You’ve tapped into the psychology of habit formation. When you say, “no buy,” your brain is focused on the buying part. If you say, “ I have x y z savings goals,” you’re focused on saving.
I volunteered with Hospice (end-of-life care for people who have less than 6 months to live), and I can tell you that it is a weird feeling. When I first started, it made me so upset that good people, some young/ old, were getting ready to pass. I think, after a while, I just gained a perspective that everything will end, so just appreciate what you have and what you are doing. Saying this, I mean appreciate times when you are doing things AND when you aren't. Appreciate that you can do nothing sometimes, and that is okay. Also, if you appreciate someone, tell them, or give some random stranger a compliment if you want to. People can't hear your thoughts, but they can hear your words, so why not say good things?
I’m so curious what you mean by “getting ready to pass”! And wow, amen I highly agree and especially with the last sentence you wrote. Which is also why I tell people any compliment aloud that I think in my head I don’t keep it to myself! We need to find joy and just live and love and live like this is our one and only life not taking even the next breath for granted
@@rainbowsnsunshineverywhereigo "Getting ready to pass " is what Hospice entails. I've asked patients sometimes; "Are you at peace?" "Are you ready?" And 99% have answered "yes, I'm ready." Though I'm not related to them, they will always hold a very special place in my heart.
I'm really into historical fashion and collect real 100+ year-old pieces now and again (when a good opportunity hits) and I can attest that quality material has never been walled off behind a certain price tier. Victorians had better cotton then we do today because they had better weaving machines then we do today; the cheapest stuff for underwear (like petticoats) is like the sturdiness of denim, but is as light-weight as a button-up shirt. Luxury brands today have the most potential for accessing good quality materials, but they don't have an exclusive hold on quality. What's important is to learn is how to assess the object / product yourself and then make a judgement call on "is this so much better that it warrants a luxury price tag?" and I can promise you that the more you touch fabrics, feel the weight of them in hand and compare them to each other, the truth becomes evident that pricing has a logistical hardline and then a speculative upcharge. Brands will push to see how high they can price things while not stagnating sales figures. Once you see that this is a level playing field; that you and the brand are both holding a different end of the rope and pushing and pulling --- testing to see what they can get away with, what you are willing to put up with --- then I think a lot of that "needy" desire for buying and acquiring more and more stuff really goes down. You realize there isn't a magical thing hanging above your head that you must aspire to obtain; you realize that it's all just business and that you have the power to tell them what's worth your money (and not the other way around).
I just realized how bad my shopping addition is, because within 30 seconds I paused this video to find where you bought that black & white top from 😂😂🤦🏻♀️
I'm an internist. I deal with serious diseases, death daily. I have had so many long conversations with elderly people and it really puts things in perspective. Their take on death is usually so refreshing. I think how most medical workers deal with death is the mindset that we are doing our jobs, we can't afford to take every patient and their story with us. But I so agree with what you said. I have had talks with friends about these things and what really is important in life and how usually it is not pretty things (don't get me wrong, I also like pretty things but I don't make clothes/bags and brands my no1 priority in life). Most people don't get how fragile life is..
Pathologist here. I don’t think I compartmentalise what I see, perhaps I rationalise. This terrible, awful thing happened. I have the skills to provide answers to why the death happened. The answers matter to those left behind. I am focused on that rather than the tragedy of the situation. I’m not a robot. Kids are difficult. But in a way, those emotions make me more determined to do the best job I possibly can.
I'm an RN, I used to work at a cancer hospital but had to leave because it was so sad, but I know nurses that have gotten used to it. It all depends on the person. But for me, watching people's lives get taken so often at all different ages, from 18 year olds to 95 year olds, you learn what's really important in life, and it's not luxury items. Those are not the things people think about when they're seriously/terminally ill, it's the memories they've created over their lifetime. Doing things they love with the people they love. ❤
As a nurse for 10+ years It becomes a conscious effort to not become desensitized/overly sensitized in your personal life. It’s definitely a coping mechanism because it’s not “normal” to be surrounded by tragedy on a daily basis. Sometimes I say a prayer for the patient/families as a way to bring some secret positivity in our lives. If a patient dies I also secretly thank them for being a teacher to help me take better care of others in similar situations. It’s not easy and I’m still learning. Sometimes I wonder if it’s possible to be balanced at work and home and if you must step away to prioritize mental health and not allow the burn out to set in.
I have to say that you touched a very sensitive topic in the end. This bothers me lately. In the past few years, I've lost pregnancies, which led me to existential crisis. Last year , we lost a family member to cancer. It was brutal. And in last 2 months we have lost 2 our beloved cats (one to caner and one in car accident). I have fear of death, and at the same time, I do appreciate I am alive. I was close to death and yet made it through. Watching how people waste their time for anger or pride is so exhausting for me. We don't know when the time will come. I really like watching your vlogs. Best of all to you.
Thoroughly enjoying the nonchalant humor sprinkled around, like "... if was to buy that bracelet on just any old Tuesday... " or "... shopping like a like a wild animal..." 😅 And yes, the video was helpful for my resolve to course-correct my shopping habits. Thanks!
My mother in law was battling various cancers and went into remission but then it came back. What took her out ultimately was a stroke. I still remember our last conversation with her, we talked about going for a nice walk outside and within a few days she passed. Life can be so unpredictable and you really never know what could happen. It’s been 3 months since she’s gone and so much has changed. For one I am starting my new chapter and going through separation/divorce. Shouldn’t take death or divorce to re-evaluate things but sometimes that’s what needed for you to see clearly what’s important in life.
