Depression | Treatment Options
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- Опубликовано: 31 май 2024
- Discover how to cope with depression in this discussion with clinical psychiatrist, Dr. Sue Varma, and MedCircle host, Kyle Kittleson. This powerful mental health interview can help you better understand how to cope with depression and loneliness, how the signs of depression can indicate what therapy or medication may be best,
00:00 Intro
00:31 Can depression be cured?
01:48 Likeliness of recurrence
03:26 Medications: you need to know this
05:47 How to cope without medication
07:18 How to find the right therapist for you
11:20 Fad treatments to avoid
13:03 Distress tolerance toolkit
16:06 "I rolled my eyes at that coping strategy"
18:17 When anxiety co-occurs with depression
19:37 Kyle's view on social media
20:52 "Wherever you go, here you are"
22:23 Why "treating depression is knowing yourself"
23:00 Why "we compare our insides to other people's outsides"
24:28 Kyle's life changing perspective
26:47 How to watch this full series
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her dress' shoulders are a flash out of yesteryear
smartphones, except for business are a scourge on society
@@thexpax Yet here you are, a stranger to me, expressing yourself on my smartphone. It’s definitely a double-edged sword. I get it.❤
"We compare our insides with other people's outsides"..... A template of what not to do!
This is so true. And it’s a horrible pattern to develop.
Also very profound.
True! Avoid meeting your heroes- Famous authors, athletes, musicians, actors. Many of them use their unique talents to mask who they REALLY are. I meet them one on one and it often is shocking and disappointing. Take a selfie with your hero then move on. 🤔😵💫
Jordan Peterson says instead of comparing yourself to someone else today, compare yourself to who you were yesterday
@@laurendermody I always kinda questioned this piece of advice. It looks good on paper, but in the real world, will other people compare you with who you were yesterday? Or will they compare you with whom somebody else is today? After all, how other people see and treat us does have an impact on our mental health.
I've been there with depression.
I hope that whoever feels low and unmotivated, gets the rest and validation that their soul needs. A simple "I care and I'm listening to you" could be all a person with depression needs to hear and then to see that speaker walk their talk without judgement and with love; that means so much more than lip service. Trust is EVERYTHING.
I been suffering depression for about 25 years at various levels from not so depressed to as far as going completely off the rails. For me the triggers has mainly been issues I'm family life because of the school I attended and what happened during those school years and then the biggest of all was the loss of someone who I grew up with all my life and that was what really made me go off the rails one of the most hardest things I proby ever had to deal with in life
But I got through it with visits to my doctor medication and so on but I really never had that much support
The depression took its toll on my life it ended a chance of a career as a commercial airline pilot before it even begun lost a few friends because I wasn't so friendly anymore
But it actually took me getting on a plane moving to another country and starting a whole new life that really put me on the road to recovery being in a new country offered me a whole new lease of life with new things to explore new things to experience and later ended up with a wife and a whole new family tho the family is a bit of a disaster especially the mother inlaw but having 2 sisters and 1 brother in-law was gold especially the w sisters they really have me focus for first 4 years as I took them under my wing and gave them the attention and care they really needed as they never got much of either from their parents brother was elsewhere doing his thing tho now he is in hospital suffering depression quite serious also and the wife was always jealous of the sisters so yep the sister they gave me something to focus on as I was the one who took them to school picked them up after school helped them with English and other school work but most of all helped them be more confident and comfortable with them selves and helped them get out of this conservative nonsense some people live by here so the sisters can lead a better life without being blind by nonsense rules and now they are living a better life as adults so am happy that my experience in life has at least helped them avoid potential downfall mentally
But on my regular checkups with doctor I had been diagnosed with what she said is suppressed depression meaning it's still there affecting me in some ways as I have noticed my moods are a bit strange like auto pilot not laughing at things that should be laughed at and a new other minor things but in general I am not as bad as used to be
And if I was to give advise to anyone else and obviously advise does depend on each person but I would say if all possible is to break away from whatever causes you to be stressed and depressed especially break away from anything that has caused trauma in one's life and avoid constant reminders
Maybe find a new place to settle and start again doesn't need to be another country like I did haha but another town or city would help maybe a beach front town or country side clean fresh air quite and peaceful
And sharing your experiences with others who are experiencing depression can often help that is if one is ready and willing to talk about things but one should not rush or be rushed into discussing their experience pressure never helps
Psychedelics helped me deal with my addiction. Having suffered anxiety and depression as well. I must say taking them turned my life around. I started micro dosing and just in a couple days I noticed major changes in my stress levels, depression, and everything else. It’s been really great. After battling with these for years little did I know that shrooms will save me.
