’m a girl! What this taught me is that I don’t have to be a boy to be sexist to a girl. And just like that guy said, I really need to be careful with my words. This an implicit bias I didn’t even realize I had. Thank you for making this video.
Strong of you to realise it!! And to make a change instead of denying it. There’s way too much denial of peoples poor behaviours bc it puts them in a bad light, but in reality admitting and committing to change shows just how much wiser and good-hearted that person is and have potential to be!
"R u on a period" attacked me lol, bcz i ask that to some ppl too (as a joke but still), and im a girl. I felt now how unconfortable that sounds to the listener ;-;
I gotta say, you must be oke of a kind to realize your mistake, admit mistake, and actively try to fix it. Many people would deny it or say that it's fine. I think that's really admirable of you! 😊
Respect to you for owning up to the mistake and also trying to be better about it. It's its own struggle to just have people accept that they're wrong about something, and then an entirely different one for them to decide to change and be better. Emotional intelligence is very good to have.
I have broad shoulders and thick thighs and I'm 5'5 and I'm a girl. I was often told by my relatives and all about how "masculine" I was. About how I acted as a boy more than a girl.I love wearing hoodies, I'm sporty and I have been always body shamed because I was skinny growing up but now that I eat everyone comes up with "you are fat".I was judged and told whether I was loud or quiet. I became very quiet after all this happened and affected me and then people were like "she's so quiet". THAT'S WHY DO WHATEVER THE SHIT YOU WANT. YOU RESPECT YOUR OWN MASCULINITY AND FEMININITY AND PEOPLE WILL TOO.
You can't win. The goal posts are constantly moving so you will always have someone telling you that you should change this or that and if you do someone else will tell you that you shouldn't have.
"why are you so serious?' "are you on your period?" "you lost weight! & you gained weight right?" "WHY ARE YOU SO EMOTINAL?" or any comment about my clothes, these ones are always the ones that really makes me angry, like i can't keep my mouth shut, so uncomfy, and I've heard them way too much in my life and when we reply with an anger tone they just generalize the term"feminist". sending love to all my women out there, it's an everyday fight, stay strong
As girls/young women/older women, it’s just straight up universal. we can be from completely different countries and probably recount the similarities of what we’ve been asked/told throughout our lives by boys/young and older men. I felt mad uncomfortable watching because it took me back to so many experiences I’ve had.
@@HaroldIsCool based on your name I’m going to assume you’re not a woman/girl. Therefore you speak for not one single person that has experienced this. Your opinion is null and void. And if you are, then your are so blind. It is very universal, you’re just clouded in your own personal reality.
It's even better actually. Lol, most of the questions in reality would be followed by the asker interrupting and not caring at all what the answerer thought. Best thing to do is stop engaging, because even answering rudely, though far better than a polite answer, is encouraging them by means of entertainment.
Well I think safety is more important than sticking up for yourself sometimes though…upsetting the wrong guy can get you assaulted or followed home. There’s also the situation of a guy bugging you while you’re at work, showing attitude (whether it’s deserved or not) towards a costumer can get you fired. It sucks but it’s the world we live in unfortunately
I would love to do that but the rude answer usually comes to my mind 3 weeks later at 3am, so I usually go with the polite answer and the aknward laugh. I think that with the only one that I snap immediately is the "are u in your period" one
This is so harsh, but also part of me thinks everyone should do this. Everything is just a matter of perspective. It only takes a little compassion to realize it’s not that hard to be kind. But compassion can be hard unless you truly take the time to try and see from others perspective. We normally only live as ourselves
@@ctashi7081 Wdym? Their responses to most questions were very forward-thinking. One boy even said he wouldn’t mind being a stay-at-home dad if his spouse had a more high-paying career than he did and could provide better. Another boy mentions there no longer being a boundary between boys and girls. I think that’s quite impressive considering how far we’ve come.
I didn’t need to listen to boy because I know they can relate to questions like theses too so it’s not really that surprising. What is surprising as that they admit since a lot of guys are insecure.
“Yes, I agree. I don’t like my school uniform either” 😂😂😂😂😭 but seriously can we get some male people with this level of security on THIS side of the border?
5:38 really got me. There's zero way for someone to "correctly" answer that question, much like the others. But that one is just specifically intended to be degrading. My family used to call me fat, so I take that kind of stuff with a grain of salt now, but asking if I'm on my period is a hugely inappropriate way to ask "are you okay" or "why are you upset"
IMO it's often a way to dismiss and invalidate a woman's feelings. A guy can say something really rude and disgusting and if she reacts with anger he can blame it on her, imply her anger is unreasonable and absolve himself of blame all in one.
i know this is an experiment, but if anyone needs to hear this: as a male, you do not need to be masculine. if someone ever says that, they have a lot of their own shit to get through that they hate about themselves. you’re amazing. ♥️
I completely agree, I think masculinity being a normal thing should be left behind. It shouldn't be a thing to hide your emotions and nobody should have to
Tbh I feel like a portion of these questions are also asked to men. Not all of them obv. But questions like,"why are u emotional" or "shouldn't u act like a boy" and stuff asked to them a lot too. I feel bad for these boys even though it's an experiment
Nobody _needs_ to be anything, but I find it difficult to deny that people will respond more positively to you if you inspire them or surpass their expectations, or otherwise make a positive impression on them subconsciously. On the other hand, focusing too much on external perceptions like some sort of performing monkey is not how you become truly comfortable with yourself. I've never been the stereotypically masculine type and I've made my peace with that in my own way. I just try to improve myself day by day.
Masculinity is necessary for all men. It's what makes us providers and protectors. There's no need to abandon your manhood just because feminism says it's "toxic." That's just anti male propaganda. Be proud of your masculinity
@@Kid_Charlemagne76 tell me u don't know what toxic masculinity is without telling me u don't know what it is. Also u sound like exactly the person who loves to put other men down by saying they aren't masculine enough. It's funny u think we are putting them down.
So glad you did a video like this. Even tho topics like these still get empathized a lot these days, it can never be too much to talk about them. Those kind of questions can be hurtful and by teaching everybody that, maybe we could reduce the level of them being asked in a day-to-day life. Thanks Shine Teen!!🥰💕
I thought all these boys were very sweet. They were put in an uncomfortable/different situation than they're use to and you can tell a lot of them really thought about every question. It was wonderful to see them reflect on the questions and their answers when the experiment was over. Every one of them definitely left with a different outlook on the expectations women are held to and the comments/questions people think are okay to say/ask. Just like one of them said, they can sound caring, but they really come off as sarcastic and uncaring.
bro the way their answering it like it’s just some easy answer. When girls retort to these types of questions, we just get more shit thrown at us. It’s a continuous conversation that we just can’t seem to win. It’s not just a one and done deal, it’s constant harassment and then being told to deal with it and not be so sensitive
They're facing it for the first and last time, women are used to this shit now that we are tired and we if ww talk back we're getting labeled by some sensitive mf
The way they looked so shocked and the hurt was so clear on their faces... That was agonizing to watch, both seeing someone experience that for the first time and knowing girls have learned to go through it all the time without even flinching (which doesn't mean it hurts less, just that it's internalised)
Hope this experience could help these guys to avoid making certain comments towards women in the future because if they felt uncomfortable with a few questions, imagine what women have to go through hearing this everyday
Just felt the need to say that- normalizing empathy and validating emotions can cause more boys like these to grow into men with these same values and opinions
for me, as a girl, the one that i most heard in my life is "are you on your period?", it's making me soooo mad... and something that wasn't mentioned here is "what boys are gonna think" i heard it soooo much, im like ??? do i need boys approbation ? no i certainly dont need it
This is so true, like are we not allowed to feel anger without it being invalidated by the question "are you on your period?" And this is part of the reason why women arent taken seriously most of the time and it really is annoying.
It's so dumb that it's ever even suggested that we need to do things to impress boys, and on the other hand that if we dress up or something it must be for the boys. Who said we wanted to impress a boy? Or anyone for that matter? Maybe we just did it for ourselves to feel good. And we don't need to make ourselves more appealing "for boys" we can just be ourselves.
being asked if i'm pregnant because i feel sick. >_> i have a chronic illness that makes me nauseated all the time, but how convenient it would be if my femaleness would just make me totally immune to any kind of sickness like that. >.
Yes! I once had a headache at work and mentioned it in passing and a coworker asked me if I was pregnant. Particularly in my 20's people seemed to think anything was a sign I was pregnant and that they were entitled to ask me about it. Just stop!
Same. Was sick at work for some time and folks kept asking me if I was pregnant. Worse, they didn't believe me when I said no, nevermind that it was just not possible at the time.
@@LaRanaMordaz oh that's so heartbreaking. i'm so sorry you had to go through that. ugh. i've had my share of intrusive questions/ assumptions about my ability/ willingness/ need to get pregnant and even how many children i was allowed to have. no questions from those people on whether or not i WANTED to have children. (i did, but that didn't make it right.)
remember when my brother was mansplaning a topic I'm deep into and then, when I told him to let me talk, he said "you're being too sensitive, control your hormones, are you on your period" and that freaked me out because it wasn't the first time he said something like that being attacked like that in your own family sucks btw the guys were so sweet with some of their answers that I totally melted with the one saying he is willing to take care of the children and the house ;;;
Typically mansplaining is when a man explains something to a woman that is ABOUT women (periods, childbirth, the female experience in general), but some people misuse it and claim that a man explaining ANYTHING to a woman is "mansplaining". Honestly, I'm not a man and I do that to people ALL THE TIME. I'll be telling my dad about something he already knows about ALL THE TIME. So "mansplaining" as a word is, virtually, just sexist. I've seen more women "womansplain" to men ABOUT male things, than I have men to women.
I am a lady and have been asked these uncomfortable questions often. I felt bad as I could visibly see how these young boys were becoming more and more uncomfortable and upset. You could see how they were shrinking into themselves. Now imagine all these women in the world experiencing this on a daily basis. I hope this reaches more people. I would love to see other channels remake this.
the “are you on your period” question always hits me, just because I have attitude or is in a bad mood doesn’t mean I’m on my period, even if it’s a “joke” or they’re sarcastically asking if I still think it’s really insensitive to ask someone that unless you’re really close to them and are both female
@@ray_x6959 how?? Its a really annoying question because it's like women arent allowed to feel anger without it being invalidated with the question "are you on your period" and its part of the reason why women arent taken seriously and it is a bother to most women. Of course men's anger is never invalidated because they must have a "good reason"
@@witchdust8900 facts, I really appreciate that you understood what I was trying to say because I get asked this question very often and even by my own brother which gets really really annoying, because to me, talking about my period or like talking about personal stuff makes me feel uncomfortable and so I never know how to reply or I lie saying “no”
Those people are trying to give women an excuse for their bad attitudes. Those dudes refuse to see that women can be crappy people or pains in the but.
