Plant you now. Dig you later. If I wasn't checkin for outta pocket pretty faces who wouldn't grind for a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of when we linked chances are you're only at me because you need something. When I go out of my way to do real ish in your life just off the strength expect to hold me down or solve a problem somewhere along the line. Preserve the fabric you're cut from.
So true as a guy that was friend zoned by a lot of women for a couple decades we are patient we will look for any opening...we will wait months years even. One way you can tell you've overstayed your welcome as our friend is when we start getting mad for random things its because of the lack of sex.
Best to make up for it by staying for a week max. Cook and clean (as “payment”) and look for another place to move to. Let him know in advance. Have a backup plan to stay in a hostel or something if the arrangement does not last the week. Need to cover all bases.
When I ran away from home in highschool my friend let me sleep at his house at night, but literally a couple minutes after his parents left he whipped it out...I thought he wanted to help me out cause he never tried anything before. smh, steve is def telling the truth! I just never understood how people can pretend for so long, when they truly have a motive...
And some are simply opportunists. They strike while the iron is hot. He may have set out with good intentions to help but when the opportunity presents itself, empty house, girl on his couch, both of his brains started thinking real quick!
It's neither good nor bad. It's in our nature. I have female friends who I can hang out with, in my car or at their place, for hours and hours into the early morning but they'll never stay at my house because they know what's up lol
The only exception I can see is if he's rich and has houses everywhere. Then it's just like yeah, you can stay there because i'm gonna be at one of my other houses.
Steve you got it right and wrong. Men can be generous and do good deeds for women for the sake of God. I have helped women without even looking at their face and did not ask their name. I just saw they needed help and I did and moved on like she has never met me in her life
Helping someone and letting someone stay at your house rent free aren't even remotely the same. Having someone live in your house for nothing is essentially taking care of them. How many people are volunteering to take care of another person without getting something out of it?
Consider the crowd and the orientation of the questions he's asked. I can also predict what a dog's thinking when it hasn't been fed in a week, but does that make me a Dog whisperer?
My father taught me so much; 1) men don’t hang around nothing they don’t want, 2) sex is always on their minds, 3) rap is an option, 4) do not drink from your cup if you leave it to go dance, get a fresh cup, 5) if the man you just broke up with says he needs to speak with you, meet him in a restaurant, bar, or busy park, never at your home or his.
For me the deciding factor (and I believe the same goes for a lot of men), is am I physically attracted to her. If yes, then there will always be another motive. If no, then that means I really do see you as a bro.
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I recently lost weight. Have noticed a lot of people being nicer to me. Especially men. A few weeks ago, some guy ( stranger, didn't know him at all and I've never seen him before ) paid for some groceries that I had to put back, because I didn't have enough food stamps to pay for it all. Have me $8 and heading out the door. Yes I looked really good. But he also didn't stay to find out who I was or my number. Nothing. He was in front of me in the check out line. So it wasn't like he needed to. I have never had some random stranger pay for my groceries. I have noticed that guys are far nicer to me now that I have lost weight. Even friends and family are nicer to me now that I have lost weight. I am still the same nice, honest and politely respectful person I have always been. I wonder why my weight matters so so much to mostly everyone.
My sister was always the good looking one, and she reports that now that she is in her fifties and us less attractive people are less nice. You are not imagining it! ☺
There's no such thing as being an overprotective father who has daughters.. Boy u sound like a player... Steve been there done that, he a man.. He is telling the truth and nothing less.. Its not being overprotective...
Like women would just do stuff for you for free. I bet you anything if you were crash at a girlfriend's place for free, she would be asking for rent in a matter of weeks.
I've done things for free for people wanting nothing in return. But in this situation I believe the guy had ulterior motives. Hope she's doing alright.
would you continuously spend time and money and resources for a female friend, that you never get to touch, meanwhile she's giving it to someone else for free?
Ladies!! Ladies!! Ladies!!!! Stop fooling yourselves. If you are as hot as this fine young lady, then there is not such thing as "just friends." Her male friend definitely has other motives, without a doubt! If she wasn't so attractive then it's easy to be just friends and do stuff for free, but not when you are as gorgeous as she is!
***** I agree. More often than not that is the case. If at least one of them is heterosexual, then there is usually something that attracts that person to the other, and many times it leads to some form of sexual attraction.
And if so, women find a gorgeous man and do the same thing. Women are eyes in our heads too. But when it's friendship, men aren't all looking to score. Give men more credit than that.
***** I get your point, but let's be real; if they both are single, and she is very attractive (the guy knows this), he may not overtly seek to score, but one thing is sure: he definitely wouldn't mind it happening. I just consider this as sage advice to ladies.
Giovanni Vernon The whole premise though isn't giving room to the individual. Steve makes all men, sound like animals, this is sexist against men. Each man is his own person. There are women who think it would be good to score, there are a mix of people out there, each thinking their own thoughts. What if the man is very attractive? It can go both ways, and Steve doesn't seem to think it's possible for women to be thinking the same.
+Franklin Evans Um, possibly because not all women are prostitutes who exchange resources for sex. I won't speak for every woman, but I don't expect anything from anyone. If a man wants to voluntarily give me a favor, I'm not giving him sex in exchange.
I think it really determined by the length of the stay . I mean for me , if you are my friend idc if your a man or a woman , you can couch surf all you want for a week or two but extended stays mean you got to help around the house some what . Idc if its money or just doing dishes and cleaning up but if you are staying long term you got to help . That being said , family going through hard times i wont ask money from , just clean up after yourself and we are good .
