Just a tip, if you're stuck. Stop watching any self help/pick up videos for a month and just live naturally and push yourself. After a month you will revisit the content and get a new and valuable meaning.
I got pretty good but hit a pleatou and got burnt out... took 9 months off to play video games.. got back into game irl recently and fawk I feel like I could be legit pua. I make tables behind me in restaurants fall into my frame. fun shyt. sucked when I was burnt out.
Big Gus No. It means to say things that are relevant to the girl that will make them emotionally react in some sort of way. Versus saying something platonic (I.e. hey, what’s up, how are you) that your grandma could say to you and sparks no emotional/flirtatious reaction whatsoever
any tips for the negatively aspect, the positive pretty much speaks for itself, just compliment her but what if she genuinely hasn't done anything you disagree with, how do you push the negative emotion buttons then?
*When you're passionate about your hobbies, career, or personal growth, it naturally shows that you're not relying on her for validation. This confidence and independence are incredibly attractive, and it lets her see that you’re interested in her but not dependent on her for your happiness.*
We're honestly lucky, you're a great teacher Tod, allways explaining clearly and in a way people can really understand what you're trying to deliver. Thanks
Dude, he's pretty goddang smart. I feel like he could really accomplish so much more, like PUA training is nice but he could make like a richer difference in people's lives totally apart from the dating arena. Personally I think people would only watch these kinds of videos if they're insecure with how they date, and the videos give some specific quick-fixes for success in dating (with some hints that are applicable to general life). But I think the principles beneath it (confidence, etc) are better and stronger for improving *everything* in your life, including dating. But then it's also true that videos specifically about dating are sure to get clicks and sustained views. I mean it worked for me. So from a marketing perspective I think it's the 'right' decision. I just feel like Todd has so much more potential to become much greater with his talents.
I'm super sick of RSD talking about woo woo spirituality and topics they aren't versed in, instead of game. The woo woo stuff is valuable but I'm tryna pimp
Yes sir, all the natural kinda bullshit by rsdmax or the others... i Need a strict Game Plan and this is what todd gave me. Other instructors be like: believe in your gutt feeling. Be natural! Todd be like: fuck you. Here is your Plan a b c d e f g Love you todd ❤️❤️
Todd is gangster, but the "woo woo" stuff is very important outside of the strict game realm. As Tyler always says "dude, not everything I do is about fucking more whores!". You have to understand that RSD is just trying to implement more useful things into your life.
Todd is the Explanaitor of the Pickup! You only understand something to a degree you can explain it to someone else. He can explain so well. It means he knows female psychology from inside out
Solid advice! Your last comment about what to do if your date isn't getting back to you about a tentative plan is exactly what I am dealing with today. It is not a pleasant experience. I've been going back and forth with the appropriate move and what you said is perfect! On the one hand, I don't want to appear to be needy, but I also don't want to be treated with disrespect. To all other men, stand up for yourself and don't let this kind of behavior be tolerated. Obviously, be nice about it, but also be prepared to walk away from the situation.
thank you man, i learned that i always had the game in me i was just affraid of her reaction. Its been so natural to me now that i am more confident. Their reaction to my approaches is always possitive no matter how direct i am. Its all about assertiveness and assuredness. Again. thank you.
Presistents is key if you want the girl. She likes it when she feels you like her and you both know whats going to happen even if you dont say it. Meaning in the situation is what you make of it its all made up in your head. If your cool then she will be cool with it. Give your self the favors and think your awsome. All positive mindsets. Even if you fail your still awsome for trying and learning most dont even try.
"Worrying about if something is needy, is actually very needy." This is gold. I hate when guys try to give advice and call what you are doing is "needy", it's like they don't really know how to give proper advice so all they know what to say to you is "You're being so needy!".
In a conversation like this, you really need to be in between. You can't just give the moon and the stars in one conversation with a girl. Be persistent in a good way. Devote your time each day to at least talk or message her at least once or twice in a day. Thanks for sharing this video bro. Amazing thoughts and content.
Once everyday? That's way too much. Once every few days is fine. Texting her everyday just shows her that you don't have nothing better to do with your life.
