My oldest son is gay. I wish I had been more supportive at the time, but religion kept me blind. Thank goodness we change and grow. All is well, now, and I was able to tell my youngest that wherever he falls on the sexuality spectrum is fine and natural and he should explore his desires. Good luck to all. Hoping for a bright future for all!
Isn't the biggest thing God doesn't want us to do is judge another? I'm a catholic and it never caused me to feel any different about my grandson!! I love him no matter who he sleeps with!!
@@carolinagallegos3926 I belonged to the evangelical cult and absolutely you are judged! You can see it all around america right now and it's sad. But, you are correct...the Bible says, not to judge. It also says a lot of other immoral things.
Excellent to see the father of the uni student come around to be very supportive of his son. The parents can be proud that they have raised a fine young man.
Thank you for for being so courageous and open. You give a good example to all those poor souls out there that struggle with their sexuality. I did not come out to anybody, but everybody around me knew i was different.
Well done. I am nearly 70 and came out to a very conservative family when I was 19. My husband and I were one of the first gay couples to be recognised in the UK when the Blair administration allowed international gay couples to immigrate into the UK in 1997 - we are both American and lived in Germany prior to that. Now we have left the busy life of London and live in North Wales. It looks like you had the best possible reaction. The very best to you - I hope you get as lucky as I did in finding a life partner.
I’m so proud of both of you who came out to your family and friends. It’s not an easy thing to do, especially with your parents. I came out to my parents and friends in the late 80s. Religion was a big one back then (as someone mentioned on previous posts). I went through it as it wasn’t easy with my parents the first year after coming out. I got married last year (2023), with my partner. Beautiful wedding and now husband and husband.
I’m so happy for u that you’re happily married to your amazing partner. I wish you both all the love and happiness in the world. You two are still a blessing from God. 😊 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
I think this is one of the most challenging documentaries to film; and not to mention to be in. But now that you've done it, congratulations for having completed it. It is certainly one of the most noteworthy and satisfying productions I've watched. Best wishes!
While I have always been gay, I kept it from most of my friends, family etc. At age ~46 I finally told my brother and then the rest of the world after trying to live 2 lives for decades. It has been 7 some odd years, and I feel alive and free. I used to be a workaholic, but, once I came out, being a 10+hr/day workaholic was no longer possible, and I got laid off from a company I had worked for ~27 yrs. I just wish I had done it earlier, ngl. Anyhoo, this had me in tears again. So thank, I am grateful.
Well done I hug you for your bravery ❤ my niece is gay I just gave her a hug and told her to live with me as her family is not allowing her in the house anymore. She’s so loved by me as herself
I am so pleased that you can live authentically at such a young age. Waithing another 19 years takes a toll, and you miss out on so many social opportunities.
Very nice video! I'm glad that they were able to come out and that their parents were accepting. I came out to my family a few months ago. They have no problem with me being gay. I sometimes have trouble accepting myself. Hopefully I will one day get over this.
Our grandson came out to us a couple of years ago..he called and said gmom I have something to tell you and I said ok, he said I want to tell you I'm gay, I said ok, I don't care if you have two heads nothing will ever make me not love you!! He started crying and I told him to please not cry because the truth is I already knew for a very long time..I can't understand how any family member could turn against a family member because they are gay!! Everyone has the right to live the life that makes them happy!! My grandson joined LGBTQ group at high school, he said everyone was shocked that his family have accepted him being gay, he said everyone told him they are afraid to tell their family and that's very sad!! Parents accept your children no matter what!! You got this young man, be proud of who you really are!!
I am so very proud of these two beautiful souls. If either of you read this message, you need to give yourselves a big pat on your back and be proud of what you’ve done. Lots of love to both of you. ❤
And now you'll have to come out again and again as you meet new people, new friends, new jobs and new colleagues. Hopefully as the world continues to grow it will be less of a challenge each time.
As a 71 year old gay male, who came out to his parents in the conservative South/US at age 20 in 1972, I am surprised that "coming out" to one's parents and family in 2024 is so emotionally difficult and traumatic. I mean ..... it is not like "being gay" is so novel and new in developed Western countries in 2024. The way to avoid problems with parents and family when you break "the news" is to simply wait until you are a legal adult and are no longer financially dependent on them. Then just give them "the news" and tell them that this is who you are and if they have a problem with it, then they need to deal with it or you probably won't be seeing each other very much going forward. It worked for me over 50 years ago.
