Kay Bellz yes hon that why you need to set the pace by putting boundaries. Tine reveals everything not words. Be busy and unavailable. Make him think about being with you. And when he is finally with you be fun and free and yourself. Then again be busy. Be unavailable , work on yourself see your friend . Make him miss you, then when he finally with you ... be fun and free . It a simple game . Once u master it . You will never feel bad again because he will beg you to commit. Then in the relationship...BE BUSY let him text you and call you. End calls first. Be mysterious. SEE yourself. talk to your FRIEND. And when he see’s you be FUN and FREE again and again. To master something in life you have to repeat again and again and then it will ne second nature
What works for me is : 1. Never validate them by feelings or compliments at first. 2. Never call or message them first. 3. Ignore them 4. Never talk about a relationship til he brings it up. Men love to chase.
You're right, but the problem is that sometimes we don't know how to show man our real quality, cause they don't know us, they can't guess who we really are. That's why we have to "prove" our worth. And the same for them.
If that were true u wouldn't have to play games u play games because sex is the only thing u have to bargain with so u hold it at bay until he catches feelings n feels invested n fall in love with the illusion that u created 😀
Elliot: Women are not nearly as "hooked" on a guy who makes little effort as you think. Low effort men are easy to replace. Women have a lot more options than it appears you're aware of. Women don't have to "create competition" as you said -- trust me, the competition is always there. Stupid men don't realize this and get too comfortable too quickly in thinking they have a woman regardless of how they treat her. I speak from experience.
I totally agree! When two people like each other it is easy....everything else is just childish for me....and i am not "in the market"....so i am speaking from experience....the only key words are "mutual fellings"!
That’s the thing, I screwed up and asked what’s going on cuz he was pursuing me hard in the beginning (couple months) and when i appreciated it and started becoming interested he pulls away. He then says he’s not ready for a relationship, not that I was even expecting one during a pandemic. But I decided to move on, I tried being scarce and distant but it doesn’t help when u want to get to know them more
Scorpion's Oracle Lol’ facts! 💯.... I’m sick of dating sites 🥴🙄😒😏😫😖’ it’s such BS... I was only looking at it as an alternative to dating! No expectations/ no commitments! NADA... and boom 💥 Their all idiots 🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️’ all trying to get some’ wet wet ‘ between the sheets 😒
I thought this too, but the key is patience. I found the guy I’m dating on tinder, it took a while but eventually he came along. Know what you want, don’t settle for any guy who doesn’t want the same things.
@@gamalsankara1388 There is a reason that throughout human history this "chasing game" keeps working and is an archetypal story. Look at people's actions and mute their words. Actions convey more truth than most words will.
Huh single and happy. I sure am single but can't really say very happy. I'm happy for everything I have. Except for not having a man. If that makes any sense. God please send me my Mr. Right
Lavonda Deadwiler Very much agreed... true! I’ll make him wait forever! Just to get whatever I want from him’ without getting emotionally too involved ... I’ve learned! I no longer allow emotions or feelings to get into my mind of pleasing him 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Scarcity only works on secure men, because men have such fragile egos & will do everything not to lose or "feel" like a loser. Immature men will get frustrated at "scarcity" and walk away first, rather than put themselves out there...vulnerability. Am I wrong? Nope.
I still watch Elliot although I'm in a happy relationship. I still think you can learn a thing or two even if you're not single. The learning doesn't stop once you're in a relationship 😊
Mimic the guy that's it. If he spends on you. You spend on him. If he calls you then you call him. If he text you then you text him. If he. Ghost you then you ghost him. This will make things even so 1 will not feel more used.
What I like most about your videos: you‘re always so on the point and you aren‘t afraid to tell the things to us women that other dating coaches are! 😘
The Top Five Reasons Your Fans Love You. 1) Your eyes: Eyes are the gateway to the soul. 2) You are honest and truthful: Even if it hurts. 3) You give amazing advice and examples for application of that advice. 4) My favorite: Your glasses! Personification matters. They make you look exactly how your fans would describe you as..... Intelligent! 5) You live stream and let us ask questions. That shows you truly want to help. Real-time feedback is much more beneficial than waiting days, weeks or months for a response. We ask because we trust you and the fact you take time out of your busy day to respond shows all of us how much your fan base truly means to you. Just know all your fans heart you! In case we do not say it enough.....Thank you!
@@ImCheesedOut Well I do not have ADHD but I can't swear to not having ADD. I often have squirrel moments. So touché (minus the hyperactive part ). As far as medication, I am more holistic. Fun fact: Did you know pharmakeía means witch craft/magic? The root word that derives the English word pharmaceutical? That was irrelevant. Much like your comment. Didn't want you to one up me on useless opinions or facts. Have a great day!
I don't believe women or men should chase. If there is reciprocity between you two everything will happen organically, you'll be pulled towards each other like 2 magnets. Chasing a person is trying to prove your worth to that specific person when in reality you don't need to.
Men chase because women are the prize. It's always been like that and always will be. Denying such a reality is convenient for men because they silently get "the prize" without much effort then they go to the next "prize". A woman who he spend a lot of his precious resources, time and effort on isn't a woman he can leave easily.
