Any guy who calls a woman out her name has no respect for himself or any woman walking this planet. If a guy calls you the B word, it’s equal to spitting in your face! If there’s no respect in a relationship, there’s nothing left. I will never forget something RC Blake’s Jr said. “If God or even his own momma couldn’t change him, what makes you think you’re so special?”
A guy called me out of my name once & I cut it off so quick. I hung up before he could even finish his sentence. He apologized & blamed it on him being drunk. I don't care. One thing you won't do is blatantly disrespect me & think you are going to continue to get my attention
Once they get away with disrespect they will always disrespect you so I don’t believe in forgiveness or apologies in that area ! If you did it you meant it ! I’m out ! ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
Oh goodness, my ex husband of 30 years called me the B word over and over again in our marriage when he was flipping shit on me. I got tired of the verbal abuse and that is exactly what it was. I finally left the marriage. We managed to remain "friends" for the sake of our son and he has now passed away. Never ever accept abuse, ladies.
Man, it really just hits different when a man of God demonstrates what love is and boldly speaks of what love is not. Everything is rooted in love, genuine love. This is why I cannot settle for anything else. Wisdom coming from God-fearing men just hits differently.
I’m so embarrassed and upset with myself. I don’t know how i let it slide for so long. He’s called me every name in the book and I tried to stand up for myself, but he never changed his behaviour. How can I sit here and believe there’s love between us if there’s no respect. I feel like I’ve just been manipulated into a 5 year relationship with a liar.
This hurt me to my core. After doing nothing he could tell me, except not wanting to hang out with him after a fight where he got angry and I decided to fall back, he randomly called me a hoe and a bitch. It really hurt because I tried my best to be his peace but be was immature and toxic. This video hurt, as well, but it gave me invaluable clarity. Thank you Tony, I’ve learned so much and, coming from a broken home, I almost don’t know what a boundary is and didn’t even blink when my ex threatened me or hurled insults in the final months of our “relationship”. I won’t let my toxic background drive me towards sorry grown boys. Thank you thank you thank you and thank you 100 more times! ❤️ stay blessed.
This is one thing my older brother would tell me growing up as soon as a man called you this the respect was gone . Of course I didn’t listen and put myself through stuff I shouldn’t have. Lesson learned
My father use to tell me things about men and I didn't listen as well. Sometimes you've to see for yourself to grasp the treason of people's behavior to learn. However, some never learn and just keep repeating the same cycle. So I am glad I have learned a lot.
Once a man calls your out of your name. If you don't check him on it this could escalate to physical abuse and violence resulting sometimes in serious injury or death of the woman. Tony G. Be blessed 🙏🙏🙏
After my divorce I found out a lot of information about my ex. I always felt like he had always been cheating and this made so much sense. Thanks Tony for helping me not think I was crazy.
If I'm married/dating a man that disrespect me like this, he might as well leave me alone cause I will be done trying to make the relationship enjoyable. He will be flat out miserable, all it takes is one time for me.
Question though: If that happens, why not pack your bags and leave and never associate with him again? Why bother to make him apologize? I feel like at that point, his respect for you is down the drain. If he has no control of his emotions in the heat of the moment, it’s a wrap. I can’t go crawling back to a man or look him in his eyes after he says that, even after an apology.
@@nikkinanette8807 too many low self esteem women out there with poor advice, which is why it’s best to seek advice from no one but the lord and coaches like TG !
Women are often reluctant to accept that there are actions that should be unforgivable the first time. We tend to focus on the pain we felt in that moment and once that pain subsides, we think forgiveness is in order and we can simply move on. The biggest issue is not how you felt in that moment, it’s how you’re going to feel when he does it again. And trust, he will do it again. Staying after someone does something this egregious teaches them that you accept it. Whether you say it out loud or not. He knows if he does it again, losing you will not be a realistic consequence. So he will do it again. No question about it. When it happens once, ask yourself if you would be okay with it happening again. If not, you have to leave. Stop thinking it will only happen once.
My husband had started doing it regularly not even a year into our marriage. I checked him on it and at first he apologized. Then it began to escalate over the years. I stayed with him for 26 1/2 years until he started threatening to do me harm. At that point I realized I could no longer tolerate the ab#%*. I got a restraining order and haven’t looked back. It’s been 14 months since we separated. He was a narc and I was an enabler. That’s the past now. 🤷🏽♀️
5 days after we got back from our honeymoon and after the full move-in, I was called the B word for the first time in 2 years of dating+engagement. Over something really dumb. I WAS IN COMPLETE SHOCK. He absolutely REFUSED to make the sincere apology I demanded. So, I called a counselor immediately. I was devastated and had no idea how this could have happened! 13 hours of sessions and he finally said abruptly “Sorry”. (Not sincere) Do you really think he was cheating on me??? During our engagement and wedding, etc.?! I separated 10 months after our wedding day, divorced 1 more year later. I hate to admit this on TG’s channel, but I did meet him online…
Great topic, healthy women know, when a man does this the relationship has been over, it's just unfortunate that a lot of men won't exit the non- existing relationship with out being disrespectful, condescending & abusive
This is great advice. I am currently single & personally have never been called out my name by anyone I’ve been romantically involved with but know friends who have and I cringe at the idea of it. Men who typically do this have mom issues and they’re still boys. Once you as a woman KNOW your value then such a person can’t even talk to you. They can get if their intentions aren’t the best but that when we as women have to TRUST that intuition of ours. Ladies, it’s what YOU will tolerate. Love yourselves enough to know you DESERVE the best. 🙏🏽❤️
omg yes you are so right ! my ex definitely has mom issues he was always so disrespectful, so immature, and abusive it’s just sad but i’m glad i got away from him .
