I can tell I have a long way to go because people’s long winded questions drive me fucking nuts but Spira just patiently listens. Most “gurus” interrupt when they have the gist of it-not him.
"The only thing the ego cannot stand is the clear light of awareness." I am conscious after listening to your videos for seven days, every day, that there have been some real shifts in perception and clear seeing as well. Thank you.
@@dark_sunset lol. It’s non dual rhetoric. Non dualists say all kinds of things thinking we know what we’re saying so as to sound good, important and or otherwise “knowing” what we’re saying. I’d say very few of us actually know wtf we are even saying. one thing I’ve learned is, unless I have actual experience with something, I keep my mouth shut. Ego wants to look good and sound good even if it doesn’t have a clue. It can even make me think I really know what I’m talking about when the truth is, I don’t. Ego plays pretend and make believe very well, as in, it makes stuff up, and I believe it, but beliefs are not true. 😂😂 The truth can be believed, but beliefs are not the truth Homer Simpson voice: stupid ego
@@youarewhatyourelookingfor4496 I read what he said and instantly understood it. When ignorant to something then yea, one would sound like a egotistical know it all genius.
When someone REALLY wants to know his/her true nature, consciousness starts to reveal itself.There may be some doubts or misunderstanding in the beginning but if YOU really want it..then it will be revealed.
@@ronnie9379if wanting it does not appear in your consciousness, there is nothing you can do. There is no should. If it is meant to come to you it will and if not it wont. Meanwhile enjoy life, and if you are not enjoying, the pain and suffering will cause you to look more deeply.
Oftentimes if you wait those 5 minutes in meditation and silence when those impulses arise, they fall and you end up doing something completely different, or doing nothing at all, and it happens just naturally. It's important to let things be as they are, to fully integrate and be inclusive about all of experience and to release. Those are the key practices: - let it be - recognize and integrate it - release it as the next thing comes into its place.
Thank you so much for that video. I didn't hear of you before so it's my first meeting of you. I write it because I finally feel relief. I was in a state of strong boredom and it's even worser than others feelings. You feel dead inside nothing is bringing joy to you everything seems fake and with lack of sense.And mind convince me that this is normal state and I believed him.but you said just sit for 5 minutes and observe it before you do anything.and it is gone. I feel like I am became alive. I am not searching for any meaning because I don't need to. Everything is so alive and joyful so am I. Thank you
That’s where I’ve been for 9 years since my original awakening from alcoholism and addiction. I’ve been sober 9 years now and following non dual teachings like Rupert, Nisagardatta, Ramana Maharishi, Ram Dass, Gary Weber etc that whole time. I have a dedicated meditation practice as well and use 12 step to stay sober. But….especially the last 2 years, I have no interest in anything. I’ve found all the usual suspects empty. Ie gambling, alcohol, drugs, (except psychedelics) chasing money, materialism, consumerism, etc. etc. All of them empty. Not interested in watching movies, certainly not watching television and I dropped the news nine years ago to because that shit is poison the mind. It doesn’t seem like there’s anything else to do here on earth but get enlightened. I mean, what else is there to do? Nature is beautiful but I really have no desire to even leave my house anymore. People are, well, wonderful enough but I prefer to steer clear of people because people are also shit. Animals are wonderful but pets require a lot of attention etc. I’ve lost hope of getting enlightened too. At this point in my journey I just feel like life is hard, it’s full of suffering in all directions, it’s painful, pointless and meaningless. No one will even know I existed days or weeks after my death so what’s the point of even trying. I see no point in any of this and as Adyashanti said once: Maybe there is no point to life other than life just being life. We give absolutely everything all the meaning that it has, or doesn’t, as the case may be, and I am struggling to find any meaning to any of this knowing that any meaning I do give it isn’t necessarily true. Ugh 😣 I’m glad you got some relief. That’s what we’re all looking for. 😢
@@youarewhatyourelookingfor4496"It doesn't seem like there's anything else to do here on Planet Earth but get enlightened." VERY WELL SAID...!!! Although, the situation you've described is obviously very difficult, it's actually part of the Self Realization "process". And, typically, that "process" isn't a thing of overnight duration, and intellect/ego despises waiting for anything. The Buddha talked about suffering and relief from it for a reason. Intellect/ego prefers things to be as it wishes, rather than as they are; there's nothing that intellect/ego doesn't become disturbed by and want to make "better"; intellect/ego is never happy. It can experience the temporary relief of distraction with excitement and thrills for a bit - maybe - but never happiness. When things are not as intellect/ego prefers (i.e., the distractions of sensations, thrills and excitement), there is boredom, dissatisfaction and discontent. "The darkest hour is just before the dawn"; unfortunately, sometimes that hour appears to be considerably long. Constantly persist with meditation and listening to what Rupert Spira talks about (this particular video is a great fundamental reference point). Here's something I could relate to that helped me. In reference to Self Realization, Ramana Maharshi once said that when your head is in the tiger's mouth, all that can be done is hang onto its tail. I'm not so sure that I'm "Awakened", "Enlightened" or "Self Realized", but I'm very sure that I'm happy (if that means anything at all).
From last few days, I have been going after movies, food, or phone irresistably. Just prayed I know the reason why I do that, what I dont see... then found this video randomly. Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Always had that conflict inside me about distractions and whether I should let myself be lost in them sometimes,first time seeing a video talking about it from the perspective of spirituality,thanks !
Best thing in the struggle against boredom is walking meditation(kinhin) + music. Trust me. It's the best thing i've found in this world. Tell about it everyone.
I really want to share my happiness with someone! So well put! I never thought of it that way that's what I'm trying to do. It's suprising the number of people who seem to do the opposite.
Hi Diane! You and I recognized the same thing in Rupert Spira's words! It seems like I want to share my happiness but, apparently, very few seem to be able to do that because they're so embroiled in dissatisfaction and discontent (fear, resentment, bitterness, hatred and conflict), which is the complete nature of intellect/ego. That must be all they have to share (because that's must be all they have!).
