Sorry you choked (that's awful) was that live TV ? They couldn't edit ? and YES... and Shame IS counterproductive and yet old school "Coaching methods" in general use shame as a motivator... (Not good.) lol... Eventually with experience you don't let these things eat you up IF you have an independent sense of self worth (perhaps.).
I used to do this a lot and would suppress my negative thoughts until I read up on yin/yang. Now I look at negative and positive thoughts as being one thing that needs balance. Yin (black, negative) is stationary. It has a lot of substance, but isn't going to move or dissolve unless ying(white, positive) comes along and carries it away. So anytime I think of a negative thought, I will do something or think something positive to flush the negativity away. Now I embrace the negative when it shows because it can tell us a lot about us, but it needs positivity in order to be dealt with properly.
@@jonathancunningham4159 I kinda liked what you wrote. I think sometimes you have to FEEL your feelings just to process stuff much more "Efficiently" so that these negative feelings don't become obstructive if you don't engage them head on and be avoidant. I.e. if you get triggered by stuff eventually one learns to process that quickly and move onto the positive, but not everyone is "Wired" that way. Everyone has had a moment in their life from public embarrassment / humiliation where you just want to curl up into the fetal position for three days in a dark corner. Eventually when you get older one learns to have a sense of humor and you have a more considered perspective on life. Especially if one is more practiced at whatever "Art" or endeavors one is engaged in. These "Moments" teach us valuable lessons. Depends what level of "Game" you are in (without necessarily bringing a level of perfectionism that is counter productive.).
I also like to ask myself.. “is this thought true?” Because a lot of the time not only are our thoughts not helpful, but, often times they really aren’t true or fact either.
Nice Video! Sorry for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Proutklarton Defeat problems Plan (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a smashing exclusive guide for discovering how to get rid of depression minus the hard work. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my best friend Jordan at last got excellent results with it.
@@JonTheDon99 I suffer from this too even though at the end of the day I know it’s not true. My mind still tries to trick me and makes me believe certain things are the when they are not.
I think we have to be careful about defining negative thoughts/people. We all have times when we are going through immense suffering and need to authentically voice it and be supported as we work our way through it. Then again, there are people who can never be pleased, always in victim mode, and are gossipy/critical. Definitely avoid the last three.
I was thinking you could also ask your self “is this feeling helpful?” I feel like it helps me out a lot to so when I feel negative I would ask my self “are these negative thoughts helping me? Is this negative feeling helpful?” thats all I just wanted to put that out there it might help others to 😊
Or “maybe I’m too old or not relevant anymore” 😖. Yeah I do this to myself and it’s hard to get out of the negative thought loop. Sometimes we’re our own worst enemy. Good topic and tips!👍🏻
Just the best time that I need this. I dwelled quite a negative self-talk for a while when I was the only individual from our team who didn't get recognition. I felt so bad that these emotional gremlins attacked me. This is really of big help for me to change my mindset, to heal and to bounce back. Thank you for this insightful encouragement. ❤️
I also have been asking myself for a year now, whenever I feel like my thinking patterns are repeating or falling apart at the seams:" who am I without anxiety?" I'm surprised how much my answers to this question are evolving each time I ask myself. I now see positive or even just neutral self talk is critical for mental health.
I cannot describe in words how much your videos touch me and help me cope.I have anxiety and have negative thoughts often.I will have an anxiety attack sometimes in front of friends,at partys,even at work.Then I often have negative thoughts about myself after the fact about me having those anxiety attacks.These thoughts are not helping me or anyone else you couldnt be more right.I just wanted to let you know I love what you do and I really appriciate you making these videos.❤
Thank you JC. After a year of back and leg pain my doctors eventually have a diagnosis. The pain has driven me in to a negative spiral. Thank you for this 💛
I always question why so many people take so long to get to the point. Weather it's real life or social media. I completely agree with you, her action created more negative thoughts than it was suppose to solve. That makes me question her credentials, anyone can claim to be anything on the net. I hope she reads this. In my humble opinion, she should know better!
I have been struggling with toxic, spiraling thoughts all of my life. Your hack is so simple yet profound. Your videos have really helped me. Thank you for your wisdom.
Have Daily Negative Thought Time 2. Replace the Negative Thoughts 3. Be Your Own Best Friend 4. Write Instead Of Think 5. Make A Conscious Effort To Find Things To Love, Like And Appreciate 6. Establish New Habits 7. Use Affirmations 8. Develop Your Success Routine 9. Channel Those Thoughts Into Something Constructive
I ordained as novice monk in Luang Phrabang . Mind control is key. My teacher taught me that when meditating, observing the thought, and then zap it like an electric wand. It works because so little time is allowed for the thought to take hold, and at the same time allows your focus to move forward instantly.🙏🙏🙏
Yes,i usually do that when i get a bad grade.And yes,i most of the times cry not because of that grade,but because i bully myself in my head,or compare myself to others.I would love to see a video about comparing yourself to others,and how to stop it.I really need that.Amazing video,as always ❤
The same drama comes up over and over again... I can only submit... But, today.... I ask myself.... are my thoughts useful, or helpful, and can I get back to what I was doing before listening to this person..... Absolutely.... Thank you.... I have such a good life. Amen
Good work. I have written a book ( still finishing the bibliography) on emergency preparedness and in that book I cover the subject of “Panic.” Most advice given to people who face an emergency situation is “Don’t Panic.” Very few if any at all explains how to do it. In my book I cover this and am pleased to see you addressing the issue of anxiety as well. I have often been the subject of anxiety and know firsthand that it is not a very pleasant feeling so I would also like to thank you personally for addressing your issue. Thanks for your presentation
@@lethukuthulakhuzwayo8081 . Practical action is needed to reprogramme the mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep are also very effective to reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Understanding the basic anatomy and physiology of neuroplasticity and how the amygdalas function as a switch between higher rational thought and fight-or-flight sympathetic reflex? Priceless
Sometimes I can go from having a good day(especially at work) then all of a sudden someone can say something awful to me and then feel like the day has been ruined. Then my thoughts get the best of me sometimes, sometimes I have a panic attack from all the stimulation around me.
@@juliakristinamah Ah yes, the same question I ask my mom when she's making trouble. Thanks! Good to keep this in mind for when the trouble-making is internal.
I Used to say to myself "That was stupid". It's eye-opening to understand that those thoughts are not helpful nor needed. Thank you for all your help. I so appreciate these videos
Yeah, I do this . I know better and still catch myself doing it. And then ruminate on why I'm doing this to myself. I'm always working on trying to be mindful and shift these thoughts to ones of self love. I do struggle with these kinds of thoughts.