I agree. Be respectful and sisterly. Keep communicating and offer to pay something to cover room and board until you find your own place. Maybe he paying it forward. Someone helped him so he is helping her get set up in a new place. L.A. is huge and expensive.
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Respectfully, don't be stupid again. They are USING you, and no kind of MAN even ASKS any woman for money. Ask your brothers and your father. Watch the look they will give you. Looks like this: :/
You're a friend so you get a friends treatment. Men ain't jumping up at the drop of a hat to give their friends rides. Ask any man if his friends are doing this and you'll hear a resounding no. You want to be just friends, then don't expect special treatment like you're more than friends.
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 ehm... what exactly does that mean? no man asks women for money? WHY? then women should never ask men for money. I can't stand these double standarts. If you out of your gender role then I am going to also stay out of my gender role, you can do your heavy lifting yourself. You can change a tire yourself and you are paying your half on every date. so on and on. Which is it then?
@@josephtutu391 the thing is you think that sex is going to happen when steve say men dont do anything for free maybe you can help us when something happen on the future is not about sex
No one does anything for free. You think her girlfriends would just house her without asking for rent? Maybe for a little bit, but months later they will be asking for rent.
sometimes girls "act" naive just to get the benefit from a "friend" once they dont need em anymore they cast him out, or say "we are just friends" im not saying she has to do anything with the guy, but she has to know it can get weird real quick by accepting the "rent free favor"
Steve right he just looking for the right opportunity all men do this especially if you are fine my favourite line is you my first my last my everything lol...ladies just be careful on who you trust..
As a man, I disagree. If a friend needs a place to stay, you help them out. Having said that, if he's single, there's still a good chance that any female friendships is open to a potential relationship
Yeah, like its really a matter of the character of the guy. If she trusts him and hasnt been creeped out by him before then chances are shes safe physically. Then theres just the question of whether he will use the opportunity to try and make a move, and if he does all she then needs to do is have a backup plan like leaving and going to a hostel or something.
From man to man, you are a liar or simply disingenuous, you would never "help" an unattractive 50 year old overweight single mom with your time and money. But you would absolutely do it if she was a hot 20 year old.
Don't trust a single male friend who let's you stay for free in his home or his hotel... it's a trap. And they will do anything to get in your pants. Don't put yourself in such a vulnerable position, no matter what. Better to be safe than sorry.
@@jerijz9825 Your idealism will take a turn one day! It's not about 'love', but a strong sexual libido esp men have that drives them to do these things! Your parents decide for you who you will spend your whole life with?? Shows your lack of maturity and lack of independent reasoning skills! It's one thing to ask your parents' opinion about someone you care deeply about, it's quite another to marry a complete stranger! That's how many women end up being abused and killed! Good looks, good resume, good job, respected family, etc do not guarantee a good, loving, faithful husband! It takes a lot of time to get to know someone! Men can be charming to the outsiders, and devils at home.. Either way, I wish you well!
Or he is calling out the fact that she WILL use him for as long as he will let her. She should offer to pay something, but she does NOT even think to mention it. She wants to USE him.
I like the argument but I don't agree. As a man, I don't want that stigma attached to me. Why would you want to be seen or known as that guy that requires sex in exchange for favors? Certainly not me! We're already known for wanting sex a large portion of the time anyway so why make it to where women are skeptical to ask us for anything?
It doesn't need to be sex in this case, there's a limit to generosity and sooner or later couch surfing is gonna turn into a sexual relationship or a roommates deal to subsidize the price of you staying there (since odds are in this scenario the woman is eating out of his fridge.)
***** Of course male friends do, but if they are not offering a relationship to the woman, the sex never will happen. Women have a right to want what we want as well. That's is why they wait for an opening because they don't want to offer a relationship to get the sex. The men just want the sex. If the male friend is not willing to GIVE her what she wants, then he doesn't GET what he wants. Tit for tat is not robbery.
Ashbringer36 It doesn't need to be sex but it almost always is sex. That is why I don't ask men to do anything. I don't trade sex for favors. Sex is for committed relationships only.
I have to disagree with Steve Harvey, but then again I get his point in some cases. People actually do stuff for free. Their are plenty of volunteering jobs that people do willingly free out of the kindness of there hearts to help others in life. For example, Okay my mother gets free cab drivers to her cancer center weekly. Also, I've let plenty of friends live with me at my place for free in the past growing up when I was younger, when of coarse my mother and father split up and left me and my brother for dead in a house that was in the process of foreclosing.
Yeah I dont get why everyones acting as though the dude could only be looking to get something in return. If they are genuinely friends and have a decent relationship with each other then its most likely that hes doing it to help a friend out, because really how hard is it to let a friend sleep on your couch lmao. He might also be hoping that something happens but I'd say theres a very low chance it would be any creepier than him just making a move that she can refuse
Here is the litmus test: If we wouldn't do it for our closest guy friend(s) (in general we never give gifts of any sort) then why do you think he would do it for a girl "friend"? If you know this and still take it, you know exactly what you are doing.