I’ve heard so much and I really want to try them too. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
I was having this constant and unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across dr.coxx, a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
He’s on insta?
yeah mate.. @ dr.coxx
The trips I've been having has helped me a lot, I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have a lot more empathy as well
The calmness and soothing tone of her voice in therapy itself.
Psilocybin containing mushrooms save my life. The drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit
Psychedelic’s definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it’s just so hard to source here
@@Carson272 I've been having constant, unbearable anxiety because of university. dr.sporess is a life saver.
He’s on Insta
I am feeling the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
Tripping is not really bad but find a good mycologist Who will teach you the right things you need to know
I had knee surgery in July 2022 and am in recovery. I haven't exercised and have been eating less, I think that triggered my depression
I’m self diagnosed ASD and found that depression has been a result of not having a purpose or bigger vision in my life. She’s right. The moment your brain and synaptic patterns reach a depression response, it will be easier and faster to fall into depressive episodes because the brain loves habit. It wants to be efficient and it does not discriminate what patterns it uses. It doesn’t know harmful from non harmful. That’s where your insight comes in to redirect and, very vigorously, keep choosing a healthier pattern.
Giving up is easier
Self diagnosed? Umm. No.
Lot's of wisdom in this video. Dr. Sue is wicked smart. I'd love to have her as a therapist.
Her voice is amazing for ASMR.
i really liked dr sue varma. she sounds serious,focused,attentive. i also liked that qoute “There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live.”.
What a brilliant video. I’m suffering with depression. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for supporting mental health education. 💙
Sumaira, To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I have BPD, suicidal thoughts and behaviors, self harm, gad.
I found out over 48 years, meds don't work on me but I went to a hospital who gave me ECT treatment. This works for me.
Symptoms👇
Feelings of sadness, tearfulness, emptiness or hopelessness.
Angry outbursts, irritability or frustration, even over small matters.
Loss of interest or pleasure in most or all normal activities, such as sex, hobbies or sports.
Sleep disturbances, including insomnia or sleeping too much.
Finding the right therapist is the biggest problem not to mention insurance, lack of providers currently, and lack of other factors like transportation/time/outside support. I have finally found an excellent counselor but currently I can barely see him once a month because of the high demand for mental health services and the shortage of professionals in my area.
I’m can use from other auras and do on zoom
Theyr is a lot of help if ur looking to focus on sulotion
Especially when you're dealing with people who don't want to see you grow or continue to do the same thing that happened to you when you was a child and you're younger days
I'm officially diagnosed clinical major depressive disorder, PTSD, major anxiety, and BP. I'm on one anti depressant and one anti anxiety med but at extremely low dose.
I don't drink or do drugs. My physical illness are great. My biggest problem now is exhaustion. Mentally and physically exhausted. I feel like I have been fighting against my illnesses . ( my depression is from about the age of 11 and I'm now 58)
@Wang Dong News Network who are you?
I am in the similar place energy wise, I am working with my team and exploring autism, HSP etc and to see if I am missing out on any techniques to manage my limited energy from depression. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired.
Thank you Kyle for being so open on depression and asking questions. I’ve had psychiatrists who just want to manage medication 💊 and not treat other issues that arise along with depression, including medication that no longer is working.
i wish there was an instrument which can measure depression . nobody can understand what one undergoes during chronic depression . the anxiety attacks off . its soo hard , when u get up the anxiety and chronic fear gets up along with u .
hot baths have kept me alive, especially when my thoughts are going haywire and i need to get thru the night
Dr. I just love you for saying that about loving your patients and wanting that ‘best outcome! How professional!
Thank you for being open
This has got to be one of the most practical videos I have seen dealing with depression! So many practical and insightful gems were dropped!
I haven't watched any mental health videos in so long and I am just shocked at how much I took away from this! Thank you for you and Dr. Varma!
Amazing video as always, thanks for all you do
How she speaks it's full of HOPE if every MD Psychiatrist has compassion for all the patients I think can heal a lot of people .how she said about prevention is a very great IDEA I never hear this to a doctor they just talk and give you script. I wish there were a lot of people like her.🙏
Great interview! Really informative and helpful. Thank you!
This was so helpful. Thanks.
Great videos. I subscribed on your website because the ratio of information one gets for the price is really good. Keep it up!
I really like when you touch on the topic of coping with medication - I think this will resonate with so many and help them understand the options they have to manage their depression.