Hello Everyone, I’m in my fifties. It started from when I was a kid at the age of four years old. For some apparent reason no one liked me. Until this very day I get the same energy from many people. It’s very depressing and bothersome. Because of this I have negative thoughts all the time. In closing, I’m Not a mean person. I have good intentions for anyone. I see the world as full of hate and not to be trusted. This is why I prefer to be in the company of animals.
I do that often, I am a solider of the world of negativity & I know how deep you can sink & I long have not hit the bottom *if the is one* take your days and build knowledge and resistance til the day you know your ready to live.
Have been Gaslit by one of my children for about 21 years and it was horrible. I would let all the untrue accusations cause me to constantly criticize myself and finally about a year ago I started telling myself that I was not guilty or deserving of the accusations and lies and started researching the things that were being done to me. I now tell myself that I will not accept these thoughts any longer. I was and am a good mother to 3 children and 7 grandsons. I am worth something, I no longer let this child think for 1 minute that anything they say or do affects me, because that only gives them the power they need to continue gaslighting and then I get on with my day. It's still hard and sad at times but I'm doing much better than I was.
@@sassysandie2865 Thank you. It's good to know I'm not alone. When it's your child, not just someone you know, you can't just walk away so you have to find the things to do that help you not let them get to you. It really is helping me. I also pray for this child every day.
Ppl.. stop putting so much importance on ur own identity and just BE. Once u lift up these expectations for yourself and being healthy And alive is enough for u..u will feel all the negativity and pressure fade away. Its a really liberating!! Put that ego aside and just Live!!
I usually ask myself 'Why?', so I can find the root of my negative thoughts and then, ask my self, "is this thought real or true or is it me sabotaging me?", "Is this thought possible?". I end up having an small debate with myself, sometimes I win, sometimes I don't. But I do my best with it.
I cannot just replace a negative thought with a positive one. That's like telling someone to smile whenever they feel down hoping they'll feel better just because they're smiling. It would be just a lie. You HAVE to believe it or you'll feel you're lying to yourself and the negative thoughts will come back again. I feel the only way to deal with it is looking for the root of those thoughts. Most of the time they are not even possible. Like, feeling no one loves you. Like.. Do you really think that's possible? that anybody in this world loves you or is it you sabotaging yourself? If so, why do you think you feel like no one loves you? Is it because of a low self esteem or why could that be? And so on, you can keep looking for the root of your negative thoughts until you find out if they are irrational or not. Of they are irrational, looking for what's making you think that way and make a effort to solve it. If they are not, same, make an effort to find the will for looking for a solution. Both of them requires a will for getting better. It's not easy. But it's a process we need so we can learn how to overcome those moments.
Hi. I know that sometimes "worrying " seems so productive. I have caught myself believing that going over things in a negative way really is helpful. How else do you so call solve The issue? BUT then I realize This way of thinking Is so HARMFUL. I love the question "Is this thought helpful or harmful? Or this way of thinking helpful or harmful. Thanks for a quick way to stay on top of going into "worry". Really enjoy your energy.
You hit the nail right on the head for me when you mentioned job interviews. I finnished a second college diploma almost a year ago and I’m trying to start a new career. Ive had several interviews but no luck landing a job yet. Every time I leave an interview I find my self thinking “oh, I should have said this” or “damn, why did I say that?”
After going trough something challenging we can either learn or lament - One is helpful, one is not so much. Are you able to learn something for the next interview instead of beating yourself up?
Julia Kristina, I do try to learn something and better prepare myself for next time. But I also have learn to ignore that lingering voice that is there every time I don’t get a job that always asks “why? Was I not good enough?” Even though I know I am. I did amazingly well in school, going way beyond my own expectations. I do know I am capable.
Yes, this happens. Especially with the hormonal shifts from monthly cycles can make things even worse. It is something that needs trackinf to understand it is only hormones and will clear away in a short time. That is what i have been dealing with. I use clean eating and exercise to keep my thoughts positive as much as possible. Great video!
I love all the very positive, productive ways/manners/perspective /attitudes you clearly present and convey on how to deal with our personal issues and with other people and as we engage with the world in general. i have watched a couple of your videos and I love the way your energy comes off as very bright but lately, it seems that your energy has been dulled a bit. i do hope that you are taking very good care of yourself as obviously, you care about the rest of us, hence your helpful , useful videos. Keep your energy up, your overall health coz like man, a lot of people really need you and your kind of vibe and wisdom. So I wish you well n pray that you continue to be ever so illuminating and ever so glowing in your overall health.Bless your heart and your family!
@@juliakristinamah About that... If my wife didn't have fantastic insurance, my therapist wouldn't be getting paid either. But, if I was in Vancouver, I surely would kick him to the curb for you. Lol. (I'm so loyal, huh?)
I have been struggling with career. I was planning on studying physician assistant. And I had to work in a medical field for clinical hours before that. And that is when covid happened. I worked through the worst of it. Lost 50 patients. Then I quit 3 months ago. I couldn't do it anymore. But I didn't start my PA degree. Every time I thought about it, I got panic attacks. I am reconsidering my whole life now. But it takes time, and I don't have a plan. And in my mind I have this negative talk about being a failure. And I think everyone else sees me as such. I am going to spend a month with my family soon, and I can only imagine all the negative comments that I will get.
If you were rejected by both your birth parents and adoptive parents, please believe me when I tell you that says everything about them and nothing about you. You are wonderful. Believe that!