Yes, that is definitely true that men do not do anything for free because I have experienced it when I was in my early 20's. Very little in this world is truly free. This was a former male friend who I went to to school with, we reconnected years after high school graduation in our hometown. I genuinely did reunite with him as a friend, however I started to figure out the signs that he had other intentions by wanting me to visit him in Los Angeles, he wanted to buy me an iPhone, a gift, go to Universal Studios and the beach, buy me a gift, offered to pay my trip to and from LA. I did not feel comfortable with those ideas, and definitely did not go visit him in Los Angeles and did not accept his other offerings because it that is a bit too much, and I knew that he started having feelings for me especially when he brought up these gifts and outings as his intention to get something in return from me by winning me over.
she can stay with but she will have to split the rent with me....or at least cook OR clean....at least offered to help with something because if it was the other way around she would expect the same......and like I said...women wouldn't let woman stay with them free.....
Lmao "women wouldn't let women stay for free" yes we....would I would definitely let my friend who is in need stay but ya I agree she will also have to help in the house
Can't agree here Steve. It doesn't matter if she's been my friend since we were kids or if I just met her, or EVEN if it's a dude, as long as we get along great they can stay for free no strings! However I better not be doing the cleaning..someone's gonna be pushin that broom and mop and it aint gonna be me!
Steve’s right, this guy sees an opportunity to get you out to LA where you have no other friends, maybe no job and no apartment. What happens if he comes on to you and you don’t want that? You have nobody to run to and no place of your own. Wait until you save the money and go when you can afford an apartment and be independent.
I think he's definitely got it in his head that their relationship will get past just being "friends." She she is cold to him or dares dates other guys while she's staying there, best believe her welcome will come to an abrupt end.
Most women don't get it and never will! Im 60 yo man and a married woman 65 yo from my social circle was very interested to meet me, So after weeks of avoiding talks I agreed to meet her. So after one dinner she calls me her friend but her behaviour is more like GF, then starts romantic type dates invites me out all the time texts me 7 times a day. Then tells me not to touch her but gropes me. So I had to unfriend her and block her. Now after almost 2 years she still contacts me every month and doesn't understand why I don't respond or want to see her. Men and women have different idea what a friend is.
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That’s true, some people do just want to help people grow, and I applaud you for that, however, don’t start complaining when people start using you or you get manipulated.
I mean she could for a week but beyond that nah bruh, pay rent, pay food, pay something. I learned that just from taking care of my friends cat. I’m taking all the responsibility and non of the joy. I love the cat but it’s not mine
I disagree with Steve on this. Some men can help a lady for free. For heaven sake, this lady said she has been friends with this guy since high school. Come on Steve! Speak for yourself in this case.
thats BS, if her "friend" had the opportunity, hed have sex with her the moment she suggested it and thats not friendship. This case is even more clear as shes a very attractive girl
Males never do anything without a motive behind it, its not in our nature as men. And sure, you can say its about self-control but then your basically making yourself go against what you really want.
+Arthur Az I have to disagree with you to an extent. I have female friends who I help out when they need things but I would NEVER let one of them move into my house rent free unless they were on the verge of becoming homeless. Then she would have about a month to get herself together and go. The man that this woman is talking about in the video isn't interested in that. To me it sounds like he's been in love with her since high school and this is his way in. 9/10 he's hoping that something happens between them and it's not just about helping her out.
1 week tops for anyone who's 'just a friend'. Men may let someone stay longer than that if they are a blood relative or they want to escape the friend zone.
Men are not a woman's friend unless there has been a previous relationship or a least a hook-up at some point. You can be friends with an ex if you both know it's over. Otherwise, game on and yes, a guy who offers for you to stay "as a friend" hopes for something more.
Men and women can be friends just fine. Even if you find that friend attractive, doesn't mean there is anything else there. Of course men do nothing for free. If I offer my friend, who is a woman, a place to stay, for free, that means money. That does not mean she can come and go as she pleases and not help out in some way. I'm offering a place to stay, not room service. Women are the same way. You're not going to her house and doing as you please without helping out. That's just life.
I gotta admit Steve you are a lil bit off on that point 😂 my wife has guy friends that respect me and her, and I still have a bunch of friends that are girls from the Army, where there may be some people exactly like you explained, and maybe it’s mostly single people with each other. It ain’t everyone lol
Last time I checked I haven't asked anybody for anything, but my Lord. I don't owe anybody anything. Keep walking straight past me and check with someone you've invested. That's why I don't and will never ask.
::shrugs:: Men have been unbelievably generous to me. I get the best projects at work, my car is fixed for free and they even offer to do yard work for me for free. Never once have these generous men asked me for anything in return. They compliment me on my looks quite frequently, but never asked for sex or even food. I think there are men who do expect something in return, but there are plenty who don't. That being said, it's a very different situation when you are living rent-free with a man. This young lady had better make sure she doesn't stay beyond a month. It is very expensive to support another adult and if she is a good person, she will at least pay the utilities particularly if she stays longer than a month. She better secure a job and go apartment hunting once she arrives or become his roommate and split the costs 50%. It isn't right to expect another adult to financially support you long-term.
I have done things for people free and I also know few guys that have done things for me free but for the ones that do nothing for free (majority), lol....I hope they won't get disappointed coz it's best to say why you're doing whatever for a girl right on time.
Yes and this is why women need to work together and stop arguing with each other. A lot of us do that depend on the man stuff and he just pretends to want to be helpful. All of us instead of just 1 or 2 of us need to realize this trait in them for what it is.
Steve is right.... They want you to cook, clean( I mean really clean), dishes, laundry, vacuum, clean appliances the whole place. You're there for what he wants. Waiting on him and so much more.... "more", friends yeah.... Listen to Steve ladies.... "Listen to Steve."
