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"My growth doesn't have to be visible to others. And that's okay." I had to pause the video and write that one down in my journal. This video came at the perfect time for me.
This is something we all struggle with, I believe. But it is so important to learn this. "My growth doesn't have to be visible to others. And that's okay." :)
@Sarah, Refined...yes... Growth, like prayer-meditation-thinking is meant to be private, for self. When prayer-meditation-thinking is only public it can become like a cult, for other. Then, when in balance, share Self with Other.
Essentialism is not about how to get more things done; it’s about how to get the right things done. It doesn’t mean just doing less for the sake of less either. It is about making the wisest possible investment of your time and energy in order to operate at our highest point of contribution by doing only what is essential.
If you haven't noticed, there's been a thread of my personal growth in my videos for the past couple years on self worth, success, and healing. Someone commented saying that because of my financial freedom now, my values have shifted and I can afford to do less. She said: "Those who are still struggling, like me, to be financially free - have to grind still. I know you were grinding for a long time, and that is why you are able to slow down now - which is fantastic and I'm so happy for you. I just feel that if we don't work hard in the beginning we won't have that opportunity to do less." Here's my answer: This video isn't about not working hard, it's about choosing to work on the RIGHT things for the RIGHT reasons. And not trying to do everything. We all have to work hard at building our dream life. The problem was, I realized that I was "grinding" for the wrong reasons. I had tied my self worth with my success/productivity. I was trying to prove my worth to my parents & peers. Once I achieved financial freedom & abundance, I still found myself stressing & putting an immense pressure on myself to do so much, saying yes to projects and overcommitting myself even if I didn't need the money. Why was I putting myself through this? Even with enough money and a job I loved, I still found myself feeling low & insecure when a new video didn't get as many views. Something in me needed these numbers to prove my worth, like I was invalidated if these numbers weren't growing. It wasn't about the money; because it was all tied to my self worth, I was making myself suffer when I really didn't have to. I'm learning to let go of that now. It's about learning not to hustle for hustle's sake, but to truly work on things that you're excited to do, for the right reasons. You define what "success" and "productive" looks like to you - and it shouldn't matter what others think or if others even SEE your journey. It's not about proving yourself to others. It's about living a life that YOU are proud of. 💕
I have a bullet journal which is a gift of my boyfriend..I love it because thanks to it I have learned to give importance to do pilates at home (before this period I lived a bad moment because I was fired as trainee in a company near my hometown by the chief..He said to me that I wasn't good at unpacking some things or being cashier..before hiring me, he didn't specify to me that I had to do the cashier but he only said that he needed a person that spoke German and kept in touch with foreign clients.. so his attitude was characterised by dishonesty).. thanks to the quarantine, I learned how important is to take care of beloved people (staying at home) and being productive creating contents on my Instagram page❤.. before having this bullet journal, my mistakes were doing a lot of things in less time and understimating the importance of what I have done in my days because I wanted to do more and more..fortunately my boyfriend has helped me to improve myself and avoid being so critical with myself day by day.. your videos are always amazing 💙💙💚
As an overachiever, I used to associate my productivity and work as part of my identity. Therefore, if I'm not producing, I felt like nothing or had no value. So problematic!! We are so much more than our work. Still getting away from this mindset. Thanks Aileen! 💙
Your videos are so radiant and clear! I created a channel ALL about this: anti-productivity, anti-hustling, doing less. I moved to a small French village after living a fast, ambitious in NYC and over the last 2 years I've been studying and practicing these exact concepts! and have found more joy, fulfillment and peace with less. Thank you for sharing this message - it needs to be out in the world right now
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“Freedom is the power of doing less” yes Aileen!!!! I notice that I get stressed and aggravated when I start doing wayyy to much. Simplicity is the way to go. Thank you for always being encouraging ❤️
Being in quarantine has often made me feel a rollercoaster of emotions. And on days when I couldn't do anything "productive", I compared myself to others and felt miserable. But thank you for this video. Sometimes prioritizing to "do less" is essential for both physical and mental health.
