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Am I hearing Texas Louisiana or Florida ?

I had a GF that fucked after an argument. Now I have one that does not fuck at all. So the generalizations about compartmentalizing can go out the window.

Ever since social media ive seen my relationship go downhill my wife dont lust for me cause shes too busy getting dopamine online

Heyyyy I really need your advice....I lied to him several times but now i want to resolve everything i want to gain his trust back...but he tell that this is not possible...but I don't want to lose him... please help me..what should I do now ??? 🥺

I think you should work on other thing as well something do but not all the time should do other stuff with the person with

Wow I've never heard it put this way and I totally agree 100%! Very well explained

You hit the head. We used to be more romantic before we married. But we dropped the ball after we settled in. Time to dust off all the candles 😂

You mean people actually binding themselves together means they are more likely to actually try to work through problems and resolve conflict like adults rather than just leave? Who'd have thought? What a novel concept, Eric. I never would have thought 🤣🤣🤣. I wonder how this is news to some people.

What does it mean to work on myself? She says I never tried to fight for us how do I show her im fighting? She’s also responsive to my long text but given all she can. She says I’m a gaslighter, don’t help with around the house doesn’t want to ask for my help, feel like I missed an opportunity to make her feel wanted help

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When people tell me "marriage is just a piece of paper", I tell them... "Well, do you not want to be your mates legal next of kin?" As a healthcare worker, I see the shame when I tell people who are "boyfriends" and "girlfriends" of a patient that they are not allowed to sign any paperwork for the patient or make any medical decisions because they are not legally family. People do not realize that the "piece of paper" is what makes a couple legal family members. There is a reason why the "pride" people wanted the ability to get legally married, although it is a false marriage for them in the eyes of God.

Get in shape, brush and floss your teeth, scrape and clean your tongue, use a good mouthwash, manscape, help a little around the house, give her foreplay, eat the kitty as part of forepay. If you're doing all these things and honestly making an effort AND SHE STILL CUTS YOU OFF, SHE'S BANGING SOMEONE ELSE. TAKE THE HINT AND LEAVE!

You are right. It's easy for us to get resentful when we feel that we are not getting enough sex. The thing we overlook is that there is always a core reason why our partners are distant from us, and only honest and non blaming communication can unravel the truth. Children change the dynamics of the relationship hugely because it is natural for the mother to give more attention to the kids than the husband. My wife is mad at the kids most days because they are mischievous and argumentative. My job is to step in and help her out when it becomes too much for her. I use common sense, and I just know that she won't be in a good state of mind to be intimate with me if she's tired. It's tough, but it's life. The alternative is a divorce, but we can make it work if we are all just a bit more understanding of each other.

If the. Act is not written in the Song of Songs, it is a perversion, and will take people away from intimacy’s..

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Oh my god? I feel like a lot of people here are delusional, talking about separating their spouses because they aren’t getting sex?? Womp womp. If your love for your partner can’t go past a physical level, you don’t deserve to have them in the first place. Some people have bad history or trauma revolving around sex. The fact that some people feel entitled to their spouses bodies? Sickening. It actually baffles me the way people act like their spouses are like objects that they just have the right to use for their own pleasure when they get married. Your marriage might not be what your teenage self envisioned, you may not constantly be having sex, but boo hoo, some people would kill to have someone that just loves them period, no sex involved. Stop being so self obsessed, it’s gross.

Bunch of bullshit excuses

Why is this all men responding it baffles me men do the same.

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I’ve been through a toxic relationship recently not until I noticed my partner making late night calls in the sitting room, startedyy giving the silent treatment as soon as I questioned her actions. She wasn’t transparent and accountable all these years Benard cracks07 helped me with that recently

There's a fine line between codependency and helping carry someone's emotional load. Men are wired more for the physical guardianship and women of the emotional, yet an internal void cannot be filled longterm from external sources. Healing is an inside job and a healer doesnt heal someone only holds the energy of wholeness to help bring them there as well. Particularly in western culture, men do not have the emotional and intimacy support women do. We lose jobs or get called slurs or whatever when we step out of line and our worth is determined on what we can provide not on our essence as a living being which cultivates a permaconflict where the only external sanctuary can come from our partner which so often becomes weaponized and the cycle of toxic relations continues on. Women, children, and animals will be cared for. Men must do XYZ for such love and until we get real Real with that we will continue to see men killing themselves at the highest rate of anything on the planet. Seems in this life if we want something we first must give it first, ie want more empathy or compassion, give it to the person in the mirror first and when your cup is overfilling then we can give without the self destruction that comes with the dance of givers giving and takers taking until nothing is left. For most men, the only flowers we get are when we're already buried 6 feet under. If you wish to add someone else's emotional needs to be met when we as a society have severed healthy outlets with punitive systems still in place for half of us then this cycle will keep happening. Instead, we take accountability for our half to be fully present and able to help others. Show the healthy coping mechanisms they don't honor them then that's them not handling their half which is why it cannot be our responsibility for what they do with their own free will, to say otherwise is to Pavlov Bell us into hell in heart and between the ears where there's never going to be enough.