That's where I'm at. We haven't done anything but phone convos and he is already showing inconsistency. I'm now looking at my phone when he calls like✌🏽
The good qualities that you talk about a woman, are the same reasons why some guys walk away. Some guys are afraid of women and get intimidated if she's talented, smart and have everything going on for her.
My counter argument to that is we have options too. Ladies don’t stop dating other men until he’s shown you he’s in it for real and only with you. Guys like mystery at first and wonder is she or isn’t she going out with someone else. Put the worry on him and do your thing.
Im single but I love the knowledge you give us. Sometimes, I can already feel what you’re going to say, like you implemented a mini Elliot in my head lol. You changed my mindset and view on relationships for the better!
Love this! Nothing is better than working on yourself, if it’s not for the one guy you want now, it’ll work for the next men that come into your life! Progress! 🌸
Elliott I'm starting to realize im codependent and wanting to change my life . I get into these toxic relationships and want to change and get rid of this this sick attachments. I realize now from watching your videos there is some work I need to do on myself!! Thank you so much for helping people and educating them!
I understand we have to play games but for how long? Throughout the entire marriage and relationship? Until we die? When I am 90 years old? 😂😂. Women should not be spending too much time thinking about complicated men. It’s not worth it.
@@TranquilityWithinMe I genuinely ain't got time for that. Like as soon as i realise I'm the one still trying and initiating, I get over it real quick. 😂 I stopped contact him about two weeks ago now. I don't know how women chase
😬😁☺❌⭕❌⭕😁🤎❤💛💚💖🤎💜💙🧡💖Never give up your guy is waiting sometimes God holds you/us back temporarily till the road is safe & clear to continue be thankful for the Stall☺🤗🥰💝🤎💚💖🧡💙🖤🤍🖤❤💙💜🤎💚💙💛🧡💖💝 Stay safe stay blessed everyone ❌⭕❌⭕💜❤💖🧡💛💙🤎💚🖤🤍🖤🧡💛❤💜💝
Why am I just now seeing this "holy grail" of a dating advice video... Let two guys I really liked get outta my grasp, because I played the pick me patty role too well!
Yes it always feels secure when u know what makes you special. You just feel great on your own, and when u feel like u have your unique charisma, ppl are drawn to u.
I swear, I do these things naturally (because I'm insecure a need guys to do all the steps lol, not because I'm so calculating), especially when I'm not that interested in a guy - and the less I chase them/show interest, the more I can feel it driving them crazy so they really to all the effort and chasing!
THANK YOU for confirming it is indeed a game! I used to get so confused regarding that. It's like, even if you both like each other you will gotta keep a little bit of mystery, not fall too soon. That's how it's a game. You don't have to think a lot, you just gotta be smart and hold your own. Thanks Elliot
I made my boyfriend my bitch lol.. I came in between him and his ex getting back together.. when he met me his ex was already in the pic they were messing around but she didn’t want him back until she knew about me then she got jealous and wanted him back but he couldn’t let me go and it finally came to him making a choice between her and I and he chose me.. and asked me to be his girl.. and when we got into a fight a year ago I left states and he drove 10 hours just for me to bring me back. We’ve been together for 5 years 💙
Jelizabeth Petrie We just clicked, the moment when we met we had an almost instant connection, we just couldn’t stay away from each other. We were so drawn to each other, never felt that way for anyone else and he never felt that way for any other girl.
Jelizabeth Petrie omg so true :)) in wild life the males actually have to word really hard, fighting with other competitors, even risk their lives to conquer the females
Eliot: you forgot one thing to mention and I have been experienced on evaluating dating app profiles. Most of the time, people don't list their interests into their profiles anymore. They only put their age, name and height in it and a cheesy text like "talk to me, I don't bite". And to me, that is sad. I have come across men on the dating app who had literally nothing to offer. Their only hobby was Netflix after a dead-end job. No interest in analyzing the show and their meaning, just consumption of media. But when these men had nothing to offer (even their looks had given them no boost) they demanded a girl that had a lot to offer. Slim, big boobs, good cook, cute accent, sexy, 100+ hobbies and always with make up on. It was sad to witness something in this day and age at my age! (23 year old student)
You are right! What makes me stand out from all other women? He cannot find a woman who is both a Registered Nurse and Pharmacist both Bachelors Degree. I never chased him, never text and call first. It took 3-7 days for me to reply to his messages. I am very mysterious. He is the one who is needy and clingy. I declined seeing him for 9 months now but he still wants to be with me....
A real men want a women he see’s HIGHER then himself. I promise you . If a guy think you’re below him he will never respect you nor commit . He will USE you. So please respect yourself love yourself by being busy and having boundaries. The same men that disrespected you can kiss the ground you walk on ,once you SHIFT your energy. Be positive and confident. If you feel low : CALL your friend not the guy your seeing. He need to fantasize about being with you. Period. If he doesn’t he will never feel safe to be vulnerable with you because he will feel your weak. Men want to be with a strong women= aka a women that knows her worths and stand her ground . That how they married. So ladies shift your energy. Talk to him as a friend. Be willing to walk away at any moment. And be satisfied when he comes back to you
The idea of dating again is so daunting. I love the advice in your videos, but I am not sure I will ever go round in the dating world again. I am exhausted just listening to all the rules and games.