linda justice : so sorry to hear about that, Linda. What I try to do is to take things just one day at a time and then life feels more manageable for me. I also try to remember another of Julia's tips that works really well when I'm having circling negative/anxious thoughts : I use her "I don't" tip and I say t myself : "I don't let other people's false perception of me derail my life/day". And any other iterations of the "I don't" tip ...... "I don't let other people's pettiness stop me from enjoying my life". Also, recently I have been doing a Breath Cycle meditation that was created by a young British woman, Sian Clifford. She set up a non-profit called, Still Space & I believe there is a website where you can download a guided meditation. Alternatively, Sian has posted several videos about it on You Tube, in which she guides you through the principles of Breath Cycle meditation. I have been doing it over the last two weeks and I find it takes my brain to a different place and I just feel more positive and happy. Search for Still Space on You Tube & u should be able to find it. Finally, I have recently subscribed to The Chopra Well on You Tube - it's Deepak Chopra's channel & recently he has been talking about the meta-human and how our conscious minds do not make up the totality of who we are but that there is a space we don't go to that's in our subconscious / where we are at a point of "pure consciousness" - where there are no thoughts at all & we are just "being" and are connected to the global consciousness - that is, connected to all living beings ..... It's worth thinking about these things, because there could be a level of consciousness that we are not tapping into. ...... Well, I hope that last bit about pure consciousness has not put you off. ....(!) .... And I wish you well in your pursuit of finding happiness and joy. Best wishes, Andrea. (PS, I have also practised Transcendental Meditation for 23 years, which is very healing for any physical ailments and helps you to assimilate any anxieties that are bothering you. I learned it through the Transcendental Meditation Association, which was founded by Maharishi Mohesh Yogi) - they also have a website & have teachers all around the world. Best wishes ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 Andrea
I get bogged down trying to remember how I did something yrs ago and it torments me trying to remember how I did a task or drawing or process and I feel like my brain is locked on to it ,,,,and I'm stupid if I can't remember ,then I start to try and work out everything I see like ,so the mantra is this thought useful ,is a clever way to stop this habit,Thanks a million for the trick Julia
I feel really negative thoughts about not only myself, but also others close to me who tend to make me feel bad about myself. I learned that these thoughts tend to affect other relationships in my life as well.
my negative thoughts made me feel like i’m not good enough for my boyfriend and i don’t deserve such a caring partner who’s willing to go through everything with me. and i ended up pushing him away because i think he will be happier with someone else. when all he wants to be with is me and only me.
One of my anxieties is hosting an event, like Thanksgiving which takes me a week to prepare for and break down afterwards. Plus it has to be perfect, of course! I think those negative thoughts and feel overwhelmed. Definitely experience time anxiety! My therapist told me to say to myself, "it's only a week and then it will be over. I can do this." A big help!
DETECTING PATTERNS is KEY for those of us in transition from past harming patterns. WE need to key into the specific phrases that continue to give us an un-easy gut reaction. TIP: 1. Make an inventory of these statements. 2. Make it mandatory to combat this with WORDS TO YOURSELF that are accurate and kind. 3. Create and recite an affirmation each morning, specific to you, detailing you deserve happiness. BEST PRACTICES and WISHES to us ALL!
I did a detailing job and the client went to see another détailler to do ceramic coating on his stripes, the at détailler said that I never put a ceramic coating on his truck and I rubbed him of 850$. I haven’t been able to sleep last night because of this. I am so proud of what I do and I let the At idiot come into my life and judge my work negatively.
All your videos are wonderful. Could you please do a video on how to handle unwanted advice? I am a happy person who minds my own business. Not a lot bothers me. The one thing that bothers me is when someone starts telling me how to live my life. Thank you for taking your valuable time.
Thanks for the video Julian I’ve been struggling with anxiety a lot lately and it feel so scary and it makes me feel so guilty, but it s time to get control of my life again.
I have a new job at a nail salon. It's a profession that I only learned a year ago. Everytime I mess up or even get the slightest critique from a client or my boss, I have these thoughts that I'm not good enough. Or that my boss doesn't like me. So this question is something I can really use right now.
I have severe anxiety. The negative thoughts for me is see you can never get rid of this, you will never be normal. Usually happens when I finally have a good day.
This happens a lot often than id like to admit BUT I've been working hard on stopping the negative thoughts spiraling by doing the same technique that you mentioned! If not sometimes I say out-loud or in my mind "stop" in order to pause the thought process. It usually works! :)
I’ve had and still have those thoughts. Now I’ve been work on them and building up my toolbox. Thank you. There still there but not as bad. Instead of days and days of those thoughts, it’ll be one or two days out of the week. As opposed to daily like it used to be.
I was depressed and was having a negative thoughts a month ago i’ve tried this and I’ve done it and it helps so much now I am positive I’m having trouble of nightmares now but that’s the something I can’t change Thanks so much it really helps 😊❤️
It is horrible to have the same thought on my mind. Every time I try to do anything one particular thought from the past is always at the back of my head to destroy my my positive feeling...the same single thought...it can be anything... like a guy misbehaved towards you 4 years back...now you start to relive that moment... It's really tormenting.
This hack, of course, is the best and the quickest (as in the shortest) reminder to ward off the negative thoughts and thinking. I also wanted to say (other than the fact I appreciate all counsel vids) that some people don't or won't realize the simple fact negative thoughts and thinking is always going to be part of the process of thinking. That is to say, there's no permanent cure for ridding one's brain of such pessimism based on negative thoughts. Rather, the brain is akin to the body's muscle memory. In other words, we train our muscles over time and therein lies a pattern. So, if we didn't do things right before, we will have to continue retraining and finding useful hints to get back on track in a jiffy. I, too, fall prey to my negative thoughts at times, but when I remind myself I am most assuredly strengthening a weakness by giving into the negative thought, I instantly get back on a new and better track of thinking. Hence, "Is this thought helpful to me?" And, of course, the answer is almost rhetorical. Thanks, again, Julia, for another direct and over-the-top messenger video. Send me the bill. I think I'm good for it. Dr. Rich www.richholtzin.com
Thank you for this helpful question. I have a deep core of shame that is there for many reasons and I’ve been working through this with a wonderful therapist.
Accents don't usually make much of an impression on me, although I really do like pleasant sonorous voices. However, I love--LOVE--your accent and you speak beautifully! I live in the U.S., by the way. You are quite eloquent and I love what you have to say in all of the videos I have watched on your channel this morning! Bravo!
Marla, Practical action is needed to reprogramme the subconscious mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep are also very effective to reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
I speak negative about myself on the daily. The years of abuse I went through definitely fueled it. I'll say awful things about me just for spilling water. My wife hates that I do it. I'm trying to stop but when you've been accustomed to it since you were a child, it's incredibly challenging.
I gave the negative thoughts a voice, well actually they always had a voice (my old man) but now I hear it recognize it and am able to dispute it most of the time. Sometimes he whispers though, and that is sneaky. Hey I just stumbled upon your videos and they are very insightful, informative and helpful. Thank YOU!!