I used to spend my days shopping for things that I never used! Now my week is surrounded around my 32 year old daughters Dr’s appointment trying to keep her healthy and alive to raise our four year old grand daughter!
My current addiction is books & crystals, before that was fabric, before that was ceramics, & before that was luxury fashion. The items are getting cheaper (depending on the crystal) but I need to just stop, use & enjoy the stuff I already have, make up all my beautiful fabric (new clothes yay!), & actually read the books before I consider getting anything else. For me personally shopping is filling a bit of a void & covering up a lot of trauma, I’m actually looking for a therapist to help me with that at the moment.
I am a nurse practitioner who has a wonderful practice, I truly love and care for so many of my patients and share in their sorrow when something happens to them, illness accidents or even things in their families. You learn to carry a heaviness in your heart everyday and also surprisingly the resilience of the human spirit allows that to be the catalyst for more love. There are periods of burnout and completely feeling like the work we do is futile but then something sparks you back appreciate just how much we have and how lucky we are to be here living this life. I could go on forever and I’m not sure I’m making much sense. I have only been watching your channel for the past year or so, I don’t know what content you made before but I love what I’ve seen so far. I’m sure you popped in my algorithm because I am also trying to make better choices around my spending. I wish you well on your newfound appreciation for life and I hope it leads you to great places. Much love to you! Sorry about the terrible grammar…
My baby brother died yesterday. He was 13. He had cerebral palsy and lived such a joyful life. I find the thought of dying myself inevitable, but it hurts to think I don't live joyfully.
This is gonna sound crazy but Ive been praying for weeks for God to send me a way to control my anxiety better instead of scrolling mindlessly on socials. I don’t want to but it’s like a need for distraction. And I need to be doing other things. I discovered your channel cause of another video today. Finished that. This video pops up. I was writing and eating and not paying attention until you mentioned the Opal app. I just downloaded and paid for it and CRIED. The feature where you cannot turn it off on the apps you chose to block out? This is gonna change my life. Thank you so so so very much.
First, you are my absolute favorite RUclipsr and you have been such a crucial part of my re-self discovery journey! I think it's cool that we all get to a point in our lives on our journey that we realize what truly matters and what we could do without. This video was so helpful because seeing your journey kinda aligns with mine and now I feel more free by not being tied down my items and things. I see that what is really important is having things that really are tailored to me and not what is just popular for everyone else.
Wow Caitlin I’m speechless. That’s rare. I’m going on this same journey with you and my interest in reframing my life is a lot like yours. I’m feeling and seeing the damage I’ve done and am now ready to heal. Thank you for being in this space to help me and I’m sure many others come to terms with what’s truly important about life.
Hey girl! My mum is a nurse. She doesn't compartomentalise. She worries all. the. time. Its heavy. She rants a lot. She doesnt deal with unalive hardly ever but it doesnt change the fact that its stressful. I'm forever greatful for her service but I would never be able to do it or date anyone in medicine. Feeling mortal is honestly such a good and scary feeling. I've been jobless for 2 months now and I havent felt so aligned within myself in years. I'm more motivated than ever to do work that is valuable to me.
This video was amazing! I have literally found myself on the same journey, probably in synchrony with when you started yours. Just realizing how much time I wasted, scrolling and money, wasted on purchasing things that I really didn’t need or that offered a temporary dopamine effect. That sad… You also brought up some, very thought-provoking ideas towards this latter part of your video that are so very true and resonate with me. I am so glad that I have found you on the space and look forward to future.
Working towards eliminating my shopping addiction and I find your videos SO helpful - so thank you so very much for sharing. I absolutely LOVE that you volunteer in a chemo ward - what better way to gain perspective ❤ I would love to try something similar
This was such a wonderful video I came back this morning for another listen. I love your choice of topics and they resonate so deeply. I loved how real you got in the end cause nobody likes to get that real and it opens up your heart and mind. I’m glad to be catching my developing shopping addiction as it’s forming and nipping it in the butt before it goes full blown. When you explained the whole buying one thing then onto the next new exciting thing I relate so much and it’s agonizing figuring out how to stop that or how to replace the excitement. I feel like my life is so boring that the most exciting part of my week is to look forward to that Amazon or SHEIN or ulta package being delivered. And I know I need better real forms of dopamine and serotonin and to fill my life and schedule up so much so that I can’t even be bored or won’t even have the time to scroll hours on SHEIN. And it’s weird I know I need to do that yet I still struggle doing so;(
Such a good video!! Thank you for bringing up the last point as well!! As someone who works in healthcare and sees a lot of really sick people or deaths, it is a welcome forced perspective in many ways to be so grateful for what you do you have and a privilege to witness people go through that stage of life. 100% agree that it will wake you up and make you focus on the good things or motivate you to live now instead of focusing on “gaps”! Amazing video ❤❤❤
I have a home remodeling addiction it's sooo bad... just not patient. Keep jumping into the next project, never slowing down and appreciating the changes I have made... I just feel like I need to get it all done while I can physically and financially 😅.. it's so hard lol
I feel this!!! I do ask myself why is this something I want so bad and it’s like the need of completeness when you look around at the end of the day seeing everything in its place and it’s aesthetically pleasing but…. Who cares actually that doesn’t creat more value for yourself. At least that’s where my thought process has taken me struggling with the same thing!
it is quite sad that luxury is turning into a overly expensively advertising scheme of glorified fast fashion. The quality, the stress, the price and the satisfactory factor are just not making much sense any more.