As a girl, I also keep receiving statements like "Why aren't you smiling?" or "You should smile more!" from other people. I am generally a jolly person and I really smile a lot, but creeps tend to take that as an invitation to harass you. I mean, you don't even need to do anything and some would still be catcalling and follow you like you owe then something.
I don't really understand the point of questions like that whether you're a girl/woman or not, tbh. Like, you're just... being? Yourself? Why is whether you're smiling or not important? lol you're not doing it as some sort of public service, and even if they want you to be happier so you'd smile naturally, being asked that directly is a surefire way to get the opposite effect. I know I've had people ask me if I'm okay before because sometimes when I'm deep in thought it looks like I'm zoning out or staring into the distance. I haven't had smiling, though.
Some more: “Why were you out so late at night? Don’t you know what can happen?” “You’re acting too bold/straightforward/confident for a girl” Generally anything condescending or implying that females are weak just makes me want to throw all of my 3 hands.
As a girl with tomboy streaks, whenever people tell me to be "softer" cuz it's more "proper" for a girl to be that way, it just motivates me to behave even manlier and more aggressive lol Just to flip those people off without actually flipping them off.
I get asked those questions alot (im a male) except the period part (since im a male lol) but yeah its actually very traumatizing for me since i still get asked these and not by random people my brothers and parents ask me those and the "is that how boys act?" i forgot what u said but something similar to that i actually hate that question so-so much because i was raised by my sister while she was 6 years old when i turned 1 years old shes the one that started caring for me etc because my dad was always at work or traveling and my mom never paid much attention to me so im feminine and i have female characteristics like alot so when i get asked that i really wanna cry because you werent there for me you never cared for me my sister who was 6 years old raised me cared for me etc till now and now im 15 and she still cares about me more then you do my dad gets mad at me and says why do you act like this? sit properly. thats not how men are supposed to act. sit like a man. why are you moving your hands like a girl? when i was a kid till now i have more female friends then male friends and these questions made me insecure about how i walk how i move how i speak even my own body its not funny to ask a girl or a guy these questions even out of curiosity and im an omniverted but im more introverted then extroverted so sometimes when people ask me these questions or argue with my i get into a mental shock and idk what to do and let them yell at me and listen to them because thats what my parents used to do to me and still do instead of raising me like their son and i was actually born gay like some yall might say "oh a person cant be born gay" false. Ever since i was a baby i never liked a girl i just had female role models and i looked up to them but never liked them but i always liked guys and when i turned 13 i became bisexual but still more interested in men and my parents are asian, west asian to be specific and you know asians are closed-minded people (most of them) so only my female cousin my female friends and school friends and sister know im bi and my parents always tell me "why do you do this are you gay?"and questions similar to that and my parents are muslim but my dad is more religious in islam but i am muslim too but yeah yk and my dad keeps telling me these stories about how gay people were punished by god etc and i get scared because thats not nice to say and especially this sentence "Gay people go to hell" like YOU ARE NOT GOD YOU WONT BE THE PERSON WHO TELLS ME WHERE ILL GO OR WHERE THEYLL GO SO DONT SAY THAT BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW LIKE GOD KNOWS MAYBE IN HEAVEN YOU MIGHT HAVE A GAY NEIGHBOR LIKE NO. DONT SAY THAT. But yeah sorry i just wanted to vent and my parents have my phone so i cannot vent to my therapist about this :) ty to the people who read this lol
Hey I'm a lesbian and not accepted also by my parents. I'm from eastern Europe which is the most homophobic part of Europe, being gay is not allowed as part of the law in my country😔. I always explain to people I wish I was straight but I was born lesbian and I cant change that. I'm scared if my parents force me to marry a man one day when I'm older I will be sui*id*al. I'm so sorry about what you have been through, and I can relate to it a lot. Let's hope the world will become a better place in the future c': . Especially for us from countries where being gay is seen as really bad.
I think gay people do go to heaven I'm also from a religious family and I have studied a lot about what the holy books say about gay people. I think the people who say we dont go to heaven are wrong. We can still be gay and religious , the people who say we are not allowed by god arent god, they cant speak for god. God created us this way and we are perfect as we are.
hey, i hope you know that there are people out there who love you! stay strong and keep being who you are ... have no regrets about it. hold onto the people who have supported you since childhood; they are your biggest allies. ❤
at some point while watching this i went to myself "oh no, they're going to leave this place feeling so self conscious about themselves" ... as if I'm not faced with the same questions and more on the daily. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy yet its so normalized
The amount of times people asked me about my sexuality, just cause I like basketball or things they think that is too masculine for females. Honestly, I don't mind it at first, I actually just laughed it off. But, when people kept asking the same question again and again, it is kind of getting annoying. I also remember my grandpa told me he wish I was a boy. Because I can be a basketball player with my height(not even that tall anw 😩) I was like eh, basketball is not only for men. Wydm by that 😩
This made me cry lmao, I never really put much thought in these questions when they are asked about me, it’s annoying and stupid but I didn’t think it actually bothered me, until I watch this video and all of those questions piled up in just a few short minutes, it gets intense, it’s like every single memory of me I being asked about my femininity or weight or appearance or emotions all floated to the surface and I realize how ugly these “minor annoyance” actually is and how much it can actually hurt.
"Why don't u have one? You're pretty attractive..?" "I am?" wow- I- I felt that bro I feel like that guy...like- even though he knew it was fake I feel like he took some of those questions real and his answers were genuine sadness/anxiety/insecureness
"Are you a feminist?" Seriously, the word has lost its meaning and it's now being considered as a negative term. Anyone who wants gender equality.. not female superiority nor male superiority, Gender equality. IS a Feminist and supports Feminism! It doesn't matter if it's a Man or a Woman. So Boys don't have get uncomfortable, you could just state your opinion(Same for anyone). The way most of boys answered actually made me smile! 🙃
Yes well most people see it as a thing for women, and it kind of is because women are the ones who have been treated as less than since the beginning of history so it makes sense. If it's for gender equality, the ones who are arent being treated equal are the ones who agree with feminism.
@@witchdust8900 Hmm.. Agreed. And it actually makes sense why most men don't agree with Feminism and make the other men who agree with it feel like it's something wrong.
I'm sort of curious if the word also has the same or different connotations in korean, as I recall on a different one of their videos that people in the comments had been explaining that the word that was translated as something in English had different connotations to it and was closer to a different word in korean, so that may also factor into it as well
@@oreradovanovi5204 yeah its really sad how gender equality has turned into something negative all because men still want to remain surperior and cant handle the idea of equality because theyve been privelaged all their life and as a result of that view equality as oppression and take the word "feminism" as a negative/offensive term. (I understand the situation is different for Korea though)
I normally don't feel offended by these qns but when they asked them to these guys their level of uneasiness made me realise how accustomed I have become to the stuff said in the video. I am legit so habituated to these qns that I have stopped feeling bad about them. Don't know how I am supposed to process this piece of info
Actually you're doing great, that means you have the ability to disregard insults towards you and remain confident to yourself, I applaud you for that and honestly wish I could do the same :) ~ A man who's probably going to hell, based on all the comments on this video
When he said you look sick without makeup I got so mad. I legit wonder why does no one ever say that to boys. Or look tired, or scary...like it's just a person's FACE! Especially when going to work and clients/patrons say things like this to you it's ludicrous
My own mother keeps telling me I need to wear makeup to cover my impurities and it's so hurtful, because as you said no one is telling this to boys. I wanted to learn how to wear makeup because I wanted to look cute for myself. I remember putting on some of it and going out to the library to enjoy myself, and now I refuse to wear it, cause I feel like once I start I'll feel ugly without it.
@@jessie450 lol women are 'allowed' to age; you just lose privilege of being regarded as a desirable sex object when you do and that's what you're complaining about. A young, white, conventionally attractive woman is the most privileged it gets (or pretty close anyway) - - but of course it doesn't last an entire life, yet women act like they're oppressed b/c their privilege has a sell-by date. The thing used to be that women would redefine themselves as a mother and head of a family and their life would be about that and not being a hot young girl or w/e. Now it's normalised to have women past 30 trying desperately to stay party-girls in denial of reality; it's sad
@@helvete_ingres4717 To play devil's advocate, I can't help but wonder whether part of this is simply a case of subverted expectations as well. It's true that women are valued for youthful looks in terms of sexual attraction disproportionately to men, but there are a whole host of dichotomies and false comparisons in that arena. But if I think of it like this: as a child, I got a free pass for doing a lot of things children do, like playing around or being silly in public, and I was praised and treated positively for seemingly arbitrary reasons. Yet suddenly as I became older, I was lumbered with expectations, you should be doing this, you shouldn't be doing that, and I was less praised for doing things but rather criticised for not doing things. But from my perspective nothing changed. So when girls start developing and becoming attractive, I'm sure it's a novel yet not entirely unpleasant feeling when people, boys especially, start treating them more positively for essentially no reason save their developing secondary sex characteristics. And when this is so often reinforced it becomes the expected norm. So for it to suddenly disappear someday I'm sure there are some women who feel like the rug has been pulled from underneath them. Note for the ladies out there that I'm not trying to "mansplain" anything, merely speculating. Of course, I have seen a good measure of what you describe as well, and I do think it's sad. As _some_ women so often like to remind men, nobody is entitled to sex (or special treatment!) and this does extend to the so-called fairer sex as well. I don't think anyone, men or women, should feel pressured to have children if they don't want them, because that lingering dissatisfaction will surely cause problems for the child(ren) as well. But at the same time there does seem to be something of a cultural attack on the nuclear family and the erosion of traditional family values, which may seem to solve some long-standing issues in that area but also eradicates a whole lot of positives. I wonder what the structure of society will look like in another 50 years or so. I hope I manage to live long enough to see it play out.
as a man, Makup is NOT necessary! Depends on a few factors. 9/10 I prefer a girl WITHOUT IT. I feel it is only acceptable for very important or formal gatherings, or if you just have some very unfortunate facial features you would rather not show in public. A couple freckles ADDS CHARACTER
Oh god the personality of the boy at 3:33 is sooo calming and soothing *chef's kiss * I like himmm!!!! I want a boyfriend like him! He just looks so self-reserved and I like that kind of personality
All of these young men are so thoughtful and intelligent. Very impressed with their answers and their responses upon learning the intent of the video. Their parents should be proud to have raised them so well!
