Steve Harvey says men and women cant be friends
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- Опубликовано: 19 дек 2010
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Steve Harvey says he's incapable of having female friends. He actually gets deep into the subject about his first best seller. Watch the video to find out more. 
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We can be "friends", but we aren't REAL friends. We can be just school friends, work friends, church friends, gym friends etc. As men, we can't really just hangout with a girl just for the sake of hanging out
#ThoseAreTheFacts!
That’s false because you can be work/church/gym/social club/etc friends if someone chooses to. If a man/woman doesn’t find someone physically appealing, but likes their character, are you waiting for an opportunity? I have friends and we both have an understanding of where the line is drawn, regardless of who drew it. Men can draw the line as well.
I agree.
Mark
False, we can be great friends, women cannot since they are incapable of loyalty or care for others, you know, basics of friendships.
Thats why ive been curving a chick for time
Women, if your single male friend is "just your friend" then how about you help him to find a girlfriend because that's what a friend would do. And why women are not doing this? Because they do not want to lose the "friend".
Ounouh EXACTLY
+Ounouh right
ouch!
Wowwwww. Lmao that is so true
Fuckin spot on!!
I feel like women secretly know when a man desires them, so she exploits this fact by keeping him around as an ego booster, errand-doer, protector all without having to give the guy anything in return.
Many girls, I'm sure. Guys do the same
@@paolapai you are delusional
Women don't want friends they want beta male orbiters to help them. Free food, free rides, moving furniture, etc.
She'll milk you for all the attention and time you can give her, and then take this newfound confidence you helped her gain to go get who she really wants. Seen it a billion times lmao
@Peach Cob Facts
He is 1000% right
He's right. I found this to be true. I used to not believe it until I experienced the same thing over and over again. Most guys who were considered my "friends" usually ended up confessing and telling me that they liked me romantically eventually down the line.
I think a guy can be an "AQUANTAINCE" to a girl (even an attractive one!) and still not cross the boundaries. But if a guy is a "friend" (ie. meaning a CLOSE friend), there's usually a 99.99999% chance that he's interested in something more.
+DestinyC1020 The legit truth. Sorry ladies, but that's just how things are. I personally think it is better to clear that up and get it out the way early on. If the girl knows upfront and still continues on, well, at least she knows. No point in pretending.
some srong people here. good to see :)
DestinyC1020 it can happen the other way round as well i.e a woman secretly fancying a handsome man.
I guess my group of guy friends falls into the 0.00001% category then.
I strongly disagree with you, I have female best friend for the last 14 years, I never once thought of getting with her. When we met I had a girlfriend, and she knew my girlfriend. We started as friends from the get go and I would never go out with her, because I do not see her that way(I'm not gay) so yes I do believe men and women CAN be friends or best friend.
haha he blew our cover up
Lmfao
Foreals 😂😂😂
🤣🤣the comments are amusing here
LMFAO yes!!!
They already know, it’s not hard to tell if someone likes u they just love the attention
As a man ,I approve of this message and any man that tells you different is full of it...
Any man who thinks that he can be friend with a female definitely have problems with hormones
We’re not all pigs like you
Every guy I have ever been friends with has said to me "im starting to like you".
Then what happened? Are you still friends?
@@Dancediva240 No 😂 it never ever works!
@@davinacollins1941 Haha I kinda figured that. Well that says a lot about you if every friend ends up liking you. You must be one helluv a gal :)
@@Dancediva240 loool hahaha thanks xx
@@Dancediva240 Quit validating these women simp. Go watch AMS.
Do they think men hang around attractive women because they are funny?
I hang out with my female bestfriend and she’s attractive and I still dont want her like that, so your point is?
@@jaysonnj9704 congrats simp?
@@abanfrancis6400 😭😭😂
@@abanfrancis6400 Mann we cant even be friends with girls now without lil boys like you calling us simps, grow up bud, my opinion somehow triggered u or something😂get tf out my face
@@jaysonnj9704 Unless you have girlfriend and your friend has a boyfrend, and you have strong feelings to your respective partners, it's pretty much impossible for you to be just friends. MAYBE if someone is gay or is very apathetic to things, that might be an exception. But otherwise, you will develop feelings if shes not ugly. If you have such feelings, that's not a friendship for me. I'm not talking about acquintances here btw, I'm talking about friends. She calls you, you call her, you text daily, you hang out, etc.
My mother used to say there is no such thing as plutonic friendship, she was a mighty smart women
A what ???
@@alexnice2221 plutonic lol
your mother was right theres no such thing as a plutonic friendship
She must've been a mighty smart women but you didn't get those genes
If you have a plutonic relationship you are either very dead or very rich.
I have been in a 3 year committed relationship and just recently got engaged. Through out our entire relationship I have had no male friends and my fiance has had no female friends. What good does it bring to a relationship to have friends of the opposite sex? It's a recipe for disaster.
Agree 37282636328%
I agree with you.
Agreed.
Preach ! Between opposite sex there is respect nothing else , i cant imagine my self a man hugging a girl and say oh she is just a friend i cant xD
What do you do if you’re bisexual?
I was friends with a guy and he had the audacity to get mad cause it never became something more, but I told him from the get go it wasn't like that & a woman isn't responsible for the efforts your putting in if she's already been transparent on where y'all stand.
lol and you still keep him around to boost your ego and do you favors, if you didn't cut the relationship from the get go you unintentionally indirectly gave him hope, FALSE hope at that, you are no better.
