I’m 48 and in a 2 year relationship with my 22 year old filipina fiancé. I’m the only man she’s ever touched and she’s very mature for her age. We have an amazing relationship and I can’t wait to marry her. LDR is tough, but we talk every day and of a disagreement arises, we work it out. As with any relationship, it takes patience, commitment and understanding. Filipina women are AMAZING and are worth whatever effort you need to put into it.
Junior Dunkley believe it or not, most filipina are attracted to a man that is kind hearted, works hard, fears God and treats her right. It’s not always about looks when dealing with the filipina woman. I know it’s hard to understand, but it’s the truth.
Those points work for couples of any age - large gap or not. My Asawa and I have a 3-year age gap and we have been married 30 years. Filipinas are the best!
Thomas Scott 24 yrs here ...if you are fortunate enough to find a gal w/ a good family , she ll likely be an easier match ,w/ good ethics .If she had an abusive parent especially the dad, shes gonna have male trust issues ,just like the gals here. Women are women .... A good Filipina appreciates things for what they are ,at most any age .
My Filipina gf is 25 years younger than I am. It's been over 4 years and it's better than ever! We're happy and that's all that matters. I was married for 20 years to a Western woman 2 years younger - nowhere near as good as what I have today. It's nobody else's business who I choose to have a relationship with.
@Christmas Trees you are making a lot of assumptions. Relationships are based on many different factors, physical attraction being one. Why do you assume that she's sacrificed her happiness and that I'd want to be with someone who isn't happy? Lots of assumptions.....
@Christmas Trees I agree in essence with what you're saying. I'm suspicious of outliers and I don't like to consider myself one. I have no intention of defending myself or my relationship. The point that I'm making is that I object to is sweeping generalizations. I don't think that either me or my gf are "sacrificing" ourselves. Both of our lives have improved considerably since getting together which is what a relationship should do. Perhaps physical attraction plays a greater role for me than it does for her. However, she often comments on my physical appearance as do her friends describing me as "guapo". In the end, it doesn't matter what others think about us or our relationship. We're happy together and our relationship works for us. We've been together for over 4 years and get along better than ever. Maybe it's not the norm nor does it fit the typical relationship model however it works for us as odd and unusual as it may appear to others.
@Christmas Trees no it doesn't. She has options other than me, just like I have options other than her. Her friends tell her that she's lucky to have me and she agrees. I feel the same way about her. You seem to have some notion that since she's 25 years younger than I am, that she must be desperate and willingly sacrifice herself for her family. And that I'm some creepy old pervert happily exploiting a younger woman. I was married for 20 years to a woman very close to my own age. It didn't work out and now I'm happy with someone 25 years younger. It doesn't HAVE to work out for either of us, but it's working now which is all that matters as far as I'm concerned.
@Christmas Trees I understand where you're coming from. It's always sad to see a rich old person exploit a poor young vulnerable person. Even if her circumstances are dire, it's not fair to take advantage of that situation. I'm 60, my gf is 35. She's a teacher and can take care of herself. The fact that we have a 25 year age difference doesn't bother either of us. People may judge us based on their opinion about what constitutes and appropriate age gap. . Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. In my case, I'm happier with someone 25 years younger than I was with someone 2 years younger and she feels the same way, also having been married to someone closer to her own age. At the end of the day it's doing what works, regardless of other people's opinions.
@@pauls4742 If she was multimillionairy, do you think she would choose you? I have watched not to long ago an documentary on bancroft about age gap. Reality is unless you are a young foreigner chances are low she is in love with you. Most likely in love with the idea what life you can provide to her. 😛 But thats ok. She uses u for money and u her for her youth. 😛
My filipina wife is 25 years younger than me, we did move to the Philippines and lived in Manila for 6 mounts and l love it but she didn't so we moved back home to my country Norway again, we have now been together for 3 years and marriage for 2 years, and we have had our up and downs like every couple l guess, but we now have a nice life here and now she is pregnant with our first child l will be 58 years old when the baby is born and she is 33 then, but its just fine we are bout looking forward to this and l am just happy that we are home now because of the corona virus. But l got a new life with my wife again and from before l have 2 grownup children and l am a grandpa as well to soon 3 kids. But life is what you make of it and l mean what is life without children l know l will not live to see all of my new child life but l am happy if l can see it become 25 years old that will make me happy, and l am telling all of you guys out there who are thinking of getting a filipina wife, l say "go for it", and it is all what you make of it man, be happy and to all of you stay safe
I have found my pina, after having been in contact with messenger for 2 years every day for a few hours. During that time we have grown closer and closer and decided to take the next step. I traveled to the Philippines in April 2019 to meet her, I had already arranged everything in advance so that we could get married if everything were really the way we felt. We got married in May 2019 and I really met the prettiest and sweetest woman in the Philippines. go there again for Christmas and New Year and arrange everything to live in the philippines to be with her every day for the rest of my life. I have never met such lovely and beautiful people I have met many lovely friends so it can really be if you are honest
@Christmas Trees if you cannot take this type of marriage seriously, you should also keep quiet and not condemn it. There are also people who have really found happiness and have not had any bad experiences.