If someone ask you some of these questions and you are not able to insult/ argue with the other person, just agree confidently like: « yes, you are right. What about that? » the person won’t know how to reply. Be confident. Don’t show them weakness, if not they will continue on those weakness .
3:11 "I would discuss with my spouse and if my spouse makes more money than me then I will take more care of house chores and parenting". Well I hope my future husband will be like this; there's no rule saying that only men should be working and supporting the family financially and women should only be taking care of the children. And yes I know that for some families this is not true, but I have seen a lot of women in my mom's generation giving up their careers just to take care of the family. I know it's a tough choice, but most pressures are put on women. I really do appreciate how this boy would be willing to discuss it with his spouse.
I agree with you that it should not be assumed that the responsibility will fall solely on the man. Talking with your spouse is the right course of action. Even if it ends up that the man is the provider for the family, it's very different if he believes his wife should stay home and take care of the kids, versus he simply takes pride in being able to provide for the people that he loves (as I assume his wife would, were she to be the main provider).
i'm happy these boys got to do this. maybe they witness this in their everyday life and don't do much about it, but this made them really think about what girls go through. i'm really hopeful they will become good men in the future
I'd like to share my personal experience living as a woman in our society! When I was 15 I became a victim of human trafficking! I spend two years (2016-17)of my life in hell! During those times I realised that no one will be there to help us when we're in trouble bcz that's how this world has turned into. I was forcefully taken to many places! At first I was kidnapped into a small village, on the outside this place may look so calm but on the inside it was a literal zoo! Everyone were behaving like animals! During the first two three days I somehow managed to get myself out from being chosen ! I was locked inside a shabby building with many other girls of different ages (and some boys as well I think those guys were turning them into trans)! The days I spend there, was literally the most tragic experience in my life! Bcz of my luck I was only chosen once and I somehow managed to break that mf's head!! But the consequence was harsh. A two or three men( I think it was two) came inside the room and they started to beat me up ! My ears and nose were bleeding and I think my back bone was cracked it was so painful but I didn't go to the hospital bcz there were no hospital duhh!! None of the girls dared to touch me! And I sat on the floor bcz I wanted to prove that they can't touch me! And yeah there was a lot of experience, I wanted to share it with y'all but it's a comment section so, I think I'm gonna stop here! From my experience I realised that , "In our society it's not easy to leave as a woman!"It took me three years to become the woman that I'm right now and yeah I'm not at all embarrassed or afraid to share my experience with y'all bcz, we need people to stand up for the crime against women, as well as men!! P.S.Loved your video !
@linalalisa Actually Human Trafficking is all over the world, not just in Pakistan, you don't have to feel bad about your country!If anything needs to be changed, it's us ,human beings! Thanks a lot for your kindness ❣️
The way none of them could reply to “Are you a feminist” because in korea feminism is treated like some type of crime, just look at those who burn items from female idols who showed support to feminism in any type of way be it even reading a simple book about it
I love these savage, sarcastic responses. Their similar to the ones I give to anyone who asks? Not only guys asks girls these questions, girls ask them too
This describes how all kpop idols are treated they’re always expected to be polite but when they’re not like any normal human they’re labeled as rude and selfish. Males have to fit into the manly stereotype or else they’re gay and females have to fit the cute stereotype
![[Experiment] Man and Woman Swap Sexist Questions](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/Dl3Pc61WCGY/mqdefault.jpg)
“yeah, I agree my outfit looks bad. But yours is worse”
best line from this whole vid lmao
ikr it was such a mood
I'd argue it was "I'm an ENFP, can't help it"
@@flyingspacebrainedidiot yes I like that one to
That kid did not back down at all
I replayed that. I like that kid. 😄
Every single one of them hesitated on the question "are you a feminist?" Because people have forgotten what the definition of the word is, and they now confuse it with misandry.
soo true ... at my side of the world being a feminist it's like a sin.. here arrange marriages are a norm where people go on looking for women who are NOT feminists .. like a whole survey whether u are or u are not in fact a feminist , whether u believe u have rights or not.. and yes alot of feminists' themselves have forgotten the actuall meanig .. alot of feminists' ive met so far in my society are in fact misandrists, but i can't happen to blame them the society i live in is in fact alot misogynist it self .. and to be honest not only men here are against women speaking up but alot of women themselves are against women speaking for themselves ... messed up world
@@strixthebasiliskandhalfphoenix yes. That called internalized misogyny.
Feminism is especially a sensitive topic in South Korea
Feminism is considered as equal to feminazis in SK
It's because the radical feminism overshadows the innocent one, just open reddit and look up for anything related to feminism, what you will find is hatred after hatred. Unless the ideology clears out it's problematic parts I don't see it ever succeeding tbh, and they happen to be quite many on political level.
As a guy I wouldn't never call myself feminism, but that will not stop me from striving for a fairer and more respectful world.
“I wore base makeup today.” Yes honey.
“Well, humans have emotions.” Indeed.
“Well, I’m ENFP, so I suppose that makes me emotional?” I felt this in my soul.
He was perfect! 😭
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@@fireandsomethingsomethings8887 you guys are incredible ❤️
@@fireandsomethingsomethings8887 I was ENTP ten years ago but hey, I get the ENFPs. I am just so HAPPY this lad said it like, "I'm emotional, so the freak what?"
One question that really irritates me as a woman is when we plan on having kids. People have zero regard towards how this question can make a woman feel. You don't know if we're struggling with infertility, miscarried, want kids but isn't the right time, want to adopt/foster, or just don't want kids. I know a large part of the time the question isn't being asked in a mean way but frankly unless the person is actively speaking to you about their family planning it's no one else's business.
It's no one's business, plus every time I told someone I don't want kids, they say that every woman wants kids...
@@LondonOak. I'll never understand why people are so "involved" in women's decisions to have children. Last time I checked my uterus is MY uterus.
@@LondonOak. If I ever got that reply I would probably say something along the lines of well since I'm apparently not a woman what am I then?
@@sarahsays194 yeah, and they’re always like “b-but you were born with…OVARIES,how could you not want kids!? It’s the womanly instinct!” Like,ok Derick,you try pushing a baby out of your vag**a. Oh that’s right,YOU DON’T HAVE ONE
Couldn't agree more!!
“All human beings have emotions” !!!
I love his answer
The answer was pretty good.
I don't have emotions
@@growwithbhushan and how is lifr without emotions?
@@growwithbhushan edgy
when they asked him what a “boyish manner” was, I could see him question every gender norm he’d ever been placed under
I got unreasonably happy when the one boy said he would talk with his spouse and if they made more than him he would take care of the house and child. Someone is raising that boy very well.
I was pleasantly surprised, that was the most positive part
Fr his parents did a good job
@Louis Kingsta It's different for men and Women though...
Women are expected to take care of kids so the question wouldn't even be asked 😂 cope harder
@Louis Kingsta Absolutely no one would be "pressed". His line of reasoning is common among all genders lol.
I can’t speak on Korea but I did do a unit on discrimination(gender studies? It was mostly societal gender stuff) in Japanese society. There are different ways to speak about marriages, and some of the more traditional terms essentially equate the husband to the ‘master’ or household head while the wife is “house woman” or “inside the house”. Nowadays such terms are rare and generally much lighter terms are used, ones that don’t have archaic connotations. It’s becoming more common for both parents in a family to have successful careers and maternity leave and daycare is a big part of this.
The term used for “house wife” is gender neutral, and as society changes more men are going by the same term. There is still an imbalance in terms of things like work life balance though. Usually, women still do the majority of the housework, even when also working full time. This kind of parallels with what the kid said, about how if his wife was his main source of income then he would try to do more, not all or the majority of the work. In the inverse situation, a stay at home wife would be expected to do all if not most of the housework.
There’s also workplace discrimination, etc, but things are getting better and are not just archaic as some people expect foreign places to be. I think a lot of Japan’s development in this regard has been stunted by their history with invasion (lots of major cultural shifts that changed their views on sexuality, power dynamics etc, thanks America) and also their culture of “don’t stick out, don’t make a fuss”.
Besides hetero couples though I know the attitude towards same sex couples is pretty mild. My Japanese teacher’s sister is gay and when her Japanese in laws met her sister and her sister’s girlfriend(or wife idk) it wasn’t really a big deal. Even if it was, the cultural attitude leans much more towards keeping to yourself if you don’t like something, maybe being a bit passive aggressive, but generally no bible bashing. There’s also the fact that gay couples are generally more prevalent in Japanese media, even if they’re more so treated as a novelty.
In a way, Japan is simultaneously more and less progressive than many western nations. Religion is less prevalent and far less extremist, but a culture of “not sticking out” simultaneously softens hateful words and acts, and makes it harder to rally against unfair systems and biases.
I think the toughest thing is realizing that as women, we say or receive the same things from our female peers. It’s just as much an issue with women/girls making their own community self-conscious and uncomfortable with an image of what a woman “should” be.
Yes! And don't be labeling them if they are working in fast food. I had an older woman say 'If you stayed in school, you would have a better job.' 🙄I had my Bachelors degree for about 3 yrs by then.
I think a lot of these question are from women directed towards women yeah...
EXACTLY. in my case, it comes from my own mom too who's supposed to be a role model for me as the closest fellow female in my life. Apparently, I act too masculine for them and I should be more ladylike (I really don't want to and I just want to be comfortable, not minding gender roles)
@@francinev3971 My mom is exactly the same way. She has a lot of good advice, but I found that much of it did more harm than good when I was a girl and young woman. We can be classy and dress/appear in a way that is appropriate for the situation but still be comfortable in our own skins. Sweat pants aren't appropriate for a dressy event, but that doesn't mean I can't wear a pant suit instead of a cocktail dress and heels. I really didn't find my own style until I was in my twenties. And at 30, married, and a mother myself, my mom still nitpicks me. But I've gotten better at standing my ground and knowing myself. And she's gotten better at realizing when to back off. Hoping things with your mom get easier.
It’s true, people of the same sex can be vicious towards their peers. I mean, just look at what happens to boys who don’t act like other boys expect them to. They’re harassed pretty much throughout their youth and then they have much lower chances of getting a mate in adulthood because women generally prefer a certain stereotype of men. And quite often they might get belittled by their girlfriend for not being ‘man’ enough (Lady Macbeth style - I’ve seen my own mother do this to my father and have witnessed him literally restraining himself from getting physical and removing himself when she goes ‘Other men would do x-y-z for their wife’ amongst other things).
Sadly, people don’t just need to fight ‘the others’ they need to constantly resist their peers, who’re meant to be supportive and understanding.
I hate being asked why I look so serious- It’s just my face! I especially hate when they then tell me to smile or say I should smile more
joker moment
ugh, i got this a lot growing up and from my own family too :,,( and it was even harder ‘cause i just struggled with coping with what was going on at home
It's worse when you have a brf, people just assume you are angry, no, I just don't have to go around smiling all day
we live in a society...