Mr. Tony thanks for that insight, but what I’m still not understanding is why men call women out there name, play games, and lie for no reason; when they have mothers-sisters-daughters and will get mad if a man do it to one of them 🙄
The lying for no reason is what I question the most. They lie about small, insignificant things for no known reason. Tony, can you zone in on this topic in a future video?
I absolutely can’t stand when a man address his lady as my “b*tch” and then the women just wear that as a badge of honor ! So gross and sad ! Have more respect for yourself ladies !
I had a friend who called his wife a beast in the field in Hebrew. Name-calling is a deal breaker. It may just be words but words have energy and intent. Using hurtful words inflict invisible wounds that take longer to heal than most physical ones. And yes, it always means the respect is gone.
I don't think I can handle being called out of my name. Especially the "b" word. I was attracted to a guy and he was having a bad day. I asked if he was going to be ok and he said, " are you going to be ok" with too much force in his voice. 😮 I never said another word to him. That was 4 years ago. When I see him I keep it moving - no smile, no eye contact. He knows "bet not even"
Let me say something.. when I was with my older kids father he use to call me a B all the time like all the time and it scarred me..so when woman be calling each other B’s to one another in a joking way or whatever they call it (cause I don’t find it funny at all) I instantly get offended I DONT LIKE WOMEN CALLING EACH OTHER THAT NAME ! It’s not a good form of communication for me and I don’t like getting called it I don’t care if they playing or not or using it as a phrase I make it known “Don’t call me that”. I’m a QUEEN not a B!! Even when men be describing a female they use the B word to describe them I hate it, it’s disrespectful and degrading!! So ladies if your reading this please STOP using that word to communicate with one another cause it’s really not attractive or cute AT ALL!!! WE ARE QUEENS !!!
My ex (of 5 years) said, "I never benefited from being with you". ..uuhh, my heart!! I've been a loyal, serving and a supportive partner that truly loved him. But he was right. He NEEDED me to check him in order to respect me and I didn't.
My children’s father calls me this all the time. We aren’t together. He’s now with another woman and he treats her WAAAAYYYY better than he’s ever treated me. He talks to me like I’m his child yet I’m older than him. No respect at all 🤦🏾♀️ I blame his mama and his father. He’s always been verbally abusive even to this day!
Hi Tony. I wish every young lady that listen to this take heed. You are so right with your advice in this subject. I wish I had someone like you to give me sound advice over 30 years ago when I was married. This happened to me, but I was too embarrassed to let my family or friends know that this man had called me out of my name. I know they would have told me to leave him. I took his abuse because I had two small children.
living it presently; called out of my name and then I get "I didn't mean anything I said"... God I need courage and strength to leave this relationship
Spot on . I have never been called out my name but when my bf was cheating he made the biggest deal out of the smallest things to cause unnecessary arguments . Which means no one is checking for anyone during this time … which means free room to cheat without being bothered . Crazy .
I had someone call me out of my name and it hurts to the core of your soul. The b word. The C word. Calls me stupid. Whenever we talked , somehow he gets frustrated as he says but I see it as bad temper and anger . I told him don’t talk to me like that and lower your voice. I said I’m not raisin mine . I always told him we could agree to disagree and have a civil conversation. But multiple times he has called me out of my name and also said I have trouble dealing with stupid people and that I’m a b because I can’t stop barking like a dog. He raises his voice and here I’m thinking and crying thinking I didn’t do nothing wrong just talking and expressing my feelings or perspective or perception of things when we conversate. It is so wrong . It deteriorated my soul, my spirit and my whole being. I’m crying right now it does hurt . He says I’m too emotional
NARCISSISTIC ABUSE.😑.. YOU HAVE TO HAVE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF... WHAT WOULD YOU TELL YOUR SISTER OR DAUGHTER IF THEY TOLD YOU SOMEONE DOES THIS TO THEM... LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF...🙏💖🙏
Thank you for this Tony. My parents fought and still fight ALOT growing up and name calling was part of it. My mom never handled it in a correct manner and the abuse continued. I never really had a good education on how to handle name calling in a relationship. I myself have been in 2 relationships, but they haven't been abusive. In the case that name calling does present itself in the relationship, I now know how to handle it. Thank you for this! God bless.
My boss calked me a F "c" in front of other staff. I smiled and walked out. Shortly after that comment my house got shot up. The first person they looked at was my boss. He was mad....! I told the detectives about him calling me out of my name, who told our big boss, who took care of the situation. Sad thing is, I still hear those words in my head and its been a month since it happened. That was the first time I have ever experienced this and it better be the last. I still am shocked it happened.
