How To Avoid Looking Dumb In Embarrassing Situations
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- Опубликовано: 19 июн 2024
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Staying confident in embarrassing / nerve wracking situations can be tricky. Unfortunately those are the times you need your confidence the most.
In this video we will be using Margot Robbie to demonstrate 5 things that will make sure you stay confident, even in situations where you might normally feel embarrassed or nervous.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:31 - #1: Smile more frequently.
2:29 - #2: Give yourself permission to be authentic and transparent.
4:16 - #3: Lean into the embarrassment to minimize it and regain confidence.
6:39 - #4: Break the golden rule.
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Dude, this guy's wife rescued her kids like they were on the frontline. This was pure comedy
alexnickolaev I think she was the nanny. So she probably felt super bad that the kids were able to escape her. The wife would’ve been more nonchalant.
@@himomimfamous No she was the mum.
@@himomimfamous She is actually the mom (check the follow up on that story, the man confirmed that that was his wife). Hmmm, why did you automatically assume she was the nanny?
Yes, but I see you didn't try to use the wisdoms he just laid out for you in the video :D like, I can't tell if it's meant to be sarcasm without the ^^ signs :D
@@elektrotehnik94 Innocent question. The only way he would be embarrassed is if there was bias behind his reasoning.
when i smile in embarrassing situations my lips are shaking like hell which makes things more embarrassing
The spider BROOOOO YES
Make a joke out of your lips shaking, for example :D own it. You are perfect, you don't have to hide anything.
If that is hard for you to believe, try a book "You can heal your life" by Louise Hay, it's on PirateBay as PDF. Changed my life.
@@elektrotehnik94 Thank you I will, but i only found it in as audio, think you can link the pdf version?
Botox. Booom!
@@jimoneprism not a girl my dude
Can't deny that it really freaking helps if you look like her.
Charisma has nothing to do with how you look. Look more into improving your confidence and self esteem.
Lol
@@Ty-ub4nc nothing? I strongly disagree.
@@Ty-ub4nc Ahaha yeah right, when your whole life everyone has been responding with positive emotions because of how pretty you are, that really helps you feel like situations like this are not a big deal. Many people didn't have this kind of response which is why they're trying to be quieter and close themselves, to avoid people making an even bigger deal of the situation.
@@plague6716 i think it has more to do with self esteem than the way you look. People form personal opinions about their outward appearance that aren't accurate.
Someone once told me that the way people see you is more like if you squinted your eyes while looking in the mirror, because not everyone sees every little detail like you do. It's simple to say that people would accept you better or like you more if you looked more attractive, but the way you feel about yourself is self esteem, and how you portray that is confidence, what you do with that is charisma. (At least that what I think.)
I'm just sayin, I'd be that confident too if I was the most attractive person in every room I'd ever walked into.
Doesn't work like that
you could actually be very good looking but if you think you're not then you're not so saying you'll have confidence if you are attractive is going in a circle
Literally every video: Check out how charismatic this hottie or hunk is.
this is bs... so many hot girls get embarrassed way too easily
I get what you're saying, but being attractive doesn't just have to be a physical attribute. I understand the whole "look good, feel good" paradigm, but it shouldn't serve as the only basis for one's source of confidence or simply be correlated to it.
This channel is going to turn me into a sociopath
fieryspy64
Naaah
More like a robot
you can't catch being a sociopath fam
... I literally am a diagnosed sociopath. This channel helps reverse my condition, helping me channel my emotions in a genuine way and build relationships with people.
Mustard Bastard there’s sociopaths born with a chemical imbalance and there’s sociopathy that’s learned and adapted at a young age in response to trauma, etc.
Me : Ok, just don’t be awkward when I talk to girls, its simple I’ll keep up with the flow
Girl : The weather is good,
Me : thanks
Exactly lmao. my previous school was an all-boys one, and since I haven't talked to a girl for about 2 years, that's how I react...