That's right!!! What I do now even if it sounds "irrespecful" it's tell them: "Did you say something funny? If not why should I be smiling all the time??" And I don't care anymore, I guess as I grown up now I just don't let it pass, I don't have to try and be "polite" anymore, You get tired.. but no more
you know what’s a horrible feeling? Being asked these questions by grown men twice your age and still feeling the need to laugh it off politely rather than put them in their place🙃
Not standing up against it cause it will get you in physical trouble and zero sympathy from whoever you ask help from is an even horrible feeling
@@straykidswoo4850 if you speak against it you’re a bitch, if you do nothing you agreed to it. There’s no winning.
@@decentgrocerybag4003 ^^^^^
And why do you feel like you need to laugh it off politely? Just tell them to piss off and tell them to look at themselves and mind their own business.
@@Euxiphipops77 We can’t just tell them to piss off. We will be labelled as bitches and hard to work with, lose good connections, risk being followed after the interview, harassed and so many more possibilities that seem wild but are way too real. Telling someone physically bigger than you and more influential to piss off is a death wish.
"Why are you being so sensitive? Is it that time of the month for you?" Faced this more than once!
Right!! I had a panic attack once and the blame was put on my period
"Hysteria" being named after our parts!!
Every.fuvking.time. And now I just don’t show any emotion even to my family.
Someone mind explaining it to me? I'm girl and I have periods and stuff but, why other girls get offended by this question? Like, if it's not the case you could just say so.
@@lyac04 During periods many girls have mood swings, sometimes it can make us really depressed, or agitated with little things, etc. Therefore, when we get angry there are many people who disregard our emotions by assuming that its just 'that time of the month' and probably we are having a mood tantrum. This kind of thought process invalidates our feelings as if whatever happened is not a big deal and we our simply overreacting, thats why we get offened.
"Yeah, my outfit does look bad, but yours is worse"
Fucking legend
The whole period thing always makes me mad because it's very sexist and gives less value to whatever the girl might be feeling. Like assuming that we're mad just bc we're bleeding is hurtful.
Yes, the sad thing is I would get this from my own mum. But I have to forgive her because she has internalized misogyny. PMS can aggravate already existing anxiety or depression, but I found a lot of my anxiety around that time was because I was afraid my mum (or anyone) would find out I was on my period, so I would feel shame.
@@rayezx my mom is also similar and despite the fact she is educated ..I would have become like her if it were not for my father ..
That remark has always hit me hard even though it's never been directed at me before. As a man I really do find it really hurtful since it assumes that people who do experience periods in general are only mad because of the bleeding and whatnot.
I mean, I feel like if men bled they would be mad about it too. Also the fact that the question is far too personal, like why do you think its okay to ask me something like that? Both incredibly invasive and demeaning.
IKR. That one triggers me the most
Hearing these questions being asked as a girl made me so uncomfy because of the fact that I often hear them in my everyday life and am expected to answer politely or to just brush them off. The sad thing is that you could see on some of the boys that they felt uncomfortable hearing some of them too... Words really are powerful and I do not stand behind people who throw awful comments at others without thinking about how it could impact them first. Everybody is secretly going through something, so back-handed comments like these only make it worse.
Yes 👏👏👏👏👏
It is so "normal" being asked such questions over and over again😩 Even my mom asked me such questions from time to time🤦🏻 it's crazy considering that these questions are just the harmless ones ..... Sometimes it really sucks to be a Woman😒
@@xXGestoerTXx
Feel you
@@notwerkinginthishouse8634 i really hope society will change for the better ... It were the best for all living beings on this planet
@@xXGestoerTXx yeah :(
People often greet me by commenting on my weight
they say it’s “for my own good” but it just makes me feel bad about myself
@@elttttt1490
Ignore them!
3:08 this was adorable, the way he just completely ignored gender roles and went with what would make more sense for him is awesome. the complete lack of hesitation when he said he would be ok with staying home to take care of the child was really admirable in my opinion.
Right? I felt my heart warm at that. We need more people to understand that gender roles don’t matter.
That was based
Absolutely loved that :)
Same tbh. We need more people like him!!
It made me unreasonably happy.
“Why are you so emotional?” “Umm you know all human beings have emotions?” I’M DYING
Now let's bring in the parents and have them answer frequently asked questions by parents to their kids that are mentally damaging!
Like what questions? edit: thank you to everyone that answered me i get it now, i dont need any more answers.
2nd edit: this is 7months old and ive read a lot of interesting answers. no offence but ive read enough answers. thank you! Dont tag me anymore plz
Yes
Yes let's do that
YES
Omg thisss
Interesting how they’re basically talking back to the interviewer for asking these questions, but if a woman talked back to a man who asked her these questions, she’d be labelled as “rude,” “un-feminine,” “doesn’t know any manners,” etc.. It goes to show that even if a woman tries to defend herself, no man would take her seriously. These boys keep bringing up “should it be different for boys and girls then?” as a response to the interviewer, but watch what happens if a woman says that. Good video!
true!
None of those matters. What other people say is irrelevant. The mind is where the matter is. It doesn't matter what society thinks, it is what is inside your head that controls you.
Maybe it depends on where you live on the world? I don't hear that a lot where I live but maybe it could be the case for a place that has supported suppressing women for years? I don't know I would let someone who does live in those areas talk about stuff like this
SO TRUEEEEE
and it hurts like hell
I don't think you realize that men and women are different.
the boy with purple tie was clearly so uncomfortable but kept answering all by smiling and being positive/honest about his style and mannerisms and it was quite interesting to see but also quite relatable to some extend, being nervous and uncomfortable but still trying to stand up for yourself (for reference I'm a trans man so I grew up hearing these a lot "as a girl") that was a very intriguing experiment
He's so cute
O: Hello, fellow trans dude!
Im also a trans guy
Yooo trans dude here too so i feel u man
Sending you love
ENFP boy was precious!😭
"I would discuss with my spouse and if my spouse makes more money than me then I will take more care of house chores and parenting."
Finally someone understands that the goal is to make sure someone is at work making money and another is available to raise the children not trying to conform to what society deems as a 'normal' family life.
You know his social media:)
I loved him before knowing he was a ENFP 😭👍🏻 I think as a ENFP I can sense who is part of my community 😂😂
Yeah, exactly, I would just add that it's not even about simply distribution the roles and who makes more money, cause it would be one-sided (though in our society it WILL be one-sided most of the times); it's just that for me I would want to alternate these roles and make it more balanced, for example, I spend some time home with children doing chores, and then when I have some work to be done, my husband replaces me for some time or takes a paternity leave and so on, but it's not quite possible when one has a stable job from 9 to 5 and the other doesn't have any at all. That's why most couples quarrel and can't find the common ground. But I'm really pleased that this boy is ready to communicate and discuss such things with his future wife so he will be a good, responsible partner. Such an understanding at this age, really mature)
that kid bringing up his mbti to explain his emotions is literally the story of my life
HAHAHA same here
It can certainly be changed though. I was an ExFx when I was little, always optimistic, emotionally sensitive, and outgoing, and I had tons of friends. But after certain *impactful* events during my teenage years, my personality took a 180 degree turn and I'm now a full-blown INTJ. One's personality is shaped based on one's genetics, environments, and life experiences after all.
@@MapleKemon That test is the equivalent of a horoscope.
LMAO
@@MapleKemon Expecting your MBTI to not change as life continues is like saying you’re not bound to change as you grow as a person. Not saying that you were saying this but there’s a lot of people who say that MBTI is fake because they got different results between the years when that’s what’s supposed to happen. It is concerning if someone who is 18 has not changed at all by the time they are 25.
I like the answer "I'm acting boyish..."
"What is boyish?"
"Uh, me...?"
That says something about being secure in your gender identity. You can't define what makes you feel like a [insert gender here], you just know that you are.
Penis is also an acceptable answer.
@@magnarcreed3801 your mom is an acceptable answer.
No. You can define it. The definition is right here:
mas·cu·lin·i·ty
/ˌmaskyəˈlinədē/
Learn to pronounce
noun
qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men.
"handsome, muscled, and driven, he's a prime example of masculinity"
His words don’t prove that you can’t define what makes you feel like a specific gender, they only prove that he didn’t have a ready answer.
Yess
@@Joseh-le4yl do keep in mind that the defination of "masculinity" has and does keep changing, it differs to various people. So idr think their argument is "invalid"
Just cuz u see masculinity with a different view.
at every question i was about to throw hands fr,i didn’t expect this to upsets me that much😳
@kodura vivasayi i said it wrong or smth? english is not my first language so…
@@dudaljkk You said it right. I think the other person was trying to say that you wouldn’t really do it. Don’t know why they felt the need.
@kodura vivasayi uhhhh sorry-
@@dudaljkk
You said it perfectly fine, don’t worry about it.
@@Someone-fo5bt oh okay,thank u
The fact that this is still a very "kind" version of what we get to hear on a daily basis is so sad.. And when we complain about it its always "well they meant it as a compliment" even tho it sticks with you and make your stomach hurt all day.
I will never raise my daughter to take any negtive comments from stangers, and I will always listen and be on her side. You dont always have to "make a scene" when someone is acting bad, but I wont raise another generation who feel like they need to agree and laugh it off to feel safe and aproved. So many times I can think back to my teens and think about what strangers have said and get so angry for not standing up for myself. Just because I was raised to never raise my voice or talk back to adults. That ends with me.
Yeah, the fact that we should be HONORED and THANKING them for asking such intrusive and insensitive question makes me so angry and sad and disappointed
@@sophiafenger That's what I was thinking during this. The responses given were things women were taught NOT to say as children!
Growing up as a teen, my 1st generation immigrant mother grew up and being told to be a goody two shoes people pleaser and I came out as a complete opposite temperament and I respected some of the morals she taught me but also didn’t approve the fact that she never stood up for herself to people that had their way with my mother but preferred to just ignore and keep being nice and generous.
We need more parents like you that will stand up for their children against questions like the ones in this video.
My grandfather used to ask me questions such as "how much do you weigh now?" starting at the age of 11 and it made me incredibly uncomfortable. Being so young, I never thought that I should stand up for myself, but I was very thankful when it stopped a few years later. I thought my grandfather had just lost interest, but I recently found out that my grandfather actually stopped because my dad had overheard one of the most recent inappropriate questions and swiftly made it very clear to my grandfather that unless he was complementing me in a way that would not make me uncomfortable, then he was not allowed to ask about or comment on my body under ANY circumstances.
