10 Signs It's Social Anxiety, Not Rudeness

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  • Have you ever noticed a friend who always cancels plans last minute? It might be due to social anxiety disorder symptoms having kicked into their system, instead of rudeness.
    Everyone experiences some level of social anxiousness at one time or another, but those with SAD experience an above-average to severe level of worry, fear, and panic in social situations. Social anxiety disorder (SAD) is defined as the “marked and persistent fear of one or more social or performance situations in which the person is exposed to unfamiliar people or possible scrutiny by others.”
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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  3 года назад +441

    Has there been times where you anxiety just got the best of you?
    ruclips.net/video/UReNwYXTI8Q/видео.html

    • @sy.mindie3893
      @sy.mindie3893 3 года назад +4

      Yes, but it will depend on the occasion

    • @dan4929
      @dan4929 3 года назад +5

      Tommyinnit fake acc

    • @user-oi9tv7td9f
      @user-oi9tv7td9f 3 года назад +4

      A bunch of times

    • @lmMentallyIll
      @lmMentallyIll 3 года назад +2

      @TommyInnit 🅥 :/

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 3 года назад +3

      Yes all tonight and it's getting worse

  • @JayyCee777
    @JayyCee777 3 года назад +2889

    1. Struggling to make eye contact
    2. Not eating food because they’re afraid it may get stuck in their teeth
    3. Canceling plans last minute
    4. Shutting down in a group setting
    5. Having an outburst over something others consider small
    6. Being glued to the phone or social media
    7. Struggling to open up and have a deeper conversation
    8. Leaving a party early
    9. Appearing tense in group settings
    10. Creating a false time constraint
    I hope whoever is facing any of these knows they’ll get through it, and the only people who matter are the ones who will understand ❤️

    • @Longerade
      @Longerade 3 года назад +16

      Thank you 💙✨

    • @slothful_sloth
      @slothful_sloth 3 года назад +46

      bruh why do i have all this :(

    • @katie-dn4dw
      @katie-dn4dw 3 года назад +12

      someone tell me why i relate to almost all of these

    • @Derellrassy87
      @Derellrassy87 3 года назад +10

      I go thru all 10, and it don't ever get easy life sucks when you can't help it😔

    • @3pn224
      @3pn224 3 года назад +4

      Agree

  • @lukashuddleston4232
    @lukashuddleston4232 3 года назад +2206

    Yes I wish people at my school would understand this. Instead of thinking I dislike them.
    Update- I never thought so many people would relate to how I felt, but now it's not anxiety. I just don't like people lol.

    • @_megumin_5326
      @_megumin_5326 3 года назад +28

      Same..

    • @bunet7330
      @bunet7330 3 года назад +25

      Saaame 😔😔😕

    • @Tina.1
      @Tina.1 3 года назад +40

      But if they think you dislike them, doesn’t that mean they are struggling with their own problems? The video even states people like this worry people don’t like them. Put yourself in their mind, they could be dealing with the same problems you are.

    • @check.checkmated
      @check.checkmated 3 года назад +18

      i can relate to this, its just I dislike them.

    • @lukashuddleston4232
      @lukashuddleston4232 3 года назад +8

      @@Tina.1 I never thought of it like that. Perhaps you are right.

  • @corlahasper234
    @corlahasper234 3 года назад +962

    This anxiety is horrible to have. In a world of extroverts who expect others to find joy in being surrounded by people all the time, it can feel very isolating. Wish I didn’t have it, but, this disorder is often accompanied by talents and intelligence. Blessing and curse.

    • @frog6054
      @frog6054 3 года назад +51

      I don't have or at least don't find any talents and intelligence within myself so I'm in lose lose situation lol.

    • @ju999X
      @ju999X 3 года назад +15

      @@frog6054 fuckin same

    • @lhkcu
      @lhkcu 3 года назад +2

      THIS

    • @serenitysphere1967
      @serenitysphere1967 3 года назад +2

      @@frog6054 ACCURATE

    • @JQNick
      @JQNick 3 года назад +11

      Yup, and then when you tell a friend they just suggest you go out more as if you’re suddenly going to become best friends with everyone in the world 😑

  • @stanbtsclc3358
    @stanbtsclc3358 3 года назад +575

    people with social anxiety would love to make friends, go out and have fun, be with their loved ones, chat with new people, and more, but anxiety prevents them from that, so no, they are not rude, they just cannot fight the feeling no matter how much they want to!

    • @SN-vn6wb
      @SN-vn6wb 3 года назад +51

      As someone with (very likely) social anxiety, I relate to this so much. I dream of having fun with a group of awesome friends, but on the very rare occasion that a person like this approaches me, I shy away and avoid eye contact. Inner me screams to get better with people but I just can't.

    • @stanbtsclc3358
      @stanbtsclc3358 3 года назад +12

      @@SN-vn6wb i fully understand you, it's really difficult and frustrating, you are not alone, but still i hope everything improves and one day you can have fun with that great group of friends, all in your own time and way, of course... maybe achieving that will be a long process or even short and it may be very difficult or easy but you can and i believe in you!

    • @trinity6880
      @trinity6880 2 года назад

      Yup exactly :c

    • @trishaagrawal6781
      @trishaagrawal6781 Год назад

      Yes, I understand this feeling because I'm going through this and I found all the 10 signs of social anxiety within me

    • @seckojedno22
      @seckojedno22 Год назад +1

      Who said that really. All I pretty much want is to be alone and stop being forced into social situations

  • @BrandonP8176
    @BrandonP8176 3 года назад +714

    Sometimes when I stranger says "hi" or tries to initiate a conversation with me, sometimes I won't respond. I hate this because I feel that people think I'm rude and unfriendly. I actually enjoy being kind to people, yet my social anxiety will often get in the way of that. I don't want to be looked at as a stuck-up snob.