Thank you so much for the video, I find it so helpful and help me understand more about my depression.
She's so brilliant. ty
I was very happy with the therapist that I went to see, she had a honest nonjudemental profile. She encouraged me to be honest with my feelings and to follow my dreams.
What I loved about this discussion is that it is solid informed advice not inane quick fixes there is honesty truth and intelligence here thankyou
This is a really very good session. Thanks
I have a dog named Boaz. I call him Bo. I also take Prozac so on occasion I call my dog Bozac since he’s my pet therapy! What up Bozac!
This is the most helpful and resourceful contents for me in person. Thank you so much Doctor.
I hope I can get out of this long, dark tunnel that I stuck in. I haven't been severly depressed in my opinion, but suffered from anorexia for 7 years.
Even though I reached out for theraphy recently, I feel guilty as I might use depression for doing nothing productive. I am scared that med makes me feel better but I might not be able to fully recovered.
Deep despair, while considered an illness, has a helpful use: ego-less introspection and shifting of position.
This was great thanks
Very good information thanks
Yes social media can really bother people.
Well hello young man from California . What a fantastic interview If I could I would move to New York just to see and get an appointment with this fabulous Dr I'm in California going threw the darkness. I'm a bit lost but I know and have the tools. Right now I'm in the process and doing my homework in finding the right therapist joing a gym and getting back my relationship with God and went back to church and praying. I'm thrilled to finally comeback I truly missed me because I have so much to give and I ready to be the best I can be for my heavenly father myself and my family. Thank you for starting and giving direction. This is a AHA moment and I'm running with it. LET THE GAMES BEGAN. You Both have just giving the JOY and a purpose. LOVE YOLi from California. AMEN!
Thank you for this ❤ I am on my 4th episode (within 17 years) and listening to this gives me comfort. Thank you!
Can you please tell me how long does one episode last usually? I’ve developed depression a month ago and it was triggered by my panic attack
@@dolcevitaslots it can vary a lot. I've had (untreated) depressive episodes that have lasted years. I've found they're shorter and less intense if I do the things that I know make me feel good (keep my space clean, exercise, eat well, socialize, go to therapy, etc.) Sorry you're having a hard time I hope you feel better soon.
@@stevenjacobs2750 thank you for replying! This is very new to me and I have not started my medication yet. I can still function but no joy, motivation and lots of fatigue. Constantly online reading about it, doesn’t make it better. I’m too scared to start the meds. I’m so exhausted
This was very interesting thanks
Thank you.
Love the video, thank you. I do have a request that the host wears a mic. The reverb in the room is a bit distracting from what he’s trying to say.
I wish doctors could talk more about connecting with your intuition/inner wisdom to help with mental health issues. That's the only thing that's worked for me.
That didn’t work for me
@@user-wb1vm9ex4k that's nice
I’ve been dealing with major depression for decades. I’ve been in and out of therapy. Been on meds since the 80’s. I’ve had multiple major episodes. The struggles are more challenging. I didn’t know the info about increased risk of future episodes once you’ve experienced a major episode.
Kendi, That is surprising. I am sure you must have met a psychologist. Action needs to be taken quickly. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
How did you get this far? I have been battling with clinical depression for about 12 years and I am very tired, it is the unbearable burden.
@@deanvo503 I won’t lie, there have been some very dark moments. There are times I still wish I could just seize to exist, but my daughter keeps me going. 19 years ago her father collapsed while we were out as a family and passed the next day. My daughter was 9. I had to survive. She needed a parent. It was much more difficult after my father suicided, at my house, a couple of years after my husband died. I suffered from depression from my pre-teen years, but these losses have weighed me down for nearly 20 years. I take my meds. And I’ve seen various therapists over the years, but finances have made consistent therapy an issue. I usually don’t get pack into therapy until my rope is frayed and my grip is slipping. This channel has helped and I remind myself that my daughter wants me around.
I don’t think I’ve found the right therapist. Although I am still alive.
Don’t give up @Deanvo. You are not alone.
@@shyaaammeneen63 are you a counselor? I’ve had 7 therapists over the past 40 years. I’ve tried traditional talk, EMDR, hypnosis, etc. I’ve recently been considering TMS but I have Covid brain so that makes me nervous. With all the therapy I’ve had, I don’t recall any of them telling me that the likelihood of additional episodes increases. They definitely are increasing and my daily functioning is being negatively effected - I worry about losing my job because I can’t function. It’s terrifying. Thank you for the relaxation suggestions.