It is rare.. extremely but yes I've done it for free no strings.. Stayed with a guy i dated yrs before He was very respectful Never asked for anything Cool for 14 yrs now It is rare though
If she doesn't want to sleep with him she prolly could just walk around in a tank top with no bra and that would be more than reason enough for him to keep her around lol
No Boo. Give him some rent money so he doesnt think you owe him.
Nothing in this world is free
+Ryan Phillips - Yes! Well said!
Nothing in this world is free.
All actions have effects and consequences.
Truth
Plant you now. Dig you later. If I wasn't checkin for outta pocket pretty faces who wouldn't grind for a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of when we linked chances are you're only at me because you need something. When I go out of my way to do real ish in your life just off the strength expect to hold me down or solve a problem somewhere along the line. Preserve the fabric you're cut from.
If he has a 2 bdrm, rent one of them. Id he doesn't, don't stay with him.
Very little in this world is truly "free". Except maybe the air we breath.
Depends if you mean free for the individual or someone at all. And hey! Water is free!^^ Not tap water and so on,
In the immortal words of Chris Rock. "Pussy costs money, DICK is free."
we pay air by exhaling carbin monoxide for the tree to exchange it into oxygen for us to inhale.. nothing is free ..
air is polluted and causes expensive health problems like cancer lol
You gotta breathe out
Exactly what my father told me when i was a teenager - never accept any random gifts or favor from men because they never do it for FREE!
It is human being! Your father totally right. This is how men feel !
Yes but i bet you do though ha ha .👍🤭
So true as a guy that was friend zoned by a lot of women for a couple decades we are patient we will look for any opening...we will wait months years even. One way you can tell you've overstayed your welcome as our friend is when we start getting mad for random things its because of the lack of sex.
He gave you spot on advice
Harvey is wrong about this. We do a lot of things for women for free. They just don't recognize it cause women take men for granted
It's a time limit on the rent free.. Before things get awkward for both parties.
or just simply awkward for her..the guy knows what he is after
Yea its called a good time
It you decide you don't want to sleep with him.
Best to make up for it by staying for a week max. Cook and clean (as “payment”) and look for another place to move to. Let him know in advance. Have a backup plan to stay in a hostel or something if the arrangement does not last the week.
Need to cover all bases.
@@amyv. true that.because nothing in life is free
When I ran away from home in highschool my friend let me sleep at his house at night, but literally a couple minutes after his parents left he whipped it out...I thought he wanted to help me out cause he never tried anything before. smh, steve is def telling the truth! I just never understood how people can pretend for so long, when they truly have a motive...
Some people can like a person for years and never come out and say it or admit it. Some girls are like that too and also some guys too
And some are simply opportunists. They strike while the iron is hot. He may have set out with good intentions to help but when the opportunity presents itself, empty house, girl on his couch, both of his brains started thinking real quick!
He seems like a superior Project Manager to me. No rush, good planning and flawless execution. Obviously it was the wrong project 🙄😅
Innocence is priceless not when facing the world but in keeping it within & not showing it. World doesn't deserve it.
It's neither good nor bad. It's in our nature. I have female friends who I can hang out with, in my car or at their place, for hours and hours into the early morning but they'll never stay at my house because they know what's up lol
My mom always told me: nothing in life is free love! You want something, figure out how to get it yourself.
Exactly! My dad once told me "ain't nothing free, but the cheese in the mouse trap."
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Some of us didn't have that wisdom but learning as we go along
It's win win
Ur hot
she's really attractive so yeah he's got other motives.. no matter how "sweet" he may seem.
My thoughts!! She's smokin hot so yeah he' got "other motives" for sure LOL!
jonny Deth or people have different tastes
How exactly is a guy who likes a girl supposed to act? You're being too cynical here.
The only exception I can see is if he's rich and has houses everywhere. Then it's just like yeah, you can stay there because i'm gonna be at one of my other houses.
Ummmm maybe she can try being an adult and getting a better job or saving up money and getting her own place...you know...like how adults do ?! 😂😂😂😂
Steve you got it right and wrong. Men can be generous and do good deeds for women for the sake of God.
I have helped women without even looking at their face and did not ask their name. I just saw they needed help and I did and moved on like she has never met me in her life
God bless you. As a woman I thank you.
There's always exceptions to the rule
Helping someone and letting someone stay at your house rent free aren't even remotely the same. Having someone live in your house for nothing is essentially taking care of them. How many people are volunteering to take care of another person without getting something out of it?
Consider the crowd and the orientation of the questions he's asked. I can also predict what a dog's thinking when it hasn't been fed in a week, but does that make me a Dog whisperer?
@Hannibal Massinissa Then you are a rare man indeed!
If its not sex, she'll be cookin or cleaning...
I'd choose sex.
ChildofThe MostHighGod Nowadays, men don't need women for sex - anyone and anything will do!
PianoQueennn spoken like a true oblivious woman
Knowledge Hub Men need women to have children through sex, but there are quite a few men who don't care who they have sex with.
@@childofthemosthighgod4322 Yeah right, they can but don't.
Beauuuutiful smile on that girl
@Ben Franklin Exactly!
My father taught me so much; 1) men don’t hang around nothing they don’t want, 2) sex is always on their minds, 3) rap is an option, 4) do not drink from your cup if you leave it to go dance, get a fresh cup, 5) if the man you just broke up with says he needs to speak with you, meet him in a restaurant, bar, or busy park, never at your home or his.
are you still sexist 1 year later?
rap is an option?