    • @grammarnazi3876
      @grammarnazi3876 3 года назад +48

      I have the same issue, unfortunately. Even those in my family often distance themselves from me or become angry with me because they think I'm rude and don't want to be associated with me. I truly want to be kind to others but social interactions cause me so much anxiety.

    • @l0v3r_
      @l0v3r_ 3 года назад +36

      A stranger says “hi” to you? Nobody comes up to me because I look cold and rude…

    • @BrandonP8176
      @BrandonP8176 3 года назад +24

      @@l0v3r_ There are times where people seem hesitant to approach me as well. Sometimes it just seems like they're scared of me or something lol.

    • @idreamindarknessandsleepto1475
      @idreamindarknessandsleepto1475 3 года назад +13

      I never get strangers saying hi to me because I only go out at night and dress in all black and look all scary lol.

    • @moonee2595
      @moonee2595 3 года назад +1

      @@idreamindarknessandsleepto1475 Jesus 😟

  • @sadiaroze2443
    @sadiaroze2443 3 года назад +306

    My family needs to see this. I was always considered as "shy" and "quite" since my childhood. But now as I'm in my teens, I've come to know about social anxiety and I literally find myself in it. The fact that my relatives don't even have any idea on what social anxiety is. My dad always forces me to socialize which takes a really bad toll on me. I just hope people will be educated about this illness and will hopefully understand us well.

    • @itzmonotone593
      @itzmonotone593 3 года назад +18

      Sounds harsh, but you gotta realize most of these random people dont care about you at all, and you shouldn't care about them, they will forget anything you do in a minute. They got better stuff to do then talk about how you were acting shy in a group. It helps me a bit, mainly in school ❤

    • @sadiaroze2443
      @sadiaroze2443 3 года назад +4

      @@itzmonotone593 Thank you, I'll keep your words in mind

    • @Acelyn_11
      @Acelyn_11 3 года назад +6

      Fr like my parents make me play sports. I’m not trying to self-diagnose, because I don’t believe in that kinda thing. But it’s hard because I don’t want to mess up and I’m afraid I will or I’m afraid to try because I don’t want people to think that I’m not good enough. So I just don’t try. Sometimes I do without telling people but it’s hard to put effort into something you don’t wanna do and my parents think that making me play more is going to force me to like it. I hate it even more over the years.
      And my mother makes me socialize too, and whenever I don’t feel like hanging out with my friends she just says “Why are you so pissed off?! Did you guys fight?!” Or “why are you so weird! When I was a kid I would actually talk to people and make friends!”

    • @sadiaroze2443
      @sadiaroze2443 3 года назад +1

      @@Acelyn_11 That sounds absolutely rough :( I don't get why people think if they force someone to like something, they will start to like it. Like what kinda logic is that? Humans won't enjoy doing stuff what they DON'T like.
      And I get why you think that people will think you're not good enough. There's always that judgmental tension inside your head that people will judge you. I have that too. It's hard to speak up about it to our parents. And yeah just because you were good at something when you were a kid doesn't necessarily mean your kid will be good at it too. I think your mom should learn more about social anxiety. I wish the best for you. Good luck. And remember that you ARE good enough :)

    • @jett8444
      @jett8444 2 года назад +1

      That's exactly what my dad does.

  • @yourstrulydiablo
    @yourstrulydiablo 3 года назад +606

    Loved the “A Silent voice” reference. Such a great movie

    • @po9608
      @po9608 3 года назад +16

      right

    • @alexb8455
      @alexb8455 3 года назад +17

      It’s definitely one of my favorites

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +64

      Agree!

    • @casinoboy9790
      @casinoboy9790 3 года назад +1

      @@Psych2go hi 😳

    • @simzz3957
      @simzz3957 3 года назад +1

      I love it

  • @DeeTomm
    @DeeTomm 3 года назад +641

    My dad needs to see this. In my opinion, he probably cannot tell the difference between anxiety and rudeness, or he doesn't sometimes even know anxiety even exists.

    • @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes
      @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes 3 года назад +17

      Try to share some video of Psych2Go to your parents, it helped a lot for me. The mental health is important 💚
      My own mother and many people think depression, anxiety and other trouble of mental health don't exist, it's hurt.
      Take care of yourself, of your mental health 💚

    • @richardjones2455
      @richardjones2455 3 года назад +10

      He's a dad, he knows what anxiety is, trust me.

    • @gnarthdarkanen7464
      @gnarthdarkanen7464 3 года назад +5

      Gonna go with Richard Jones up there... "He's a Dad. He knows what anxiety is."
      I've got good money on him being sorta like "I reject your anxiety and substitute my own." from the infamous line from Adam Savage (of the Mythbusters Savages) about "reality" along the same vein... ;o)

    • @zeeshanhazari
      @zeeshanhazari 3 года назад +22

      @@richardjones2455 but they don't think thier Kids can have these, like they literally questioned my depression like "how you can have what you're thinking recently it's cause of the Mobile don't use that mobile why don't you talk to others he is your friend talk with him if you will act like this you won't get successful how you can be a Man if you will get shy in those simple situations see that Electrician was asking why you were just looking into phones when you should check if he's doing the correct thing why do you buffer while talking to others"
      *WE DO THIS FOR YOUR OWN GOOD*
      and many other things,

    • @shalxnda
      @shalxnda 3 года назад

      right

  • @swiftlyaswiftie
    @swiftlyaswiftie 3 года назад +203

    There's also not talking to strangers (like when an employee greets you, or someone you're not as close with)

    • @shirleyware2150
      @shirleyware2150 3 года назад +8

      On spot thank you....like you know them but not really know them!!!

