Please share this video with anyone who is struggle to understand what's happening to them. If this is your first time hearing the word 'Parental Alienation' know that you are NOT alone.
I come to hear this video every now and again. I am long term estranged from my daughter. She’s an adult now. I last saw her when she was around ten. The situation is bleak. I wish I could stop thinking about it. I don’t want to stay in this hell anymore. I need to climb out of it.
This is the worst form of brain washing I've ever encountered in my life. It's horrifying to witness. May every child who goes through this get justice and learn to walk with God.
Alienated child here, didnt talk to my mother from age 11 to 18 now 20. It was a big divorce and my mom was exciled form the whole family, even her parents. Im very happy now and live with her. Im still having to sort through the abuse caused by the alienation and the extreme child neglect caused by the alienating parent. Never give up, give it time.
Thank you for the video. I'm about 2.5 years in. Losing my son has been the most painful experience of my life. The senselessness and shear meanness of alienating parent's behavior boggles my mind. I've never before experienced such "evil", for lack of a better word. May all these children know that their alienated parent loved them to no end ❤.
You will get your son back. My 17yo daughter figured out the narcissistic abuse and fled, walking 16 miles across town at night 95f heat. She remembered how she was loved by me, as your son will remember of you.
@tom1miss72 my son is autistic with I.D...I truly do feel your pain. His stepmom has become his paid community support worker, so she brainwashes him 24/7. She's changed his phone number 3 times, won't allow any access to him (brainwashes him to reject his family) she's completely re-written his childhood. The state of Idaho will do nothing to intercede or protect him from the abuse. My son is over 18, so family court is no help either. Is your son still young enough to fight in family court? I truly do mean that I'm sorry for what you're going through. I understand your pain...and the idea that their is no chance that your child will grow up and move away from it. The thing that kills me is that my ex and I fought so hard to protect Jacob, to surround him with family and friends....then he married this gal and has stood by while she has systematically stripped my son of his independence, confidence, family, etc. I hope that you're finding ways to heal...it's a rough road, but it gets a little better when you can find some mental/emotional peace again.
Thank you for making this channel. This all too common tragedy needs the light of day. I am proud of you for telling your story, and for reconciling with your Dad
I had never heard about this before it happened to me. The way you're describing it is absolutely exact. It's terrifying and I couldn't have imagined it in my wildest dreams. I watched it unfold and just had no idea what to do. And still have no idea what to do.
So well articulated Ryan, after representing myself 38 court hearings in the UK over 20 years, i know this subject so well, you do a great job of explaining what is going on for all parties involved - great job!
This spills into adulthood. And my son who is 29 is very depressed due to this. He misses me internally . He lived with me until 18 but he twisted his mind after he moved there. Now I'm even kept from my grandson. I have always been a nice person and havr lots of lifelong friends. The problem is not me.
I lost all 4 of my kids by the time they started kindergarten. The only way my situation differs from this video is that my mother got in on the act. This the clearest and most comprehensive description I've heard. thanks for posting it.
Thank you so much for this video! Unfortunately I am experiencing this now and I am grieving my child. His father “won” against me in court and now I have even less time with him. I am In shock literally but I will continue to fight for my child. He was abusive to me but yet I still gave him grace & mercy to be a dad to our son and he does this to be the first chance he gets. Smdh it’s disgusting. Your insight and video proves that I am not crazy. Every single thing you mentioned has happened! It is very sad. Thank you for bringing light to this!
#ryanthomasspeaks : i've been looking for this video for years. My 19 yr old hasn't spoken to me in 6 years. Haven't spoken to my family in years because I could never ever get them to conceive of this horror. I have never heard anyone explain it so clearly. Maybe this time they'll watch and listen. I've had the stigma resulting from the alienator destroying every relationship i've ever had.. Thank you from the bottom of my broken heart.
