Jewel: Clear perception is the way to psychological strength | Perception Box
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- @jewel says denying the truth cost her years of her life. This is how she shifted her perception to see truth more clearly and regain her strength.
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“My number one job was to be a happy, whole human - not a human full of holes.” Jewel Kilcher, singer-songwriter, and visual artist, opens up about her childhood, the start of her career, and what makes Jewel, Jewel.
After being discovered during a coffee shop gig in the 1990’s, folk singer Jewel began the life-long endeavor of being a performer. Jewel went on to gain worldwide recognition for her talent and creativity. But who is she at her core? What are her greatest fears, her deepest aspirations?
In this interview, Jewel shares the personal struggles and triumphs that have shaped her, the importance of truth on her life and well-being, and the lessons she's learned along the way. Through this conversation, Jewel offers an up-close look into her journey, revealing the experiences and hard-won insights that have shaped her as both an artist and a person.
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About Jewel:
Jewel Kilcher, known mononymously as Jewel, embodies the quintessential story of resilience and artistic integrity. From her humble beginnings in the rugged landscapes of Alaska to her rise as a multi-platinum recording artist, Jewel's journey is a testament to the transformative power of art. Homeless at 18, she honed her craft performing in coffee shops, blending folk, pop, and country influences with her ethereal voice and introspective songwriting.
Her debut album, "Pieces of You," captured hearts worldwide, achieving remarkable commercial success while delivering profound, soul-stirring messages. Beyond music, Jewel's talents extend to poetry and acting, with her literary works and performances reflecting her deep empathy and authenticity.
Jewel's commitment to social causes, including mental health advocacy and her foundation, the Inspiring Children Foundation, underscores her dedication to making a positive impact. In a world often dominated by transient fame, Jewel stands out as a beacon of enduring creativity and compassionate leadership.
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"I spent all of my life identifying with the peel, I spent zero time thinking about the fruit."
Such a beautiful quote oh my god
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List of insights found in this video.
1. The inner self is something you can have a relationship with, and is something you can become disconnected from or have a falling out with - Shame is one of the easiest ways to become disconnected from the self.
2. How we are raised creates personality traits that we express to the outside world. In her case, her personality traits that she exhibited was how she protected herself from the outside world. She spent all of her life identifying with the personality traits on the surface of her being, and no time at all self-examining the deeper self that existed beneath her behaviors.
3. Safety is found in honesty rather then in guardedness.
4. Soften your muscles, breathe, and attempt to listen without agenda when you're triggered. Imagine a river in your mind and think to yourself how you want to redirect your energy.
5. The truth always wins whether we deny it or not. If you deny it, you pay the cost in wasted time and pain.
6. Power is found in being able to see the world for what it is.
Thank you!
Thanx!
I like the way your mind works. Could you tell me a little bit about yourself & few books you like to read 😊
@@yellowdressbookstore6602 Thank you for the kind words! - The main topics that I am fascinated in are economics, politics, psychology, philosophy, spirituality, science, technology, history, and how all of those things connect and interrelated with one another when explaining the bigger picture.
Some of my favorite books include the 48 laws of power, 12 rules for life, Livewired (a book about the human brain), the end of mental illness by Daniel Amen, Bad News by Batya-Ungar Sargon, and breathe by James Nestor.
I hope this answered your question!
@@VideoMagician77 I also study a vast range of topics. As a side quest last week I was reading about the history of fantasy books and noticed it runs parallel to the economic shifts after the Civil War! Its crazy how everything is connected !!!!! I will check out all of these books!!!
I found the strangest book of all time last week: Flatland from 1860. Pdfs are avail online
the power of introspection, radical honesty, and genuine connection in fostering a fulfilling life
I wish there were more interviews like this in the world. Her self awareness is so powerful.
Listening closely, I hear two things when Jewel speaks. First, I hear the musician in her choice of words and in her phrasing. On a deeper level, I hear silence, the kind of quietude that comes from inner peace. This is what a beautiful human is: a model for us all. Brava!
Keep speaking with heartfelt but keep radar tuned,? mentor?
Beautifully said. I so much want to reach this level of inner peace and wisdom..
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
Damn her energy is absolutely compelling.
Yuk
Agree
Word!!!