Such negative thoughts are usually associated with anxiety... Making a conscious effort to stay in the present instead of mulling over the past or anticipating the future go a long way... simply understanding makes the anxiety less corrosive
Hi ! My name is Amnay, I'm 24 and I'm struggling with a negative thought that came to my mind 4 months and half ago. I was watching an animate on RUclips then suddenly I've been traumatized and scared by an event that I've heard from it. That negative moment and that negative emotion comes back to my mind pretty often. It goes away but it comes back and it just makes me loose my confidence and my motivation, delay work and plus it feels like my head is burning and hurting. I don't like to think about it and I regret that I watched the animate that night. What would you advice me to forget this traumatic event? Thank you :)
mine's been going for 3 months and yeah it comes and goes because u are doing something wrong that needs to be change try writting that negative thought down and youll see that its just some stupid letters because you have given it a form rather than making up something in your mind
Can you do one on how to stop negative thought patterns around health? I'm afraid it may be pretty deeply rooted. But negative feelings about health seem to be in my head non stop which is weird because besides that I'm a pretty happy well rounded person 🤷🏻♀️
Hi Julia My last battle with negative thoughts was 1. I got in a problem that I all my feelings says I was right 2. I lost in this problem 3. I wanna kill everybody related to my failure 4. My muscles , bones , heart actually every part of me were exhausted by the negative thoughts 5. I stop thinking 6. I can't sleep 7.negative thoughts again 8. Side effects again 9.stop but I need a doctor 10. Pills pills pills 11. Long sleep less life to be honest no life 12. Some life arises then some negative thoughts arise again 13. Two weeks the same routine 14. A phone call from my antagonist taking things easy 15. Me a normal guy How long should I wait to get normal without that phone call?
Hi Julia 👋😊.I love your videos very much. You always encourage me with the words of wisdom. Thanks 😘 for your emotional support. Take care 😘 Bye 👋❤️❤️♥️
Lately I have been taking things personal and having trouble letting those thoughts go. I end up dwelling about a particular confrontation and take more time meditating it out.
I was doing pretty well with a negative thought, until something happened, and it came back back. It scared me. I realized I never really examined it. I did. I understood the circumstances bringing it about. The trouble is it affects my digestion. I think it will go away giving it some time.
I really struggle with this. I'm constantly reminded when I wake up in my mums house, in my old bedroom, that my marriage didn't work out. And it doesn't get the day off to a good start. I'm also sometimes frightened about what the future holds for me and my children. It's crippling some days.
I struggle with this type of thinking everyday!!! I have made my family hate to be around me and my children think of me as a bad mom because of the way I handle my thinking and emotions
thank you this is very helpful for me and I am going to apply this in my everyday life..really struggling with negative thoughts this past few days Thank God I watched this 😍
Yep I'm literally going through this right now during quarantine. I thought it would go away after 2 weeks but it hasnt .Despite this, it is nice to know that I'm not crazy and other people r going through the same thing. I think the 'is this helpful' technique is helpful and allows me to rethink and get my self out of my own head for a bit
I continuously criticize myself on trivial behavior, I must have hurt that guy saying this or that. But I'm learning to ask why and how, and : Is this negative thought useful?
Exactly! If you know you've hurt someone - apologize. If you're not sure, you can ask. If it's very unlikely, trust they will let you know if you have.
I do the same: I am much better now but years ago I used to second guess myself after I had come home from a party (or any large gathering): did I hurt this person's feelings? did a speak too much? did I laugh too loud?? Thank you Julia! I will ask myself this question from now on!
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Have you ever done this? Have you ever judged or criticized yourself for struggling?
Sorry you choked (that's awful) was that live TV ? They couldn't edit ? and YES... and Shame IS counterproductive and yet old school "Coaching methods" in general use shame as a motivator... (Not good.) lol... Eventually with experience you don't let these things eat you up IF you have an independent sense of self worth (perhaps.).
I used to do this a lot and would suppress my negative thoughts until I read up on yin/yang. Now I look at negative and positive thoughts as being one thing that needs balance. Yin (black, negative) is stationary. It has a lot of substance, but isn't going to move or dissolve unless ying(white, positive) comes along and carries it away. So anytime I think of a negative thought, I will do something or think something positive to flush the negativity away. Now I embrace the negative when it shows because it can tell us a lot about us, but it needs positivity in order to be dealt with properly.
@@jonathancunningham4159 I kinda liked what you wrote. I think sometimes you have to FEEL your feelings just to process stuff much more "Efficiently" so that these negative feelings don't become obstructive if you don't engage them head on and be avoidant. I.e. if you get triggered by stuff eventually one learns to process that quickly and move onto the positive, but not everyone is "Wired" that way. Everyone has had a moment in their life from public embarrassment / humiliation where you just want to curl up into the fetal position for three days in a dark corner. Eventually when you get older one learns to have a sense of humor and you have a more considered perspective on life. Especially if one is more practiced at whatever "Art" or endeavors one is engaged in. These "Moments" teach us valuable lessons. Depends what level of "Game" you are in (without necessarily bringing a level of perfectionism that is counter productive.).
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Many, many, many times. I'm struggling with something then put myself down for struggling and make it worse. IT'S NOT HELPFUL!!!
I also like to ask myself.. “is this thought true?” Because a lot of the time not only are our thoughts not helpful, but, often times they really aren’t true or fact either.
Oh yes! Such a good one Carrie. Thanks for sharing that nugget.
I do this too thank u!!
What if I dont know if its true or not?
Nice Video! Sorry for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Proutklarton Defeat problems Plan (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a smashing exclusive guide for discovering how to get rid of depression minus the hard work. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my best friend Jordan at last got excellent results with it.
@@JonTheDon99 I suffer from this too even though at the end of the day I know it’s not true. My mind still tries to trick me and makes me believe certain things are the when they are not.
Whenever i get a negative thought i visualize as i am putting it in a box and tossing it off a cliff.. Makes things much better...
Omg!!!!! Thanks for this!!!!
Thanks so much I love u
Lmao. You just made my day
I do the same thing 😊 it's for helpful
TYSM I'M GONNA DO THAT!
Surrounding ourselves with positive people is key for getting rid of negative thoughts. 👍🏾
It is nice to be around encouraging and supportive people, isn't it?
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Where do you find positive people?
What if the ones that's giving you negative thoughts are your family
I think we have to be careful about defining negative thoughts/people. We all have times when we are going through immense suffering and need to authentically voice it and be supported as we work our way through it. Then again, there are people who can never be pleased, always in victim mode, and are gossipy/critical. Definitely avoid the last three.
I was thinking you could also ask your self “is this feeling helpful?”