So you don’t get use to sick patients or death.. it’s just as hard each time but you need an outlet to make it easy to cope.. fly career choice was solidified when I did my medical rotation on a gym cancer ward.. met a 42 y/o woman with metastatic ovarian cancer who was a bubbly person who despite her grim diagnosis was always excited to see the doctors who cared for her.. she died months later after my rotation but k never forgot about her.. This was 17years ago😢
I used to thrift shop quite a bit back in the day (before it was cool and everyone was doing it for financial reasons in 2008-2009). I found some pieces that I loved and wore to death. Partially it's because you didn't pay anything for it, so if something happened to it, it wasn't like you spent hundreds of dollars on it. These days I love the lower/mid-price range (Sam Edelman, Banana Republic, Quince) and the fast fashion of H&M which is hard to beat.
Thank you for your heart-touching vid. I became acutely aware of how frail life is, how frail we as humans are at a very early age after losing 3 close family members to cancer by the age of 5. Overconsumption is truly a "thief". I also treat myself to a sentimental purchase when travelling. The love, joyful memories is what we'll carry with us (not that latest trend or shopping ) So happy for you having found your balance in a world full of chaos. 💕
I think the society one comes from matters too. I'm from East Africa, and ppl will mock you here for being flashy. It is considered shallow by most of the population. Then again, most ppl here are Christians and traditionalists, and while wealth is celebrated, excelling in careers that need one to be significantly more dedicated than the general population is what is considered aspirational. Lawyers, successful athletes, anyone in the medical industry, professors, priests (they study philosophy and theology for 10yrs before being ordained) and ppl who get scholarships from abroad are those are celebrated in our society. I wouldn't even say that we have celebrities because we do not have a celebrity culture. Some journalists and musicians are well known, but no one is tuning to listen to their interviews or writing about them on the printed press. Older generations just don't take ppl in the entertainment industry seriously. It's seen as a last resort. The younger generations have their IG influencers (by young, I mean ppl who are in their teens and early 20s), but everybody else looks down on ppl trying to be famous. I don't know if this is a good or a bad thing, but it is the current sentiment here.
'I will think about them when I am at work, and when I am home, I will think about myself, so I can think about them and give them my best when I am at work' - from an ex homeless volunteer.
This was an amazing video, i really enjoy the difficult questions being discussed, sometimes theyre super necessary as a gentle nudge to remind us to be intentional 🥰
I remember the diamond tray *gtdupe* almost all the bags from the jag line in the apartment. I think I watched that video 30 times. Purse collection goals
Loved the video, ain’t nothing wrong with shopping, but it can, indeed due to dopamine hits to become more important than it should be. I learned that the hard way and always share this: a lot of our anxiety comes from thinking too much about ourselves: resources, physical appearance, future… focusing on helping others around me made ALL the difference in the world. You are surely maturing and growing as an individual ( and so am I) Cheers ✨
Oh I totally understand how you feel leaving your volunteering , I volunteer at a wig salon for cancer patients and i can keep it together in front of the patients but my heart breaks when I leave and don’t really like planning much after because I feel mentally exhausted xxx
Honestly as a nurse you just get used to it, but it's still painful & if you let yourself become numb, you do yourself & your patients a disservice. You just understand that your there to make them more comfortable & try to make their life a little better. & honestly if you have been a nurse for a while you see that there are things much worse than death.
I do exactly the same with waiting until Christmas and my birthday to buy the expensive item/s I really want. By doing this, there have been times when I've really liked something and put it on my 'Christmas or birthday list', but when Christmas or my birthday are getting closer, I realise I don't really want the item any longer. So this process is really good at weeding out the things I like short term rather then long term and I will get long term use from. This is really important when spending hundreds to thousands on an item - you had better like it long term.
This is a great video!! I'm working through a lot of these points this year, and seeing your list helps affirm the mindset shifts I'm currently going through ❤
I caught Covid on a trip to Maui. I went to hospital with stroke symptoms and found out I have a brain aneurysm. What a shock. I’m having a surgery (new technology) called endovascular coiling to strengthen the wall of artery/ aneurysm. Supposedly? I should be able to live a healthy life with yearly monitoring. Your topic hit home with where my head has been.
I have MS - I got to hospital twice a year for infusions, and sitting there waiting for the medication to drip in is eye opening. (Until it inevitably knocks me the tf out and I sleep till it’s over 😂) Most of the people who come in are much older than me - but appear healthy, you would never know that they have something pretty serious going on. ..And yet almost always, all of them are scrolling on their phones/working on their laptops whist being pumped full of meds, and it’s just so sad to me? No we’re not dying, but it seems so sad to be so attached to a device, and disconnected to the people around you. There’s more to life than scrolling social media and online stores? Idk - I’ve stopped using Facebook, insta, etc, and I try to not be glued to my phone constantly (she says while being on her phone, I’m aware)
I’ve noticed the same at the ward a lot are scrolling or typing away on their laptops or phones its interesting but maybe they feel they don’t want to be in their thoughts too much I usually don’t try to disturb them too much Thanks for watching xx
Hi Caitlin! I love this type of videos and to see your progress through time since you decided to reduce shopping. I agree with you on the fast fashion part. I haven't bought from fast fashion for a while, however I still own pieces from them and they look good. I am all for maximising the wear of my items. I would love to hear the 2 luxury brands you are following and the other cheaper ones in your radar.
Thankyou for being here ☺️ My only two atm are Hermes and VCA but nothing I’m dying to have As for smaller brands it’s mainly just whatever I come across tbh but I am not shopping very much lately
i love shopping but I shop with intentionality. Do I have room for this? How often will i use or wear this? How much can I sell it for when I am done? Is it worth it? Should I buy it because I love it? or should I invest my money? etc..
