Dating Someone With Autism: Important Things to Remember
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
- Have you ever wondered what it's like dating someone with autism? In many cases, it's like having a neurotypical partner! People on the autism spectrum are perfectly capable of displaying affection, committing to romantic partnerships, joking, and going on fun dates. In short, relationships with those on the spectrum are just as fulfilling as relationships with those who aren't. With that said, dating someone with autism does come with some differences. Since you're considering dating someone with autism, you'll want to learn as much as possible so you can be the best partner you can be. Not sure where to begin? Not to worry! In this video, we'll explore seven of the most significant things you should know about dating someone with autism. And if you're someone with autism and you're ready to start dating, check out the following link to find out how you can create a dating profile on our site today: www.specialbri...
My GF has autism, at first when we starting dating online i felt rejected at times whenever I tried to be intimate with her, she would kind of give me loving but distant vibes. Along the way I started to pick up on what made her feel more closer or more distant towards me. Also I did a lot of research as days and weeks went on. I agree on the fixated part, she's into anime/cartoon shows and it bothers me when I'm not the center of attention cause it feels like I matter less but when you actually take the time to enjoy it together, everything else kinda just falls in line and the conversations get better too. This kind of relationship takes a lot of patience, frustrating most of the time but worth it if you can try adapt. Also I let my gf know about my standards/boundaries too and she adapted to it, wasn't easy but she has changed a lot because of it. So that's even better for a loyal relationship. She's really honest too ❤️ I love her more now that she has worked on herself to become a better partner and I have done the same for her too.
Sounds like you two have a great relationship. Do you plan to propose to her?
@@huntercoleman460 Yeah our relationship has its ups and downs but I love it because it feels more real than perfect. In the near future I will marry her but for now we need more time for growing and learning.
@@lakz_1844 think she’ll make a good mother?
@@huntercoleman460 I can't predict but I know if she tries then the rest of the experience will be beneficial for her and the kids. Same for me, I know I'm not entirely sure of myself but if I try, and workout things along the way, then me and her will make great parents in the future ❤️
@@lakz_1844 I have autism myself and because we struggle with social cues, we have a hard time being in a relationship. However, your girlfriend no doubt loves you. It’s just that we on the spectrum have a unique way of showing it.
I'm glad for the tips, my guy is fixated to me and the first things he encounters.. so I may have the advantage of knowing he'll only have eyes for me, but the hard part is that our families are keeping us apart (maybe because I barge into his issues, when my only intent is to help him through his struggles) he mostly struggles with new encounters and interacting with other people who don't approach him first.
My boyfriend is obsessed with me too and I love that because I know he will only love me too. He is also very sensitive. If he even thinks I'm upset but I'm not he cries
I seen your comment and had to say something because I go through the exact same thing with my husband and his family
not an expert in this field but have such students: for me it sounds like he is ONLY worried that he won´t send the right cues to novel conversational partners but not necessarily that he really has problems. I think if you accompany him to 20 or more conversational partners and show him that he can do it, he will then dare to do so without you too.
@@minahtheweirdo hey Minah, some of my autistic students would love to have girlfriends. Would you mind if I ask you a few questions about your personality?
If you don´t mind, then would you tell me which kind of lady you are? Are you an empath ?
This is like dating a child. It's uncomftorble
I started dating a guy and learned he has Autism, I have tried my best but it difficult and I do get frustrated with him from time to time, these tips help so thank you.
Hello , I live in Portsmouth , Virginia . I’m a SWM , 63 years old !! I’m looking for a High Autism Spectrum # 1 !! I’m a high Autism Spectrum # 1 . It all depends on what and how you say certain things to me , sometimes I may get a meltdown .
I’m a very good listener , down to Earth and I would love to spend time with the rest of our days together for as long as we both shall live !! I really appreciate the wonderful information ℹ️ that you gave me !! I am a Christian man who loves to be with a wonderful woman and I would love to love 💕 you and treat you like a real woman !! North of North Carolina to about Williamsburg , Virginia or within about 100 miles from Portsmouth , Virginia . Thank you 🙏 !! Please pray about your decision about it !!
I don’t like instant surprises either !! I get ticked off at times when I do !! It’s always very important to let me know one day in advance or so !! I am a Christian High Autism Spectrum # 1 man !! I’m 63 years old and I love to meet a very beautiful , D or Widow
I’m 63 years old and I’m looking for a High Autism Spectrum # 1 Single , Divorced or a Widow WF within about 100 miles of Portsmouth , Virginia !! I’m very patient !! Thank you 🙏 for writing ✍️ to me !!