    • @lanacain
      @lanacain 3 года назад +1

      Maybe the party is a drag and you had rather be home 🏡 anyway 🙂

  • @khadijahzzx4736
    @khadijahzzx4736 3 года назад +87

    love how in childhood everyone pronounced me as "shy" and now they just straight up say i'm rude and stuck up. i just can't combat this queasy feeling inside me no matter how much i want to be nice and meet people and just be normal.

    • @teaganeaston5342
      @teaganeaston5342 3 года назад +5

      Holy cow, saaame

    • @khadijahzzx4736
      @khadijahzzx4736 3 года назад +8

      @@teaganeaston5342 naurr i'm so sorry you have to go through this too. i sincerely hope you have someone to talk over your feelings with it's just so much more worse when you don't have someone you trust enough to share this kind of stuff with

    • @Lupinwolf509
      @Lupinwolf509 3 года назад +3

      I relate and I'm sorry you are going through these things. Remember that you are not alone in this! I wish you the best

    • @thecega3850
      @thecega3850 3 года назад +3

      Im so sorry someone or something did this to you. Keep going i know how ot feels your not alone. I wish for you to meet understanding and loving people, you deserve it. (You sounds like a very sweet person)

    • @teaganeaston5342
      @teaganeaston5342 3 года назад +2

      @@thecega3850 she does seem like such a lovely person @khadijah zzx thank you for that comment earlier 💖

  • @user-uh4zr5wx6r
    @user-uh4zr5wx6r 3 года назад +118

    The silent voice and genshin impact references are gold. Srs

  • @seeseungk
    @seeseungk 3 года назад +29

    honestly everyone thinks im so rude, and they never listen or believe me when i say i have social anxiety.

  • @lonewolfnergiganos4000
    @lonewolfnergiganos4000 3 года назад +304

    It's funny that I can highly relate to almost every video Psych2go makes.

    • @gonnahavemesomefun
      @gonnahavemesomefun 3 года назад +15

      Same. Either I am wishing they did, or they actually do. In either case I need help probably 😂 heh 😅

    • @richardjones2455
      @richardjones2455 3 года назад +6

      That's by design.

    • @yongsoonchia965
      @yongsoonchia965 3 года назад +3

      same....

    • @anyaaaaaaa2971
      @anyaaaaaaa2971 3 года назад +3

      Same

    • @pramodchaudhari6177
      @pramodchaudhari6177 3 года назад +1

      My tears come out automatically when I seen this videos bc they r highly relatable to me mostly introvert videos nd depression videos

  • @abirfakih6012
    @abirfakih6012 3 года назад +5

    The worst thing is that no one understand and show empathy to you. You have to fight that alone. I hope everyone of us recover from social anxiety

  • @ComicalRealm
    @ComicalRealm 3 года назад +118

    "Anxiety is one little tree in your forest. Step back and look at the whole forest" - Popeye

    • @moonee2595
      @moonee2595 3 года назад +2

      The restaurant?? 😂

    • @klutzykaya6439
      @klutzykaya6439 3 года назад +1

      @@moonee2595 Popeye is also a very old cartoon character, and this probably is a quote from him.

    • @moonee2595
      @moonee2595 3 года назад +6

      @@klutzykaya6439 I just can’t believe Pope made that quote when did he get so deep

  • @minimannyjr2622
    @minimannyjr2622 3 года назад +45

    And yet people especially parents we are rude. This channel helped me through the worst times

  • @biancam.3828
    @biancam.3828 3 года назад +91

    Is there anyone else who doesn’t take out their phones when talking to people you’re unsure of DUE to anxiety because you don’t want to come off as rude but instead you just trail off the conversation or do your best to nicely cut it off so you can relax alone? Bc I struggle with talking a lot but I don’t just jump on my phone mid conversation…?

    • @Dave-ip7hs
      @Dave-ip7hs 3 года назад +4

      I don't take it out. After a while if they keep talking to me my jaw hurts. Clenching teeth

    • @kathm4312
      @kathm4312 3 года назад +5

      yess! I always never wanna come off as rude, and I learned that taking out ur phone when someone is talking to you is terribly disrespectful. So I either just get too anxious to go anywhere, or I try to nicely cut it off without beating myself too much up about it 😊❤️ #socialanxietysucks. btw you’re so beautiful! 😁

    • @fatoumatacisse3796
      @fatoumatacisse3796 3 года назад +2

      I just pretend to be on my phone to avoid eye contact or talking to people

    • @Dave-ip7hs
      @Dave-ip7hs 3 года назад

      @@fatoumatacisse3796 what do you do when they single you out regardless?

  • @lunabangtan7
    @lunabangtan7 3 года назад +301

    So many people just think I’m some stuck up bitch or something- no! I’m just really really anxious and from a toxic household where showing vulnerability was forbidden! That’s how I end up expressing myself. My dad always scolds me for my anxiety symptoms - for example eye contact.

    • @Borgars
      @Borgars 3 года назад +5

      I understand, I don't like it when my dad makes me maintain eye contact when he's scolding me or talking to him, it makes me get lost for words or more nervous.

    • @itztuck7042
      @itztuck7042 3 года назад +2

      Had the same issue with my prior work place. I had a girl come up to me and tell me the first year I was there a lot of people thought I was rude, I told her I just stick to myself and don’t talk much

  • @missjasmine3366
    @missjasmine3366 3 года назад +219

    I still can't get over how adorable these cartoons are. I hate that I missed out on the Plushie sale. Anyway, the only time that I felt social anxiety was whenever I had a date with a man I was very attracted to. I was afraid that I would ruin the date, but would ruin it anyway by canceling at the last minute. My 'flakiness' ruined a lot of dates. I just wish that I had more confidence.