@@deanvo503 To feel better read the msg I sent you and do the simple practice regularly. Best wishes. Sr. Counsellor.
Thank
Having severe depression you can't find the will to do the therapy most of the time. If all I can think of is suicide I have trouble finding the will to keep myself alive. I know all of the things that can make me better but I can't find the will to do it. I don't feel pleasure from anything.
I love the endorsement of DBT for thing other than BPD.
Sue’s heels are just awesome
This was an excellent video. Dr Sue is so intelligent and clearly passionate about what she does. As is Kyle; he has great interviewing skills and always has something thoughtful to say/ask. I wholeheartedly agree with what was said about having things put in place to prevent your depression from worsening or coming back, especially if you’re deciding to go off medication.
I resisted the idea of antidepressants from the age of 14 and suffered for many years because of it. I’m currently medicated for the first time since then, and while things aren’t perfect and I definitely need to do some tweaking with what I’m on, i finally feel hope that there’s a way out of feeling miserable all the time. I think lifestyle interventions/TEMPORARILY going on medication works for people who are in a crappy, temporary situation in their life. However, for those of us whose brains are wired in an unfortunate way that makes existing feel unbearably painful for no real reason, sometimes no amount of cbt/dbt, exercising, improving nutrition is going to help. Some people need to be on medication forever if they want their head to stay above water, and there shouldn’t be any stigma attached to that.
Temporary is nice, but when mental health systems are broken you end up clinging to meds. I've been in the hospital multiple times due to withdrawal from trying to taper down venlafaxine (been on for over a decade). It's hard-core shit and shouldn't be taken lightly. It's also distributed *way too easily.*
@@DA-js7xz I completely agree. I think a huge chunk of people experience depression as a result of psychosocial factors (low income, lack of social supports, poor living situation) and would benefit so much more from having these things changed. I also think a lot of people would get enough benefit from dbt/cbt and not need medication. Sadly you can’t always change these factors or access affordable therapy, and in situations like this, medication is often the most feasible option for a lot of people. With that said, I DO think ssris/snris are prescribed way too often and side effects are downplayed or flat out not mentioned by physicians, especially the withdrawal effect they cause.
I don't agree with your analysis - I've suffered from depression for 40 years, so definitely not temporary, but I prefer methods other than medication after having a very bad experience with mental health drugs.
But I agree that there shouldn't be any stigma - we should be able to do what helps us best, free from judgement. I'm judged because I keep saying no to my doctors whose first port of call is the prescription pad.
Thankfully, one of the doctors at my surgery really listened to me last year and I was finally referred to a therapist. It not only helped me cope at that time, I came away with coping strategies to stop me falling so easily into that black pit.
I have found that exercise is fantastic for depression; the only problem is it's hard to be motivated to go when you're in a deep depressive state. I only found out about its benefits when I had to go to the gym for rehabilitation after an op. I felt my mood lift, which was a great side effect! Yet I still find it hard to spur myself now.
Whatever helps you - keep doing it! Wishing you good mental health.
I love Kyle's reactions. I laugh every time
Hi . Iv been suffering from depression for most of my adult life. I’m now 74 years old. I’m on 150mg of setraline for 3-4 years but I’m still not feeling good. Can you please help me. Thank you.
Kyle. I'm so sorry you are dealing with depression. You are such an interesting + neat person. I think you would get alot more people to watch your videos if you would open up more but your personal thoughts + take the audience on your personal journey with your struggle with depression. So many of us are curious as to where + why you are depressed + would like to
understand how you cope + share in
empathizing with you as you go through your life's journey if you would like to have people witness what you are going through+ rooting for you as you face your regular challenges day by day , week by week...There are many like myself that find you easy to care about + we want to see you get more successful in your life + personal relationships, +would be happy to be able to encourage you along. You would actually be fun to care about on a regular basis either daily or every few days. It would be beneficial for Others to sit through an actual psychological session to see how much these psychologists can help you with your depression.
Good therapists are rare and expensive.
I accept my meds. Grateful that they support me. I will stay on 150 a day for life.
Nice stuff
If your depression is cured, then it wasn’t depression.
I’m currently suffering from anxiety and depression. I feel like my life is all over the place. My primary physician wants me to see a psychiatrist but my problem is that I have private insurance thru my job but it has a high deductible. I even scheduled the appointment but they call me and told me I have to pay 338.00 the first visit the follow up $235.00. And that is not counting medicines. I had to cancel the appointment. I can’t afford it. The medicines that my doctor has prescribed me are not working. So at this point I feel so helpless. Like nobody wants to help me. I don’t know where else to go. If I keep living this way I’m not going to be able to function at work. I’m scared . Sorry for the long post I don’t have anyone to vent.