Guess I'm the guy in this relationship 😢

BEER !!! ITS THE ONLY THING THAT KIND OF HELPS . Not a cure but a very good distraction

Dude thia is alot of reasons and mostly excuses your giving the partner who withholds sex. Maybe just do the video from the point of .. there is no porn there is no bad sex there is only a good person with good intetnions that the one partner is denying sex and tell us why when thats the sceario.

I seem to stop doing work and helping around the house because the lack of sex. And hoe do we become more emotionaly together when ive been with her 20 plus years and taken care of her through all the health issues and am a great father. What more on top of never cheating and never talking about other women do i have to do to prove your the only one i want to have sex and the inly one i allow myself to look at sexually. Like how many excuses does she have in her head? All woman fo this? We got married to be more emotionally together and to have only sex with each other. I have the need to have sex. I dont want to break our vows but i need to explode inside someone. I tell you..if it wasnt for the sex part i would be gay!

Injust committed a cheating by messages only ,and i tried to confess to her not entirely but step by step but she caught me and I couldn't lie to her more and i tried to fix this for the past two days ,and after many rejection from her cause she felt so hurt ang angry and hated mev,now she told me give me time after me tried everything I finally get her to stay and see ,not tries tonget to me but she said give me time to come into decisions, please brother give some advise that can save me and I showed her im really regrets doing that and i promised not to do that ever again,.inneed yiur advice on how to fix what i messed up and she's the love of my life that I wanna marry and live my life with her till my lastbl day on this earth , and i said things in that messages im still single and still looking for a real one ,and i swear cause i was so dump i wasn't meaning or contracting caus i was only looking for more validation and i was feeling bord of my relationship but then i felt how much i was stupid and I showed her the actualmessages and she enlighten me of tjis line i didn't realized i wrote and thats hurting her a lot its all my responsibility im not running from this but,i need help and advice

My wife and I. 57 y.o. Everyday. 2-3- 5 On sat and sun. Just get passed raising kids. It's awesome.. You younger people Just shut up Just grow up It's a blast

my sex life is truly Olympic! ......once every four years!

Wish I had these tools in the last chapter!

My husband doesn’t want to work it out. I’ve tried everything

Awesome Teaching I am a Man who is a Christ Follower and celibate for years after divorce sex is a wonderful Gift from God just not outside of tge Marriage bed all the things you said I've been saying.My Flesh wants to justify sex put ring on her or Gid will forgive then I see the Handwriting on the Wall and it's a No and Joyous about it. Real intimacy You Yor Spouse and the Holy Spiri. Real goid teaching and a side note sex is everywhere in everything it's kind of sickening

Because men just turn to cheating and fear having to give up his finances with divorce. Cheaper to keep her

Most of the reasons i have read and seen from a huge mama community is that because the man was cheating, not helping in the home and raising children, addiction and/or abusive towards family. I don't know about reasons 1-3 as have almost never heard of those from women.

I'm a woman and have been married for 19 years. No intention to divorce. Financially I could do it, the house is on my name, I have a job and the kids are old enough to spend most time of the day on their own. I could also divorce, because my husband has health issues and doesn't make much money. Why do I NOT divorce? 1) I love him 2) he is a loving and caring man 3) he respects me 4) he's a good father 5) he's good to the people I love 6) he's honest and loyal

Bro before the marriage I could twist my wife like a pretzel now we don’t do shit. She lame as hell. I never had to ask for sex now it’s a foreign language. II still do all the shit she needs me to do too. That’s the crazy part ! I’ve never cheated or anything like that. I just don’t get it 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️😵‍💫

Number one is not a reason, but gives a possibility to divorce or not to get married at all. No woman divorces a good, loving man just because she has money. About the negative emotions... the negative emotions come along the unloving or abusive man. Women do not have those emotions alone, that is why they leave. Number 3 and 4 👌