Whenever I watch your stuff, it seems like why the fuck did I not think of it that way? I really like the way you broadly categorise and actually leave the viewer with a lot to work with. Otherwise it’s just like the PUA’s will promote random products and tell you to be confident. I’ve seen only a few of your videos, and I’m beginning to see a change. Thanks for your videos man! I hope you keep making such amazing content!
I have been seeing this girl for a while every time we go out we have great talk n we escalate the emotions perfectly and the way I want it to be but when ever I try to go out with her I keep thinking I am needy and tod is so right if you think ur being OVER needy it's probably not like when we have plans and she cant come or doesn't ask about you need to treat her like your friend because in a relationship you need to be friends and more but ite the basis she will be ur friend and lover so I am starting to understand this a lot more now. Thanks tod!
Good shit Todd! If you can, can you make a video for those who are younger and in their early years of college or late HS...Regardless I love you brah!
Always confirm plans a few hours beforehand with the person you are meeting. This way you don't waste your time and waiting for them to show up if they didn't want to.
From my experience, being needy in a playful manner really got the job done. I first size a girl up to figure out if she's that type I can be playful with. But not always playful
The great paradox of game. How to show interest without being needy. In this video I give you a few different solutions that should help you to get through that frustrating intermediate game level and into a more advanced form of game. And don't forget to check out systembytodd.com to get your game to a truly advanced level
Two high-level questions I have never seen addressed by the pickup community and would like to see you answer: 1) Higher level guys who are pulling multiple times per week have girls always trying to lock us down and I'd like to know if you have a good way to deal with these tendencies? 2) I'm seeing 9s only a few times per year (at high end clubs, etc), so where are all the 9s?! Am I rating too low or are there simply very few true 9s in the world?
Yeh. I’m a little confused about whether I should be approaching girls at college and asking them on dates. Or relying on inviting them to social gatherings/parties (or then inviting me), and isolating there.
Some of the best info.!!! More videos of infield approaches would be great to see and get a better idea of evrtng you are teaching us. Thanks alot for all of this priceless information.
Gosh your tutorials are so great but... also complicated in some way... for example I am very confused on which game vid tutorial I should use to actually start a relationship
Its interesting, cause i actually have trouble showing interest - im a bit too shy, and lack in showing interest, and kind of repel the girl because she thinks i dont like her... funny story
@@bndkamarxu931 Give me a example bro im 18 and im talkin with two girls in collegue i let em talk the most and they seem interested, im big coz the gym, got a masculine vibe too but i dont know how to advance should i compliment her? Or what? Help
@@rkv3731 just Visiualise yourself giving her a "genuine" compliment and stop trying to look perfect, just be genuine. You will effortlessly have a sexy vibe. Go ahead.
This guy is right, a girl I approached started doing this and I caught on a lot later after so many times we crossed paths that she was doing this. I had to realize it was more of a shit test. If you put her in her place respectfully. She'll be attracted to you. You just have to know to be able to do so. The reason they do this is to stir up emotional confrontations for themselves. You just have to deny her requests if she asks you for something outright. Odd as it is, it's to see if you aren't a pushover. So it's not a bad thing.
I've genuinely never heard the word 'entitled' utilized so positively before. Kudos. Also, throwaway, nonchalant use of the term 'butt-hurt' = hilarious
The movie "waiting" actually poked fun about this subject, vis a vis that one guy who can't stop asking the girls "are you okay, can I get you anything". You got to act like you DGAF if they are ok or not for the most part.
Look what we have done to ourselves as men. Would be nice if we have a week called,” No man stare at or ask out girls.” Because, it’s gotten way too toxic nowadays. The more tips and tricks we touch each other the worst it gets.
Asian girl trying to show interest without being needy by getting in the shot pretending to be posing with the bull (nice she took Todd's advice live/invlog ;)
I would add that keeping the objective present shouldn't be taken lightly. For example, hot chick, third date, starts playing games or flaking, I get pissed, I tell her I would never be her BF or marry her and cut her off... All the emotional roller coaster has made me lose focus on the primary intent, which was? Getting inside of her! Sheesh how difficult is that genius?! (talking to myself).