Dad taught you well
What is rap??😂
For me the deciding factor (and I believe the same goes for a lot of men), is am I physically attracted to her. If yes, then there will always be another motive. If no, then that means I really do see you as a bro.
true...but to most men that's been single long enough even a 4 becomes weirdly attractive because she "has an awesome personality" lol
TheBigPalooka Yeah you start trying to justify it lol
Moe Li a bro? Ouch 😂
Devils In The Details Toronto even if you're not attractive to us a crack in the wall is a crack in the wall.
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@@sumzz1055 STOPPP LMFAOOOO
nah
I recently lost weight. Have noticed a lot of people being nicer to me. Especially men. A few weeks ago, some guy ( stranger, didn't know him at all and I've never seen him before ) paid for some groceries that I had to put back, because I didn't have enough food stamps to pay for it all. Have me $8 and heading out the door. Yes I looked really good. But he also didn't stay to find out who I was or my number. Nothing. He was in front of me in the check out line. So it wasn't like he needed to. I have never had some random stranger pay for my groceries. I have noticed that guys are far nicer to me now that I have lost weight. Even friends and family are nicer to me now that I have lost weight. I am still the same nice, honest and politely respectful person I have always been. I wonder why my weight matters so so much to mostly everyone.
Its not about weight
Its your personality that have changed
My sister was always the good looking one, and she reports that now that she is in her fifties and us less attractive people are less nice. You are not imagining it! ☺
Abderrahim Yoestoy she said her personality hasn’t changed
It takes some work to look good, either you're naturally good looking or not. People respect you more when they see you're a hard worker.
I never had a guy that didn't expect something in return for doing something for me. If he's really just a friend she is blessed
Steve is an over protective father. You can see it with the advice he gives women.
Why do you call it over protective?
The he needs to get his own daughter together 😅
There's no such thing as being an overprotective father who has daughters.. Boy u sound like a player... Steve been there done that, he a man.. He is telling the truth and nothing less.. Its not being overprotective...
@@juleeanng Thank you for telling the truth!
Talk like that when you become a responsible man/father.
RIP to my dude FRIENDZONE on national TV
Not a male friend is in the friendzone. Grow up.
Omg😅😹
With the right accent free-rent-zone and friend-zone sound awfully similar....
Hah, got em.
Love that Steve helps me understand the mind of a man
Don't play stupid
Like women would just do stuff for you for free. I bet you anything if you were crash at a girlfriend's place for free, she would be asking for rent in a matter of weeks.
Yes
Is that you what a blessing to talk to Steve and please listen to him
The only thing that's free in this earth realm is God's love, grace and mercy. EVERYTHING else is "pay to play."
Speak on it!
Cool...show pics and vids of that..wheres those supernatural beings and miracles
I've done things for free for people wanting nothing in return. But in this situation I believe the guy had ulterior motives. Hope she's doing alright.
would you continuously spend time and money and resources for a female friend, that you never get to touch, meanwhile she's giving it to someone else for free?
Ladies!! Ladies!! Ladies!!!! Stop fooling yourselves. If you are as hot as this fine young lady, then there is not such thing as "just friends." Her male friend definitely has other motives, without a doubt! If she wasn't so attractive then it's easy to be just friends and do stuff for free, but not when you are as gorgeous as she is!
***** I agree. More often than not that is the case. If at least one of them is heterosexual, then there is usually something that attracts that person to the other, and many times it leads to some form of sexual attraction.
***** I totally agree with you dude.
And if so, women find a gorgeous man and do the same thing. Women are eyes in our heads too. But when it's friendship, men aren't all looking to score. Give men more credit than that.
***** I get your point, but let's be real; if they both are single, and she is very attractive (the guy knows this), he may not overtly seek to score, but one thing is sure: he definitely wouldn't mind it happening. I just consider this as sage advice to ladies.
Giovanni Vernon The whole premise though isn't giving room to the individual. Steve makes all men, sound like animals, this is sexist against men. Each man is his own person. There are women who think it would be good to score, there are a mix of people out there, each thinking their own thoughts. What if the man is very attractive? It can go both ways, and Steve doesn't seem to think it's possible for women to be thinking the same.
If she aint putting out he gon put her out.
+Nibbler800 why do women expect men take things from men, but won't put out.
+Franklin Evans Um, possibly because not all women are prostitutes who exchange resources for sex. I won't speak for every woman, but I don't expect anything from anyone. If a man wants to voluntarily give me a favor, I'm not giving him sex in exchange.
if its something that involves larges sums of money like this he'll expect something back..either money or...vagina.
Lauren Taylor don't try to twist up my words. Go play elsewhere
Men will take vagina over money any day.
I think it really determined by the length of the stay . I mean for me , if you are my friend idc if your a man or a woman , you can couch surf all you want for a week or two but extended stays mean you got to help around the house some what . Idc if its money or just doing dishes and cleaning up but if you are staying long term you got to help . That being said , family going through hard times i wont ask money from , just clean up after yourself and we are good .
Crashing and staying are 2 different things. Yea I'll help you get on your feet but no man is going to support a woman unlimited for nothing.
@@MrBusy327 it's not like she's even gonna stay there forever tho
I agree. Be respectful and sisterly. Keep communicating and offer to pay something to cover room and board until you find your own place. Maybe he paying it forward. Someone helped him so he is helping her get set up in a new place. L.A. is huge and expensive.
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The fact that she thought it’s okay to stay with a man she isn’t in a relationship with is scary.
