The Start of Self-Transformation (Understanding Liminal Space)
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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- In this video I provide an inside view into what the start of the self-transformation looks and feels like - a state or space called 'liminal space'. Learn what liminal space is, how to recognize when you are in it and why it is an opportunity to finding the real you, despite how disorientating it is.
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Many of your viewers, especially those recovering from narcissistic abuse, don’t have family or friends to support them. That’s why the narcissist picked them in the first place. Could you please do a video about how people can form healthy relationships and make friends as adults? It’s very scary to try making friends or even where to find them, trust issues, poor judgement, lack of confidence and lack of social opportunities etc make social isolation self perpetuating
Yes.
Articulated very well...same boat here
I agree ☝️ I don’t trust anybody and it’s not a nice way to live life.
Yes. It can get just as bad as depression
Bingo. I'm catholic and I'm considering joining the men's club at my church with the hopes that a common imitation of the personality traits of Christ among the members will be present. However I have found that my fear and social anxiety causes me to speak less and people just drone on about themselves. I am interested but my needs do not get met and then I am angry and resentful. I really have no true friends because no one knows me. I feel that I have to assert myself into conversations to prevent the monologues. This assertion requires an effort that I am not used to practicing.
I am in liminal space now and have been for 8 months after realizing my wife was an emotional predator, a narcissist. I realized at the same time that my father and most of my friends and several coworkers are also narcissistic. I have struggled to get support but I finally found a therapist last week who understands. This is the most painful thing I have ever experienced as my foundational beliefs about the world, that people are basically good, are incorrect and I must transform into this new and shocking reality. I am completely alone as my family is stuck in the old reality of dysfunction and is incapable of providing support. This video really helped me put some definition around what I’m experiencing. I look forward to more videos in the series.
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I also Awakened and its like leaving a Cult you are surrounded by them it’s depressing to say the least I also followed Self care Haven on YT She’s young but brilliant also Just remember your not alone 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Your good faith is for them subjugation fodder. Think of it in economic terms. They are transferring their debts onto you.
This is also how I started my journey. I’m now almost free of all of them and still learning to go grey rock where required. There are still good people out there. But it’s our job to take care of ourselves.
Beloved Child if you didn’t notice these people being evil to others on a regular basis before then probably your non existent or weak boundaries are a large part of the reason they mistreat you. Not that they are evil. They are damaged children that never fixed themselves. As are you right now. You have a lot of new skills to develop so that you care for yourself and your interest properly around all the flawed humans on this earth who are just like you. ‘’Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us”. I do not mean what I say now as a way to talk you out of the rage you feel against being preyed on but as an aim to get to after you have fully felt your rage. Could be a few years. Let it fly. Experience your rage fully. It will help you determine and protect your boundaries. People are not evil, they are imperfect.
Your videos are helping me keep my sanity after 4 years of narcissistic abuse at my job. I quit a week ago and am now unemployed with no idea of what to expect next. I knew something was wrong and I felt like my life and energy was being drained. I did everything I could to make it work but this person is not human...Now in liminal space I am disoriented and anxious but free from the horrific daily torture at my job. Your videos are a light that shines into the darkest corners of the world in need of hope. Thank you 🙏
Scott McCoubrey sco
Scott you should be very proud of yourself for making this huge decision. Too many people stay in these work situations until their mental health disentagrates . The best of luck in moving forward with your life. You cannot put any price on peace of mind. Surround yourself with as many good people as possible.👏
I can an only assume that Dr. Saad not only understands this from the medical level of knowledge but he must have gone through this issue himself. It is very rare for someone that has not been through this psychological trauma to understand it at the level that Dr. Saad understands it. The information that is being provided by Dr. Saad is so important to the human race. Computers are now able to reach the masses but we must seek it out and learn on our own and evolve during this lifetime. Thank you, thank you, one thousand times over for the difference you are making to the world!!!!
yes, well said.
This is where I am rt now. God knows I need to get past the anxiety and fear. Thanks for explaining this so clearly.
Me too. And it's not first time in my life. But last time everything ended well, so I hope for the best.
Me too.
me three....
Me four
Me five Same here god has directed me here to to let go of anxiety fear negative thoughts ocd dating back from childhood
Yes! Many people self-medicate so they don't have to face the hard truths. My breakthrough was when I was forced into a deep depression where I didn't numb myself, but listened to what my depression was saying.