    • @josueordonez4303
      @josueordonez4303 3 года назад +4

      Damnn you cancelled them all

    • @missjasmine3366
      @missjasmine3366 3 года назад +2

      @@josueordonez4303 Yes.😭

    • @josueordonez4303
      @josueordonez4303 3 года назад +4

      @@missjasmine3366 how bad is your anxiety? Or is it cause they were ugly

    • @missjasmine3366
      @missjasmine3366 3 года назад +3

      @@josueordonez4303 My anxiety was very bad. The butterflies 🦋 in my stomach would be overwhelming 😩 and I would panic. These guys were not ugly. I always felt very comfortable and confident with guys I didn't find attractive.

    • @rioscordoba606
      @rioscordoba606 3 года назад +4

      I did something similar but with a woman.
      She thought I stood her up(more than once) and was pissed about it, and the sad part was I liked her as much as she liked me.
      Now my mind plays those memories over and over again to torment me.

  • @Ojuolape
    @Ojuolape 3 года назад +72

    Used to have social anxiety as a teenager (would even have panic attacks at the thought of going outside to meet people). So glad to have overcome it totally now!

    • @protocolindao975
      @protocolindao975 3 года назад +6

      How?

    • @m_ron2742
      @m_ron2742 3 года назад +6

      @@protocolindao975 by doing what causes the anxiety... socializing

    • @Ojuolape
      @Ojuolape 3 года назад +19

      @@protocolindao975 what @M_Ron said. I eventually went off to medical school where I HAD to give public presentations & interact with loads of people/patients. Slowly but surely, I overcame it. It was when I became a doctor I realised I had inadvertently done something we call Systemic Desensitisation - when you gradually expose yourself to that situation in small doses only to build tolerance.

    • @protocolindao975
      @protocolindao975 3 года назад +6

      @@Ojuolape alright, thank you :-) Glad for you that you made it!!

  • @rubberchicken7701
    @rubberchicken7701 3 года назад +55

    My socal anxiety has become worse since lockdown ended, I now avoid people as much as I can as being too close to them causes me to feel panicked.

    • @abirfakih6012
      @abirfakih6012 3 года назад +2

      You are not alone

    • @jannday2004
      @jannday2004 2 года назад +2

      I'm feeling this too

    • @PanoGD
      @PanoGD 2 года назад +2

      My social anxiety is getting worse,
      It start from feeling uncomfortable-> cringe -> panic -> cry

    • @twistedtoess7796
      @twistedtoess7796 2 года назад

      fr

  • @nyxvoidess
    @nyxvoidess 3 года назад +92

    As a person with social anxiety these are well put. To put it simply:
    Social anxiety is anxiety put mainly on social things rather than everything.
    It sucks to have both anxiety and social anxiety at the same time.

  • @blueish_emerald
    @blueish_emerald 3 года назад +19

    I can relate to feeling uncomfortable when having to look someone in their eyes.

    • @erinakie3695
      @erinakie3695 3 года назад +8

      I know it’s just so awkward lol

  • @ntellaS2
    @ntellaS2 3 года назад +77

    my best friend has social anxiety disorder and she said I'm one of the only people who understand when she wants people to be around or not, when she wants to be touched (like receiving hugs or even shaking hands) or not
    guess since I'm ambivert and observe people a lot while talking to them, I end up understanding some signals that end up going unnoticed by others

    • @coffeeisgood5194
      @coffeeisgood5194 3 года назад +7

      Wanna have you as a friend 😭

    • @ionfranklin9423
      @ionfranklin9423 3 года назад +6

      Wait.....you guys have friends?

    • @nylacakezz
      @nylacakezz 3 года назад

      I totally feel like that too. I have one friend in my class and she somewhat understands. She's my whole world.

  • @HoV326
    @HoV326 3 года назад +32

    1. Eye contact can be pretty scary for me because it just makes me uncomfortable. But I can force myself to do it.
    2. I eat by myself because I'm afraid to make a mess or come off as a messy eater with bad table manners. I do go out of my way to try and have good etiquette at a table, but I always get worried I get some food on the corner of my lip or I'm struggling to bite a piece off my food or something falls off my fork (or spoon or chopsticks) and makes me come off as a clumsy or messy eater.
    4. I do this a lot. At gatherings or whatever, I will just isolate myself and lay down because I feel so mentally exhausted.
    6. *Yes!*
    7. Yeah. Sometimes, when I vent, I kinda feel a bit of regret about it and wish I just kept it to myself.
    9. I'm the quiet one in groups and always try to blend into the background so no one notices me and it makes me feel a bit comfortable.

    • @moonee2595
      @moonee2595 3 года назад +2

      Thx for crawling inside my brain u really took the words out my mouth

    • @BedrockIsGone
      @BedrockIsGone 3 года назад

      Omg same

  • @akayslay
    @akayslay 3 года назад +11

    I’ve never told anyone about my interests because of how afraid I am that they’ll judge me. It’s horrible not being able to talk to people about these things and hold it all in. You don’t understand how good it feels to find out someone you know has a similar interest as you.

  • @glitteringgrime
    @glitteringgrime 3 года назад +37

    I have social anxiety and all of what was listed affects me. But, I feel more outgoing when my friends are with me and when i’m dressed in my favourite outfit. Like if i wanna make friends with someone new and my other friends are with me, it’s easier. But when all the attention is focused on me and i’m with a large group of strangers i get anxiety really bad and don’t know what to say, and then when i do it’s been too long and i feel really bad.
    (also many people assume i’m an introvert and it makes me a little mad but oh well, i understand why.)

  • @connor530
    @connor530 3 года назад +66

    I started seeing a therapist for social anxiety disorder this year, and this video rings especially true. I spent my whole life thinking there was something wrong with me that no one understood. For that reason, I hope the people who need this video see it, I definitely wish I did when I was younger. Thank you for spreading awareness! Love your channel!

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +5

      Thank you Connor for sharing and for getting the help you need :) Thanks for the support too! Keep up the great work!

    • @aaron702
      @aaron702 3 года назад +2

      Connor can u help me with something

    • @sharonsettle9079
      @sharonsettle9079 Год назад

      I thought I was a freak.

