Why Men Pull Away After Intimacy (And How to Handle It)
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I feel like men look at women and relationships like another chore on their to-do list. Once they perceive you as "caught" their mind is free to move on to the next thing on their to-do list. It's so hurtful.
Yeah and come back when need sex
I feel this is so true!!
Good comment “chore on the todo list” so true!! 🙄
It’s dehumanizing
I totally agree with you
If you make the decision to sleep with a man please don't start acting different and clingy. Keep your emotions in check and your mind clear 😉
True
Thanks needed to hear that
Right I always act the same as I did BEFORE the act. Even if I’m upset he won’t know. I’ve learned a lot about men they’re actually very simple. Women we overthink everything sometimes 😂😂😂
I needed this slap! Thank you 😂
It literally makes more and more
Sense to me why women used to put off sex till marriage as legit it was a way to safe guard themselves from being used and tossed aside. Men have it too easy now.
Why wouldnt you want to live with and have s*x so you know what youre getting into first. Don't just marry someone you don't actually know is actually compatible!!!
I couldn’t agree more! Ladies, keep busy! Your plans, your life, your happiness…
Lol for me sex is kind of the test. If he pulls away after we get intimate and he stops texting and calling i am done and i walk away. I am a catch and if you dont value more than that about me, then you dont deserve a diamond. I got exs from 10 years ago still jumping in my inbox youd better still pursue or i will drop you and find someone who will.
But you are still single its the same cycle different Men lol
@@prettyxbonez96 no im not single, im actually engaged. And before my fiance i was married for 6 years and had another 7 year relationship/ engagement.
@@jessicajackson1200damn girl you sure don’t have a problem with walking away
@@AndreiaSantos-eb1yp not now, 15 years ago i did, but you have a couple people play hot and cold games and string you along you learn not to tolerate that crap anymore.
Your excuse doesn't fly with me. Its annoying to be put on hold in a relationship and rude not to call her or text her when your seeing her text you . you should respond regardless. You know im sick of men thinking its all about them. Women have feelings and a heart and mind also women get hurt everytime a man blows her off as just another woman when she tries so hard to make it work and all he does is judge her as clingy. She is clingy because she wants you to care enough to talk to her. Its not about the man all the time sometimes a woman just needs her man to be a good man and stop playing hide and seek.
👏👏👏Say it louder for the people in the back please
💕💕💕 100% Agree with you
Your mistaken to think you deserve anything you should have known the man you got involved with bc if you had emotionally He could have never been there for you i mean I’m sure you new HE was already in a relationship but you fail to say the truth only the fact that you have feeling or they playing hide m seek chale they just aren’t interested in you what so ever!!!!!! FACTS💯💯
yes true... men like peterpan hahahaahaha.. no balls
100%
Ladies, it doesnt really matter how fast sex happens. We stick around when your a catch. Date down to receive the treatment you want. Date up and get the treatment you deserve.
@Leila Vanela bring more to the table than just a pretty face and vagina. And wait long enough he has seen those other qualities before you sleep with him. I usually wait at least 2 or 3 months or at least 5 dates minimum before i sleep with anyone, and in that time i expect good conversation, deep conversations about character, and intentions, hopes, dreams, what happened in previous relationships and what they would have changed on their end if they could. If i dont get those long conversations and i see inconsistency i am gone. It does run some dudes off that arent serious. But the ones that stay through my vetting process are serious and dont fall off after sex. Watch their energy in the dating process. Also ask the hard questions in the dating process. Id rather run a guy off in month 1 or 2 than find out a year in that we are not compatible. Im also an RN, i only have 1 kid, from my previous marriage, that was planned and wasnt an accident, and i can cook my ass off so usually theyre tripping over themselves to get into my life. Most dont succeed i have standards, so i probably only end up sleeping with and in a relationship with about 5 or 10 percent of the men i date.
It does matter how fast sex happens... because some guys are just looking to get laid and will lie to you to tell you whatever you want to hear to get to sex. If you make him wait and invest, you'll quickly see a lot of those lies because most men aren't good at pretending for very long. So wait... we have a culture of rushing to sex and a high divorce rate. Sure, be a catch but also don't hookup quickly, the odds of that working out for you are low.