I call it burning away. Burning away old thought patterns, destructive behaviour, useless mind chatter, etc etc. And yes, the process is painful
Im just passing through the last part of liminal(limbo) space. I found that I had to face my fears and rebuild myself into who I want to be rather than who I think I should be. I stepped back into the old behaviours a few times on my way out and found that they made me feel restless and dirty. So today I choose to live in the moment. To be mindful all the time whilst I adjust into this new self. The anxiety hasn’t gone yet but it’s easing now after 3 years. I’ll never be the same and I’ve noticed that people have fallen from my life. I don’t try to hold onto them.
Christina, I am about where you were when you wrote your comment. Moved out of a 35 year marriage 7 months ago and then learned about Covert Narcissism and why I had been crushed to powder so very slowly over decades!!!! The suffering, the panic, the anger. The old me is truly dead. I felt her die this evening! I see aspects of a new me--burning desire for authenticity, self-valuing, and definite about boundaries. I let go of some people as well. Realizing they were never really my friends anyway. Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet: "to thine own self be true and it must follow as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man." To me that means if I know and respect my core and true self, I am free to present myself authentically to the world without masks---not being false to any man.
2018 has been my year of journeying through liminal space. In Christianity, there is a teaching about dying to yourself so that you may be rebuilt. Self transformation truly feels like dying.
...being born again.
It really does feel like death
After years of being in some kind of void it's good to call it by name. Abdul as always saving life
I am nearly 60 years old. I so wish I could have had this level of understanding 30 years ago.
Your awesome,I'm glad you are sharing your knowledge and spreading it to everone.
I lost my soulmate and husband just over 4 years ago. He died suddenly and unexpectedly, and since then I think I’ve been in a state of luminal space, though I think I’m coming through it more recently. It’s taken me a while to let go of what was and who I used to be, to then living in laminar space and fear of what was to become, to emerging. I’m just starting to emerge and I no longer fear what I will be but look forward to being who I will be. In recent months I’ve started to enjoy being the person I’m becoming.
Good point my wife died 7.5 years ago and those first few years I was very much in luminal space
Liminal space is a purgatory of sorts. The transformation is one of learning how to be a kind, loving person of contribution. One who is done with learning from fear and the need to categorize and label every single thing to the exclusion of moving forward with their life.
Michael H "every single thing" and it is getting old. I am a kind, loving person who is tired of walking a very thin, very tight, rope. I look at other tired people and wonder if they are living the same state of being that I am. Good people struggling to move forward in life without hate and anxiety. Laffing and feeling happy is still inside me, but getting more difficult to retain with each dance into liminal space
Thank you so much for this video. A sense of calm came over me as I listened and learned. It is very helpful to be able to understand, identify, and name the 'liminal space' in which I exist at this moment. I look forward to viewing the remaining videos in this invaluable series.
Avoid the cognitive dissonance trap. A related concept is tolerance for ambiguity. If you have a high need for certainty, you are vulnerable to quick and easy answers.
great comment ...so true ...
also a need for 'closure ' is another trap...
@@bebop54 You are correct. A relationship cost me dearly and having gotten myself out of it and on to the road of transformation I look back and see a very different woman than who I am today. The type of work I do keeps me in indirect contact with the guy who's hurt me, who was also a good friend and companion. He's perplexed why we can't still be best friends. All I want from him is one thing: acknowledgement of what he's done. His life runs on virtually unchanged, no sense of loss. Everything about mine changed and will never be what it was before even. It's a good place I'm at though, but I've needed an acknowledgement from him that would require some major self-awareness on his part. It's been hard to accept he will likely never get there. I guess what I'm wanting is closure. But the reality is I will never get it so I have to keep moving forward without it. My hope is eventually, it won't matter.
I am learning so much about my state of being...past, present and future. Eternally, thankful for the lessons you so eloquently impart.
This video itself is transformative. THANK YOU
I had a huge panic attack about 8 years ago and it was the time in my life I felt I was in limbo, between difficult past and terrifying future and then everything started to change..I feel I have been in the process of transformation since then.
Limbonal!