@@Da_Xman I don't believe that it's all they have... mostly, I think that negativity is the first thing that people share because it's more socially acceptable to complain than it is to praise (etc). 🧐
@@deannjohnson9004 ✨👋🤓✨Hey Dean! "More 'socially acceptable' to complain than it is to praise (etc.)"...??? Hmmmm... You could be right about that, but my experience has always been that people mean what they're saying when they're bitching and whining; they're complaining because they or someone else is hurting. I don't recall ever seeing anyone sharing pain just to be social. Why would a happy person complain about anything if they have happiness to share? It makes no sense that anyone would do otherwise; complaining only makes things worse. In my world, people who complain do so because their pain is their reality; they're not doing it just to be social at all. Your point is well taken and it could very well be right, but I've never come across anything like that. In steel mills, shipyards, the navy, working in management in labor positions and in any recreational endeavor, never have I encountered anyone complaining when or because they're happy. Actually, complaining to be social is pretty funny; it would be good material for some kind of stand up routine! You're just puttin' us on...right? ✨😄✨
11:20: = same thing with fear,anxiety,sense of lack...Ex: the anxiety;just pause,feel the discomfort of anxiety;there will be a little bit of rebellion inside,because the anxiety is used of being relieved through the acquisition of objects ,activities or states;so,we have to be courageous;not strong but courageous face to the discomfort of this anxiety,let it come & then,watch the movie
It's kind of hard to explain what enlightenment is but it's basically from what I understand my self to be, awareness, that feeling of you in which thoughts feelings sensations perceptions live in and pass by. It's so simple yet so hard to describe.
What’s to describe? We all have the same awareness. We all know what it is, just that some of us are aware we are aware. To point someone at it I just say “what is before your mind? What is it that is aware of your mind? You are that.” They either understand or they don’t. If they don’t they aren’t meant too I figure. The Bhagavad Gita noted that it’s immoral to unsettle someone’s mind who isn’t ready so I watch for that too using intuition to tell me whether to share about it or not. 😊
There's loads and loads of confusion regarding the nature of "Awakening", "Enlightenment" and "Self Realization" - what those are, any differences between them, how it's "done" and when it occurs. However, the only approach to any of that is to want Absolute Truth even more than the breath of Life while continuing doing what you typically do and be who you believe yourself to be. "What you are seeking is causing you to seek." (Cheri Huber) Ramana Maharshi also said that Atman ("individualized" Brahman) is guiding us to itself by using our individual conditioning to do so. It's all a matter of confidence in whatever "Highest Power" there is (whether intellect/ego is informed about it in any kind of detail or not).
9:10: = before watching the movie (or going to the fridge ) because of boredom,take 5 mn & face the discomfort that is prompting the desire to watch the movie,read the book,etc.,&,having faced it,allow,invite the feeling to come fully up into the light of consciousness ,& then,let it relax & expand into the space of awareness,and then,turn the movie on (or go to the fridge,etc.)
What’s amazing is, the decision to do anything happens 7-10 seconds before we do it. Free will is an illusion. Rupert talks about this too and it’s documented by science using an MRI. They were able to accurately determine the choices that the person was going to make before they made them. Amazing stuff
Spontaneity helps with the belief of boredom. It's a thought and judgement of this now,.moment. It should be ...different. l am a very restless person. But it's my addiction to externals, people, fomo. As l age (thankfully) l see it.
I had time on my hands at work and feeling bored and decided to see a video and this one was "recommended." How the Youniverse operates in our favor. 😄
Beautiful. One could call this a 'method,' the most shunned word in the world of advaita. Pausing, facing whatever is perceived could be called 'the recipe.' 'Pausing' is another word for 'not doing anything.' Therefore, the words 'method' and 'recipe' are inadequate as they usually imply some doing such as favoring, rejecting, changing, achieving, avoiding.
Dietrich Lasa one of the reasons that I like Rupert is that I feel he does use methods and conversley why I am not attracted to many Advaita teachings .....the Buddha and Buddhism uses methods of meditation ...with great success ....many have realised the ultimate freedom through buddhist meditation methods ....☺...gratitude to Rupert ...
@@sheilakirwan6900 Hi Sheila, Ramana Maharshi, Nissargadatta and Siddharameshwar all had their own "methods" and were all "Advaitists" (if there is such a word).
At one stage in the dilogue Rupert asked to consciously experience the feeling of boredom. But this pulls one deeper in to the boredom. May be I am wrong. With me I found that stepping back inside to view to observe the boredom at some distance brings actually my being to surface on the top. This makes me separate from the boredom where initially my being was one with boredom. This also breaks my being free from slevary.
Thank you, Rupert! You answered my question. I came here seeking whether or not I should continue to learn to play Bass, and if so, why. Answered perfectly at 7:55.
You're right, Jess. Dr Gabor Matè beautifully explains how avoiding difficult situations in childhood by tuning out, becomes a coping mechanism and then a diagnosis of ADD in adulthood.
It's funny that sitting "comfortably" in silence can be the finest of cravings as well. Same thing as wanting to watch a movie. Just get away from uncomfortable feelings. The Buddha explains how there are 3 types of feelings we can recognise. Samsara...
Thanks Rupert, so here is my question to you: what is your reasoning for having over 1000 videos in your RUclips channel? Is it because of the first reason (pure joy), or the second reason (practical response), or the third reason (anxiety, fear, etc.)? Couldn't it also be a mix of these 3 things?
What is your recommendation when the thing that I regularly find myself attempting to avoid is chronic physical pain? I have lived with significant and chronic physical pain for more than 30 years, and though I have experienced many times when I have been able to use the pain to open new layers in my meditations, I struggle mightily in my attempts to manage the pain with regard to my ability to live my life from hour to hour without resorting to distractions way more than I would like. Have you any suggestions?
I don't understand how can someone without having to constantly remind oneself of the teachings can just make it part of ones nature. When I am reminding myself of what to do when I am anxious, who is doing the remembering- isn't it the separate self?
Its so weird sometimes I feel like "Am I going completely mad?" "Is all of this just a trick?" "What if I never get there and missed out on actually doing things that make me happy because I was trying to challenge giving into desires." I mean some of these desires are not so bad on the surface, for example, go out to try to meet new people and make new friends, but because I know it comes from a sense of lack I refuse to do it and instead I look inward. In the moments of doubt though I feel like I'm wasting so much time and I'm getting more depressed, but then other times I feel bloody fantastic for no reason. I feel like I'm in a washing machine.
feeling boredom is felt by the ego, feeling peace is felt by the innerself. the reality. it is the peace of beingness, awareness, eternity... nothing there, no thing, 💎it is the Absolute. in boredom there is nothing but the ego still expects something, cannot coop ith it. 😪.. and is hurting.