This was one if the realist videos I’ve ever seen. Wow. Eye opening. Besides, exactly something I thought about lately like how selfish of us to meet someone than expect the person to enter into an immediate relationship just because we like them. How selfish is that? It’s like disregard everything you had going on before just choose me. How profound. Take my time. Lesson learned
Holy hell. After hearing this, I'm not dating again for a while. Alone is looking really good right now. I'm not sure what happened to "just be yourself" but this is just irritating. 🙄
Alot of woman these dayz have put men on a petals til and they dont put their needs of relationship 1st. Grow up old school, so happy that i know what it takes to establish a relationship! If it doesn't work out at least i had my standards and know what i want given the situation. Don't give up, just learn what you want and dont deviate for anyone! Have fun dating!
I know that there are so many High value men who should follow this advice. Don’t be everything for women who don’t appreciate you. Make them chase you.
Naw I’m a pain in thee ass 🤣🤣🤣🤣 if I don’t get what I want I block & walk away to simple. I actually get a kick out of ignoring him when he tries to play games with me. I be like next Lol
My grandparents were both excellent writers and bonded on a deep level conversing over Steinbeck and other great authors, so you’re very right about common interests!
Hello Elliot! Thank you so much for your videos. Being divorced and have found my lost love after 30 years., and playing the long game, until we are both ready for something serious. I appreciate your topics. They truly help. Keep up the good work. I Iook forward to my bell notifications. You're a pleasure for my life.,🤗💜
You just described my bf. I am done with the cold and hot stuff. I know my value and if he plays cold for 3 days I disappear for 6 days or two weeks. Good luck.
1. Leverage - not giving in 2. Filling a void of his 3. Build sex appeal 4. Playing hot and cold--create desire, and then be a little hesitant 5. Create competition
I’m unique and I’m irreplaceable , I’ve got the gift of helping heal people and turn negative situations into positive ones, I’m also emotional intelligent . I’m also not needy lol He’s always saying that the women he talks to are to needy and clingy or put themselves around all the time
Loving the videos and your are right on with all of it. Smart and intelligent.. I am still single, but flirt and have fun. Just being confident and staying open minded, but being cautious. Hope you have a great day.
This is crazy. At what point. are you allowed to just be genuine and show you like someone. As for hot and cold I have accidentally done this with a much younger man and he has been chasing me for over a year now
Till when should we do this before the men get tired and also walk away. I do all the things you've said and it works....but when can we start being a lil more consistent and let them think they "won" us
I think I should have been a guy because when a guy wants more, I say 'let's keep our options open'. I think I'm a non commitment type, don't care what you have if you don't have 'that thing' hmmmph next.
I don't know but for some reasons I feel this guy nails it to the point and I really love that . I watched the video on " what to do when he is stressed and pulls away " and t really helped a lot! Thanks Scott
I'd agree that these men think they have options, but the research on the subject actually shows they really don't have as many options as they think they do. I haven't dated in over six months, but it's because I take the thought of my happiness seriously now. I'm really happy right now. I enjoy my life. Poll after poll shows that women take a huge hit to their happiness after marriage. I know wasn't happy for at least half of my marriage. Why would I take that risk to my happiness? Single women consistently rate as the happiest group, single men come in at the bottom. You're giving up your freedom way too easily women. I'm not anti-men or anything, but I think too many women get fixated on the idea they need a guy. Women need to consider their own happiness rather than commitment. Does the situation make you happy? No, then dump his ass.
This is great advice and it's true but I'm too old for this I give up dating a guy seven months who's just not invested and I'm tired of dating that goes nowhere
That's why you had to vet him 2 months,not 7. They usually show their colors in the first two months. And have a roster of atleast 3. Notice it's dating 3 at the same time, not sleeping with them.
Good advice, but this is why it's a constant headache being in love with the American male and why people end up in unhappy relationships in this country. The guy you show interest to baits you, wines and dines you (until you give in and sleeps with him depending on how much you like him), and once the chase is over he relaxes or becomes disinterested. He then sets his sights on another girl and if she doesn't like him, she won't give in as quickly as you did and he'll chase and chase and chase like a junkie and convince himself that she must be high value, when in actuality she doesn't really love him, she just went through the same heartbreak you did with her first choice. Because most women want to settle with one guy, she settles for the guy who chased and is ultimately unhappy constantly asking him to change and fix things she really didn't want to put up with in the first place.. I'll be dating foreigners and other men who have simpler more realistic views in life.
Great content!! How do you keep your man chasing you after you're already in a relationship? Getting him out of that "comfort" stage thinking he has you , so turn down the effort.