PhantomXI lol well, you’re funny in writing anyway ✔️ if you actually did that on purpose, it would be funny and she’d probably laugh! Then have a serious follow up line to go with it (maybe about the weather, with a wink if you’re brave after lots of practice)
Underrated comment im dead💀💀💀
PhantomXI at least you are funny 😄
Trz thanks I didnt expect this much support wow 😮
Margot it an actress who knows how to come across as charming and endearing. Nothing happening on these talk shows hasn’t already been run past her and her team. This video demonstrates how Margot’s team regularly set up “embarrassing” talk show situations (providing the shows’ teams with photos and stories in advance). Margot is very in control of all the “embarrassment” she suffers because it is strategically created. How she handles this constructed “embarrassment” is a key part of the image her team wishes to create. Embarrassment and her reaction to it has been a key part of building a relatable image for someone who is otherwise (by virtue of talent and extreme beauty) quite unrelateable.
That was sort of what I was thinking but that she is an actress so she can act anyway she chooses.
So do you know this for a fact or are you speculating?
@@RobotdudeGaming speculation
@@RobotdudeGaming It's obvious to anyone with a brain.
I don't think that impeaches OP's message. We are drawn to her because of how we see her behaving in "embarrassing" moments. Authenticate or not, we like what the response. If we analyze it more then of course we should recognize that some of the are scheduled embarrassment. However, I would debate that some are authenticate such as the awards show laughing.
A photo reading a harry potter book is the most embarrassing photo in her life? Tough gig!
I thought the same thing!
i think it's more the story behind it
Absolutely. It was a ridiculous example. Just completely removed from reality.
It's all fake
As an awkward geek who sit in their basement programming instead of going to prom, I've finally found something on your channel that I've already mastered. If you get yourself into enough embarrassing situations, you're sure to get good at staying confident in them haha.
I'm smiling hard right now
Hmmm no been in embarrassing situations for a decade, that's not necessarily true, embarrassing situations can be scarring
Why do you sound like my best friend 🙃
best prom story ever, friend.
the tide will turn and it feels good
Some NOTES here
1. Smile more frequently: Smiling can save you and also make you relaxed. Smile when you speak & listen.
2. Give yourself permission to be authentic and transparent: Just speak out loud your inner nervous dialogues.
3. Lean into embarrassment to minimize it and regain confidence: Spend some more time to elaborate on embarrassing moment. If you move away from embarrassing moment then you will lose audience.
4. Break the golden rule: See if you can find a way to see the positive. If not, try and bail them out of that moment.
As always my weird passion is to share summaries like started doing it on my channel with PDF summaries.✌
Let's try to stay confident in weird situations.😟
Success Wheels woo. Pretty crisp.
Thank you.
You do lord's work
@@elektrotehnik94 hahah..well thank you :-D
Thanks man
In a nutshell, dont try to bail out of the embarrasment first thing, instead to have fun with it.
Can you do a video on a charismatic person who isn't a 10? I feel like how attractive somebody is heavily influences the way people perceive their actions
Like me 😎
In uncomfortable situation my soul leaves body and comes back when its over. Seriously
Man, I hear that!!!!
That's so me
Same same
Do a breakdown on John Cena. He is incredibly charismatic in interviews, if y'all can see him.
Problem is that nobody has seen the man in Years
@@iurycabeleira7990 true
Ikr
Had the pleasure to interview him last year for "Bumblebee" - he is awesome and super charismatic!
You had to add that end bit in, didn’t u?
To be fair, Margot Robbie doesn't really have a boss she has to worry about when publicly embarrassed because part of the intention of those shows is literally to embarrass a famous person; however, the news anchor was probably most concerned with getting in trouble with management. No matter how charismatic he could have been to the public, the main folks that matter to him, his management, will respond poorly (I am confident in this because I work from home and know of similar things happening and the fallout).
Love your videos and this is the only time I can think of where a consideration may have been missed. Y'all are amazing at what you do! I could be wrong, too!
Don't be uptight.