The power of sincere truth
Watch the Joe Rogan episode with her it's fascinating. She is an unbelievably strong woman
It's so upsetting that both of her parents exploited her, and incredible that she ended up as well balanced as she is. Thank goodness for creativity. It can be a life saver.
How do you know she’s well-balanced? Are you her friend? Or because of this video?
@@carpballet You can tell jewel is introspective and thoughtful by her music, how she talks and what she thinks about.
@@Here4TheHeckOfIt Lol.
It’s over shown in the media that the people can’t change themselves, but I think it’s really important to acknowledge that it’s possible for a person to change. Her and her dad’s relationship is a good example of that.
is it overshown? i dont get that at all. its more like the way they try to help is wrong.
Sobriety is definitely a game changer. A clear mind alone can cause people to work on their shadow self. And it can be done with humility, because you have to come to terms with all the thinks you disliked about yourself and realize that you are no better or worse than they are.
What seems rare is that 2 people would independently take that journey of change and then be willing to come back together, not as abuser and victim but as whole humans, to make an entirely new connection.
Yea he changed because he wanted the money!
media are wrong. ask a researcher. people can radically change and have, but you have to believe in yourself to do it. media tells you otherwise to control the uninformed. Mindset by Carol Dweck... just ask chatgpt for a summary of it. best of luck to all. go be your best selves
she's so well-spoken, she talks like an artist (and she is)
The hard part of perception is trusting what you perceive to *be* true. There have been so many times that I thought I understood the truth -- even taken time to understand it -- and still didn't yet. So it felt like I had some control but in reality, I was just not seeing some things.
Jewel is a very brave person. The two surfers who listened to her for 5 hours were not brought to Jewel by accident. Everything happens as it does for a reason. Energy, anxiety, breathing, and flow are interrelated, keep a balance. She's right, being truly loved can be scary especially after experiencing trauma. So sorry about her mother's treatment of her. TY to Jewel for the very insightful interview and advice! 🙏"Be a whole human, not a human full of holes."👑
The way I broke down when Jewel said “I felt like I deserved to be lonely because nobody really knew me”
What a genuine soul!
I identify with this too 💜
That’s what existential isolation tech means.
That hit hard, like too much 😮
And, there are more people feeling this way? In a way it's validating, but at the same time very sad.
Hugs to all❤
Thats artist life in a nutshell
Resonated.
Honestly, I never really was into her music, yet really enjoy her words combined with her maturity now.
Never actually heard her speak before. Very in touch with emotions, well spoken, and inspirational she is ❤ Always loved the music! ❤
Her approach reminds us that vulnerability can be a powerful strength, especially when navigating personal and professional landscapes. 🌟
Hello Jewel! Thoreau said: “Rather than love, than fame, than money, give me the truth.”
Great seeing you!
Such a beautiful open video. Jewel is an amazing artist. No aires, 100% authentic, open, caring and down to earth. We were blessed to see her in concert, it was like were in her living room. Story telling and singing. It was by far the best concert I have ever attended. Thank you Jewel for sharing your life and music with us all.
What an inspiration. Strong woman.
Jewel is my favorite singer / songwriter of all time.
Her words helped lift me up and make it through tough times when I was a young adult.
I love that her songs and poems actually have real meaning and wisdom, characteristics that are lacking in most popular music.
Thank you! 😊
Oh man! You can only admire her determination and ambition.
There are a lot of ambitious and determined people who are destructive and who lie. That is how they became "successful". Those traits alone doesn't make an impressive person.
The truth can hurt, but the lies hurt worse. Believing otherwise is itself a convenient lie.
Right 👍. Delaying stepping into cold water, won't make the water any less cold.
Having a clear perception and a clear mind makes a huge difference. At the end of day, you got to have both to make sound decisions.
May be the best thing I’ve heard in years. Thanks to all involved.
I love her so much. There was so much wisdom and insight in this interview. I appreciate her vulnerability and willingness to share all that she has experienced and learned throughout her life. It's not easy to be that honest with ourselves and open up to others like that. But I'm learning as I get older how important that truth is for your own health and well being. Like she said at the end, I can only hope that one day I will feel like a whole person and not a person full of holes, for myself and for others too.