I don’t want to be chased. Only animals chase their prey to devour them. I want to be treated like a human being from a kind person who can reciprocate. 😊
I once tried to create competition and that did not go well 😂😂 but then again, he never really liked me so it's fine. I'm glad he at least thought I had other guys vying for me coz they do
I love you because your advice is straight and to the point. It's not a bunch of psychological memorization and mine tricks and mind games. Now I know psychology but sometimes I'm put off by the advice of other dating coaches because I don't like how they teach you to play mind games. I know from experience that men don't like mind games and that will actually make them run off. If you have to stoop to the point of manipulating someone like that in order to make them be with you then the relationship is all wrong. They may actually come to resent you for playing games. I get that dating is a little bit of a game but I've seen some advice on other platforms that I didn't like because it seemed manipulative in a bad way. You teach people how to do this right. But again, I love your advice and I am subscribed to your Channel. Keep doing great work! You're awesome!
Dude it took one video for me to Like and subscribe to you. Okay so what do I do if I’m totally hooked on you and can’t stop watching your videos??? Lol 😆
This dude is a joke
Your mom seems to love me.
@@ElliotScottDating 😅🎯
I love him! 💯🥰😏
There's nothing wrong with this guy. He offers amazing and sound advice. Don't be jealous and bitter
This is what is called projecting.
The worst guys are the ones who give the 'boyfriend treatment' then reveal their true intentions later.
Kay Bellz yes hon that why you need to set the pace by putting boundaries. Tine reveals everything not words. Be busy and unavailable. Make him think about being with you. And when he is finally with you be fun and free and yourself. Then again be busy. Be unavailable , work on yourself see your friend . Make him miss you, then when he finally with you ... be fun and free . It a simple game . Once u master it . You will never feel bad again because he will beg you to commit. Then in the relationship...BE BUSY let him text you and call you. End calls first. Be mysterious. SEE yourself. talk to your FRIEND. And when he see’s you be FUN and FREE again and again. To master something in life you have to repeat again and again and then it will ne second nature
You are not lying
@@Fleur_2desert10 thanks girl 😘
@@VegasChemistry 😊
Yes I was dating someone and wanted to be with me o didn’t I wanted to go glow then caught feelings now I’m being ghosted :(
It also seems women are so motivated to be liked they don’t step back enough to even consider if the guy is that impressive to begin with?
Jelizabeth Petrie yes!!
Yasssss!!
Yup those cutie pie pick me chicks yes
Exactly woman nowadays act like garbage instead of acting like the prize. So desperate I see it all the time.
Lean back, enjoy the slower reveal, be the consumer in a way.
Women: I don’t want to play games.
Also women: *binge watches Elliot’s videos to learn the game*
Hailey Luder just got here but I caught that 🤣🤣🤣
Systematic mathematic 😂😂😂
It was recommended 🤷🏻♀️🤣
I don't want to play but because we HAVE to, I'm here to learn so that I don't lose!
Exactly. Life is a game itself 😂❤🌹🔥💪
What works for me is :
1. Never validate them by feelings or compliments at first.
2. Never call or message them first.
3. Ignore them
4. Never talk about a relationship til he brings it up.
Men love to chase.
when i do this, he says i dont like him. its so weird. im ready to give up
Jessica T ; change the guy; Jessica its time for next , 💕🥂🌹
That only works if he wants you. And you can't do too much of that or he will forget it.
What do u mean by point 1?
@@jessicat2304 He is trying to guilt trip you, so you continue to cater to him.
I don't need to prove my worth to a man. I am the prize and if he doesn't see that it is his loss.
You're right, but the problem is that sometimes we don't know how to show man our real quality, cause they don't know us, they can't guess who we really are. That's why we have to "prove" our worth. And the same for them.
Yasss Queen!
Madison Daily no bitch your gonna stay single cus you probably let men walk all over you😂
If that were true u wouldn't have to play games u play games because sex is the only thing u have to bargain with so u hold it at bay until he catches feelings n feels invested n fall in love with the illusion that u created 😀
Elliot: Women are not nearly as "hooked" on a guy who makes little effort as you think. Low effort men are easy to replace. Women have a lot more options than it appears you're aware of. Women don't have to "create competition" as you said -- trust me, the competition is always there. Stupid men don't realize this and get too comfortable too quickly in thinking they have a woman regardless of how they treat her. I speak from experience.
I totally agree! When two people like each other it is easy....everything else is just childish for me....and i am not "in the market"....so i am speaking from experience....the only key words are "mutual fellings"!
Speak for yourself. Where is the competition for me?
That’s the thing, I screwed up and asked what’s going on cuz he was pursuing me hard in the beginning (couple months) and when i appreciated it and started becoming interested he pulls away. He then says he’s not ready for a relationship, not that I was even expecting one during a pandemic. But I decided to move on, I tried being scarce and distant but it doesn’t help when u want to get to know them more
Right on Elizabeth these low effort men are everywhere! And easily replaced!
Elizabeth Dobos, i agree with you. Women get bored with low effort men at some point.
Tinder is the worst place to look for a relationship.