I gotta get in on this one, Tony. I’m not sure if it’s generational or not but I think it’s one of the most egregious problems between people today. I hear-oh, it’s a joke, etc. Both people, using the B word, N word, etc. are ruining the relationship. It just blows me away-the manner in which folks speak to each other. The ‘value’ you refer to in this video seems entirely absent in our society. Needs to be taken very seriously as it’s just tearing folks down, and most don’t even seem to be aware of the value of embracing verbal respect for each other. Great contribution to this subject.
You absolutely know how an apology is done Tony. That's the way you apologize once such an egregious word has been directed to a woman. I love that truthful statement that you made that what you're doing is that you are exposing them. Thank you Tony for wanting to protect us. May God bless you.
Thank you for this Tony much needed to hear this a Grown Boy I was in a relationship with never called me out my name until I left him and didn't wanna have nothing to do with him anymore so he was calling me names it hurted me and he never gave me a sinser apology but the relationship was already over he didn't respect me I left him and he wanted to still have sexual relations I wasn't allowing that so the name calling started I blocked him I don't have nothing to do with him period✌🏾I'm sending this to my Daughter and my friends🖤
I would never ever!!! allow any man to come into my life to call me out of my name. I had several disrespecting men call me out my name and I cuss all of them out. I don't play with ignorant men.
Tony you are definitely in a league of your own. This was a refreshing and to the point lesson for all women who will listen and learn. 😊 Thanks for your insight and wisdom.
Thank you Tony for your words. My husband called me out my name one night after throwing his temper tantrum, like a child. Then called me one name after another, it hurt. It cut like a knife. I immediately checked him. I had a talk with him, I let it be known that I’m not the one to take abuse of any kind not from any man. None of that is ok in any relationship. To me that’s a very childish act. This is something he learned from his stepfather. Im not letting that behavior slide with me. If he doesn’t understand that. Im going to have to leave for my self respect.
Thank you Tony for making this video which has made me think a lot and have come to realize two things about myself I would like to share: 1- I believe that living by example is key. If a woman is cursing... she will attract same in the opposite sex. If a woman does not curse even when angry and upset, she has self control. I personally don't curse although i have seen it done by others when i was a child, I witnessed the abuse and mental and emotional pain it causes and how it affected me and I decided God will keep me away from such practice and hurting others. Of course, I have come across people who cursed at me and I gently but firmly called out. Result? that never happened again OR we parted ways. Both are wonderful outcomes if you ask me! 😊😉 It is also good to be mindful about the kind of people we surround ourselves with because they have an influence on us! Young people have this habit of cursing or insulting, you call them out and their response is "it's just a joke or I'm only joking" I say "that is no joke to me, so i'd appreciate this to be the first and the last time this happens." Normally that never repeats in my experience. We got to oberve when dating too... his friends and family... do they curse and insult? It is a big NONO for me as i see a door open to more evil to get in. A man should be a good example to follow, a leader, someone whom has self control... surely he would not like his kids to go around cursing and i have seen that!!! Choose your friends carefully, loving someone does not mean you got to love their cursing and namecalling! Room for improvement. 😇 2- In marriage when that happens... it needs to be called out and find the root of it. It is not always the man's doing, ladies need to admit at times they get unnecessarily pushed to do it. Getting to the root will lead to solution. Great subject and very relevant these days. Tony, what are your views on this movement called MGTOW (men going their own way) I even sensed a new hatred towards women and that is really scary! I am concern as I have a daughter myself and could believe some articles I read!! Thank you and Be Blessed!
My Grandpa used to tell me all of the time, if a man calls you out of your name once, he'll more than likely Do it again. If he Hits you once, he'll more than likely Do that again too!! I Always let a man know Upfront Consistently, that the First time either of these events occur, Will Be The LAST Time. Point, Blank, PERIODT.
Wow... Never been called that to my face UNTIL my ex got angry when I wouldn't take him back. He called me a bish in front of our children AND his family during visitation exchange. I was blown away, he was disrespectful and abusive but never took it there during our relationship. He just said it over and over again enraged bc I wouldn't agree to a dinner date and wouldn't tell him where I went bc I was wearing a dress. I couldn't even react but I stopped doing pick up/drop off
Ironic you made this video, my brother called me a B**** today & threatened to hurt me…………Broke my heart & I was completely shocked, all b/c he can’t handle the truth. Can’t save everybody I guess. Thanks Tony
Thank you for this video. My now ex was mentally abusive. To the fact that I had started to question myself. I was married for 20 years and not once did he ever call me out of my name. I come from a household with both of my parents. I had never heard my father say one curse word. He was an awesome God fearing man and took care of my mom and the household. I had enough and he never apologized. He thought what he was doing made him a man. All the red flags were there. I gave him a chance and he continued to do the same thing. This is only a short version of what I went through. The relationship is freshly over. But he makes my skin crawl. So I want to thank you for the confirmation.
When Mr. Tony becomes a billionaire, every man gon have one woman, and that's his wife. Y'all gon be forced to grow. Patiently, impatiently waiting for this day. Be blessed.