Jewel's mom stole 100 million dollars from her...then when she fired her as her manager her mom was still shifting blame and gaslighting her. Unbelievable story
Ohhh my God . Or not really 👿
The problem is we are so obsessed with self. Me me me. We need to start looking outside ourselves and help others. 🙏
I've loved Jewel since I was 8 years old and my Dad bought me her first album -- Pieces of You -- on a cassette tape, at Media Play. I had no idea that she has Synesthia in all my decades of listening to her and singing with her....she sees all those colors, colors that haven't even been named yet! You know she cries when she's singing "Adrian" ?? Someone talk to me about this, I'm so excited to see Jewel, the NOW Jewel!
I went through a similar life to jewels minus being a music icon. I can say everything she said is true. It takes courage to open yourself back up to people and to be truely honest, and some will still try to hurt you. But the truth is the only way to make things better. Denial is a powerful drug but thats all it is. Living in truth is far more powerful because at the end of the day you really know where you are and what you stand for and so do others. No bs masquerading truth. 💯 💙
I’m so happy that she got to re-establish her relationship with her dad! That can be so healing (dangerous too)! I had a similar story with mine, but my siblings were never able to spend that time with him. It’s different for everybody
depends. many are better of not to...
Yes. Sadly she never got back with her mom though
I was raised by a very abusive mother in a very abusive family. This interview is so related to me. Thank you 🙏🏽
I am only a few mins in, and already this is a lot to wrap my head around.
She talks about these huge life things so matter-of-factly. So calmly.
Okay, I finished. This is very good. It's not easy to get to where she is. Very difficult.
I liked the part where she talks about the surfers in the coffee shop the best.
She is coming to the Rady shell on July 23rd with Melisssa Etheridge.
I was just down there yesterday for a walk and heard Sarah McLachlan warming up, singing Building a Mystery. Sounded good.
"I would be safer in the world the more honest I was instead of the more guarded I was" What an amazing revelation
Wow wow wow the clear manner you talked about shame was like an arrow into my heart! Thank you!
I know it is just another “peel”, but damn!, i love your suit! More than that, I LOVE your boldness, the fact that you are speaking out and that you really put yourself out there to help yourself live a more authentic life and in order to help others live their more authentic lifes.
Beautifully said. One of the books she has written: Never Broken, Is her story - vulnerabilities and all. It's a wonderful read. She really is an amazing woman who has come through a lot. She has a program to help others too. Thanks Jewel.
I think Jewels music and personality quite literally may have saved my life.
I grew up in the mormon religion. I grew up with a lot of neglect and sexual abuse. I was married at 19 to an abusive spouse. At age 30 my then husband became enraged and jealous that I was spending time with my brother in hospital who had a lethal brain tumor and was dying. My brother was my life line and best friends, we were 13 months apart. My then husband told me I needed to choose that this was my family now. We had to young children. I would buy all your albums and listen to your angelic voice and poetic words and just knew I wasn’t alone, and that someday things would someday get better. After my brother passed, I wanted to die, everyday. Your music made me feel held and comforted. The times I most wanted to die, somehow somewhere a song would start playing, and I’d be just a little more okay.
Life is much different now. I am 50 and have 3 grandchildren.
I decided if I was going to live I was going to do what ever it takes to be happy. Finding the joy in life has been my purpose. Friends tell me, it’s my happiness that attracts them to me, and I am very much alive and eternally grateful for you, Jewel!
All my love and deep appreciation for you being you and following your heart!
I loved this interview.
You are such a wise angelic soul that radiates and unconditioned authentic harmonious sense of tranquility peace and love and hope to and for all. ❤
I’m 40, I resonate and mirror her story so much, and never knew. This made me understand why I immediately loved her music in my youth. Know, I can also find inspiration in her Being. Thank you for this! Jewel, you are a gift. Thank you. ❤❤
Your words have touched me to the core. I feel every word you said and everything you have gone through, and at this moment in my life, your words were very inspiring and uplifting. All you have gone through has made you the shinning sun that you are right now, spreading your light
Life is easy, others make it hard.
you are others
@@tuckerbugeater think they meant humans make life hard. Life doesn't have to be.