Its a hook up site
Scorpion's Oracle yes
Scorpion's Oracle
Lol’ facts! 💯.... I’m sick of dating sites 🥴🙄😒😏😫😖’ it’s such BS... I was only looking at it as an alternative to dating! No expectations/ no commitments! NADA... and boom 💥 Their all idiots 🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️🤷🏿♀️’ all trying to get some’ wet wet ‘ between the sheets 😒
Scorpion's Oracle
Men turn EVERY site into a hookup site
I thought this too, but the key is patience. I found the guy I’m dating on tinder, it took a while but eventually he came along. Know what you want, don’t settle for any guy who doesn’t want the same things.
It's easier with a person I don't like that much but once I love it's hard to be scarce.
@Grace Maina: Same.
Exactly.
That’s the biggest bitch about it.
it's not hard..just think of how much he'll miss u
Grace Maina right !!!! I was about to say the same thing
Single as hell,phone dry as hell ,not looking for a man what’s so ever but I love watching your videos. very informative when I get back out there.❤️
whitney whit me too!
I dont chase a man. A man has to chase me. Home girl dont play that.
Jackie G
LOLLLLL
Why should he chase you? Why not be real with each other? All this cat and mouse games never end up well.
@@gamalsankara1388 All these chicks playing games is why they're still single bruh.
@@gamalsankara1388 There is a reason that throughout human history this "chasing game" keeps working and is an archetypal story. Look at people's actions and mute their words. Actions convey more truth than most words will.
thanks for reminding me daily why i would rather be single and happy all the time
Huh single and happy. I sure am single but can't really say very happy. I'm happy for everything I have. Except for not having a man. If that makes any sense. God please send me my Mr. Right
You must play mind games no matter how much you like the person! Don't be submissive, make him chase ladies!
Don't forget Elliot used to be one of those low ego men he talks about
Lavonda Deadwiler how do you make him chase by acting uninterested and not texting
Lavonda Deadwiler
Very much agreed... true! I’ll make him wait forever! Just to get whatever I want from him’ without getting emotionally too involved ... I’ve learned! I no longer allow emotions or feelings to get into my mind of pleasing him 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Ew
"Wise men say only fools rush in..."
Memory Rinehart very wisely said !!
UB40
Memory Rinehart All girls should have a mandatory tattoo of this on their wrist at 16! 😳🙄❤️
One of my favorite lyrics
ICELET falling in love with...
Show you don’t care 🤷🏼♀️ show him you could care less create competition...is key ....
This is the truth ‼️
This video just proved me that I'm too nice in 35 different languages
Scarcity only works on secure men, because men have such fragile egos & will do everything not to lose or "feel" like a loser. Immature men will get frustrated at "scarcity" and walk away first, rather than put themselves out there...vulnerability. Am I wrong? Nope.
Anji Jack exactly
TOTALLY SPOT ON
That’s why you gotta build up your attraction first! Make him develop feelings ALWAYS before scarcity! Scarcity only works if he likes you!
@@wxstedstxrs2008 make him develop feelings?! LOL
Hayley B Wait what’s wrong with what I said?!😂👀
I still watch Elliot although I'm in a happy relationship. I still think you can learn a thing or two even if you're not single. The learning doesn't stop once you're in a relationship 😊
So true ❌⭕❌⭕🧡🤎💚💛🤎💙💜🤎❤💛💚💖
Mimic the guy that's it. If he spends on you. You spend on him. If he calls you then you call him. If he text you then you text him. If he. Ghost you then you ghost him. This will make things even so 1 will not feel more used.
What I like most about your videos: you‘re always so on the point and you aren‘t afraid to tell the things to us women that other dating coaches are! 😘
The Top Five Reasons Your Fans Love You.
1) Your eyes: Eyes are the gateway to the soul.
2) You are honest and truthful: Even if it hurts.
3) You give amazing advice and examples for application of that advice.
4) My favorite: Your glasses! Personification matters. They make you look exactly how your fans would describe you as..... Intelligent!
5) You live stream and let us ask questions. That shows you truly want to help. Real-time feedback is much more beneficial than waiting days, weeks or months for a response. We ask because we trust you and the fact you take time out of your busy day to respond shows all of us how much your fan base truly means to you.
Just know all your fans heart you! In case we do not say it enough.....Thank you!
Awe shucks :)
Someone took too much aderall today!
@@ImCheesedOut Well I do not have ADHD but I can't swear to not having ADD. I often have squirrel moments. So touché (minus the hyperactive part ). As far as medication, I am more holistic. Fun fact: Did you know pharmakeía means witch craft/magic? The root word that derives the English word pharmaceutical? That was irrelevant. Much like your comment. Didn't want you to one up me on useless opinions or facts. Have a great day!
I don't believe women or men should chase. If there is reciprocity between you two everything will happen organically, you'll be pulled towards each other like 2 magnets. Chasing a person is trying to prove your worth to that specific person when in reality you don't need to.
Unfortunately that's not how nature operates.
Men chase because women are the prize. It's always been like that and always will be. Denying such a reality is convenient for men because they silently get "the prize" without much effort then they go to the next "prize". A woman who he spend a lot of his precious resources, time and effort on isn't a woman he can leave easily.
that moment when you never chased him and let him make all the moves, yet he still don't act right. ahahahah. good thing we have not slept together
That's where I'm at. We haven't done anything but phone convos and he is already showing inconsistency. I'm now looking at my phone when he calls like✌🏽
The good qualities that you talk about a woman, are the same reasons why some guys walk away. Some guys are afraid of women and get intimidated if she's talented, smart and have everything going on for her.