When you move in with a guy you’ll start to see the real version of who he is he’ll show you just what he knows about a home nothing don’t get into relationships were your partner stares you down while in pain instead of emotionally supporting you these men are unprepared for life and commitment
Being in a place where you recognize the lack of respect and verbal abuse but not being able to financially support yourself and your two kids on your own while being a full time student !!! Ughhh lord help me
My ex-fiancé used to call me MF and the N-word. He would spit them out, sneering, using his deepest, strongest voice when saying those words to me. He used the words like weapons. He was so ugly to me when he’d call me out my name. Then he’d say that they’re just words and I should be conscious enough to not let it affect me. Gaslighting, making it seem like I was the one who was tripping. I left him 10 years ago. We have a child together though, so we’re still in contact all the time. But I have boundaries in place to protect my space and energy from him.
I am a black woman and my boyfriend called me a Nigga. I found it to be very disrespectful. especially because I would have never called him that. I know that word is used in the black community often however for him to call me that it really bothered me. I’m not sure if I should stop talking to him or not. We were talking on over the phone and Immediately after he said it I told him not to ever call me that. he jokingly said it again and I hung up on him. He called me back and said I’m sorry I didn’t know you were serious about that word and that he would never call me it again. I’m not sure if I should continue talking to him or not. Opinions anyone?
HECK!! If anybody call me the B or call anybody that word whether they using a phrase, sentence, or jokingly that’s grounds to fight , slap, drop kick, karate chop to the throat or whatever physical means necessarily- that’s all I’m saying!
The guy I was seeing called me out of my name because I missed his calls. He apologized after I went silent and blocked him, but I still feel that he needs to show me that he’s apologetic! I told him that he has to come better than “ I’m sorry!” What he called me was HURTFUL and unwarranted. I think it’s best that I just walk away because he showed me just how little he thinks of me.
I wonder why men arent as interested in this topic as women? Would this expose how men dont want real relationships, nd should we just stop til men get on board?
If he will curse at you or call you out your name, he’ll put hands and feet on you too. Get away from him ASAP. 🚫
This is so true… get out as soon as he does that. Foul language is violence in my book.
You not lying !
Facts
They think it's okay it's crazy
“When a man starts to using curse words toward a woman, that’s a sign that he’s done, that’s a sign that’s there’s no respect in the relationship.” TG
I believe it looks desperate to stay, and he will look down upon you from then on. It should be illegal to let a man feel like he has a leash on you.
That is his “ heart” speaking to you. He does not love or respect you. Time to go.
Any guy who calls a woman out her name has no respect for himself or any woman walking this planet. If a guy calls you the B word, it’s equal to spitting in your face! If there’s no respect in a relationship, there’s nothing left. I will never forget something RC Blake’s Jr said. “If God or even his own momma couldn’t change him, what makes you think you’re so special?”
Word ❤️ RC has some killer quotes
Word right there👏👏👏
Love RC Blakes.
@@womenwhodate7643 I agree. His advice is really helpful too
Absolutely. I totally agree.
"when a man calls you out your na---"✌🏾🏃🏿♀️💨
A guy called me out of my name once & I cut it off so quick. I hung up before he could even finish his sentence. He apologized & blamed it on him being drunk. I don't care. One thing you won't do is blatantly disrespect me & think you are going to continue to get my attention
This part. People do what you allow 💯
The drunk tongue speaks the truth ! You did the right thing !
@@tjaspire I agree. I am 40 years old and neither have I.
Right on -- BLOCKDT!
Can’t stand when people blame alcohol for their actions. Alcohol only brings out the stuff that’s in a person imo🤷🏾♀️
The title of this video made me think of Tony’s imaginary headphone purse and saying “Got to go!”
🤣🤣 We haven’t seen the “purse” in a minute lol
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Gottago🤣🤣🤣🤣
Gotta love the purse lol
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Never tolerate disrespect. Love doesn't do this.
Once they get away with disrespect they will always disrespect you so I don’t believe in forgiveness or apologies in that area ! If you did it you meant it ! I’m out ! ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
Oh goodness, my ex husband of 30 years called me the B word over and over again in our marriage when he was flipping shit on me.
I got tired of the verbal abuse and that is exactly what it was. I finally left the marriage. We managed to remain "friends" for the sake of our son and he has now passed away. Never ever accept abuse, ladies.
Exactly
I’m glad you decided to leave him👏🏾❤️
"You have to check it cool calm and collected and very directed" -Tony Gaskins
I like that quote!💯
Man, it really just hits different when a man of God demonstrates what love is and boldly speaks of what love is not. Everything is rooted in love, genuine love. This is why I cannot settle for anything else. Wisdom coming from God-fearing men just hits differently.
I’m so embarrassed and upset with myself. I don’t know how i let it slide for so long. He’s called me every name in the book and I tried to stand up for myself, but he never changed his behaviour. How can I sit here and believe there’s love between us if there’s no respect. I feel like I’ve just been manipulated into a 5 year relationship with a liar.
This hurt me to my core. After doing nothing he could tell me, except not wanting to hang out with him after a fight where he got angry and I decided to fall back, he randomly called me a hoe and a bitch. It really hurt because I tried my best to be his peace but be was immature and toxic. This video hurt, as well, but it gave me invaluable clarity. Thank you Tony, I’ve learned so much and, coming from a broken home, I almost don’t know what a boundary is and didn’t even blink when my ex threatened me or hurled insults in the final months of our “relationship”. I won’t let my toxic background drive me towards sorry grown boys. Thank you thank you thank you and thank you 100 more times! ❤️ stay blessed.