Hope you are doing better?
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This is COOL stuff.
It can be helpful or harmful when it comes to social media
What many people don’t realize about medication is how profoundly addictive it is (both physically and psychologically). Getting off the drugs induces intense chemical depression and other terrible withdrawal symptoms that can last years in some people. Not many people are willing to brave that storm, which I understand, but let’s not just call it “the depression coming back”. Also, these drugs are not magic bullets and fail to produce positive long term effects in many people
Yeah I keep hearing that it relieves depression but also damages you in a different way just by taking 💊medication. I'm not sure what to think.
100%. These drugs are distributed way too easily and don't treat the external factors that cause your body to trigger into depression. It temporarily provides a bandaid until you plateau. It's akin to taking allergy pills every day instead of learning what the allergen is, and avoiding it in the first place.
I've been on venlafaxine for >10 years and it has landed me in the hospital multiple times due to withdrawal - even when slowly tapering over the course of a year.
The medical community are finally acknowledging that longterm antidepressant use causes severe withdrawal, and not "discontinuation syndrome"...which they used to call it. Absolute bullshit.
Medication should only be distributed in dire circumstances. Therapy should be provided free (or heavily subsidized) from the government first. We need to learn how to listen to ourselves; not shut things off
@@tabatas.m.2689 What way does it damage you? I am taking the medication right now but I am at a point where I need to be taken care of even though I am young and physically healthy, so I didn't really have much of a choice, before anyone jumps on me proposing meditation and fresh air.
Cognitive behavioural Therapy. What does it do? How do one solve their problems with this therapy. Thanks
any video on adoption healing as an adult?
I’ve been depressed for so long I have no hope,
The problem with pharmaceuticals, is that they are distributed way too easily and don't treat the external factors that cause your body to trigger into depression. It temporarily provides a bandaid until you plateau. It's akin to taking allergy pills every day instead of learning what the allergen is, and avoiding it in the first place.
I've been on venlafaxine for >10 years and it has landed me in the hospital multiple times due to withdrawal - even when slowly tapering over the course of a year.
The medical community are finally acknowledging that longterm antidepressant use causes severe withdrawal, and not "discontinuation syndrome"...which they used to call it. Absolute bullshit.
Medication should only be distributed in dire circumstances. Therapy should be provided free (or heavily subsidized) from the government first. We need to learn how to listen to ourselves; not shut things off.
I just need a break. I’m tired.
What do you do when you can not take medications after trying over 10 of them due to side effects?
We're in same situation Heather Winer
Eith3r,u stay or just go .
I don't take medication. I tell myself that I will, but I had a bad experience with one that left me with terrifying sleep paralysis for years, and I get too scared, even though I know that mental health drugs have improved since then.
After break downs and times when I've collapsed, I have found other ways through it.
I have low grade depression constantly in the background; anxiety is a real issue, which I'm sure contributes to the major depressive episodes; and I have issues with suicide ideation, which I have only been close to carrying out a couple of times - the first when I was 10 or 11 years old. But the thoughts are exhausting, and it's difficult to move forward in your life when you're constantly thinking about ending it.
So, I've been dealing with depression since I was a child, and I know why. That's the other reason I don't want drugs - I know its root cause is things that have happened in my life, not hormonal or hereditary. I think that if you're dealing with depression, but you have no idea why, perhaps you really should try medication. I don't know (obviously).
What I have done is be careful not to drink alone, try and avoid buying too much bad food (if my snacks are pots of hummus and bunches of grapes, I'll eat that rather than just packets of crisps and biscuits, on days when I struggle to even eat a dinner), and trying to stay in contact with family and friends - it's too easy for me to cut myself off. They know about my depression - I hide it, but I've told them - and I will get calls if I've gone dark.
DVT sounds great - it seems similar to the approach in one of the best therapy books I've read, by a British psychotherapist who believes in combining CBT with traditional therapy, so that past issues are addressed along with changing behaviour and thinking patterns. (From the library and I can't remember the title or author's name 🙁)
I believe in writing as therapy. (Look up "Writing from the Source") I write about the past and try to put it in perspective (a word of warning - it's bloody hard and it hurts), I write down how I'm feeling, why, and how I'm going to deal with it. Writing helps me to take a step back from my mental state and examine it a little more objectively. I think that having tools from therapy sessions makes this possible - including the therapy books I've read.