1:32 I would be much more curious to hear the justification for watching a movie or reading a book, as it seems to be these solitary occupation which feed the feeling of doing something forbidden. (Responding to obligations or duties like your job or family care, or even being social calling a friend, is never leading you to feel guilty.)
Never have a sense of boredom There are choices Lack the separate self It’s like the movie Move move move Stay still to remove the sense of the root Be content with what is
Yeah, he should be careful with language. The word 'boredom' can be applied to different things - not just existential restlessness. However, your retail suffering might actually be existential in origin even if this true cause isn't obvious to you. On the other hand, I'm sure if you asked Rupert to fold clothes for eternity, a sensation one might call 'boredom' or 'frustration' would arise, as the body-mind isn't a robot that can perform repetitive tasks on command without experiencing some unpleasant reaction. That mechanism has its own biological & psychological directives that are somewhat in conflict with folding clothes just because your boss told you to. If you were folding clothes to save the life of your child, that might motivate you more strongly. But his answer is appropriate in context. Your example is different from the questioner's. The questioner is talking about that familiar feeling of being at home with no immediately pressing task. There is a sense of empty time that you want to fill with stimulation and activity. It is worth looking into this to learn what is existential anxiety and what is just energy looking for an outlet.
Dakota Y There could be a feeling of happiness for all the good you do to help the success of the business which in turns pays you money for your success. You also enhance the customer experience. At that level you can get how connected your act of folding clothes connects to others and continuosly expands. On another level the peace that you are as a pure being is not a feeling of boredom. Being bored is just a thought appearing on your seperate self. It is generated by you. You would generate other feelings once you have awareness of your always already connectedness.
The feeling of separation is not only in relation to others but to present reality. Boredom is often if not mostly a resistance to life as it is unfolding in this moment. Here is a quote from Anthony deMello which speaks to the same issue: "Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality." This is why you can feel lonely even in the company of others.
Rupert: The Awareness needs no "enlightening" or awakening to a true self. It is as it is (well--uh--of course it is...or be's)> It is full--Purna. Contented (santosha). No sadhana necessary--no goal to be reached (for). The whole "game" is for the temporal entity (the avatar) to achieve or not-achieve (why quibble over semantics) the state of enlightenment --i prefer enlightening-- for itself. To become eternal. To turn in the conditioned entity costume, to transform it, into an eternal unconditioned entity costume To play the "i am the Awareness" game at the next level. Bhaktivedanta--or Prabhu something or other--allows that we can reach One state he calls the "Personality of Godhead" which has the many lower aspects raised up to a higher plane (sorta-not-quite purified by Light). In Christian terms we can be "born again" from the flesh into spirit. So that is the game and just like Mario we can keep getting more lives and playing our way thru all the levels until we "win". Then we see a little note that says there is a path to a next level--a faster level--we can play next. In other words the fun of playing is extended. So why hurry straight to the goal? Leave the theatre in the middle of the movie? If we came here to avoid the eternal boredom of resting contentedly in the self why go back to being that eternal couch-potato? The "Path" the "Search" the angst and the whole shebang (?) is for the temporal entity's transformation. Poor little me can Become and enjoy the fruits from the tree-of-eden and become a Big-ol'-Rich-son-of-a-gun. What a (no)thought huh. Or does the Awareness actually "need" some-thing some-body or most importantly Some FUN?....!!.... Play...Imagine...Create...Laugh and Cry. Celebrate as a Zorba the Buddha (Osho). C'mon little non entity, we are a rootin' for ya. Yes!
Hi Rupert.Thanks for the great work you are doing for us.Can you please recommend me some nice readings on Consciousness...some very very complicated ones.
Being bored is the compulsive motivation for activity, that activity functioning as a distraction to Just Being. Intellect/ego despises "Just Being" and that compulsive >need< for distraction motivates "creativity", "constructiveness" and "productiveness". However, all that still occurs once the compulsive/obsessive >needs< of intellect/ego subside through meditation and learning what "Just Being" actually means and is. But, somehow, I have a hunch you're aware of that and am curious as to the nature of your comment.
@@CrazyUncleMike That’s an interesting question. When I think about it, I struggle to find anything I’d truly call “doing nothing.” As a beginner in meditation, I could be wrong here, but meditation feels closest to that idea. It’s not boring, but I still crave the excitement from other activities, so I usually have to force myself to do it. As for boring tasks, I mean mundane daily activities like washing the dishes or cleaning the house. However, I sometimes feel that with practice, I could view these tasks as meditation too. I hope to one day reach a state where I can immerse myself in meditation continuously.
Are we not meant to live and enjoy life? Regardless of what level of conscious awareness we have arrived at, I feel, that we are existent in order to fully live.
I guess it depends on how you define "fully" living. Most people define it as having as many pleasurable and "fulfilling" experiences as possible. Try this sometime. Sit quietly and try to recall all of the experiences of any sort you've had in your entire life and see how many you can actually recall. Then see how vague those memories are compared to the actual experience. Now quickly think of all of the billions of experiences you've had in total. I think it's rather sobering to realize that you can only recall an infinitesimal number of experiences and those you can are quite vague and distorted. So is that really the goal of life then? Really? If so, I want my money back! :)
saidas108 So, what is really the goal of life then? I was talking with a friend earlier in the day and she and I are going through some very tough circumstances. I mentioned that it seems that diamonds are not really made of coal, so I have read, but that they are formed deeper down in the earth (from what original material I do not know) and that pressure does create those brilliant gems; oysters get sand inside of them that irritates them and they form pearls. I asked, "Could it be that all the difficulties we experience really does have some kind of soul refining purpose?" Are we not here to dance and play and to love? By the way, I remember some things so very strongly and clearly ... the happy and the sad ... the loving and the painful. Some experiences are like smoke and vanish. It was my understanding that we are meant to experience the present: the now. I still have no answers to much of anything ... FYI. When things get sorted out in my current situation, I want revisit many of Rupert's videos and just listen and see what I may learn on a visceral level. I find that being distracted makes really understanding more than difficult.