I'm a man of 73-year-old, who didn't come out until I was 55-years-old. I married my college sweetheart in 1975, while in college. It is most common for people to ask me why I married if I knew I was gay? Yet my answer is usually met with disbelief or confusion...I NEVER believed I was gay. I never had any kind of relationship with a man other than friendship. Yes, in retrospect I can now see that there were a very few guys I might have been attracted to, but I dismissed any association with being gay, with the justification that I only wanted them as a good friend. Also, my marriage relationship was one of companion, partner, sister, confidante, and parent, but never really a lover. Our physical relationship was needful to have our children only. at 55 we moved to South Florida and I secured a job as a personal assistant to a pop star. One night we decided to go to a dance club. As I sat at the bar (3 hours earlier than the others), I met the most beautiful woman I ever seen...talking for 3 hours. Still, never being attracted to a man, I continued to believe in my heterosexuality. However, she then introduced me to the person who would turn my world upside down, shift my paradigms with the force of an earthquake, and give me the emotional, physical, and spiritual connection I'd only dreamed of. HIS name was Dominic, her older brother, a Roman Catholic priest, 19 years younger, and stunningly handsome. (I wasn't so bad myself). Within a very short period of time, we both fell in love with each other...he; with the first man or woman, me; with the first man. As soon as we knew, he left the Church after 16 years, and I told my wife and we filed for divorce. After a year of Dominic and I being together, he asked me to move back to Spain, his home, and marry him...OH YEAH. So we got engaged. Sorry for the length of my reply, but I'm a former radio talk show host and an author...short is not something I understand. Sadly, 3 months after our engagement, and my crazy planning of a massive gay wedding, Dom was killed in a n auto accident...that was 18 years ago. No one has ever taken his place in my heart, until now. So at 73, in good health and a positive outlook in life towards gay relationships, I'm alone. However, it is good to read about other older gay men and realize, that even in this LGBTQ+ community which most often only recognizes gay youth, We mature gay men are out there. Thanks for the acknowledgement of the seasoned, experienced, mature gay men.
Dont assume everything's gonna be easier afterwards, you'll feel it's right for yourself letting family know who you really are but if they will support you know you've been lucky. Prepare to face any consequences, you'll have to go through them anyway
Growing up, I always knew that i was different, and my Father I'm sure understood this demonstrable fact. I tried to make friendships with girls but it never seemed to connect. I just felt more comfortable being with a guy.🐧🍏🍎
Really?! Suspecting your child might be gay, but never letting them know that it's okay, that they can be open and they will be accepted? That's not even remotely good parenting. The comments and the body language in their response to the news is hardly exemplary either. If it were still the 1970s I'd say they'd rate a 5 out of 10. But it's 2024, and all parents should now know - and do - better.
I thought both parents were amazing, it usually are the self- righteous religious parents who are the most intolerant . So much for the love and mercy of God !!!
"The only reason you're not disowned is because I can't come up with a lie big enough to tell everyone why you're not allowed around anymore." Those were the last motherly words I got. In 1996. The remaining 27 years of her life, I consider was all a lie. My one regret is not having been courageous enough to have walked out on her sprawled out on the floor helpless, like I've been accused of.
i am 42 and since age 5 i knew i am different, during teen years i knew i am not attracted to any gender like other people are, but to a person. at that time there was no label for people like me. today they call us pansexual. i never put labeles on others, neither myself, to me it was always i am who i am. i date who i like or want to date not carrying about labels. life is too short for that, maybe for me is different coz i suffer since age 9 from war caused complex ptsd and i am survivor of ethnic cleansing so my path and experince is different. i just dont care what other people think, life is too short for that. so boys and girls just live your life, coz today you are here, tomorrow you could be gone and there is no place in life for people who dont accept you for who you are.
Moms usually know whether their children are gay. That's a helluva general statement - which is, therefore, not likely the case. One thing's sure. The sole "choice" I made was to come out to family and friends - because I was sick of lying.