I've had CBT, in the past, and I try and follow what I learned. I have taken an assertiveness training course, which helped me be kinder to myself, as well as learning to be more assertive and practice better boundary control (I have a way to go). Last year I had traditional talking therapy over the phone, which was helpful but I didn't learn anything new about myself, and my counselor told me that I should consider studying to become a counselor myself. It did help me to reset and practice the skills that I have learned to help myself.
The first new thing I've learned about myself was in one of these videos about boundaries. That was super helpful, and has given me yet another tool to add to my armoury.
I agree with taking a bath or a shower when you are feeling really bad. Water is therapeutic, but I also think that the change in your physical state (being wet, warm or cool, smelling the soap, feeling clean) can help you to reset. It also helps you to cry, when water is running down your face, which is also therapeutic. It releases hormones which help you to start feeling better, plus both the bath/shower and the cry can help you to have a relaxing, refreshing, deep sleep afterwards.
I can't, otherwise, cry when I'm in a deep depression - I go numb. Not feeling anything, including love, is horrible, and I know that I don't want to go there - yet again.
I know that one of my triggers is negative thinking - thinking badly about myself, thinking that other people must think badly about me, feeling that I will lose my family and friends (so I avoid them), unwelcome thoughts of bad things happening to the people I love - these thoughts become overwhelming and if they take hold, I can't push them out. I hate myself and I don't want to be in the world anymore.
Then, anxiety takes over, and the continual using up of adrenaline wears me out and I physically collapse as well as mentally.
So, I have to regulate my thinking in order to avoid this pattern from repeating. As I said, writing helps. It's easier for me to be rational with words on a page.
I hope that some of my coping methods might help, or you might already be doing the same and I've reminded you. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you good mental health and equilibrium.
Apologies, I've re-read your comment about not being able to take medication, so my comment about trying doesn't apply to you.
Oh wow... I wish I had a psychiatrist like her... mine just makes me feel like it’s all my fault
With regards to finding a therapist, it's not as easy as simply interviewing a therapist (or doctor for that matter) or two and finding the correct fit. Just getting that first appointment can cost money and waste precious time. What if you can't afford a therapist? What if you can't even find *one* much less a couple to talk to? I live in a large city and I'm fairly well off. If I have trouble finding a therapist (or doctor!) that fits my needs, what hope does someone who lives in the country or in a less well off urban center? Insurance plans put up way too many barriers to finding mental health help and sometimes therapists are just too expensive w/o insurance. For the billions of dollars of economic impact that mental health issues have on the world, you'd think this have a greater attention of the governments of the world - w/o the profit motivation.
I sure would love a nice warm bath but I don’t have the energy 🙁
I used 2 ask my aunt if she would never do drugs again (after a very serious event), she said not 2day henni, not 2day...
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2021 was the hardest, darkest time of my life. I was physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually BROKEN. But now I feel genuinely GRATEFUL and BLESSED that I had to go through that phase because GOD has graciously REVEALED Himself to me in miraculous ways. I am fortunate that He allowed me to know Him at a very young age, but this year is so much SPECIAL because of what WE (yes, GOD and me) have been through last year. He showed me how POWERFUL prayers truly are when I started to focus on WHO HE IS rather than who I am, on WHAT HE CAN DO rather than what I deserve. The experience was MAGICAL. He showed up BIG TIME and assured me that HE is indeed a LISTENING and RESPONDING GOD. Oh how my faith has skyrocketed as a result! Now more than ever, I have very bright HOPE for my future because I experienced first hand how RELIABLE God is. And for that I will forever be grateful. GLORY BE TO GOD, MY EVER FAITHFUL FATHER. ♥️♥️♥️
To everyone who's struggling right now, please know that JESUS LOVES YOU. HE DIED FOR YOU. He wants to help you and give you peace. Please surrender your burdens to Him and allow Him to move in your life.
"Because he loves Me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges My Name. He will call on Me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him." (Psalm 91:14-15)
Please hold on to this bible verse because WHATEVER GOD SAYS, HE FULFILLS. ✝️
I've lived with depression most of my life, I see no cure for me.