Let things go.
Works like a charm.
this is so helpful ❤️
this is so helpful ❤️
Damn, cured
@@zgb3l You have to actually try it first, mate.
I love that we asked for more women in charisma breakdowns and you listened :) .
Two times in my life I have fallen so embarrassingly that you’d have your jaw dropped. What did I do both times? Layed on the floor. Own the situation, trust me.
😂😂😂
What I've also learned, from my experience, is sometimes being non-reactive to a bad situation, can also help. Makes it seem like you're in control of the situation, then all you have to do is make light of the situation, have a laugh and move on... If you freeze and dwell on it, making it more awkward than it probably needs to be aka if you feel uncomfortable, everyone else will feel uncomfortable too.
I naturally laugh and smile hysterically when I'm in an embarrassing situation
Step 1: be really, really pretty
Step 2: smile
All is forgiven when you're as hot as Margot Robbie.
True. She could back over me with a Volkswagen and I would say, "It's ok, I'm good! Just a bone sticking out, no big deal."
Yea this channel is awful. The answer to every "how to" they post is to be famous and attractive. Such great insight much wow
@@RiggidyDiggidyRaw They give you examples of famous people to help you understand the information. People won't instantly like you just because you are pretty and famous.
Moonly
So why do people like Justin Bieber or Ariana Grande? There are so many examples that prove you wrong. Money and vanity are everything in modern America
@@RiggidyDiggidyRaw Bhad Babie, Danielle Cohn, Lil Tay and Woah Vicky are all examples of hated celebrities. If you have the fixed mindset of trying to get people to like you because of your outward appearance and money you will only attract fake friends, if you even manage to attract any.
Gal Gadot and Margot Robbie are just examples of god showing off.
The DCEU movies are pretty bad, but no one can deny they got some pretty actresses
@@YesNo-hm8hj only Suicide Squad & Josstice League are bad DCEU movies. Rest are good to great.
Nice try though...
Aakash Saini don’t get me wrong I’m pretty much a DC fanboy, but in my opinion they got about 50% success rate with the DCEU movies. On the other hand, I love every single one of the animated movies.
ALL existing things is god showing off. If you think only the people that you find hot are, how superficial would that be? How unrealistic? God as in the universe is in ALL forms and beings that exist.
Fred Featherhat hey mate I think it was more of an expression than a statement to be taken literally, y’know? Try to loosen up.
Just wanted to point out that this channel is a treasure for people with antisocial personality disorder and psychopaths. I really appreciate that lately, the importance of the mindsets is comming up in the videos more frequently. That way those who are trying to use the channel to manipulate people will have more difficulties doing so.
*Laughing with people that are laughing at you is a great way to join in the fun and show you’re not insecure.*
The Jaxx Channel - Self-Growth Health Wellness that is so true-gotta be able to laugh at yourself
@Jonathan Bowen ok "jonathan"
@Jonathan Bowen ok “jonathan”
Her smile is a divine gift to all of humanity.
BBC dude handled his interview disruption brilliantly IMO even if it seems off the charisma books. It's about context, you have to keep seriousness sometimes, which he didn't do entirely, he even smiled a bit but wanted to keep the vibe of the conversation so it didn't go off the rails, Margo was more allowed to go off the rails in her more lighthearted interviews.
I actually agree. For the purpose of charisma breakdowns, I think the use of it was to make a point. But on live air, discussing something relatively serious, I think the guy was trying to keep the topic and tone relevant.
Edit: I do think he could've allowed himself just a teensy bit more leeway in smiling though
@@joshuag506 Agreed... The contexts were completely off. He was in a serious news interview as an expert.... I agree he could've smiled more, but he was probably panicking on the inside and trying to focus on what was being asked while figuring out how to stop his children from being more distracting (especially as his daughter seems like a boss), whereas the next example as an "embarrassing" adorable photo of Margot when she was young on a humorous late night show...
I would have laughed my head of if I was the BBC guy being interviewed.