I’ve been watching a lot of Lavendaire’s videos recently as I’m starting to transition into the adult stage of my life, figuring out who I am, my goals and dreams, etc. And I am SO appreciative to this channel. Not to say everything is figured out but when I feel lost, this channel helps me find my way again and I am so thankful for all the wonderful advice I’ve gotten from this channel ❤️
The biggest thing I’m working on right now is eliminating non-essential things from my routines and work flows. I have been studying essentialism lately and really trying to implement these tactics in my life. Really important stuff. 🌿
I love how your video shift my energy so fast. Only from watching one video, I went from feeling sad and powerless to nothing is impossible! 💕 thank you 😘
I don’t know how many people can relate to this but the biggest problem I’ve faced when it comes to work (school work mainly) has been HOW to take it all on. I get so scared of drowning in my work because I’m the type of person to focus too much on little pointless stuff, I end up not doing anything at all. It’s this sad cycle of zero productivity and stress. I think essentialism can be good for me, I think it’s time I try to practice it :)
Yess!! Simplify and prioritize!! Busy is not always productive and being payed more doesn’t guarantee happiness. In order to decide what matters and what’s important to you, you have to turn inward. Find what makes you happy and what brings you joy. From a self love content creator to another- great video Aileen! This is such an important topic! 💗
This video came out at such an important time in my life and I'm sure others as well. There's so much I want to accomplish, but my focus is all over the place. Like you mentioned, it's focusing on the things that matter the most. Thank you!
Exactly what everyone needs... Including me. I have a bad habit of comparing myself and fearing failure.. Especially when I'm locked out school and I need to have high self-discipline. Thanks Aileen!
As a person who can't multitasking, I totally agree with this :) I want to achieve more but my head goes wild everytime I do multitasking. Now I try to prioritize and focus on the tasks little by little rather than doing a lot and get overwhelmed :D
This is what I have been trying to do recently. I have many projects that I started but I only feel excited to do them in the beginning. Then, I lose interest right away. Now, I am focusing on one or two projects at a time.
I’m so glad you posted this during Ramadan, because I as well as other Muslims have noticed that we are more productive during this month of fasting. Our energy is lower, but because of that we’re more focused on what needs to be done rather than jumping from thing to thing or place to place. I feel much more deliberate with every move. I’m not recommending for anyone to fast every day, but it’s definitely taught me a lot abou essentialism.
in this qarantine time i realized 90% of my stress and emotional breaks was because of my toxic friends and people i was connected to , you made me realize how to overcome stress and be more productive , thank you
The timing of this video is perfect. Thank you Aileen ! I'm 20 and when you're young, you feel you have so much to proove, while in the end, whatever your age is, this most important is to do things you love and are meaningful to you, which make you fulfilled. Thanks for this video, sharing your thoughts is always really helpful 💕 A french Lavendarian :P
This is exactly the video that I needed today. Sometimes to just pause and reflect on what truly matters to me, to what is essential for me, and then adjust my goals to achieve what is only really essential. A couple of days ago I was stressed because of the big deadlines for school that I had, but now that my holiday finally started, I still couldn't feel relaxed because of me thinking that I'm not productive enough, which still made me felt stressed. So it's really not about productivity, but about doing the things that makes you happy.
Having my morning time and working on my journaling and to do list when this popped up. Thank you! It’s easy to fill a list of to do and never feel like it’s enough. This was the perfect reminder to take a step back and reflect that less is more. 💕🌻
I love your videos! I am a 17 year old girl living in Germany so English is not my native language but I manage to understand everything you say! The way you talk so calm and explain things so beautiful and understanding helps me a lot. Its a huge compliment because not many English RUclipsr ( actually I found no one but u) manages to explain something in such a good way so that even non- native speakers understand it!
I currently struggle with a nest of endless things to do and a swirl of infinite things I want to do. This video is really engaging and empowering. Perhaps I can find peace to understand what I truly want to do because of your video.
@@lavendaire Ahahhaa, I'm so happy you replied/liked! Btw, I started journaling the prompts you suggested yesterday. It helped a lot. Also, I think the reason you got me motivated is because I felt like the person I could be when watching your video ;)
I found this video exactly when I needed it. currently I am listening to your podcasts, I started last week with the first one and I keep on going. Thank you for the inspiration and that you are making us improve our lives. We are so caught up in our daily routines and procrastinate and we forget to live the moment and enjoy what we have or improve our journey through life. 💜
Love this video sooo much! A few years ago, I completely had the girl boss/hustle mindset and while that’s good sometimes, it put me in an awful state to think that way constantly. I’ve slowly been working towards doing less and focusing on my passions. Thank you for this video!
