Topic Takeover: Taking Care of Our Parents in Their Golden Years
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- Опубликовано: 16 мар 2022
- You asked, we answered! Guest co-host Vivica A. Fox opens up about the importance of taking care of our parents as they age.
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Loni is a loving person with a big heart❤. I loved how Vivica lifted the atmosphere when she felt it getting emotional 😢. This was a beautiful topic. P.S. Let Loni and A cry. It's who they are and if you're a REAL fan you'll accept it Instead of being rude 😒
Thank you for this comment. Ppl are heartless
She likes being in the know and doesn't enjoy being left out.
She definitely have a big heart. I love it. ❤️
REAL is Crying! And doing it shows how connected you are in the spiritual!
Are y’all really in the comments saying “Loni crying again” y’all have no heart. She’s a sensitive woman and not just that but we know how much she loves her mom and of course the thought of when her time comes is going to make her cry. Leave her be. So rude
My thoughts exactly!! SMH. Those people must not be close with family whatsoever lol. A girl I work with who isn’t even emotional EVER almost burst into tears the other day over mentioning family she hasn’t seen since Covid sooo…yea I don’t know what’s wrong with people.
it's probably because they have no intentions on taking care of them.. I can relate because I actually want to give them the world now.
Exactly 💯💯👏🏼👏🏼
These are the type of topics on why we NEED this show to continue!
Love how Vivica lightened the mood for Loni to laugh
To me this is the best season of The Real yet. I like the show with no audience. It is more intimate to me.
Same. It feels more mature. I never cared for the audience or the games they did.
I couldnt agree more!!!!! Feels Renewed and Refreshed!!!
I love the intimate setting too. It's so much better without an audience cause it feels like a cozy chat with friends where you can talk about anything.
It's a shame they're rumored to be cancelling the show 😔 💔
I agree! It feels peaceful.
unfortunately the show isnt renewed 😞
This is so hard. My dad and sister passed away 8 months apart when I was 25 now I’m 29 going on 30 and it’s just me and my mom. My mom is 63 and her health and mental health is declining and I’m having to make these hard decisions as well…she has early Alzheimer’s and she can’t even remember what we talked about 10 mins ago. I felt this segment.
Wow Alzheimer’s is bad... I used to work at an entire facility specifically dedicated to Alzheimer’s patients and they had pictures of their former wonderful lives on their doors ... I remember this one lady who lived a glamourous life in the past... fancy cars, big hats ... pearls... she was smiling and seemed like she was the life of the party , and to go inside her room to see her completely almost in a vegetative state was a shock to me... I couldn’t believe that was the same lady from the photos on the door of her room... so my heart ❤️ goes out to you as I know that it’s really painful for their family members
Wishing you so much strength and courage, Steph. I understand your pain. I lost my Dad and sister in a relatively short time span too and had to take care of my sick, declining Mother for 7 years, until her death last month. It is so HARD especially when you feel SO ALONE. I will be praying for you both.
It’s hard to make these decisions on your own and I will keep you in my prayers Steph. My grandma has dementia and early Alzheimer’s, and I help my mom take care of her. So does my dad. He helps us move her and change her when we can’t on our own. My dad has given me another trait to look for in a partner who will help me with my parents when they get to that age. Because not all people will be willing to help you with your parents and even take them in. We need a lot of patience and strength to take care of them and like I said I will keep you and your mom in my prayers.
Prayers for you and love.
I pray GOD gives you the strength, wisdom, and peace as you navigate this moment! Thanks for sharing fam. The best is yet to come for you and your mom!!🙏🏽
It’s so true what Vivica said. It’s our turn to take care of our parents. I remember when my mom was sick she kept apologizing for me having to take care of her. I kept reminding her that it was my turn and it’s an honor to take care of her. And I wish I still could. Mommy I miss you so much!