Todd V mentioned active disinterest before in another video. I believe the net and gross interest is very similar. Push pull kinda thing. Persistence with slight disinterest . This is a reason guys get girl s they only like a bit.
What if I do remember most things like what I wore yesterday and every conversation I had dating years and years back tho? You don't think it exists but some people just can't forget
Just a tip, if you're stuck. Stop watching any self help/pick up videos for a month and just live naturally and push yourself. After a month you will revisit the content and get a new and valuable meaning.
I got pretty good but hit a pleatou and got burnt out... took 9 months off to play video games.. got back into game irl recently and fawk I feel like I could be legit pua. I make tables behind me in restaurants fall into my frame. fun shyt. sucked when I was burnt out.
I did that and was friend zoned
I got rejected by a girl I like and now I'm sad and depressed and going to die alone!
Yung dagger dick!
You evolve ... Indeed
1. Do things that are emotionally relevant
2. Spike her emotions both positively and negatively
3. Be unpredictable
SeouL
What’s emotionally relevant? Empathy???
Big Gus No. It means to say things that are relevant to the girl that will make them emotionally react in some sort of way. Versus saying something platonic (I.e. hey, what’s up, how are you) that your grandma could say to you and sparks no emotional/flirtatious reaction whatsoever
Entitled vs needy
But HOW? That's the key question
any tips for the negatively aspect, the positive pretty much speaks for itself, just compliment her but what if she genuinely hasn't done anything you disagree with, how do you push the negative emotion buttons then?
*When you're passionate about your hobbies, career, or personal growth, it naturally shows that you're not relying on her for validation. This confidence and independence are incredibly attractive, and it lets her see that you’re interested in her but not dependent on her for your happiness.*
We're honestly lucky, you're a great teacher Tod, allways explaining clearly and in a way people can really understand what you're trying to deliver. Thanks
I paused Midway to write that this value should not be given for free.this is amazing stuff.
We're blessed
Like how intellectual you are when explaining.
He goes into detail without being too complicated.
Dude, he's pretty goddang smart. I feel like he could really accomplish so much more, like PUA training is nice but he could make like a richer difference in people's lives totally apart from the dating arena.
Personally I think people would only watch these kinds of videos if they're insecure with how they date, and the videos give some specific quick-fixes for success in dating (with some hints that are applicable to general life). But I think the principles beneath it (confidence, etc) are better and stronger for improving *everything* in your life, including dating.
But then it's also true that videos specifically about dating are sure to get clicks and sustained views. I mean it worked for me. So from a marketing perspective I think it's the 'right' decision. I just feel like Todd has so much more potential to become much greater with his talents.
Todd V, the last real gangster...
When everyone is going woo woo, its a good thing we have this guy around...
I'm super sick of RSD talking about woo woo spirituality and topics they aren't versed in, instead of game. The woo woo stuff is valuable but I'm tryna pimp
Sleazy Rider this is so fucking true, Todd deserves a medal considering it all
Yes sir, all the natural kinda bullshit by rsdmax or the others... i Need a strict Game Plan and this is what todd gave me. Other instructors be like: believe in your gutt feeling. Be natural!
Todd be like: fuck you. Here is your Plan a b c d e f g
Love you todd ❤️❤️
Todd is gangster, but the "woo woo" stuff is very important outside of the strict game realm. As Tyler always says "dude, not everything I do is about fucking more whores!". You have to understand that RSD is just trying to implement more useful things into your life.
Billiesimon88 if u want to do more spiritual stuff i would recommend sadhguru, because he is the master of spiritual Things. Rsd is no Master in that
Im so happy you left RSD
Rafael Cintron why?
More money for Todd
Fatih Doğan He now won’t be restricted.
I didn't know about this... What do u mean? was there any problem or something?
It was holding him back
your videos from 2017-2018 is Gold brother.