Good for you setting your boundaries by telling him at the start, he had no right to get mad... what a loser.
@@olivercastillo4843 Having faith never guarantees anything, its your gamble. Specially if its been communicated their not interested, so congratulations you played yourself 😝. #djkhaled
See fellas.. ...dont be friends with girls unless she wants to be your girlfriend
True that guy is just not emotionally mature give it time
I agree. I'm a female and it just doesn't work. Sure, you can have 'friends' at work or church or whatever. But you can't have a close relationship with a male (assuming you're both heterosexual) without opening a door to a relationship. It just doesn't work. One of you will end up hopelessly in the friend zone.
Plot Twist I disagree. I have a few very close male friends who are simply friends. I know that because they like other women other than me and I’m there for them for advice and hanging out.
M G they still want to sleep with you.
M G Out of interest, how exactly are you their 'friend'?
An Hero true bro believe me its true
An Hero we hang by and wait as friends until its time to fuck thats what most males want
Girls if you have a guyfriend and he doesnt tell you about his crushs/ask for advice it's YOU he is into :D haha I know it.
+johnNYgoesLA I learned that from Doctor Who!
That’s the thing. They do ask me for advice and talks about his crushes (who tend to be my friends also haha). We’ve been friends since high school with some - we’re like siblings at this point. Seriously. And I’m not unattractive either so it’s not like that would be a barrier.
M G yeah right
@@MMmm-bg9li Maybe he's gay and his "crushes" a coverup
They can ask, it doesn't mean he isn't into you. He could be, just afraid.
I’m a girl and I definitely agree with this, guys who I consider as friends have at one point admitted to being attracted to me somehow
Tbh thats good for u
who cares
You must’ve not had many guy friends then
I'm glad you're honest, most women are so deluded about this type of stuff.
@@whitneyhoustonstan2472 She just said she did though, can you not read?
Steve Harvey's knowledge about women and relationships is so good that he's on his fourth marriage
Yeah don't listen to this Steve guy😂
LMFAO
talk about ad hominem / genetic fallacy. BUT at the same time I see where you are coming from.
@@blackout2430 Nigga just because shit didn’t work out for you doesn’t mean its the same for everyone else 😂 Don’t get pressed over other people criticizing Harvey’s poor decisions and outlook on life. The man is not good at relationships, simple as that
@@blackout2430 You don't even know my life, why are you making assumptions on a RUclips comment?
Like most guys, I've got female friends. But if they would become single, I'd make a move. So basically men and women can only be friends to a certain extent.
the only "friends" you have are the ones that you've never thought of (don't wanna say)
the ones you have thought of, they're not your "friends"
That's a one sided friendship. On one side there's friendship, on the other is a seduction.
@@zeon_trl1326 GOOD ENOUGH?
nofy bn XD
BETA! 😂
I think some women intentionally choose to be naive and delusional. I have a girl I hook up with who tells me about a guy who she tells all her problems to, he helps her move, very touchy-feely, and always available whenever she needs a ride. He even confessed to her after a breakup and told her "If I was your boyfriend I would never hurt you." She said "That's cute." I tell her that he wants to fuck her, she's like "No way that's like my brother." Just one example but there's so many more
Yes She is very delusional, or better known as lying to herself. L.OL.
It's not naive. Women do not want to have sex with a person just because that person has a penis. It's biological differences, and if a woman is young, she may not even realize that men are like this, that they pretty much wanna have sex with the majority of women they see and that what's between a woman's legs is more important than who she is as a person which is the exact opposite for women. We don't just want the D or we'd literally have sex with almost any man we see. We want the man that is attached to the D. Wanting the man takes priority over wanting his D. This is why women have no trouble being friends with men and can have zero sexual feelings toward that male friend. The fact that her friend has a penis does not automatically make her feel sexual desire.
Gross that she considers a guy who pretty said he wanted to date and flirts with her like a brother
I’m a man and this is absolutely true. I didn’t agree for a second but let me explain. When I sit in class with girls, I can be “friendly” with them, and I would only look at them as if they were friends but let me tell you this: as soon as I was alone with one of these “friends” I started to look at them differently which soon led to other feelings. Man and woman were never meant to be friendly! They were always meant to become one another companion and this is just how are brains are wired so you’ll have to except it.
Also man and man, women and women, non-binary and girl the list can go on...
@@YourExecellency No bro it's a universal feeling.
Bro what no
What are you? 16?
@@coraliearias1103 biologically there is two Sexs. The fictional Genders: non-binary etc.. *is just an illusion*.
Exatly, Mens dont see a sexy women and say "I want to be her friend" lol
THANK YOU.
100% right
What about the ugly ones then??
@@cineverse442 everyone have their taste.
@@cineverse442 no one even wants to be their friends
I have had female friends and the only reason they were my friend is because they got hit hard by the ugly stick.
No man in earth can sustain a platonic friendsnip with an eye poppingly gorgeous female.
Lol Agreed
I'm completely straight, 18, single, I have a female friend and being completely honest- I liked her at the start but as we became closer friends I stopped liking her that way.
Thats I think the one of the only caveat to Harvey's point. Like if a girl is attractive, I'll probably have sort of feelings towards her at the start even if we're just friends. But in a while once we're just around each other for a couple days or maybe a couple weeks I'll lose those feelings completely to the point I couldn't even imagine being together as anything other than friends. But if those feelings persist, at this stage in my life, I'm either going to shoot my shot or choose to be much less close friends otherwise I'm just being dishonest to her and myself in the long run. There are also cases where a certain girl can be attractive to most others but just isn't like the guys type so there's no feelings in the first place.