I'm glad you found the strength to leave.
So true "he's done" I'm married. Verbal abuse can be worse than physical abuse because it can last a long time. Thanks Tony😊
This is one thing my older brother would tell me growing up as soon as a man called you this the respect was gone . Of course I didn’t listen and put myself through stuff I shouldn’t have. Lesson learned
My father use to tell me things about men and I didn't listen as well. Sometimes you've to see for yourself to grasp the treason of people's behavior to learn. However, some never learn and just keep repeating the same cycle. So I am glad I have learned a lot.
Once a man calls your out of your name. If you don't check him on it this could escalate to physical abuse and violence resulting sometimes in serious injury or death of the woman. Tony G. Be blessed 🙏🙏🙏
After my divorce I found out a lot of information about my ex. I always felt like he had always been cheating and this made so much sense. Thanks Tony for helping me not think I was crazy.
Agree....I CAN'T STAND A GUY USING PROFANITY WHILE TALKING TO ME....EVEN IF HE IS NOT DIRECTING IT TOWARDS ME....ITS JUST TRAMA TO MY SOUL...😵
It is very traumatic
That's a spirit fr. What person just wants to curse. It's direct disrespect. Some don't know any better, but most definitely do. 👌
Thank you, Tony Gaskins. This happened to me last week and I ended the relationship that evening.
Good for you.
You did the right thing..Never stay with a person,Male or Female, who Disrespected You, at all (PERIOD)..
Don’t look back . Better is in store for you.
Smart woman👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@@teishahowlett6342 exactly. Even if a woman is disrespecting a man then he should leave. Respect goes both ways
If I'm married/dating a man that disrespect me like this, he might as well leave me alone cause I will be done trying to make the relationship enjoyable. He will be flat out miserable, all it takes is one time for me.
Question though: If that happens, why not pack your bags and leave and never associate with him again? Why bother to make him apologize? I feel like at that point, his respect for you is down the drain. If he has no control of his emotions in the heat of the moment, it’s a wrap. I can’t go crawling back to a man or look him in his eyes after he says that, even after an apology.
This is my philosophy!
Some women are ready to do this but a low self-esteem woman in their family will talk them into staying. 🤦🏾♀️
@@nikkinanette8807 you are spot on.
Period ! It’s no apology ! You disrespect me I’m done with you !
@@nikkinanette8807 too many low self esteem women out there with poor advice, which is why it’s best to seek advice from no one but the lord and coaches like TG !
Women are often reluctant to accept that there are actions that should be unforgivable the first time. We tend to focus on the pain we felt in that moment and once that pain subsides, we think forgiveness is in order and we can simply move on. The biggest issue is not how you felt in that moment, it’s how you’re going to feel when he does it again. And trust, he will do it again. Staying after someone does something this egregious teaches them that you accept it. Whether you say it out loud or not. He knows if he does it again, losing you will not be a realistic consequence. So he will do it again. No question about it. When it happens once, ask yourself if you would be okay with it happening again. If not, you have to leave. Stop thinking it will only happen once.
My husband had started doing it regularly not even a year into our marriage. I checked him on it and at first he apologized. Then it began to escalate over the years. I stayed with him for 26 1/2 years until he started threatening to do me harm. At that point I realized I could no longer tolerate the ab#%*. I got a restraining order and haven’t looked back. It’s been 14 months since we separated. He was a narc and I was an enabler. That’s the past now. 🤷🏽♀️
Im glad you’re safe and free
Love how he made up that word. 🤣 It REALLY does “sound good right there” like he says.
Tony's word play is on point. He will make a word fit. 😄
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@@MissTracy-Ann Yep 🤣
Just to add there Narcissist. Which is a character defect.
They'll never change.
YOUR NOT CRAZY.
5 days after we got back from our honeymoon and after the full move-in, I was called the B word for the first time in 2 years of dating+engagement. Over something really dumb. I WAS IN COMPLETE SHOCK. He absolutely REFUSED to make the sincere apology I demanded. So, I called a counselor immediately. I was devastated and had no idea how this could have happened! 13 hours of sessions and he finally said abruptly “Sorry”. (Not sincere) Do you really think he was cheating on me??? During our engagement and wedding, etc.?! I separated 10 months after our wedding day, divorced 1 more year later. I hate to admit this on TG’s channel, but I did meet him online…
@@tjaspire Thank you❤️
Smh
Do feel like you moved too fast? Was he moving fast and did you ignore red flags? I think this could help other women thank you!
I love to see other women stand up for themselves & respect themselves👏🏾❤️ you did a good job
It's okay sis, don't feel ashamed that you met him online
Great topic, healthy women know, when a man does this the relationship has been over, it's just unfortunate that a lot of men won't exit the non- existing relationship with out being disrespectful, condescending & abusive
The B word is used in different ways and its all disrespectful. I dont play that period with anyone!