You know what...... you are peace ❤ I have no idea how many times I have watched your videos during this pandemic situation. It helped me clear my thoughts, being positive and increased my willpower to withstand the pressure. Taking inspiration from you I've started my gratitude journal. Thank you so much. Love from India 🤗🤗
wow i did not think this video was going to hit me so much. i stopped at the middle and started feeling anxious, because everything you said resonated with ME. I told myself that this weekend is all about doing this I love, which is self-development. Learning and putting it into practice. SOMEHOW I STILL GET STRESSED about working on my passions because I try to do SO MUCH in only one day. When I did the list of everything I want to learn and do, it is quite a lot..... It should not feel like this so... My mind shifted. I circled the things for today, saturday!!!! and left other things for tomorrow. It hit how anxious I got watching and pausing the video to think of answers. It did not feel like a video of you talking about you, it felt like you were talking about me. Moreover, I just recently got a smart watch so I did a funny thing and I checked my heart rate, which was HIGHER while I was thinking about this! crazy, isn't? thank you so much for your content x
I really, really love the aesthetic. Just looking at your videos just calms me. This is so helpful for me, I actually think I am the only that puts so much pressure on me that it actually results to breakdown.
Last 2 weeks I was very overwhelmed and today I got mail about this film... this is exactly what I needed 😢 thank you for this. You are doing amazing work. Good luck everyone who try to improve their lives 🥰 share love nad light 💛
I'm in med school because of family but I'm still trying to do stuff that I want to do so that when I'm done, I can go into that immediately... but because of med school, I barely have time for them... this video really hit me hard
Oh my God, your videos are great. I loved it very much, especially because you put the translation in Arabic. This attracted me to watch it because I do not understand English. I use translation only as I do now. Also, the important thing is I liked your videos.💜💜
This is so good! Paused this to journal . My health is top priority- want to feel better and more well in mind and body . Everything else comes after this.
This is by far, my most favorite video of yours because it speaks directly to me. I've been feeling anxious and overwhelmed because I have too much on my plate and too little time. I feel like I'm relentless rushing through things and chasing time. Feeling exhausted to be honest. And whenever I don't get all my to-do's done for the day, I would feel so guilty. Thank you so much for this video. It's like a sign from the universe to ask me to slow down, reevaluate what's most important to me and focus on that one thing.
Ohhh miss Aileen you make me always calm and peaceful and able to look forward what I am doing next in my life. Such a great time to expend myself in your videos it is totally impacts my personality progress . Then because of this video I learn new stuff that "LESS IS MORE AND JUST FOCUS ON ESSENTIAL THINGS". THANKS MISS AILEEN😊
I’m saying many yes every time don’t know why it’s just comes out This video is for me just what I wanted and no one would tell me small thing means a lot that people don’t realise it It’s so hard to know what my goals are 🤔 everyday thinking 🤔 about it 🙏 Thank You 🙏
This video has come at the right time. I have been struggling so much recently, trying to do so much and feeling guilty if I don't check all the items off of my to-do list. An aha-moment was its not material things that we want, it is ultimately about the feelings. Whoa! This was an amazing point. ♥
Love love love this video! Thanks so much for your growth and sharing. You are working so hard and it shows and it matters. Love your encouragement and your warmth. Thank you. Love love love!!
I felt like I was doing a million things but not getting the important stuff done so I watched your older video on simplifying and prioritizing from the back to basics series. It felt like just the thing I needed to see and afterwards, I opened my ma il and saw you sent this video. I take it as a sign that this is just what I need to do (not that I had doubts, but it's just been reinforced that this is the right solution)! :)
Hi Aileen! ❤️ I’ve been following you in youtube just recently. And it was the time I decided for some self care and self growth. I am really glad I got that chance to learn from you. Anyways, I just want to tell you how grateful I am. You have helped me to slowly shape my life. Thank you and God bless! You inspire us to love ourselves and do great in life 🌱
This video truly spoke to me! I gained so much out of it. Thank you!! I've been following you for years, and I watch everything you upload on RUclips and listen to all your podcasts. And I am a big fan of your Workbook and Daily Planner as well
At first..imma saying sorry for bad english I always do so many things in same time.it's always shows failure.I was finding someone who can inspire me..bt I didn't found..if I found anyone bt it doesn't match my prblms.. Now I found you...I checked your vid and listen girl..you really inspire me so well I can't tolerate my emotion T~T
I love your videos because they always come out at the right time/just when I needed them. The way you explain and give advice is just so concised and resonates with me a lot! You’re my role model Aileen!
Thank you Aileen. I've been watching your content for years, and this video, with the pauses and me journaling side by side, has been the most helpful to date for me. Even though I do these exercises all the time, your wording was fantastic and helped me clarify on some things.
