HAIIIII. OKAY so about the fees thing, again .. the price varies. I saw someone say "omg $2000" but I couldn't find the comment. When the dues are higher, there are usually more things included (e.g. if there is a conference coming up, your registration, hotel, and travel are usually paid for .. maybe even a meal or two, etc.) so it's deeper than the surface shows. People with lesser fees will likely have to come out of pocket and ultimately end up paying the difference. So yeah it sounds intimidating but different orgs & chapters operate differently. Hope this helps to clear up some of that confusion.
People see these orgs as just being social, but forget the very important fact that they’re also businesses. Most of what you said falls in line with things you wouldn’t ask a person who works for a company you would like to join.
I'm truly not trying to be the devils advocate but, most of these young people haven't been around a Black Greek Culture and most are very intimidated by a claimant that's unfamiliar to them. I went to law school in Texas and I would get approached by many of the undergrad students asking about my organization. As a result, many of the undergrad students were scared to approach undergrad members on the yard but, will approach me because I'm older. Let's remember the yard is are community and you will have immaturity Intrest because their young just like we once were.
I donated 3 bins of shoes to AKA for an event. Is that a good way to show interest? I'm nervous because I am older than the traditional student. I don't want to be rejected because of my age.
No problem! Sometimes things get lost in translation so I can definitely understand the feeling of messing up and I hope this showed how to better address asking those questions. Don’t be scared, we’re all regular folk at the end of the day .. we just completed the process already.
-Always ask the dues and initiation fees. Yeah, everyone is different, but you are asking the people for the chapter that you want to join so you need to know their answer. - Its ok to ask what is expected of you. Of course they wont tell you all the details because some things are secret, but you cant expect people to want to join but you dont tell them ANYTHING. -Someone asking how to be recruited sounds like they are asking how to join. I think that is a reasonable question. I agree with your other NO questions tho. Those are kinda socially awkward lol.
I’ve seen a lot of Greeks in frats like Phi Beta Lambda (business) and Phi Alpha Delta (law) and especially a lot in Kappa Kappa Psi and Tau Beta Sigma (both band orgs) .. so yes.
I love that you both replied.... I'm really debating because we don't have an active chapter of just about anything in my immediate vicinity... so I'm really doing my research on if I need to move or not... thanks guys
Please Help! I asked an org about missing an informational on IG and if there would be a similar even!! I thought interest meetings and information also were different.. What do I do? Will I be blackballed? Should I talk to them about it? I have no Greek friends or family so it was an honest mistake.
You posted that in the comments? Some stuff really is up to the chapters .. because I honestly can’t tell you what they’re thinking but they definitely won’t (or shouldn’t) respond to that question exactly. You’ll really have to just wait until the next go round because I’d you missed the “rush” meeting there’s no going around it. Informational and interest meetings are different but what you are explaining sounds like the interest meeting for rush. You could ask questions but, what they can honestly tell you may be limited.
I sent a message on instagram to one chapter letting them know that I got accepted to the spring semester for the school and I would be coming in as a junior. I asked them if I still had a chance to get in. Is that a bad question? I also told them that I didn't grow up in America or knowing sororities meaning I needed a bit more information from them. Is that bad?
I wouldn't say "bad" but that's one of the questions that you may not really get an answer to .. because they won't tell you that you can't pursue membership simply because you're a junior and at the same time, they can't give you a real answer of whether you have a chance to get in until the process begins (there are GPA requirements, community service requirements, recommendation letter requirements, etc.) so it's deeper than just what's on the surface. There are members in organizations from all over the world but, the best place to start understanding the meaning of sororities is just by doing your research (as you have began by watching this video and hopefully others like it) .. so continue to do your part and I'm sure they'll be able to help guide you when the time is right.
Locally, at my school the AKAs were everywhere. They had a lot of events, scholarship opportunities, and overall they just seemed like cool people I would enjoy being around. I don’t come from a family of Greeks (I had 1 cousin that’s an AKA and 1 that’s a Zeta that I knew of at that time) so I really just had to do my research. After doing my research I had a lot of reasons why I chose this org over others .. but what really stood out to me most nationally was when I was entering, one of the targets under the International President was called “Emerging Young Leaders.” It focused on reaching in to middle schools & talking to young girls & just being a mentor for them in general, which tied back to the purpose of the org. At that point I was REALLY interested in juvenile justice/helping do away with negative stigmas for the youth (my undergrad major was criminal justice) .. so I was like YES! This is the one lol. Thankfully after I joined I had the opportunity to plan a few of the EYL events. We did simple things like talk about our majors, mock voting, and we even just went to have a spa day where we painted their nails and stuff. It was awesome! I was so sad when the target changed from that lol but then it switched to high schoolers which was cool too.