My sweet, beautiful, giving, and incredible Mother just died on February 13, 2022 after a 7 year battle with Parkinson's disease and Dementia. The emotions are real. I was her caregiver the entire time and I did so without any help from my living siblings (two of my siblings have passed away). I live with Sickle Cell Disease and the 7 years of taking care of my loving Mother were HARD but they were also the HONOR of my life. My dear Father died when I was 13. I am still a fairly young woman and I am trying so hard to be hopeful for the future. I wish things were different within my family. Toxic people can become MORE TOXIC when a parent grows elderly and dies. In spite of the pain and difficulties, I know I made sure my Mother's final years were peaceful, calm, loving, and well taken care-of. She worked so hard in her life and she deserved ALL OF THE LOVE in the end. My heart is so, so broken.
Sincere condolences. May you find healing that will help you during this difficult time. Best
I can understand I help take care of my grandma who has dementia and early Alzheimer’s. And my uncles don’t help take care of her but they do help financially so that’s a big help. It’s hard and takes so much loving, gratitude, and patience to care for your elderly. We would not be here if it wasn’t for them. I know already I will do the same when it comes time for my parents. That is why I strive to find a job and a house to be able to care for them. And also look for a partner who is willing to help and take them in as I would for his parents. My condolences go out to you. And just you knowing that you did the best you could for her and love her is the best reward you can ask for and peace within you. God bless you.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in September and it has been terrible. Before that I took care of my father who had dementia. I did it all by myself, gave up my life and had 5 siblings who did not help at all. It was an honor to help my parents and they were so grateful. My heart too is broken and seeing your parent age is difficult and caregiving can be very traumatic. My heart goes out to you and I know the pain you are in. I wish you all the best.
May God give you peace and resolution to know she's in a better place. It sounds like you were an amazing daughter to her.
I’m so sorry that happened to you♥️ May God ease your heartache and lessen all your burdens.
Having this talk actually reminds me A lot of Jeannie when she moved in her mom and dad in her home ! It’s a way of showing respect to not only your elders but the attitude of gratitude to want to spend time with ur parents and make sure they’re good ! No hospital or nursing home can top the amount of love and care you give them if you’re willing to bring them in and giveback after their years of parenting and taking care of u
Both of Jeannie's parents live with her at the same time? That's odd because Jeannie's mom is married to someone else and her dad is also with someone else. Things must be very different in their community because that wouldn't fly well in a black community, lol. Your wife living with her ex husband.
@@ForeverGodsGirl03 For a while her parents did live together after the divorce but now they have their own places. I don't know where her dad lives but I think her mom lives in Texas. Jeannie was just speaking of her wish to have her parents closer to her.
Yeah nursing homes are not even a thing in my Lebanese culture. Family over everything.
I love this!! I can’t stand nursing homes, but them retirement home communities be lit 🔥! They party like it’s Mardi-Gras everyday down here.😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 I volunteered there for a week, and sent my boss a text and a picture saying “I don’t wanna work for y’all anyway”!!! As if she fired me….(in my head, she the one that asked me to volunteer) 😂😅😂I told her and she busted a gut!! 😂😅My boss knows I’m a mess…lol
Amen
This is a great talk.i work so hard for this reason. I want to have space in our home for both of our parents lol. Want to spoil my mom
Lol same here!!!
I wanna buy my parents a gorgeous home one day I FEEL YOU
I wanted to spoil my dad. He lived with us for 7 years. He had Alzheimers. At the end he didn’t know what he was doing at all. Much Love
Kudos to everyone taking care of their parents . I'm doing it and I love it. Honor your parents so your days will be long in the land that the lord thy God has given you.
Yes, I did the best I could do from long distance to help my sister help our mom as dementia started to show it's head. Thankfully, we had wonderful caregivers as well. At the same time, my husband and I were dealing with his mom during her aging process. Both our moms passed within a month of each other. Treasure the moments. Now my husband and I are discussing how we will handle the next stage in our own life since it's only the two of us.
@@barbaradiemer9614 I’m sorry for your loss.
Amen!
Amen
Their is some truth in that scripture some of the people who I known have since past away because of the way they treated there parents. I hope GOD grant me a long life because I was very good to my mother before she died god said do your part and I will grant you.
Vivica gave some really great advice. Loved this segment because it gave me a Lot to think about
I don’t trust her
I was adopted and my parents were older. My mom died at 64 when i was just turning 13. My dad died when i graduated from college in 2018, at 78. And I saw a beautiful/tragic quote that said “when you grow up, you’re watching your parents grow up too.” I just thought it was the greatest. I love and miss them everyday.