Minahh People have different ideas of what the "purpose of life" is of course. People who enjoy a cushy of fun life seldom seriously consider such things and sort of skip through life. Nice life if you can get it :) The first of the Buddha's Four Noble Truths is that the nature of the world is suffering so one can start from there. Thoreau had it right with, "Most men lead lives of quiet desperation." If one doesn't believe in reincarnation, then it makes sense to squeeze every drop out of life and have as many pleasurable experiences as is possible. If one does however, then the purpose of life changes. Reincarnation is dictated by our actions in each life; karma in other words. When one tires of the journey (life after life after life) then one begins in earnest to be free of it and inquires into what causes it and more importantly, how to cease it. It really depends on where one is in their spiritual evolution. I believe that everything that happens is to lead us to the ultimate goal of God, Self-Realization, whatever you please, which to me is the purpose of life.
Thank you my friend. Your response is wonderful and that is why I am crazy about you ... sigh ... you understand that I mean that in the most sincere and spiritual way. While I was writing this, just now, I heard a noise like something dropping on the floor. I went to check out what it might have been and I found that the ice maker in the fridge shot out ice cubes onto the floor ... with no one to trigger it. It has never happened before. I find that very interesting, to say the least. Perhaps, Spirit in action expressing that I am on point in what I just said????
Nah…The times you are off the mark, using to distract is when you don’t enjoy. Humans enjoy…Well made films and movies (knowing the work put into them) without enjoyment and engagement is a disservice to the creators…same for books and food and drinks…Not enjoying your food or just seeing it as a distraction is an insult to the food and off the mark…Having drinks and not enjoying the inebriation and doing it just to distract yourself is off the mark….Meditation out of some sense of rigid obligation or that it’s “good “ for you is off the mark. No one knows where it will take you, just do it let the process work on you and…enjoy it… When you meditate just meditate… when you eat and drink just eat and drink. When you watch movies and read books play chess play soccer put on a puppet show just do those things.When bored be bored. We’re making love make love. When getting drunk get drunk. Like the old Zen masters always just say over and over and over no separation.🍔🍺🍿
MajorCulturalDivide Hi, your aka is truly dvaitic. I love a firm statement. Would you ask this question to a lady you fancy ? And then tell her, sorry i won’t date you, you are so limited.
@@freddystaelens There are many other forms of expression that are just as worthy of being expressed that run the whole range of human experience. Otherwise there wouldn't be stage plays, punk music, rap and horror movies. Beauty is just one fraction of human potential. Thanks for responding!
MajorCulturalDivide Hi my taste, as per my gunality, goes towards Furia dels baus, James White and the Blacks, Frank Zappa, Hildegard von Bingen, Bhimsen Johsi, STP 23, and my favorite: silence and bliss. Stay happy.
I honestly couldn’t agree more. Through my own realization I’ve come to find it increasingly difficult to pursue such (old) habits for more than 10-15 minutes without some awareness of ego creeping in through the back door and needing to be addressed, or simply competing desires for more stimulating contemplation. It is aggravating, but also wonderful.
The absolutist term that u speak of is that u and only u understand. And "understand" if we may call it that. Again, the problem lies in the attachment of meaning to a word as if the meaning is totally understoodby everybody. YOUR absolute is way different from his absolute and her absolute. The problem lies in the word.And like any word, it is absolutely limited. Hahaha. My cousin R GALVEZ, told me that...and I assure u....he's absolutely smarter than all of you combined. Lols.
Watching this while bored
I can tell I have a long way to go because people’s long winded questions drive me fucking nuts but Spira just patiently listens. Most “gurus” interrupt when they have the gist of it-not him.
exactly
Actually… I’ve heard him interrupt someone several times. But it’s usually because they’ve misunderstood him or are getting stuck in their head
"The only thing the ego cannot stand is the clear light of awareness." I am conscious after listening to your videos for seven days, every day, that there have been some real shifts in perception and clear seeing as well. Thank you.
The father and I are one.
@@Walk.InHisWay what does this even mean lol
@@dark_sunset lol. It’s non dual rhetoric. Non dualists say all kinds of things thinking we know what we’re saying so as to sound good, important and or otherwise “knowing” what we’re saying.
I’d say very few of us actually know wtf we are even saying.
one thing I’ve learned is, unless I have actual experience with something, I keep my mouth shut.
Ego wants to look good and sound good even if it doesn’t have a clue. It can even make me think I really know what I’m talking about when the truth is, I don’t.
Ego plays pretend and make believe very well, as in, it makes stuff up, and I believe it, but beliefs are not true. 😂😂
The truth can be believed, but beliefs are not the truth
Homer Simpson voice: stupid ego
You are experiencing the stated above, its your ego that thinks otherwise.
@@youarewhatyourelookingfor4496 I read what he said and instantly understood it. When ignorant to something then yea, one would sound like a egotistical know it all genius.
When someone REALLY wants to know his/her true nature, consciousness starts to reveal itself.There may be some doubts or misunderstanding in the beginning but if YOU really want it..then it will be revealed.
That is what I tell people about REALLY WANTING TO KNOW THE TRUTH. IF YOU REALLY WANT IT THEN IT WILL BE REVEALED.
How do you want it and why should you want it?
@@ronnie9379 : I didn't understand your comment at all. I don't know how it gave you sense.
@@ronnie9379if wanting it does not appear in your consciousness, there is nothing you can do. There is no should. If it is meant to come to you it will and if not it wont. Meanwhile enjoy life, and if you are not enjoying, the pain and suffering will cause you to look more deeply.
How to want that? practice?
I think we are so use to doing we don't even know we are bored...actually seeing and feeling bored may be a breakthrough
Over stimulation out of habit, totally agree.
Age has an impact on boredom , a childs perception of time is very different from an adults also an elderly persons
Oftentimes if you wait those 5 minutes in meditation and silence when those impulses arise, they fall and you end up doing something completely different, or doing nothing at all, and it happens just naturally.
It's important to let things be as they are, to fully integrate and be inclusive about all of experience and to release. Those are the key practices:
- let it be
- recognize and integrate it
- release it as the next thing comes into its place.
This guy was sitting so still, I thought this was a picture of him with audio.
ME TOO HAHA
So do i.I saw his eye brows moving though....
It's because he listens so well!! He actually gives the questioner all his attention.
😂😂
So did I. Lol!
Thank you so much for that video. I didn't hear of you before so it's my first meeting of you. I write it because I finally feel relief. I was in a state of strong boredom and it's even worser than others feelings. You feel dead inside nothing is bringing joy to you everything seems fake and with lack of sense.And mind convince me that this is normal state and I believed him.but you said just sit for 5 minutes and observe it before you do anything.and it is gone. I feel like I am became alive. I am not searching for any meaning because I don't need to. Everything is so alive and joyful so am I. Thank you
Amazing isn't
That’s where I’ve been for 9 years since my original awakening from alcoholism and addiction.