Todd is the Explanaitor of the Pickup! You only understand something to a degree you can explain it to someone else. He can explain so well. It means he knows female psychology from inside out
Solid advice! Your last comment about what to do if your date isn't getting back to you about a tentative plan is exactly what I am dealing with today. It is not a pleasant experience. I've been going back and forth with the appropriate move and what you said is perfect! On the one hand, I don't want to appear to be needy, but I also don't want to be treated with disrespect. To all other men, stand up for yourself and don't let this kind of behavior be tolerated. Obviously, be nice about it, but also be prepared to walk away from the situation.
thank you man, i learned that i always had the game in me i was just affraid of her reaction. Its been so natural to me now that i am more confident. Their reaction to my approaches is always possitive no matter how direct i am. Its all about assertiveness and assuredness. Again. thank you.
I'm at 110 approaches and I've been rejected 14 times in a row. Hit a plateau haha.
I dont give a fffff.
Keep pushing!
Damn man that's awesome!! I'm going out tomorrow and hopefully doing my 10first approaches ever
@@Adam-he4kn I'm at 188 approaches. The more you do it the easier. Be brave!
@@gambit_toys6554 It really is scary but I really want to do it too!!
@@Adam-he4kn start today just do 1 approach
Keep it going. Youll be numb to it, by then, smooth sail
Presistents is key if you want the girl. She likes it when she feels you like her and you both know whats going to happen even if you dont say it. Meaning in the situation is what you make of it its all made up in your head. If your cool then she will be cool with it. Give your self the favors and think your awsome. All positive mindsets. Even if you fail your still awsome for trying and learning most dont even try.
Todd, you're not just an experienced gamesman, you are also a talented teacher. Thanks for the consistently high-quality material!
"Worrying about if something is needy, is actually very needy." This is gold. I hate when guys try to give advice and call what you are doing is "needy", it's like they don't really know how to give proper advice so all they know what to say to you is "You're being so needy!".
In a conversation like this, you really need to be in between. You can't just give the moon and the stars in one conversation with a girl. Be persistent in a good way. Devote your time each day to at least talk or message her at least once or twice in a day. Thanks for sharing this video bro. Amazing thoughts and content.
Once everyday? That's way too much. Once every few days is fine. Texting her everyday just shows her that you don't have nothing better to do with your life.
I like todd. Out of all the dating channels. Down to earth straight to the point and no pathetic bullshit like some other channels
Todd's gonna last through the recession
The great dick session
That girls will have
*do with my penis
No wait have is right
Gotchu to 50 buddy 🙌
This is powerful. Women want directness but, being to direct may be attractive to her but, may also come across as outcome dependent.
Whenever I watch your stuff, it seems like why the fuck did I not think of it that way? I really like the way you broadly categorise and actually leave the viewer with a lot to work with. Otherwise it’s just like the PUA’s will promote random products and tell you to be confident. I’ve seen only a few of your videos, and I’m beginning to see a change. Thanks for your videos man! I hope you keep making such amazing content!
I have been seeing this girl for a while every time we go out we have great talk n we escalate the emotions perfectly and the way I want it to be but when ever I try to go out with her I keep thinking I am needy and tod is so right if you think ur being OVER needy it's probably not like when we have plans and she cant come or doesn't ask about you need to treat her like your friend because in a relationship you need to be friends and more but ite the basis she will be ur friend and lover so I am starting to understand this a lot more now. Thanks tod!
So many good points Todd! Especially the part about being flaked on and then pretending like it didn’t even happen hit home.
So pretend the girl is a car sales person, make them want to have business for u
Good shit Todd! If you can, can you make a video for those who are younger and in their early years of college or late HS...Regardless I love you brah!
Yes please!
Yes!!
Yes Todd college vid would be amazing if u could
Matthew Nguyen yessss I’m a sophomore in college
yess
The very best advice, wow! you did great. It's so common to see advice that are at two extremes but this is in the grey and most realistic advice.
Always confirm plans a few hours beforehand with the person you are meeting. This way you don't waste your time and waiting for them to show up if they didn't want to.
From my experience, being needy in a playful manner really got the job done. I first size a girl up to figure out if she's that type I can be playful with. But not always playful
This guy is gold. Some of his messages are choppy and dont conveail his real thought, but all in all. GOLLLLD
This is one of the best advice on dating videos that ive seen ! thanks man!