She is dumb and naive. Its not even cute. Grown as woman
@@thegenzcompass2526 true. who does that
Scary? If you know the guy then no it’s not.
@@Amateur_Pianist_472 yes it is. A man/guy doesn't want to keep a girl around to be her friend.
@@taurusking_1997 it’s a bad idea sure but not scary
WOW! Steve, I've just watched a lot of your short vids with tons of advice. You are goooood! Haven't made any comments till now. Really nice of you to make people understand how the whole game works. I bet all the guys watching now must be pissed off with you because you are sharing their secrets. It's a huge help. Thank you. 😉👍🏻
He speaking facts lol I have male friends that are just friends and I can't even get a ride let alone my money that they OWE me 😂
Respectfully, don't be stupid again. They are USING you, and no kind of MAN even ASKS any woman for money. Ask your brothers and your father. Watch the look they will give you. Looks like this: :/
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 that's ridiculous, you build relationships with people, you will always know who you could ask money from
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You're a friend so you get a friends treatment. Men ain't jumping up at the drop of a hat to give their friends rides. Ask any man if his friends are doing this and you'll hear a resounding no. You want to be just friends, then don't expect special treatment like you're more than friends.
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 ehm... what exactly does that mean? no man asks women for money? WHY? then women should never ask men for money. I can't stand these double standarts. If you out of your gender role then I am going to also stay out of my gender role, you can do your heavy lifting yourself. You can change a tire yourself and you are paying your half on every date. so on and on. Which is it then?
People must pay rent or do chores in they live rent free. It's not about sex, it's about contributing.
Wait till nighttime and the demons start creeping in😈
@@josephtutu391 the thing is you think that sex is going to happen when steve say men dont do anything for free maybe you can help us when something happen on the future is not about sex
“Men don’t do anything for free when it comes pretty girls” that’s how it should be
No one does anything for free. You think her girlfriends would just house her without asking for rent? Maybe for a little bit, but months later they will be asking for rent.
Indeed, because when it comes to the ugly ones we dont even "do" to begin with😂🤣
@@jiroweiler5883 Hahahah, thanks for being honest. 🤣
Nope, they call over the hippos at 11pm and screw them then ask them to leave before daylight.
why would he ask for rent? women never go 50-50 anyways@@RiseUpToYourAbility
sometimes girls "act" naive just to get the benefit from a "friend" once they dont need em anymore they cast him out, or say "we are just friends" im not saying she has to do anything with the guy, but she has to know it can get weird real quick by accepting the "rent free favor"
0:30-0:50 SUCH WORDS OF WISDOM
Steve right he just looking for the right opportunity all men do this especially if you are fine my favourite line is you my first my last my everything lol...ladies just be careful on who you trust..
As a man, I disagree. If a friend needs a place to stay, you help them out. Having said that, if he's single, there's still a good chance that any female friendships is open to a potential relationship
Yeah, like its really a matter of the character of the guy. If she trusts him and hasnt been creeped out by him before then chances are shes safe physically. Then theres just the question of whether he will use the opportunity to try and make a move, and if he does all she then needs to do is have a backup plan like leaving and going to a hostel or something.
From man to man, you are a liar or simply disingenuous, you would never "help" an unattractive 50 year old overweight single mom with your time and money. But you would absolutely do it if she was a hot 20 year old.
That's Why I Like Working.
Don't trust a single male friend who let's you stay for free in his home or his hotel... it's a trap. And they will do anything to get in your pants. Don't put yourself in such a vulnerable position, no matter what. Better to be safe than sorry.
It costs you nothing more than the price of the condom, to bang a man in return for what he says he offers "for free".
Don't worry about it man. No matter how clearly you explain it to women, they ain't gonna get it.
@@jerijz9825 marriage is overrated lol
@@jerijz9825 Your idealism will take a turn one day! It's not about 'love', but a strong sexual libido esp men have that drives them to do these things!
Your parents decide for you who you will spend your whole life with?? Shows your lack of maturity and lack of independent reasoning skills! It's one thing to ask your parents' opinion about someone you care deeply about, it's quite another to marry a complete stranger! That's how many women end up being abused and killed! Good looks, good resume, good job, respected family, etc do not guarantee a good, loving, faithful husband! It takes a lot of time to get to know someone! Men can be charming to the outsiders, and devils at home.. Either way, I wish you well!
@@lenitaa7938 Thank you for your kind suggestion..❤️
He gave her the sanitized, comedic version of an answer. He's actually trying to give her a warning and a reason to pause.
Or he is calling out the fact that she WILL use him for as long as he will let her. She should offer to pay something, but she does NOT even think to mention it. She wants to USE him.
And woman shouldn't do anything for free, either. Think like a man and you won't get played by men.
mavishill
Hopefully not a damn thing. Being nice to men seldom gets you want you want.
Well they should do stuff for free!
Bishop master
Oh yeah? What are you willing to do for free?
nothing but i want them to do it for free!
Bishop master
I like to eat for free!
I like the argument but I don't agree. As a man, I don't want that stigma attached to me. Why would you want to be seen or known as that guy that requires sex in exchange for favors? Certainly not me! We're already known for wanting sex a large portion of the time anyway so why make it to where women are skeptical to ask us for anything?
Great answer!
good point
It doesn't need to be sex in this case, there's a limit to generosity and sooner or later couch surfing is gonna turn into a sexual relationship or a roommates deal to subsidize the price of you staying there (since odds are in this scenario the woman is eating out of his fridge.)