This is great advice. I am currently single & personally have never been called out my name by anyone I’ve been romantically involved with but know friends who have and I cringe at the idea of it. Men who typically do this have mom issues and they’re still boys. Once you as a woman KNOW your value then such a person can’t even talk to you. They can get if their intentions aren’t the best but that when we as women have to TRUST that intuition of ours. Ladies, it’s what YOU will tolerate. Love yourselves enough to know you DESERVE the best. 🙏🏽❤️
Facts very well said 👏🏿 👌 💯 👍 🙌🏿 🙏🏿
A man does to a woman only what she allows...
omg yes you are so right ! my ex definitely has mom issues he was always so disrespectful, so immature, and abusive it’s just sad but i’m glad i got away from him .
Key thing you said: mom issues. I feel as tho that’s common with a lotta males especially ones in my generation (I’m 21)
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Mr. Tony thanks for that insight, but what I’m still not understanding is why men call women out there name, play games, and lie for no reason; when they have mothers-sisters-daughters and will get mad if a man do it to one of them 🙄
The lying for no reason is what I question the most. They lie about small, insignificant things for no known reason. Tony, can you zone in on this topic in a future video?
I absolutely can’t stand when a man address his lady as my “b*tch” and then the women just wear that as a badge of honor ! So gross and sad ! Have more respect for yourself ladies !
It should NEVER happen no excuses
I hate the B-word. I don’t even call my friends that jokingly. There is no way I would stay with a man calling me that.
I had a friend who called his wife a beast in the field in Hebrew. Name-calling is a deal breaker. It may just be words but words have energy and intent. Using hurtful words inflict invisible wounds that take longer to heal than most physical ones. And yes, it always means the respect is gone.
“Words have energy and intent” - exactly
Exactly. It is verbal abuse and it means the person doesn't respect you
Good stuff ⭐️✨💕
If a man calls a woman the b word then he is totally disrespecting her
Thank you. This is very true. This needs to be heard as women are made to feel crazy or gaslighted for confronting a cheater.
Yes there Narcissist.
I don't think I can handle being called out of my name. Especially the "b" word. I was attracted to a guy and he was having a bad day. I asked if he was going to be ok and he said, " are you going to be ok" with too much force in his voice. 😮 I never said another word to him. That was 4 years ago. When I see him I keep it moving - no smile, no eye contact. He knows "bet not even"
New word! Yea ! 'Effeminated' Well it is in predictive txt!
Let me say something.. when I was with my older kids father he use to call me a B all the time like all the time and it scarred me..so when woman be calling each other B’s to one another in a joking way or whatever they call it (cause I don’t find it funny at all) I instantly get offended I DONT LIKE WOMEN CALLING EACH OTHER THAT NAME ! It’s not a good form of communication for me and I don’t like getting called it I don’t care if they playing or not or using it as a phrase I make it known “Don’t call me that”. I’m a QUEEN not a B!! Even when men be describing a female they use the B word to describe them I hate it, it’s disrespectful and degrading!! So ladies if your reading this please STOP using that word to communicate with one another cause it’s really not attractive or cute AT ALL!!! WE ARE QUEENS !!!
Yasss! Finally, I agree🙌🏽
My ex (of 5 years) said, "I never benefited from being with you". ..uuhh, my heart!! I've been a loyal, serving and a supportive partner that truly loved him. But he was right. He NEEDED me to check him in order to respect me and I didn't.
Thank you for sharing, Tony!
My children’s father calls me this all the time. We aren’t together. He’s now with another woman and he treats her WAAAAYYYY better than he’s ever treated me. He talks to me like I’m his child yet I’m older than him. No respect at all 🤦🏾♀️ I blame his mama and his father. He’s always been verbally abusive even to this day!
This video is gold. Answers a lot of questions.
I can’t wait to get home and watch this ! Thank you ,Tony
Hi Tony. I wish every young lady that listen to this take heed. You are so right with your advice in this subject. I wish I had someone like you to give me sound advice over 30 years ago when I was married. This happened to me, but I was too embarrassed to let my family or friends know that this man had called me out of my name. I know they would have told me to leave him. I took his abuse because I had two small children.
Thank you! I always like listening to your wisdom. 🙏
Im working on myself! I needed this.
living it presently; called out of my name and then I get "I didn't mean anything I said"... God I need courage and strength to leave this relationship
Your point of view is so refreshing ❤️ You continue to impress me /and everybody else) 🙌
Class is in session ladies!
God bless yo Tony. Thank you for your advice. My big brother in Christ.
Another great video! So much wisdom. This is so true, it happened to me.
Spot on . I have never been called out my name but when my bf was cheating he made the biggest deal out of the smallest things to cause unnecessary arguments . Which means no one is checking for anyone during this time … which means free room to cheat without being bothered . Crazy .
Thanks Tony!!!
I had someone call me out of my name and it hurts to the core of your soul. The b word. The C word. Calls me stupid. Whenever we talked , somehow he gets frustrated as he says but I see it as bad temper and anger . I told him don’t talk to me like that and lower your voice. I said I’m not raisin mine . I always told him we could agree to disagree and have a civil conversation. But multiple times he has called me out of my name and also said I have trouble dealing with stupid people and that I’m a b because I can’t stop barking like a dog. He raises his voice and here I’m thinking and crying thinking I didn’t do nothing wrong just talking and expressing my feelings or perspective or perception of things when we conversate. It is so wrong . It deteriorated my soul, my spirit and my whole being. I’m crying right now it does hurt . He says I’m too emotional
Sis please leave that situation. He will destroy your mental health and think nothing of it. Sending love and strength to you
NARCISSISTIC ABUSE.😑..