Parents like you help children build self-respect and feel like they have a support system. That is such a paramount thing for kids. Thank you so much!
@@alyl.9430 I think as a parent, it is a very important responsibility to keep children feeling safe not only physically but also mentally/emotionally. The problems that I have faced being raised in an immigrant household is the notion of children being conditioned at a young age that they are suppose to behave/be obedient toward adults b/c we are made to believe that adults or just any person older know more as well as suppose to set a good example. This is clearly not a reality unfortunately and parents need to step up and let their children know that even their own friends and family members are capable of being toxic and not saying anything will only make it worse…
BUAHFHHZ I lost it when the purple tie dude mentionned his MBTI, I never thought I'd witness someone do it✋🏻😭
Same 😭
i'm a scorpion, so i can get a bit wild sometimes 🤪🤭
Ikr😂😂😂 I was like "mood!" infp here btw :)
@@mbrunnen04 same :D
@@myragingwhormoans ???
“Don’t you think cooking is a boys job?” The sudden look of death is his eyes was my everything.
His eyes said in panic ‘there’s no right answer to that question’ and he’s completely right.
Personally, I think cooking is the job of someone who actually knows how to cook (male or female, they just need to know how to cook)
@@MoonCheetahAnimations This. Although, everyone should learn how to cook, even if it's just a couple basic but overall complete meals.
I mean I can only cook basic noodles, that's enough for me. What's the controversy in that?
As long as someone doesn't burn their house down when they cook, and it doesn't taste totally horrible. They're more than qualified to be in the kitchen, no matter who they are.
@@MoonCheetahAnimations the way I wheezed reading this
Oh and this isn’t even HALF of the bs most women hear on a daily basis.
But I’m really happy that this was brought up, specially the “are you a feminist” one since it has such a negative connotation in Korea because people will immediately assume you are a radical feminist.
Keep up the good work 👍
i agree that last question was a good one considering the contextual situation there
wsp whitey
arent you the same person who mocked jin's pronunciation..?
@Ruth Zamorano well, "radical feminism" is a subset of feminism that can be described as TERF ideology (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminism) which isn't radical at all, it's just transphobia disguised as "feminism." If someone's idea of feminism doesn't include trans women, and reduces women to their genitalia, it's not really feminist or radical. Not sure if that's what OP was referring to, but that's what the term means if that helps :)
@Ruth Zamorano to add on to what Hyperfixation Station said, "radical feminism" or "radfem" ideologies typically revolve around the idea that women (usually means people who are AFAB to them) are inherently better than men, and that men are less worthy or less pure because of their state as a man. There is also the idea that sex work and kink are demeaning, and anti-feminism, regardless of any reason for doing so. Hope this helps !!
They should have done this with adult men. It's really hard, at least as a mom, to watch kids smile and try not to cry as adults are asking them mean insensitive questions. I get what they were going for but, when I was a teen, it was grown men, not my peers that made me uncomfortable. Like, it was easy to tell a boy my age who was being rude to STFU...but the men always came off more threatening.
Ikr. They are kids darn it. Making them uncomfortable just to prove a point seems like bullying rather than a social experiment
This is the entire point of the experiment. Teen girls, and little girls alike go through this on a daily basis. These kinds of questions are asked to those girls by ADULT MEN. That’s exactly what is happening here. An adult asking these questions and making them cry or uncomfortable is exactly the point being made.
@@bpv8816 So we are going to bully kids just to prove a point? What is the difference between those men and us then?
@@anvitamohan7939 hun its called a social experiment for a reason. It doesn’t make us better or worse. It’s just informational, a lot of the times boys my age(im 17) and even men wont grasp the position they put us in until it’s being done to them. this is definitely not bullying btw… if this is bullying then what would you call the things that we’re told? And the people who say these things irl are definitely not trying to prove a point, they’re dead serious.
@@bpv8816 they are also bullying and so are these people and advertising it as an experiment for the world to see. If they wanted to go with this concept and prove a point they should have made a scripted skit or something. Grown ups are making children uncomfortable in both scenarios. This is not done. Plus, how do we know these boys who have done that to someone? They are sobbing, are you immune to that? If someone asked such things to girls I would still be angry and I am still angry when these boys are asked these. Both are bullies Two wrongs don't maje a right.
I really like this type of videos, it just reminded me why as girls we tend to be so insecure growing up. I heard this types of questions daily when growing up whether it was directed at me or women around. Even if you try to ignore them at the end of the day they will affect you and you start having thoughts like "maybe I should loose weight to look better", "if I behaved more 'like a girl' people would like me more" or "maybe I was wrong for defending myself and I was overreacting because 'women always act like that'"... It honestly f*cks you up real bad and it's hard to ignore those thoughts even when you have grown and know these thoughts are wrong 😔
And it's so integrated in each generation women really do believe in it. I grew up with my mom always trying to loose weight, saying she was "fat" when I didn't see that at all. My grandmother was annoying, too. Was always saying I had to behave more like a girl, the way I sat with my legs slightly open wasn't "girly". Even when I had a friend who was very affectionate and sweet she'd complain when we were hugging or close to each other because she was worried we might 'turn' lesbians. I think what bothered me the most was everytime both my mom and grandmother would say that we couldn't go out at night because "two women and a girl alone at night was no good" as if if a man was there everything would be magically okay. One day my grandma even told my cousin, who was 14, to accompany my mother who was getting some luggage from the car in brought daylight although he didn't want to. Her argument for this was because "he's a boy, he's stronger". Everytime I'm upset, sad for no reason or angry and my mom says it's "probably just your hormones" or "your period must be coming soon". That absolutely disvalues someone's sadness or pain because "op, women have hormones and aren't emotionally steady"
I don't know. You could tell it pisses me off a bit. It's a bit worse growing up with a sexist religion where men are put above women, yet if you ask them it's because "god gave us different privileges" yet he gave much more to men than women..
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@@aaa-tp6ud trueee like let me just sit how I want to for god sake
@@aaa-tp6ud I do encourage you to stand for yourself. Ik your self later on will question it, but never bother to that voice. This standing up & defending yourself will save you tons of time. I actually have my best friend's mom here telling how I am "living an ideal life" living with no care in the world.. going on walks at evening etc. Although it's not like I don't have my problems, I just tend to not to show it, well... Atleast "prefer" not to...
@@aaa-tp6ud you mentioning the religion thing reminded me of when my older brothers would pray my mom would cover her head out of respect or something like that and I never understood why and my grandmother when she lived with us would always criticizes the way I dressed saying that my shorts were to short and that was provocative and the way I would sit too she’d say it wasn’t lady like and when I burped too and she would tell me I should try doing my hair more often and would annoy bc for so long I was obsessed with the way I looked and how others viewed me and now that I was finally ok with the way I looked she moves in and starts saying things like this that kinda made me go back to that
I grew up with 3 brothers and 6 sisters. I have to admit my dad was pretty sexist af sometimes. He would say how women should be dressed up nice and clean. I would play outside all the time with my brothers and sisters so it wasn't bothering me at all. Sometimes I would be told by my dad that I was skinny and shit but I did not give a single fuck. Sometimes my brothers would tell me why don't I leave my hair down. Reality is I just like pony tails. I don't act like the typical feminine girl ig. But it doesn't matter to me. Just know you are responsible for letting your thoughts affect you or not. In the end negative shit like that shouldn't make you want to change if you know it's just ignorant comments.
Asking someone "are you on your period" when they're upset is extremely rude and belittling. It is the equivalent of telling someone they're being overdramatic because of the connotation that question has gained from society.
Yes, because sometimes people are indeed upset because of their period, and that's okay, but the implication 99% of the time is "your emotions are not valid if you're on your period". It's basically blaming and gaslighting the person for having a working uterus...
Instead we could all be considerate of people being emotional during their period and take their struggles seriously, and then that question would become okay, because it would imply "are you going through a hard time?" instead.
I think it depends. As a woman I've asked and been asked that. Because we're women. We literally can sense, smell, and know when another woman is upset because of her period so I think we have that right.
Example my boss was pissy and snapped at me on the phone. An hour later she's apologizing and literally crying.
"You're on your period aren't you?"
We get it. Hearing it from a man is like... Not the same.
That's such a personal and private question that I would be very offended no matter what the context was.
@@BlueDragon-vm1bt like the person above you said, it really depends on who's asking. If any man other than maybe my dad asks, it's rude. If it's my mom, or my sister, it's understandable. Especially my mom, since mine is extremely punctual and her's comes right after mine.
@@uncreativename4249 That's understandable. It also depends on who's being asked, though. Personally I have no exceptions and I would be extremely uncomfortable no matter who asked me, even doctors. I know that's bad and I shouldn't be like that etc etc but that's how I am right now. My point is that no one should assume you'll be okay with them asking the question, no matter how close they think your relationship is, unless you've already talked about it or brought it up yourself
The question about being a feminist was pretty interesting, cause I think it can get misinterpreted really easily if you have zero clue about SK. They weren't just afraid of responding to that question cause they're not feminists (necessarily), but because stating you're a feminist can get you very serious backlash in South Korea, as it is seen by a great part (perhaps even the majority) of the population as an unacceptable thing.
That doesn't go to say they are or aren't feminists, I just thought it was pretty interesting to see the fear of saying anything at all when asked about it. I'm not from South Korea, so seeing that as a bit of a 'third party' was really revealing about my own society and the global context we live in as a whole. I think a lot of people from around the world would have the same reaction, cause there's stigma and backlash for either saying you are or saying you aren't. It's a good measurement of the way feminism _is_ and is _seen_ nowadays, regardless of right or wrong, and it paints a good picture of where feminism is now and where it's going.
Again, saying this without any judgments of value. It's just that seeing it from a 'detached' perspective in relation to SK has made me able to see it in that sort of 'detached' manner in general. It's even interesting that I feel the need to say this, cause I just made this whole comment about how it can be difficult to take a stance and I already now the kind of ideological comments I might get just by mentioning the word, even though the comment isn't meant to talk about the ideology itself at all.
Perfectly put in words
yeah...
South Korea think women are man haters for having short hair so yeah :/
Very perfectly put!! Thankyou.
This reminds me of a recent discussion with a man. The topic was the problem of misogyny in a community we were both members of. He felt that we shouldn't use the word misogyny to talk about misogyny because "some people may find it offensive". Giving these definitions a negative connotation just makes it easier to ignore the problem because no one wants to even talk about it.
"well, people have different tastes, you should respect my taste, please" wow, what a good comeback! polite, yet firm in their stance:D
Well it doesn't make sense cos' ppl are the one judging your style, not the other way around. So no. Shush
@@StreamHypeBoyByNewJeans in most western countries, for the kost part, everyone has the freedom to dress however they want and wear whatwever they like. it is only a matter of their taste/preference.