The most confusing vid..... Why on Earth would people not ask these questions? Popular culture has presented orgs in a way that allow for these stereotypes to exist. Even if these stereotypes aren’t true some people may ask them. Shouldn’t members have more compassion for people’s ignorance? It’s not like Greek orgs are free flowing with information about the org ins and outs of the org. Therefore, people will be inclined to ask questions. Respond to “annoying” questions with grace.
Because people may not ANSWER them. Alternatives were suggested that were “easier” .. just like you don’t ask people how much they make, it’s rude, right? People who choose not to answer don’t have compassion. Same thing. People can ask whatever they want but people also aren’t obligated to answer anything.
@@SheaMiller I think that it is time that we do better. Asking someone what they make is not the same as asking how much they paid for an organization membership (most are public information). It's like the difference between asking how much someone's tuition is versus how much a book at that school is. The general understanding is the book is a standard cost. In life, we are going to be asked questions a million times in relation to what we do. I spend so much time answering the same questions about employment law, travel, taxes and other things I do a lot. Sisterhood and humanity period is about helping others, and especially when we hold certain positions. You are right, no one is obligated to do anything but is it the right thing to do? Someone who is not in our area of specialty is not going to know any of these things you are suggesting. I think it is very helpful to put this out. This is awesome, but for the other, 99 million people who don't see this, be humble, remember you too may ask questions that make others cringe in their field. Respectful questions deserve respectful answers. Even if you offer this same information in public when asked. Be blessed and many blessings with finishing school :)
Or .. because it varies, as mentioned. I’ve worked in higher ed & just from general conversations, I learned that some orgs have relatively low costs (around $100+) and others have a substantially higher cost. So it would be misleading for me to say “they’re all high” knowing that’s incorrect.
Asking HOW you pay is not inappropriate. Asking HOW MUCH you pay is. Prices fluctuate. If I tell you I paid one price and it’s more for you, you’ll be mad ... correct? Therefore, costs aren’t discussed.
If you don’t like something, why do you care enough to research the topic and comment on videos? A little weird, don’t you think? If you’re not interested ... find something you care about. Or does that make too much sense? 🤔
See, that's what I'm talking about. Is it against the rules to show some decorum? Must you always react nastily and rudely because someone asks questions that you don't like? Who are you to behave that way? Just ratchet!
You called me a bully and compared my organization to a gang (both negative) and expected me to say thanks? Lol no I won’t respond nicely .. what you give (rudeness) is what you receive (rudeness). Now if you want to reword your question, you’ll get a different response. But from that, nah.
The response was to your video👀. I said what I said. I see a lot of you Greeks acting like that. Is it a rule or just a messed up personality? Y'all bleed red just like anybody else.
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HAIIIII. OKAY so about the fees thing, again .. the price varies. I saw someone say "omg $2000" but I couldn't find the comment. When the dues are higher, there are usually more things included (e.g. if there is a conference coming up, your registration, hotel, and travel are usually paid for .. maybe even a meal or two, etc.) so it's deeper than the surface shows. People with lesser fees will likely have to come out of pocket and ultimately end up paying the difference. So yeah it sounds intimidating but different orgs & chapters operate differently. Hope this helps to clear up some of that confusion.
People see these orgs as just being social, but forget the very important fact that they’re also businesses. Most of what you said falls in line with things you wouldn’t ask a person who works for a company you would like to join.
Great perspective. Absolutely agree.
I'm truly not trying to be the devils advocate but, most of these young people haven't been around a Black Greek Culture and most are very intimidated by a claimant that's unfamiliar to them.
I went to law school in Texas and I would get approached by many of the undergrad students asking about my organization. As a result, many of the undergrad students were scared to approach undergrad members on the yard but, will approach me because I'm older.
Let's remember the yard is are community and you will have immaturity Intrest because their young just like we once were.
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I donated 3 bins of shoes to AKA for an event. Is that a good way to show interest? I'm nervous because I am older than the traditional student. I don't want to be rejected because of my age.
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Shea Thank you most times I be scared to approach any Greek sorority member because I know I might mess up on how im going to ask but I mean well.
