We were married relatively young. Went from new coworkers to married in 9 months...a lot of talking about life and courting, then we eloped and it's been many happy years since ❤
Married lady years but just learning to maybe help single girls around me. But I love it when you guys list the movies that you reference because I thoroughly enjoy watching a lot of these old movies that I've never been exposed to.
"Every Girl Should Be Married" is the name of the movie in todays video! It's a funny one! She's a bit silly in the movie at times and somewhat manipulative but overall it's a funny movie and very enjoyable!
I have totally leaned back in mostly everything and it’s amazing how much he keeps bringing up certain things that I love hearing from him. Moving in, marriage, things he’d like me to start doing around his house. By keeping quiet forces a man to speak his mind. And never will I quiet it down like a feminist.
this was amazing thank you ladies! I have been doing it all wrong, and my man is definitely a keeper and I love him. I didn't have the best modeling for relationships growing up, and this is exactly what I need for guidance. It is never too late to learn.
How about this--- he knew he wanted to marry me 3mo in, bought the ring 6mo in, and held onto it until our 1y anniversary. We prayed and set a wedding date, he gets excited about us getting married... But he has ADHD procrastination & doesn't get his end done. Our wedding day came and went and we couldn't get married because his documents weren't put together or had even bought his suit or talked to his witness! What can I do?
Hi there! Can you clarify by what you mean when you say he didn't "get his end done"? Are you referring to the suit and documents you mentioned? Or were there other things he didn't do? It sounds like he hasn't had his ADHD assessed by a doctor, is that accurate? Without knowing a bit more I am not sure what to advise other than that men like this generally need a lot of help and a lot of very direct communication. If you did a lot of that and he still needed help it might be time to get professional help with time management and organization. ADHD can be really tough and without the right habits in place it can really impact your life negatively. The last thing you want to do is marry a man you feel you have to mother. Has he had any help from a good doctor?
He used to take his medication, but hasn't in years. He doesn't like using medicine, which I always find ironic considering we both work in the healthcare industry. His mind fills up with patients and to-do lists and somehow going to the lab with me to get our blood drawn (req here), putting his birth certificate and SS in one place, actually buying the clothes he needs--- all end up on the bottom of his list week after week. I want to help him, but I also don't want to seem like I'm pushing... But we agreed on June 2nd over a year ago, got the approval from our pastor, he bought my dress! Aaaaaaaaand nothing. He talks all the time about our future and how he can't wait for me to be his wife, but doesn't take the simple steps required to actually make me his Mrs. 😅
@@t.l8758 - oh my. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. This is a boundary that you will have to set. I would sit him down when he’s in a decent mood (meaning not after a long stressful day) and tell him how you feel. Avoid picking on him, instead focus on how you feel. This is very important. Then set a reasonable boundary with the wedding. Follow through on your boundary. If he can’t get it done, he will have to unfortunately suffer the consequences.
Here's the proposal that has a chance to work... Start talking about prenuptial agreements as divorce disincentivizing documents... Then each draft up what you would consider fair and effective... If he won't do that and you won't consider it then it's time to move on and just trust to luck
We were married relatively young. Went from new coworkers to married in 9 months...a lot of talking about life and courting, then we eloped and it's been many happy years since ❤
Married lady years but just learning to maybe help single girls around me. But I love it when you guys list the movies that you reference because I thoroughly enjoy watching a lot of these old movies that I've never been exposed to.
"Every Girl Should Be Married" is the name of the movie in todays video! It's a funny one! She's a bit silly in the movie at times and somewhat manipulative but overall it's a funny movie and very enjoyable!
I have totally leaned back in mostly everything and it’s amazing how much he keeps bringing up certain things that I love hearing from him. Moving in, marriage, things he’d like me to start doing around his house. By keeping quiet forces a man to speak his mind. And never will I quiet it down like a feminist.
this was amazing thank you ladies! I have been doing it all wrong, and my man is definitely a keeper and I love him. I didn't have the best modeling for relationships growing up, and this is exactly what I need for guidance. It is never too late to learn.
How about this--- he knew he wanted to marry me 3mo in, bought the ring 6mo in, and held onto it until our 1y anniversary. We prayed and set a wedding date, he gets excited about us getting married... But he has ADHD procrastination & doesn't get his end done. Our wedding day came and went and we couldn't get married because his documents weren't put together or had even bought his suit or talked to his witness! What can I do?
Hi there! Can you clarify by what you mean when you say he didn't "get his end done"? Are you referring to the suit and documents you mentioned? Or were there other things he didn't do? It sounds like he hasn't had his ADHD assessed by a doctor, is that accurate? Without knowing a bit more I am not sure what to advise other than that men like this generally need a lot of help and a lot of very direct communication. If you did a lot of that and he still needed help it might be time to get professional help with time management and organization. ADHD can be really tough and without the right habits in place it can really impact your life negatively. The last thing you want to do is marry a man you feel you have to mother. Has he had any help from a good doctor?
He used to take his medication, but hasn't in years. He doesn't like using medicine, which I always find ironic considering we both work in the healthcare industry.
His mind fills up with patients and to-do lists and somehow going to the lab with me to get our blood drawn (req here), putting his birth certificate and SS in one place, actually buying the clothes he needs--- all end up on the bottom of his list week after week. I want to help him, but I also don't want to seem like I'm pushing... But we agreed on June 2nd over a year ago, got the approval from our pastor, he bought my dress! Aaaaaaaaand nothing. He talks all the time about our future and how he can't wait for me to be his wife, but doesn't take the simple steps required to actually make me his Mrs. 😅
@@t.l8758 - oh my. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. This is a boundary that you will have to set. I would sit him down when he’s in a decent mood (meaning not after a long stressful day) and tell him how you feel. Avoid picking on him, instead focus on how you feel. This is very important. Then set a reasonable boundary with the wedding. Follow through on your boundary. If he can’t get it done, he will have to unfortunately suffer the consequences.
Cherrie, can you share the recipe, please?
It's been a while ladies !!❤
I know, we're trying to get back into it!
Here's the proposal
that has a chance to work... Start talking about prenuptial agreements as divorce disincentivizing documents... Then each draft up what you would consider fair and effective... If he won't do that and you won't consider it then it's time to move on and just trust to luck