  • @isabelladeangelo8474
    @isabelladeangelo8474 3 года назад +20

    I have diagnosed social anxiety and all of these signs are so true. My social anxiety had been getting better, but recently, I had a stressful encounter with one of my friends and it caused me to be so anxious that after we finished the phone call my heart rate sped way up and I was hyperventilating and crying. I was not only upset by the call, but by the fact that I thought I'd finally overcome my problem, then it came back to kick me in the rear.

  • @sarah-michellemease5622
    @sarah-michellemease5622 3 года назад +31

    when I was younger, I would get FURIOUS over the smallest things, like a balloon was filling my chest. I thought I was going insane, but it turns out it's just social anxiety. You're not alone, I feel your pain in this!

    • @AlmightyDRock
      @AlmightyDRock 3 года назад +1

      Same

    • @blueflare3848
      @blueflare3848 3 года назад +1

      I get angry at small things too, and I'm not really sure why. I just brush it off as hormones because "women are overly emotional". How do you know when it's excessive? How can you tell when it's a problem?

    • @sarah-michellemease5622
      @sarah-michellemease5622 3 года назад +3

      @@blueflare3848 well, reading a lot of psychology books helped a lot for me personally, and even more so when I was finally able to het a therapist ...

  • @anyaromanov5427
    @anyaromanov5427 3 года назад +39

    You will get through it, I promise! I hope you have a better day and people around you understand your emotions ☺️

  • @crispy_lettucej0573
    @crispy_lettucej0573 3 года назад +29

    I relate to all these things but I don’t want to seem like I’m self diagnosing , I want to tell someone, but I feel they might think I’m joking. I can never look someone in the eye because I think they’re judging me, when I look away I always think they notice I never look at them. I also get so upset about the smallest things. :) thank you!

    • @devn22
      @devn22 3 года назад +3

      bruhhh i feel this so hard

    • @jaywadsworth563
      @jaywadsworth563 3 года назад

      I am all expect first

  • @courageandcompassion2293
    @courageandcompassion2293 3 года назад +68

    I’m happy this video was uploaded. It talks about a more ugly side of mental illness that doesn’t get covered a lot. Many people struggling with different mental illnesses feel like they’re doing something wrong because of their symptoms, but this stigma really needs to go away. Does anyone have any similar experiences they wanna share about anxiety or anything else? It doesn’t even have to be a hard diagnosis, but I wanna help eliminate the stigma around the symptoms of different conditions, so your input will be valuable. Please do your best to take care of yourself. ❤️

    • @glitteringgrime
      @glitteringgrime 3 года назад +6

      Yeah, social anxiety is something i rlly struggle with. Like ordering in a restaurant, i talk a little too quiet and i don’t look at the waiter, just at my lap. Even with my close friends i can’t make good eye contact, it just feels so weird and makes me nervous. And another thing….. presentations in class/putting spotlight on a student is the absolute worst. It doesn’t help me at all personally, it just makes me have a small panic attack and overthink the whole way to it and wonder if anyone judged me. With some distant friends idk what to always say, sometimes in a convo i just say “oh, mhm, ooooh okaaay” and i feel like it sounds rude but i just don’t know what to do:( I really love being around people, but it takes me a while to warm up. I’ve been called an introvert for soooo long when i’m not at all, i wouldn’t say i’m an extrovert tho, bc sometimes i even get nervous on the internet like voicing my opinion to someone. (That was really long, im sorry!!)

    • @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes
      @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes 3 года назад +2

      I see you often in the comments section. You are a great !
      Thanks to you, for your understanding, empathy, and benevolence.
      4 months ago, diagnosed depression and anxiety, I don't know if I have it again actually, it depend of the situations, I still have anxiety sometimes.
      Heart and breath faster and stronger every morning when wake up/come back to reality, actually theses symptoms are softer than there were the monts before, it's still better ^^
      I can't know or predict if it will disappear totally one day, I can't predict the situations which will make me anxiety, this is the life with some randoms things and events ^^ I learned to life with when it appears, and it's ok, it's not often.
      I discovered nice channels which help me a lot like this one. People on the comments section of this one, are adorable.
      You too, take care of yourself, take care of your mental health 💚
      Just an INFJ French girl
      Remember : We are all différents ^^ 💚

    • @user-jp1zr1qw7j
      @user-jp1zr1qw7j 3 года назад +2

      most of the time I don’t even know why I’m scared . I can’t even sleep at night without being fearful . I suddenly jump out of bed after an hour of sleeping in the middle of the night ,afraid but for no apparent reason it’s frustrating

    • @KeiraA333
      @KeiraA333 3 года назад

      ~IM gonna make this hella short as the deets....yea no thats Trilogy~
      Essentially: I grew up (since preteen) with anxiety, NEVER KNOWING i had it. Being naturally inclined to intraspection + selfimprovement i created workarounds to "fix" how bad I was. Forcing myself thru idk how many scenarios I couldnt actually handle; suffering stubbornly w/ after-effects. Now? im in late 20s, had *too many* a horrid exp., + officially diagnosed. And I...rly want that good connection - but honestly terrified of the outcomes. I truely think, from all my endeavors, I gave myself AvPD X_X

    • @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes
      @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes 3 года назад

      @@user-jp1zr1qw7j The reason is n your unconscious.
      Maybe anxiety, maybe cause events in the past, maybe worry about futur.. Only you can know it. Have to work/search with yourself inside, maybe someone can help you, to bring out the cause. Or consult a health professional.

  • @lonewolfnergiganos4000
    @lonewolfnergiganos4000 3 года назад +35

    There's no doubt that most of us can highly relate to number seven.