Not gonna lie. I OWN the authentic in that same exact color and I STILL got it wrong! And I even use the bag every single day! Only goes to show how damn good these MoMcoco are visually. Now guessing which is the fake by feeling them both in my hands is another story.
Caitlin, I think it woupd be so great to see you interview interesting people because I think if you created a podcast it woupd be massively subscribed. I just think listenining to you talk in general is super interesting and I am not even interested in fashion
Shopping for me is just a way not to think about myself or my life. I had dreams that I never had come true. I’ve never been able to afford luxury so I stuck to, ie, Coach, Dooney, etc. …….Caitlin….how were you ever able to afford it? Job? Inheritance, etc?
I think influencers are necessary and definitely have their place (it can genuinely help viewers decide what's worth it) but when it becomes an addiction to continually accumulate more stuff (vs review & donate and move on) then I think it needs to be re-evaluated.
me last night tired but scrolling FP for chanel clutches lol. me to me-girl you don't have a job, go to bed, you can't be buying a bag right now lol. i am thankful my no-buy is about to be 8 months strong! this includes clothes, shoes, bags but omg have I been tempted. but each time I say to myself when you get a job you can, which drives me to apply for jobs even more. also when I was in japan with the yen being so cheap, I was ready to buy but the universe did not want me too as everything I wanted they didn't have or the vintage bags were way over priced.
Hi. Im just stopet buying. A did not GET rid of stuff i buy and spend monney. Fill awakened. Your influence was make me to wake up. Tx u for that. Still have triger to buy perfume i dont need 😂. Love from Croatian coast.
❤️❤️❤️ I can handle 👛👜🎒👗🧥🧢💸 But when I see a new (for me) artshop😱😵💫🤪😍🎨💸💸💸💸💸💸💸💸😂 And about🪽🪦 (so hard to express myself in english) but I say it in a cliche: it’s like a🌹🥀🌹♻️🙏 Nothing to be afraid of but in the same time😱😰🥶🥵 because you never done it in this life before. It’s like see the🎢 for the first time and 🤔 should I walk away or stay and listen to what everybody say when they have ride it? I hope you understand me😂 ❤ the video❣️
Meh. Lily silk, I loathe the company, for two reasons. First, the amount of actual silk in their items is pathetically low, and the items that are a majority if silk fibers are stupid priced. Basically they are stupidly priced for what they are. Second, ties into the first, over sponsored brands = over priced lesser quality items. I can buy beautiful 100% silk items of superior quality and fit for so so much less money. I detest 99% of sponsored brands, if the products are good, the brand doesn’t need to sponsor themselves.
For a long time, with the price of Chanel going up, I no longer thought I could afford it. I think I would be happy that I have a *gtdupe* as my travel bag and I don't have to take care of it. By the way, I believe no one will have a hard time telling the difference. Thanks for the comparison.
I am transforming my financial life slowly and I'm making a point to everyday watch a RUclips video that stimulates me to save, invest and be more savvy with my money. I got a job that took me out of poverty and am on the verge to buy my first ever apartment!
You’ve tapped into the psychology of habit formation. When you say, “no buy,” your brain is focused on the buying part. If you say, “ I have x y z savings goals,” you’re focused on saving.
Good point!
Shopping for me was definitely done out of loneliness and boredom. I found myself splurging way less after I met my husband. ❤
I volunteered with Hospice (end-of-life care for people who have less than 6 months to live), and I can tell you that it is a weird feeling. When I first started, it made me so upset that good people, some young/ old, were getting ready to pass. I think, after a while, I just gained a perspective that everything will end, so just appreciate what you have and what you are doing. Saying this, I mean appreciate times when you are doing things AND when you aren't. Appreciate that you can do nothing sometimes, and that is okay. Also, if you appreciate someone, tell them, or give some random stranger a compliment if you want to. People can't hear your thoughts, but they can hear your words, so why not say good things?
I’m so curious what you mean by “getting ready to pass”! And wow, amen I highly agree and especially with the last sentence you wrote. Which is also why I tell people any compliment aloud that I think in my head I don’t keep it to myself! We need to find joy and just live and love and live like this is our one and only life not taking even the next breath for granted
@@rainbowsnsunshineverywhereigo
"Getting ready to pass " is what Hospice entails. I've asked patients sometimes;
"Are you at peace?"
"Are you ready?" And 99% have answered "yes, I'm ready." Though I'm not related to them, they will always hold a very special place in my heart.
TOTALLY AGREE
@rainbowsnsunshineverywhereigo ❤❤❤❤ thats my moto, and I can't change it
Volunteering for hospice and working in health care was the opposite for me. Shopping and eating addiction causing on nerve racking stress
I'm really into historical fashion and collect real 100+ year-old pieces now and again (when a good opportunity hits) and I can attest that quality material has never been walled off behind a certain price tier. Victorians had better cotton then we do today because they had better weaving machines then we do today; the cheapest stuff for underwear (like petticoats) is like the sturdiness of denim, but is as light-weight as a button-up shirt. Luxury brands today have the most potential for accessing good quality materials, but they don't have an exclusive hold on quality. What's important is to learn is how to assess the object / product yourself and then make a judgement call on "is this so much better that it warrants a luxury price tag?" and I can promise you that the more you touch fabrics, feel the weight of them in hand and compare them to each other, the truth becomes evident that pricing has a logistical hardline and then a speculative upcharge. Brands will push to see how high they can price things while not stagnating sales figures. Once you see that this is a level playing field; that you and the brand are both holding a different end of the rope and pushing and pulling --- testing to see what they can get away with, what you are willing to put up with --- then I think a lot of that "needy" desire for buying and acquiring more and more stuff really goes down. You realize there isn't a magical thing hanging above your head that you must aspire to obtain; you realize that it's all just business and that you have the power to tell them what's worth your money (and not the other way around).