I just wanted to say that, I have been looking at videos since last year on parental alienation… I’ve been emotionally/verbally etc abused by my ex for the past 11 years… I left when my daughter was 2.5 years old and went through family court process which in the end didn’t help find me much peace. My daughter got sick and almost passed when she was 4, things took a drastic more severe turn following this. I am the child’s primary residence - her father is a narcissist. Through therapy I’ve come to terms that even is getting together was through his narcissistic manipulation. I married a wonderful man when my daughter was 4. He was/is an amazing stepfather and they had a beautiful bond with my daughter. Slowly over time, my ex destroyed this bond, destroyed the image of my husband in my daughters eyes. He also harnessed and impugned him in court - insinuating he was a pedophile because he said happy Valentine’s Day to both me and my daughter in an Instagram post. My husband hasn’t used social media since, it’s been 8 years since then, and since we settled on a custody arrangement before going to trial. I’ve had 2 children with my husband since then, one is 3 and one is 11 months old. There’s a lot more I could say, horrific things, emails, etc as I’m sure is the same with every alienated parent. Your video, has perfectly explained with pinpoint clarity and accuracy what my life has been like slowly building over the years, but worsening the past 2 years to an extreme I never could have imagined. It took a turn after multiple deaths occurred on his side of the family - my daughters paternal grandfather and her young child cousin, one of her best friends. Both sadly passing of cancer, following Covid which was also isolating and life changing for children. She was in such a vulnerable state, and i believe that’s when he finally got that last big grasp of control on her to pull her fully into the alienation without the ability to bring her back out. The ONLY thing I have on my side, is that he has not been able to persuade or infiltrate 3rd parties. I have had way too many years building relationships and unfortunately he is prone to lose his cool when he doesn’t get his way, so the school, doctors, friends and family etc have very clear views of his toxic behaviour. Unfortunately it hasn’t helped my daughter to be less affected by him. I am at a loss. We have had involvement from children’s aid society multiple times, he calls with false claims and they have even written a letter saying that he is the one causing problems and causing mental harm to my daughter and me. None of it matters in the end, no one is able to break through and free my daughter from his grip. She is 12 now, she says she hates me and wants to run away from home. She writes about me in notebooks. He messages me nasty things all the time, tells my daughter nasty things, twists and lies and ruins our relationship to the point where I feel run down and empty. He has groomed her to be this way. She’s currently seeing a community therapist who has noted that the things my daughter is saying feel disingenuous - she’s trying to weed through but, Im not privy to any of it because my ex convinced my daughter to consent to him having access to her file but not me. Another red flag to the therapist. I cry because I know she’s been so emotionally, mentally and psychologically abused that now not only does her dad abuse on me but she in turn abuses me and thinks it’s okay. I don’t know what direction to go. I don’t know how to proceed. I don’t want to give up and let her go live with him because that’s me sending her off to her abuser. I can’t live with that. But I can’t live with this abuse on the daily along with parenting two other children who will surely become affected by all of this toxic behaviour. I’m looking into visiting an abused women’s centre in my city. I appreciated hearing you say word for word what I’m going through so clearly. Thank you.
Thank you. We are currently back to court bc my ex filed false abusive charges. Judge dismissed her claims and ordered a a pediatric psychiatrist. After one year of therapy he ruled alienation. Mother still not helping resolve any issues. Parental alienation is real, horrifying, and child abuse
My mother told me all my life that my father and his family didn't care if I lived or died. She has said it as recently as last year (I am nearing 60). Besides alienating me from my father, she let me know in no uncertain terms that I am not worthy of being loved. That is what she taught me.
@thomaswinston3727 0 seconds ago Thank you so much for this video! Unfortunately I am experiencing this now and I am grieving my child. His father “won” against me in court and now I have even less time with him. I am In shock literally but I will continue to fight for my child. He was abusive to me but yet I still gave him grace & mercy to be a dad to our son and he does this to be the first chance he gets. Smdh it’s disgusting. Your insight and video proves that I am not crazy. Every single thing you mentioned has happened! It is very sad. Thank you for bringing light to this!
Please share this video with anyone who is struggle to understand what's happening to them. If this is your first time hearing the word 'Parental Alienation' know that you are NOT alone.
This is my life Everything you said is This is happening to me Even accuse me of abuse I need help
I come to hear this video every now and again. I am long term estranged from my daughter. She’s an adult now. I last saw her when she was around ten. The situation is bleak. I wish I could stop thinking about it. I don’t want to stay in this hell anymore. I need to climb out of it.