Good ideas, wrong conclusions. Better financial stability means they will go where they want, when they want, and they don't care about the truth of divorce and marriage from the Bible. More negative emotions, better financial stability... why stay? Men are oblivious to the disconnect more, huh? Then why don't women learn how to cope with their feelings, change themselves, so they stop ruining society through marital destruction? You really have to stop making excuses for women to get out of marriage; that's precisely what you've done, here. How about the Church pull its head out of its collective fourth point-of-contact and begin teaching the truth of the Word, again, instead of the truth of the world? Y'know, I'm all for being gentle and loving with a stay-at-home Mom, especially while children are younger, but she agreed to have that child/those children with that Husband, she stays home and watches her soaps, or the stupid View, or talking/chatting with friends all day. Y'know... I'm an 80% disabled combat veteran and I was unable to find work that I know how to do and that keeps me out of the heat -I was a heat casualty three times in the Army- so I took it on myself to do the housework while my Wife worked in an industry she could do, truthfully, ANYWHERE, and I did that work day-in and day-out and I cooked most of the meals, even though I was bringing in the same amount of money as a disabled veteran, and I'm here to tell you it's a crock of crap to give women more than their due. The statistics you're quoting are also a load of crap; like most any other poll, it can be made to say what the polling company or group want it to say. Men are reaping far more benefits healthwise?! That's great, as long as the woman they've married continues to love, cherish, and care for her Husband, while he's trying to do the same for her, working as a TEAM. However, women are taught, from birth, these days, to have an "I'm gonna get mine" attitude and if the man they marry turns out to be exactly what they need, and I mean EXACTLY, they'll stick with him. However, let the man have a single bad day, perhaps an argument, perhaps just needs to have some time to recoup from a tough day at actual work, and SHE CHECKS OUT, and that's where the long cycle starts, because she's not getting what she WANTS, anymore, and stops being a team player at that point. Once that happens, the so-called health benefits go straight to hell and it gets worse. Here's a statistic that's not made up... about 76% of married men will die before their Wife because she's checked out and just doesn't give a damn about their marriage, anymore, but is staying because she doesn't have a better place to go. I'm at 7:43 in the video and I'm just not going to watch this foolishness, anymore. Y'know, there's a reason red-pill organizations and Men's Advocacy Groups now exist in the United States, and it's like the stereotypes that various races are called as... it's well-earned for women, and it's why men are jumping ship on marriage. Women are taught to be harpies and have an attitude of greed, beyond the monetary, chasing men away after they give her a child, or two, or three, because that's what SHE wants. Everyone boo-hoo's for all these women having such a hard time raising children, and the men are getting blamed for it, when this is what the women want and they're making it happen. It is time to return to true-to-the-Word Godly marriage, where a man sacrifices himself lovingly for his Wife, loving and caring for her, and a Wife submit's herself to her Husband, also in love and respect of him. Right now, women are taught -and you can see this in popular media- to nag and push and grab what they can take while putting on a negative and untrue sideshow of "boo-hoo, look at little old oppressed me" and they get anything they want, while men, who wanted to love someone and be with her for the rest of their lives together, get shafted in court in multiple ways, especially including children they helped to bring into this world and love with all their hearts, and possessions, and monetarily, and OUT OF HAPPINESS!!! Shame on you for presenting these LIES, from satan, as facts. I've been hoping you might get better, but you're not centered at all... I'm done with you.

BS. Not wasting my time debunking each point. It's been done to many times already. You can't be parroting long debunked points and stats over and over.

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Because they are financially incentivized to do so. No fault divorce + a family/divorce court system that is HEAVILY biased against men in the overwhelming majority of places leads to women with the ability to be unfaithful/abusive, or just get bored and lose "the feels", and still walk with alimony, and half of everything the man owns, and child support (if children are present). Marriage is hard, often thankless work to keep going. Love is a choice that needs to be made daily. Divorce is easy, and you get paid if you're the wife in the vast majority of instances. It's honestly a no-brainer.

But isn't number 2 a bad reason for divorce, though?

This is exactly what I need!

I have Asperger's, so videos like this that provide actual, concrete advice are REALLY helpful.

My goal when having sex is to achieve orgasm and for my partner to achieve orgasm.

She's dry. Dump her and go younger. Stay happy men

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That's how my wife got an affair and still denies it.

I found that living together after marriage was also a bad idea. I concluded that a duplex might work, if you can't afford separate houses, or preferably separate cities. That is, of course, if you suffer from so much irrational optimism that you still think marriage is not a terrible idea.