The reason I love Loni so much is I used to be so embarrassed for being emotional,
But now looking at her make me feel so confident.
Vivica brings that needed energy omg. I hope they don’t cancel this and bring Vivica on instead 😭
Doesn't Vivica have her own version of this show with 3 other ladies?
The worst part of life, to me, is knowing one day we have to say goodbye to our parents. I don’t know if I’ll ever be strong enough to deal with that. I worry more about them passing them I do myself… but like Vivica said, it’s just a part of life. And I have hope that the last time I see them won’t truly be the last time.
As a Mexican we always take in our parents!! No homes in our OG culture!!
Thats right!!!!!
My parents had me at an older age. So I’m in my 20’s and I’m already seeing how their health is declining. I think about this everyday because being this young, I haven’t accomplished anything yet. I can’t even support myself financially since I’m still in college.
They’re still very dynamic and strong. But I feel like I’m in a rush to get my life together before they’re no longer this way, so I can be able to take care of them when the time comes.
Do they own any property?
Do they have life insurance?
I totally understand the feeling, my parents had me in their early 20's but I was raised by my grandparents who were 70 years strong when I was born. As I became a teenager I witnessed their health slowly declining and since then I feel as though my life is on a timer to become accomplished asap so I can be the help that they need and also take care of myself when they pass. My other relatives do not live in the same country as us so they heavily depend on me therefore I'm in hurry to get myself together as their well being depends on me. Sometimes I feel like I lost control but things have a beautiful way of working themselves out, stay strong 🙏🙏🙏
I’m in the same boat except I recently graduated college. It’s hard knowing we’re experiencing this stage with them a lot earlier than our friends bc what I’m seeing in my parents most of friends are seeing in their grandparents. Don’t rush to get everything together right now because you can always find other ways to support them and work towards your goals. And as much as I want to rush and move out I also want to the same cherish this time with them. Wishing the best to you and yours, you’ll make them proud.
What if your the only child?!?
I have been taking care of my mom for years now and it’s the toughest thing I love her to death and will do anything for her but sometimes I feel like I can’t live my own life but I know it’s not her fault but yea idk…it’s getting overwhelming these days plus taking care of other family members and the actual capable ones won’t help.
I can understand how difficult that is but it's important that you take a day off every now and again. Hopefully you can afford to have someone come in every now and again because it's better for them if you are healthy as well.
Same. I am also an only child...and...whew. I understand how you feel.
I agree same over here...... whoi. It's alot.
God bless you, both of you. Couldn’t imagine that stress, but good things always come around to good people, and that u are 💘 but pls find time for your mental health sometimes u gotta say no and put u first !
As an only child it is tough. My parents are not fully at that stage but getting there and these are things I think about. I think as an only child, the approach that Loni is taking can be adapted and that might be helpful.
I'm a CNA and it's sad to see how most family neglect and leave the elderly...it's sad but that where I stand and provide care and emotional support!
Aww thank you for your service ❤️❤️
Thank you for doing your part. It truly makes a difference.
I love Vivica on the show!
Vivica A. Fox can definitely Co-Host with Classy, Grace & in such a Genuine way that even such this topic is very good. Vivica A. Fox is a phenomenal woman👑
My mom passed this November 2021. Got sick in 24hours and died. But prior to that, she always said "when i die do this..." . she had bought her grave, picked her dress etc. Her funeral was very smooth viod of fights cause we were just following her instructions which luckily for me I wrote them down.
This is tough conversation to have but I believe our parents talk about their passing to prepare us mentally one, to ensure that we take seriouslynthe advices and guidance they've provided. Death is the only certain thing in life as such conversations must be had on what to do or how to handle ourselves when loved ones especially our moms and dads are no more🙏
Love This talk💜💜💜
It was a pleasure to have my beautiful Mommy 🥰 to come live with me during her illness and last year of lher life 😥😥 I miss you Mommy and love you Much 😘🥰🥰
I have a similar story to Vivica ..wasn’t able to be present for my dads passing but I moved country to take care of my elderly mom
Well was he there for them in his youth?