My counter argument to that is we have options too. Ladies don’t stop dating other men until he’s shown you he’s in it for real and only with you. Guys like mystery at first and wonder is she or isn’t she going out with someone else. Put the worry on him and do your thing.
Make a man hunger for your validation... Break him lol
Tashea Key savage!! 🤣🤣😭
How?
Yeah good. Hot n cold. Very attentive n then scarce.
Tashea Key that's what I usually do I break their egos. Hehe
Oh, now I know why my workplace stalker gets WORSE when I ignore him and wrun for cover when I spot him coming down the hallway...welp...
Im single but I love the knowledge you give us. Sometimes, I can already feel what you’re going to say, like you implemented a mini Elliot in my head lol. You changed my mindset and view on relationships for the better!
Same here ❌⭕❌⭕🧡💛❤💜🤎💙💚❤💜💛🧡
Love this! Nothing is better than working on yourself, if it’s not for the one guy you want now, it’ll work for the next men that come into your life! Progress! 🌸
Realest RUclipsr out here. Thankyou for awesome content, really appreciate it! ❤🙏🏽
Have a blessed day💫
He is not lying. This plan works like a charm! Let em know that you are desired and they chase you like its their job!
Elliott I'm starting to realize im codependent and wanting to change my life . I get into these toxic relationships and want to change and get rid of this this sick attachments. I realize now from watching your videos there is some work I need to do on myself!! Thank you so much for helping people and educating them!
I understand we have to play games but for how long? Throughout the entire marriage and relationship? Until we die? When I am 90 years old? 😂😂. Women should not be spending too much time thinking about complicated men. It’s not worth it.
Ana Debeljak I agree REPLACE them and make them regret LOSING you!!!
@@TranquilityWithinMe I genuinely ain't got time for that. Like as soon as i realise I'm the one still trying and initiating, I get over it real quick. 😂 I stopped contact him about two weeks ago now. I don't know how women chase
Men NEVER stop playing games.
Yes you have to always be playing the game
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Ladies...the secret sauce is "appreciation" it's the one thing most if not all don't receive...
This video made me depressed lol. I’m gonna be single forever 😩
😬😁☺❌⭕❌⭕😁🤎❤💛💚💖🤎💜💙🧡💖Never give up your guy is waiting sometimes God holds you/us back temporarily till the road is safe & clear to continue be thankful for the Stall☺🤗🥰💝🤎💚💖🧡💙🖤🤍🖤❤💙💜🤎💚💙💛🧡💖💝 Stay safe stay blessed everyone ❌⭕❌⭕💜❤💖🧡💛💙🤎💚🖤🤍🖤🧡💛❤💜💝
Why am I just now seeing this "holy grail" of a dating advice video... Let two guys I really liked get outta my grasp, because I played the pick me patty role too well!
😂😂 man I just give up ...
Yes it always feels secure when u know what makes you special. You just feel great on your own, and when u feel like u have your unique charisma, ppl are drawn to u.
I swear, I do these things naturally (because I'm insecure a need guys to do all the steps lol, not because I'm so calculating), especially when I'm not that interested in a guy - and the less I chase them/show interest, the more I can feel it driving them crazy so they really to all the effort and chasing!
As soon as I saw the title of this pop up in my notifications I clicked on it right away!😂😂😂 Thanks Elliot!💛👌
THANK YOU for confirming it is indeed a game! I used to get so confused regarding that. It's like, even if you both like each other you will gotta keep a little bit of mystery, not fall too soon. That's how it's a game. You don't have to think a lot, you just gotta be smart and hold your own. Thanks Elliot
Wow! That's why I like guys who don't like me and I don't like who likes me. I guess it is a game. I show too much interest and they run off.
I just got out of the world's worst relationship. These videos remind me that i was too bad ass for him. He hated i was a tom boy.
I made my boyfriend my bitch lol.. I came in between him and his ex getting back together.. when he met me his ex was already in the pic they were messing around but she didn’t want him back until she knew about me then she got jealous and wanted him back but he couldn’t let me go and it finally came to him making a choice between her and I and he chose me.. and asked me to be his girl.. and when we got into a fight a year ago I left states and he drove 10 hours just for me to bring me back. We’ve been together for 5 years 💙
How....🙂
Men value what they have to work for it. 👊
Jelizabeth Petrie We just clicked, the moment when we met we had an almost instant connection, we just couldn’t stay away from each other. We were so drawn to each other, never felt that way for anyone else and he never felt that way for any other girl.
Well done girl. 😉 👏
If they were messing around he was already "back."
Thank u for telling us what we DONT wanna hear because that’s actually what we NEED to hear in order to move on or make the right steps xx
I keep dating other men.
He‘s right! It’s not about playing games, it is about truly leading a fulfilled life where a man can only get 10-20% of your time and thoughts at max.