Okay but you did like her at one point but go get a girlfriend and ask her can you bring your friend girl to a dinner date with you and your new girlfriend then come back here in these comment sections and let us the committee know how that goes or better yet let her go find a boyfriend that she's into and want to keep as her man and see how long you stay her friend
@@antoniomckissic5402 what fucking insecure fantasy land are you living in dude? sad.
Out of all languages, he chose to speak straight facts
I don't talk to woman when I'm in a relationship period bcuz I know there are temptations and if you love and I mean really love your partner and been talking about a future no other opposite sex should interfere bcuz just messaging them can hurt the other person.
"Just messaging them can hurt the other person" BRAVO 👏👏🙌 Not everything is due to jealousy. It's about trust and respect and protection from outside threats
Randoms Well sad,
This is so toxic
Spf2002 are there more guys like you available?
Lmao I have a boy bestie and we know each other for yearss I aint finna throw my friendship with him away for my partner💀
Feeling this pretty hard atm, every girl I try to be just friends with I end up falling for. It simply doesn't work that way for me so now I just make things absolutely clear right from the start, some can accept and understand it, others cant
Trying to explain this to my dumb sister 😂😂😂
Did the same thing bro 😂. She had the exact naive reaction. Poor girl
the most honest person in American tv show history.
My ex had this guy "friend" she worked with and went to school with. They'd go to classes together and whatever but she'd tell me he wasn't interested in her and how he respected our relationship (he didn't though because he'd call her cute and talk about how bad of a boyfriend i was). I always seemed like the jealous boyfriend though who was insecure about her having a friend that was a dude. She broke up with me and they started dating a week later. So yeah, there's that.
lol you cant trust guys to get your girl
Typical
You dodged a bullet, dude. Be happy not sad.
He's god damn right !!!
He isn't even friend with Miss Colombia !
Axel Allouche if a man cannot be a woman's FRIEND it's because he only knows how to TAKE from women. NOTICE how men do FAVORS help their male friends get a job loan them money but they don't do that Shit with females unless they are Fucking them. So that means a man sees more Value in his fellow man who he does things altruistically for but won't for a woman. I don't need a man to be around me just to TAKE TAKE TAKE. That is a CHILD. I've given to men with NO expectations and I am TIRED of men being good to other Men without needing to fuck them, but can't do the same for women
Unfortunately Steve has right. 1000% agree
No he is 100 percent is wrong man, I had plenty of girls as friends
+Daniel Pascual Daniel. Daniel daniel we need to talk.
Jack Cicero 😂😂😂😂
Daniel Pascual Mangina or gay or doesn't find the woman attractive.
Daniel Pascual you’re a dweeb lol
What I don't understand is that why get in a relationship when having friends of the opposite sex recipe for disaster
Wow he said this 12 years ago and it's so true. I had no idea back then
If this guy friend is chummy enough with a woman that he has the time to do enough talking and things with her - to the point the real boyfriend is noticing -I guarantee you he doesn't have a girlfriend of his own or a wife. Otherwise he would be doing these things with her. It's just a waste of time. As a straight guy I don't see a point being so chummy with another girl besides my girlfriend. It would be offensive to her and would make no sense. That's what I have the girlfriend for and there really is no reason to be hanging out with others. The same should makes sense applied to women.
***** Only you can know if you are in love with someone. I can't tell you that. If you are just friends, then there should be no problem introducing her to your girlfriend and the BOTH of you hang out with her at the same time. That's a good test.
+Kevin Fruit If you have to keep her a secret, we call that TROUBLE! James is speaking some wise words. If you can't bring her around your girlfriend or tell her about this other girl, you are going down a dark path that will lead to trouble. You'll need to make up your mind which you value more and which you are willing to lose, because I bet you when your girl finds out she'll get jealous and not like that you're giving this other person so much attention. If you value your girlfriend, you should leave this other girl alone. Or... vise versa... just think it through carefully so you don't make the wrong mistake. Trying to juggle both will be a mess down the line. :/
Aki U Exactly, it is not a commitment or a special relationship between two people if you do virtually the same thing with another minus the kissing - supposedly...
James McGowan I recently did some research about a study that showed emotional affairs still hurt equally as bad or even worse than physical affairs (because of the emotional connection). It was an interesting read.