Both of you are very brave, I agree with everything that the both of you are explaining. People can be weird, ord, crazy, and wild but nobody is any different. It can be hard to come out to most of anyone including yourself. I came to turms, thruths and everything else with my sexuality so I can honesty emit that I am a 100 sure that I am Gay. If you're taught want makes you ashamed is wong that's not right.
The parents that think being gay is a choice.....they are very, very, very strange. They completely avoided any kind of conversation. I think I just realized watching this again that the parents already knew he was gay or bi, as he puts it. They are like saying to him.....Yes,. we know, what else do you want us to say. And by the way, I believe he is gay and not bi. That's just a prop that many use. He needs to be very real and NOT beat around the bush.
The reaction of the parents 24 minutes in is so jarring to me. Yes they may not be shouting, kicking, him out, or flat out rejecting him but the statements from them are so ignorant and tired. I’m glad the kid corrected his dad on it being a “choice…”if I had a dollar for how many straight people / parents think this idiotically I’d be rich! Then the dad saying it’s not right to see two men kissing and not to put it in his face. And the worst part is the kid saying “you realize how that affects me” and then the dad making about himself and not realizing how that can greatly hurt and affect their child. I get that they aren’t used to seeing it but Jesus, to say that to his face that it’s not ‘right’ is so….I don’t know. I wish parents had more empathy and self awareness. I get parents can’t be perfect but I will never understand how you can go through your whole life not curious about other people and their experiences whether that be a different sexuality, gender , ethnicity , culture etc. be curious about other people!! I hate how it takes parents to know somebody close to them that’s gay to have empathy. Be curious about the world and people!! Read!! Educate!!
I never told my parents! Mom knew (Moms always know) because she hinted to my sister and my sister knows now for sure that both Mom and Dad are both gone. We just never ever bring that up to my very conservative dad. Mom was religious and a practicing strict Russian Orthodox. Dad was a strict practicing Protenant.
Son you are one of the luckiest boys in the world. To have parents who love you unconditionally and know you can only thrive if you are truly happy with who you are and give you that space is one of the most wonderful things life could ever offer. We've heard of so many cases where children are severely punished and kicked to the curb because of the ignorance of parents. Much of this is driven by religion and people who they seek advice from to deal with the issue. Little do they understand all the hate and rejection they dish out to their children will never change the sexuality of their children but steal their chance to be loved and destroy the hearts of those they should love unconditionally. The conservatives here in the US are fighting tooth and nail the ability (in some states) for children to grow and bloom into the beautiful people they were meant to be because they are castigated and destroyed over the most basic element of human life, and that is being comfortable and confident about who they are. Nothing can progress if those basic building blocks are not allowed to flourish. I hope this wonderful story of love and acceptance opens the minds and hearts of parents all over the world.
Fergus Dublin Ireland European Union E.U A courageous effort, to come out to your parents guys and while doing a program to be aired about it. Congratulations! You're young, intelligent, good looking and with your whole lives ahead of you. I'm really happy for you! Best wishes, Fergus xo 😘😍😘😘
Great job with this. My first eye roll came pretty quickly at 1:19 "It's a life choice." 😖 Yeah that's right, we all choose to be gay. I mean it's such an easy life.🙄
I have been gay my entire life but it is incompatible with my faith. I hate lying about it but if I don't I will be disfellowshipped. I hate it. Good on you being able to do it.
It's a process. Parents usually don't know how to respond especially if they did not have any idea and they go into a kind of shock. Once they see that you are truly happy which is what most parents want for their children they will come around. Just like it took you many years to have the courage to come out You need to give them time to adjust and adapt to the news which 95% of parents do. The only time it becomes extremely difficult is when it's a very religious family which have been indoctrinated that homosexuality is a sin.
Not knowing how to respond to a child being gay and needing time to adjust is really not appropriate parenting in the 21st century. All parents should be aware of the possibility and make their children aware that they would be accepting. Never giving the possibility a second thought, or hoping it won't happen in your family is simply bad parenting.
While the preambles are interesting, the actual 'coming out' scenes are pretty ordinary. And I think exploitative of the parents. I hope they eventually consented to use of the videos. But I don't think they should have been put on the spot like that with inept handling of the recording. The boys had weeks to prepare. The parents had no warning of what it was about. Perhaps if it had been a professional doco team filming it with sensitive handling. But expecting semi-professional or even sensitive handling of those conversations from boys stressed out about the likely emotional response was a bit much. Glad I didn't stick a camera on any of the people I came out to!