I feel like it helps me out a lot to so when I feel negative I would ask my self
“are these negative thoughts helping me? Is this negative feeling helpful?” thats all I just wanted to put that out there it might help others to 😊
Or “maybe I’m too old or not relevant anymore” 😖. Yeah I do this to myself and it’s hard to get out of the negative thought loop. Sometimes we’re our own worst enemy. Good topic and tips!👍🏻
Great example April! Is that thought helping to motivate and inspire you? If not, what's the point?
I do this constantly menopausal and fat. No kids single. It's a tough road
Just the best time that I need this.
I dwelled quite a negative self-talk for a while when I was the only individual from our team who didn't get recognition. I felt so bad that these emotional gremlins attacked me.
This is really of big help for me to change my mindset, to heal and to bounce back.
Thank you for this insightful encouragement. ❤️
I also have been asking myself for a year now, whenever I feel like my thinking patterns are repeating or falling apart at the seams:" who am I without anxiety?" I'm surprised how much my answers to this question are evolving each time I ask myself. I now see positive or even just neutral self talk is critical for mental health.
I cannot describe in words how much your videos touch me and help me cope.I have anxiety and have negative thoughts often.I will have an anxiety attack sometimes in front of friends,at partys,even at work.Then I often have negative thoughts about myself after the fact about me having those anxiety attacks.These thoughts are not helping me or anyone else you couldnt be more right.I just wanted to let you know I love what you do and I really appriciate you making these videos.❤
Thank you JC. After a year of back and leg pain my doctors eventually have a diagnosis. The pain has driven me in to a negative spiral. Thank you for this 💛
I love caring people. Thank you Julia your making the world a brighter place. 👍🏻❤
She took very long to reach that question , I started to think negative with that wait time.
same
Yep goodbye
Ciao
I always question why so many people take so long to get to the point. Weather it's real life or social media.
I completely agree with you, her action created more negative thoughts than it was suppose to solve.
That makes me question her credentials, anyone can claim to be anything on the net. I hope she reads this. In my humble opinion, she should know better!
I have been struggling with toxic, spiraling thoughts all of my life. Your hack is so simple yet profound. Your videos have really helped me. Thank you for your wisdom.
Have Daily Negative Thought Time
2. Replace the Negative Thoughts
3. Be Your Own Best Friend
4. Write Instead Of Think
5. Make A Conscious Effort To Find Things To Love, Like And Appreciate
6. Establish New Habits
7. Use Affirmations
8. Develop Your Success Routine
9. Channel Those
Thoughts Into Something Constructive
I ordained as novice monk in Luang Phrabang . Mind control is key. My teacher taught me that when meditating, observing the thought, and then zap it like an electric wand.
It works because so little time is allowed for the thought to take hold, and at the same time allows your focus to move forward instantly.🙏🙏🙏
Yes,i usually do that when i get a bad grade.And yes,i most of the times cry not because of that grade,but because i bully myself in my head,or compare myself to others.I would love to see a video about comparing yourself to others,and how to stop it.I really need that.Amazing video,as always ❤
I agree on the video about comparing yourself to others. I do this constant in both my work and personal life.
Hwvr 123 I have the same issue of comparing myself and it’s soo bad 🙁 yes it would be great to have a video on in 🤗
The same drama comes up over and over again... I can only submit... But, today.... I ask myself.... are my thoughts useful, or helpful, and can I get back to what I was doing before listening to this person..... Absolutely.... Thank you.... I have such a good life. Amen
Good work. I have written a book ( still finishing the bibliography) on emergency preparedness and in that book I cover the subject of “Panic.” Most advice given to people who face an emergency situation is “Don’t Panic.” Very few if any at all explains how to do it. In my book I cover this and am pleased to see you addressing the issue of anxiety as well. I have often been the subject of anxiety and know firsthand that it is not a very pleasant feeling so I would also like to thank you personally for addressing your issue. Thanks for your presentation
This was on point and legitimately made me feel so much better. I was feeling lots of guilt and now I feel relieved.
Please help me what makes you to stop feeling guilt ?
@@lethukuthulakhuzwayo8081 . Practical action is needed to reprogramme the mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep are also very effective to reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Understanding the basic anatomy and physiology of neuroplasticity and how the amygdalas function as a switch between higher rational thought and fight-or-flight sympathetic reflex? Priceless
Sometimes I can go from having a good day(especially at work) then all of a sudden someone can say something awful to me and then feel like the day has been ruined. Then my thoughts get the best of me sometimes, sometimes I have a panic attack from all the stimulation around me.
Same happens with me
Goodness, the "tip" is given at approximately 5:14
Yes, and if I just told you the tip right off the bat, it wouldn't land or be helpful. Context is necessary. Thanks for watching!
@@juliakristinamah Ah yes, the same question I ask my mom when she's making trouble. Thanks! Good to keep this in mind for when the trouble-making is internal.
Thnx a. Lot
Negative criticism 🤔
She gotta do that to build up bra, just chill 🙄🙄 this microwave generation is sooo 🥴🥴
I Used to say to myself "That was stupid". It's eye-opening to understand that those thoughts are not helpful nor needed. Thank you for all your help. I so appreciate these videos
Yeah, not helpful to judge ourselves - safe to say most of us are doing our best!
Video begins at 5:25 ❤️
The tip of the video is asking ourselves "Is this thought helpful?"
There you go, you're welcome.
Self examination is very important. IF USED CONSTRUCTIVELY! Im guilty of putting myself down also.
Yeah, I do this . I know better and still catch myself doing it. And then ruminate on why I'm doing this to myself. I'm always working on trying to be mindful and shift these thoughts to ones of self love. I do struggle with these kinds of thoughts.
Please don't blame yourself for not being perfect and getting it right every time - none of us are and none of us do. #inthistogether
Thank you for your response. I am always glad when my comments reach people in a positive way. Thanks again for your response
So glad to have you here! I appreciate you.
Hello Everyone, I’m in my fifties. It started from when I was a kid at the age of four years old. For some apparent reason no one liked me. Until this very day I get the same energy from many people. It’s very depressing and bothersome. Because of this I have negative thoughts all the time. In closing, I’m
Not a mean person. I have good intentions for anyone. I see the world as full of hate and not to be trusted. This is why I prefer to be in the company of animals.
I do that often, I am a solider of the world of negativity & I know how deep you can sink & I long have not hit the bottom *if the is one* take your days and build knowledge and resistance til the day you know your ready to live.
Sometimes I knoooow the thought is not helpful, but it keeps bugging me :)
Beatrix Solitary Green Witch Me too☹️ My mind knows it all but the feeling of guilt and shame do not go away.