This hits so hard.. because we didn't have a family plan.. so when my mom had open heart surgery i took on everything and worked and paid for everything and making sure things were good.. but it was beyond hard.. more than hard i won't deny and i am going through it now.... still doing things myself. I appreciate this topic...
I wish my parents were still here to even broach this conversation.😪
I became my mom's Caregiver while she's battling stage 4 cancer.... I definitely have my moments because everything has totally falling on me..with minimum to no help from my siblings..... It has been a sacrifice...and overwhelming at time I had to get in therapy, but I Thank God for my Daughter she has been my rock right hand through it all.....
In many families there is usually only one caregiver. I had 5 siblings and got ZERO help. I was in a very bad place mentally but no one cared. It's great to have plans but it doesn't usually happen and many don't follow through. You need to discuss the wishes of your parents before it gets to this point and make sure they have a power of attorney. Believe me when you have to make medical decisions you want to make sure you are following their wishes and not yours. It makes your conscience rest a little easier.
Yup I’m living that right now
My mom is in the same situation. She’s the only one out of 5 siblings who has always always taken care of my grandmother
I can relate I am my fathers caregiver, and it is really hard especially mentally.
It’s usually a female sibling too. Boys are useless when it comes to this kind of thing (most, not all).
This is my situation right now and I'm going crazy
My dad passed unexpectedly a few weeks ago. People need to have these conversations. It's inevitable. Thank goodness he spoke with us about what he wanted because it made planning his funeral a little more easier. A funeral is always tough on families. Sort it now so you don't have to sort it later
Sorry for your loss.
Everyone has a unique relationship with their parent(s) that you may not know about. If you don’t know the intimate details, please don’t judge how other people navigate difficult times like these. There is no “correct” way to do it. Assume people are doing the best they can.
I agree. While it’s easy to slip into the thinking that all parents are great and children owe them a debt, that is not everyone’s experience or feeling.
I have a good relationship with my parents and when I met my husband, I thought he felt the same about his remaining parent. But over time he expressed frustration regarding her attitude.
After we got married, she revealed her true self and I very quickly realized that not all seemingly “normal” people are emotionally healthy people.
Sometimes the best thing to do to preserve your mental health is to distance yourself from people who have caused you harm. Even if they are your parents.
My grandmother's passing was full of greed and it came out of nowhere. First the funeral home lost her body and tried to actually put a lookalike dead women dressed in her(my grandmother's) last outfit in the casket and thought no one would notice. You can imagine how that went. Then the family had to take legal action, we were awarded 390,000 dollars but the eldest of her(my grandmother's) three daughters decided to take all the money. She bought her three grown kids Mercedes Benz cars.
Omg
Wow-this is so so sad.
This whole situation is sad
Was she the sole beneficiary in your grandmothers will? If your grandmother had no will how does the law provide for the division of her property?
@@cheriedeparis5000 her belongs where split between them but the eldest wanted the house and the land. The settlement money for the funeral was supposed to be split but the eldest again did dome shading stuff and took all the money and bought cars for her kids.
Loni is so sensitive and real. She just tell it like it is. Thanks sister
Unfortunately i wasn't able to have this conversation with my mom because she died at 50 from complications related to ovarian cancer and so for her funeral all she wanted was a quick service and to be cremated after it was over. We also had a nice lunch with everybody to remember her which was comforting for my brothers and i. But with our dad we definitely starting having discussions about what to do for him when the time comes that he is no longer able to care for himself and also his funeral arrangements have already been put in place so that my brothers and i won't have to plan it quickly but that each step will already be laid out in writing for us to handle which i consider a blessing. So i agree it is vital that as an adult child that even as heartbreaking as it can be to sit down with your older parents and try to have a mature and composed conversation about what is next for them
I miss you mom.
💕💕
Whhooooph!!! That was some REAL conversation!!
Got me all teary eyed!
7 years just now since one of my parents passed.... it knocks the wind outs you.
So now I'm paranoid af about my other parent and I want to protect them in any way I can!