Margot is my top charisma go-to inspiration. I love how much she brings people up, brings people together and of course her smile puts people at ease. I will laugh a lot now when I'm embarrassed but on occasion I'll really shy away. I redeem myself through humour at the next opportunity if it's possible! 😋
i actually do this all the time and never knew it was kinda charismatic
in short: OWN it.
not as in, entering a room like "HEY GUYS I AM SO PATHETIC LOOK WHAT I JUST DID", but if people wanna put you down over it: OWN IT. makes you absolutely relatable, attractive and yes....confident.
sometimes being embarassed is also so not important in the great big picture. owning it means getting OVER it so things can continue. which is in end result way more mature than making a huge drama out of it.
*If you care what others think about you, you become owned by them*
If you smile, stay calm and remain confident you’ll be fine in any embarrassing situation
Matt M ✊😎💯
And be honest. You know you did something embarrassing, they know you did something embarrassing, just own it and make the best out of the situation. I realize I've learned to so this many times since I embarrass myself often haha
Jacob Battle definitely
What if you have an ugly smile😔
True confidence resides in the body. Next time you feel uncomfortable notice how your body feels while staying present with the discomfort. Gradually you'll be able to remain confident and in control no matter what is going on.
These are all "playfully embarrassing" situations though. It seems like one needs separate tips for how to stay confident in situations where people are deliberately trying to judge you through embarrassing things they've learned about you.
I got dragged along to a "ladies night" (basically an excuse for the guys at the local rugby club to strip off for charity). Me, an introvert who'd rather stay in and read books, got pulled up on stage. I was so embarrassed but I laughed and played along. I could deal with it.
Another embarrassing situation was when my daughter's step mum mentioned an embarrassing, private family situation she could only have heard from my ex. In that case I felt completely overwhelmed. Instead of mentioning that I was hurt or angry, I pretended that everything was fine then got home and had a panic attack. If I could have laughed it off or faced the issue head on, it would have been much better.
@@TheLadyDelirium that sounds horrible!
Sounds like you handled it well though!
Margot robbie is one of those quite plump actress (compared to the other younger actresses who try to be so thin) and she is so comfy in her own skin rather than trying to become so thin
its not always good to laugh or smile in embarrassing situations. i used to do that but inside i was broken and eventually i just cried when i came back home
Thank you!!! I love this channel! Has really helped me break out of my comfort zone and start living my life with more purpose!
Nearly *4 million* subscribers..
Looks like we’re all struggling to be human 😂
That's kinda comforting!
Haha at least is not lonely over here.
Hi, I just wanted to say thanks for putting these videos out. They are truly great and much needed. I like the that you actually show examples and possible ways for each person to try to get there themselves. I have been employing these concepts for years (not just this video), and have tried to help my friends and family to emulate these better behaviors, but I am no where near as articulate as you, hence they did not get what I was saying. I have started sharing them, one per week, on my FB and have gotten good responses. So again I appreciate it and please keep them coming because they really are helping.
Great video. I find that often by owning what embarrasses and being able to laugh about it like you say, it can really help you be a more likeable and relatable person to others
Thanks again for helping in awkward social situations 🙏💙
Thanks again for commenting on every self help video on RUclips
Dan Robinson looks like we have the same interests on RUclips 😁
"Smiling is the best reaction to any situation. Being silent is the best answer to any question."
this channel is highkey changing my life
Happy birthday man, I honestly respect you and your crew so much for helping us with your videos. Hope you had a great day
I DO got Audible - I‘ve made it a goal for myself over the summer to be more honest. Thanks for the recommendation, Charlie! 😊
Good tips! Smiling and laughing can help you release tension! Keep up the great work. Love from a small youtuber :)
Thankyou so much man you provide so much value for free
As an overanalyser of social situations (ENFP), I constantly consider how a situation and my reaction will affect my reputation (I also play a lot of RPGs so that helps)... This is helpful information here, it's really good to turn your embarrassment into fun ;)
This came at the perfect time for me
This past Saturday night I was talking to this girl and she spent about 11 minutes explaining where she was from and where she has lived. When she finished explaining, the first thing I asked was, "so where are you from?"