This is so helpful for me right now. My partner left a week ago after a year of my journey to understand why so much pain when we have the careers, the cars, the resort style apartment, the perfect rarest dog. And I realized I was an empathy. I started working on myself very pro me not anti him. And n doing so I became “something” no longer useful to him. But when he left I started to cry each day, but not like a regular cry, like a scared cry. And I would start shaking, my hands. And I thought something was wrong with me. This video helped me see that this is part of the process and not something to be neutralized or ashamed of. Thank u sir!
I am ready to step onto the water... ready to walk by faith not by sight ready to enter that bold new reality
Love your clinical ideas. I know that I'm in liminal space and it is very scary to let go of the repeated hurt, pain, and fear. But my gut tells me the Game is over and it's time for me to love me. I really appreciate your channel and I look forward to donating and getting further coaching. Beautiful work made so clear.
Thank you.
I really want to thank you for this series it is helping me deal with some very difficult time and issues thanks a lot
anger is purifying and necessary for real healing We all need to learn to experience feeling our anger in a positive way that is safe and appropriate and empowering!
anger is necessary to feel more vital than fear ( from my experience using a punching bag to access and flow my rage ; there is a connection with a destructive force that is terrifying yet it only takes one to eight seconds to accept and embrace this feeling as part of my being and then realize that I can feel this feeling without being reactive thus i can feel out of control and maintain my awareness of my feelings flowing through my body without going off into a destructive action )
Limen is the Latin word for “threshold” (as in a door between rooms). Van Gennep indeed used the term to discuss rites of passage, where the states (boy/man, single/married) are like rooms or compartments, ways of being in the world with different obligations and motivations. In a previous episode you talked about modernity and suffering and the shift toward internal analysis or confrontation with the Self. It could be argued that the decline of socially cohesive family and life rituals, which marked these passages formally, contributes to modern disorientation. Religion was a more dominant mode of being in Western societies once upon a time, in which the stories and myths provided narratives about the mechanisms and dynamics of self-transformation. Now that true religious belief is dying, if not effectively dead, in the West, we need therapists of various sorts to remind us of what we’ve apparently forgotten. Which is itself a kind of “social” self-transformation. The world (esp. the U.S.) is currently entering a liminal space.
Bruce McClelland excellent observation.
Such an incredible message. I can see why so many people refuse to go through this transformation. It is very scary but the outcome is far beyond comparison.
You made me cry. How genuine, true and heartbreaking.
Nisreen MK ❤️ yes
What's next?
I'm right there, right now, knowing that I have to change toward my true Self and not going back to the old one, once again.
Small wonder I was watching for this Vital knowledge to appear! Luminosity is a holy space full of expansion, possibilities, and wonder. I cannot thank you enough for bringing this rich information forward. In anticipation of more❤️
You are a life saver! I didn't understand this feeling of confusion, now I get it - liminal space - I feel more able to get through this now. Sending much gratitude.
Look at your own past - your change _has_ _actually_ regularly resulted in such a glorious breakthrough, that you would never consider going back. The change that has already caused such a revolution in how you felt and also in _real_ _and_ _actual_ logistics _will_ happen again, and you should expectantly seek it, everywhere. Go, and grow.
I've always loved the liminal space. It means something good is going to be coming my way.
Wow. This is where I am in my transformation. It's been very difficult moving out of it. It's been over a year since I lost my job and I know that I can't go back to my old career but don't know how to rebuild a new one in my 50s. The one amazing thing of being in liminal space is the connection I've come to have with Source, God, the Divine. Plant medicine Ayahuasca has helped me to face some very deep traumatic wounds and heal. I highly recommend as a modality for those with trauma in their childhood. It has been enlightening beyond what words can describe. I feel it is now time to become more grounded and move forward with the new authentic me...just having difficulty getting there.
'A Wound is a Place where Light Enters' - Rumi.
I simply made the choice to imagine a "higher power" to reinforce me. A connection to the unknown benevolent positive forces of this universe helps me in the liminality of becoming.
Joseph Campbell's - The Hero's Journey. I think he said William Campbell. I studied mythology in undergrad. This idea of transformation is a part of every ancient culture. Our modern accommodations for comfort and a painless existence keeps many from growth and change. Anything that doesn't grow is dead.
True. We lie to ourselves by telling ourselves that stagnation is an option. There's either growth or death, no stagnation.
Please comtinue your work. It is so helpful and after months, no years of searching , finally there is concise clarity and none of the internet hucksterism that makes searching for answers such a despondent process. Like a breath of fresh air and truth..