You're a good guy bro, the way you tallk to the bros and deliver is right one man. Thx, I want to take a bootcamp with you!
Great advice, funny how I just thought the same thing about being entitled and then you posted the video. Always so much value from your vids.
This guy knows what's up.
The great paradox of game. How to show interest without being needy. In this video I give you a few different solutions that should help you to get through that frustrating intermediate game level and into a more advanced form of game.
And don't forget to check out systembytodd.com to get your game to a truly advanced level
00:22 LOVE how that smiles instantly fades hahahahaha. Brilliant.
Two high-level questions I have never seen addressed by the pickup community and would like to see you answer: 1) Higher level guys who are pulling multiple times per week have girls always trying to lock us down and I'd like to know if you have a good way to deal with these tendencies? 2) I'm seeing 9s only a few times per year (at high end clubs, etc), so where are all the 9s?! Am I rating too low or are there simply very few true 9s in the world?
Knowing it and applying it is very different.
Very true! Any action is better than no action!
Absolutely the best dating coach ever! I mean not to give him a big head or anything.
The psychological working component here is "intermittent reinforcement"
rip RSD. This guy is a genius.
I learn more from Todd in one video than I learn from an hour in RSD ra ra sessions.
Really great stuff man. The way you choose your words is very amazing
College video would be amazing todd 😍
"how to pimp your campus without being #meToo'd (solution: #meTo'dd ;)"
jCrazii yessss
Theres a video about this on the todd backup channel - and a very good one at that!
Yeh. I’m a little confused about whether I should be approaching girls at college and asking them on dates. Or relying on inviting them to social gatherings/parties (or then inviting me), and isolating there.
@@stephenhughes5156 social game is the best for college. There's a fantastic book on this called "conquer your campus"
wow, great intro, really kinda stands out from other youtube intros
Todd do a video about college
Logistics, reputation, how to pull like crazy on campus, how to escalate, etc
I'm wearing the same clothes I wore yesterday 😂
That’s why you’re winning at life.
Some of the best info.!!! More videos of infield approaches would be great to see and get a better idea of evrtng you are teaching us. Thanks alot for all of this priceless information.
the last part about being confident and entitled is not being needy, is good stuff.
I remember What i had on yesterday... the same as today... with the exeption of socks... i'm sick
cant spell either, but not important
Todd, you live in New Jersey/New York? Thats dope! By the way, I love your videos. This is like advice from the brother I never had.
Listen to this jazzy and classy intro... you already know this is some real shit!
Dropping HUGE massive value 😍🔥
Todd's videos have the best B-Roll
I know what i wore yesterday cuz u keep a journal, of what i wear when i last had it on and who i encouter throughout the day
Gosh your tutorials are so great but... also complicated in some way... for example I am very confused on which game vid tutorial I should use to actually start a relationship
Aye Todd. You should link up with “Marni Your Personal Wing Girl”
Its interesting, cause i actually have trouble showing interest - im a bit too shy, and lack in showing interest, and kind of repel the girl because she thinks i dont like her... funny story
EXTRA TIP :-
just remember that when someone figures out your needs, they start unconsciously disrespect you. Just dont show your needs.
@@vantyvinitoza yes sure
@@bndkamarxu931 Give me a example bro im 18 and im talkin with two girls in collegue i let em talk the most and they seem interested, im big coz the gym, got a masculine vibe too but i dont know how to advance should i compliment her? Or what? Help
@@rkv3731 just Visiualise yourself giving her a "genuine" compliment and stop trying to look perfect, just be genuine. You will effortlessly have a sexy vibe. Go ahead.
Worst tip ever if one is already in a relationship, you just end up loosing when doing that.
This guy is right, a girl I approached started doing this and I caught on a lot later after so many times we crossed paths that she was doing this. I had to realize it was more of a shit test. If you put her in her place respectfully. She'll be attracted to you. You just have to know to be able to do so. The reason they do this is to stir up emotional confrontations for themselves. You just have to deny her requests if she asks you for something outright. Odd as it is, it's to see if you aren't a pushover. So it's not a bad thing.