Aki U , you are correct. When you are in a committed relationship, or married, & you have a close "friendship" with a member of the opposite sex, that means you've put a lot of time & effort into this "friendship", whether or not sex is involved ( although sex almost always eventually happens in such "friendships" ). If you are putting all of your energy in building up & maintaining this "friendship" (sex or no sex), then you have an emotional relationship with this "friend", which is just as bad as, or even worse than, a relationship outside of your marriage. It also means that you use so much energy to hang onto this "friendship" that you are more than likely feel too used up to put that same amount of energy where it belongs, at home with your wife. Significant relationships or "friendships" outside of a marriage are like fairy tales. Each person can be whoever the other person wants them to be. Everything is always bliss when you see or talk to each other. There's no talk about responsibilities like, problems with the children, paying the bills, keeping the house clean, where to go for Thanksgiving or Christmas this year, etc. It's just the two of you for short spurts in time, whereby everything seems perfect, then you both leave & go home. In most outside relationships, the one who is married often lies about his or her spouse, & says things to illicit sympathy in an effort to make the other believe the marriage is "just horrible" & they're on the brink of divorce, when nothing could be farther from the truth. I know this from personal experience. My husband told his long time "friend" that I was a terrible alcoholic (I don't even drink), that he had no relationship with his daughter & had not seen her in a long time (another HUGE lie). While he was carrying on with thus woman fir several years, he treated me like a queen at home, always. He wasn't very communicative, but I knew that when I married him. I trusted him implicitly b/c he had me convinced that he loved me so much, he would NEVER cheat on me. He even told me constantly how lucky he was to have such a beautiful, smart wife & that "all other women paled in comparison to me".......what crap. This cow was in his life for years, until his secret was discovered about 7 years ago. I do not understand why a "side woman" would stay with a married man for so long. She even got married twice during their relationship, for very short periods of time, & 2 years ago looked up a high school sweetheart, found that he was in prison serving to life terms without parole for aggravated sexual assault, & subsequently married the guy. They divorced last year. The only way I know these things that have happened since my husband fell from grace b/c of his secret life, is b/c I hired a private investigator 8 years ago when I found out about my husband's secret life. When I found out, I was truly in shock. My psychiatrist said that he truly believes I was in a state of "functioning" shock for almost 2 years b/c everytime I turned a corner, I'd learn something new. Anyway, when my husband first "had it out", b/c he only told me about what had been going on was going to soon be known by everyone in a very public way. I told him that I knew if that were not the case, he probably would have NEVER told me. I further told him that I would stand behind him, but ONLY IF he kept me informed of everything, & that he was not to lie to me about one single thing. Well, it took about 2 days to learn first, he didn't exactly tell me the whole story, he was already hiding things from me that I easily learned from other people & he was still lying through his teeth to me, & everyone else about some things. THAT'S I hired a private investigator that I knew b/c he worked in my building, he barely charged me anything & continued to keep me informed via email of anything he learned about this cow as a courtesy. It was his belief that SHE was the one who made the effort to stay in touch with my husband, but it doesn't look good when you review years worth of phone records from 4 different phone numbers & see that called one another every single day, all day long, for at least the past 4 years-----& that was just ONE phone number's phone records. They had been in contact with each other even b4 we were married. To this day, I get emails from the investigator, who found what my husband did to be so distasteful, that he continues to send me info, which is sometimes simply a link, keeping me informed about this cow & her whereabouts. He firmly believed that when the dust settled, she would once again make the effort to insert herself into my husband's life once again. He further said that if I had any reason to believe she had done this, to give him a call & he would work for me for FREE. So far 7 years later, & b/c this was such a humbling experience for my husband, I have had no reason to believe she has come back into the picture. But while I don't nag my husband, or call around everywhere making sure he's where he says he is going (I refuse to lower myself to do such a thing), I DO ask questions when I have a "bad" feeling about something & I don't beat around the bush when I ask the question. I never questioned him b4 about things he would tell me, but since the nature of our relationship has changed, it's understood why I ask such questions. I don't ask them often, & while I decided that I still loved my husband, & didn't want a life without him in it, there still trust issues. It took me 2 years of intense introspection on my part, along with the guidance of a great psychiatrist, to forgive my husband & stop punishing him. Howevet, forgiving, while it feels like a huge burden has been lifted, is not the same as forgetting. As time passes, I think of that horrible time less & less, & I even realize how badly it affected my husband as well. He knows that I can never see him in the same, innocent light that I once did, believing everything that came out of his mouth & believing that he loved me the same way I loved him. In fact, I'm not even sure that he loves me at all anymore....not like a man loves his wife. He is a "dutiful" husband, but where he used to shower me with attention & affection, now there is none. I try to talk to him about this, but he tries to turn the blame on me by saying I'm not the same person I used to be......DUH!!!!!' At which I reply, "neither are you". I had hoped we could really build a different relationship, one with more communication & one where we could spend more time focusing on each other, but he appears to just not care. He has said more than once, "if we can't go back to things the way they were, then I'm never going to be happy". I told him that's impossible after everything we had been through (& I know this long & rambling, but these are just a few of the highlights about how we got here which began with him & his "friend" of the opposite sex 33 years ago). I want to ask a question that I hope some woman who has been involved in a long term relationship with a married man will answer, "WHY DOES A SINGLE WOMAN STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MARRIED MAN FOR 26 YEARS? While my husband had a very prestigious job, he was in no way rich. That's the only reason I can think of at the moment, b/c I know some, not all, women will be with a man for his money, like having a sugar daddy. So, if there any of you girls out there that can give me some insight into this I would appreciate it from someone who has experience in such a thing. Thanks.
I have many male acquaintances but absolutely no male friends and I'm not interested in trying to make male friends. It always blows up in my face even when I've made it very clear from the start that all we would ever be is just friends. I had a situation where a guy friend went absolutely bat shit crazy after he confessed his feelings for me and I tried to be so nice about admitting we were just friends but goddamn if he didn't lose his mind. He started blowing up my phone with horrible threatening text and voice mails and kept following me around begging me to talk to him for months. It was the worst experience of my life so ever since then I just don't fuck with dudes on a personal level at all.
complete opposite for me, I confessed my feelings but I avoid her. I try not to see or talk to her as often as possible.
Find a gay guy.