This has made antremendous difference in my life. Thank you
Your talking spiritual awakening....I love these talks- they are trans-formative:-)
You are a blessing and an angel, GOD has used you to answer my prayers. I will be 60 years in 2021, The Lord had given me so much insight after my husband of 32 years left me. I am totally in the Liminal state and with the strength that GOD gives me and videos like yours I'm on my way to a new me at 60 years old GOD bless you Sir and your work.
Geez! The timing of this video is uncanny. I genuinely appreciate your content. Thank you.
Great video. Helps very much in my current situation of beeing an empath and having recently ended a relationship with a person which at least behaves narcissistic. And I think I am currently in Liminal Space. Was there before, therefore it's not that scary anymore 😄 And I am actually pretty happy because this means that I can grow. Your videos are giving me a deeper understanding of my inner workings and I am greatful for that! Thanks for sharing your professional insight.
Really enjoying this series and looking forward to your next upload.
Wow! Absolutely unique and pertinent. Brilliant and generous, thank you.
You are amazing! I felt so grounded and hopeful after listening to this video. Your description of liminal space helps those suffering, feel connected. You understand and create a sense of hope and relief. I've been in this state for several months: Yoga, exercise, walking with neighbors, Netflix bing watching, has helped. - but this video puts it all together. Namaste.
Thank you so much. What an extremely helpful video. I definitely entered a period of intense self transformation over three years ago, and it was a relationship that caused this ultimate falling apart of everything I knew. I remember thinking I had absolutely nothing to cling on to. Nothing at all. The old me had gone - and I thought of that as the shattering of the ego - and I didn't know who I was. But I went with it and it most definitely has changed me. Some time later, I then almost reluctantly entered into a relationship, setting out firm boundaries, which were consistently overstepped and which I reacted to. So much of the behaviour of the guy in question was absolutely intolerable to me, but I still had old patterns and I was really quite confused for a while, despite repeatedly standing up. It left me feeling really angry, to be honest. I'm not sure if that anger isn't a good thing - as long as I do something about it, but this video couldn't be more timely for me. Thank you very much for your fantastic work. You explain everything so clearly and kindly.
Thank you for providing again another informative and thought provoking video. Though I didn't know the terminology "liminal space" till now, I know well what it is. It definitely occured multiple times for me in 2018 when researching topics online such as the JW religion. It is a shock to find out all the things you were indoctrinated with are false.
Your vidoes have been VERY helpful in helping me to see that I was trained and indoctrinated to be a "nice guy" on top of me being a natural "empath". Though distressing, at least I finally truthfully understand myself much better. Much work and changes lie ahead. :-)
Marvin C DeRuyscher make sure to watch his Empath videos they are the best Especially 3types Of Empaths. Changed my life. Also living in a state of cognitive dissonance then religion & Government & media is just one long nightmare of lies It can be Devastating. Bless you on your Healing . Your not alone 🙏🏻
@@lovewhitey2027 Thank you! :-)
Marvin C DeRuyscher I’ve studied for decades he is my top 2-3 docs 🧐
Love Whyte Who else?
Cool. A new term I can use as a search term on RUclips. Been through these Liminal Spaces many times -- the death card in tarot, which is usually a good sign, but you have to burn your own house down before life burns it down for you (or you self-sabotage massively to force a change). Just a tip: burn down your own house before the dramatic failure burns it for you. Much easier. This last passage has been really, really hard because I realized it was time to change in a big way, but had to recognize I was an empath/highly sensitive passing for assertive and "cool, calm and collected". Faking is such an exhausting way to live. It's taken six months and a lot of RUclips searches to finally begin to get clear on how the next Self will operate in the world. Thanks doc for your clear, easy to follow guidance.
This is so great! Thank you and blessings
Spiritual term is called “ the dark night of the soul”. You basically spiritually depressed during that journey to experience your ego death, when you can come out of the other side, you transformed to a totally different person , you basically have your soul back in you that makes you realize your soul purpose. I have went through this experience, it took more than a year, it is very very painful hard, but it is what universe want you to go through, to learn yourself, to realize who you really are. You finally can see all these 3 D world people, influencing, social concepts doesn’t matter to you any more. Their idea of success now makes you feel they are that superficial, that small, that disgusting. You found your peace in you, you simply found your pure soul.