ಠ_ಠ
She pointed out that she literally just explained that. I leaned into it and commented on my impeccable listening skills. And we laughed it off as I told her that I meant to ask where her family currently resides.
Our lives are made up of embarrassing and awkward moments and it makes it so much more fun when you realize that it is indeed _fun_.
Also, when you voice your inner embarrassment and elaborate, it relaxes everyone else too. It shows them that it's okay if they stumble and it takes away tension. Everyone is allowed to be themselves, be open, and enjoy it all.
And in a one on one situation, not only does owning the embarrassment make for a good time but the authenticity can also be intimate or create an inside joke between those involved
This is Good. Thank You, Jaylin.
Thank you very much for this video Charlie! Cheers!
This is one of the best videos and one on the best topics of the channel, just great, keep the good work
That is a great book btw. :) Love your channel and your vids.
Do a character breakdown of thomas shelby from peaky blinders
This is the first suggestion in the comments I'm behind
I really love your videos. Everything you talk about is very useful, but I always forget everything instantly 😅
Ugh,I love her so much. I never get obsessed with celebrities but I love Margot.
My girlfriend's dog died recently, so to cheer her up I bought her an identical one, she was livid
"What am i going to do with two dead dogs?!"
Edit: Thanks for the likes, if anyone wants to know how to get into stand up comedy I made a video on it :)
@@BillHicks420 :)
No thanks, the bit about advice was the funniest part
A smile always goes along the way :) ♡ it makes you shine ! And it definitely makes you feel and look more comfortable and confident
I love this channel so much. Just watched your video on stress, it was a life changer. Thanks man
You're amazing guys thanks for everything 🥰
I got pantsed during team sports and stayed cool as ever through it. Once you start to not care about things, everything in life becomes easier
Of course shes smiles a lot, she has nice teeth. Most people don't.
G Hammer excuses
Guess those braces from the photo worked out...
Never felt more relatable before
Stuff it, smile anyway, I wouldn't care if some genuinely friendly person smiled at me with his/her 3 rotten teeth... I'd more care if that person's breath stank ngl
The work you do is so important. Thank you and have a good life. :)
4:27 parents understand this. They don’t think of him as rigid or thinking about his failing career. Haha not trying to pick you apart Charlie, but I just had to mention that!! You’re great & everything you say is gold.
I agree with thinking positively, being authentic, transparency and avoiding undue negativity.
The rest, I wouldn't bother with. I don't think it's honest or necessary to smile all the time just to appeal to others (or repel them with frowns, on the negative end of the spectrum). Forcing yourself to smile when you don't naturally feel like smiling can lead to creating a fake persona. The harder you try to avoid being yourself, the harder it will get to keep up the fake persona. Eventually, your true self will seep through and people will notice the inconsistency, exposing you as a fake.
Understanding, some people recognize fake personas in others but still accept them. Personally, I can't stand fake smiles (and they're not hard to spot). When someone is talking to me and wearing a limp, emotionally-disconnected smile, I'm compelled to distrust them. Many people in the public eye put on fake smiles, especially politicians and we all know how "honest" they are. I don't think happiness is a constant state and people who try to sell the idea that they're always happy, are being dishonest to others and themselves.
Literally tried searching for this exact thing on your channel lol
This channel has helped me so much with my personality development. Thanks
Thank you for these quality tipps~ 😚
Love your videos, I’m fully addicted. It’s only up from here for you big man ❤️
CHODIE
Witchcraft, I've just finished watching this video when an embarrassing situation happened, and I just did (without thinking) many things you mentioned on the video!!! I smiled, laughed, and was completely honest! This was an weird experience... 😂
THANK YOU FOR THE VIDEO YOU'RE AMAZING!!!