    • @moonee2595
      @moonee2595 3 года назад +2

      I really want to but it’s just so hard so I end up backing out

  • @winterlove6191
    @winterlove6191 3 года назад +11

    As a person with anxiety and highly sensitive, I wish my friends and family would understand how I'm trying to overcome This makes me to be alone so that I won't hurt anyone or get hurt

    • @Kavya_69143
      @Kavya_69143 Год назад

      Omg be strong! I believe in you :)
      Btw you ok now?

  • @kurisuchiinu1206
    @kurisuchiinu1206 3 года назад +4

    Exactly! I've been misunderstood all my life whenever I do these things. They just think I'm rude, unsociable and whatever name-calling they could think of. Also, I always have to think of a way out whenever there's a teambuilding or something. So when they ask me why I can't be there, I can't answer them honestly.

  • @bangtantextchaos5501
    @bangtantextchaos5501 3 года назад +41

    Well thanks to this video I'm assured that I'm socially anxious
    Oh by the way
    Introvert squad
    Comments
    Let's connect together

  • @vAqeii
    @vAqeii 3 года назад +38

    Sign 1: They avoid talking to other players in Minecraft

    • @0ceanicify
      @0ceanicify 3 года назад +2

      They might judge me.

    • @BedrockIsGone
      @BedrockIsGone 3 года назад

      I talk to people on servers lol

  • @Fr0Sty_P0i20N
    @Fr0Sty_P0i20N 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for helping me figuring this out i really appreciate you and your channel for bringing mental awareness to everyone out there

  • @kiss5415
    @kiss5415 3 года назад +8

    Really needed this!!

  • @Greenpoloboy3
    @Greenpoloboy3 3 года назад +9

    I try to be nice to everyone, even strangers. I let people be rude to me and won't usually say anything back. I like hidding away. Sometimes when I talk to someone, even those younger than me, I feel I can't look into their eyes as I feel inferior. I will try some of the times, but then look away when I talk or look down

  • @jingsuncle
    @jingsuncle 3 года назад +1

    I'm already diagnosed idk why do I keep watching these-
    this channel is like a safe place I love it

  • @ViltzkuH
    @ViltzkuH 3 года назад +2

    Thank you for this video!

  • @skf9-gse
    @skf9-gse 3 года назад +13

    This helped me a lot. I was kind of struggling to tell the difference

  • @ChongyunNScaralvrs
    @ChongyunNScaralvrs 3 года назад +3

    I really love this channel. You help me going through my hard times and make me believe that im not faking everything, well my family thinks im faking everything cause im just a "kid"

  • @palakmatlotia1381
    @palakmatlotia1381 3 года назад

    I loved thst you showed the concept of 'a silent voice' to make us more clear about social anxiety

  • @wooekkd5982
    @wooekkd5982 3 года назад

    I'm so happy and grateful to stumble upon this channel! You've helped me so much!! Thank you. ♥♥🤗

  • @LordisLove367
    @LordisLove367 3 года назад +29

    Not everyone is a social butterfly but everyone should let kindness prevail 😸

  • @belladang26
    @belladang26 3 года назад +8

    i have bad social anxiety, my dad keeps telling me to just stop being scared, LIKE HOW?!?

    • @RayLukard78
      @RayLukard78 3 года назад +1

      I Get the same response... " Don't be scared..." Gee I never thought of that 😭 It's not like I can switch it off.

    • @rioscordoba606
      @rioscordoba606 3 года назад

      Yeah, like wtf.
      I hated bumper sticker advice like that, if you wanna give advice give a step by step plan instead.

    • @pikachu0181
      @pikachu0181 3 года назад +1

      That what my parent and my sister said that to me too because they dont understand how difficult is it

  • @sereneshen6576
    @sereneshen6576 3 года назад +2

    Really glad that I found this channel and know that there are alot of people with this issue just like me (I'm not alone 😌).
    People with social anxiety are often being mistaken as being rude, sometimes even family members don't understand that.
    Luckily i've outgrown this issue bit by bit (As it takes time).

  • @mariomaster101official
    @mariomaster101official 3 года назад +2

    Thanks for this

  • @belle7691
    @belle7691 3 года назад +4

    omg the references to A Silent Voice 😩

  • @bossbeyoutiful3669
    @bossbeyoutiful3669 3 года назад +9

    Damn, This is what I’m exactly going through for the last months. I don’t go out, don’t date, I don’t even want to wear my contacts sometimes cause I don’t want to see or avoid people when I have to run errands 😳

    • @oliviajones5114
      @oliviajones5114 3 года назад +1

      Hi, try microdosing.
      I’ve microdosed mushrooms for about 3 years now and i have been worrying less. I’d recommend it for everyone, look up psilo_shrooms on Instagram.Their product helped me fight anxiety and depression. You can thank me later...

  • @alvxriz9260
    @alvxriz9260 3 года назад +1

    THE SILENT VOICE REFERENCE. OMG ILYSM

  • @VioletxSkies
    @VioletxSkies 3 года назад

    This explains so much, ill be talking to my therapist tommorow so I might bring this up

  • @zoto4064
    @zoto4064 3 года назад +5

    SILENT VOICE, that anime was so good

  • @sunelope9979
    @sunelope9979 3 года назад +4

    Once again, love the Genshin animations, that kazuha was so cute
    - a Kazuha main

    • @derby_bean1861
      @derby_bean1861 3 года назад +2

      Lol, as a kazuha main myself, agreed.

  • @mileydoughnut4244
    @mileydoughnut4244 3 года назад

    I love that you put a silent voice in there😊

  • @hadihambali1627
    @hadihambali1627 3 года назад +2

    A Silent Voice reference!Nice one.😊

  • @therestingrancor8259
    @therestingrancor8259 3 года назад +5

    A lot of these points resonate with me. Not because of social anxiety, but because I just don't like people, humans in general. I'm misanthropic.
    Can you do a video on being misanthropic??