It’s really a lot easier now. My mother (silent Gen) was horrible, compared being gay to being with animals. Like if there weren’t strict rules we’d all just do anything. I just wanted to be me, and not hide myself and my life. I feel like she was trying shame me back into the closet. A person in this film said something about gut reaction. Okay, I might have given her grace if her next approach on the subject wasn’t to say “it’s just a phase”. To then later stare at my wife like she couldn’t take her eyes off her when she met her. That was telling, or at least it would have been if she didn’t have dementia. I’ll never really know.
25.22.. The father is so naive he's dumbfounded😅😅😅 he can't even see his own bigotry he can't see his prejudice It is so funny and it's not but in the sun is like what what I know I'm 63 years old born gay. Straight people cannot see what gay people can see😂😂😂
The mom and dad of the gay son were horrible. First of all they seemed prepared for that their son might come out as gay. But not in an informed way prepared. Then they did not embrace their son, only sat there saying yes, no or maybe. They sat there like total conservatives. Without natural reaction. Father obviously is a homophobe as he turned off tv when he saw two men kissing. He also said that it would be a choice to be gay, though it’s not. Those both remarks are clearly homophobic. I would leave those parents and stop having contact to them, because they are not loving and not accepting their son for who he is.
A lot of comments here are giving these parents kudos for being "accepting". But it's 2024, FFS. And "accepting" - coupled with a handful of ignorant, disparaging comments and stiff, disapproving body language - is not exactly what anyone should consider good parenting. It's clearly never occurred to these parents that they should be prepared for one of their children being gay (even though the mother admits to having had inklings). Or that they should perhaps - with or without inklings - have made it clear to all of their children that being gay (or bi or whatever) would be fine, and make no difference to them. That would be good parenting. Not leaving your child to spend anxious days, weeks, months or years, worrying about how their sexuality might be received. The fear and loneliness that comes with that kind of uncertainty can lead to severe depression, all kinds of damaging behaviour and self-torment (like years pretending to be straight) and, still not uncommonly, self-harm and suicide. You'd think most parents today would be aware of this. But apparently not.
Hello Fallen Angel aka glbtq+ . You were created by GOD Almighty with love & free will to choose whom to serve . GOD or SATAN . YOUR CHOICE PAPI / MAMI . Choose GOD if you want to become a child of GOD again 🙏.
GOD proactively creates 🌈 animals on a daily basis - all over the animal kingdom. Therefore, it’s innate. On the other hand, it is your CHOICE to target and condemn God’s creations for being as GOD created. Doing so is the exact OPPOSITE of doing God’s will. Please, stop bowing down to and choosing SATAN. Sincerely praying for you to become a child of GOD again. 🙏
And the parents say awesome, if you have children immediately we're going to feel old because we will become grandparents, as long as you don't give us any children then we can just stay parents and feel young. You will help us stay in our home when we grow old we won't have to get a reverse mortgage, you will be here as our caregiver because you didn't get married and have children. That will really save us from the bank taking our house away. And you're really going to help out the planet by not having any children each new child born produces more carbon emissions. And everybody's in up in arms about slowing down the production of carbon emissions well slow down the production of people and use accomplished your mission of slowing down carbon emissions. It's a win-win scenario for the family all the way around parents with a gay son how wonderful.
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My oldest son is gay. I wish I had been more supportive at the time, but religion kept me blind.
Thank goodness we change and grow. All is well, now, and I was able to tell my youngest that wherever he falls on the sexuality spectrum is fine and natural and he should explore his desires.
Good luck to all. Hoping for a bright future for all!
Isn't the biggest thing God doesn't want us to do is judge another? I'm a catholic and it never caused me to feel any different about my grandson!! I love him no matter who he sleeps with!!
@@carolinagallegos3926 I belonged to the evangelical cult and absolutely you are judged! You can see it all around america right now and it's sad. But, you are correct...the Bible says, not to judge. It also says a lot of other immoral things.
I wish i had a father like you.
You are right on 100%!
Excellent to see the father of the uni student come around to be very supportive of his son. The parents can be proud that they have raised a fine young man.
Thank you for for being so courageous and open.
You give a good example to all those poor souls out
there that struggle with their sexuality.