Thank you. This concept of liminal space has a lot in common with the Tibetan Buddhist 'bardo' I think? Looking forward to more of this series ♥
I'm a little older so while these 90's/2000's do give me that little pang of nostalgia, it's the liminal spaces from the 50's-80's that really get to me.
It’s comforting to have a term for this. Thank you! Growing up codependent with a NF, I didn’t spend much time discovering hobbies or specialized work skills. Just relationships and approval. I feel very lost, but the old way was not working. I expanded a ton last year, then 3 major changes at once and I’ve snapped right back to my old self and now I’m self-sabotaging with food and BFRBs. It’s depressing. I’m gonna watch this series and prob this video multiple times. Very validating and good advice. Thank you, I have hope again.
WOW! Every week, I am enlightened and encouraged by your videos. Hearing the hidden reality of my existence pushed into the light through your words has gifted me with an empowering sense of self-awareness. Thank you for....everything! :)
Thankyou this video is extremely golden and I'm in this situation and I'm all alone after I left my exwife narc my family is not any support I watch your work u are a blessing for many that have insurance I exercise and to keep my spirit in the almighty has been carrying me the devil is a lie🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
You have put words to what I have been going through. I somehow found this path without understanding it. Initially it felt like the rug had been pulled out from under me. I had ended a friendship with the first of two covert narcissists in my life. It was awful but I knew I couldn't go on this way. I reached the point where I was willing to look at myself and not blame others. Things are getting better now and I know I will eventually be ok. Thank you so much for this series, it's transformational!!
I have watched many of your videos and once again I am completely blown away by the education I am receiving from your videos. It’s like you know me better than I know myself. Now that I have a definition and understanding of what I’m going through I am able to embrace and integrate this liminal space. Thank you!
This is exactly how I feel now! I appreciate you for explaining to me the state of this Liminal Space. I am newly embracing being an Empath and understanding what comes with it. Trying to maintain my environment and those I allow to enter my space. This space seems to be preparing me for a Great transformation. My emotions, my attitude, my dialect, sleeping habits and even loss of appetite are affecting me greatly. I feel very discombobulated! Yet in the mist of all this seemingly negative state/ actions, results in my most profound self realizations. I AM NOT GOING BACK TO WHAT WAS. How do I start to progressing forward!?
I hope you're well.
Sound somewhat like the preamble to the "Dark Night of the Soul". Great Video!
Understanding leads to enlightment. I haven't taken responsability of painful events in my past because I could not articulate what was happening to me and sadly I have been only able to face a tiny little part. Thanks to your video I can now articulate my memories with fear and doubts of course but with fiercy honesty. I deserve to love myself and stop feeling guilty or victimized. I am strong enough to take responsability I do not need anymore those illusions. Thank you Abdul, for putting into words the experience of 'liminal space', its stages, its meaning. Great work.
Your best video! Simple breakdown of the complex. I think most would agree to say they have felt like a square peg in a round hole all their lives (assumptive self). Now we know the PAIN is a signal that we can no longer try and be who others try to make us. We must endure the pain of changing our beliefs, habits, thought patterns, and friends in order to become our authentic self. Lastly, you touching on the fact that this pain is a blessing is very comforting.
Wonderful video!!!! I often thought my divorce from my narcissist husband was a blessing! That was many years ago. Currently I am in that liminal space again! And this has given me understanding my unsettling feelings. I desire to surround myself with positive people, & strive to be my true powerful self.
Thank you for vocalizing what I am experiencing!
Thanks a lot, May Allah bless you :)
Everything you describe is exactly where I am right now and it has been so uncomfortable for me and now all that desperation makes sense. Just today my dad was somewhat alluding to what you said because I’m floundering and don’t know where to go, to move to, to change my life to. I just want to escape somewhere, but don’t know where...I just want to jump over all these changes and be in the new place already and this place I am in right now feels debilitating and lost. Also what you said about the first panic attack is spot on. It makes total sense. But it’s crazy and a sign I found your video that help is on the way. Thank you. 🙏🏼.
Very nice. I am currently in that liminal space which I didn't even know was an actually thing. Knowing there are actual thoughts & teachings behind this kind of transformation has brought me more mental balance & clarity. Thank you. Knowledge is definitely power.