What about when you have been severely depressed due to grief from the unexpected loss of your husband in your arms for 2 1/2 years? Wanting to die every single day? Walked away from my 13 yr nursing career june 2020 which threw my depression down to a whole new level. I have no trust in the medical community. I did agree to an antidepressant. I still have been suicidal and so I agreed to a psychiatrist appointment. I have yet to answer the call to schedule the appointment. I’ve lost everything in my life. I have lost all identity of who I am. I have cried every single day for the last 2 1/2 years since I lost my husband. I think therapy isn’t going to help me. I’m so broken.
Angelic, it sounds so painful just reading it. Be hopeful. Pray hard for ease to come your way. You will become stronger from all these experiences. You would be surprised how resilient us humans can be. May you find the right strength to be in better space.
@@nargiskher147 if only I could get to that space
Psychiatrists are meant more for prescribing correct medications. Medications do help in short term situations. I do recommend that you try therapy. What you went through isn't the average person's experience that caused depression, I can't even imagine what that would be like to go through. That's why you need to find a really good therapist that is right for you. I am sure that in your life you have people that love you and care about you very much, and if you ended your life that would be a trauma for those people to go through. That is the only reason I justified therapy for myself, and I'm glad that I did. It got me through and it wasn't perfect, it didn't make the pain go away but it helped. What is $300 a month as opposed to there being no more months that the people you love on this planet get to see you? Depending on where you live, or what your insurance covers, you may be able to get free therapy or counseling. There are specialists in grief, there are grief therapy groups. My depression wasn't grief related but I hope that you find the courage to try and get help.
@@greylizard1040 thank you. When you are too weak to shower or make a phone call I feel like it’s impossible. I’ve become a pile of shit that no one wants to be near.
@@AngelicSunFlame I doubt that really matters to people who love you and care about you. It might be time to get up the courage to make a phone call and ask for help. There are very few people in this world who will say no, can you imagine yourself having that attitude towards someone who needs help? Maybe the bigger challenge is opening up. I hope you will find strength. ❤
The stomach should be looked at first since the majority of your serotyis produced in your stomach, I've had ibs since I was a kid and depression and panic disorder since 18 I have no doubt my stomach is responsible for the majority of my condition. In the process of continuously trying to improve my stomach health. Unfortunately the meds affect your stomach health kinda a catch 22 but hoping to obtain the money for more natural approaches to maximizing stomach health
I get this too. I get some horrendous stomach problems on SSRIs so can’t take them.
Is it possible to be depressed and being toxic, short tempered, give threatening etc, belittle people? I have a friend who is very short tempered, toxic also but also in depression, he has problems....Is it possible to be in depression and act like this? He doesn’t show sadness or killing himself. More irritable, anger and hatred....I just want to know is it possible that depression can change people mindset?
He can be in depression and act like this. But his depression isn't the cause of him being toxic and abusive. That's his responsibility whatever reason it is. Don't let him off
Everything is a cycle, though. It's just how long you can push the cycle away from where you are now, right? You can push it to a week, then a month, then twelve, then a year, etc
“Don’t compare your inside to others outsides.” Rob Lowe to his son when they took him to college.
"the next hookup" will make me feel better
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Yes you can not heal what you don’t bring to light and face however long it takes !
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!This Dialog was like a Studie from a book, , but not like as a Dialog between two human being. .
Basically, its my stance that Depression can never be cured. For this reason... If say your spouse cheats on you, the offended party will forever relive this devastating moment for the rest of their lives and no amount of treatment can make you forget this event. Thus you will always feel depressed. It has nothing to do with being able to deal/cope with the issue, bc having dealt with this myself and having gone through 4 therapists, not one has made me feel any better about the situation. And I only feel worse every single day. Medication doesn't make me feel any better so that's out of the question. Add talk therapy just doesn't fix the problem. It's like cutting off a person's arm and expecting to live a normal life or losing your child to cancer and expecting you to just get over it and move on like it never happened.
It sounds like you've had some bad therapy or were matched to the wrong therapist. Most wounds never heal, it is very much like having an arm cut off, you will never have that arm back. Therapy is supposed to be like looking very clearly and honestly at their arm being missing, followed by support and validation for your pain in losing that arm, then its about help with slowly building a mechanical arm and learning how to work it over time. You have to be open to doing difficult emotional work sometimes and forcing yourself to do things that are outside of your comfort zone. Some people have a lot of difficulty digging around in their memories and being honest with themselves. True therapy isn't about pretending the trauma never happened. I am truly sorry to hear about your pain and I hope you find a way to overcome that pain eventually.
@@greylizard1040 i often use the missing arm analogy..nothing can be done to regrow that arm. But regrowing the arm would 100% fix the issue.