I did not come out to anybody, but everybody around me
knew i was different.
Well done. I am nearly 70 and came out to a very conservative family when I was 19. My husband and I were one of the first gay couples to be recognised in the UK when the Blair administration allowed international gay couples to immigrate into the UK in 1997 - we are both American and lived in Germany prior to that. Now we have left the busy life of London and live in North Wales. It looks like you had the best possible reaction. The very best to you - I hope you get as lucky as I did in finding a life partner.
I’m so proud of both of you who came out to your family and friends. It’s not an easy thing to do, especially with your parents.
I came out to my parents and friends in the late 80s. Religion was a big one back then (as someone mentioned on previous posts). I went through it as it wasn’t easy with my parents the first year after coming out.
I got married last year (2023), with my partner. Beautiful wedding and now husband and husband.
I’m so happy for u that you’re happily married to your amazing partner. I wish you both all the love and happiness in the world. You two are still a blessing from God. 😊 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
I think this is one of the most challenging documentaries to film; and not to mention to be in. But now that you've done it, congratulations for having completed it. It is certainly one of the most noteworthy and satisfying productions I've watched. Best wishes!
While I have always been gay, I kept it from most of my friends, family etc. At age ~46 I finally told my brother and then the rest of the world after trying to live 2 lives for decades. It has been 7 some odd years, and I feel alive and free. I used to be a workaholic, but, once I came out, being a 10+hr/day workaholic was no longer possible, and I got laid off from a company I had worked for ~27 yrs. I just wish I had done it earlier, ngl. Anyhoo, this had me in tears again. So thank, I am grateful.
Well done I hug you for your bravery ❤ my niece is gay I just gave her a hug and told her to live with me as her family is not allowing her in the house anymore. She’s so loved by me as herself
Lovely, honest, brave, eloquent, real and so pleased you made this!
Yes yes yes to all the parents too!
One only wants the very best for them; health, happiness and love.....
I am so pleased that you can live authentically at such a young age. Waithing another 19 years takes a toll, and you miss out on so many social opportunities.
Very nice video! I'm glad that they were able to come out and that their parents were accepting. I came out to my family a few months ago. They have no problem with me being gay. I sometimes have trouble accepting myself. Hopefully I will one day get over this.
Our grandson came out to us a couple of years ago..he called and said gmom I have something to tell you and I said ok, he said I want to tell you I'm gay, I said ok, I don't care if you have two heads nothing will ever make me not love you!! He started crying and I told him to please not cry because the truth is I already knew for a very long time..I can't understand how any family member could turn against a family member because they are gay!! Everyone has the right to live the life that makes them happy!! My grandson joined LGBTQ group at high school, he said everyone was shocked that his family have accepted him being gay, he said everyone told him they are afraid to tell their family and that's very sad!! Parents accept your children no matter what!! You got this young man, be proud of who you really are!!
Love this guy's dad. What an absolutely awesome dude.
I am so very proud of these two beautiful souls. If either of you read this message, you need to give yourselves a big pat on your back and be proud of what you’ve done. Lots of love to both of you. ❤
And now you'll have to come out again and again as you meet new people, new friends, new jobs and new colleagues.
Hopefully as the world continues to grow it will be less of a challenge each time.
As a 71 year old gay male, who came out to his parents in the conservative South/US at age 20 in 1972, I am surprised that "coming out" to one's parents and family in 2024 is so emotionally difficult and traumatic. I mean ..... it is not like "being gay" is so novel and new in developed Western countries in 2024. The way to avoid problems with parents and family when you break "the news" is to simply wait until you are a legal adult and are no longer financially dependent on them. Then just give them "the news" and tell them that this is who you are and if they have a problem with it, then they need to deal with it or you probably won't be seeing each other very much going forward. It worked for me over 50 years ago.