True
I've, really want things to change, have tried for many years.
Have been Gaslit by one of my children for about 21 years and it was horrible. I would let all the untrue accusations cause me to constantly criticize myself and finally about a year ago I started telling myself that I was not guilty or deserving of the accusations and lies and started researching the things that were being done to me. I now tell myself that I will not accept these thoughts any longer. I was and am a good mother to 3 children and 7 grandsons. I am worth something, I no longer let this child think for 1 minute that anything they say or do affects me, because that only gives them the power they need to continue gaslighting and then I get on with my day. It's still hard and sad at times but I'm doing much better than I was.
Elizabeth Hamilton you’re not alone😩
Good for you👏
@@sassysandie2865 Thank you. It's good to know I'm not alone. When it's your child, not just someone you know, you can't just walk away so you have to find the things to do that help you not let them get to you. It really is helping me. I also pray for this child every day.
@@lisapeterson729 Thank you for your support, Lisa
Elizabeth Hamilton I’ve sadly walked away for the most part😩
Yes it needs stop. Not that negative mindset. Keep the bright side.
Ppl.. stop putting so much importance on ur own identity and just BE. Once u lift up these expectations for yourself and being healthy And alive is enough for u..u will feel all the negativity and pressure fade away. Its a really liberating!! Put that ego aside and just Live!!
I usually ask myself 'Why?', so I can find the root of my negative thoughts and then, ask my self, "is this thought real or true or is it me sabotaging me?", "Is this thought possible?". I end up having an small debate with myself, sometimes I win, sometimes I don't. But I do my best with it.
@@skellyyy707 stop with the what ifs
I cannot just replace a negative thought with a positive one. That's like telling someone to smile whenever they feel down hoping they'll feel better just because they're smiling. It would be just a lie. You HAVE to believe it or you'll feel you're lying to yourself and the negative thoughts will come back again. I feel the only way to deal with it is looking for the root of those thoughts. Most of the time they are not even possible. Like, feeling no one loves you. Like.. Do you really think that's possible? that anybody in this world loves you or is it you sabotaging yourself? If so, why do you think you feel like no one loves you? Is it because of a low self esteem or why could that be? And so on, you can keep looking for the root of your negative thoughts until you find out if they are irrational or not. Of they are irrational, looking for what's making you think that way and make a effort to solve it. If they are not, same, make an effort to find the will for looking for a solution. Both of them requires a will for getting better. It's not easy. But it's a process we need so we can learn how to overcome those moments.
Thank you so much I'll try that !
Hi. I know that sometimes "worrying " seems so productive. I have caught myself believing that going over things in a negative way really is helpful.
How else do you so call solve
The issue? BUT then I realize
This way of thinking Is so HARMFUL.
I love the question "Is this thought helpful or harmful?
Or this way of thinking helpful or harmful. Thanks for a quick way to stay on top of going into "worry".
Really enjoy your energy.
You hit the nail right on the head for me when you mentioned job interviews. I finnished a second college diploma almost a year ago and I’m trying to start a new career. Ive had several interviews but no luck landing a job yet. Every time I leave an interview I find my self thinking “oh, I should have said this” or “damn, why did I say that?”
After going trough something challenging we can either learn or lament - One is helpful, one is not so much. Are you able to learn something for the next interview instead of beating yourself up?
Julia Kristina, I do try to learn something and better prepare myself for next time. But I also have learn to ignore that lingering voice that is there every time I don’t get a job that always asks “why? Was I not good enough?” Even though I know I am. I did amazingly well in school, going way beyond my own expectations. I do know I am capable.
Yes, this happens. Especially with the hormonal shifts from monthly cycles can make things even worse. It is something that needs trackinf to understand it is only hormones and will clear away in a short time. That is what i have been dealing with. I use clean eating and exercise to keep my thoughts positive as much as possible. Great video!
I love all the very positive, productive ways/manners/perspective /attitudes you clearly present and convey on how to deal with our personal issues and with other people and as we engage with the world in general. i have watched a couple of your videos and I love the way your energy comes off as very bright but lately, it seems that your energy has been dulled a bit. i do hope that you are taking very good care of yourself as obviously, you care about the rest of us, hence your helpful , useful videos. Keep your energy up, your overall health coz like man, a lot of people really need you and your kind of vibe and wisdom. So I wish you well n pray that you continue to be ever so illuminating and ever so glowing in your overall health.Bless your heart and your family!
I literally used this advice while I was watching the video. Thank you found a new tool to ground myself. I appreciate it.
Hmmm... Might be time to fire my long time therapist now that I've found you. I know - I'll keep BOTH OF YOU!!! 😊
lol! At least one of us is getting paid. jk jk.
@@juliakristinamah About that... If my wife didn't have fantastic insurance, my therapist wouldn't be getting paid either. But, if I was in Vancouver, I surely would kick him to the curb for you. Lol. (I'm so loyal, huh?)
I have been struggling with career. I was planning on studying physician assistant. And I had to work in a medical field for clinical hours before that. And that is when covid happened. I worked through the worst of it. Lost 50 patients. Then I quit 3 months ago. I couldn't do it anymore. But I didn't start my PA degree. Every time I thought about it, I got panic attacks. I am reconsidering my whole life now. But it takes time, and I don't have a plan. And in my mind I have this negative talk about being a failure. And I think everyone else sees me as such. I am going to spend a month with my family soon, and I can only imagine all the negative comments that I will get.
Mine try to eat me alive every day - feeling loved by others is extremely hard for me after being rejected by my birth and
adoptive parents...