Wish i had the money thise ladies have so i could provide everything for my beloved parent!!! ❤❤💔💔
This is tough. My dad died on 2014 and my mom passed away four months ago. I am still going through. I spent the last most precious 68 days with her before she passed. I retired and went back home to take care of her. I miss her so much. I am really going through something knowing that Mother's day is coming up. 😪 There is hope, though. My mother and father were God-fearing people and precious gems!
So you guys just have me crying before I go to sleep huh? God bless good parents😭😭
It's ok to cry and it's good to honor and take care of your parents. God Bless you all and your families ❤💕
My mom has become my best friend. Not judging and saying I told you so. I inspire to be the mom she has been to me .
I got a chance to spend time with my mom and dad, even though they are not here on earth but I got a chance enjoy my awesome time with them!!!!
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I love Vivica Fox so much.... she is a STAR her light shines ✨️
Me too.
Listen my mom made all her arrangements so it was easy for us. I think its good to talk about it. I already told my husband what all I want and I ran it by my family too so its no confusion. We all must go....so speak freely. God Bless
I love this, my grandma recently died & My mom has started preparing me for the day she goes. (If she goes before us). I appreciate our open conversations. Dealing with grief is inevitable but when you're grieving with no preparations or no inkling of what the person may have wanted, it causes chaos. Some family members do the most after someone dies, so I think it's best to have these candid conversations as a family like what Vivica said.
My uncle who is 94, no wife or children. He is our only uncle living. We decided we will take care of him at home not in nursing home. He is staying with my brother and I go over and help.❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yes. My parents have always been free to stay at my house as long as they want. I would want them to live with me honestly if they cannot take care of themselves.
Beautiful daughters. Finding out an elderly sister from my old congregation passed and her daughter doesn’t want her friends to be a part of her memorial. Respecting her wishes but breaking my heart that I can’t go give love to someone who helped me through a hard period of my life. I get it’s hard as the children but let there be at least one last day for your parent.
This is my favorite topic because 12 years ago I committed myself to bath elderly with different abilities and mental limitations, I aim for advocacy against neglect of our senior citizens particularly the Disabled and I do this for free, I do a door to door helping those who are neglected and can't help themselves... As much as I am not getting anything but I still get thank you from grannies 😢
Im so thankful my sister is a nurse. Not saying I'll abandon my mom when/if she gets to that stage of life, but it definitely lessens the pressure.
My mom dedicated her life to my grandmother Who passed away last and I think that's amazingly selfless.
I know she didn't mind a lot of people don't mind but I'm working so hard so that when the time comes I can book myself to an elderly home I don't want any one doing that for me I feel it's too much.
same for me!! im helping with my dad and i had to put him in a nursing home as he has dementia. i have a 3 and 7 year old and i cant put their lives on hold
my father was never responsible and we arent close
i do visit twice a week but i wont dedicate my life to him - im sorry but i wouldnt expect my kids to do it for me either
Thinking of doing the same. Retire in style. I’ll take the money I save from not having kids to do this. Travel, health, friendship, style, grace, financial security and well being are on my bucket list.
Ms. Vivica needs her own show. Somebody call Oprah!
She's on a show with Lisa Raye, syleena Johnson, and Claudia Jordan already
@@Desi-zz4gb Yes, I know…but it’s not her own show.
im with vivica i want a closed casket. i dont want people walking up and looking over me and saying she don’t look like herself (uhh ya think?)🤣🤣 lets have a party its a celebration. i dont want that to be the last thing people see and think of me !
Same! I’m ok with cremation just as long as they are actually cremating and not selling body parts and organs on the black market while putting other ashy material in the urn (I saw a special on this).
She don't look like herself? Omg 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I just want to give my mom the life she deserves
Vivica is great on this show!
My father passed as well Vivica last year 2020 Mother’s Day. Never got a chance to be in his life like that but as far as my mom… I won’t be taking of her in her golden years, she told me she wish she never had me and wish I was never born ALOT growing up. Her actions showed her words to be correct. The first time in my 35 years she said she was proud of me when I flew out to my dads funeral. No way I’ll get successful then take care of someone that NEVER took care of me when I needed them as a kid. No way it will happen. I cried when my dad passed but I don’t think I’ll cry when my mom pass. My mom had many reasons she didn’t like me so given I aged out of foster care and more successful then anyone in my immediate family I’ve been motherless since forever so I’ll stay that way.