@@MatthewCoast Agree
@AliSand there are a lot of men who are just after the chase.
Yeah it’s like a mini ego boost for them. To prove to themselves the can have it - it’s sick.
Probably one of the best videos on dating on youtube. We women should think so "coldly" about men as men do with women. It is the most important decision of our lives after all!!!
A lot of women could definitely be smarter about the types of men they allow into their lives.
I believe that men only ACT "coldly". They have no idea what happens when they experience intimacy with another person. They don't understand what goes on in their bodies or their brains. They don't get it, so they get scared and run. Many feel that getting scared and running is normal. It is for western men who have not learned their own value or the value of their partners. Western women need to teach men that they are treasures, by their actions. Giving-in perpetuates a lack of connection with what is truly valuable. Women SHOULD NOT take their lead from unknowing men!
I guess when you’re busy chasing after Chads popularity status you realize it comes with its side effects. But I guess all those regrets are chads fault!
You pull away I’m pulling WAY AWAY
Men pull away because they have the option to do so. Sex before marriage is considered normal, so a man has nearly unlimited options thanks to a shift in morals and the internet, so he will move on to what he perceives as greener pastures.
Yes, until one doesn't, because he actually likes YOU! Then you'll have your hands full training him. Find a guy YOU like for who he is, don't spread your limbs for him for at least a year, and teach him what you need and how he should behave. If he doesn't stay, you've lost nothing; if he stays, you might have a suitable partner. Love is a luxury; training each other is a necessity.
Ye buddy, i aint marrying nobody till i know how the sex is.
Men play a lot of head games.... They care about themselves and themselves only ... I don't do games and fine if I'm single for the rest of my life like me or not I'm not playing these fucking games.... Where I end up losing everytime....
Crazy to hear how people cant handle their own hormones and cant just be normal about human interactions. Jeez. I get bored of this kind of people. And by the way I dont agree that women lose their power after having sex. This is not a game or competition. I do sleep with a man when I feel he is mature and open for a connection. If he proves me wrong afterwards, well I have to accept that I got him confused for this amazing guy I had in mind... My mistake! Time to move on. Such is life. People have their own emotional process and I should respect that. Maybe he needs some growing up...
Right, so how tall was your last boyfriend?
Wow the most powerful and enlightened view on sex I have ever heard
Omg THIS!
You are fantastic. I've been just binge watching you all day and I feel like your advice is totally doable and sound. Your delivery is also nice, like a very trustworthy friend.
Thank you!
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice you're welcome!
I hate when after intimacy a man just gets up and goes to br(Which is necassary) but then they won't cuddle with you after
Why didn't I see this 2 months ago? This guy, for whom I thought was a friend, bc I was interested in friendship only, slept with me at our first meeting. I was schocked as hell when he started trying to be intimate with me. The only reason I gave in was bc I didn't wan't to ruin the moment for him. After the intercourse he just pulled away. I find it stupid bc it was supposed to be a friendship, but he was obviously hoping for something more. I feel used.
Sis, how dyu feel used when yu willingly let him have his way coz "yu didnt wanna ruin the moment FOR HIM"....eff him!
What about the moment for yu?🤷♀️
Why exclude urself to satisfy him?🤔
Ur letting urself be a doormat gal...
If yu give him ur pu**y yu give him ur power... & guess wht, he WILL take it & run with it, never once thinking abt yu or ur needs!!!
🙀💋💄👠 ==💪👔👖👞== 🤐🤥👹🚶♂️🏃♂️👉⏳🚀
Men are super duper selfish! And they will get away with "murder" if yu let them!
Value urself gal. Yu are worthy. Yu are a queen, dont let him treat yu like a servant!!!! 👸👑👸
Best of luck. 🙋♀️🤞🙏
Dont dwell on it, learn from it & grow from it...!🙆♀️🤗
@@deea6053 i agree with everything u say. However, i've known him for 20 years, never had any bad experiences with him, that 's why i didn't expect him to act the way he did.
@Firelord Azula this is my natural color, it's medium brown with a slight, barely noticable reddish undertone.
I went through the same thing just now
I'm a very picky mature woman who finally allowed this man to pursue me. We really enjoyed each others company, but I made the mistake of having sex with him too soon. He's still calling & texting me, but not nearly as aggressive. Time to take back my power!
