Love and Respect Got It Wrong: Here's Why
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- Опубликовано: 27 авг 2024
- Love and Respect Got It Wrong: Here's Why. The book Love & Respect by Emmerson Eggerichs has sold over 2 million copies and is used as a framework for marriage in many Christian circles. I've got some concerns with aspects of the book and think the call for Unconditional Respect might lead to some unhealthy marriage dynamics. In this video I'll share two specific concerns I have.
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Always had issues with the book - not the concept of love and respect but the book. My ex used it as ammunition against me and it hardened his heart.
Yeah, thats my fear on some of the way the themes are promoted. Can easily become a weapon for unhealthy people
That was a lot. I haven't always received my wife's feedback gracefully, but to ask or suggest that she just quietly distance herself from any situation that may arise in our marriage is unimaginable.
Right 🤦🏻♂️
Outstanding. So very important the points that you raise. In my 30 year marriage when I did this at times, my husband ran over me mercilessly.
He respected me more when I was respectful but also holding him to be more about the entity of our marriage and less about himself as separate and apart from the us of marriage.
Oh my goodness, how this all-in-all good man (my husband) would run over the kind of woman this book suggests being. It would be soooo bad for the woman. There would be no “melting” of my husband to this wife’s gentle, quiet love by example. My husband was all-in-all good(!), but, wow, even he was not beyond being selfish and running completely over a woman who let him.
Yikes, yikes, and more yikes, this book’s direction regarding this, and it’s lack of consistency in those first two quotes. Thank you for your excellent site content. I especially appreciate your “Three Questions for Emotional Connection” video =
OUTSTANDING!!! Keep on keepin’ on!!
Just shared your site with two people this morning.
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So glad you’re enjoying the content and thanks for sharing it with others!
It's important to recognize that it's possible to agree with people on some things and disagree on others. We all really need to stop with all the black-and-white thinking on so many issues!
What, you don’t think it’s all or nothing across the board? 😂
Many Christian husbands don't take the lead. If the wife waits...nothing would get going. I'm tired of pretending he's leading. It's exhausting. Love him though. Thanks for your videos!
Have you thought about implementing a weekly staff meeting or business meeting to make sure you are having some of those where are we going, what needs to be done, etc conversations. Might be a way to “help him lead” by regularly discussing areas that don’t naturally come to mind for him or that he doesn’t naturally initiate
So nice that you took the time to give a detailed, hopefully helpful to them, comment :)
Wow... how timely this is. In my experience of ministering to women, they are hurt and confused in their marriages, and feel stuck in a trap. Silencing a women's voice, in the hope that her actions will change a man is heavy on her shoulders. Not to simplify this heavy topic of love and respect, but in my experience standing strong, being clear to communicate my feelings created the respect I wanted . He actually said because I was bold to stand up to him (call him out) he knew I was a keeper! Isn't a man's greatest treasure his wife-she is a gift from the Lord!
Yeah, that’s the concern. Many of the men that would want a quiet submissive wife are the ones who are unhealthy so it can breed a toxic dynamic.
Sounds like he watched Stepford Wives one time too many
Wow. Guess it doesn't matter what God says.
Actually it matters greatly what God says, which is why we need to accurately use hermeneutics and exegesis to interpret scriptures in context to avoid making it say what it doesn’t say.
Usually the simplest, most straightforward interpretation is the best/most accurate. I am concerned that the claim to need to use exegesis is actually an excuse for eisegesis.
@@CharlieWhiskey549 I’m more than open to feedback if I’m misinterpreting scripture in any way, so help me understand…So in 1 Timothy 2:12 where Paul is addressing Instructions for Worship and says “I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet.”…it’s ok to remove to teach and then apply that to how a wife should interact with her husband when “she strongly disagrees on some issue” ?(p.220 of Love and Respect)