My siblings and I are going thru this now. It's hard to see their health decline. My mom has adjusted pretty good to us taking care of her now, but it's been real hard with my dad because we've had to temporarily put him in a nursing home and it breaks my heart, but we not leaving him there God willing sooner than later he'll be living with one of us ❤ Thank God my husband has been wonderful about my mom living with us, he actually loved it, he even cried when she left to live with my sister during COVID lock down.
This was such a sad but beautiful conversation these woman are so beautiful oh my Lord anytime Lonnie starts to cry she makes me feel to cry
I really enjoyed this conversation. This topic in particular is so rarely spoken about. They handled it beautifully.
I agree with vivica I absolutely hate funerals. Who wants to remember their loved one lying in a casket? I prefer memorials, flowers, beautiful pictures reminiscing of good times. A memorial is easier, for me anyway
I agree. I also hate how some people take pictures of the dead to post on their social media. Why do you want to share and remember such a grim memory? I don’t get it 🤷🏾♀️
Yeeesssssss. Beautiful, beautiful. thank you. Now that's the REAL. Amen.
Mine kicking and screaming as well. She’s a firecracker for sure! If she don’t want help, you sure as hell gone find out. Lol 😂
Vivica is so amazing and her energy is infectious!! I love her so much!
I’m loving Vivica on the show! Please keep her on!
I’m like Vivica when I’m gone I want a party! I want it to go all the way down, dancing eating drinking laughing. Don’t cry for me celebrate me.
Wow Bring Vivica back again, her wisdom is golden 👏🏾💝💐
I lost my mom and dad and I’m 28 and I’m so sad I didn’t get to spoil them in their golden years they deserved so much
Thank you for this topic ladies. It has changed my perspective on a few things 🙏
This was a beautiful segment 💜 on a much needed topic 🙏🏾
I so love this show. I am almost age 61 and my mother is age 79. We all are taking care of our mom even though she still does a lot for herself right now and I wish that my family takes care of me. We should be helpers of one another and not be so quick to throw the family into a nursing home 🏘️ #mrsdonna
Beautiful. Plz keep this on air
great idea Vivica! I'm so going to wise up to some of your ideas. yes let it be a celebration! of the life you've had. its beautiful.
Going through this right now. Parents married for almost 53 yrs, both in their 80's. Dad is trying to age to the point that he will live until he's 120 😯😆. Mom has a little more health issues but still aging gracefully ..especially on the inside. I have the help and support of my siblings...especially my sister. I wouldn't be able to do this without her. It helps that we both are not married.
But even with the help and support, it can be a taxing process. I pray for those that don't have the help and support they need. Please know that there are support services out there....maybe even state funded aid workers but vet those aid services and make sure your seniors are receiving a good level of care. Just try your best and that will always be honored.
Be well and be at peace.
Vivica's having to take that pause of gratitude toward her sister just did me in. Those of you who are blessed with close sibling relationships please stay amazing and I love you today
My mom is 78 and I try, God I try. I wish I was able to take care of her in the best way possible. But in the meantime, I'm there whenever it's possible because I don't ever want to regret. She's the love of my life ❤
Omg I was not ready for this😖😖😖As somone whose lost both parents this convo is real.
Every single gust co host has done such a phenomenal job, very good job choosing cohosts 💗
FINANCIAL LITERACY put into ACTION. Parents (single or married) need to stop looking at their children as retirement plans. Don’t give everything to your children instead of investing/ saving for yourself. Your child does not every experience you did or not receive at the expense of your financial security future. Parents must prepare for their golden years themselves planning for the worst while praying for the best. My grandparents prepared for their deaths. Pretty much everything was paid for and wrote their own obituaries and choose what they wanted to buried in. They taught it to their children and grandchildren. But what they didn’t teach us how to prepare for a slow decline bc they could not teach what they did not know. My parents are now elderly and their funeral expenses are covered but my mother is on a slow decline w/ dementia and father physically decline. They didn’t prepare for this. Luckily they have children that care but it emotionally and mentally taxing on us but I not going to let them mess with my finances to point of financial stress. I’ve made it known to them and told my siblings to take heed.
this!!!!