I’ve been sober 9 years now and following non dual teachings like Rupert, Nisagardatta, Ramana Maharishi, Ram Dass, Gary Weber etc that whole time.
I have a dedicated meditation practice as well and use 12 step to stay sober.
But….especially the last 2 years, I have no interest in anything. I’ve found all the usual suspects empty.
Ie gambling, alcohol, drugs, (except psychedelics) chasing money, materialism, consumerism, etc. etc.
All of them empty.
Not interested in watching movies, certainly not watching television and I dropped the news nine years ago to because that shit is poison the mind.
It doesn’t seem like there’s anything else to do here on earth but get enlightened.
I mean, what else is there to do?
Nature is beautiful but I really have no desire to even leave my house anymore.
People are, well, wonderful enough but I prefer to steer clear of people because people are also shit.
Animals are wonderful but pets require a lot of attention etc.
I’ve lost hope of getting enlightened too.
At this point in my journey I just feel like life is hard, it’s full of suffering in all directions, it’s painful, pointless and meaningless.
No one will even know I existed days or weeks after my death so what’s the point of even trying.
I see no point in any of this and as Adyashanti said once:
Maybe there is no point to life other than life just being life.
We give absolutely everything all the meaning that it has, or doesn’t, as the case may be, and I am struggling to find any meaning to any of this knowing that any meaning I do give it isn’t necessarily true.
Ugh 😣
I’m glad you got some relief. That’s what we’re all looking for. 😢
@@youarewhatyourelookingfor4496 Wow, you have a lot going on. I hope you've been able to find some answers or find what you've been searching for.
@@youarewhatyourelookingfor4496"It doesn't seem like there's anything else to do here on Planet Earth but get enlightened." VERY WELL SAID...!!! Although, the situation you've described is obviously very difficult, it's actually part of the Self Realization "process". And, typically, that "process" isn't a thing of overnight duration, and intellect/ego despises waiting for anything. The Buddha talked about suffering and relief from it for a reason. Intellect/ego prefers things to be as it wishes, rather than as they are; there's nothing that intellect/ego doesn't become disturbed by and want to make "better"; intellect/ego is never happy. It can experience the temporary relief of distraction with excitement and thrills for a bit - maybe - but never happiness. When things are not as intellect/ego prefers (i.e., the distractions of sensations, thrills and excitement), there is boredom, dissatisfaction and discontent. "The darkest hour is just before the dawn"; unfortunately, sometimes that hour appears to be considerably long. Constantly persist with meditation and listening to what Rupert Spira talks about (this particular video is a great fundamental reference point). Here's something I could relate to that helped me. In reference to Self Realization, Ramana Maharshi once said that when your head is in the tiger's mouth, all that can be done is hang onto its tail. I'm not so sure that I'm "Awakened", "Enlightened" or "Self Realized", but I'm very sure that I'm happy (if that means anything at all).
From last few days, I have been going after movies, food, or phone irresistably. Just prayed I know the reason why I do that, what I dont see... then found this video randomly. Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It just happens to me Rupert, after years and tears studying advaita Vedanta through you - what a good lesson for me
Always had that conflict inside me about distractions and whether I should let myself be lost in them sometimes,first time seeing a video talking about it from the perspective of spirituality,thanks !
Rupert reflects and reveals the Infinite Wisdom inherent in all of us.
This is a great teaching to face the boredem.thank you Rupert 👍🇩🇪.
Best thing in the struggle against boredom is walking meditation(kinhin) + music. Trust me. It's the best thing i've found in this world. Tell about it everyone.
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I really want to share my happiness with someone! So well put! I never thought of it that way that's what I'm trying to do. It's suprising the number of people who seem to do the opposite.
Hi Diane! You and I recognized the same thing in Rupert Spira's words! It seems like I want to share my happiness but, apparently, very few seem to be able to do that because they're so embroiled in dissatisfaction and discontent (fear, resentment, bitterness, hatred and conflict), which is the complete nature of intellect/ego. That must be all they have to share (because that's must be all they have!).
@@Da_Xman I don't believe that it's all they have... mostly, I think that negativity is the first thing that people share because it's more socially acceptable to complain than it is to praise (etc). 🧐
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"More 'socially acceptable' to complain than it is to praise (etc.)"...???
Hmmmm... You could be right about that, but my experience has always been that people mean what they're saying when they're bitching and whining; they're complaining because they or someone else is hurting. I don't recall ever seeing anyone sharing pain just to be social.
Why would a happy person complain about anything if they have happiness to share? It makes no sense that anyone would do otherwise; complaining only makes things worse. In my world, people who complain do so because their pain is their reality; they're not doing it just to be social at all.
Your point is well taken and it could very well be right, but I've never come across anything like that. In steel mills, shipyards, the navy, working in management in labor positions and in any recreational endeavor, never have I encountered anyone complaining when or because they're happy.
Actually, complaining to be social is pretty funny; it would be good material for some kind of stand up routine!
You're just puttin' us on...right?
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If done in the right spirit,work is worship & duty is god.
11:20: = same thing with fear,anxiety,sense of lack...Ex: the anxiety;just pause,feel the discomfort of anxiety;there will be a little bit of rebellion inside,because the anxiety is used of being relieved through the acquisition of objects ,activities or states;so,we have to be courageous;not strong but courageous face to the discomfort of this anxiety,let it come & then,watch the movie
This is a diamond of a lecture
Isn't it just! ❤
It's the bottom line!
This speaks to me on so many levels, great stuff.Thanks.
Only Rupert can teach this simply. Thank you so much!
It's kind of hard to explain what enlightenment is but it's basically from what I understand my self to be, awareness, that feeling of you in which thoughts feelings sensations perceptions live in and pass by. It's so simple yet so hard to describe.
What’s to describe? We all have the same awareness.
We all know what it is, just that some of us are aware we are aware.
To point someone at it I just say “what is before your mind? What is it that is aware of your mind? You are that.”
They either understand or they don’t. If they don’t they aren’t meant too I figure.