  • @bitchimacow9764
    @bitchimacow9764 3 года назад +14

    Can social anxiety come and go? I personally know that I would've related to everything explained in the video if I watched it a while ago. I'm a lot better now. I've never consulted a professional btw. I was also in a whole new country and environment when I felt like I had bad social anxiety. Now I feel more adjusted and comfortable!

  • @_opheliaa
    @_opheliaa 3 года назад +1

    AYO IM HERE EARLY!! i like these videos these calm me down

  • @idontknowwhattoputmyuserna8289
    @idontknowwhattoputmyuserna8289 3 года назад

    I thought it was just me! It's such a good & relieving feeling knowing that other's go through the same things you do. That's partly what I love about the internet... Knowing that people out there are just like you.

  • @chaossage8852
    @chaossage8852 3 года назад +3

    Man, this social anxiety disorder gets the best of me every time, and it's infuriating I can't overcome it

  • @vampizou
    @vampizou 3 года назад +17

    ive had anxiety for a while now, about 2-3-4 years, but my mother just thinks im rude but i suspect i have social anxiety amd have for a long time, however she wont believe me

    • @taliarose2593
      @taliarose2593 3 года назад +3

      I relate 100% I have severe anxiety with my mom knows abt but I’m rlly bad with ppl. I always come out rude and stuck up but that’s not it it’s just nerves and my social issues...

    • @oliviajones5114
      @oliviajones5114 3 года назад

      I’ve microdosed mushrooms for about 3 years now and i have been worrying less. I’d recommend it for everyone, look up psilo_shrooms on Instagram. Their product helped me fight anxiety and depression and I can't tell you how greatly relieved i am. You can try it and thank me later...

  • @wr3504
    @wr3504 3 года назад

    Ladies voice is so comforting!!

  • @cutemermaidaqua
    @cutemermaidaqua 3 года назад

    THANK YOUUUU FOR THIS VIDEOOO

  • @curious_puspin_cat
    @curious_puspin_cat Год назад +3

    The comments makes me feel less lonely... Im not alone in this world. Im not the only one who is frequently misunderstood because of my social anxiety.

  • @socksx
    @socksx 3 года назад +5

    How many references do you want? Psych2Go: Y e s.

  • @SaikiKFann
    @SaikiKFann 3 года назад +1

    A SILENT VOICE EASTER EGG Tthat made me so happy ima sub rn

  • @genzmiko1
    @genzmiko1 Год назад

    I have social anxiety and I relate to these so much… thank you

  • @cillabean7653
    @cillabean7653 3 года назад +5

    I'm 15 and since I was 11 I've noticed possible symptoms of generalized anxiety/social anxiety. So I have a few questions that I want your guys' opinion on, am I being dramatic/is it something else/is it a symptom of social anxiety?
    Food-related story! (This happened recently)
    Recently I went to visit my Dad. I had to fly in and stay with my step grandma since his flight was canceled and they had to book a flight a day later (my dad was moving back from being overseas). Therefore, it was me and my older sister with our step-grandma at home alone for a whole day.
    I didn't eat or drink a single thing that day because I felt like it was dooming to ask for anything. I didn't eat breakfast, lunch, or drank anything that day until my step grandma offered to take us to a restaurant for dinner. I stayed upstairs all day on my phone, and that was that. My stomach hurt like a bull load of crap, I could have thrown up because I was so hungry (but I have emetophobia so I made sure not to do that lol).
    Party-related story!
    This happened around 2 months ago. It was my best friend's birthday party and he had this cool game truck. Everyone was inside of the game truck, playing on the PS4's in there, having a fun time. I was too, but I was getting overwhelmed with the amount of people there were and how I barely knew even half of them, and decided to make an excuse to leave. Luckily my other best friend wanted to as well, so we decided to take a walk around the neighborhood.
    Small examples!
    Knocking on my parent's door when it's closed is a no-go for me. One time I accidentally cut my finger with a knife and needed some bandages, so I went to ask them, but their door was closed. Why couldn't I knock? I got no clue but I was scared out of my wits if I knocked, so until they opened that door, I sat in the dining room with a bleeding thumb lmfao. Needless to say they were pissed I didn't say anything.
    Calling people is a no. Face time/House party/zoom/etc. is a no. I get choked up and my eyes started watering, I can only text. And if I don't feel like texting, sorry to say this, but I get hella dry. And this happens often.
    This story happened just tonight. Going over to my stepdad's friends house tomorrow and my mom was baking a cheesecake. Told me to watch the timer and do something to the cheesecake, then set another timer. Simple right?
    Well that whole thing got messed up, the timer never set correctly, and so we weren't sure if it was cooked right. Nonetheless my Mom was pissed and I freaked out so bad that I started to cry and mind you, I hate crying cause it hurts my eyes 💀 so I avoid doing that often. My mom ended up apologizing for snapping and I apologized for not noticing, but anyways, that all happened.
    I'm worried some of these were symptoms of social anxiety, much more has happened as of these past couple of years, but that's just a snippet of what has happened these past couple of weeks/months. I feel like it's nothing, but I also get very agitated if I just brush it off as nothing.
    Could anyone here please tell me what they think this is?
    Sorry if this was a lot, this was kinda my way of venting out my concerns ig lol.

    • @Kavya_69143
      @Kavya_69143 Год назад +1

      Dude it's been a year no one answered ya- I feel so bad for ya rn :(
      Anyways in my opinion I kinda think it's social anxiety in some cases.

  • @HiImUnderYourBed
    @HiImUnderYourBed 3 года назад +7

    Why can’t people at my school understand that as an introvert, I have also social anxiety. (Not saying that all introverts do). But sometimes I don’t, until they reach me to talk to me. And when I tell them that I’m an introvert, they say, ah ok. Then usually leave. Or other times, they tell me “But you *can’t* live without socializing.” Pffft. Says an extrovert. 😒 (No offense). Ofc I can live without socializing. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t want friends. But people usually stop talking to me because I don’t talk to them. I pretty much need to be invited, not auto-invite myself, into their group. And it’s not because of my introversion here, but my social anxiety.