It seems that many of your followers are under the age of 40 and just getting started. I am 64. I just retired and I follow you because as newly retired, I am now in a position to reinvent myself without reference to others expectations. My income is limited now but comfortable. So, that is the least of my concerns...for the time being. That all said, thank you for continuing to share your insights and I hope that your younger followers will really take what you have shared and make it work for them. I wish you had been around when I was in my 20's and up. Now, more than ever, we need to be clear about what we want our lives to be like moving forward. A new decade started and it has not gone according to plan, right? Your videos and pod-casts have been tremendously helpful in guiding my new personal growth and mindset. Thank you. LOL - one is never too old to change and become better. Cheers
I can totally relate. It’s been really stressful. It’s learning to let go of what we’ve been conditioned to do. Going against the grain doesn’t feel natural at first. I like that “less but better”. I’ve had such a weird relationship with time and totally resonate with overloading my to-do list and underestimating how long it will take me to complete them.
I’ve read a christian book about this: Reset, by Kevin DeYoung. Many of your words are similar to his thoughts. The art of saying no is something that he alsos talk about and I’m really trying to work hard on improving this because I’m pretty good on saying yes to every new activity. Less but better! Thanks for this video
I love the shots in this video. They are really inspiring to watch (also the girl in yellow from your boundaries video made me smile) I started plannig my day according to your daily planner and prioritize three tasks every day. This has been such a game changer for me. I now feel much more productive and organized plus less stressed. Sending you a lot of love
Aileen! I've been getting super into self-growth videos and podcasts lately and your videos are on heavy rotation! this video kind of sums up the shift I'm currently working through. my biggest issue is the disconnect between my ideal day to day and balancing some "obstacles" that have arisen in the pandemic (my business shutting down, needing to find alternative income). i know a lot of this can be remedied with a shift in perspective but i'm still working thru implementing it and trusting the universe to provide. anyways, your videos always make me feel a little more clearheaded, thank you!
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"My growth doesn't have to be visible to others. And that's okay."
I had to pause the video and write that one down in my journal. This video came at the perfect time for me.
a deep lesson i've learned & still learning 💕 my growth is personal and I have nothing to prove
Right!! So good
I made it the screen saver on my phone
This is something we all struggle with, I believe. But it is so important to learn this. "My growth doesn't have to be visible to others. And that's okay." :)
@Sarah, Refined...yes...
Growth, like prayer-meditation-thinking is meant to be private, for self.
When prayer-meditation-thinking is only public it can become like a cult, for other.
Then, when in balance, share Self with Other.
Essentialism is not about how to get more things done; it’s about how to get the right things done. It doesn’t mean just doing less for the sake of less either. It is about making the wisest possible investment of your time and energy in order to operate at our highest point of contribution by doing only what is essential.
yes! you got it :)
@@lavendaire It's all because of you babe! 😍☺
Oh my god, yes!! :)
😀😁
If you haven't noticed, there's been a thread of my personal growth in my videos for the past couple years on self worth, success, and healing.
Someone commented saying that because of my financial freedom now, my values have shifted and I can afford to do less. She said: "Those who are still struggling, like me, to be financially free - have to grind still. I know you were grinding for a long time, and that is why you are able to slow down now - which is fantastic and I'm so happy for you. I just feel that if we don't work hard in the beginning we won't have that opportunity to do less."
Here's my answer:
This video isn't about not working hard, it's about choosing to work on the RIGHT things for the RIGHT reasons. And not trying to do everything. We all have to work hard at building our dream life. The problem was, I realized that I was "grinding" for the wrong reasons. I had tied my self worth with my success/productivity. I was trying to prove my worth to my parents & peers. Once I achieved financial freedom & abundance, I still found myself stressing & putting an immense pressure on myself to do so much, saying yes to projects and overcommitting myself even if I didn't need the money. Why was I putting myself through this? Even with enough money and a job I loved, I still found myself feeling low & insecure when a new video didn't get as many views. Something in me needed these numbers to prove my worth, like I was invalidated if these numbers weren't growing. It wasn't about the money; because it was all tied to my self worth, I was making myself suffer when I really didn't have to. I'm learning to let go of that now.
It's about learning not to hustle for hustle's sake, but to truly work on things that you're excited to do, for the right reasons. You define what "success" and "productive" looks like to you - and it shouldn't matter what others think or if others even SEE your journey. It's not about proving yourself to others. It's about living a life that YOU are proud of. 💕
I have a bullet journal which is a gift of my boyfriend..I love it because thanks to it I have learned to give importance to do pilates at home (before this period I lived a bad moment because I was fired as trainee in a company near my hometown by the chief..He said to me that I wasn't good at unpacking some things or being cashier..before hiring me, he didn't specify to me that I had to do the cashier but he only said that he needed a person that spoke German and kept in touch with foreign clients.. so his attitude was characterised by dishonesty).. thanks to the quarantine, I learned how important is to take care of beloved people (staying at home) and being productive creating contents on my Instagram page❤.. before having this bullet journal, my mistakes were doing a lot of things in less time and understimating the importance of what I have done in my days because I wanted to do more and more..fortunately my boyfriend has helped me to improve myself and avoid being so critical with myself day by day..
your videos are always amazing 💙💙💚
The reason why I subscribed you❄️
I really needed to read this, I'm glad i did.