+KnotsofVessels oceanblue lol i feel bad for you man, maybe you will find a cool guy like me thats far to lazy for any of that bullshit and accepts reality for what it is lol :^)
He ain’t lying
Men and Women can be friends if everyone is equally unattractive
found this to be true
Thank you
truer words have never been spoken
Alexandro Nocito if a man cannot be a woman's FRIEND it's because he only knows how to TAKE from women. NOTICE how men do FAVORS help their male friends get a job loan them money but they don't do that Shit with females unless they are Fucking them. So that means a man sees more Value in his fellow man who he does things altruistically for but won't for a woman. I don't need a man to be around me just to TAKE TAKE TAKE. That is a CHILD. I've given to men with NO expectations and I am TIRED of men being good to other Men without needing to fuck them, but can't do the same for women
@@blackmegriffin9240 1. Many girls won't have anything to do with a guy unless he's giving her attention, validation, or money.
2. When he's getting sex she's also getting sex. It takes two to tango and both doing it together.
@@blackmegriffin9240 what do you want men to fuck other men
I agree. Men are always looking to get a sniff of the kitty. Friends? yea right.
***** seems like you are stupid x)
***** well , assuming people who believe men can't be friends with women are stupid , is what made me say you are , if you think you can be friend that's good for you , but don't expect people treating you nicely when you insult them first x)
***** i didnt say that enjoying women company is impossible , i myself enjoy it , but if a women is atractive , you can't lie to yourself , you do concider dating her if she shows that's she's intrested too , don't tell me that if you have an atractive 'friend' , the idea of being with her never crossed your mind?
B Loveable 😂
@Mina emotional toxic feminity? So women don't have a brain? SEXIST AND WRONG. AND WRONG, WOMEN HAVE THE BRAIN NOT GUYS, ONLY IT'S MORE "EGO" THEN EMOTION YOU THINK OF THEM.
Wisen up ladies and germs he's telling the truth. Any man that says otherwise is either, lying, gay, not attracted to you, in a relationship, or he can't pursue you because you're dating someone in his circle.
Such a smart man , I’ve always had the exact same thought about this before seeing this vid
A dude will be friends with a none attractive girl with no issues, but I won't say the same about an attractive one. That just never works, unless the guy is gay. Because with the attractive female friend, is the same as the attractive guy friend a girl might have. Thoughts of getting with them, circulated around our minds on regular basis.
This coming from a dude, I'm more than sure most guys will agree with me! And FYI, I'm not against gay people.
Peace Hardy316 well , if a dude is a friend with a none attractive girl , are you sure that girl didnt concider dating him? i mean he might not like but she sure does if she's not atractive
What's your definition of an attractive girl? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Joe Dirt you answered for your self , atractive for him
you answered your own question Joe Dirt
RAIKOVITCH
What if they both are unattractive and like other people? A friendship can happen. But in general women have no loyalty to anyone besides themselves, no care for anyone besides themselves. Not good friend material in general
"Slide in that crack" what a great use of words 1:26
Steve Harvey is so right on here, he completely and candidly nailed it, well said! I dont just think its because of sexual desire, i also think its because men and women not only communicate differently, but we vastly have different lnterests as a general rule.
Men and women can not just be friends, it will definitely go beyond that when the opportunity allows.
Ladies if you really think your guy friend is just your friend, then text him and ask if he wants to hookup. If he says anything other than no then he didn't see you as just his friend. Guys are like vampires trying to get inside the house of a pretty virgin. We want inside so bad. But we won't make a move until you open the door and invite us in. That being said I do think it's not impossible to be just platonic friends. But I think the vast majority of male-female friendships aren't platonic at all. Atleast not on both sides.
I want my significant other to be my female friend, among other things, that's the only female friend I need being a man. I love
my girl
I have two living proof guy best friends. One from College whom I did everything with but we were just friends. One day, just for the heck of it, I asked him, "Have you ever liked me or been into me?" and he flat out said no. It was a nice confirmation that we were good as friends. Now, I have a guy best friend that I made this year. We hangout every week and talk just about every day. He hasn't made a move on me once and he's caught feelings for other girls. So, false, men and women CAN BE JUST FRIENDS without the guy having hidden motives.
Haha man I just might. I love them, though. They always hype me up and tell me when I look good.
Oh he's lying
Exceptions don't override the rule
I also have male friends that have been my friend for over 20+ years and have never hit on me. I am not unattractive in any way. They have even told me I'm attractive. They are both happily married now with kids. I still talk to them and I can usually talk to them about anything as they can with me.
So, for those men who can't do this, there's something wrong with you.
@@delilahjones6496 the reason they're not pursuing you is because they're already in relationships. Now test your results with two men who are single
Truer words have never been spoken
At the ladies, so you are friends with an attractive guy. So you like his looks AND his personality (because why else be friends).
But you "control" your feelings for the sake of what?
If your attracted to the looks AND the personality and you are not doing anything with this, you're crazy.
Seems to me a lot of women think like this and it's mind blowingly illogical to me.
2nd best comment in the comments section (i read them all) XD
JJvH if a man cannot be a woman's FRIEND it's because he only knows how to TAKE from women. NOTICE how men do FAVORS help their male friends get a job loan them money but they don't do that Shit with females unless they are Fucking them. So that means a man sees more Value in his fellow man who he does things altruistically for but won't for a woman. I don't need a man to be around me just to TAKE TAKE TAKE. That is a CHILD. I've given to men with NO expectations and I am TIRED of men being good to other Men without needing to fuck them, but can't do the same for women
@@blackmegriffin9240 there's another view ,some men actually give without expecting anything in return,she might be totally undesirable ,as with age,another thing you could be giving with the hope of eating the cookie someday
Black MEGriffin That false as can be. I’ve help several friends, whether it’s moving; job searching; watching their child; a temporary loan; work; etc and did it because it’s the right thing to do. Some people do good deeds as a reflection of their upbringing and not for personal gains and desires. Note that I refer to some and not all.