  • @wEi-tt6vf
    @wEi-tt6vf 2 года назад

    0:33 awe the silent voice reference ! also the video was really helpful :)

  • @LitFitEng
    @LitFitEng 3 года назад

    Yo Amanda I love your voice I could listen to it endlessly

  • @snowdrop6046
    @snowdrop6046 3 года назад +4

    Is it sad that I relate to this a lot more than what I like to admit

  • @bubba6498
    @bubba6498 3 года назад +9

    This video was made for me 😀
    (and others suffering too obviously)

  • @cookiemanga641
    @cookiemanga641 3 года назад +1

    Thank you I hope my family will understand in the future.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +1

      Do you plan to share this video with your family?

  • @abhirai6124
    @abhirai6124 3 года назад

    Love this. Very creative and helpful. Thanks from India . 🌄

  • @hele4299
    @hele4299 3 года назад +5

    I am SO aware of my rude behavior. I cry myself to sleep because of the intense feeling of guilt and regret. I know what's right and what's wrong, but I can't seem to apply it to my life ??

  • @jess-jjjj
    @jess-jjjj 3 года назад +3

    0:51 reminds me of a scene in the anime silent voice

  • @idkimgy9840
    @idkimgy9840 3 года назад

    i love this channel so much, tysm! you are motivating me, comforting me and at the same time being friendly to me, your animations are getting more adorable, aesthetic and awesome!^^ keep it up, tysm for helping other people who don't understand their self.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад

      I'm so glad! Thank you so much for the encouragement :)

  • @rachelyong1853
    @rachelyong1853 3 года назад

    I've had these sign before myself where my social life was down but I eventually got over it thanks for helping me clarify that it is anxiety not rudeness

  • @LucaFox00
    @LucaFox00 3 года назад +3

    If my parents invite some guests over for lunch or dinner, I always eat somewhere else.
    The reason is because I don't want to get involved in small-talk I don't want to have right now and I'm chewing a bit louder than other people and I don't want to irritate them ^^

  • @prettystupid3509
    @prettystupid3509 3 года назад +8

    3:38 didn't expect to see Kazuha lmao

    • @ww3930
      @ww3930 3 года назад +1

      SAME, i was looking on the comments waiting for someone to mention it

  • @gaurijain1365
    @gaurijain1365 3 года назад

    damn this makes me understand some of my friends better, also the reference to a silent voice in starting was just so cool

  • @caitlin_mccoll
    @caitlin_mccoll 3 года назад

    Love Aury's animation style!!! ☺😊❤

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад +1

      Thank you so much :) Would you like to see more of this animation?

    • @caitlin_mccoll
      @caitlin_mccoll 3 года назад

      @@Psych2go yes!😀 (Though they are all great too😊)

  • @tristarrr333
    @tristarrr333 3 года назад +5

    Ah, koe no katachi;-;

  • @sango6550
    @sango6550 3 года назад +1

    the silent voice ref and kazuha brightened my mood by a TON

  • @august2dee35
    @august2dee35 2 года назад +1

    This exactly sounds like me...and it feels better to know somebody knows and understands it exactly as it is.

  • @1nt3lligence66
    @1nt3lligence66 3 года назад

    Ur actually helping my situation in life, Thank you so much ❤️

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  3 года назад

      Glad to help. Do any of these points describe you?

    • @1nt3lligence66
      @1nt3lligence66 3 года назад

      @@Psych2go Most of them like Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and being mad at small things

  • @elmacho0982
    @elmacho0982 3 года назад +1

    these videos make me feel better about myself, as i struggle with these problems (but i dont want to say that i have social anxiety disorder, as its so serious sounding)

  • @baderksa9950
    @baderksa9950 3 года назад

    OMG! Thank you for this video 😭😭
    I am crying right now because people think that I am rude, and they don’t understand that I am suffering from social anxiety.

  • @MuddyPuppy26
    @MuddyPuppy26 3 года назад

    I just found this channel, and have only seen this and the burnout video, but relate to both too much and now I'm genuinely worried about myself.

  • @dinacle1513
    @dinacle1513 3 года назад +2

    My mom keeps telling me i need to socialize more, and that i’m not social enough. But i really want to be social and be myself in every single situation, but then when it comes to the point I’m actually in front of a stranger, i freak out and i just shut down... I’m currently learning to becoming an hairdresser and that takes real social skills, and i really enjoy doing peoples hair, but i don’t want to continue because i’m just not social enough. I do have every symptom of social anxiety and body dysmorphia, so I constantly feel like people judge me on my looks and my quietness. With close friends, i’m really social and interactive, but once i’m going out, it just shuts down. And i really want to work on this, but i’m too anxious to go to the psychiatrist. Its weird because i was a very extroverted child, but i think i started to dislike myself since one of my family members told my mom i gained weigh, while i was sitting next to her. And some teacher calling me a one eyed troll one time for having an fringe... I also normally don’t comment stuff like this, so sorry to bother you! Thanks for reading! ^^

  • @ameliesweeney3475
    @ameliesweeney3475 3 года назад

    I love the a silent voice reference! I relate to a lot of these 😅

  • @moved4567
    @moved4567 3 года назад

    5:42 omg it's Shōya from "a silent voice"! I love how you sometimes make references to things like animes, games, RUclipsrs etc.

  • @simple8679
    @simple8679 2 года назад

    I have this anxiety, ty for this information

  • @bambidollest
    @bambidollest 3 года назад

    this is honestly me especially the eye contact and the getting mad over little mistakes and having outburst and replaying it in my head