If you were rejected by both your birth parents and adoptive parents, please believe me when I tell you that says everything about them and nothing about you. You are wonderful. Believe that!
linda justice I'm so sorry that happened to you. You deserve much better. ❤️
I could imagine that would be really painful. For something deeper like this, you might find using self-compassion healing and helpful.
linda justice : so sorry to hear about that, Linda. What I try to do is to take things just one day at a time and then life feels more manageable for me. I also try to remember another of Julia's tips that works really well when I'm having circling negative/anxious thoughts : I use her "I don't" tip and I say t myself : "I don't let other people's false perception of me derail my life/day". And any other iterations of the "I don't" tip ...... "I don't let other people's pettiness stop me from enjoying my life". Also, recently I have been doing a Breath Cycle meditation that was created by a young British woman, Sian Clifford. She set up a non-profit called, Still Space & I believe there is a website where you can download a guided meditation. Alternatively, Sian has posted several videos about it on You Tube, in which she guides you through the principles of Breath Cycle meditation. I have been doing it over the last two weeks and I find it takes my brain to a different place and I just feel more positive and happy. Search for Still Space on You Tube & u should be able to find it. Finally, I have recently subscribed to The Chopra Well on You Tube - it's Deepak Chopra's channel & recently he has been talking about the meta-human and how our conscious minds do not make up the totality of who we are but that there is a space we don't go to that's in our subconscious / where we are at a point of "pure consciousness" - where there are no thoughts at all & we are just "being" and are connected to the global consciousness - that is, connected to all living beings ..... It's worth thinking about these things, because there could be a level of consciousness that we are not tapping into. ...... Well, I hope that last bit about pure consciousness has not put you off. ....(!) .... And I wish you well in your pursuit of finding happiness and joy. Best wishes, Andrea. (PS, I have also practised Transcendental Meditation for 23 years, which is very healing for any physical ailments and helps you to assimilate any anxieties that are bothering you. I learned it through the Transcendental Meditation Association, which was founded by Maharishi Mohesh Yogi) - they also have a website & have teachers all around the world. Best wishes ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹 Andrea
i''m sure you are an amazing person--Love yourself & take care!
Self put down thoughts always come into my head. Thank you Julia for this hack. It's time to stop.
Yes it is! Keep me posted and let me know how it goes.
Why would anyone not like this? This is good stuff and very helpful. Thank you!
I have done this. For sure. J
I get bogged down trying to remember how I did something yrs ago and it torments me trying to remember how I did a task or drawing or process and I feel like my brain is locked on to it ,,,,and I'm stupid if I can't remember ,then I start to try and work out everything I see like ,so the mantra is this thought useful ,is a clever way to stop this habit,Thanks a million for the trick Julia
I feel really negative thoughts about not only myself, but also others close to me who tend to make me feel bad about myself. I learned that these thoughts tend to affect other relationships in my life as well.
Your videos have really helped me, I watch one every morning. thank you so much Julia.
my negative thoughts made me feel like i’m not good enough for my boyfriend and i don’t deserve such a caring partner who’s willing to go through everything with me. and i ended up pushing him away because i think he will be happier with someone else. when all he wants to be with is me and only me.
One of my anxieties is hosting an event, like Thanksgiving which takes me a week to prepare for and break down afterwards. Plus it has to be perfect, of course! I think those negative thoughts and feel overwhelmed. Definitely experience time anxiety! My therapist told me to say to myself, "it's only a week and then it will be over. I can do this." A big help!
DETECTING PATTERNS is KEY for those of us in transition from past harming patterns. WE
need to key into the specific phrases that continue to give us an un-easy gut
reaction. TIP: 1. Make an inventory of these statements. 2. Make it mandatory
to combat this with WORDS TO YOURSELF that are accurate and kind. 3. Create and
recite an affirmation each morning, specific to you, detailing you deserve
happiness. BEST PRACTICES and WISHES to us ALL!
I did a detailing job and the client went to see another détailler to do ceramic coating on his stripes, the at détailler said that I never put a ceramic coating on his truck and I rubbed him of 850$. I haven’t been able to sleep last night because of this. I am so proud of what I do and I let the
At idiot come into my life and judge my work negatively.
All your videos are wonderful. Could you please do a video on how to handle unwanted advice? I am a happy person who minds my own business. Not a lot bothers me. The one thing that bothers me is when someone starts telling me how to live my life. Thank you for taking your valuable time.
Great suggestion! I'll put it on the list.
Centsible Living With Money Mom I usually say, “well, you’ve given me something to think about....”
Thank you. I really appreciate this.
Thank you for your kind response.
I have problem with negative thought,always thinking the worsted about things...and moving forward, being at peace with my self
Negative thoughts abound and multiply as you ruminate on a situation that's evolving in your life that you feel you're not in control of
Thanks for the video Julian I’ve been struggling with anxiety a lot lately and it feel so scary and it makes me feel so guilty, but it s time to get control of my life again.
I have a new job at a nail salon. It's a profession that I only learned a year ago. Everytime I mess up or even get the slightest critique from a client or my boss, I have these thoughts that I'm not good enough. Or that my boss doesn't like me. So this question is something I can really use right now.
I have severe anxiety. The negative thoughts for me is see you can never get rid of this, you will never be normal. Usually happens when I finally have a good day.
Yeh
This happens a lot often than id like to admit BUT I've been working hard on stopping the negative thoughts spiraling by doing the same technique that you mentioned! If not sometimes I say out-loud or in my mind "stop" in order to pause the thought process. It usually works! :)
I’ve had and still have those thoughts. Now I’ve been work on them and building up my toolbox. Thank you. There still there but not as bad. Instead of days and days of those thoughts, it’ll be one or two days out of the week. As opposed to daily like it used to be.
I was depressed and was having a negative thoughts a month ago i’ve tried this and I’ve done it and it helps so much now I am positive I’m having trouble of nightmares now but that’s the something I can’t change Thanks so much it really helps 😊❤️
Yup I have been there with the bad negative thoughts but now with your help I am going to try and change the bad habits of this, thank you Krista.
I mean Kristena
It is horrible to have the same thought on my mind. Every time I try to do anything one particular thought from the past is always at the back of my head to destroy my my positive feeling...the same single thought...it can be anything... like a guy misbehaved towards you 4 years back...now you start to relive that moment... It's really tormenting.
This hack, of course, is the best and the quickest (as in the shortest) reminder to ward off the negative thoughts and thinking. I also wanted to say (other than the fact I appreciate all counsel vids) that some people don't or won't realize the simple fact negative thoughts and thinking is always going to be part of the process of thinking. That is to say, there's no permanent cure for ridding one's brain of such pessimism based on negative thoughts. Rather, the brain is akin to the body's muscle memory. In other words, we train our muscles over time and therein lies a pattern. So, if we didn't do things right before, we will have to continue retraining and finding useful hints to get back on track in a jiffy. I, too, fall prey to my negative thoughts at times, but when I remind myself I am most assuredly strengthening a weakness by giving into the negative thought, I instantly get back on a new and better track of thinking. Hence, "Is this thought helpful to me?" And, of course, the answer is almost rhetorical. Thanks, again, Julia, for another direct and over-the-top messenger video. Send me the bill. I think I'm good for it. Dr. Rich www.richholtzin.com
This video has definitely helped me. Definitely covered the majority of the areas in my life where I struggle alot.