YOU HAVE TO HAVE RESPECT FOR YOURSELF...
WHAT WOULD YOU TELL YOUR SISTER OR DAUGHTER IF THEY TOLD YOU SOMEONE DOES THIS TO THEM...
LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF...🙏💖🙏
You will be at peace without him. You will look and feel better. Don't let him continue to suck the life out of you. LEAVE!
Please leave and don’t look back. He will suck all your energy
LEAVE HIM. That man is working his way up TO KILLING YOU. Stop crying and and RUN!
Tony puts the man in HuMANity
Ohh I love that! 💖
Thank you for this Tony. My parents fought and still fight ALOT growing up and name calling was part of it. My mom never handled it in a correct manner and the abuse continued. I never really had a good education on how to handle name calling in a relationship. I myself have been in 2 relationships, but they haven't been abusive. In the case that name calling does present itself in the relationship, I now know how to handle it. Thank you for this! God bless.
My boss calked me a F "c" in front of other staff. I smiled and walked out. Shortly after that comment my house got shot up. The first person they looked at was my boss. He was mad....!
I told the detectives about him calling me out of my name, who told our big boss, who took care of the situation.
Sad thing is, I still hear those words in my head and its been a month since it happened. That was the first time I have ever experienced this and it better be the last. I still am shocked it happened.
I hope your boss was fired. He is disgusting and a poor excuse for a leader.
I gotta get in on this one, Tony. I’m not sure if it’s generational or not but I think it’s one of the most egregious problems between people today. I hear-oh, it’s a joke, etc. Both people, using the B word, N word, etc. are ruining the relationship. It just blows me away-the manner in which folks speak to each other. The ‘value’ you refer to in this video seems entirely absent in our society. Needs to be taken very seriously as it’s just tearing folks down, and most don’t even seem to be aware of the value of embracing verbal respect for each other. Great contribution to this subject.
You absolutely know how an apology is done Tony. That's the way you apologize once such an egregious word has been directed to a woman. I love that truthful statement that you made that what you're doing is that you are exposing them. Thank you Tony for wanting to protect us. May God bless you.
Thank you for this Tony much needed to hear this a Grown Boy I was in a relationship with never called me out my name until I left him and didn't wanna have nothing to do with him anymore so he was calling me names it hurted me and he never gave me a sinser apology but the relationship was already over he didn't respect me I left him and he wanted to still have sexual relations I wasn't allowing that so the name calling started I blocked him I don't have nothing to do with him period✌🏾I'm sending this to my Daughter and my friends🖤
I would never ever!!! allow any man to come into my life to call me out of my name. I had several disrespecting men call me out my name and I cuss all of them out. I don't play with ignorant men.
Hahaaa I love when he make up words 😂 I definitely received the message! 🙏🏽💯
I don't want no woman calling me that either
Tony you are definitely in a league of your own. This was a refreshing and to the point lesson for all women who will listen and learn. 😊 Thanks for your insight and wisdom.
Thank you Tony for your words. My husband called me out my name one night after throwing his temper tantrum, like a child. Then called me one name after another, it hurt. It cut like a knife. I immediately checked him. I had a talk with him, I let it be known that I’m not the one to take abuse of any kind not from any man. None of that is ok in any relationship. To me that’s a very childish act. This is something he learned from his stepfather. Im not letting that behavior slide with me. If he doesn’t understand that. Im going to have to leave for my self respect.
Check it, directed, cool, calm and collected.
Thank you Tony for making this video which has made me think a lot and have come to realize two things about myself I would like to share:
1- I believe that living by example is key.
If a woman is cursing... she will attract same in the opposite sex.
If a woman does not curse even when angry and upset, she has self control.
I personally don't curse although i have seen it done by others when i was a child, I witnessed the abuse and mental and emotional pain it causes and how it affected me and I decided God will keep me away from such practice and hurting others.
Of course, I have come across people who cursed at me and I gently but firmly called out. Result? that never happened again OR we parted ways. Both are wonderful outcomes if you ask me! 😊😉
It is also good to be mindful about the kind of people we surround ourselves with because they have an influence on us!
Young people have this habit of cursing or insulting, you call them out and their response is "it's just a joke or I'm only joking" I say "that is no joke to me, so i'd appreciate this to be the first and the last time this happens." Normally that never repeats in my experience.
We got to oberve when dating too... his friends and family... do they curse and insult? It is a big NONO for me as i see a door open to more evil to get in.
A man should be a good example to follow, a leader, someone whom has self control... surely he would not like his kids to go around cursing and i have seen that!!!
Choose your friends carefully, loving someone does not mean you got to love their cursing and namecalling! Room for improvement. 😇
2- In marriage when that happens... it needs to be called out and find the root of it. It is not always the man's doing, ladies need to admit at times they get unnecessarily pushed to do it. Getting to the root will lead to solution.