As an autistic woman, I found this to be the most accurate. I love adventure and fun, but like to know what I’m doing ahead of time so I can prepare and plan. Some of that is to do with scheduling and some with sensory issues and if I already had something else planned ( changing plans Inhad my mind set to is difficult). Honestly, I think it’s just courteous.
This was incredibly helpful
I'm an autistic 33 year old man who is struggling to find someone to date. I have a dating profile on OKCupid and despite 9 years, I've had little success (even after a stale 2 years because of the ongoing pandemic). Despite everything that's well detailed about myself, I didn't include the fact that I'm autistic. When I tell my mom about it, she thinks it's "dishonest" and I should include it. And, she thinks I should date a woman on the spectrum as well which I think is a bad idea. Because of my reaction, she claims I'm biased. It's like dating myself. I don't want a significant other who possibly can't drive or doesn't have a career. I don't know how severe a woman's autism is compared to my own.
I’m sorry you’re struggling to find a date. I’m dating with someone with autism and ADHD (I have an ADHD myself, but mine is way more severe). It’s only been a little over a month with us, but the struggle is real. He’s so blunt and rather rude at time, very sarcastic, and I’m very sensitive. What a combination lol. I don’t know if it’ll work out, but I sure hope so. I don’t mind the fact he’s on the spectrum at all, I just hope we can adjust to each other, although I feel like I’m doing the majority of the adjustment. It’s hard….. ugh.
dating apps are quite difficult for guys don’t stress
@@SommieReturns im in a very similar situation!! He's soo sweet and loving most of the time but I just am too quick to sense rejection. I love that he takes his space from me because I like to have phases of being connected sometimes and having my own life. But sometimes his answers (or lack thereof,) can trigger that RSD sooo hard.
Plus hes soo on top of his stuff, extremely successful and hardworking. I feel like a failure in some ways compared to him. Its confusing
@@Jay-pj5tg well, I think I give up because he’s been hot and cold and hot and cold and more cold than anything…. I’m just tired. 😔
I know I'm gonna get alot of hate but it has to be said.
My daughter is autistic also and I don't want her to date or have children who might inherit her condition.
The world isn't kind to disabled people and I see them getting shamed alot.
Remember that not everyone has a good support system and even family can be toxic.
I really hope you think about the kind of life you're future children will have and not reproduce.
If I had been diagnosed earlier I'd probably be married already.
I have more of an Aromantic type of view. Because from my experience guys that don’t have autism, have always been repulsed by me. And the two guys with autism, I did date back in high school, were the types of guys with behavioral problems who were emotionally abusive and cold.
But despite all of that hardship I live a happy life. I just prefer making friends with people, not only because of my past but because of the way my generation acts and how many creepy stalker people my age that there are whenever you go to a club here in Minneapolis. My younger sister has had to deal with very creepy dudes at clubs and so have it. Seems like all guys do now is just follow you around, and they noticeably don’t care about have no social appropriateness when they interact with you. Sure I’m not the only GenZ who’s noticed this going on with our generation and the younger
I will show this to my boyfriend! thank you
I just recently started dating someone with autism and thank you so much for this video! ❤
This is very good info
I'm autistic and I love surprises
They shouldnt be big or out of the world
But little surprise is good
I’m not autistic, but I love autistic people because they’re honest and I really HATE when people lie. Both my brother and my crush are autistic and so is some of my online friends ♡
Personally I don’t like surprises because I get too exited to who what’s hiding XD
@@Candi_Clown There was an autistic man who didn't like telling people he was autistic here in the comments.
Also are you ready for the cost of raising an autistic child?
Autistic children require more hours of schooling and are you ready to handle the extreme temper tantrums with the screaming and throwing things at you?
I have an autistic child and I exhausted and depressed every day.
I'm just warning you
@@Candi_Clown Cool that's really neat want a cookie? Autistic people Lie too especially High-Functioning Autistics because I just lied right now!
Hi my name is Andrew and I have a mild version of autism I have high functioning autism but having this autism is a big turn off for girls here in Roanoke Virginia. I’m really really sad 😢 because I’ve been single for too long and I want a girlfriend who can look past my autism and not see my autism but only see who I really am. If anyone is out there in Roanoke Virginia who is my age 24 and is a single girl let me know in this comment
Do you really want to risk passing on your autism to your children?
The girls who are turned off by autism probably already know how expensive it is to raise a special needs child.
Also I have a daughter with autism and I don't want her to have children because those children will suffer finding partners and the cost to raise them will be expensive.
@@winning3329 I’m gay now because of girls believing that guys like me are turn offs so I became gay sorry girls y’all loss
@@winning3329you don’t want your autistic kid to have kids because she has autism? What the fuck!!! Some people DO NOT deserve children. Put your child up for adoption for the LOVE OF GOD.