The Bhagavad Gita noted that it’s immoral to unsettle someone’s mind who isn’t ready so I watch for that too using intuition to tell me whether to share about it or not. 😊
There's loads and loads of confusion regarding the nature of "Awakening", "Enlightenment" and "Self Realization" - what those are, any differences between them, how it's "done" and when it occurs. However, the only approach to any of that is to want Absolute Truth even more than the breath of Life while continuing doing what you typically do and be who you believe yourself to be. "What you are seeking is causing you to seek." (Cheri Huber) Ramana Maharshi also said that Atman ("individualized" Brahman) is guiding us to itself by using our individual conditioning to do so. It's all a matter of confidence in whatever "Highest Power" there is (whether intellect/ego is informed about it in any kind of detail or not).
9:10: = before watching the movie (or going to the fridge ) because of boredom,take 5 mn & face the discomfort that is prompting the desire to watch the movie,read the book,etc.,&,having faced it,allow,invite the feeling to come fully up into the light of consciousness ,& then,let it relax & expand into the space of awareness,and then,turn the movie on (or go to the fridge,etc.)
What’s amazing is, the decision to do anything happens 7-10 seconds before we do it.
Free will is an illusion. Rupert talks about this too and it’s documented by science using an MRI.
They were able to accurately determine the choices that the person was going to make before they made them.
Amazing stuff
Thank you Rupert. 💗🙏
Yes. Still outside reflex the peace he lives inside.
Mindfullness, or mediation... Thanks!
Spontaneity helps with the belief of boredom. It's a thought and judgement of this now,.moment. It should be ...different. l am a very restless person. But it's my addiction to externals, people, fomo. As l age (thankfully) l see it.
I had time on my hands at work and feeling bored and decided to see a video and this one was "recommended." How the Youniverse operates in our favor. 😄
sounds like me and meditation
So grateful to have some like rupert breakdown difficult questions and answer it in such a simple, experiential way! God bless you🙏
This is so practical. I love it. Thank you
Beautiful. One could call this a 'method,' the most shunned word in the world of advaita. Pausing, facing whatever is perceived could be called 'the recipe.' 'Pausing' is another word for 'not doing anything.' Therefore, the words 'method' and 'recipe' are inadequate as they usually imply some doing such as favoring, rejecting, changing, achieving, avoiding.
Dietrich Lasa one of the reasons that I like Rupert is that I feel he does use methods and conversley why I am not attracted to many Advaita teachings .....the Buddha and Buddhism uses methods of meditation ...with great success ....many have realised the ultimate freedom through buddhist meditation methods ....☺...gratitude to Rupert ...
Dietrich Lasa ..sorry meant Advaita teachers...
@@sheilakirwan6900 Hi Sheila, Ramana Maharshi, Nissargadatta and Siddharameshwar all had their own "methods" and were all "Advaitists" (if there is such a word).
At one stage in the dilogue Rupert asked to consciously experience the feeling of boredom. But this pulls one deeper in to the boredom. May be I am wrong.
With me I found that stepping back inside to view to observe the boredom at some distance brings actually my being to surface on the top. This makes me separate from the boredom where initially my being was one with boredom. This also breaks my being free from slevary.
Beautiful teaching. Core explanation of finding peace.
That was exactly the teaching I needed. For now.
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Thank you, Rupert! You answered my question. I came here seeking whether or not I should continue to learn to play Bass, and if so, why. Answered perfectly at 7:55.
You're all already awakened you've just forgotten.
When you believe yourself to be an ego entity, it’s not that you have forgotten, you simply don’t know that you are not that entity.
Thank you Rupert!
Thank you🤍🤍🤍
Beautiful.
Super helpful - thank you again, Rupert.
Lovely, thanks. ...if there is no doer/chooser, who decides to face discomfort?
Its also accepting the balance of human and Spirt. Balance in all.
Excellent help at the right time. Thanks
Thank you!
Excellent, like usuel !
13:00: = we think,feel & live the teaching
Namaste and thank you!
So clear & inspiring words; thank you Rupert for your guidance💐
Fascinating. This is really making me reconsider ADD and trouble focusing, procrastinating, etc. What if it all stems from avoidance of emotions?
Good stuff!
You're right, Jess. Dr Gabor Matè beautifully explains how avoiding difficult situations in childhood by tuning out, becomes a coping mechanism and then a diagnosis of ADD in adulthood.
Once you stop avoidance and face the separate self , what do you do? Allow it? Dissolve it?
Allow it. Just be.
5:50: = R S touches his chest,"the separate self that is at the heart (of that feeling)"
great message!
The best!
Oooo this was sooo good.
Thanks a lot for your valuable guidance
It's funny that sitting "comfortably" in silence can be the finest of cravings as well. Same thing as wanting to watch a movie. Just get away from uncomfortable feelings. The Buddha explains how there are 3 types of feelings we can recognise. Samsara...
Beingness
Don't do things simply to cure your sense of boredom, that is seeking happiness externally not feeling at peace already
Difficult but true
Embrace the boredom. Face yourself.
I've been opening since I was 4 years old.
Thanks Rupert, so here is my question to you: what is your reasoning for having over 1000 videos in your RUclips channel? Is it because of the first reason (pure joy), or the second reason (practical response), or the third reason (anxiety, fear, etc.)? Couldn't it also be a mix of these 3 things?
What is your recommendation when the thing that I regularly find myself attempting to avoid is chronic physical pain?
I have lived with significant and chronic physical pain for more than 30 years, and though I have experienced many times when I have been able to use the pain to open new layers in my meditations, I struggle mightily in my attempts to manage the pain with regard to my ability to live my life from hour to hour without resorting to distractions way more than I would like.
Have you any suggestions?
I don't understand how can someone without having to constantly remind oneself of the teachings can just make it part of ones nature. When I am reminding myself of what to do when I am anxious, who is doing the remembering- isn't it the separate self?
Its so weird sometimes I feel like "Am I going completely mad?" "Is all of this just a trick?" "What if I never get there and missed out on actually doing things that make me happy because I was trying to challenge giving into desires." I mean some of these desires are not so bad on the surface, for example, go out to try to meet new people and make new friends, but because I know it comes from a sense of lack I refuse to do it and instead I look inward. In the moments of doubt though I feel like I'm wasting so much time and I'm getting more depressed, but then other times I feel bloody fantastic for no reason. I feel like I'm in a washing machine.
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Did you catch the part at 8:45. Face the discomfort and then go ahead and do the thing you want to
What is difference between feeling peace and feeling boredom?