Same, except I don't know how to take back the power. I guess it will take some time but I don't know if it's worth it.
How can we take back our power?
realcanadiangirl64 really? The dude still likes you!
Same
If he’s texting you and calling you, he’ll set up another date or he’s stringing you along. You don’t have to play games.
So, in another words, a woman should not have sex with a man until after they spend time together intimately but not sexually. That way, by the time they have sex, a man will know that he really wants her. That’s is the best advice ever! I agree with it! It will safe men and women many heartaches.
Isn’t that what religion tells women to do, to safe sex until marriage, however it should be expected from men as well, but apparently it’s not applied. I believe Men are capable to go into a relationship without having sex, but the problem is that it’s so instilled in men from the time they are young to have sex, that by the time they are mature, they can’t really relate to a woman unless they have sex right away.
As children, our parents , society, and religion tell their daughters not to have sex until they are married and parents expect their sons to engage in sex with a girl or to go after a girl, otherwise they will think he is homosexual. I believe that society, religion, and parents tell this things to women so that we don’t get pregnant left and right and overpopulate this world, when in reality men also leave their seeds everywhere and get women pregnant as well. So I’m not sure that the reason why our parents tell us not to have sex with any man we want is because we can overpopulate this earth. I think it’s because this world is led by men and men are capable of tyranny and making the most disastrous decisions that can change the course of life. Our parents want to protect their daughters from that. Perhaps I sound like I’m over exaggerating but i think that’s the reality. Anyhow, If we women have sex with any man we want, we will be considered sluts and with no value. Why is it that a woman that is not a Virgin has less value than a man who is not a Virgin? You can talk all about the differences in physiology and scientific part between a man and a woman, but bottom line, we are brainwashed by society, schools, religion and our parents. Why is a man allowed to be promiscuous with no consequences and no stigmas? The more a man has sex, the more he is celebrated. If a man doesn’t have sex, instantly at a young age, everyone thinks there is something wrong with him. Woe to a man who is in his late 20s and he is still a Virgin! He will be mocked by men and women. I think society has to change. But that will take thousands of years. I believe that the reason why men and women have a hard time connecting with each other is due to how society makes us, how our parents raised us and how we have been brainwashed. If you were born a girl, you play with dolls, are treated like the weak gender and they tell you that you will marry your prince charm and to save yourself for him. If you are born a boy, they throw you outthere to experience and have your first girlfriend and are allowed to have sex with your girlfriend or girlfriends with no condemnation. But why? What makes women and men different? Can someone please tell me? I’m tired of hearing the same stupid story! Why can women have sex with men with no stigma or shame? If you are a woman and sleep around with men, you are considered a slut. But if you are a man, you are expected to sleep with many women as possible. This is exactly what makes us as women, feel different and wesk in our minds. We are not considered equals. We do not have the same rights. Being sexually active with other men, to society we are not worthy, we do not deserve respect, it’s a stigma.
By the way, you forgot to tell us how to deal with a guy that vanishes after being intimate sexually.
Claudia Pierce I'm not a prude, but I do believe most women give it up too quickly. Establish a friendship first. you can find out a lot about each other before things get hot.
If so then how comes there are so many married men cheating on their wives?
Your comment started off somewhat sensible and devolved into degeneracy. Men have always been in control because we are natural born leaders like lions. Why don’t more lionesses take charge? Because they’re not leaders. When shit hits the fan, men are the ones that do the dirty work
I know this is an old vlog but I loved what you said.
There are players, very true. If they are truly not a player, point blank - they did not like the sex and will not return for more. All of this other explanation is more or less long-winded BS. - In life, no matter what it is that you really like, really want, really desire - you always go back for more and more and more.
I'd rather the reason be cause he being careful not to catch feelings than to think He catching feelings with the wrong woman,,, I'm lovable How could he not wanna be with me😥
I finally understood. Really thank you.
You're welcome!
Chingow!!!!!! People deal with the TRUTH maybe then you could heal💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Excellent explanation...seriously Matt, great video! 👍
This video is spot on for me. Can't speak for all men though.
Thank you💙
You're welcome!