I just realized how bad my shopping addition is, because within 30 seconds I paused this video to find where you bought that black & white top from 😂😂🤦🏻♀️
I'm an internist. I deal with serious diseases, death daily. I have had so many long conversations with elderly people and it really puts things in perspective. Their take on death is usually so refreshing. I think how most medical workers deal with death is the mindset that we are doing our jobs, we can't afford to take every patient and their story with us. But I so agree with what you said. I have had talks with friends about these things and what really is important in life and how usually it is not pretty things (don't get me wrong, I also like pretty things but I don't make clothes/bags and brands my no1 priority in life). Most people don't get how fragile life is..
Pathologist here. I don’t think I compartmentalise what I see, perhaps I rationalise. This terrible, awful thing happened. I have the skills to provide answers to why the death happened. The answers matter to those left behind. I am focused on that rather than the tragedy of the situation. I’m not a robot. Kids are difficult. But in a way, those emotions make me more determined to do the best job I possibly can.
Thankyou for sharing this ❤️
I'm an RN, I used to work at a cancer hospital but had to leave because it was so sad, but I know nurses that have gotten used to it. It all depends on the person. But for me, watching people's lives get taken so often at all different ages, from 18 year olds to 95 year olds, you learn what's really important in life, and it's not luxury items. Those are not the things people think about when they're seriously/terminally ill, it's the memories they've created over their lifetime. Doing things they love with the people they love. ❤
As a nurse for 10+ years It becomes a conscious effort to not become desensitized/overly sensitized in your personal life. It’s definitely a coping mechanism because it’s not “normal” to be surrounded by tragedy on a daily basis. Sometimes I say a prayer for the patient/families as a way to bring some secret positivity in our lives. If a patient dies I also secretly thank them for being a teacher to help me take better care of others in similar situations. It’s not easy and I’m still learning. Sometimes I wonder if it’s possible to be balanced at work and home and if you must step away to prioritize mental health and not allow the burn out to set in.
Thankyou for sharing this ❤️
I have to say that you touched a very sensitive topic in the end. This bothers me lately. In the past few years, I've lost pregnancies, which led me to existential crisis. Last year , we lost a family member to cancer. It was brutal. And in last 2 months we have lost 2 our beloved cats (one to caner and one in car accident). I have fear of death, and at the same time, I do appreciate I am alive. I was close to death and yet made it through. Watching how people waste their time for anger or pride is so exhausting for me. We don't know when the time will come. I really like watching your vlogs. Best of all to you.
Sending comforting energies 💕 🕊
Thankyou for being here ❤️
the last point is the most important !! its whats been helping me with my shopping addiction
Thoroughly enjoying the nonchalant humor sprinkled around, like "... if was to buy that bracelet on just any old Tuesday... " or "... shopping like a like a wild animal..." 😅 And yes, the video was helpful for my resolve to course-correct my shopping habits. Thanks!
#3 hit home....why do I want to scroll? I have more than enough. I have to reflect on the why. Thank you 😊
My mother in law was battling various cancers and went into remission but then it came back. What took her out ultimately was a stroke. I still remember our last conversation with her, we talked about going for a nice walk outside and within a few days she passed. Life can be so unpredictable and you really never know what could happen.
It’s been 3 months since she’s gone and so much has changed. For one I am starting my new chapter and going through separation/divorce. Shouldn’t take death or divorce to re-evaluate things but sometimes that’s what needed for you to see clearly what’s important in life.
So very true. ❤️ 🙏
Sending lots of love to you and your family
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I used to spend my days shopping for things that I never used! Now my week is surrounded around my 32 year old daughters Dr’s appointment trying to keep her healthy and alive to raise our four year old grand daughter!
My current addiction is books & crystals, before that was fabric, before that was ceramics, & before that was luxury fashion. The items are getting cheaper (depending on the crystal) but I need to just stop, use & enjoy the stuff I already have, make up all my beautiful fabric (new clothes yay!), & actually read the books before I consider getting anything else. For me personally shopping is filling a bit of a void & covering up a lot of trauma, I’m actually looking for a therapist to help me with that at the moment.
I am a nurse practitioner who has a wonderful practice, I truly love and care for so many of my patients and share in their sorrow when something happens to them, illness accidents or even things in their families. You learn to carry a heaviness in your heart everyday and also surprisingly the resilience of the human spirit allows that to be the catalyst for more love. There are periods of burnout and completely feeling like the work we do is futile but then something sparks you back appreciate just how much we have and how lucky we are to be here living this life. I could go on forever and I’m not sure I’m making much sense. I have only been watching your channel for the past year or so, I don’t know what content you made before but I love what I’ve seen so far. I’m sure you popped in my algorithm because I am also trying to make better choices around my spending. I wish you well on your newfound appreciation for life and I hope it leads you to great places. Much love to you! Sorry about the terrible grammar…
What "terrible grammar" girl? You write like a STAR!!❤💖
Thankyou for sharing this ❤️
My baby brother died yesterday. He was 13. He had cerebral palsy and lived such a joyful life. I find the thought of dying myself inevitable, but it hurts to think I don't live joyfully.