Thanks for all your hard work making these great videos. Can you do a video on how to smile more and naturally?
If only I was able to smile more often, but I genuinely don't believe I look good when I smile. I don't consider myself unattractive, but it's just weird how my face looks when I smile
my own experience that whenever I smile I'm less attractive to people the more I show myself proud and careless people are more attracted to me
Sometimes I notice that as well. What's up with people? Sigh, social politics
That BBC clip with the kids and the nanny was utterly hilarious though!!
Some of you guys have no hope, these are genuinely good tips
As always, great advice for skill development. Sometimes people lack the skills for how to do something. Social skills training is sorely needed, but having a mindset that is self-accepting, self confident and self-respecting is what will get you through every situation you confront. You may not always know how to handle or "behave" in a given situation (and that may cause people to judge and dislike you) but if your sense of self and positive feelings (and self-talk) about yourself is strong, you'll always feel good about yourself regardless of the situation. Sometimes, our behavior might not be great but that doesn't mean that we, in total, are bad. We are more than just our actions and behaviors. Globalizing one situation to condemn ourselves totally as a person is the road to disaster. If you need help and support in changing your mindset, seek out friends, family, therapists, a coach etc. You don't need to suffer alone.
That BBC interview is soooo good XD
Thanks for the shout out, Charlie! I love watching your videos. - Mak (Radical Honesty Trainer)
I saw an interview where a kid burst into a room similier to that clip, but instead the father sat the kid on the lap and continued talking until the mom came in shortly to get him and it looked really wholesome and funny but ultimately it was a great way to handle it.
Hello there fellow aliens trying to assimilate into human society
Greetings Kyle, how goes the invasion plan? I for one think I'm getting rather... Adaptive. *Insert large, completely normal human smile*
Please do a video on Tom Hardy. Why we love him so much!
This man speaks about confidence I we never saw his face.
This came at the perfect time 😂😂😂 Thanks Charlie!
Not taking yourself seriously will make it a walk in the park to not feel embarrassed.
Joking about your own persona and laughing it off.
She's an Aussie mate 👍
Great video bro and I needed to hear this and it’s very helpful 👍🏾💎
Wow this video was one of the best in a while!
Looking like a goddess certainly helps
Step 1: be as hot as Margot Robbie
Ben 1410
This is the answer to any video these fuckers upload
Why are you here? Why?
Why?
Why?
W h y ?
Instructions too confusing I now have third degree burns
Step 1. Win the genetic lottery
Step 2: Profit
And be am actor so you can act your way out of it.
This is really helpful! I tend to freeze up when I'm embarrassed 😱👍
This is a lifesaver...I have an embarassing situation tomorrow to deal with....wish me luck
Lettuce be honest..because she has a nice smile.. she can get away with laughing all the time
If a person with funny teeth or a weird smile acted like her.. majority of people would think that they’re creepy.
*Almost slips and falls down* everyone sees it. *Thinks* “What would make this more fun?” Takes another step and falls into the warm.
Laughter around the word
Dear Charisma in Command,
Please you have to write a book and put all of these topics in the book it be far more easy...
We all be waiting for that !
As always, a great content, Charlie.
I've always wondered where you get all this knowledge from and I figured that you have some books you read about charisma. So if it's not much to ask for, could you give us the list of the books you read and you've read in the past that are related to charisma?
Margot is one of the most beautiful women alive
Barbara Palvin is better looking but Margot is definitely up there
When I'm embarrassed my cheeks and ears becomes flaming red it's make me feel more anxious
Omg me too, I go so red I look like a beetroot. And then I think in my "Don't go red" over and over which makes me go even more red because I keep thinking about it.
Yea and thinking about it makes it worse. But if you start owning it, it helps! Charlie says lean in to these things!!
Can you please do a video on Ben Platt’s personality/ confidence- he has a way of appearing genuine and relatable and makes people very comfortable
I think I'm actually doing these things already :D just don't take yourself to seriously and you got it