Seeing this today was huge for me. I am crazy about this woman! I've been through family trauma, I'm a singer, I just adore this lady!! She is so classy. I'm going to learn more about her. Thank you RUclips for putting her on my feed...❤❤❤
Beautiful! Everything about this is beautiful, the guest (Jewel is so honest and wholesome), the conversation, the setting, the format...
It is so easy to forget that celebrities are humans too. They have a past. I really enjoyed this video and it will resonate with a lot of people. Psychological strength can be such a hard thing to conquer. Thank you Jewel for being honest and open and Big Think for making this video.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Beautiful. Jewel reminds me of Mary Oliver the way she has grown up and into herself.
Thanks Jewel, and thanks to whoever wrote the questions.
“I would say that there exist a thousand unbreakable links between each of us and everything else, and that our dignity and our chances are one. The farthest star and the mud at our feet are a family; and there is no decency or sense in honoring one thing, or a few things, and then closing the list. The pine tree, the leopard, the Platte River, and ourselves - we are at risk together, or we are on our way to a sustainable world together. We are each other's destiny.”
Mary Oliver
I love how she talks.
You can feel that she has so much to talk the way she use the words.
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The 1st time I got to see her live was here in Woodinville, I was running late for the show & had close up seats. Her eyes were on me and she waited till I had sat down.
I always wondered about the lyrics in her songs, something about those words... and her voice❤️
Thank you for having Jewel on! She's always been a light in the dark for me. I love watching Jewel grow ❤
Her energy reminds me so much of my primary spiritual teacher. THIS is what authentic sounds like and looks like.
Jewel you are a gem, this talk was truly amazing to listen to. Raw and truthful.
How you dealt with "shame energy" and re- direction was brilliant. I learned something.thanks.
I was just thinking about this on my walk the other day. my perception affects and changes my entire existence. for example, I'm really sensitive to noise so my really loud/obnoxious neighbor bothers me a lot. she is making my life unhappy. but someone who is unbothered by the noise and just sees it as a part of life can shrug it off and they feel just fine. I just have to learn how to not give a shit about anything, that is the key to a happy life 😊
Why not talk to your neighbor?
Wow... everything she answered explained exactly how I feel, said and thought... this helped me a lot.
One of the best videos so far. Honesty, openness, being frank works for me as well. Recently started using the pause, breathe technique. Marvellous. 😊
Jewel is a unique and brilliant person. She has taught me so much and changed my life forever.
Really enjoyed the way BIG THING presents her life's challenges.
I love the method she described to re-centre herself... reminds me very much of Anna Nalick's Breathe. can feel her vibe even when we're not in the same room!
I used to listen to Jewel all the time growing up, I loved her then every once in awhile I'll look up those old songs and play them remembering the feelings I felt I thought I loved her then she is amazing and so relatable 😢
This was great! I can totally relate to so about her journey and I need to hear this. She offers so much wisdom and healing. The truth wins, I totally love this. I have gone through my life trying to be safe this really speaks to me and no doubt I was meant to find this. Thank you!
That's fortunate that YOU found safety in your honesty.
Yup. More often than not, people have gotten killed for telling the truth. Take whistleblowers for example.
I hope you find safety someday.
I really enjoyed her interview.Very relatable .Thank you!
Never knew she had these struggles. I lost my self to shame which led to a lifetime of addiction When I pealed the orange 🍊 and discovered the seed (soul) I saw the fallacy of the peal . Today I’m free of the identity that was inauthentic to my soul . Thank you Jewel 💎.
Jewel is a wonderful singer. Oddly, when her music played, my beloved dog would stop what she was doing, lie down with her head on her paws, and just listen. When she became ill, I played Jewel's music so she would be calm and relaxed. I miss that dog.
This was so beautiful and worth the time out of my morning. I never new much about Jewel before this, she's such a beautiful soul.
This was a gift. Thank you, Jewel.
Jewel has been a source of wisdom for me since her first album. 🙏🏼 Bless her for sharing her wisdom.
What a beautiful, soulful, amazing, enlightened woman. I could listen to her all day long.
I connected with my own truth listening to this. Thank you to Jewel for sharing her story so eloquently and for the beautiful imagery in this video.
I can't believe that woman is 50 years old!