Doing the right things for the right reasons.
That's the best advice ever.
Thank you ♡
All has been said and done Aileen! 👏🏻🙌🏻
I love you, Aileen. Thank you for helping many of us in our journeys in life.
The majority of distress is self inflicted, because we live in expectations instead of valuing the present moment.
so much truth in this
I literally was crying over my morning cup of coffee about this. You inspire me, thank you.
🥺 aw love you!
Feeling is Being. Stay stong stay You
You're my type, kiddo❤❤❤
As an overachiever, I used to associate my productivity and work as part of my identity. Therefore, if I'm not producing, I felt like nothing or had no value. So problematic!! We are so much more than our work. Still getting away from this mindset. Thanks Aileen! 💙
yes girl i feel you!! learning to heal & undo all that association myself as well 💖
Your videos are so radiant and clear! I created a channel ALL about this: anti-productivity, anti-hustling, doing less. I moved to a small French village after living a fast, ambitious in NYC and over the last 2 years I've been studying and practicing these exact concepts! and have found more joy, fulfillment and peace with less. Thank you for sharing this message - it needs to be out in the world right now
@@ChloeBxoxo oh wow! Thank you so much for your support Chloe! :)
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@@samahchaib949 Thank you for your support Samah :)
thank you love & wishing you the best with your channel!! sounds amazing
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OmG I love the brown hair! And I want that dress at the end lol
“Freedom is the power of doing less” yes Aileen!!!! I notice that I get stressed and aggravated when I start doing wayyy to much. Simplicity is the way to go. Thank you for always being encouraging ❤️
yesss simplicity wins 💖
Being in quarantine has often made me feel a rollercoaster of emotions. And on days when I couldn't do anything "productive", I compared myself to others and felt miserable. But thank you for this video. Sometimes prioritizing to "do less" is essential for both physical and mental health.
Sorry what you mean by rollercoaster 🎢 got confused
I’ve been watching a lot of Lavendaire’s videos recently as I’m starting to transition into the adult stage of my life, figuring out who I am, my goals and dreams, etc. And I am SO appreciative to this channel. Not to say everything is figured out but when I feel lost, this channel helps me find my way again and I am so thankful for all the wonderful advice I’ve gotten from this channel ❤️
The biggest thing I’m working on right now is eliminating non-essential things from my routines and work flows. I have been studying essentialism lately and really trying to implement these tactics in my life. Really important stuff. 🌿
it's an ongoing journey! 🙏
Hi, where did you find good resources to study about this? :) thank you
quarantine seems like a competition of productivity among my friends and I feel so pressured. This helped me thank you so much.
"you can do anything, but you can't do everything" is one of the best quotes I've ever heard. 💓
Her videos help me soo much fr🥺💕
I agree. She changed my entire perspective of life in the start of 2019! ✨
One of the most valuable lessons I learned lately is "but" is never a good thing, "but" will eventually leave you feeling unfulfilled
I need this one during quarantine!
the simple bean same😫
hope you're staying well & making the most of your time 💖
Lavendaire thanks so much for your reply! Your vids are helping a ton:)
I love how your video shift my energy so fast. Only from watching one video, I went from feeling sad and powerless to nothing is impossible! 💕 thank you 😘
When you said “you design your own life” you made me stop walking and think. It really changed my perspective. Thank you❤️
I don’t know how many people can relate to this but the biggest problem I’ve faced when it comes to work (school work mainly) has been HOW to take it all on. I get so scared of drowning in my work because I’m the type of person to focus too much on little pointless stuff, I end up not doing anything at all. It’s this sad cycle of zero productivity and stress. I think essentialism can be good for me, I think it’s time I try to practice it :)
Yess!! Simplify and prioritize!! Busy is not always productive and being payed more doesn’t guarantee happiness. In order to decide what matters and what’s important to you, you have to turn inward. Find what makes you happy and what brings you joy.
From a self love content creator to another- great video Aileen! This is such an important topic! 💗
I’m glad I am not the only on feeling this way. Feel overwhelmed now that I’m graduating soon and I do not know what to do.
what an exciting time ✨ don't stress, you're not alone. everything will be okay :) just take it one step at a time
This video came out at such an important time in my life and I'm sure others as well. There's so much I want to accomplish, but my focus is all over the place. Like you mentioned, it's focusing on the things that matter the most. Thank you!