@@arndellaytchii6387 Were male or female friends though?
He's so right I agree and I'm a Female, I've heard the I'm/we're just friend so many times, turns out to be more.
Women will always disagree with this, but it's true. We cant refuse sex when we have the opportunity.
Desperate beta cvck
He is honest and that is the truth.
1:28 I like the double entendre. He waiting to slide into that crack alright ;-)
Ummm, can I interject here? In MY experience, it's not so cut and dry. Okay, listen: I have worked with married women, and a lot of them wanted to get with me one way or another. In fact, it was usually the married women who just licked their chops looking at me; then when I wouldn't flirt back, some of them called me conceited; others just huffed and puffed, thinking that as a man, I owed it to them to be quick to slobber because they showed a beast or thigh and thigh and said, "Here, boy." A good looking and/or confident guy isn't going to have girls who are 'just friends' either. We all know how guys are; girls are the same way but just clever and quiet about it. A girl with guy friends; you guys REALLY think she's naive? Think with your uptown head: she has more plans in that subconscious mind of hers (keeps it all below the conscious level of things so she doesn't have to feel guilty) than the CIA.
By the way, I'm one of the supposed .1% of guys not looking for a crack to get in; a friend is a friend to me. For all you guys out there too busy panting over women to notice, if you can find your "I don't give a shit" somewhere back in your childhood when you couldn't care less about women, you'd find in a REAL hurry that they'll start caring about you a lot more (generally). For people who think it's just girls who have problems having guys who just want to be friends, MY problem is finding girls who just want to be friends and nothing more. The more I respect them and want to be just friends, the more they want to be more than friends. So far for me, unless they're grandma age, I've had problems finding a woman who DOESN'T want to be more than friends. Do your homework before twisting it all up. Sorry for a long post, but I'm tired of hearing all this partially researched BS.
WindiGreens if a man cannot be a woman's FRIEND it's because he only knows how to TAKE from women. NOTICE how men do FAVORS help their male friends get a job loan them money but they don't do that Shit with females unless they are Fucking them. So that means a man sees more Value in his fellow man who he does things altruistically for but won't for a woman. I don't need a man to be around me just to TAKE TAKE TAKE. That is a CHILD. I've given to men with NO expectations and I am TIRED of men being good to other Men without needing to fuck them, but can't do the same for women
It essentially boils down to whether you're a decent person or not. Respect, kindness, and generosity shouldn't be a thing only between males or a man and a woman he's in a serious relationship with. However, that's not the case, most men are predatory in that aspect and are either trying to get with women or treat them like shit or some combination of both. I can't tell you how effective it is to just be a halfway respectable person to a woman and the effect it has on your eligibility as a partner to them. If so many men weren't so predator or just better people in general then male/female friendships wouldn't be so difficult but then I guess it'd be a lot harder to choose someone.
I agree a 100%
Yeah you are right the comment section is filled with men who can't set the boundaries straight ,bunch of desperate men running for pussy tssh
You know, I find it really sad that people (yes, both men and women) are having these troubles. For me it's always been pretty normal to just be friends. Even on the rare times when I would be attracted at all to a male friend I wouldn't let it hurt the friendship.
I'm a female and I agree with this 💯
I can't agree on this, cause I have 5 best friend who are male and we always hang out together to much even their families thought something is between us ,so they all asked me whether I have feeling for them. But I clearly said no.. so they asked me to check on my friends which I kinda did. But when I ask individually " do you have feelings for me?". They said" what? Me? fall for you? Forget it. We are just friends".. all my 5 friends said the same thing.. then now they are all engagged with different woman and I am in peace cause their families doubt has gone..😌😌😌
Well ive got bad news for you... ur probably not that attractive.. :o
Sauleh Rafaqat 😂😂😂😂😂
@@saulehrafaqat7632 OUCH🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@saulehrafaqat7632 she looks cute
The overly protesting answer sounds like a lie.
im begging everyone in this comments section to go outside
I was expecting it to be full of Gus' viewers but it's like an army of Nice Guys
Rightttttttt
Yeah this comment section is filled with disgruntled men with no social skills. Reading all of it made me realise why so many dudes complain about having no gf.
LOL!
100% agree, proven by trial and error throughout my whole life.
Normally I'm not a big fan of Steve Harvey, BUT this, I 900% agree with him!
True. I don't have female friends either. Bcoz I will think the exact same way. And I don't want to think that same way for anybody except my wife.
Absolutely 100% i agree with him.
I have a close female friend and I think shes physically attractive but, I'm ok with being just friends. Of course I want to have sex with someone but, that doesn't have to be her. But, regardless I still enjoy her company and love her as a person and I wouldn't want to lose that. But, I understand how easy it can be to cross that line of being platonic friends and going further.
@obi juice imagine unironically using 4chan memes in youtube
But if she wanted to get laid right then and there you would take it up in a heart beat 😂 seems like you're just waiting until she does
100 percent true
A man telling this
I use to mess around with this girl I had a crush with. Years later she decided to put me In the friends zone. I told her it wouldn't work out cause we already mess around and that's always going to be in back of my mind. Till this day we remain friends but she also know that it's hard for me to be friends with her. I told her we should just move on but she insisted we shouldn't. She calls me from time to time but we hardly chill and I'm trying to keep it that way. Overall I agree with Steve. I have alot of male friends and we all have this same conversation and it turns out they can't be friends with woman's. Now girls might think not all guys are like that but I have yet to find one. I proof girls I mess with wrong by telling them the truth. Turns out their friends like them lol. If you not a man you shouldn't talk just like I can't talk from a girls perspective.