*****
Of course male friends do, but if they are not offering a relationship to the woman, the sex never will happen. Women have a right to want what we want as well. That's is why they wait for an opening because they don't want to offer a relationship to get the sex. The men just want the sex. If the male friend is not willing to GIVE her what she wants, then he doesn't GET what he wants. Tit for tat is not robbery.
Ashbringer36
It doesn't need to be sex but it almost always is sex. That is why I don't ask men to do anything. I don't trade sex for favors. Sex is for committed relationships only.
Not all men, but I'm willing to put my money on it not going as planned.
There are always exceptions but better safe than sorry.
This is the basic logic ladies do not get and potentially ruin things down the line. Men don't do anything for free unless his your partner or family.
I have to disagree with Steve Harvey, but then again I get his point in some cases. People actually do stuff for free. Their are plenty of volunteering jobs that people do willingly free out of the kindness of there hearts to help others in life. For example, Okay my mother gets free cab drivers to her cancer center weekly. Also, I've let plenty of friends live with me at my place for free in the past growing up when I was younger, when of coarse my mother and father split up and left me and my brother for dead in a house that was in the process of foreclosing.
The feeling of goodwill is the payment
@@ChloeDiane really, can I stay with you then? rent free of course!
Yeah I dont get why everyones acting as though the dude could only be looking to get something in return. If they are genuinely friends and have a decent relationship with each other then its most likely that hes doing it to help a friend out, because really how hard is it to let a friend sleep on your couch lmao. He might also be hoping that something happens but I'd say theres a very low chance it would be any creepier than him just making a move that she can refuse
she so gorgeous,
and ?
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What a wonderful world we live in.
She looks like a nice girl.i rather think that she would help around the house and show that she's an asset.and not take his kindness for granted
Here is the litmus test: If we wouldn't do it for our closest guy friend(s) (in general we never give gifts of any sort) then why do you think he would do it for a girl "friend"? If you know this and still take it, you know exactly what you are doing.
Yes, that is definitely true that men do not do anything for free because I have experienced it when I was in my early 20's. Very little in this world is truly free. This was a former male friend who I went to to school with, we reconnected years after high school graduation in our hometown. I genuinely did reunite with him as a friend, however I started to figure out the signs that he had other intentions by wanting me to visit him in Los Angeles, he wanted to buy me an iPhone, a gift, go to Universal Studios and the beach, buy me a gift, offered to pay my trip to and from LA. I did not feel comfortable with those ideas, and definitely did not go visit him in Los Angeles and did not accept his other offerings because it that is a bit too much, and I knew that he started having feelings for me especially when he brought up these gifts and outings as his intention to get something in return from me by winning me over.
I don't go alone in a room with a man ir stay at his house unless his my husband. Thanks GOD.
Yes, the good men do. But the ones who have ulterior motive....they dont.
Shell be banging for rent🤦🏽♂️🤣u know it
she can stay with but she will have to split the rent with me....or at least cook OR clean....at least offered to help with something because if it was the other way around she would expect the same......and like I said...women wouldn't let woman stay with them free.....
I would ask long as it’s temporary and your cleaning up after yourself
Lmao "women wouldn't let women stay for free" yes we....would I would definitely let my friend who is in need stay but ya I agree she will also have to help in the house
She would have to split something else for me also if she lived with me . 🤣👍
I can't get enough of Steve's expressions, they say a tonne...
He was genuinely concerned for her.
The way the guy says "no" at 1:43 made me lmfao!!!!!!!!!!!!! hahahahaah
Can't agree here Steve. It doesn't matter if she's been my friend since we were kids or if I just met her, or EVEN if it's a dude, as long as we get along great they can stay for free no strings! However I better not be doing the cleaning..someone's gonna be pushin that broom and mop and it aint gonna be me!
theperv01 or maybe he's a generous human, but you wouldn't know what that means I'm sure.
It’s time to go when she stops appreciating his generosity.
We are not your friends remember that
Tone_Setter_Brown woow eh
True
steve has a good point
I wouldn't know , i've never seen him in the shower . 🤔
Steve is amazing 💛💛
She's still young! She'll learn and I love me some Steve Harvey.
Steve’s right, this guy sees an opportunity to get you out to LA where you have no other friends, maybe no job and no apartment. What happens if he comes on to you and you don’t want that? You have nobody to run to and no place of your own. Wait until you save the money and go when you can afford an apartment and be independent.
I think he's definitely got it in his head that their relationship will get past just being "friends." She she is cold to him or dares dates other guys while she's staying there, best believe her welcome will come to an abrupt end.
Yep
Most women don't get it and never will! Im 60 yo man and a married woman 65 yo from my social circle was very interested to meet me, So after weeks of avoiding talks I agreed to meet her. So after one dinner she calls me her friend but her behaviour is more like GF, then starts romantic type dates invites me out all the time texts me 7 times a day. Then tells me not to touch her but gropes me. So I had to unfriend her and block her. Now after almost 2 years she still contacts me every month and doesn't understand why I don't respond or want to see her. Men and women have different idea what a friend is.
SHE IS CUTE.
Thank you for this RUclips videos...I miss your other shoe for that!!! Thank you so much...Im dating right now and I have your book..Think Like a Man, Act Like a Lady....these videos are gems for us. My million thanks to u💗💗💗
That’s not true. I would do that for her not everything’s about sex or a relationship.
Some people just like to help others grow.