I’ve been going through this for a year now. No end in sight! I’m going broke fighting for my son!
This is the worst form of brain washing I've ever encountered in my life. It's horrifying to witness. May every child who goes through this get justice and learn to walk with God.
Alienated child here, didnt talk to my mother from age 11 to 18 now 20. It was a big divorce and my mom was exciled form the whole family, even her parents. Im very happy now and live with her. Im still having to sort through the abuse caused by the alienation and the extreme child neglect caused by the alienating parent. Never give up, give it time.
What lifted your veil?
Thank you for the video. I'm about 2.5 years in. Losing my son has been the most painful experience of my life. The senselessness and shear meanness of alienating parent's behavior boggles my mind. I've never before experienced such "evil", for lack of a better word. May all these children know that their alienated parent loved them to no end ❤.
You will get your son back. My 17yo daughter figured out the narcissistic abuse and fled, walking 16 miles across town at night 95f heat. She remembered how she was loved by me, as your son will remember of you.
My ex did this with my Down syndrome son and I’m dealing with this. She told my son that my parents and my sister all moved away. It hurts.
@tom1miss72 my son is autistic with I.D...I truly do feel your pain. His stepmom has become his paid community support worker, so she brainwashes him 24/7. She's changed his phone number 3 times, won't allow any access to him (brainwashes him to reject his family) she's completely re-written his childhood. The state of Idaho will do nothing to intercede or protect him from the abuse. My son is over 18, so family court is no help either. Is your son still young enough to fight in family court?
I truly do mean that I'm sorry for what you're going through. I understand your pain...and the idea that their is no chance that your child will grow up and move away from it. The thing that kills me is that my ex and I fought so hard to protect Jacob, to surround him with family and friends....then he married this gal and has stood by while she has systematically stripped my son of his independence, confidence, family, etc.
I hope that you're finding ways to heal...it's a rough road, but it gets a little better when you can find some mental/emotional peace again.
Thank you for making this channel. This all too common tragedy needs the light of day. I am proud of you for telling your story, and for reconciling with your Dad
Our children were profoundly alienated from me. This video is so accurate in how it happens
This is the best summary I've heard. Thanks for doing this.
I had never heard about this before it happened to me. The way you're describing it is absolutely exact. It's terrifying and I couldn't have imagined it in my wildest dreams. I watched it unfold and just had no idea what to do. And still have no idea what to do.
So well articulated Ryan, after representing myself 38 court hearings in the UK over 20 years, i know this subject so well, you do a great job of explaining what is going on for all parties involved - great job!
This was the best explanation I have ever listened to. Thank you for sharing your insight.
This spills into adulthood. And my son who is 29 is very depressed due to this. He misses me internally . He lived with me until 18 but he twisted his mind after he moved there. Now I'm even kept from my grandson. I have always been a nice person and havr lots of lifelong friends. The problem is not me.
I lost all 4 of my kids by the time they started kindergarten. The only way my situation differs from this video is that my mother got in on the act. This the clearest and most comprehensive description I've heard. thanks for posting it.
Thank you so much for this video! Unfortunately I am experiencing this now and I am grieving my child. His father “won” against me in court and now I have even less time with him. I am In shock literally but I will continue to fight for my child. He was abusive to me but yet I still gave him grace & mercy to be a dad to our son and he does this to be the first chance he gets. Smdh it’s disgusting. Your insight and video proves that I am not crazy. Every single thing you mentioned has happened! It is very sad. Thank you for bringing light to this!
#ryanthomasspeaks : i've been looking for this video for years. My 19 yr old hasn't spoken to me in 6 years. Haven't spoken to my family in years because I could never ever get them to conceive of this horror. I have never heard anyone explain it so clearly. Maybe this time they'll watch and listen. I've had the stigma resulting from the alienator destroying every relationship i've ever had.. Thank you from the bottom of my broken heart.
Thank you for sharing this story ❤❤❤
Spot on!!!