@@winning3329why does any of this matter? Let the dude have kids if he wants to. You can’t just say we can’t have kids just because there’s a chance it gets passed down to our children.
@@winning3329that's a terrible thing to say....
So umn my question is what about when you have a relationship when you both have autism for example I have autism and my girlfriend does is that a good thing?
I’m wondering the same thing , I’m getting to know someone and it seems like it is going to lead into a relationship but will it be a good idea? We are both on the spectrum.
I'm autistic and is married to an autistic man and we have a baby and in my experience, it's really great :D we both understand each other's need to stim and triggers for sensory overload etc. Learning and remembering each other's needs/wants/what makes them feel safe is the best thing you can do
I’m autistic and so is my bf of almost 2 years. It can be helpful in some ways because your partner can empathize with what you are going through.
I feel like it's probably better if you both have autism. Because then you can both understand each other.
All the girls I've crushed on were autistic like me, and probably for good reason
I am very sure it is !! Please remember no one is ever going to think alike !! So many men hit on their women . So many argue so badly . If you get involved with an argument with her next time , please try this and say this to her , ‘ Thank you for disagreeing with me but we really need to talk about this situation to God , our Creator !! He needs to be in the center of our disagreements and we really need to pray to God , our Creator !! ‘
I know that you will enjoy her for a lifetime because God loved his church and gave his life for her . It’s in the Bible !! Good luck 🍀 !! However , no DUI because people get hurt seriously or get killed !! Satan , the Creature who rebelled against God , his Creator but the choice belongs to you !!
That’s so much for this!
I should of sent this advice to my ex... Could of saved a lot of drama because of the way I am and the lack of understanding...
My fixation is Autism!
I have a question regarding dating. Is it a wise idea to openly disclose your diagnosis on a dating profile?
yes! hiding it will give you a bigger chance of having someone you genuinely grow to love rejecting you and turning out to be an ableist jerk
I would absolutely disclose it. Not the same thing but I'm in recovery from addiction so I like to disclose that straightaway to weed out the openly judgemental people ahead of time.
He was on drugs for the first two weeks. That's what you women do to us..
@@shannonricelewis6016 What the hell are you talking about?
@@shannonricelewis6016 what...
Oh good so every point on here is basically something my ADHD would struggle with big time lmao
Sigh
adhd and autism do often overlap, yes
@@irbiswirbis yeah but I meant more like I’d struggle to do everything he said you should do lol
Like being quiet or orderly or maintaining schedules. The antithesis of my adhd
@@HeyItsNovalee ohhhhhhh my bad
I always thought partnerships where one partner has ADHD and the other Aspergers must be really hard to manage but I´ve met quite a few. Now I´ve come to believe that it can be a great match, but spending every day together or doing daily routines together might not work. My boyfriend does not have ADHD but like many ADHD-people he also dislikes routines. he likes surprises and he likes constant noise (like watching TV/ Radio while doing something else) . I have Aspergers and ADHD and I hate when somebody else surprises me but I love surprising other people. So I take a lot of time to make elaborate surprise plans :D it´s great! he uses headphones at home most of the time when he watches TV, so I don't have to hear it.
I feel called out-
I Have Autism, Aspergers Syndrome, ADHD, And ADD
High functioning autistic with ADD here!
When all else fails, swipe left
I am a user of the site. It's a messed up world and not everyone can drive. I have been for too long without a girlfriend. I tried through other people and can't get a date and find too much girls taken. I'm struggling.
I hate myself for having Aspergers. It’s a serious curse that makes me feel severely flawed. I wouldn’t wish this Demon on my worst enemy.
It's not a demon, dude. I know having ASD is tough sometimes, but it's also something that gives us our own unique perspectives and other advantages.
@@PhantomLink16 Thanks for the love bro but I've been judged harshly based upon my odd quirks/behaviours.
@@Jotinko Have you checked out Max Derrat here on youtube? He has a Discord channel you may find worthwhile checking out, not to mention his videos on here.
@@Jotinko just because you've been judged on your "odd" behaviors doesn't mean they're bad. it just means people are unaccepting and mean.
_your asperger's isn't a curse, and neither are you or your behaviors._
Thank you for the love. I’m kind of numb to being judged as I’m used to it… it just give me thicker skin. It helps to see the good in bad situations.
Both me and my ex partner have autism but he got to possessive and wanted to rush and because I’m not ready he ended stuff he actually became narcissistic it’s such a shame he was such a nice guy 😔😔😔
If you fall in love with an autistic person like myself, I warn you , your relationship will be an eternal dating on the weekends , autistic relationships are superficial , don't expect a loving husband or a caring father like neurotypicals do. We do feel love, however, hyperfocus always takes over and you will feel left out. Sorry.
So accurate...