Like he’s being a bit distance but still texted me morning and stuff and I said if you don’t want me then just say it but he avoids that when I tell him that so idk what to do I think am going to keep my distance
I should’ve watched this a week ago. I met this guy at a restaurant I worked at I was a hostess and he was a party promoter and at first we were very causal I thought he was good looking but we were just on a cool level until about a month after we first met he asked for my insta we chatted a bit and then we met up and then we had sex. It was so sweet because he cuddled me the whole night and even ate breakfast together the next day, after I left his home he waited hours to text back and his communication slowly stopped. So a week later I’ve been patient and all he does is watches my insta stories and likes old pics on my insta but never texts me back any more. I feel played and used
I even know a few of his friends so I wouldn’t expect him to cross that line with me, given that I thought we were friends to start off
Let's chat. I'm going thru this same shit rn. Ugh
That’s why I would never cuddle and spend the entire night with a man and have breakfast with him unless he was my boo. Creates way too much intimacy when he hasn’t earned that yet
Block his a$$
How did this end up? I’m experiencing the same this currently. Curious to know how this played out for you.
Thank you
Matt...I enjoy your videos and I agree with a lot of what you say. But in this video, I think there is a good percentage of men who are just looking to get laid and that is it - all ages of men.They are not relationship material for women. I can say this because I know 2 men who are like this. One is a very close relative and the other is a friend that I have known for 35 years. Both of these guys will wine and dine a female only looking for sex. They come in and out of a woman's life until she ends it. Or they will end it because they find something they don't like, the woman may start to like him more, or he doesn't like the way she laughs, or chews her food. Then they disappear. Or they keep dating until they become bored of the sex and need a new conquest. Every man on the planet knows exactly what he is doing. I don't believe men pull away due to biological reasons. This happens way too frequently.
Ger R it's an easy concept. "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free." -- women nowdays give in to sex way too early before they even get to know a guy and get attached fast. Men think oh she was way too easy, I didn't have to go hunt and "win" her over, so they move on to the next conquest. Women have conditioned men to not pursue them and be easy and for women to do the chasing instead. Society is turning women into the men and the men into the women, biology doesn't work like that.
Exactly, Matt! Men pull away because of the social conditioning that has been going on since the '60's. This isn't biology. This is free sex, easy sex. The invention of the pill gave women a whole new outlook on sex. "I can have all the sex I want & not get pregnant." True, but along with that brought the unforeseen issues: more std's, HIV, more broken hearts, etc.... Women need to hear from you and other coaches to stop giving away sex so easily if they want to truly find love from a man. Todays technology has only exacerbated the problem with Tinder and other apps promoting hooking up. I haven't heard one coach address this problem. I would love to see you do a few videos on this topic and address women and tell them to stop chasing men, stop hooking up, should we ever ask a man out or not as the initial contact, when is sex appropriate/timing with someone new, should women make initial contact with men they like on dating websites or not, if not-then what, etc...... I know far too many women and have read endless stories of women who were broken hearted over a guy who they thought "really liked them", who suddenly dropped them and moved onto the next conquest. And the cycle repeats and repeats. It's an unspoken epidemic. One thing that I remember from your video is you saying something to the effect of a guy saying "I see all these women I want to have sex with, but can't find one to marry". That really bothered me.
Yeah, I've been talking a lot about this... it's a big challenge and a big topic to address
Commitment Connection - Relationship Advice Thank you, Matt!
Ger R
Absolutely right! Thx a lot for your comment. 😊 Coz, this vid Matt did, well... it wasn't a good one. 😔
This content give me a vision of right thought...i think this is.... what is going on now a days....
i know why the guy i was married to.... well one of the reasons why he pulled away from me, i dont have blonde hair. lol he knows what im talking about. lol
Then he's an idiot. Move on!
What if he pull and push just like a pattern ?does it a sign of something or what? Is he a narcissist??coz i just want to believe that it’s just hormonal reasons
Mary, ask in our community... facebook.com/groups/goddesscommunity
Lust is not love. They get afraid or pregnancy or a real relationship or don't want this woman really or run to have sex with others also.