In the movie "When Harry Met Sally" that Fredricka speaks of, Harry, the character that said that men and women can't be friends matured as a man and eventually had to eat his own words as Harry and Sally did become good friends without either one of them being interested in sex.
While the friends in the movie do eventually end up romantically involved, that doesn't happen until Harry first matures as a man and sees Sally more than as a sexual object. He could see her as an individual with thoughts, emotions and opinions. And he respected these thoughts, emotions and opinions. Yes, Harry married his friend Sally, not just a "skirt." When men mature and see women as friends their romantic relationships become fuller and more satisfying.
How then do men avoid cheating on their spouse if they have other female friends? It's called self-control and respect for the person you are in the romantic relationship with. The bottom line is Mr. Harvey is suggesting that men have no self-control. I believe that to be false. If some men do not have it, can be developed with discipline and a healthy respect for yourself and those closest to you. Give it a try.
Yeah you have no clue and arent a man
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@@franciscloutier5387 I’m a man and I agree with her
Are you gay no cap just asking for the committee
Self control is not putting yourself in that situation in the first place.
I'm glad some of the comments here are made by sane people.
i felt like steve harvey was speaking directly about me and my last 3 years
I am totally agree without hesitation
"Men
And
Women
Can't
Be
Friends.."
#bigFACTS
Patrice O'Neal once said that a male friend, to a woman, is like a dick in a glass case with the sign "break in case of emergency"... I agree with that... both men and women do that to each other...
This is only applicable with like close friends that you actually chill with
As a guy it just depends on how attracted to them I am. If I get turned on by their presence it’s a no on the friendship.
This guy is wrong, Not 99.9% but 100% of men thinks like that
i love steve harvey and his perspective on men, women and dating. the issue i have with his argument, though, is that it implies that each person in the relationship is not able (or not trusted enough) to resist the advances of a friend of the opposite sex. his point is appealing because monogamy is appealing - but it's troubling bc it points to how hard it is for two people to be truly intimate without imposing rules and limitations on each other.
It is more the *need to protect* your relationship from outside threats, whether real or imaginable.
.. But in normal situations women simply don't understand men at all. We see a woman and we think either "wife material" or "someone we wanna lay and go material". Typically men don't see women with a bunch of guy friends as wife material... typically. Because we KNOW that NONE of those guys are "just friends" they are ALL waiting in line for their chance....(cont)
Never understood how woman with many guy friends are seen as easy whores.
But men with many girl friends are seen as alpha studs.
PS I am not feminazi.
Aditya Bhat because a man Is more attractive to women if he has options and is good with women. Women see him as select and will seduce him to get him over the other girls. Competition is strong amongst females. But no man wants a women every other guy has been with.
Antonio Wolfpack 1990 are You serious? No woman wants a man that slept with 30 woman
Marie Müller are you serious? Who came up with 30? Is this your body count? Ew no man or woman wants someone despite sex having slept with 30 ppl.
Antonio Wolfpack 1990 "But no man wants a woman every guy has been with"
Woman also don't want that
I would say (hetero) male-female friendships are actually common, but under normal circumstances, the healthy/mature ones are usually under a more limited context in order for them to work. I think men usually have to actively set aside the sexual tension (I’m a guy, so I don’t know as much about the female side in this area). I can think of some women I call friends whom I enjoy hanging out with in groups, but I intentionally minimize interacting with them on an exclusive, one-on-one basis, if I’m not curious about taking things further.
I think it goes the other way too... Girls end up being "friends" with a guy they really like because the guy doesn't show a romantic interest in them.
I think guys and girls can be friends, but if the one friend is nice the other is obviously going to catch feelings or already has feelings for that person...
I agree with steve. I had a female friend and I got the opportunity one time and I didn't even think for a second that she is just my friend and I slept with her.
Do you regret
@@randomgirl2178 heck nah, why would he regret it. On a more serious note, if sex didn't improve his previous friendship status then he prolly would.
Audhu billahi minash shajtani Rajim people like you i will never trust.
@@lalanotmyname5046 just avoid opposite sex friendship
@@hakeemahmed2874 I always do because it’s boul shit when I’m not getting anything sexually and return that’s why I Leave Females friends where they at I stop calling them stop seeing them I stop talking to them when they have boyfriends/side niggas/sex partners/husband’s/friends with benefits I’m good on that one
Remember that men and women can just be friends. I have female friends who I am not into sexually
Sorry to hear that man
I'm sorry you're allowed to use the internet George, if we're up to me it would be taken from you until you learned to grow up
@@kamikeserpentail3778 that's alot passive aggressive energy
Gotta love the straight talk of steve
At the end:
Just ask and watch the firework😂
why does the fact that a man would sleep with a woman if offered mean they can't really be friends?????? so if i have a rich friend who's money i would accept if offered but who's friendship i cherish even if if they never do, I'm just pretending to be his friend in the hope that one day he'll offer me money??? thats the dumbest thing I've ever heard!! If a chick and I have good convo, shared interests and care about each other then we're friends..period. the fact that if she said..'hey want some head?" I'd answer yes...dont make us any less of friends. I have tons of female friends who if they offered id take..but i definitely ain't sitting there like some vulture waiting to pounce whenever we hang-out!