No problem! Sometimes things get lost in translation so I can definitely understand the feeling of messing up and I hope this showed how to better address asking those questions. Don’t be scared, we’re all regular folk at the end of the day .. we just completed the process already.
Hey sis I’ve watched your channel for years What ever happened with law school? How are you doing now?
Some organizations have fees on their website so check before you ask.
-Always ask the dues and initiation fees. Yeah, everyone is different, but you are asking the people for the chapter that you want to join so you need to know their answer.
- Its ok to ask what is expected of you. Of course they wont tell you all the details because some things are secret, but you cant expect people to want to join but you dont tell them ANYTHING.
-Someone asking how to be recruited sounds like they are asking how to join. I think that is a reasonable question.
I agree with your other NO questions tho. Those are kinda socially awkward lol.
Another bad question: “When are y’all having another line?” Ugh. Don’t ask that!!
OMG YESSSS that’s a good one lol when you see the information, that’s when we having a line 😂
I'm shocked that they even ask that still.
I crossed Spring 2018 and you’d be surprised by some of the things I’ve already heard
I’m curious, why is it bad to ask this?
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Any advice for someone wanting to join a sorority undergrad being older? (23)
Jade Jannelle I’ll be 25-26 tryna join a sorority lol so I’m really curious for the advice
Great to see you again. I know school is busy as a 🐝
Missed your videos! Go get that education sis. 💁🏽♀️
Girllll I’m trying. I’m coming out the gate suing folk after this, I promise 😂
Shea Miller I feel I’m still in undergrad and I’m tired already, whew chile!
Is it ok to be in a academic org and a BGLO at the same time?
I’ve seen a lot of Greeks in frats like Phi Beta Lambda (business) and Phi Alpha Delta (law) and especially a lot in Kappa Kappa Psi and Tau Beta Sigma (both band orgs) .. so yes.
@@SheaMiller thanks so much...
Yes..I am in Delta Sigma Pi(Business) and Alpha Kappa Alpha💓💚
I love that you both replied.... I'm really debating because we don't have an active chapter of just about anything in my immediate vicinity... so I'm really doing my research on if I need to move or not... thanks guys
How do you find about rush? Is it something that’s just known, like the actual date?
It’ll typically be posted but it may mostly be word of mouth. Sometimes flyers get taken down by interests.
Please Help! I asked an org about missing an informational on IG and if there would be a similar even!! I thought interest meetings and information also were different.. What do I do? Will I be blackballed? Should I talk to them about it? I have no Greek friends or family so it was an honest mistake.
You posted that in the comments? Some stuff really is up to the chapters .. because I honestly can’t tell you what they’re thinking but they definitely won’t (or shouldn’t) respond to that question exactly.
You’ll really have to just wait until the next go round because I’d you missed the “rush” meeting there’s no going around it. Informational and interest meetings are different but what you are explaining sounds like the interest meeting for rush. You could ask questions but, what they can honestly tell you may be limited.
Shea Miller No it was in their DM (private message)
I sent a message on instagram to one chapter letting them know that I got accepted to the spring semester for the school and I would be coming in as a junior. I asked them if I still had a chance to get in. Is that a bad question? I also told them that I didn't grow up in America or knowing sororities meaning I needed a bit more information from them. Is that bad?
I wouldn't say "bad" but that's one of the questions that you may not really get an answer to .. because they won't tell you that you can't pursue membership simply because you're a junior and at the same time, they can't give you a real answer of whether you have a chance to get in until the process begins (there are GPA requirements, community service requirements, recommendation letter requirements, etc.) so it's deeper than just what's on the surface. There are members in organizations from all over the world but, the best place to start understanding the meaning of sororities is just by doing your research (as you have began by watching this video and hopefully others like it) .. so continue to do your part and I'm sure they'll be able to help guide you when the time is right.
@@SheaMiller thank you
Another one is when is your next line?
What made you pick aka
Locally, at my school the AKAs were everywhere. They had a lot of events, scholarship opportunities, and overall they just seemed like cool people I would enjoy being around. I don’t come from a family of Greeks (I had 1 cousin that’s an AKA and 1 that’s a Zeta that I knew of at that time) so I really just had to do my research.