I'm a man of 73-year-old, who didn't come out until I was 55-years-old. I married my college sweetheart in 1975, while in college. It is most common for people to ask me why I married if I knew I was gay? Yet my answer is usually met with disbelief or confusion...I NEVER believed I was gay. I never had any kind of relationship with a man other than friendship. Yes, in retrospect I can now see that there were a very few guys I might have been attracted to, but I dismissed any association with being gay, with the justification that I only wanted them as a good friend. Also, my marriage relationship was one of companion, partner, sister, confidante, and parent, but never really a lover. Our physical relationship was needful to have our children only. at 55 we moved to South Florida and I secured a job as a personal assistant to a pop star. One night we decided to go to a dance club. As I sat at the bar (3 hours earlier than the others), I met the most beautiful woman I ever seen...talking for 3 hours. Still, never being attracted to a man, I continued to believe in my heterosexuality. However, she then introduced me to the person who would turn my world upside down, shift my paradigms with the force of an earthquake, and give me the emotional, physical, and spiritual connection I'd only dreamed of. HIS name was Dominic, her older brother, a Roman Catholic priest, 19 years younger, and stunningly handsome. (I wasn't so bad myself). Within a very short period of time, we both fell in love with each other...he; with the first man or woman, me; with the first man. As soon as we knew, he left the Church after 16 years, and I told my wife and we filed for divorce. After a year of Dominic and I being together, he asked me to move back to Spain, his home, and marry him...OH YEAH. So we got engaged. Sorry for the length of my reply, but I'm a former radio talk show host and an author...short is not something I understand. Sadly, 3 months after our engagement, and my crazy planning of a massive gay wedding, Dom was killed in a n auto accident...that was 18 years ago. No one has ever taken his place in my heart, until now. So at 73, in good health and a positive outlook in life towards gay relationships, I'm alone. However, it is good to read about other older gay men and realize, that even in this LGBTQ+ community which most often only recognizes gay youth, We mature gay men are out there. Thanks for the acknowledgement of the seasoned, experienced, mature gay men.
Dont assume everything's gonna be easier afterwards, you'll feel it's right for yourself letting family know who you really are but if they will support you know you've been lucky. Prepare to face any consequences, you'll have to go through them anyway
Excellent documentary. Interesting to see how similar the experience of coming out today is to 30 years ago (I'm 55 y/o).
A beautiful documentary. So glad to see the parents are rightly so proud of Ross and Owen.
Growing up, I always knew that i was different, and my Father I'm sure understood this demonstrable fact. I tried to make friendships with girls but it never seemed to connect. I just felt more comfortable being with a guy.🐧🍏🍎
You're also very handsome
Lovely video, sooo... happy people's attitudes are changing with education. ❤
These are amazing parents!!
Really?! Suspecting your child might be gay, but never letting them know that it's okay, that they can be open and they will be accepted? That's not even remotely good parenting. The comments and the body language in their response to the news is hardly exemplary either. If it were still the 1970s I'd say they'd rate a 5 out of 10. But it's 2024, and all parents should now know - and do - better.
I thought both parents were amazing, it usually are the self- righteous religious parents who are the most intolerant . So much for the love and mercy of God !!!
"The only reason you're not disowned is because I can't come up with a lie big enough to tell everyone why you're not allowed around anymore." Those were the last motherly words I got. In 1996. The remaining 27 years of her life, I consider was all a lie. My one regret is not having been courageous enough to have walked out on her sprawled out on the floor helpless, like I've been accused of.
Owen's dad is amazing. Every gay child should have a parent like him.
This is nice! Good luck Young man!!👍💜🌈👍
i am 42 and since age 5 i knew i am different, during teen years i knew i am not attracted to any gender like other people are, but to a person. at that time there was no label for people like me. today they call us pansexual. i never put labeles on others, neither myself, to me it was always i am who i am. i date who i like or want to date not carrying about labels. life is too short for that, maybe for me is different coz i suffer since age 9 from war caused complex ptsd and i am survivor of ethnic cleansing so my path and experince is different. i just dont care what other people think, life is too short for that. so boys and girls just live your life, coz today you are here, tomorrow you could be gone and there is no place in life for people who dont accept you for who you are.
Moms usually know whether their children are gay. That's a helluva general statement - which is, therefore, not likely the case.
One thing's sure. The sole "choice" I made was to come out to family and friends - because I was sick of lying.
Both of you are very brave, I agree with everything that the both of you are explaining. People can be weird, ord, crazy, and wild but nobody is any different. It can be hard to come out to most of anyone including yourself. I came to turms, thruths and everything else with my sexuality so I can honesty emit that I am a 100 sure that I am Gay. If you're taught want makes you ashamed is wong that's not right.