The obscenities that are said or even implied in questions like these is infuriating a lot of times, but if you show any ounce of announce or anger, it’s your fault. “You’re being too sensitive” or “it’s just a joke”.
Yup. Classic victim blaming said by bullies.
the amount of toxicity and manipulation on those 2 phrases are scary
fr. this is why im having trouble finding out my emotions back then bc people would talk down on me then I'll become upset, they would tell me that "ah it's a joke, you're so dramatic". young me would ask "oh am i being too dramatic?" and that shit affected my whole life and i couldn't distinguish my own feelings and emotions as if im invalidating myself. but gladly im starting to validate my feelings now a days, no more listening to other people's bs !!
@@kur0_m111 u see..one time a boy classmate called my girl friend "fat", i scolded him, and he said "but, it's true though. Why r u angry?"
Then i said, "do u like if i call u stick skinny?(add on multiple insults that really describe him)". Then he just shut up.
So, my anger was valid. Everyone else would be angry if they r insulted
exactly!
The fact that they couldn't answer when asked if they were feminists is so sad. It's seen as such a controversy to say that you're a feminist you'd literally get attacked for even implying that and it's just sad.
It's a good thing. Women asking to be treated fairly!
Yeah its a scary topic in Korea. Toxic masculinity is so huge there that men are even offended by the 🤏 gesture.
@@mseb3909 What a joke. They think being toxic masculine is better lol💀
What makes you think they support equality in the first place ? Men usually don't like women being equal to them lmao that shit hurts their sensitive snowflake masculinity ego so bad 💀
@@KshipsinKchups well yea cus a lot of men are and since their culture is basically build on it they don't care if they are being toxic
This really opened my eyes, because I’ve actually asked some of these questions and I’m a girl! What this taught me is that I don’t have to be a boy to be sexist to a girl. And just like that guy said, I really need to be careful with my words. This an implicit bias I didn’t even realize I had. Thank you for making this video.
Strong of you to realise it!! And to make a change instead of denying it. There’s way too much denial of peoples poor behaviours bc it puts them in a bad light, but in reality admitting and committing to change shows just how much wiser and good-hearted that person is and have potential to be!
"R u on a period" attacked me lol, bcz i ask that to some ppl too (as a joke but still), and im a girl. I felt now how unconfortable that sounds to the listener ;-;
I gotta say, you must be oke of a kind to realize your mistake, admit mistake, and actively try to fix it. Many people would deny it or say that it's fine. I think that's really admirable of you! 😊
Only if my mother realises it like you did
Respect to you for owning up to the mistake and also trying to be better about it. It's its own struggle to just have people accept that they're wrong about something, and then an entirely different one for them to decide to change and be better. Emotional intelligence is very good to have.
I adore how there questions make them visibly uncomfortable. Kinda makes you see that it was not just you, those questions do suck universally.
I have broad shoulders and thick thighs and I'm 5'5 and I'm a girl. I was often told by my relatives and all about how "masculine" I was. About how I acted as a boy more than a girl.I love wearing hoodies, I'm sporty and I have been always body shamed because I was skinny growing up but now that I eat everyone comes up with "you are fat".I was judged and told whether I was loud or quiet. I became very quiet after all this happened and affected me and then people were like "she's so quiet".
THAT'S WHY DO WHATEVER THE SHIT YOU WANT. YOU RESPECT YOUR OWN MASCULINITY AND FEMININITY AND PEOPLE WILL TOO.
Louder!!
SAY THIS TO THE PEOPLE IN BACK!!
i get called out for “acting like boy” for sneezing loudly 🥴🥴
@@disha21_ you know people are fucked up
You can't win. The goal posts are constantly moving so you will always have someone telling you that you should change this or that and if you do someone else will tell you that you shouldn't have.
"why are you so serious?' "are you on your period?" "you lost weight! & you gained weight right?" "WHY ARE YOU SO EMOTINAL?" or any comment about my clothes, these ones are always the ones that really makes me angry, like i can't keep my mouth shut, so uncomfy, and I've heard them way too much in my life and when we reply with an anger tone they just generalize the term"feminist". sending love to all my women out there, it's an everyday fight, stay strong
As girls/young women/older women, it’s just straight up universal. we can be from completely different countries and probably recount the similarities of what we’ve been asked/told throughout our lives by boys/young and older men. I felt mad uncomfortable watching because it took me back to so many experiences I’ve had.
@@HaroldIsCool based on your name I’m going to assume you’re not a woman/girl. Therefore you speak for not one single person that has experienced this. Your opinion is null and void. And if you are, then your are so blind. It is very universal, you’re just clouded in your own personal reality.
“Yeah this doesn’t look good but hey you should look at yours first looks way worse”
THIS GOT ME WEEZING 😭🤚🏼
Friendly reminder that if someone asks you a rude question you’re totally allowed to give a rude answer 🤪♥️ it’s a service to society really
It's even better actually. Lol, most of the questions in reality would be followed by the asker interrupting and not caring at all what the answerer thought. Best thing to do is stop engaging, because even answering rudely, though far better than a polite answer, is encouraging them by means of entertainment.
Exactly. No-one should sugar coat such things. It's really okay to come off as rude if all you did was school someone
Ignoring is the best as if you don't even consider them as a human anymore, but I know it is hard to be silent for some people like me 🙃
Well I think safety is more important than sticking up for yourself sometimes though…upsetting the wrong guy can get you assaulted or followed home. There’s also the situation of a guy bugging you while you’re at work, showing attitude (whether it’s deserved or not) towards a costumer can get you fired. It sucks but it’s the world we live in unfortunately
I would love to do that but the rude answer usually comes to my mind 3 weeks later at 3am, so I usually go with the polite answer and the aknward laugh. I think that with the only one that I snap immediately is the "are u in your period" one
This is so harsh, but also part of me thinks everyone should do this. Everything is just a matter of perspective. It only takes a little compassion to realize it’s not that hard to be kind. But compassion can be hard unless you truly take the time to try and see from others perspective. We normally only live as ourselves
Listening to these boys' thoughts I have realised, the world is going in the right direction
April fools
Open your eyes and ears. It isn't.
@@ctashi7081 Wdym? Their responses to most questions were very forward-thinking. One boy even said he wouldn’t mind being a stay-at-home dad if his spouse had a more high-paying career than he did and could provide better. Another boy mentions there no longer being a boundary between boys and girls. I think that’s quite impressive considering how far we’ve come.
@@fabplays6559 they mean that in reality it's not like that, these are just a couple of guys they picked out
I didn’t need to listen to boy because I know they can relate to questions like theses too so it’s not really that surprising. What is surprising as that they admit since a lot of guys are insecure.
“Yes, I agree. I don’t like my school uniform either” 😂😂😂😂😭 but seriously can we get some male people with this level of security on THIS side of the border?
5:38 really got me. There's zero way for someone to "correctly" answer that question, much like the others. But that one is just specifically intended to be degrading. My family used to call me fat, so I take that kind of stuff with a grain of salt now, but asking if I'm on my period is a hugely inappropriate way to ask "are you okay" or "why are you upset"
in a way saying women tend to feel that type of way ONLY when they have hormones acting up as if we cannot be upset otherwise😣
IKR? That question upsets me the most
@@hennasalokangas yes basically how men see women
Emotions = hormones
IMO it's often a way to dismiss and invalidate a woman's feelings. A guy can say something really rude and disgusting and if she reacts with anger he can blame it on her, imply her anger is unreasonable and absolve himself of blame all in one.
@@hennasalokangas yup, and if we are around our period time then our feelings are automatically not valid, by that logic
i know this is an experiment, but if anyone needs to hear this: as a male, you do not need to be masculine. if someone ever says that, they have a lot of their own shit to get through that they hate about themselves. you’re amazing. ♥️
I completely agree, I think masculinity being a normal thing should be left behind. It shouldn't be a thing to hide your emotions and nobody should have to
Tbh I feel like a portion of these questions are also asked to men. Not all of them obv. But questions like,"why are u emotional" or "shouldn't u act like a boy" and stuff asked to them a lot too. I feel bad for these boys even though it's an experiment
Nobody _needs_ to be anything, but I find it difficult to deny that people will respond more positively to you if you inspire them or surpass their expectations, or otherwise make a positive impression on them subconsciously.
On the other hand, focusing too much on external perceptions like some sort of performing monkey is not how you become truly comfortable with yourself. I've never been the stereotypically masculine type and I've made my peace with that in my own way. I just try to improve myself day by day.
Masculinity is necessary for all men. It's what makes us providers and protectors. There's no need to abandon your manhood just because feminism says it's "toxic." That's just anti male propaganda. Be proud of your masculinity
@@Kid_Charlemagne76 tell me u don't know what toxic masculinity is without telling me u don't know what it is.
Also u sound like exactly the person who loves to put other men down by saying they aren't masculine enough. It's funny u think we are putting them down.
So glad you did a video like this. Even tho topics like these still get empathized a lot these days, it can never be too much to talk about them. Those kind of questions can be hurtful and by teaching everybody that, maybe we could reduce the level of them being asked in a day-to-day life. Thanks Shine Teen!!🥰💕
Shoyo youre here too???
I love you Hinata!!! 😭
@@0kayts442 AKAASHI??? W-WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE???
@@user-dh5pm9bv7n Omg hi random friend😭
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I thought all these boys were very sweet. They were put in an uncomfortable/different situation than they're use to and you can tell a lot of them really thought about every question. It was wonderful to see them reflect on the questions and their answers when the experiment was over. Every one of them definitely left with a different outlook on the expectations women are held to and the comments/questions people think are okay to say/ask. Just like one of them said, they can sound caring, but they really come off as sarcastic and uncaring.
“You should look at yours first, yours is worse” LMBO WHAT 🤣 I love this guy
"i see those questions are frequently asked, and that fact made me feel worse" 🙏🏼 we need more person like him, thank you
*we should be more like him, people always say we need more people like him/her but it's us who should become better.
bro the way their answering it like it’s just some easy answer. When girls retort to these types of questions, we just get more shit thrown at us. It’s a continuous conversation that we just can’t seem to win. It’s not just a one and done deal, it’s constant harassment and then being told to deal with it and not be so sensitive
They're facing it for the first and last time, women are used to this shit now that we are tired and we if ww talk back we're getting labeled by some sensitive mf
@Smallville trust me, it doesn't matter whether you're acting calm in the situation or not.
@Smallville Okay, you're done.
@Smallville figures.