After doing my research I had a lot of reasons why I chose this org over others .. but what really stood out to me most nationally was when I was entering, one of the targets under the International President was called “Emerging Young Leaders.” It focused on reaching in to middle schools & talking to young girls & just being a mentor for them in general, which tied back to the purpose of the org. At that point I was REALLY interested in juvenile justice/helping do away with negative stigmas for the youth (my undergrad major was criminal justice) .. so I was like YES! This is the one lol.
Thankfully after I joined I had the opportunity to plan a few of the EYL events. We did simple things like talk about our majors, mock voting, and we even just went to have a spa day where we painted their nails and stuff. It was awesome! I was so sad when the target changed from that lol but then it switched to high schoolers which was cool too.
@@SheaMiller thank you for telling me i love watching you and i hope you do more ivy boxes
Not about us, being bullied is what I know happened!
You could have made an estimate. Sure you dont know what others have paid, but you know what YOU PAID!
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No, I couldn’t have. I was a grad advisor over ALL D9 .. I’ve heard $250 and I’ve heard $3,000. An estimated wouldn’t be accurate so, no.
The most confusing vid..... Why on Earth would people not ask these questions? Popular culture has presented orgs in a way that allow for these stereotypes to exist. Even if these stereotypes aren’t true some people may ask them. Shouldn’t members have more compassion for people’s ignorance? It’s not like Greek orgs are free flowing with information about the org ins and outs of the org. Therefore, people will be inclined to ask questions. Respond to “annoying” questions with grace.
Because people may not ANSWER them. Alternatives were suggested that were “easier” .. just like you don’t ask people how much they make, it’s rude, right? People who choose not to answer don’t have compassion. Same thing. People can ask whatever they want but people also aren’t obligated to answer anything.
@@SheaMiller I think that it is time that we do better. Asking someone what they make is not the same as asking how much they paid for an organization membership (most are public information). It's like the difference between asking how much someone's tuition is versus how much a book at that school is. The general understanding is the book is a standard cost. In life, we are going to be asked questions a million times in relation to what we do. I spend so much time answering the same questions about employment law, travel, taxes and other things I do a lot. Sisterhood and humanity period is about helping others, and especially when we hold certain positions. You are right, no one is obligated to do anything but is it the right thing to do? Someone who is not in our area of specialty is not going to know any of these things you are suggesting. I think it is very helpful to put this out. This is awesome, but for the other, 99 million people who don't see this, be humble, remember you too may ask questions that make others cringe in their field. Respectful questions deserve respectful answers. Even if you offer this same information in public when asked. Be blessed and many blessings with finishing school :)
I’m not into this something seems weird about the whole Greek thing I don’t know that’s my opinion
It’s not for everybody. Just like certain professions aren’t for everyone .. but 🤷🏾♀️ you’re entitled to your opinion! 🙂
Ha orgs dont like answerning how much because its so dang high!!!
Or .. because it varies, as mentioned. I’ve worked in higher ed & just from general conversations, I learned that some orgs have relatively low costs (around $100+) and others have a substantially higher cost. So it would be misleading for me to say “they’re all high” knowing that’s incorrect.
It's not too high. She is right. Cost varies. She provided an alternative way to get a range of cost.
@@SheaMiller Any D9 Orgs $100?
Asking how you pay isn't inappropriate your azz is broke in school
Asking HOW you pay is not inappropriate. Asking HOW MUCH you pay is. Prices fluctuate. If I tell you I paid one price and it’s more for you, you’ll be mad ... correct? Therefore, costs aren’t discussed.
Can you be in a d9 sorority if you are not African American??
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BURNING SANDS and HE AINT HEAVY, TOLD THE REAL TRUTH BOOTHA! Sorry.
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So, you pretty much have to walk on eggshells? If they don't ask, how will they know? Y'all act like a bunch of bullies. Almost like gang members
If you don’t like something, why do you care enough to research the topic and comment on videos? A little weird, don’t you think? If you’re not interested ... find something you care about. Or does that make too much sense? 🤔
See, that's what I'm talking about. Is it against the rules to show some decorum? Must you always react nastily and rudely because someone asks questions that you don't like? Who are you to behave that way? Just ratchet!
You called me a bully and compared my organization to a gang (both negative) and expected me to say thanks? Lol no I won’t respond nicely .. what you give (rudeness) is what you receive (rudeness).
Now if you want to reword your question, you’ll get a different response. But from that, nah.
The response was to your video👀. I said what I said. I see a lot of you Greeks acting like that. Is it a rule or just a messed up personality? Y'all bleed red just like anybody else.
Lol have a nice day!