The parents that think being gay is a choice.....they are very, very, very strange. They completely avoided any kind of conversation. I think I just realized watching this again that the parents already knew he was gay or bi, as he puts it. They are like saying to him.....Yes,. we know, what else do you want us to say. And by the way, I believe he is gay and not bi. That's just a prop that many use. He needs to be very real and NOT beat around the bush.
Yes, exactly, as if they would like to avoid being seen as bigots in front of the cameras, holding up on what really wanted to say.
But then, three months later, they seem much more understanding and accepting, hopefully is not just for the camera.
@@georgH Because they were caught off guard. They already knew.
You have to live your own life, yours alone, your way
All the best , please say safe !
The reaction of the parents 24 minutes in is so jarring to me. Yes they may not be shouting, kicking, him out, or flat out rejecting him but the statements from them are so ignorant and tired. I’m glad the kid corrected his dad on it being a “choice…”if I had a dollar for how many straight people / parents think this idiotically I’d be rich! Then the dad saying it’s not right to see two men kissing and not to put it in his face. And the worst part is the kid saying “you realize how that affects me” and then the dad making about himself and not realizing how that can greatly hurt and affect their child. I get that they aren’t used to seeing it but Jesus, to say that to his face that it’s not ‘right’ is so….I don’t know. I wish parents had more empathy and self awareness. I get parents can’t be perfect but I will never understand how you can go through your whole life not curious about other people and their experiences whether that be a different sexuality, gender , ethnicity , culture etc. be curious about other people!! I hate how it takes parents to know somebody close to them that’s gay to have empathy. Be curious about the world and people!! Read!! Educate!!
I never told my parents! Mom knew (Moms always know) because she hinted to my sister and my sister knows now for sure that both Mom and Dad are both gone. We just never ever bring that up to my very conservative dad. Mom was religious and a practicing strict Russian Orthodox. Dad was a strict practicing Protenant.
Son you are one of the luckiest boys in the world.
To have parents who love you unconditionally and know you can only thrive if you are truly happy with who you are and give you that space is one of the most wonderful things life could ever offer.
We've heard of so many cases where children are severely punished and kicked to the curb because of the ignorance of parents.
Much of this is driven by religion and people who they seek advice from to deal with the issue. Little do they understand all the hate and rejection they dish out to their children will never change the sexuality of their children but steal their chance to be loved and destroy the hearts of those they should love unconditionally.
The conservatives here in the US are fighting tooth and nail the ability (in some states) for children to grow and bloom into the beautiful people they were meant to be because they are castigated and destroyed over the most basic element of human life, and that is being comfortable and confident about who they are.
Nothing can progress if those basic building blocks are not allowed to flourish.
I hope this wonderful story of love and acceptance opens the minds and hearts of parents all over the world.
Fergus Dublin Ireland European Union E.U
A courageous effort, to come out to your parents guys
and while doing a program to be aired about it. Congratulations!
You're young, intelligent, good looking and with your whole
lives ahead of you. I'm really happy for you!
Best wishes,
Fergus xo 😘😍😘😘
Great job with this.
My first eye roll came pretty quickly at 1:19 "It's a life choice." 😖
Yeah that's right, we all choose to be gay. I mean it's such an easy life.🙄
Imagine how hard it was 60 years ago ...
I have been gay my entire life but it is incompatible with my faith. I hate lying about it but if I don't I will be disfellowshipped. I hate it. Good on you being able to do it.
It's a process. Parents usually don't know how to respond especially if they did not have any idea and they go into a kind of shock. Once they see that you are truly happy which is what most parents want for their children they will come around. Just like it took you many years to have the courage to come out You need to give them time to adjust and adapt to the news which 95% of parents do. The only time it becomes extremely difficult is when it's a very religious family which have been indoctrinated that homosexuality is a sin.
Not knowing how to respond to a child being gay and needing time to adjust is really not appropriate parenting in the 21st century. All parents should be aware of the possibility and make their children aware that they would be accepting. Never giving the possibility a second thought, or hoping it won't happen in your family is simply bad parenting.