You're absolutely right! And we need that 2 hour video.
Agreed
you are right. there has to be uniqueness in one person to make the man love you
Elliot you’re da best!!! I’ve listened to every one of your videos and this transformed my life big time 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
If you prefer. Call it the mating dance. Watch National Geographic. See the animals are more real. They’re smarter than us to get it.
Jelizabeth Petrie omg so true :)) in wild life the males actually have to word really hard, fighting with other competitors, even risk their lives to conquer the females
Or maybe women are just more humanity then?
Eliot: you forgot one thing to mention and I have been experienced on evaluating dating app profiles.
Most of the time, people don't list their interests into their profiles anymore. They only put their age, name and height in it and a cheesy text like "talk to me, I don't bite". And to me, that is sad. I have come across men on the dating app who had literally nothing to offer. Their only hobby was Netflix after a dead-end job. No interest in analyzing the show and their meaning, just consumption of media.
But when these men had nothing to offer (even their looks had given them no boost) they demanded a girl that had a lot to offer. Slim, big boobs, good cook, cute accent, sexy, 100+ hobbies and always with make up on.
It was sad to witness something in this day and age at my age! (23 year old student)
You are right! What makes me stand out from all other women? He cannot find a woman who is both a Registered Nurse and Pharmacist both Bachelors Degree. I never chased him, never text and call first. It took 3-7 days for me to reply to his messages. I am very mysterious. He is the one who is needy and clingy. I declined seeing him for 9 months now but he still wants to be with me....
Elliot... What do you think about introverts and dating? We don't always come across as the most fun ones (going out all the time)... Any tips?
A real men want a women he see’s HIGHER then himself. I promise you . If a guy think you’re below him he will never respect you nor commit . He will USE you. So please respect yourself love yourself by being busy and having boundaries. The same men that disrespected you can kiss the ground you walk on ,once you SHIFT your energy. Be positive and confident. If you feel low : CALL your friend not the guy your seeing. He need to fantasize about being with you. Period. If he doesn’t he will never feel safe to be vulnerable with you because he will feel your weak. Men want to be with a strong women= aka a women that knows her worths and stand her ground . That how they married. So ladies shift your energy. Talk to him as a friend. Be willing to walk away at any moment. And be satisfied when he comes back to you
The idea of dating again is so daunting. I love the advice in your videos, but I am not sure I will ever go round in the dating world again. I am exhausted just listening to all the rules and games.
This was one if the realist videos I’ve ever seen. Wow. Eye opening. Besides, exactly something I thought about lately like how selfish of us to meet someone than expect the person to enter into an immediate relationship just because we like them. How selfish is that? It’s like disregard everything you had going on before just choose me. How profound. Take my time. Lesson learned
This is gold. 🤘🏽💫
Always love your videos Elliot. Such quality content presented in such a streamlined way. I learn so much about relationship psychology from you!
Excusssse me Elliot... If guys didn’t play a shitload of games on girls. You wouldn’t be so busy. So they only have themselves to blame. 🙄
What makes you irreplaceable? Being with the right guy. 😉
Holy hell. After hearing this, I'm not dating again for a while. Alone is looking really good right now. I'm not sure what happened to "just be yourself" but this is just irritating. 🙄
Alot of woman these dayz have put men on a petals til and they dont put their needs of relationship 1st. Grow up old school, so happy that i know what it takes to establish a relationship! If it doesn't work out at least i had my standards and know what i want given the situation. Don't give up, just learn what you want and dont deviate for anyone! Have fun dating!
I know that there are so many High value men who should follow this advice. Don’t be everything for women who don’t appreciate you. Make them chase you.
Naw I’m a pain in thee ass 🤣🤣🤣🤣 if I don’t get what I want I block & walk away to simple. I actually get a kick out of ignoring him when he tries to play games with me. I be like next Lol
Wow. Im exactly the same. I often wonder if i have some mental disease that I get such high of ignoring and blocking them. 🙈
@@jhinusrify me too 😳😩
My grandparents were both excellent writers and bonded on a deep level conversing over Steinbeck and other great authors, so you’re very right about common interests!
Best Line ! Be Scarce An Exotic Animals like a Black Panther got it thank you! 💖
I like how You give good advice I like how you're so upfront also you make me laugh with your funny remarks😜😂💜
Hello Elliot!
Thank you so much for your videos. Being divorced and have found my lost love after 30 years., and playing the long game, until we are both ready for something serious. I appreciate your topics. They truly help. Keep up the good work. I Iook forward to my bell notifications. You're a pleasure for my life.,🤗💜
You just described my bf. I am done with the cold and hot stuff. I know my value and if he plays cold for 3 days I disappear for 6 days or two weeks. Good luck.
1. Leverage - not giving in
2. Filling a void of his
3. Build sex appeal
4. Playing hot and cold--create desire, and then be a little hesitant
5. Create competition
I’m unique and I’m irreplaceable , I’ve got the gift of helping heal people and turn negative situations into positive ones, I’m also emotional intelligent . I’m also not needy lol
He’s always saying that the women he talks to are to needy and clingy or put themselves around all the time
Loving the videos and your are right on with all of it. Smart and intelligent.. I am still single, but flirt and have fun. Just being confident and staying open minded, but being cautious. Hope you have a great day.