Thank you for this helpful question. I have a deep core of shame that is there for many reasons and I’ve been working through this with a wonderful therapist.
Julia Kristina, you truly are a angel from above.... Tha k you for ALL YOUR VIDEOS X
Hello! I have commented on a few other videos. I am using your videos as a tool to help re-program my brain & my thinking. Thank you!
I like listening to your videos I learn from it! I put you on then let it run while I do my house work! Thank you 🙏
I am EVERYTHING that you have mentioned but now trying to learn from them
You just described how i really feel. Thank you for this💓 starting my healing journey
Dear Julia Kristina,
Thank you so much for posting this video. It's been immensely helpful for me!
Thanks for another great video. You always have great advice and a very soothing delivery.
Nicholas - that really means a lot. thanks for taking the time to say so.
Accents don't usually make much of an impression on me, although I really do like pleasant sonorous voices. However, I love--LOVE--your accent and you speak beautifully! I live in the U.S., by the way. You are quite eloquent and I love what you have to say in all of the videos I have watched on your channel this morning! Bravo!
Very helpful ! Thanks so much. I have traveling Anxiety and panic.
Marla, Practical action is needed to reprogramme the subconscious mind. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety-stress. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, hands on lap with palms upwards, eyes closed, be still and observe your natural incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10 minutes or more. Slowly negative thoughts will reduce and relax the mind. During your daily activity keep observing your breath consciously. Do the above meditation daily to feel relaxed. Positive affirmations for 5-10 minutes before sleep are also very effective to reduce negative thoughts. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.
Negative thoughts can help you to be better person ,if you have the mindset to see good in every bad
Wow! Great tip! I worry that if I go talk to a girl I like she may be rude to me or ignore me or dismiss me.
every night i’m alone and i always start overthinking with negativity, thank you
I am 100 percent ready to change my thinking and my behavior which will change my life
I am tired of the lies, fighting and hate!
I speak negative about myself on the daily. The years of abuse I went through definitely fueled it. I'll say awful things about me just for spilling water. My wife hates that I do it. I'm trying to stop but when you've been accustomed to it since you were a child, it's incredibly challenging.
I gave the negative thoughts a voice, well actually they always had a voice (my old man) but now I hear it recognize it and am able to dispute it most of the time. Sometimes he whispers though, and that is sneaky.
Hey I just stumbled upon your videos and they are very insightful, informative and helpful. Thank YOU!!
Hi been seeking a way to stop these negative thoughts for days, these 4 simple words might be the key to achieve my goal. thank you!!
Very useful. Thanks. I'm going to ask this question 5 times today in order to practice applying this technique.
Such negative thoughts are usually associated with anxiety... Making a conscious effort to stay in the present instead of mulling over the past or anticipating the future go a long way... simply understanding makes the anxiety less corrosive
Hi ! My name is Amnay, I'm 24 and I'm struggling with a negative thought that came to my mind 4 months and half ago. I was watching an animate on RUclips then suddenly I've been traumatized and scared by an event that I've heard from it. That negative moment and that negative emotion comes back to my mind pretty often. It goes away but it comes back and it just makes me loose my confidence and my motivation, delay work and plus it feels like my head is burning and hurting. I don't like to think about it and I regret that I watched the animate that night. What would you advice me to forget this traumatic event? Thank you :)
mine's been going for 3 months and yeah it comes and goes because u are doing something wrong that needs to be change
try writting that negative thought down and youll see that its just some stupid letters because you have given it a form rather than making up something in your mind
Love yourself and don't get mad and don't get upset.
I am ready to shut down my Negative thoughts.
Can you do one on how to stop negative thought patterns around health? I'm afraid it may be pretty deeply rooted. But negative feelings about health seem to be in my head non stop which is weird because besides that I'm a pretty happy well rounded person 🤷🏻♀️
Hi Julia
My last battle with negative thoughts was
1. I got in a problem that I all my feelings says I was right
2. I lost in this problem
3. I wanna kill everybody related to my failure
4. My muscles , bones , heart actually every part of me were exhausted by the negative thoughts
5. I stop thinking
6. I can't sleep
7.negative thoughts again
8. Side effects again
9.stop but I need a doctor
10. Pills pills pills
11. Long sleep less life to be honest no life
12. Some life arises then some negative thoughts arise again
13. Two weeks the same routine
14. A phone call from my antagonist taking things easy
15. Me a normal guy
How long should I wait to get normal without that phone call?
Hi Julia 👋😊.I love your videos very much. You always encourage me with the words of wisdom. Thanks 😘 for your emotional support. Take care 😘 Bye 👋❤️❤️♥️
Hey! So kind of you to say - really glad it helped.
Lately I have been taking things personal and having trouble letting those thoughts go. I end up dwelling about a particular confrontation and take more time meditating it out.
I was doing pretty well with a negative thought, until something happened, and it came back back. It scared me. I realized I never really examined it. I did. I understood the circumstances bringing it about. The trouble is it affects my digestion. I think it will go away giving it some time.
I really struggle with this. I'm constantly reminded when I wake up in my mums house, in my old bedroom, that my marriage didn't work out. And it doesn't get the day off to a good start. I'm also sometimes frightened about what the future holds for me and my children. It's crippling some days.
Yep...often. Your videos are really helpful, thanks.
Lana! So glad you're here and really grateful they've been helpful.
Loneliness is kinda my issue! And those are exactly the thoughts that I have about it!!
I struggle with this type of thinking everyday!!!
I have made my family hate to be around me and my children think of me as a bad mom because of the way I handle my thinking and emotions
thank you this is very helpful for me and I am going to apply this in my everyday life..really struggling with negative thoughts this past few days Thank God I watched this 😍
Yep I'm literally going through this right now during quarantine. I thought it would go away after 2 weeks but it hasnt .Despite this, it is nice to know that I'm not crazy and other people r going through the same thing. I think the 'is this helpful' technique is helpful and allows me to rethink and get my self out of my own head for a bit
I continuously criticize myself on trivial behavior, I must have hurt that guy saying this or that. But I'm learning to ask why and how, and : Is this negative thought useful?
Exactly! If you know you've hurt someone - apologize. If you're not sure, you can ask. If it's very unlikely, trust they will let you know if you have.
I do the same: I am much better now but years ago I used to second guess myself after I had come home from a party (or any large gathering): did I hurt this person's feelings? did a speak too much? did I laugh too loud?? Thank you Julia! I will ask myself this question from now on!