Not everyone in the spectrum is exactly like you. My fiancee has ASD and she is laying beside me right now. We spend most of our time together and are very loving and attentive to eachother. Please don't spread misinformation that will scare people away from a wonderful person just because it's your personal experience
@@codyparker4742 First: I'm a male, your fiancee is a female. You can not compare the way autistic men feel with the way autistic women feel. Second you don't know what's going on in your fiancee's mind, The fact that she's laying beside you, does not mean she is not struggling to keep your relationship going.
My autistic bf dumped me today
If you were disrespecting him and abusing him then he's in the right to do so, you need to be sensitive to their needs
@@smasherjosh5000 bro why tf did you make up a little story in your head. Maybe they just weren’t for each other
@@benburrow1394 it's one of the things that was mentioned but you could be right in this situation I could also be right in this situation. For all we know we could both be wrong
@@smasherjosh5000 Which is why assumptions shouldn't be made.
The Christian God is the True God and I am going to prove it right now:
God has a Law called the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20). These Laws include do not lie, do not steal, don’t put others gods before Him (Exodus 20)
Have you ever broken any of these Laws? Have you ever told a lie? Have you ever stolen anything? Have you ever lusted after someone? If we really went over God’s Laws in the Bible, every single one of them, it can really expose how much of a sinner we truly are and because we have all committed these acts our punishment is Hell because God’s standard is perfection.
Our good works cannot get us into Heaven. That’s like you steal a soda from the store but you tell the judge, “hey judge I give to the orphanage, I do community service.” The judge will not care about what you did. You stole something that was not yours so therefore the Judge is going to find you guilty. God is the same way.
But, this Judge is a loving Judge who does not want to sentence you for your crimes. He sent His Son Jesus Christ to come and take the punishment for your sins and if you Repent of your sins and accept jesus Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior then you will be saved from the sentence. Jesus loves you and is not willing that any should perish but have everlasting life (John 3:16) God bless
When
The Christian God is not the true God. Why? Well I have like 4 other major sources that say be isn't but only 1 confirming that he is true. But wait isn't that the same for all religions? Then why should we listen to one another if we all have different beliefs, is a belief of acceptance and love not the true God's will? Then shall we drop the "one and only true God" argument? Faith is in the person, what they believe in shouldn't be slandered against yet, you too must be able to speak your beliefs. With such conflict will there ever be an agreement?
You’ll be miserable trust me
Just don't. They'll abuse you to death. Then move on to the next victim. What is so typical is how ultra fast they move. They talk about marriage from the first date. This is to hide their horrible issues, abusive behaviour, bad family bonds, and crippling anxiety knowing they won't get off the market because of their autism and mental age of 5. My autistic ex apparently got married 7 months after we broke up. In the wedding pic the woman kisses him lovingly and he just grins at the camera like a psycho. After torturing me and claiming to me he needed to be alone, needing a psychiatrist daily and having no money or job, he married someone in just a couple months. I feel so bad for the woman. Being married to this monster is the biggest punishment anyone can get. I'm not jealous. I'm very relieved that he chased me away like a dog. He knew. I wish her lost of courage, but she's Just the next supply.
Sorry to hear that's happened to you.
I cannot express how much I hate domestic abusers, but you're a survivor, you made the right decision to get away.
However, I also say this as an autistic woman, the rest of the generalisations are just hurtful. I happen to have Borderline Personality Disorder on top of this, which makes everything 100x worse. But I didn't choose to be born this way.
No I would never ask someone for marriage on a first date or 2nd or 5th or 10th. I don't even believe in marriage, a social construct, just pure trust and commitment.
I'd never truly move on because my love is eternal and nobody can replace the one that means everything, nobody can ever take their place. Not mentioning at nearly 25 and never having been in a relationship, I'd have no-one to move onto anyway. I simply don't have such options. Society and especially my peers are very superficial, very hedonistic. I'm an introvert who hates crowds, you'll never find me in one of those nasty loud places that clubs and bars are. I work full time and had my current job over a year now - I cannot imagine not working.
Autism is a spectrum, and you get selfish arrogant nutcases like your ex, but surely some of us actually deserve better....no?
thats just your ex being a terrible person... a lot of people with Autism arent like that!
your ex is a narcissist. a lot of autistic people arent like that and I feel uncomfortable knowing you see it all in one view due to that singular person who just so happened to have autism. I'm not saying what you experienced was Invalid, no. the opposite actually. I just think it's really cruel to say all people are the same way. If I said that about you and said "ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE whatever your name is" you'd be upset, and not like that. I really hope you see my point and Again, I'm sorry you've experienced that.
@@TheWildeFish Well Said!
@@TheWildeFish wrong, I read that autists have proportionally more narcissisism