Great subject and very relevant these days.
Tony, what are your views on this movement called MGTOW (men going their own way) I even sensed a new hatred towards women and that is really scary! I am concern as I have a daughter myself and could believe some articles I read!!
Thank you and Be Blessed!
Happy Friday family! Who is here for class?
My Grandpa used to tell me all of the time, if a man calls you out of your name once, he'll more than likely Do it again.
If he Hits you once, he'll more than likely Do that again too!!
I Always let a man know Upfront Consistently, that the First time either of these events occur, Will Be The LAST Time. Point, Blank, PERIODT.
Wow... Never been called that to my face UNTIL my ex got angry when I wouldn't take him back. He called me a bish in front of our children AND his family during visitation exchange. I was blown away, he was disrespectful and abusive but never took it there during our relationship. He just said it over and over again enraged bc I wouldn't agree to a dinner date and wouldn't tell him where I went bc I was wearing a dress. I couldn't even react but I stopped doing pick up/drop off
So very true unfortunately
Thanks for sharing this video.
Good morning. Happy Friday! 🤓📝
Good morning
Yes it’s so shocking when it happens and is hurtful…
Ironic you made this video, my brother called me a B**** today & threatened to hurt me…………Broke my heart & I was completely shocked, all b/c he can’t handle the truth. Can’t save everybody I guess. Thanks Tony
Will you post the live you did last night on Instagram? I fell asleep in the middle of it. It was a good Message. I was just tired from a long week.
Thank you for this video. My now ex was mentally abusive. To the fact that I had started to question myself. I was married for 20 years and not once did he ever call me out of my name. I come from a household with both of my parents. I had never heard my father say one curse word. He was an awesome God fearing man and took care of my mom and the household. I had enough and he never apologized. He thought what he was doing made him a man. All the red flags were there. I gave him a chance and he continued to do the same thing. This is only a short version of what I went through. The relationship is freshly over. But he makes my skin crawl. So I want to thank you for the confirmation.
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Morning class in session 🙏🏾
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@@qscott888 Good morning Q!! Happy Friday!!
@@DebtDemolisherTV Good morning! Guess what?! Tony did a three hour Live on IG last night. He went in again!
@@qscott888 😲😲😲 Whhhaaattt?? I be missing out on IG! Hopefully he’ll upload it here too! 🙏🏾
@@DebtDemolisherTV I missed it too! It be the time difference. Morning ladies 🙏🏾💕
Amen 🙏
In listening to this video I hope that you can do one when men or abused and curse out to by women also.
Showing emotion is love facts
When Mr. Tony becomes a billionaire, every man gon have one woman, and that's his wife. Y'all gon be forced to grow. Patiently, impatiently waiting for this day. Be blessed.
I've dealt with this with multiple men becoming numb It hurts
This is for me 🥺
Heed the message!!
When you move in with a guy you’ll start to see the real version of who he is he’ll show you just what he knows about a home nothing don’t get into relationships were your partner stares you down while in pain instead of emotionally supporting you these men are unprepared for life and commitment
Thank you
Morning !!!! Right !!!
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Being in a place where you recognize the lack of respect and verbal abuse but not being able to financially support yourself and your two kids on your own while being a full time student !!! Ughhh lord help me
My ex-fiancé used to call me MF and the N-word. He would spit them out, sneering, using his deepest, strongest voice when saying those words to me. He used the words like weapons. He was so ugly to me when he’d call me out my name. Then he’d say that they’re just words and I should be conscious enough to not let it affect me. Gaslighting, making it seem like I was the one who was tripping. I left him 10 years ago.
We have a child together though, so we’re still in contact all the time. But I have boundaries in place to protect my space and energy from him.
I am a black woman and my boyfriend called me a Nigga. I found it to be very disrespectful. especially because I would have never called him that. I know that word is used in the black community often however for him to call me that it really bothered me. I’m not sure if I should stop talking to him or not.
We were talking on over the phone and Immediately after he said it I told him not to ever call me that. he jokingly said it again and I hung up on him. He called me back and said I’m sorry I didn’t know you were serious about that word and that he would never call me it again. I’m not sure if I should continue talking to him or not.
Opinions anyone?
That hurt. Lord I can't a long with him
What about when he calls you crazy, lunatic, schizophrenic, mad, etc., but not actual swear words?
Can you make a video on how men mentality is right now. They are saying women are not special and see nothing wrong with it.
^ Yup. They are mad at some woman in some life, probably from when he was younger. Men carry hurt and project it, excuse me, boys, not men.
HECK!! If anybody call me the B or call anybody that word whether they using a phrase, sentence, or jokingly that’s grounds to fight , slap, drop kick, karate chop to the throat or whatever physical means necessarily- that’s all I’m saying!
The guy I was seeing called me out of my name because I missed his calls. He apologized after I went silent and blocked him, but I still feel that he needs to show me that he’s apologetic! I told him that he has to come better than “ I’m sorry!” What he called me was HURTFUL and unwarranted. I think it’s best that I just walk away because he showed me just how little he thinks of me.
I wonder why men arent as interested in this topic as women? Would this expose how men dont want real relationships, nd should we just stop til men get on board?