She is a beauty no doubt 👍
That woman has a thousand years of knowledge in a 50 yr old body, she has done so much good for society and showed us through her life and music, and now art, how we should be living our lives
😊 as@@Metso-ateco
@@greatgrandfather3329 relax, you melt.
@@Metso-ateco lol thanks😁
Love this conversation, how down to earth, mature and joyful she is.
Came across this video by chance & clicked just because I had to see Jewel since Intuition... Wow, what a human being
i just love hearing her talk. a poet’s soul
"You were meant for me" is a timeless classic!
In our age of social media and artificial intelligence, the boundaries and clarity of human perception are constantly being blurred, challenged and upended. How is someone (particularly a child) these days supposed to be in touch with the inner self amid all these external stimuli based on telecommunications that function to solicit social validation? As humans merge more with technology, what inner core is left to identify with. And the idea that we are safer in the world through honesty is a naive point of view. Deception, though much frowned upon, plays a critical role in the animal kingdom insofar that it furthers the principle of self-preservation
Many have their perception altered so badly they act out on assumptions and overthink verse listening to what is being said. "Intuition" from too much stimuli leads to an altered view of things. Always looking for something that isn't there and creating the avenue through constantly thinking it exist.
@@ThatGuyDoingStuffz That's right
Perspective is more accurate here …I think the title is off…love Jewel ❤ she’s awesome
Deception doesn't play a role in the animal kingdom. Just among humans. We spent our entire existence living against nature. This will be our ultimate undoing as we supposedly merge with technology.
Bravo Jewel. The world would be better with more who feel and think with the care and honesty that you do. Thank you for you!
Wow. So happy to watch her in all her wisdom and compassion. Beautiful soul.
thanks for interviewing Jewel. i have related to her music and soul for years because i have a similar life experience.
Oh it's so nice to see and hear Jewel again!
I can recall feeling this warmth before, it’s a great way to describe the sensation.
This was so powerful. And yes the truth will always win! I had to share this. Thank you! I am a Jewel too. ❤
I’ve never related so much to someone’s way of thinking ❤ what a joy Jewel probably is to be around
Just trying out a very similar approach and it is so valuable to see how well it can work. Thank you Jewel, thank you Big Think 😊
Jewel, I’ve always loved your voice and your lyrics. Absolutely unforgettable. The richness and depth of your soul is so beautiful. I’ve started seeing colors when I close my eyes. Last night, the colors were so intense and they were jumping all around inside my body. Usually, I love seeing the colors but this time they were too intense, I feel a need for grounding. Were you ever afraid when you saw the colors? Thank you.🙏❤️
The most perceptive realizations ... not for the faint of self ... Thank You Lady
A Jewel you are!! ❤
I'm going to keep on replaying for a little longer 😊
So good. Healing from abuse can really make you a self-aware and loving person.
She has always been authentic. What a beautiful soul.
Kudos to whoever came up with these meaningful, very appropriately oriented questions.
"... learn how to be happy, whole human, not a human full of holes." aprreciate u sm, Jewel
Now this, was helpful. Thank you 💐
I am still trying to understand the power of a stranger being vulnerable to me. Thank you for making this video.
Very moving interview. Love the openness and desire to learn.
Beautiful interview!
This was so powerful to me at this exact moment.
I really needed this right now ✨ Thank you
Wow. You are speaking to me on a level that excites & resonates with me. Love what you said about "the truth"... Healing/self improvement & artistic endeavors make up most of my time over the last few years. I would love to connect with you😊
She seems so approachable. Shine your colors, Jewel!
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Hello!! how do you make such monthly, I’m a born Christian and sometimes I feel so down of myself 😭 because of low finance but I still believe God
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Christy Fiore.
She's a licensed broker here in the states🇺🇸 and finance advisor.
After I raised up to 525k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery….Glory to God, shalom.
Can I also do it??? My life is facing lots of challenges lately
Thank you Ms. Jewel. I didn’t realize I to have synistatia. I didn’t know this until you discribed what it’s like. Thanks again❤rEV. Many Blessings to you in all you do.
Jewel is awesome. She helped me get through a lot of things with her music & philosophy back in 1996.
what a strong moment.. thank u.. never expected this..