LOL
If she were a fat, ugly broad, it wouldn't even be an issue. Because they would not BE friends, and he never would offer. JME
That’s true, some people do just want to help people grow, and I applaud you for that, however, don’t start complaining when people start using you or you get manipulated.
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This is the most entertaining RUclips channel .
God I love him he’s right on the money
1:35 that’s true and I have no shame admitting it. If I do someone favor, then they better be at my door when I need them to do something for me.
Steve keeping it real!
Well said , Its exactly how we men think !! Do nothing without any return , nailed it 😀😀
I mean she could for a week but beyond that nah bruh, pay rent, pay food, pay something. I learned that just from taking care of my friends cat. I’m taking all the responsibility and non of the joy. I love the cat but it’s not mine
He is saying gems.... So true nothing for free in this world... Known, tried, experienced fact over centuries of human life
I disagree with Steve on this. Some men can help a lady for free. For heaven sake, this lady said she has been friends with this guy since high school. Come on Steve! Speak for yourself in this case.
thats BS, if her "friend" had the opportunity, hed have sex with her the moment she suggested it and thats not friendship. This case is even more clear as shes a very attractive girl
why isn't it friendship if she suggested it? i thought friends help each other out...
Males never do anything without a motive behind it, its not in our nature as men. And sure, you can say its about self-control but then your basically making yourself go against what you really want.
+Arthur Az I have to disagree with you to an extent. I have female friends who I help out when they need things but I would NEVER let one of them move into my house rent free unless they were on the verge of becoming homeless. Then she would have about a month to get herself together and go. The man that this woman is talking about in the video isn't interested in that. To me it sounds like he's been in love with her since high school and this is his way in. 9/10 he's hoping that something happens between them and it's not just about helping her out.
+blumountaindew looks like somebody has an intelligent and realistic pov and for that I applaud you
1 week tops for anyone who's 'just a friend'. Men may let someone stay longer than that if they are a blood relative or they want to escape the friend zone.
PREACH!
Men are not a woman's friend unless there has been a previous relationship or a least a hook-up at some point. You can be friends with an ex if you both know it's over. Otherwise, game on and yes, a guy who offers for you to stay "as a friend" hopes for something more.
course i would let her stay at my place for free. if she lets me stay inside her place for free.
jamesblunt006 😂
lol you went there
jamesblunt006 you are hilarious
Blunt.
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Men and women can be friends just fine. Even if you find that friend attractive, doesn't mean there is anything else there. Of course men do nothing for free. If I offer my friend, who is a woman, a place to stay, for free, that means money. That does not mean she can come and go as she pleases and not help out in some way. I'm offering a place to stay, not room service. Women are the same way. You're not going to her house and doing as you please without helping out. That's just life.
I gotta admit Steve you are a lil bit off on that point 😂 my wife has guy friends that respect me and her, and I still have a bunch of friends that are girls from the Army, where there may be some people exactly like you explained, and maybe it’s mostly single people with each other. It ain’t everyone lol
Love Mr Harvey's responses 🥰
Unless that man is not straight she needs to be careful.
Snow is nice, till you live around all the time.
Warm summer days are great, till you live it all the time.
Rain is nice to sleep to.
what this man is talking about!!!
Last time I checked I haven't asked anybody for anything, but my Lord. I don't owe anybody anything. Keep walking straight past me and check with someone you've invested. That's why I don't and will never ask.
IF we have to earn it... so do you ;)
::shrugs:: Men have been unbelievably generous to me. I get the best projects at work, my car is fixed for free and they even offer to do yard work for me for free. Never once have these generous men asked me for anything in return. They compliment me on my looks quite frequently, but never asked for sex or even food. I think there are men who do expect something in return, but there are plenty who don't.
That being said, it's a very different situation when you are living rent-free with a man. This young lady had better make sure she doesn't stay beyond a month. It is very expensive to support another adult and if she is a good person, she will at least pay the utilities particularly if she stays longer than a month. She better secure a job and go apartment hunting once she arrives or become his roommate and split the costs 50%. It isn't right to expect another adult to financially support you long-term.
I agree with him
I get the most tickled when Steve claps his point 👏🏽
She should at least pay for groceries
I have done things for people free and I also know few guys that have done things for me free but for the ones that do nothing for free (majority), lol....I hope they won't get disappointed coz it's best to say why you're doing whatever for a girl right on time.
If he starts making advances at you, such as trying to sneak a feel or a kiss. Then it's time to go 💯
Yes and this is why women need to work together and stop arguing with each other. A lot of us do that depend on the man stuff and he just pretends to want to be helpful. All of us instead of just 1 or 2 of us need to realize this trait in them for what it is.
I always have male best friends They may want more but Its not going on if im not in agreement....Sometimes friendship is better..
Get a dog, you'll be better off.
Steve is right.... They want you to cook, clean( I mean really clean), dishes, laundry, vacuum, clean appliances the whole place. You're there for what he wants. Waiting on him and so much more.... "more", friends yeah.... Listen to Steve ladies.... "Listen to Steve."
Steve is hilarious, he tends to think in a whole other level
It is rare.. extremely but yes I've done it for free no strings..
Stayed with a guy i dated yrs before
He was very respectful
Never asked for anything
Cool for 14 yrs now
It is rare though
Steve ain't lying!
Steve has to now remind "common sense" to the world...Thank God for Steve!
If she doesn't want to sleep with him she prolly could just walk around in a tank top with no bra and that would be more than reason enough for him to keep her around lol