Wow.. it has a term and definition. Been in this space for years now. Yes, searching for the magic key, which is usually right in front of us. Releasing the rage and anger is a bit rough. The panic attack floored me... haven't had any since. For the empath, might experience a little vertigo at some point. Feeling in motion while standing still... it passes. Now what?
Exactly.
Now you know you have some ability to not let anxiety totally control you. You build from there. When you feel rage and anger, listen to yourself carefully. You will get to the bottom of it and chart an imperfect path toward integrity and health.
Do not release rage and anger or any feeling. Experience it fully. All feelings point to a need either met or unmet. Feeling typically labeled “negative” point to unmet needs. Feelings typically labeled positive point to met needs. Check this out in your day to day life. You feel irritated when your coat zipper sticks. What need is not met in that moment? Need for Cooperation (from the zipper) need for progress (to get on with your day). On the positive you feel happy when someone compliments your hair. Your need for being seen and to matter was jus t met. Rage and anger point to a desperately needed need that needs to get met soon. It is 100% your responsibility to discover what that need is and get it met by asking, seeking or whatever is legal and non harmful to others. There are list of feelings and needs on the internet and it is imperative that you learn the language so as to be emotionally fluent. Most of us are emotionally illiterate. It’s worth the time it take (years) of studying and practicing to become emotionally fluent. It is the work we were put here to do. Please invest in yourself. Learn to be emotionally fluent with yourself.
Not that I do not experience it... I feel it fully. However, as I look back to the why it is easier to release it. Old blockages and emotional baggage. I have been on this road for some time. Just recently ditched the vampires and energy leeches so that I can work through all this confusion. Which is self created through a poor self image. Still having a hard time figuring out how to improve my own self worth. Negative reinforcement from union or old jobs keeps me in limbo. Part of overcoming this is a project I started about a month ago. Ended up homeless, built a micro house in the bed of my truck. To prove to myself that I can do things like design and build a solar system for off grid power. The insulation works, been snowing for days. It's sealed and dry too..
The vertigo you speak of ain't no joke if your speaking literal about it. I experienced uncontrollable wooziness in the relationship and post my discard of the ex for 14 months after it took to begin to even go away. Another woman I met in an online na support group had spinning vertigo dealing with her narc and post her discard of him, she had to go see a vertigo specialist. I think the brains amygdala is set off in major overdrive, but me & this other lady didn't experience a little of it, we both experienced a lot and it greatly affected our daily lives for long time. Yes, uncontrollable vertigo and wooziness is very real in dealing with narc's.
May God bless you! I felt like God saw me and the questions and struggles I am going through when I listened to this video today.
Chock full of usable, clinical information presented in relatable terms. Appreciate the considerate acknowledgement of the process, and ensuing struggle, up to the arrival at liminal space. Heartening to view a video like this that details exactly what occurs. The context is affirming. Thank you.
Watched it a second time. Thoughtful, humane. Hopeful.
Thank you so much for this information. I’ve been in this space in varying degrees for years now, recovering from childhood abuse. It’s almost like I go through cycles of liminal space, then breakthrough, then a plateau-type period followed by another level of transformation in different areas. I’ll be looking forward to learning so much more from you. You’re adding tools to my proverbial wellness toolbox. 💯
Thank you for making this video, I’ve noticed myself actually looking at photos of liminal spaces and I wondered why I was so fascinated yet felt so many emotions looking at these images. I never knew liminality was a mental state. I moved to another state and the virus happend after that and I do feel like I’m in this space of liminality
I went through this last year. Discard, panic attack, very odd behavior. I woke up in a motel in New Zealand and I felt what I call normal or to a new self. Thank you for this video.
This is a wonderful video and I needed this. I'm definitely in liminal space at the moment and slowly moving forward. It is scary... fear of the unknown. I really love how you break things down about transformation and liminal space. You are so well versed and always give me something to ponder on... that really helps. Thanks so much for sharing!
Thank you million times! This material is genious. This and the parts work of the late Pete Gerlach have been the most helpful sources in my recovery from childhood trauma. May God bless you
Thank you for all your videos they are such a great help
Thank You! Greetings from Poland :)
As the phrase goes "Seek and ye shall find" Was chatting with a friend today and describing a very scary and discombobulated feeling I'm having as I'm standing stronger in my own self and life. Now it has a word!