That's nasty. Sex outside a monogamous relationship is just.. Eww.
But that's exactly what he's talking about. Would you want your wife to be friends with a guy like you knowing he would screw her if ever given the chance?
I think he is right, I don't have strong friendships with females at all.
I coudn‘t agree with him more, i been telling this my friends for years and thanks Steve for telling it the whole.
Yes we WILL slide in that crack if the moment is opportune.
I think a lot of people don't realize that it is after a certain age where this is more the case. Steve is in his 50's, and I know for a fact that is more than likely the case with that age group. Men in their 50's do not befriend women just the the heck of it. They just don't.
Too busy thinking about how their time is passing, if not already passed.
Nope you are absolutely wrong . It has always been and that's the ultimate truth
Wisdom
Let’s be real here, he’s speaking the truth that most guys are scared to say.
We’re not scared to say it, we just get labeled as controlling when we’re the ones who knows what’s really going on.
ppl have called me a pervert while i was debating on this topic lmfao, but i stood my ground cuz i knew this was right, steve harvey is right in this case
I've been trying to convince my girlfriend of this for way too long. She has a guy "bestfriend".
Trust me buddy. Your girlfriend knows this but is playing stupid with you.
Lmfao am sure you've broken up by now
that way of thinking sounds mighty unhealthy. just restraint yourself and don't cheat on your significant others
That man Steve hit the nail on the head
100% true guys that I thought were just my friends have had feelings for me
not necessarily feelings, they just want to bang you or any other female friend.
If you care for your partner enough you shouldn’t even want friends of the opposite sex. Remember, that’s how your partner became your partner. Have some respect for your partner and your relationship. In a group it can be ok. But one on one time with a “friend” of the opposite sex is a slap in the face to your partner. It’s disrespectful and devaluing. You’re saying you’d rather be with this man or this woman than with your spouse at the moment. Most people are not gonna be ok with that, rightfully.
That is so true.
Don't women say "they want to marry their best friend"?
Well, how else is that going to happen unless you are their best friend first?
But it is the women that call the shots.
"You can't catch a woman unless she wants to get caught".
There are some exemptions to what Steve said, but he is right on the rule of it.
I must be a man that's cut from a different cloth, because I can have both female and male friends. Actually my best friends are women and we've been friends since we were 11 or 12; it's always been platonic. I, in fact, do believe that men and women can be friends it's just the underlying intentions of the other party that makes it an issue. I've seen many people be friends with the opposite sex over the years and it has become nothing more. My best friend knows all of the tribulations I've faced as a man outside of and in my relationships never has she used that as a way to slide her way in. It's always been her being honest or keeping it real with me letting me know when I was in the wrong or right. She's married now with 3 children, people need to get over that "men and women can't be friends" shit because they surely can.Yes, my female friends are attractive and beautiful women I could careless about being more than just that. If your focus is the fact they are attractive then that let's you know where your mindset is. It's just if they have intentions outside of that that's when it becomes an issue. Honestly, if any woman made a pass at me and wanted to be more I would simply cut them off. When I'm in a relationship I'm dedicated to that person and only that so another woman is the last thing on my mind.
Chris Williams Yeah right you're just saying this because you're scared of losing the friendships you have with those beautiful women.😶
Chris Williams 👏👏👏👏👏 if a man cannot be a woman's FRIEND it's because he only knows how to TAKE from women. NOTICE how men do FAVORS help their male friends get a job loan them money but they don't do that Shit with females unless they are Fucking them. So that means a man sees more Value in his fellow man who he does things altruistically for but won't for a woman. I don't need a man to be around me just to TAKE TAKE TAKE. That is a CHILD. I've given to men with NO expectations and I am TIRED of men being good to other Men without needing to fuck them, but can't do the same for women
A Stand Are u gay lol?
Nah bro. This used to be me too, I didn't sexually actualize until later. Your sex drive probably hasn't reached certain bredth yet.
nice guy alert
Spot on Steve! Literally just U turn from the friendzone and improve yourself cause trust me it's much better doing that then being "friends" even though they never text you, call you, plan things with you or just to busy for you. That doesn't sound like a friend. I rather be hit with the cold truth rather then let down sofly saying i'm so sweet and get the just being friends bullshit cause it's honestly friendshit not friendship. Move on, do your own thing, you deserve much better :)
Yeah let’s just be friends said no dude ever
Yes of course dudes say that. To women they would rather just be friends with. Simple as that.
Steve speaks facts! This is stamp sealed and approved!
I can’t believe how many people actually agree with this.
i'm pretty sure he meant the girls that he found attractive, it's not that most men physically CAN'T be friends with women, its just that they don't want to be.
@@kiddo7711 its not even that most men don’t want to be its that a lot of men don’t want to be, like i get people having experiences and seeing other people go through the same but generalizing like that isn’t necessary
It's truly terrifying.
And that so many people seem to agree, and have that stunted of a mental development, it's probably the reason rape is as common as it is...
My ex girl friend was my previous best friend and my last friend with benefit was previously close friend. I agree. I have seen other people too. At the end, when male find 'crack' , they tried to be more.
I want to hug him and kiss him and shake his hand. You have no idea how many ignorant and stupid women with attitude think that can be real friendship between men and women. Well said Mr. Harvey, you're a hero in my eyes.
Spoken like a true virgin.
yeah my sister had a male friend i told her he will hit on her she said i don't believe you. and he did and tried to get out of the friend zone so many times and until my sister started to feel uncomfortable and asked me to tell him off.