What movie or show. Here in support
I like media that is sourced properly
Doc is from 2017, produced by Nine Lives Media for BBC
Zabardast gorgeous fabulous asom hai dear
While the preambles are interesting, the actual 'coming out' scenes are pretty ordinary. And I think exploitative of the parents. I hope they eventually consented to use of the videos. But I don't think they should have been put on the spot like that with inept handling of the recording. The boys had weeks to prepare. The parents had no warning of what it was about. Perhaps if it had been a professional doco team filming it with sensitive handling. But expecting semi-professional or even sensitive handling of those conversations from boys stressed out about the likely emotional response was a bit much. Glad I didn't stick a camera on any of the people I came out to!
It’s really a lot easier now. My mother (silent Gen) was horrible, compared being gay to being with animals. Like if there weren’t strict rules we’d all just do anything. I just wanted to be me, and not hide myself and my life. I feel like she was trying shame me back into the closet. A person in this film said something about gut reaction. Okay, I might have given her grace if her next approach on the subject wasn’t to say “it’s just a phase”. To then later stare at my wife like she couldn’t take her eyes off her when she met her. That was telling, or at least it would have been if she didn’t have dementia. I’ll never really know.
I would have been your friend♥️
I did in May 1979, 45 years ago at age 17.
A total non-event'.
James not a good choice for advice?
25.22.. The father is so naive he's dumbfounded😅😅😅 he can't even see his own bigotry he can't see his prejudice It is so funny and it's not but in the sun is like what what I know I'm 63 years old born gay. Straight people cannot see what gay people can see😂😂😂
You are zabardast and Love you dear
The mom and dad of the gay son were horrible. First of all they seemed prepared for that their son might come out as gay. But not in an informed way prepared. Then they did not embrace their son, only sat there saying yes, no or maybe. They sat there like total conservatives. Without natural reaction. Father obviously is a homophobe as he turned off tv when he saw two men kissing. He also said that it would be a choice to be gay, though it’s not. Those both remarks are clearly homophobic. I would leave those parents and stop having contact to them, because they are not loving and not accepting their son for who he is.
Cute guy❤
Coming out was the biggest regret of my life. I e wanted to go back in the closet since that moment. This isn't freedom.
Sorry to hear about that I hope it gets better the matter of time I know it takes forever. God bless and stay safe.
A lot of comments here are giving these parents kudos for being "accepting". But it's 2024, FFS. And "accepting" - coupled with a handful of ignorant, disparaging comments and stiff, disapproving body language - is not exactly what anyone should consider good parenting. It's clearly never occurred to these parents that they should be prepared for one of their children being gay (even though the mother admits to having had inklings). Or that they should perhaps - with or without inklings - have made it clear to all of their children that being gay (or bi or whatever) would be fine, and make no difference to them. That would be good parenting. Not leaving your child to spend anxious days, weeks, months or years, worrying about how their sexuality might be received. The fear and loneliness that comes with that kind of uncertainty can lead to severe depression, all kinds of damaging behaviour and self-torment (like years pretending to be straight) and, still not uncommonly, self-harm and suicide. You'd think most parents today would be aware of this. But apparently not.
Hello Fallen Angel aka glbtq+
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You were created by GOD Almighty with love & free will to choose whom to serve
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GOD
or
SATAN
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YOUR CHOICE PAPI / MAMI
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Choose GOD if you want to become a child of GOD again
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GOD proactively creates 🌈 animals on a daily basis - all over the animal kingdom. Therefore, it’s innate.
On the other hand, it is your CHOICE to target and condemn God’s creations for being as GOD created. Doing so is the exact OPPOSITE of doing God’s will.
Please, stop bowing down to and choosing SATAN.
Sincerely praying for you to become a child of GOD again.
🙏
You can be LGBT and Christian 👨❤️👨
No need, Parents know since a child birth.Good luck to you and live your live.
And the parents say awesome, if you have children immediately we're going to feel old because we will become grandparents, as long as you don't give us any children then we can just stay parents and feel young. You will help us stay in our home when we grow old we won't have to get a reverse mortgage, you will be here as our caregiver because you didn't get married and have children. That will really save us from the bank taking our house away. And you're really going to help out the planet by not having any children each new child born produces more carbon emissions. And everybody's in up in arms about slowing down the production of carbon emissions well slow down the production of people and use accomplished your mission of slowing down carbon emissions. It's a win-win scenario for the family all the way around parents with a gay son how wonderful.