Thank you so much. This is where I am!!! Nobody else understands. You are amazing! I can't wait for your next videos!!! Thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
In my case over 22yrs of marriage, once youve realised this liminal space it helped me to think about what it is that i really want for my future knowing this marrige is over, once i decided i wanted my family and my children back that he has driven away, the next step was to think logically how to get that back; the family and children were always there. he never really got rid of them i just had to reach out to them for help..i am on my way to a better me now...
Thank you so much for posting these video's , I can't begin to tell you how helpful they are. Your hard work and the information you give is priceless to understanding yourself and others.
Damn Dr Asas, dropping truth bombs left and right!
Amazing video! I am total in the liminal space right now.
This is so helpful! The most helpful video I’ve been able to find about liminal space or states. Thank you!
I’m in liminal space right now thank you for explaining it so perfectly
Have experienced this numerous times in my life and didn’t know it was a thing. Thank you so very much
That's where I live, in severe panic state, and depression and have had abuse and neglect, etc. from childhood to now in 58. And being an extreme empath and all the above, it's soooo painful to be alive, and can't seem to change it with all the books etc. This is a great video! Maybe there is hope for me?
This series is so helpful to me right now. It's nice to have a word for what I'm going through. Liminal.
This is JUST what I needed right now!!!! I am soooo f#$%ing afraid to do so many things I did not think twice about now. I am ten years into recovery from narc/sociopath/BPD parents n narc relatives. I have also had a chronic illness for 3 years, which was debilitating AF. And was without a car for 9 months. I got wheels again thankfully. It gave me lots of time for self reflection but I feel sooo old now, and have zero "confidence". I now wonder if my self assurance was an unhealthy coping mechanism! Thanks so much and looking forward to ur next vids.
This video is so helpful and validating for me. Thank you so very much.
Wow! Wonderful discussion.
Excellent timing.
Liminal space, thanks for this term since it leaves room for imagining a glimpse of sunlight after the depths of despair.
I am still in those depths. Becoming aware of the destructive effects of numerous narcissists in my life with the latest predator being my mother whom I looked after in her old age, I am grieving very much my destiny. I have cast out all narcissists and this leaves me with NO family and very few friends. It feels like the film with Tom Hanks "cast away".
Wow this is so amazingly insightful and pinpoint accurate. Thank you is not enough.
Thank you sooo much for this video. I am in this space now. I separated early this year from a very malicious covert narcisist husband, took me 10years! I faced my fears and i am very slowly moving forward after discovering that i sourronded myself with almost all predators and i had to make the decision to leave them all behind and walk alone with my son in a whole new path in a country where i am not able even to speak the language. It is terrifing at moments, but i certainly feel there is no way back, is like my skin has grown and i my old me is way too small now. I can not afford even looking back. But, though most of the times i am fiercely moving towards the real me (happy to discover whom i really am) underneath all my overadaptative behaviors, there are moments when i fall into cinic and arrogant behavior, i hear myself into ruminating and all tastes bitter...and i have not a clue how i can dettach from such an unpleaseant new part of me, which is far from i would like to be. At moments i can not fight the nasty me, who is, if not upset, at least holding hard feelings. I know it was all for good at the end, but still i dont know whether is aging or post-trauma, but i really wish i have not a drop of that bitterness within myself ever.
thank you so much. I'm also here in the perfectly described down to the last detail of this liminal space I'm living in. Look forward to the next video, please keep sending more on this subject
Powerful knowledge! All makes sense. So encouraging.
Hello Abdul,
I've enjoyed your videos periodically over the past few months. I see many books behind you, I wonder if you have a recommended reading list? Primarily for self development and understanding..
Thank you
This is where I reside. Not sure how to get out of it yet, but am using meditations to break down the old self.
I wish I could like this video 65K times! Thank you, so much, Sir!
Is during the liminal space when we are most needing to get support, guidance, and grace from prayers to God. The depth and the strength of the pain can be overwhelming and can easily make you fall into codependency or addictive behaviors.
The books " The Pathwork " by Eva Pierakkos is the best guide to confronting your " Shadow ".
Now there is a name to what I'm feeling! I really thought I was going crazy!!!
Yes. I'm still doing the painful social experiment with a diary. Letting go of a fixed philosophy is scary.