This is gonna sound crazy but Ive been praying for weeks for God to send me a way to control my anxiety better instead of scrolling mindlessly on socials. I don’t want to but it’s like a need for distraction. And I need to be doing other things. I discovered your channel cause of another video today. Finished that. This video pops up. I was writing and eating and not paying attention until you mentioned the Opal app. I just downloaded and paid for it and CRIED. The feature where you cannot turn it off on the apps you chose to block out? This is gonna change my life. Thank you so so so very much.
I think I definitely had a skincare shopping problem!
Now I'm just more careful about what I buy and it is freeing!
This is an outstanding video. Hope the algorithm pushes it out across the world!
First, you are my absolute favorite RUclipsr and you have been such a crucial part of my re-self discovery journey! I think it's cool that we all get to a point in our lives on our journey that we realize what truly matters and what we could do without. This video was so helpful because seeing your journey kinda aligns with mine and now I feel more free by not being tied down my items and things. I see that what is really important is having things that really are tailored to me and not what is just popular for everyone else.
I’m so glad you’re here Thankyou ❤️
Wow Caitlin I’m speechless. That’s rare. I’m going on this same journey with you and my interest in reframing my life is a lot like yours. I’m feeling and seeing the damage I’ve done and am now ready to heal. Thank you for being in this space to help me and I’m sure many others come to terms with what’s truly important about life.
Thankyou for watching ❤️
Totally get the scrolling thing. Vinted has become a small addiction. Time to stop and refocus. Love your chats. 🥰
Hey girl! My mum is a nurse. She doesn't compartomentalise. She worries all. the. time. Its heavy. She rants a lot. She doesnt deal with unalive hardly ever but it doesnt change the fact that its stressful. I'm forever greatful for her service but I would never be able to do it or date anyone in medicine. Feeling mortal is honestly such a good and scary feeling. I've been jobless for 2 months now and I havent felt so aligned within myself in years. I'm more motivated than ever to do work that is valuable to me.
Thankyou for sharing this ❤️
This video was amazing! I have literally found myself on the same journey, probably in synchrony with when you started yours. Just realizing how much time I wasted, scrolling and money, wasted on purchasing things that I really didn’t need or that offered a temporary dopamine effect. That sad… You also brought up some, very thought-provoking ideas towards this latter part of your video that are so very true and resonate with me. I am so glad that I have found you on the space and look forward to future.
Proud of you for sticking through it and reaching your goals! Inspirational!
Thank you so much! ☺️
Working towards eliminating my shopping addiction and I find your videos SO helpful - so thank you so very much for sharing. I absolutely LOVE that you volunteer in a chemo ward - what better way to gain perspective ❤ I would love to try something similar
Yes! And also volunteering for nursing facilities are both very enriching.
There'll be tears, yet they have much wisdom to share with us.
Thankyou for watching and being here ❤️
This was such a wonderful video I came back this morning for another listen. I love your choice of topics and they resonate so deeply. I loved how real you got in the end cause nobody likes to get that real and it opens up your heart and mind. I’m glad to be catching my developing shopping addiction as it’s forming and nipping it in the butt before it goes full blown. When you explained the whole buying one thing then onto the next new exciting thing I relate so much and it’s agonizing figuring out how to stop that or how to replace the excitement. I feel like my life is so boring that the most exciting part of my week is to look forward to that Amazon or SHEIN or ulta package being delivered. And I know I need better real forms of dopamine and serotonin and to fill my life and schedule up so much so that I can’t even be bored or won’t even have the time to scroll hours on SHEIN. And it’s weird I know I need to do that yet I still struggle doing so;(
Such a good video!! Thank you for bringing up the last point as well!! As someone who works in healthcare and sees a lot of really sick people or deaths, it is a welcome forced perspective in many ways to be so grateful for what you do you have and a privilege to witness people go through that stage of life. 100% agree that it will wake you up and make you focus on the good things or motivate you to live now instead of focusing on “gaps”! Amazing video ❤❤❤
I have a home remodeling addiction it's sooo bad... just not patient. Keep jumping into the next project, never slowing down and appreciating the changes I have made... I just feel like I need to get it all done while I can physically and financially 😅.. it's so hard lol
I feel this!!! I do ask myself why is this something I want so bad and it’s like the need of completeness when you look around at the end of the day seeing everything in its place and it’s aesthetically pleasing but…. Who cares actually that doesn’t creat more value for yourself. At least that’s where my thought process has taken me struggling with the same thing!
Oh I briefly felt that and realised I had to break free because it was destroying me being never satisfied 😂
Sounds like you are looking for a real purpose in your life. Helping others does help to draw away focus on oneself. ❤
it is quite sad that luxury is turning into a overly expensively advertising scheme of glorified fast fashion. The quality, the stress, the price and the satisfactory factor are just not making much sense any more.
Agreed!
So you don’t get use to sick patients or death.. it’s just as hard each time but you need an outlet to make it easy to cope.. fly career choice was solidified when I did my medical rotation on a gym cancer ward.. met a 42 y/o woman with metastatic ovarian cancer who was a bubbly person who despite her grim diagnosis was always excited to see the doctors who cared for her.. she died months later after my rotation but k never forgot about her.. This was 17years ago😢
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Can’t wait to watch this, love your content ❤ Very touched by the end, my dad had a health scare (he’s ok) last week that woke me a bit
❤ 🙏 blessings to your dad.