Exactly what everyone needs... Including me. I have a bad habit of comparing myself and fearing failure.. Especially when I'm locked out school and I need to have high self-discipline. Thanks Aileen!
As a person who can't multitasking, I totally agree with this :) I want to achieve more but my head goes wild everytime I do multitasking. Now I try to prioritize and focus on the tasks little by little rather than doing a lot and get overwhelmed :D
This is what I have been trying to do recently. I have many projects that I started but I only feel excited to do them in the beginning. Then, I lose interest right away. Now, I am focusing on one or two projects at a time.
I've always felt like minimalism and essentialism are the same thing. And if not, they are similar and compliment each other well!
❤💕 *where focus goes energy flows* choose what's important to you 🤩 less but better! I love this 🌻
I needed this now 💜 Thank you for your deep and needed messages ! We love your content 😍
Who can relate ?
I’m so glad you posted this during Ramadan, because I as well as other Muslims have noticed that we are more productive during this month of fasting. Our energy is lower, but because of that we’re more focused on what needs to be done rather than jumping from thing to thing or place to place. I feel much more deliberate with every move. I’m not recommending for anyone to fast every day, but it’s definitely taught me a lot abou essentialism.
in this qarantine time i realized 90% of my stress and emotional breaks was because of my toxic friends and people i was connected to , you made me realize how to overcome stress and be more productive , thank you
The timing of this video is perfect. Thank you Aileen ! I'm 20 and when you're young, you feel you have so much to proove, while in the end, whatever your age is, this most important is to do things you love and are meaningful to you, which make you fulfilled. Thanks for this video, sharing your thoughts is always really helpful 💕
A french Lavendarian :P
2:30 hour glass is tricolour 🇮🇳🇮🇳😍😍
Anyways thank you very much for these tips
Finally I know what I am doing worng all these time
Be save love you ❤️
Who else is trying to be more productive during quarantine???
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This is exactly the video that I needed today. Sometimes to just pause and reflect on what truly matters to me, to what is essential for me, and then adjust my goals to achieve what is only really essential. A couple of days ago I was stressed because of the big deadlines for school that I had, but now that my holiday finally started, I still couldn't feel relaxed because of me thinking that I'm not productive enough, which still made me felt stressed. So it's really not about productivity, but about doing the things that makes you happy.
"Why do you have to wait for a future date to feel the way you want to feel?"
Watching this video over and over again because this is the sign that I needed, thank you for being so on point😭💞!
I'm so happy that I can start this morning with a boost of encouragement from your videos
Having my morning time and working on my journaling and to do list when this popped up. Thank you! It’s easy to fill a list of to do and never feel like it’s enough. This was the perfect reminder to take a step back and reflect that less is more. 💕🌻
I love your videos! I am a 17 year old girl living in Germany so English is not my native language but I manage to understand everything you say! The way you talk so calm and explain things so beautiful and understanding helps me a lot. Its a huge compliment because not many English RUclipsr ( actually I found no one but u) manages to explain something in such a good way so that even non- native speakers understand it!
The intro hits me so hard. During quarantine I really feel unproductive and unfocused.
it's okay, be gentle with yourself 💕 we're all dealing with this in our own ways
I currently struggle with a nest of endless things to do and a swirl of infinite things I want to do. This video is really engaging and empowering. Perhaps I can find peace to understand what I truly want to do because of your video.
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@@lavendaire Ahahhaa, I'm so happy you replied/liked! Btw, I started journaling the prompts you suggested yesterday. It helped a lot. Also, I think the reason you got me motivated is because I felt like the person I could be when watching your video ;)
Your videos are so motivational
Thank you so much ❤😍
I found this video exactly when I needed it. currently I am listening to your podcasts, I started last week with the first one and I keep on going. Thank you for the inspiration and that you are making us improve our lives. We are so caught up in our daily routines and procrastinate and we forget to live the moment and enjoy what we have or improve our journey through life. 💜
Thank you Aileen . You provide us with so much inspiration that I always thank the universe for you . Love and positive vibes sending your way.💛
Love this video sooo much! A few years ago, I completely had the girl boss/hustle mindset and while that’s good sometimes, it put me in an awful state to think that way constantly. I’ve slowly been working towards doing less and focusing on my passions. Thank you for this video!