Boredom is uncomfortable, something you want to abandon, peace is comfortable, you don't have desire to leave it
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feeling boredom is felt by the ego, feeling peace is felt by the innerself. the reality. it is the peace of beingness, awareness, eternity... nothing there, no thing, 💎it is the Absolute. in boredom there is nothing but the ego still expects something, cannot coop ith it. 😪.. and is hurting.
But why do we have to do that?
Boredom makes me severly anxious or depressed......im always trying fill the void until i get burnout then into depression
Why are you always trying to fill up your time? Are you not okay with yourself? You should try meditation.
Tried meditation for 5 years. It didn,t help.....
@@philipkolyos8230 You meditated for 5 years ???!!! How do you know it didn't have any positive results?
It may have, but im still severly ( unable to function) depressed...and pray every night that it may be my last...
@@philipkolyos8230 Ah man! I'm sorry you're feeling this way. How long have you been depressed?
I read and watch movies because I always have a-ha moments and grow spirituality 🤷🏻♀️
1:32 I would be much more curious to hear the justification for watching a movie or reading a book, as it seems to be these solitary occupation which feed the feeling of doing something forbidden.
(Responding to obligations or duties like your job or family care, or even being social calling a friend, is never leading you to feel guilty.)
You are a master wizard Rupert. Continually casting levitation spells.
Never have a sense of boredom
There are choices
Lack the separate self
It’s like the movie
Move move move
Stay still to remove the sense of the root
Be content with what is
What does me working in a retail store bored folding clothes have to do with me feeling like I'm seperate from others ?
Yeah, he should be careful with language. The word 'boredom' can be applied to different things - not just existential restlessness. However, your retail suffering might actually be existential in origin even if this true cause isn't obvious to you. On the other hand, I'm sure if you asked Rupert to fold clothes for eternity, a sensation one might call 'boredom' or 'frustration' would arise, as the body-mind isn't a robot that can perform repetitive tasks on command without experiencing some unpleasant reaction. That mechanism has its own biological & psychological directives that are somewhat in conflict with folding clothes just because your boss told you to. If you were folding clothes to save the life of your child, that might motivate you more strongly.
But his answer is appropriate in context. Your example is different from the questioner's. The questioner is talking about that familiar feeling of being at home with no immediately pressing task. There is a sense of empty time that you want to fill with stimulation and activity. It is worth looking into this to learn what is existential anxiety and what is just energy looking for an outlet.
Dakota Y There could be a feeling of happiness for all the good you do to help the success of the business which in turns pays you money for your success. You also enhance the customer experience. At that level you can get how connected your act of folding clothes connects to others and continuosly expands. On another level the peace that you are as a pure being is not a feeling of boredom. Being bored is just a thought appearing on your seperate self. It is generated by you. You would generate other feelings once you have awareness of your always already connectedness.
Edmilio Nario Seems like a pretty sanguine view of retail work... What if your employer isn't particularly nice to you, but you've no other options?
The feeling of separation is not only in relation to others but to present reality. Boredom is often if not mostly a resistance to life as it is unfolding in this moment. Here is a quote from Anthony deMello which speaks to the same issue: "Loneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality." This is why you can feel lonely even in the company of others.
Bruh u could feel zen while folding if u just understand your true nature is bliss not coming from any external situation even folding
That question made me bored
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Thank you.
Does that mean that if I don't feel happy, I shouldn't call a friend and go for dinner?
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Rupert:
The Awareness needs no "enlightening" or awakening to a true self. It is as it is (well--uh--of course it is...or be's)> It is full--Purna. Contented (santosha). No sadhana necessary--no goal to be reached (for).
The whole "game" is for the temporal entity (the avatar) to achieve or not-achieve (why quibble over semantics) the state of enlightenment --i prefer enlightening-- for itself. To become eternal. To turn in the conditioned entity costume, to transform it, into an eternal unconditioned entity costume To play the "i am the Awareness" game at the next level.
Bhaktivedanta--or Prabhu something or other--allows that we can reach One state he calls the "Personality of Godhead" which has the many lower aspects raised up to a higher plane (sorta-not-quite purified by Light). In Christian terms we can be "born again" from the flesh into spirit.
So that is the game and just like Mario we can keep getting more lives and playing our way thru all the levels until we "win". Then we see a little note that says there is a path to a next level--a faster level--we can play next. In other words the fun of playing is extended.
So why hurry straight to the goal? Leave the theatre in the middle of the movie? If we came here to avoid the eternal boredom of resting contentedly in the self why go back to being that eternal couch-potato?
The "Path" the "Search" the angst and the whole shebang (?) is for the temporal entity's transformation. Poor little me can Become and enjoy the fruits from the tree-of-eden and become a Big-ol'-Rich-son-of-a-gun. What a (no)thought huh.
Or does the Awareness actually "need" some-thing some-body or most importantly Some FUN?....!!....
Play...Imagine...Create...Laugh and Cry. Celebrate as a Zorba the Buddha (Osho).
C'mon little non entity, we are a rootin' for ya.
Yes!
Hi Rupert.Thanks for the great work you are doing for us.Can you please recommend me some nice readings on Consciousness...some very very complicated ones.
By the way..I have already read..I AM THAT..Mandukya Upanisad..Bhagvat Gita..The Mind Made Prison,
@@rajfreestylo2735 itz not Rupert,dumbass...!!!..
I am an active person. I like to be doing something constructive. I f I am not i get bored. To me, boredom is a waste of of my time on this planet.
Being bored is the compulsive motivation for activity, that activity functioning as a distraction to Just Being. Intellect/ego despises "Just Being" and that compulsive >need< for distraction motivates "creativity", "constructiveness" and "productiveness". However, all that still occurs once the compulsive/obsessive >needs< of intellect/ego subside through meditation and learning what "Just Being" actually means and is.
But, somehow, I have a hunch you're aware of that and am curious as to the nature of your comment.
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It's grief
You know but you don't know
Boredom is uncomfortable 😂😂😂
Tell me about it 😂😂😂
Boredom? God gets bored? Spirit came here for the Action?
Yep. And for cable tv!
Hoo Ahhh.
In the beginning, God was bored.
I wonder if the boredom of doing a boring task is as useful as the boredom of doing nothing?
Would you consider meditation a boring task? Would you consider the act of meditation to be doing nothing?