Sending my love to you and your family ❤️
@@CaitlinPawlowski thanks he’s doing better now
I used to thrift shop quite a bit back in the day (before it was cool and everyone was doing it for financial reasons in 2008-2009). I found some pieces that I loved and wore to death. Partially it's because you didn't pay anything for it, so if something happened to it, it wasn't like you spent hundreds of dollars on it. These days I love the lower/mid-price range (Sam Edelman, Banana Republic, Quince) and the fast fashion of H&M which is hard to beat.
Great video. Point 10 so true! If I had limited time I sure wouldn’t want to spend it on shopping. So why waste my time on it now! ❤️ thank you.
I'm so proud of how far you've come.
Thank you for your heart-touching vid. I became acutely aware of how frail life is, how frail we as humans are at a very early age after losing 3 close family members to cancer by the age of 5.
Overconsumption is truly a "thief". I also treat myself to a sentimental purchase when travelling. The love, joyful memories is what we'll carry with us (not that latest trend or shopping )
So happy for you having found your balance in a world full of chaos. 💕
Thankyou for being here ❤️
I think the society one comes from matters too. I'm from East Africa, and ppl will mock you here for being flashy. It is considered shallow by most of the population. Then again, most ppl here are Christians and traditionalists, and while wealth is celebrated, excelling in careers that need one to be significantly more dedicated than the general population is what is considered aspirational. Lawyers, successful athletes, anyone in the medical industry, professors, priests (they study philosophy and theology for 10yrs before being ordained) and ppl who get scholarships from abroad are those are celebrated in our society. I wouldn't even say that we have celebrities because we do not have a celebrity culture. Some journalists and musicians are well known, but no one is tuning to listen to their interviews or writing about them on the printed press. Older generations just don't take ppl in the entertainment industry seriously. It's seen as a last resort. The younger generations have their IG influencers (by young, I mean ppl who are in their teens and early 20s), but everybody else looks down on ppl trying to be famous. I don't know if this is a good or a bad thing, but it is the current sentiment here.
'I will think about them when I am at work, and when I am home, I will think about myself, so I can think about them and give them my best when I am at work' - from an ex homeless volunteer.
This was an amazing video, i really enjoy the difficult questions being discussed, sometimes theyre super necessary as a gentle nudge to remind us to be intentional 🥰
I remember the diamond tray *gtdupe* almost all the bags from the jag line in the apartment. I think I watched that video 30 times. Purse collection goals
This was indeed helpful, thank you!!! ☺💕
I'm so glad! ❤️
Loved the video, ain’t nothing wrong with shopping, but it can, indeed due to dopamine hits to become more important than it should be.
I learned that the hard way and always share this: a lot of our anxiety comes from thinking too much about ourselves: resources, physical appearance, future… focusing on helping others around me made ALL the difference in the world.
You are surely maturing and growing as an individual ( and so am I) Cheers ✨
Oh I totally understand how you feel leaving your volunteering , I volunteer at a wig salon for cancer patients and i can keep it together in front of the patients but my heart breaks when I leave and don’t really like planning much after because I feel mentally exhausted xxx
Postponing gratification is a sign of maturity ❤️ buziaki
I needed this video - thank you 😘
You are so welcome! Thanks for being here ❤️
Honestly as a nurse you just get used to it, but it's still painful & if you let yourself become numb, you do yourself & your patients a disservice. You just understand that your there to make them more comfortable & try to make their life a little better. & honestly if you have been a nurse for a while you see that there are things much worse than death.
I do exactly the same with waiting until Christmas and my birthday to buy the expensive item/s I really want. By doing this, there have been times when I've really liked something and put it on my 'Christmas or birthday list', but when Christmas or my birthday are getting closer, I realise I don't really want the item any longer. So this process is really good at weeding out the things I like short term rather then long term and I will get long term use from. This is really important when spending hundreds to thousands on an item - you had better like it long term.
This is a great video!! I'm working through a lot of these points this year, and seeing your list helps affirm the mindset shifts I'm currently going through ❤
Thankyou so much for watching!
Most of my clothes are 10-8 years old. Brands like Maje, Tara Jarmon, Sandro….most of their clothes are timeless
Caitlin, if you’ve got IBS so do I! Don’t even worry, it gets better! I literally am on the same diet 😅❤
Oh I am glad it gets better!
Not IBS for me but I was diagnosed with that at one point in my life and it was awful
I caught Covid on a trip to Maui. I went to hospital with stroke symptoms and found out I have a brain aneurysm. What a shock. I’m having a surgery (new technology) called endovascular coiling to strengthen the wall of artery/ aneurysm. Supposedly? I should be able to live a healthy life with yearly monitoring. Your topic hit home with where my head has been.
Sending love and positivity your way I hope all goes well and wish you a speedy recovery ❤️🩹
I have MS - I got to hospital twice a year for infusions, and sitting there waiting for the medication to drip in is eye opening. (Until it inevitably knocks me the tf out and I sleep till it’s over 😂)
Most of the people who come in are much older than me - but appear healthy, you would never know that they have something pretty serious going on.
..And yet almost always, all of them are scrolling on their phones/working on their laptops whist being pumped full of meds, and it’s just so sad to me?
No we’re not dying, but it seems so sad to be so attached to a device, and disconnected to the people around you. There’s more to life than scrolling social media and online stores?
Idk - I’ve stopped using Facebook, insta, etc, and I try to not be glued to my phone constantly (she says while being on her phone, I’m aware)
I’ve noticed the same at the ward a lot are scrolling or typing away on their laptops or phones its interesting but maybe they feel they don’t want to be in their thoughts too much
I usually don’t try to disturb them too much
Thanks for watching xx
Hi Caitlin! I love this type of videos and to see your progress through time since you decided to reduce shopping. I agree with you on the fast fashion part. I haven't bought from fast fashion for a while, however I still own pieces from them and they look good. I am all for maximising the wear of my items. I would love to hear the 2 luxury brands you are following and the other cheaper ones in your radar.