You know what...... you are peace ❤
I have no idea how many times I have watched your videos during this pandemic situation. It helped me clear my thoughts, being positive and increased my willpower to withstand the pressure. Taking inspiration from you I've started my gratitude journal. Thank you so much. Love from India 🤗🤗
wow i did not think this video was going to hit me so much. i stopped at the middle and started feeling anxious, because everything you said resonated with ME.
I told myself that this weekend is all about doing this I love, which is self-development. Learning and putting it into practice. SOMEHOW I STILL GET STRESSED about working on my passions because I try to do SO MUCH in only one day.
When I did the list of everything I want to learn and do, it is quite a lot..... It should not feel like this so... My mind shifted. I circled the things for today, saturday!!!! and left other things for tomorrow.
It hit how anxious I got watching and pausing the video to think of answers. It did not feel like a video of you talking about you, it felt like you were talking about me.
Moreover, I just recently got a smart watch so I did a funny thing and I checked my heart rate, which was HIGHER while I was thinking about this! crazy, isn't?
thank you so much for your content x
I really, really love the aesthetic. Just looking at your videos just calms me.
This is so helpful for me, I actually think I am the only that puts so much pressure on me that it actually results to breakdown.
Last 2 weeks I was very overwhelmed and today I got mail about this film... this is exactly what I needed 😢 thank you for this. You are doing amazing work.
Good luck everyone who try to improve their lives 🥰 share love nad light 💛
I cannot tell you how much I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for an inspiring and insightful video!
Thank you for inspiring me everyday, every morning I watch your videos and journal along. Thank you for being part of my journey. 💛🌻
You are too good. You always inspire me THANK YOU SO MUCH
The aesthetic of her videos is simply beautiful 🌸 🥰 btw am I the only one who loved her pink trench coat ? 😍
Learning ang growing with Aileen for the last 3 years is amazing. Thank you so much 💙
I'm in med school because of family but I'm still trying to do stuff that I want to do so that when I'm done, I can go into that immediately... but because of med school, I barely have time for them... this video really hit me hard
Lavendaire, I am so appreciative to have come across your channel! Since then I have been loving playing your videos for inspiration 💓🙏
Oh my God, your videos are great. I loved it very much, especially because you put the translation in Arabic. This attracted me to watch it because I do not understand English. I use translation only as I do now. Also, the important thing is I liked your videos.💜💜
1:15 I accidentally paused it right here and laughed..😂
Awesome words. Health comes first, next comes other things.. only if health is good, we can enjoy all the things in life..
Yayyy I’m early thank you so much for this 💗 I needed it 🤍
This is so good! Paused this to journal . My health is top priority- want to feel better and more well in mind and body . Everything else comes after this.
That's fantastic Claire! Keep up the great work, and remember to celebrate the small victories along the way 💓
Why do your videos come on perfect timing?? Your an angel! 😇 Your my inspiration and support through tough times. Thank you !!
Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to reflect on my personal growth and for always doing everything with so much love!
This is by far, my most favorite video of yours because it speaks directly to me. I've been feeling anxious and overwhelmed because I have too much on my plate and too little time. I feel like I'm relentless rushing through things and chasing time. Feeling exhausted to be honest. And whenever I don't get all my to-do's done for the day, I would feel so guilty. Thank you so much for this video. It's like a sign from the universe to ask me to slow down, reevaluate what's most important to me and focus on that one thing.
Ohhh miss Aileen you make me always calm and peaceful and able to look forward what I am doing next in my life. Such a great time to expend myself in your videos it is totally impacts my personality progress . Then because of this video I learn new stuff that "LESS IS MORE AND JUST FOCUS ON ESSENTIAL THINGS". THANKS MISS AILEEN😊
Thank you so much!
Right now, that is exactly my problem.
Much love💚💚💚
I’m saying many yes every time don’t know why it’s just comes out
This video is for me just what I wanted and no one would tell me small thing means a lot that people don’t realise it
It’s so hard to know what my goals are 🤔 everyday thinking 🤔 about it
🙏 Thank You 🙏
You really Inspire me a lot, and Whenever I'm sad or insecure i watch your Videos and then i feel Better and motivated to Focus on my goals
This video has come at the right time. I have been struggling so much recently, trying to do so much and feeling guilty if I don't check all the items off of my to-do list.
An aha-moment was its not material things that we want, it is ultimately about the feelings. Whoa! This was an amazing point. ♥
Literally needed this
Love love love this video!