Although I'm sure there are some parents out there that approach their children with an expectation of a financial institution to provide for them automatically, it is not out of order to provide for parents even when they prepare the best way they can for their aging years (qualifying this for parents who have not violated a relationship in such a way where distance has to be placed between parents and children.)
Money runs out and circumstances happen all the time that are out of one's control. I agree..boundaries still need to be put in place and met, but I have also seen the other side of the equation where children put unrealistic expectations on parents to do certain things when the natural decline/aging process happens. It's a balance and if you don't have sound judgment (parents and children) then one can make the aging process more difficult than it needs to be and taking away from the joy that it can be.
Be well and be at peace.
Ooooweee!!
Thank you for making this topic a little bit easier to digest. Although it’s going to be hard.
My sister and I have a plan but we need to have that talk about what he would want as far as care, quality of life, etc. in later years. He's 65 going on 66 and is in very good health but I want to be more prepared than we were for my mom.
me & my mom have had this talk plenty of times & me and my siblings are in agreement lol NO ELDERLY HOME!!!!!
Aw.... There's only one momma. 💖
Vivica is a beautiful human being, and Loni, I love her
My nana always talks about how she’s not going to be with us much longer and I’m like.. you’re 60 lady relax! Lol she has her burial services planned and everything. It’s morbid but it’s real :(
Your nana is considerate and sounds lovely. She doesn’t want to be a burden and wants to prepare her loved ones for the inevitable. It’s not pleasant but she’s thinking ahead.
@@WellBeing999 she is definitely considerate and so lovely. She's got everything handled and honestly it brings me peace that she isn't scared of death. Just super hard even thinking about it 🥺
It’s crazy I’m going through this with my siblings right nowww
The reason I think its important to keep them home is because they're not even legally obligated to bathe ppl everyday. They do like every other day or every two days: unless its a life threatening sickness where your parents need 24/7 care...let them stay in the home. I appreciate loni idea of still letting her mom have her freedom...
Such a intense , but Beautiful Episode ❤️ !
Ms.Vivica is a true gem. Any man would be so lucky to have her in their life as a partner.
I love these three !!
Bless anyone who become a in home caregiver 🏠🙏🏿💝💯
I conmend all of yall so proud unfortunately I ve already lost both parents.. but from what U hear sounds like U all got it all together And that's what's up .. My advice is spend as much time as U can vuz one there gone there gone.. I thank god I got to take care of my mom for about 6 or 7 mons before she died.. my dad pass same day I had my last child..
That color looks astounding on Vivica Fox. She looks so good!
This makes me sad it makes me think about my own situation 😔 I'm not exactly up in age yet but I have been in a situation where I had to physically depend on others for help. It makes me worry that when that time comes I may not have help. Im single as in never been married, no kids. I try not to think about it but its reality
Just like vivica me and my siblings all have roles it’s very important everybody help.
I just so enjoy Viivica Fox and Loni Love!
Me and my sister are taking care our father.
My mother is only 66 but have a lot of illnesses that will possible shorten her life 😔 so I tried having the conversation 3 years ago and it didn't go well 🤔 however I think COVID gave most people a different perspective on life and how they think 🎯 and out of nowhere she came to me and have the conversation ❤️ down to the point of even what to do incase of her death
This was a difficult but informative topic. Great job ladies. I loved wihen Vivca said that she wants to be cremated because her last outfit and wig ain't going in the gound. Lol!!! Too funny.
Omgsh talk about a tear jerker...
End of life care is important!
If you have the will and the money these things are easy. The hard part is watching your parents degenerate in front your eyes and become helpless and probably forget who you are
That happens with or without money (parents declining and some becoming helpless or some forgetting who you are). Money doesn't solve all problems. It's just a tool that has to be used/managed wisely but it doesn't prevent you from suffering.
Be well and be at peace.
It really sucks being single and having no children and trying to take care of your parents.
Going through it too ❤️