Fortunately for me im way too open in my therapy sessions. I'm an open book waiting for my answer to be healed. Its totally on the therapist at that point. I'm thinking about the word elephant, make me forget the word elephant. A daunting task for the therapist. Perhaps even impossible.
@@nothingness55 Unfortunately a therapist cannot think your thoughts for you, they can only help you change the way that you think about painful events, the real work in your mind comes down to you. There is no miracle cure for trauma or depression. I still remember every awful thing I've experienced and it all hurts a little bit, but I used what I learned from those experiences to move on. Everyone is different. I wish you the best on your journey.
what about if you have legit worrys about your future because im unemployed 38 and living at my parents its ok now but what happens if one of them dies im going to probably be next to homeless and i have real anxiety about that and dont know what to do and the government here hasnt currently run outta housing options for homeless people.
If they die, won’t the home go to you through inheritance? Also, is there a reason that you’re unemployed?
@@user-wb1vm9ex4k its a rented house and im currently on sickness benefit but have been looking for work but have found nothing.
OK so I listen to one of your messages earlier today and the statistics for completely different and I don’t know what year that was but it was the same two of you I would just like it tell people that oh my goodness OK so if you have a depressive episode and you all want to call them when you’re talking about going into another Nother episode one of your episodes never end and you live like this for 40 years and you went from being a fighter and a helper and then now you’re no longer able to function and your family doesn’t give a shit they do because we’re strong people this is a completely different video then watch this morning. I I am I am born away because I don’t know how long ago videos were made but I can definitely say that the one I watch this morning and yesterday and one I’m watching tonight you are a completely different person all I want is help and I can’t Get help and you act like a depression is like situational or possibly just basically you at no for some of us it never goes away and I would like some help
50/60 years and I'm still depressed. treatment resistant, genetic testing indeterminate, not benefiting from therapy, happy doesn't seem to be how my brain wants to work. You get used to it, I guess because what else is there?
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Opiates at the proper dose made me stop drinking and doing other drugs and controlled my anxiety and depression. I have been on suboxone for 7 years and take 7 other psychiatric medications and I feel worse than I ever have. I feel no pleasure. I've cut off all relationships other than my mother so I can commit suicide after her death. I don't want to hurt anyone because I have experienced 3 suicides by my dad, uncle and wife.
Wait what if you don't like mindfulness
I’ve been dropped by 4 clinicians when I couldn’t feel better. Just a little discouraging.
This is the only site I find depression discussed without myths or biases.
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I think therapy won’t work for me because I’m extremely private and don’t feel comfortable discussing personal problems so I just won’t speak
I am the same way, but I found someone that I feel safe with. You may want to give it a try. 💚
What this woman who loves promoting medication fails to acknowledge is that a lot of depression is circumstantial and not chemical. For example the cost of living is making a lot of people depressed but I'm afraid a pill ain't going to pay the heating bill or make you feel any better about shivering your ass off next Winter because you can't afford it.
I think mindfulness is a fad that needs to take a huge step back in therapy. Don't get me wrong, it has its place and works for some people in various areas. But it seems to have become a catch-all in therapy and it frustrates me. Thinking about a tree doesn't fix everything. I've suffered from a ton of childhood psychological abuse and deal with agitated depression. There are days where I have such a mix of sadness and this bizarre internal energy which makes me feel like I want to cut all of the skin off my body and blow my head off with a shotgun. Thinking about trees doesn't help me in these moments. I'm so sick of mindfulness being thrown around for everything. I wish I could find a more psychoanalytic therapist. It blows my mind that some people have masters degrees and all they teach clients is how to slowly eat a raisin.
Not a huge fan of the usual pharmaceutical approach. If it actually really helps you, go for it. For a lot people even hardcore medication doesn't help and potentially harms you even more. In my experience a reevaluation of your whole life is necessary.
The right food, sports activities and meditation can really change your life. Also so blood tests and examine if you're lacking specific vitamins or minderals. I would always recommend to establish that in your life before turning to medication.
Totally agree. I have even seen several cases of medication making the depression much worse.
But how do I eat the right food if I can't eat at all? How do I do sports when I can't crawl out of bed to use the toilet? How do I go for a blood test when I wish all the worst for myself? I feel like I am stuck.
@@ZosiaSamosiaOo Start with meditation. Believe me, I was in a similar condition, but ultimately meditation made a huge difference. I love the meditations from "Rising higher meditations" here on RUclips. Be open-minded towards it, but don't have too many expectations. Just try it.
You will notice positive changes after a while.