Thanks so much for your growth and sharing. You are working so hard and it shows and it matters. Love your encouragement and your warmth. Thank you. Love love love!!
your videos really help me reevaluate what matters in this one life we’ve got. thank you ♥️
I felt like I was doing a million things but not getting the important stuff done so I watched your older video on simplifying and prioritizing from the back to basics series. It felt like just the thing I needed to see and afterwards, I opened my ma il and saw you sent this video. I take it as a sign that this is just what I need to do (not that I had doubts, but it's just been reinforced that this is the right solution)! :)
Hi Aileen! ❤️
I’ve been following you in youtube just recently. And it was the time I decided for some self care and self growth. I am really glad I got that chance to learn from you. Anyways, I just want to tell you how grateful I am. You have helped me to slowly shape my life. Thank you and God bless! You inspire us to love ourselves and do great in life 🌱
this girl is so aesthetically pleasing💟
This is one of my favorite videos on Lavendaire ! Focus on the few essential things. The right things
Thanks for the video. It comes at the perfect time for me. I need it. Wish you health, happiness and peace every single day
I really like your videos. Just few minutes watching your videos could bring the optimism energy in me. Thank you for existing. 💜
Much love from Greece!!❤❤🌸🌷
She's so soothing 😇
This video truly spoke to me! I gained so much out of it. Thank you!! I've been following you for years, and I watch everything you upload on RUclips and listen to all your podcasts. And I am a big fan of your Workbook and Daily Planner as well
Thank you!!
At first..imma saying sorry for bad english
I always do so many things in same time.it's always shows failure.I was finding someone who can inspire me..bt I didn't found..if I found anyone bt it doesn't match my prblms..
Now I found you...I checked your vid and listen girl..you really inspire me so well
I can't tolerate my emotion T~T
This video has brought so much to light for me. Thank you Aileen. 💕
I love your videos because they always come out at the right time/just when I needed them. The way you explain and give advice is just so concised and resonates with me a lot! You’re my role model Aileen!
i appreciate you 💕 thank you!
Thank you Aileen. I've been watching your content for years, and this video, with the pauses and me journaling side by side, has been the most helpful to date for me. Even though I do these exercises all the time, your wording was fantastic and helped me clarify on some things.
happy you liked it 🙏🏼
It seems that many of your followers are under the age of 40 and just getting started. I am 64. I just retired and I follow you because as newly retired, I am now in a position to reinvent myself without reference to others expectations. My income is limited now but comfortable. So, that is the least of my concerns...for the time being. That all said, thank you for continuing to share your insights and I hope that your younger followers will really take what you have shared and make it work for them. I wish you had been around when I was in my 20's and up. Now, more than ever, we need to be clear about what we want our lives to be like moving forward. A new decade started and it has not gone according to plan, right? Your videos and pod-casts have been tremendously helpful in guiding my new personal growth and mindset. Thank you. LOL - one is never too old to change and become better. Cheers
I LOVE this!!! I appreciate you and wish you the best. It’s never too late to change :)
I can totally relate. It’s been really stressful. It’s learning to let go of what we’ve been conditioned to do. Going against the grain doesn’t feel natural at first. I like that “less but better”. I’ve had such a weird relationship with time and totally resonate with overloading my to-do list and underestimating how long it will take me to complete them.
LESS IS MORE.FOCUS IS KEY
Cada vídeo tuyo, me da ese toque de inspiración que necesito. ¡Me encanta tu canal!
This is the need of the hour!
Thanks a lot Sis❤️
Thank you..this made me validated...there is someone out there that think like me
I’ve read a christian book about this: Reset, by Kevin DeYoung. Many of your words are similar to his thoughts. The art of saying no is something that he alsos talk about and I’m really trying to work hard on improving this because I’m pretty good on saying yes to every new activity. Less but better! Thanks for this video
I love the shots in this video. They are really inspiring to watch (also the girl in yellow from your boundaries video made me smile) I started plannig my day according to your daily planner and prioritize three tasks every day. This has been such a game changer for me. I now feel much more productive and organized plus less stressed.
Sending you a lot of love
Thank you Aileen !!! You inspire me so much!!!!! 💕💕💕💕
Aileen! I've been getting super into self-growth videos and podcasts lately and your videos are on heavy rotation! this video kind of sums up the shift I'm currently working through. my biggest issue is the disconnect between my ideal day to day and balancing some "obstacles" that have arisen in the pandemic (my business shutting down, needing to find alternative income). i know a lot of this can be remedied with a shift in perspective but i'm still working thru implementing it and trusting the universe to provide. anyways, your videos always make me feel a little more clearheaded, thank you!
Even the comments are as soothing as the video
What a refreshing video. The tips are very useful too. Love it. Thanks for sharing.
Your voice just calms me down I love watching your videos