This is crazy. At what point. are you allowed to just be genuine and show you like someone. As for hot and cold I have accidentally done this with a much younger man and he has been chasing me for over a year now
Dating isn’t a game. It’s just that only the strong survive. Giving in too easily, that’s playing a game. The game of positive reinforcement.
Till when should we do this before the men get tired and also walk away. I do all the things you've said and it works....but when can we start being a lil more consistent and let them think they "won" us
you can only pretend to lead someone on for so long before they get over it
Finally someone who says it like it is. You are right on!!!!
I'm enchanted with your persona. I can see a healthy man in you.
ender man
Girl boo
Chase him?....I don't even chase my liquor 🤨
I think I should have been a guy because when a guy wants more, I say 'let's keep our options open'. I think I'm a non commitment type, don't care what you have if you don't have 'that thing' hmmmph next.
“I’m going to get the thumbs down for this.” Says it anyway. Love your honesty, Elliot. Sugarcoating does not help in the long run.
I am your 1st viewer. I love watching your videos . I need the advice .
I don't know but for some reasons I feel this guy nails it to the point and I really love that . I watched the video on " what to do when he is stressed and pulls away " and t really helped a lot! Thanks Scott
I started not being home on purpose on the weekends so he gets that I am not home all the time waiting for him.
He gets mad and is sarcastic .
When I don't like a guy I automatically do these games cause I don't even like him.
I'd agree that these men think they have options, but the research on the subject actually shows they really don't have as many options as they think they do. I haven't dated in over six months, but it's because I take the thought of my happiness seriously now. I'm really happy right now. I enjoy my life. Poll after poll shows that women take a huge hit to their happiness after marriage. I know wasn't happy for at least half of my marriage. Why would I take that risk to my happiness? Single women consistently rate as the happiest group, single men come in at the bottom. You're giving up your freedom way too easily women.
I'm not anti-men or anything, but I think too many women get fixated on the idea they need a guy. Women need to consider their own happiness rather than commitment. Does the situation make you happy? No, then dump his ass.
This is great advice and it's true but I'm too old for this I give up dating a guy seven months who's just not invested and I'm tired of dating that goes nowhere
That's why you had to vet him 2 months,not 7. They usually show their colors in the first two months. And have a roster of atleast 3. Notice it's dating 3 at the same time, not sleeping with them.
Elliott is tough and he is right. I find your materials very valuable.
Good advice, but this is why it's a constant headache being in love with the American male and why people end up in unhappy relationships in this country. The guy you show interest to baits you, wines and dines you (until you give in and sleeps with him depending on how much you like him), and once the chase is over he relaxes or becomes disinterested. He then sets his sights on another girl and if she doesn't like him, she won't give in as quickly as you did and he'll chase and chase and chase like a junkie and convince himself that she must be high value, when in actuality she doesn't really love him, she just went through the same heartbreak you did with her first choice. Because most women want to settle with one guy, she settles for the guy who chased and is ultimately unhappy constantly asking him to change and fix things she really didn't want to put up with in the first place.. I'll be dating foreigners and other men who have simpler more realistic views in life.
Wow you were spot on !! I need to find these foreigners lol.
Stop dating period cause I am tired of games & mind games.
Elliot, does this apply to older men? Late 40’s to early 50’s? I feel like it does not.. but I could be wrong.
I love how real and honest you are
Great content!! How do you keep your man chasing you after you're already in a relationship? Getting him out of that "comfort" stage thinking he has you , so turn down the effort.
I would love to see a video for single moms dating.
erica escarsega Me toooooooo
I don’t want to be chased. Only animals chase their prey to devour them. I want to be treated like a human being from a kind person who can reciprocate. 😊
i read the title and i was like yes. he has done it again! i have to watch it. this man has saved me yet again HAHAAHA.
I once tried to create competition and that did not go well 😂😂 but then again, he never really liked me so it's fine. I'm glad he at least thought I had other guys vying for me coz they do
I love you because your advice is straight and to the point. It's not a bunch of psychological memorization and mine tricks and mind games. Now I know psychology but sometimes I'm put off by the advice of other dating coaches because I don't like how they teach you to play mind games. I know from experience that men don't like mind games and that will actually make them run off. If you have to stoop to the point of manipulating someone like that in order to make them be with you then the relationship is all wrong. They may actually come to resent you for playing games. I get that dating is a little bit of a game but I've seen some advice on other platforms that I didn't like because it seemed manipulative in a bad way. You teach people how to do this right. But again, I love your advice and I am subscribed to your Channel. Keep doing great work! You're awesome!
Dude it took one video for me to Like and subscribe to you.
Okay so what do I do if I’m totally hooked on you and can’t stop watching your videos??? Lol 😆
I really like your videos, you give very good info and easy to understand...very good..
Elliot is funny so hilarious & downright upright tell it like it is blunt. Sounds like he's an AdHd. Lol