Cinematography on point!
I dont remember my first kiss because i never had one to begin with. LoL
How old r yall ?
Makes sense look at your profile pic you are asking for attention and look for validation which in turn doesn't look confident.
@@tonytrilex2555 At least he's being vulnerable.
Tony Trilex
Can’t see his face. Maybe he is ugly af!
I m just 24
Todd. You are the man and have changed my life. Thx 🙌🙌🙌🙌
I've genuinely never heard the word 'entitled' utilized so positively before. Kudos. Also, throwaway, nonchalant use of the term 'butt-hurt' = hilarious
Completely agree
Tip watch the last 2-3 minutes of the vids on youtube then go back and When watch from the beginning.
Thank you for everything Todd
The movie "waiting" actually poked fun about this subject, vis a vis that one guy who can't stop asking the girls "are you okay, can I get you anything". You got to act like you DGAF if they are ok or not for the most part.
Todd make a video on how to implement the system in college.
This dude is fucking smart, this just helped me out a fuck ton
Look what we have done to ourselves as men. Would be nice if we have a week called,” No man stare at or ask out girls.” Because, it’s gotten way too toxic nowadays. The more tips and tricks we touch each other the worst it gets.
That would be nice. No asking girls out or approaching them for a week, see how they would react. U think they would take the initiative then?
This is awesome stuff Todd!
Dude why do you make everything complicated. Keep it concise & understandable.
Thank god for Todd 🙏🏻 no more shitty three hour long non relevant or humorous Tyler metaphors with rsd Luke laughing annoyingly.
When you haven't had your first kiss though 💀
Literally me, the reason I'm watching this video
Fucking A Todd you’ve helped me in so many ways man. Thank you
smiles: "Hey, what's up, it's Todd and..."
*smile vanishes*
Hey man you speak the truth, thank you 👍
Well said and balanced advice
If you wanna get quick high quality content listen to Todd. If you wanna hear someone drone on without getting to the point listen to Alex!
What lens are you using for these? The bokeh is awesome
Asian girl trying to show interest without being needy by getting in the shot pretending to be posing with the bull (nice she took Todd's advice live/invlog ;)
I would add that keeping the objective present shouldn't be taken lightly. For example, hot chick, third date, starts playing games or flaking, I get pissed, I tell her I would never be her BF or marry her and cut her off... All the emotional roller coaster has made me lose focus on the primary intent, which was? Getting inside of her! Sheesh how difficult is that genius?! (talking to myself).
Great content Todd. How does one schedule a Skype consultation with you?
email todd@toddvdating.com
I'd honestly like to be buddies with Todd..seems like a really fun person
Todd V mentioned active disinterest before in another video. I believe the net and gross interest is very similar. Push pull kinda thing. Persistence with slight disinterest . This is a reason guys get girl s they only like a bit.
Emotional Triggers (PUSH-PULL Strategy, where you must push and pull in a 50-50 ratio!).
It’s funny you’ve shown the bull of the market
Can anyone help me out with examples of what those emotional spikes look like and how to come up with them?
What does “spike her emotions positively and negatively” mean
It reminds me emotional roller coaster of Julian Blanc.. hey dog, hey I love u xd
Look everyone its TODD the ROD of GOD!
Hi Todd. Please re upload the "why cold approach is a cheat code to game video" that was enlightening stuff
Its good but to me sounds like to much game playing. Being just my self and do or say what want is better.
Compared women to dogs in a very practical way.... nice
The explanation is so logical sound too
That how I lost a girl ‘didn’t walk with to the bathroom in club’
And if you say to her that you don’t have much time to talk to her and she says... bye? How can you respond to that not looking to needy?
What if I do remember most things like what I wore yesterday and every conversation I had dating years and years back tho?
You don't think it exists but some people just can't forget
"omg how dare you compare women to an animal!"
HUMANS ARE ANIMALS HO
Nice outro!
fuuuuuuuuuckk,So trying to be high value is low value
Anyone knows the intro/outro song? Really liked it