@@CrazyUncleMike That’s an interesting question. When I think about it, I struggle to find anything I’d truly call “doing nothing.” As a beginner in meditation, I could be wrong here, but meditation feels closest to that idea. It’s not boring, but I still crave the excitement from other activities, so I usually have to force myself to do it. As for boring tasks, I mean mundane daily activities like washing the dishes or cleaning the house. However, I sometimes feel that with practice, I could view these tasks as meditation too. I hope to one day reach a state where I can immerse myself in meditation continuously.
very helpful thank you
Are we not meant to live and enjoy life? Regardless of what level of conscious awareness we have arrived at, I feel, that we are existent in order to fully live.
I guess it depends on how you define "fully" living. Most people define it as having as many pleasurable and "fulfilling" experiences as possible.
Try this sometime. Sit quietly and try to recall all of the experiences of any sort you've had in your entire life and see how many you can actually recall. Then see how vague those memories are compared to the actual experience. Now quickly think of all of the billions of experiences you've had in total. I think it's rather sobering to realize that you can only recall an infinitesimal number of experiences and those you can are quite vague and distorted. So is that really the goal of life then? Really? If so, I want my money back! :)
saidas108 So, what is really the goal of life then? I was talking with a friend earlier in the day and she and I are going through some very tough circumstances. I mentioned that it seems that diamonds are not really made of coal, so I have read, but that they are formed deeper down in the earth (from what original material I do not know) and that pressure does create those brilliant gems; oysters get sand inside of them that irritates them and they form pearls. I asked, "Could it be that all the difficulties we experience really does have some kind of soul refining purpose?"
Are we not here to dance and play and to love? By the way, I remember some things so very strongly and clearly ... the happy and the sad ... the loving and the painful. Some experiences are like smoke and vanish. It was my understanding that we are meant to experience the present: the now. I still have no answers to much of anything ... FYI. When things get sorted out in my current situation, I want revisit many of Rupert's videos and just listen and see what I may learn on a visceral level. I find that being distracted makes really understanding more than difficult.
Minahh People have different ideas of what the "purpose of life" is of course. People who enjoy a cushy of fun life seldom seriously consider such things and sort of skip through life. Nice life if you can get it :)
The first of the Buddha's Four Noble Truths is that the nature of the world is suffering so one can start from there. Thoreau had it right with, "Most men lead lives of quiet desperation."
If one doesn't believe in reincarnation, then it makes sense to squeeze every drop out of life and have as many pleasurable experiences as is possible. If one does however, then the purpose of life changes. Reincarnation is dictated by our actions in each life; karma in other words.
When one tires of the journey (life after life after life) then one begins in earnest to be free of it and inquires into what causes it and more importantly, how to cease it.
It really depends on where one is in their spiritual evolution. I believe that everything that happens is to lead us to the ultimate goal of God, Self-Realization, whatever you please, which to me is the purpose of life.
Thank you my friend. Your response is wonderful and that is why I am crazy about you ... sigh ... you understand that I mean that in the most sincere and spiritual way. While I was writing this, just now, I heard a noise like something dropping on the floor. I went to check out what it might have been and I found that the ice maker in the fridge shot out ice cubes onto the floor ... with no one to trigger it. It has never happened before. I find that very interesting, to say the least. Perhaps, Spirit in action expressing that I am on point in what I just said????
Minahh Either that or you need a new ice maker! :)
Nah…The times you are off the mark, using to distract is when you don’t enjoy. Humans enjoy…Well made films and movies (knowing the work put into them) without enjoyment and engagement is a disservice to the creators…same for books and food and drinks…Not enjoying your food or just seeing it as a distraction is an insult to the food and off the mark…Having drinks and not enjoying the inebriation and doing it just to distract yourself is off the mark….Meditation out of some sense of rigid obligation or that it’s “good “ for you is off the mark. No one knows where it will take you, just do it let the process work on you and…enjoy it… When you meditate just meditate… when you eat and drink just eat and drink. When you watch movies and read books play chess play soccer put on a puppet show just do those things.When bored be bored. We’re making love make love. When getting drunk get drunk. Like the old Zen masters always just say over and over and over no separation.🍔🍺🍿
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Life sucks then you die whether you are bored or 'awaken'.
Life doesn't 'suck' if you awaken
Pessimism it appears to me
@@mrsbethaniesmith Or you can be awaken to the horrible fact that it actually does 'suck', but that's really not something to strive for I guess..
@@hansgjerstad8895 lol
TROLL ALERT...!
why do you have to express beauty? that's a very limited form.
MajorCulturalDivide Hi, your aka is truly dvaitic. I love a firm statement. Would you ask this question to a lady you fancy ? And then tell her, sorry i won’t date you, you are so limited.
@@freddystaelens There are many other forms of expression that are just as worthy of being expressed that run the whole range of human experience. Otherwise there wouldn't be stage plays, punk music, rap and horror movies. Beauty is just one fraction of human potential. Thanks for responding!
MajorCulturalDivide Hi my taste, as per my gunality, goes towards Furia dels baus, James White and the Blacks, Frank Zappa, Hildegard von Bingen, Bhimsen Johsi, STP 23, and my favorite: silence and bliss. Stay happy.
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Don’t watch the movie.
I honestly couldn’t agree more. Through my own realization I’ve come to find it increasingly difficult to pursue such (old) habits for more than 10-15 minutes without some awareness of ego creeping in through the back door and needing to be addressed, or simply competing desires for more stimulating contemplation. It is aggravating, but also wonderful.
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Your flowers give you away. You are just another gamesman.
That's it. There's the proof. And it was sitting right there, too.
@@DrDavidThor This guy can't hold a candle to Alan Watts. In the words of many great Bhuddist monnks, this guy "stinks" of Bhuddism.
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man these people in the audience are so robotic with their questions and the way they speak
They're trying to be aware of what they say. They're mis-understanding how that works . . .
Understand the gravity of the question.If this don't apply to your field of queries..go to another video.
The absolutist term that u speak of is that u and only u understand. And "understand" if we may call it that. Again, the problem lies in the attachment of meaning to a word as if the meaning is totally understoodby everybody. YOUR absolute is way different from his absolute and her absolute. The problem lies in the word.And like any word, it is absolutely limited. Hahaha. My cousin R GALVEZ, told me that...and I assure u....he's absolutely smarter than all of you combined. Lols.