Thankyou for being here ☺️
My only two atm are Hermes and VCA but nothing I’m dying to have
As for smaller brands it’s mainly just whatever I come across tbh but I am not shopping very much lately
I find your content SOOO refreshing and you're one of my fav youtubers now!
Thankyou so much you’re so kind ❤️
i love shopping but I shop with intentionality. Do I have room for this? How often will i use or wear this? How much can I sell it for when I am done? Is it worth it? Should I buy it because I love it? or should I invest my money? etc..
What an amazing video! Well said and well done! 👏
What an incredible video. Thank you.
Not gonna lie. I OWN the authentic in that same exact color and I STILL got it wrong! And I even use the bag every single day! Only goes to show how damn good these MoMcoco are visually. Now guessing which is the fake by feeling them both in my hands is another story.
Caitlin, I think it woupd be so great to see you interview interesting people because I think if you created a podcast it woupd be massively subscribed. I just think listenining to you talk in general is super interesting and I am not even interested in fashion
Oh Thankyou so much that really is a lovely compliment I hope to eventually bring in interviews in my videos regarding certain topics ☺️
I really like to know your thoughts about Tamara Kalinic! It would be amazing if you make a video about her and similar accounts.
Thank you for sharing ❤ I appreciate how u still keep your collection and enjoy them rather than totally give up on things you used to splurge on xx
The not super cheap, but not absurdly expensive stuff is usually the best quality.
Shopping for me is just a way not to think about myself or my life. I had dreams that I never had come true. I’ve never been able to afford luxury so I stuck to, ie, Coach, Dooney, etc. …….Caitlin….how were you ever able to afford it? Job? Inheritance, etc?
I think influencers are necessary and definitely have their place (it can genuinely help viewers decide what's worth it) but when it becomes an addiction to continually accumulate more stuff (vs review & donate and move on) then I think it needs to be re-evaluated.
Happy for you ❤
31 years?!?!?! *throws phone in the bin*
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Bags on the MoMcoco are the proof that Cheap doesn't mean not beautiful
Your hair looks fab
me last night tired but scrolling FP for chanel clutches lol. me to me-girl you don't have a job, go to bed, you can't be buying a bag right now lol. i am thankful my no-buy is about to be 8 months strong! this includes clothes, shoes, bags but omg have I been tempted. but each time I say to myself when you get a job you can, which drives me to apply for jobs even more. also when I was in japan with the yen being so cheap, I was ready to buy but the universe did not want me too as everything I wanted they didn't have or the vintage bags were way over priced.
Caitlin I really really appreciate you so so so much and you have such a sweet and cute smile🥹🥹♥️♥️ and I wish you have a lovely lovely weekend
Thank you so much!! I hope you’re having a lovely week ❤️
Great video.❤
Thank you! 🤗
2:27 what clip is that? Reminds me of legally blonde. 😂
It’s from clueless
@@sd.092 thank you 😘
Hi. Im just stopet buying. A did not GET rid of stuff i buy and spend monney. Fill awakened. Your influence was make me to wake up. Tx u for that. Still have triger to buy perfume i dont need 😂. Love from Croatian coast.
Thankyou for being here ❤️
My shopping addiction is still there 😢so many cute toys 😅haha I have 2 cats they drain my bank account every month haha but is worth it
❤️❤️❤️ I can handle 👛👜🎒👗🧥🧢💸 But when I see a new (for me) artshop😱😵💫🤪😍🎨💸💸💸💸💸💸💸💸😂 And about🪽🪦 (so hard to express myself in english) but I say it in a cliche: it’s like a🌹🥀🌹♻️🙏 Nothing to be afraid of but in the same time😱😰🥶🥵 because you never done it in this life before. It’s like see the🎢 for the first time and 🤔 should I walk away or stay and listen to what everybody say when they have ride it? I hope you understand me😂 ❤ the video❣️
I felt called out when you said tupperware...
😂
Meh. Lily silk, I loathe the company, for two reasons.
First, the amount of actual silk in their items is pathetically low, and the items that are a majority if silk fibers are stupid priced. Basically they are stupidly priced for what they are. Second, ties into the first, over sponsored brands = over priced lesser quality items. I can buy beautiful 100% silk items of superior quality and fit for so so much less money.
I detest 99% of sponsored brands, if the products are good, the brand doesn’t need to sponsor themselves.
what do you recommend instead?
YOU "HOPED" WE WILL FIND THIS VIDEO USEFUL??? WE'VE BEEN WAITING ALL OUR LIVES FOR THIS VIDEO, FOR GOD'S SAKE ❤❤❤
Thankyou 🥹❤️
Haha, “still shopping like a wild animal”. Yeah….
I'm on crack instead
... to show to Mr. Flavour of the month I'm a good one. Once he dumps me is back to *trust fund lifestyle*
Huh?
For a long time, with the price of Chanel going up, I no longer thought I could afford it. I think I would be happy that I have a *gtdupe* as my travel bag and I don't have to take care of it. By the way, I believe no one will have a hard time telling the difference. Thanks for the comparison.
I am transforming my financial life slowly and I'm making a point to everyday watch a RUclips video that stimulates me to save, invest and be more savvy with my money. I got a job that took me out of poverty and am on the verge to buy my first ever apartment!
I have $5000 and would rather buy *gtdupe* and deposit $4,500 into my bank account