The way they looked so shocked and the hurt was so clear on their faces... That was agonizing to watch, both seeing someone experience that for the first time and knowing girls have learned to go through it all the time without even flinching (which doesn't mean it hurts less, just that it's internalised)
Hope this experience could help these guys to avoid making certain comments towards women in the future because if they felt uncomfortable with a few questions, imagine what women have to go through hearing this everyday
Just felt the need to say that- normalizing empathy and validating emotions can cause more boys like these to grow into men with these same values and opinions
for me, as a girl, the one that i most heard in my life is "are you on your period?", it's making me soooo mad... and something that wasn't mentioned here is "what boys are gonna think" i heard it soooo much, im like ??? do i need boys approbation ? no i certainly dont need it
This is so true, like are we not allowed to feel anger without it being invalidated by the question "are you on your period?" And this is part of the reason why women arent taken seriously most of the time and it really is annoying.
It's so dumb that it's ever even suggested that we need to do things to impress boys, and on the other hand that if we dress up or something it must be for the boys. Who said we wanted to impress a boy? Or anyone for that matter? Maybe we just did it for ourselves to feel good. And we don't need to make ourselves more appealing "for boys" we can just be ourselves.
The purple tie guy ( 1:38 ) reminded me so much of Taemin from Shinee… His attitude was just very sweet even in such a painful situation.
being asked if i'm pregnant because i feel sick. >_>
i have a chronic illness that makes me nauseated all the time, but how convenient it would be if my femaleness would just make me totally immune to any kind of sickness like that. >.
Yes! I once had a headache at work and mentioned it in passing and a coworker asked me if I was pregnant. Particularly in my 20's people seemed to think anything was a sign I was pregnant and that they were entitled to ask me about it. Just stop!
@@DimaRakesah oof.
Same. Was sick at work for some time and folks kept asking me if I was pregnant. Worse, they didn't believe me when I said no, nevermind that it was just not possible at the time.
@@LaRanaMordaz oh that's so heartbreaking. i'm so sorry you had to go through that.
ugh. i've had my share of intrusive questions/ assumptions about my ability/ willingness/ need to get pregnant and even how many children i was allowed to have. no questions from those people on whether or not i WANTED to have children. (i did, but that didn't make it right.)
remember when my brother was mansplaning a topic I'm deep into and then, when I told him to let me talk, he said "you're being too sensitive, control your hormones, are you on your period" and that freaked me out because it wasn't the first time he said something like that
being attacked like that in your own family sucks
btw the guys were so sweet with some of their answers that I totally melted with the one saying he is willing to take care of the children and the house ;;;
Wtf is mansplanning?
Typically mansplaining is when a man explains something to a woman that is ABOUT women (periods, childbirth, the female experience in general), but some people misuse it and claim that a man explaining ANYTHING to a woman is "mansplaining". Honestly, I'm not a man and I do that to people ALL THE TIME. I'll be telling my dad about something he already knows about ALL THE TIME. So "mansplaining" as a word is, virtually, just sexist. I've seen more women "womansplain" to men ABOUT male things, than I have men to women.
@@elistari1050 I see, thank you for explaining.
LMAO he's funny
Your brother is a W btw
Is no one gonna talk about the guy at 1:47 ? He ate and left no crumbs 🔥
I am a lady and have been asked these uncomfortable questions often. I felt bad as I could visibly see how these young boys were becoming more and more uncomfortable and upset. You could see how they were shrinking into themselves. Now imagine all these women in the world experiencing this on a daily basis. I hope this reaches more people. I would love to see other channels remake this.
ok but I love the one with the purple tie- he was so respectful when answering all the questions, no matter how strange it seemed to him
the “are you on your period” question always hits me, just because I have attitude or is in a bad mood doesn’t mean I’m on my period, even if it’s a “joke” or they’re sarcastically asking if I still think it’s really insensitive to ask someone that unless you’re really close to them and are both female
bad take
@@ray_x6959 how?? Its a really annoying question because it's like women arent allowed to feel anger without it being invalidated with the question "are you on your period" and its part of the reason why women arent taken seriously and it is a bother to most women. Of course men's anger is never invalidated because they must have a "good reason"
@@witchdust8900 facts, I really appreciate that you understood what I was trying to say because I get asked this question very often and even by my own brother which gets really really annoying, because to me, talking about my period or like talking about personal stuff makes me feel uncomfortable and so I never know how to reply or I lie saying “no”
Those people are trying to give women an excuse for their bad attitudes. Those dudes refuse to see that women can be crappy people or pains in the but.
As a girl, I also keep receiving statements like "Why aren't you smiling?" or "You should smile more!" from other people.
I am generally a jolly person and I really smile a lot, but creeps tend to take that as an invitation to harass you.
I mean, you don't even need to do anything and some would still be catcalling and follow you like you owe then something.
My default face screensaver when the thoughts are miles away is apparently too scary for people with little to no familiarity to approach. XD
I don't really understand the point of questions like that whether you're a girl/woman or not, tbh. Like, you're just... being? Yourself? Why is whether you're smiling or not important? lol you're not doing it as some sort of public service, and even if they want you to be happier so you'd smile naturally, being asked that directly is a surefire way to get the opposite effect.
I know I've had people ask me if I'm okay before because sometimes when I'm deep in thought it looks like I'm zoning out or staring into the distance. I haven't had smiling, though.
I've been told that, and I'm male. Women are being conditioned to assume they are treated worse. That's non-sensible.
@@GaryHighFruit Bro why are you getting so defensive over this?? Huh, must be that time of month 🤷♀️
@@R3FL3CTI0NS. lmao
"Cause I'm ENFP, I can't help it"
Lmaooooo me too 😭
Some more:
“Why were you out so late at night? Don’t you know what can happen?”
“You’re acting too bold/straightforward/confident for a girl”
Generally anything condescending or implying that females are weak just makes me want to throw all of my 3 hands.
People : will you have a baby?
Me : " didn't you say i was weak? Ask your son, he is strong i guess 💀 "
As a girl with tomboy streaks, whenever people tell me to be "softer" cuz it's more "proper" for a girl to be that way, it just motivates me to behave even manlier and more aggressive lol Just to flip those people off without actually flipping them off.
@@shakira7301 🤣
I get asked those questions alot (im a male) except the period part (since im a male lol) but yeah its actually very traumatizing for me since i still get asked these and not by random people my brothers and parents ask me those and the "is that how boys act?" i forgot what u said but something similar to that i actually hate that question so-so much because i was raised by my sister while she was 6 years old when i turned 1 years old shes the one that started caring for me etc because my dad was always at work or traveling and my mom never paid much attention to me so im feminine and i have female characteristics like alot so when i get asked that i really wanna cry because you werent there for me you never cared for me my sister who was 6 years old raised me cared for me etc till now and now im 15 and she still cares about me more then you do my dad gets mad at me and says why do you act like this? sit properly. thats not how men are supposed to act. sit like a man. why are you moving your hands like a girl? when i was a kid till now i have more female friends then male friends and these questions made me insecure about how i walk how i move how i speak even my own body its not funny to ask a girl or a guy these questions even out of curiosity and im an omniverted but im more introverted then extroverted so sometimes when people ask me these questions or argue with my i get into a mental shock and idk what to do and let them yell at me and listen to them because thats what my parents used to do to me and still do instead of raising me like their son and i was actually born gay like some yall might say "oh a person cant be born gay" false. Ever since i was a baby i never liked a girl i just had female role models and i looked up to them but never liked them but i always liked guys and when i turned 13 i became bisexual but still more interested in men and my parents are asian, west asian to be specific and you know asians are closed-minded people (most of them) so only my female cousin my female friends and school friends and sister know im bi and my parents always tell me "why do you do this are you gay?"and questions similar to that and my parents are muslim but my dad is more religious in islam but i am muslim too but yeah yk and my dad keeps telling me these stories about how gay people were punished by god etc and i get scared because thats not nice to say and especially this sentence "Gay people go to hell" like YOU ARE NOT GOD YOU WONT BE THE PERSON WHO TELLS ME WHERE ILL GO OR WHERE THEYLL GO SO DONT SAY THAT BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW LIKE GOD KNOWS MAYBE IN HEAVEN YOU MIGHT HAVE A GAY NEIGHBOR LIKE NO. DONT SAY THAT. But yeah sorry i just wanted to vent and my parents have my phone so i cannot vent to my therapist about this :) ty to the people who read this lol
Hey I'm a lesbian and not accepted also by my parents. I'm from eastern Europe which is the most homophobic part of Europe, being gay is not allowed as part of the law in my country😔. I always explain to people I wish I was straight but I was born lesbian and I cant change that. I'm scared if my parents force me to marry a man one day when I'm older I will be sui*id*al. I'm so sorry about what you have been through, and I can relate to it a lot. Let's hope the world will become a better place in the future c': . Especially for us from countries where being gay is seen as really bad.
I think gay people do go to heaven I'm also from a religious family and I have studied a lot about what the holy books say about gay people. I think the people who say we dont go to heaven are wrong. We can still be gay and religious , the people who say we are not allowed by god arent god, they cant speak for god. God created us this way and we are perfect as we are.
@@user-vq9lr6ss4z Agreed, lets hope that the laws change and so we (all) can live better lives ^^
@@user-vq9lr6ss4z So true 100%
hey, i hope you know that there are people out there who love you! stay strong and keep being who you are ... have no regrets about it. hold onto the people who have supported you since childhood; they are your biggest allies. ❤
THE BOY IN THE STRIPPED TIE NEEDS TO BE PROTECTED AT ALL COSTS OMG 😭😭😭🤚🏽❤️❤️❤️ HES too cute, bless him 💟
as a girl, i really appreciated this. thank you for bringing awareness to what us females go through throughout our lives
at some point while watching this i went to myself "oh no, they're going to leave this place feeling so self conscious about themselves" ... as if I'm not faced with the same questions and more on the daily. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy yet its so normalized
I had the same thought, but I didn't think about the fact that they probably will emotionally recover while we gotta normalize it 🙃
Yeah I get the feeling that one guy is now a lil self conscious with his makeup :(
Wow really? These things are never said at my school it’s more like the lgbt kids are the bullies tbh
The amount of times people asked me about my sexuality, just cause I like basketball or things they think that is too masculine for females. Honestly, I don't mind it at first, I actually just laughed it off. But, when people kept asking the same question again and again, it is kind of getting annoying. I also remember my grandpa told me he wish I was a boy. Because I can be a basketball player with my height(not even that tall anw 😩) I was like eh, basketball is not only for men. Wydm by that 😩
Imagine
Good on you, I'm not sure if the kind of sport you play actually has a role in you getting these kinds of questions, interesting to think about
This made me cry lmao, I never really put much thought in these questions when they are asked about me, it’s annoying and stupid but I didn’t think it actually bothered me, until I watch this video and all of those questions piled up in just a few short minutes, it gets intense, it’s like every single memory of me I being asked about my femininity or weight or appearance or emotions all floated to the surface and I realize how ugly these “minor annoyance” actually is and how much it can actually hurt.