I just wanted to say that, I have been looking at videos since last year on parental alienation… I’ve been emotionally/verbally etc abused by my ex for the past 11 years… I left when my daughter was 2.5 years old and went through family court process which in the end didn’t help find me much peace. My daughter got sick and almost passed when she was 4, things took a drastic more severe turn following this. I am the child’s primary residence - her father is a narcissist. Through therapy I’ve come to terms that even is getting together was through his narcissistic manipulation. I married a wonderful man when my daughter was 4. He was/is an amazing stepfather and they had a beautiful bond with my daughter. Slowly over time, my ex destroyed this bond, destroyed the image of my husband in my daughters eyes. He also harnessed and impugned him in court - insinuating he was a pedophile because he said happy Valentine’s Day to both me and my daughter in an Instagram post. My husband hasn’t used social media since, it’s been 8 years since then, and since we settled on a custody arrangement before going to trial. I’ve had 2 children with my husband since then, one is 3 and one is 11 months old.
There’s a lot more I could say, horrific things, emails, etc as I’m sure is the same with every alienated parent. Your video, has perfectly explained with pinpoint clarity and accuracy what my life has been like slowly building over the years, but worsening the past 2 years to an extreme I never could have imagined. It took a turn after multiple deaths occurred on his side of the family - my daughters paternal grandfather and her young child cousin, one of her best friends. Both sadly passing of cancer, following Covid which was also isolating and life changing for children. She was in such a vulnerable state, and i believe that’s when he finally got that last big grasp of control on her to pull her fully into the alienation without the ability to bring her back out. The ONLY thing I have on my side, is that he has not been able to persuade or infiltrate 3rd parties. I have had way too many years building relationships and unfortunately he is prone to lose his cool when he doesn’t get his way, so the school, doctors, friends and family etc have very clear views of his toxic behaviour. Unfortunately it hasn’t helped my daughter to be less affected by him. I am at a loss. We have had involvement from children’s aid society multiple times, he calls with false claims and they have even written a letter saying that he is the one causing problems and causing mental harm to my daughter and me. None of it matters in the end, no one is able to break through and free my daughter from his grip. She is 12 now, she says she hates me and wants to run away from home. She writes about me in notebooks. He messages me nasty things all the time, tells my daughter nasty things, twists and lies and ruins our relationship to the point where I feel run down and empty. He has groomed her to be this way. She’s currently seeing a community therapist who has noted that the things my daughter is saying feel disingenuous - she’s trying to weed through but, Im not privy to any of it because my ex convinced my daughter to consent to him having access to her file but not me. Another red flag to the therapist. I cry because I know she’s been so emotionally, mentally and psychologically abused that now not only does her dad abuse on me but she in turn abuses me and thinks it’s okay. I don’t know what direction to go. I don’t know how to proceed. I don’t want to give up and let her go live with him because that’s me sending her off to her abuser. I can’t live with that. But I can’t live with this abuse on the daily along with parenting two other children who will surely become affected by all of this toxic behaviour.
I’m looking into visiting an abused women’s centre in my city. I appreciated hearing you say word for word what I’m going through so clearly. Thank you.
Thank you. We are currently back to court bc my ex filed false abusive charges. Judge dismissed her claims and ordered a a pediatric psychiatrist. After one year of therapy he ruled alienation. Mother still not helping resolve any issues. Parental alienation is real, horrifying, and child abuse
My mother told me all my life that my father and his family didn't care if I lived or died. She has said it as recently as last year (I am nearing 60). Besides alienating me from my father, she let me know in no uncertain terms that I am not worthy of being loved. That is what she taught me.
Hmmm....
Im going thru this right now its a shame
I miss my daughter so much...
Lost my daughter and then my daughter turned my son on me as well, funny thing their father doesn't speak to either one but my kids are so damaged 💔
What if that child is an adult now?
The same but worse because of more years of lies and manipulation.
@thomaswinston3727
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Thank you so much for this video! Unfortunately I am experiencing this now and I am grieving my child. His father “won” against me in court and now I have even less time with him. I am In shock literally but I will continue to fight for my child. He was abusive to me but yet I still gave him grace & mercy to be a dad to our son and he does this to be the first chance he gets. Smdh it’s disgusting. Your insight and video proves that I am not crazy. Every single thing you mentioned has happened! It is very sad. Thank you for bringing light to this!