Ok so if no man feels that way about me it’s my fault?
not at all! i know right he sounds like it’s the women’s fault if she gets intimate. that just tells me he wasn’t serious from the beginning..Good don’t waste my valuable time 🙏🏽
Good video but I didn't hear how to deal with it
Don’t have sex until theres an emotional connection with him on his side not yours.
Plus he watching and studying you the whole time you’re dating and calculating if your a good fit for him. He is more logical and practical about a long term relationship.
What is emotional intimacy? Won’t emotional intimacy makes a guy driven by emotion? Still not understanding why men pull away after platonic emotional intimacy
Ask in our community... facebook.com/groups/goddesscommunity
Coach Michael - So if intimacy is built with women after sex but NOT with men then sex with an ex would not be productive in helping to rebuild a connection?
That's correct
Girl. Why would you regurgitate. An ex is an ex for a reason. Going back to an ex is like eating your own vomit.
You didn’t really explain how to handle it tho... what should u do if they do pull away?
Jessica Tittarelli do nothing, do not start chasing the man.
Don't do anything. Lean back, do YOU, stay busy with your life. He will come back and chase you, if he is the right man for you
Let him go. If he doesn't come back, consider that the best present ever! Move on.
But a women shouldn't sleep with a man until she's been with him awhile and for me I have to be in love with him.
If he calls me the next day is that a good sign lmao ?
😂😂
Yea
Yes
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
and what if he doesn’t call u
What will he think if he came twice and woman had no orgasm at all bc she needs to get to know him better
He texts me the next day after that it increases exponentially . Poor guy. I don t know how to help
Delicate flowers with special needs!
Men always move on after sex, that's why I will wait until I get married or I will just stay single and alone forever.
Sex is not worth it.
No thanks
okay I haven't had sex with him but made him finish. It's been like this for years and after I made him finish after 3rds year he is acting distant.
3:10
This makes no sense...what about sex with your ex? Especially, after he said he wants a brand new start? Sex was part of the relationship before.. then he does a disappearing act..I think it's more like "playing games."
Grow with ??? He needs to be grown up to commit. . . How can he grow and be committed at the same time ? Its one or the other. Be a grown up or grow up and commit . dont hold her in Limbo. Its horrible to go through limbo with a man and not know. Give her commitment or go before she falls in love with you and before sex not after. He's only gonna steal your soul not just your virginity or your heart. But instead send you to hell with him unless he marries you before sex.
Men do not know how to commit.
Hi how man dates should a women wait to I have sex? Thank you.
It's about the quality of the dates like how much has he seriously invested into you and how strongly connected he is with you mentally emotionally first.
You said nothing about how to handle it.....
Let him pull away. If you did your job getting him hooked Before sex, he will come back. DO NOT CHASE HIM. No spamming, calling, texting. Just relax and be cool. Give him space to work it out.
He pulls away because he never wanted to get you pregnant and he realizes he could have and he doesn't want a kid. Its simple and plain as the nose on your face. If all he wants is sex he will have sex and move on if he wants true commitment he won't try to have sex with you till your married. Its as simple as that. Get it right. Emotional or not its not an excuse to pull away.
He isn't man enough to own up to the fact he could have made a kid so he pulls back and waits to find out if your pregnant then he trays again or moves on to another victim ... (Woman )
Post nut clarity
Yeah ... its a man thing ...
It's a woman thing. Women are smarter; women are more sensitive; women have more to loose! The worse thing women do is to allow men to lead their emotional relationship. Men usually don't know what their doing or where their going. Because women feel they "need" a man, they all too often let it happen. The "doing" becomes about his orgasm, and the "going" becomes about NOWHERE! Women need to teach, direct and lead a man to his best self; to what he really wants.
Biologically women have had to adjust and leave their infant babies at home so they can return to work. Why are men so slow to evolve
Men have evolved too... the problem is that men and women have both evolved into something the other doesn't want.
For some reason women aren’t ok with sitting in a house and taking care of the kids. They want to be men and do all the men stuff but also want a man that’s submissive but not too submissive. It’s just never perfect for y’all. And men today have to act like women or y’all will say we have “toxic masculinity”. The problem came after y’all got more privilege than deserved. That’s how I see it
Woman we men pull away after sex to see if you actually value your body and go after the man you gave your body to. A woman that doesn’t do this let us know she’s getting ran thru by other guys.
Awful