You're actually doing great, when this shit is thrown at you it means you can ignore it and carry on, that's a respectable mindset :)
"Why don't u have one? You're pretty attractive..?" "I am?" wow- I- I felt that bro
I feel like that guy...like- even though he knew it was fake I feel like he took some of those questions real and his answers were genuine sadness/anxiety/insecureness
"Are you a feminist?"
Seriously, the word has lost its meaning and it's now being considered as a negative term.
Anyone who wants gender equality.. not female superiority nor male superiority, Gender equality. IS a Feminist and supports Feminism!
It doesn't matter if it's a Man or a Woman. So Boys don't have get uncomfortable, you could just state your opinion(Same for anyone).
The way most of boys answered actually made me smile! 🙃
Yes well most people see it as a thing for women, and it kind of is because women are the ones who have been treated as less than since the beginning of history so it makes sense. If it's for gender equality, the ones who are arent being treated equal are the ones who agree with feminism.
@@witchdust8900 Hmm.. Agreed. And it actually makes sense why most men don't agree with Feminism and make the other men who agree with it feel like it's something wrong.
I'm sort of curious if the word also has the same or different connotations in korean, as I recall on a different one of their videos that people in the comments had been explaining that the word that was translated as something in English had different connotations to it and was closer to a different word in korean, so that may also factor into it as well
That word has had negative connotations in all times and cultures
@@oreradovanovi5204 yeah its really sad how gender equality has turned into something negative all because men still want to remain surperior and cant handle the idea of equality because theyve been privelaged all their life and as a result of that view equality as oppression and take the word "feminism" as a negative/offensive term. (I understand the situation is different for Korea though)
2:52 hats off boy!! true being good looking and being in relationships is totally diff topics!
What hurts the most is that I know at least 95% of girls/women (including me) watching this can relate to it and that's awful.
We stan the guy with the purple tie
I normally don't feel offended by these qns but when they asked them to these guys their level of uneasiness made me realise how accustomed I have become to the stuff said in the video. I am legit so habituated to these qns that I have stopped feeling bad about them. Don't know how I am supposed to process this piece of info
Same... haha
Actually you're doing great, that means you have the ability to disregard insults towards you and remain confident to yourself, I applaud you for that and honestly wish I could do the same :)
~ A man who's probably going to hell, based on all the comments on this video
4:08 this boy was savage the whole video.
When he said you look sick without makeup I got so mad. I legit wonder why does no one ever say that to boys. Or look tired, or scary...like it's just a person's FACE! Especially when going to work and clients/patrons say things like this to you it's ludicrous
My own mother keeps telling me I need to wear makeup to cover my impurities and it's so hurtful, because as you said no one is telling this to boys. I wanted to learn how to wear makeup because I wanted to look cute for myself. I remember putting on some of it and going out to the library to enjoy myself, and now I refuse to wear it, cause I feel like once I start I'll feel ugly without it.
I think a big thing is men are allowed to age while women are not. Women are praised for looking young way more than men are.
@@jessie450 lol women are 'allowed' to age; you just lose privilege of being regarded as a desirable sex object when you do and that's what you're complaining about. A young, white, conventionally attractive woman is the most privileged it gets (or pretty close anyway) - - but of course it doesn't last an entire life, yet women act like they're oppressed b/c their privilege has a sell-by date. The thing used to be that women would redefine themselves as a mother and head of a family and their life would be about that and not being a hot young girl or w/e. Now it's normalised to have women past 30 trying desperately to stay party-girls in denial of reality; it's sad
@@helvete_ingres4717 To play devil's advocate, I can't help but wonder whether part of this is simply a case of subverted expectations as well. It's true that women are valued for youthful looks in terms of sexual attraction disproportionately to men, but there are a whole host of dichotomies and false comparisons in that arena. But if I think of it like this: as a child, I got a free pass for doing a lot of things children do, like playing around or being silly in public, and I was praised and treated positively for seemingly arbitrary reasons. Yet suddenly as I became older, I was lumbered with expectations, you should be doing this, you shouldn't be doing that, and I was less praised for doing things but rather criticised for not doing things. But from my perspective nothing changed.
So when girls start developing and becoming attractive, I'm sure it's a novel yet not entirely unpleasant feeling when people, boys especially, start treating them more positively for essentially no reason save their developing secondary sex characteristics. And when this is so often reinforced it becomes the expected norm. So for it to suddenly disappear someday I'm sure there are some women who feel like the rug has been pulled from underneath them. Note for the ladies out there that I'm not trying to "mansplain" anything, merely speculating.
Of course, I have seen a good measure of what you describe as well, and I do think it's sad. As _some_ women so often like to remind men, nobody is entitled to sex (or special treatment!) and this does extend to the so-called fairer sex as well. I don't think anyone, men or women, should feel pressured to have children if they don't want them, because that lingering dissatisfaction will surely cause problems for the child(ren) as well. But at the same time there does seem to be something of a cultural attack on the nuclear family and the erosion of traditional family values, which may seem to solve some long-standing issues in that area but also eradicates a whole lot of positives.
I wonder what the structure of society will look like in another 50 years or so. I hope I manage to live long enough to see it play out.
as a man, Makup is NOT necessary! Depends on a few factors. 9/10 I prefer a girl WITHOUT IT. I feel it is only acceptable for very important or formal gatherings, or if you just have some very unfortunate facial features you would rather not show in public. A couple freckles ADDS CHARACTER
Oh god the personality of the boy at 3:33 is sooo calming and soothing *chef's kiss * I like himmm!!!! I want a boyfriend like him! He just looks so self-reserved and I like that kind of personality
2:58 i thought my phone died lmao
All of these young men are so thoughtful and intelligent. Very impressed with their answers and their responses upon learning the intent of the video. Their parents should be proud to have raised them so well!
i'm not even a cis guy but if they just started asking me those questions without explaining what's going on i would start crying
If someone ask you some of these questions and you are not able to insult/ argue with the other person, just agree confidently like: « yes, you are right. What about that? » the person won’t know how to reply. Be confident. Don’t show them weakness, if not they will continue on those weakness .
Talk about feeling uncomfortable with these questions. Jeez!
They all did a good job. 👍🏼
3:11 "I would discuss with my spouse and if my spouse makes more money than me then I will take more care of house chores and parenting". Well I hope my future husband will be like this; there's no rule saying that only men should be working and supporting the family financially and women should only be taking care of the children. And yes I know that for some families this is not true, but I have seen a lot of women in my mom's generation giving up their careers just to take care of the family. I know it's a tough choice, but most pressures are put on women. I really do appreciate how this boy would be willing to discuss it with his spouse.
I agree with you that it should not be assumed that the responsibility will fall solely on the man. Talking with your spouse is the right course of action. Even if it ends up that the man is the provider for the family, it's very different if he believes his wife should stay home and take care of the kids, versus he simply takes pride in being able to provide for the people that he loves (as I assume his wife would, were she to be the main provider).
:( this needs to be done more tbh. people need to know what women go through without overlooking
0:12 the second guy's smile really reminds me of Taemin's smile, so beautiful! I miss Taemin..
3:13 with that answer, that boy must've melted at least a thousand girls, I'm on that list.
these boys are too humble and wholesome :( i'd like to try and ask those same questions to a a boy from where i am 💀
i'm happy these boys got to do this. maybe they witness this in their everyday life and don't do much about it, but this made them really think about what girls go through. i'm really hopeful they will become good men in the future
Don’t forget about the “You’d look so much prettier if you smiled more”
I'd like to share my personal experience living as a woman in our society! When I was 15 I became a victim of human trafficking! I spend two years (2016-17)of my life in hell! During those times I realised that no one will be there to help us when we're in trouble bcz that's how this world has turned into. I was forcefully taken to many places! At first I was kidnapped into a small village, on the outside this place may look so calm but on the inside it was a literal zoo! Everyone were behaving like animals! During the first two three days I somehow managed to get myself out from being chosen ! I was locked inside a shabby building with many other girls of different ages (and some boys as well I think those guys were turning them into trans)! The days I spend there, was literally the most tragic experience in my life! Bcz of my luck I was only chosen once and I somehow managed to break that mf's head!! But the consequence was harsh. A two or three men( I think it was two) came inside the room and they started to beat me up ! My ears and nose were bleeding and I think my back bone was cracked it was so painful but I didn't go to the hospital bcz there were no hospital duhh!! None of the girls dared to touch me! And I sat on the floor bcz I wanted to prove that they can't touch me!
And yeah there was a lot of experience, I wanted to share it with y'all but it's a comment section so, I think I'm gonna stop here! From my experience I realised that , "In our society it's not easy to leave as a woman!"It took me three years to become the woman that I'm right now and yeah I'm not at all embarrassed or afraid to share my experience with y'all bcz, we need people to stand up for the crime against women, as well as men!!
P.S.Loved your video !
I hope you're doing better.. where did this takes place sounds horrible
@@bakago4746 Except for my judgemental family and society I'm okay🥰. Last year I had a backbone surgery! Actually it was in Pakistan.
Hope your surgery went well and you're better now. You're strong honestly and stunning too
@@luccissimp7758 🥰
@linalalisa Actually Human Trafficking is all over the world, not just in Pakistan, you don't have to feel bad about your country!If anything needs to be changed, it's us ,human beings!
Thanks a lot for your kindness ❣️
The way none of them could reply to “Are you a feminist” because in korea feminism is treated like some type of crime, just look at those who burn items from female idols who showed support to feminism in any type of way be it even reading a simple book about it
They are so respectful,😭. I would NEVER. If someone came to me and ask those exact same questions, I would've beat the shit out of them.
I- chill.
@@cup1dwon LMAO HFUDJHFIDS
@@Isakiwiiii what?
@@cup1dwon how can you chill in that type of situation 😭
THAT'S WHAT I AM SAYING
0:35 slay king. That is the correct answer.
I love these savage, sarcastic responses. Their similar to the ones I give to anyone who asks? Not only guys asks girls these questions, girls ask them too
I love these types of videos sm…gives a deeper representation of what a lot of women and girls go thru on the daily .
This describes how all kpop idols are treated they’re always expected to be polite but when they’re not like any normal human they’re labeled as rude and selfish. Males have to fit into the manly stereotype or else they’re gay and females have to fit the cute stereotype
This boy was literally so nice and kind 2:01