@Christmas Trees Hey dumbass!!! That legislation will never become reality. People are free to marry who they please within reason. By the way does your life totally have no meaning? Are you some radical feminist? Or are you a smartass with a lot of time on your hands. You comment on just about every man here. Wow! Your incredible!!! You should go marry a guy 70 years older and live happily ever after.......or are you a 70 year old guy pretending to be a butt hurt asian woman?
@Christmas Trees That's why it's better to get married in the US instead, if the countries are going to be like that.........AND like a comment up above stated, if a male movie star married a female who was 20 years younger, nobody would think anything of it......... Also, I know SEVERAL American couples where there's a 20 or so(give or take a year or 2) age gap and they have been married for several years.....Again, I'm talking 20 years, which is pretty common, even here in the USA..... I'm not talking about 30 or 40 years, to me that's too extreme and creepy(but to each their own, I'm not judging)..... BUT Filipina women hold their beauty much longer than American Women.....I've seen very attractive 40 to 45 year old Filipina Women...
@Christmas Trees I'm saying that 20 year age gap is more common than you think, that's all........And again, when it happens to movie stars, nobody says anything about it..... Regarding your "old gross men" comment that you make on several threads, when you are 70 years old, are you still going to think that old men are gross? and if not, why? is it because you yourself will be old and gross then? So if you are old and gross, does that mean, all of the sudden the man is no longer old and gross? or at age 70, will you still consider him old and gross?
Only a 12 year gap? Thats nothing. I have friends who have married a filipina with a 20 or 25 year gap. Dont worry about what people think. If you love each other, thats all that matters.
14 year age gap between my filipina wife and myself. She's 4'11" tall and I'm 5' 10". She is 36 but looks much younger. A lot of people she meets think she is 16. So yes sometimes people tend to judge by what they see. And of course many of the American women are jealous. But like my wife says its not her fault that most of them are very obese and that makes them look much older even the women in their 20's. We have a wonderful relationship mostly because we both have the same mind set on finances and also share the same interests. If you would have told me 10 years ago i will meet and marry a woman 14 years younger i would have laughed it off. But sometimes there are people that only cross paths with you once in life and she was definitely that person. I have never met a more loving, generous and harder working woman in my life........and i never will ever again! Great video😀
@Christmas Trees Yes we are both in great shape. That is a very legitimate point you make. You see a lot of foreigners with young Asian women that probably haven't seen their male anatomy in years because they are so out of shape : )
@Christmas Trees Do keep in mind that most of these guys are giving these people a much better life than they would ever have and their families included. I am very lucky in the respect that my wife has a very good job and was supporting herself and her family before we met. I also did not meet her in the Philippines. We met in Chicago. The positive side for these women is the men will die way before them and most will inherit there money,pensions social security etc. We know several Americans that are married to filipinas and several of them are extremely wealthy. A lot of them are scuba divers and take the women all over the world with them on vacations. So do not feel as if their youth is being stolen. Many of them are living like rock stars : )
@Christmas Trees There is no argument at all. Only someone that is soured on the idea of an older man being with a younger woman. If this is the case then lets comment on guys like George Clooney and many others like him. And while we are at it lets discuss the American so called cougers. If your not familiar these are 40 50 and 60 plus year old women dating and marrying men or as you may call them boys in there early 20s. Just my opinion and that doesn't mean I'm right or wrong. Just putting it out there. I have seen the other side of the world and giving to a charity! Really!! We financially help 150 kids from my wife's province on Cebu. Had we never met this would not have been a reality. Many expats living in the Philippines and abroad that are married to filipinas have very big hearts and along with their wives are doing great things to help people there. We apologize if you are disgusted by the site of these untraditional couples. Remember you do not have to watch these videos. SKIP SKIP SKIP!! My friend: )
@Christmas Trees This is true anywhere in this world. In western society over the past three decades women have used their entitlements in the court systems to bleed men of most of their resources. I know this because i am one of them. I'm a lucky one because i still have enough left over to live a very comfortable life. Do i agree that not all of these men have good intentions "YES" i do. But many of them do have good intentions. I obviously am not a woman and can never see it from that perspective. And to be clear my wife was raised by her mother and taught to cook,clean,manage money and be feminine. According to her most filipino women are raised this way. She is very proud of these attributes and would never trade them to be a westernized materialistic woman. She is a very devoted Christian as i am. We believe in sharing our blessings and we do on a large scale. Watching these videos only tell a small part of what is usually a much larger story. If i told you what my wife's family had to do to survive it would bring anyone to tears. All that i am trying to say is don't put all the apples in one basket. There is a lot of good fruit to be considered.
@Christmas Trees Ok so we can agree to disagree ; ) and lets be clear on something. In western society relationships between men and women are always based on finances and status. That is an absolute truth. You can have a great man but if he does not meet the economic status that most females feel is acceptable he will be rejected. You seem like an educated individual and i respect that.
I found this interesting. I only ever had three relationships with women in my life. All three were long-distance. The first was with a girl in my own country. I was 27 and she was 17. Needless to say, I eventually got shit on, and it PERMANENTLY cured me of any interest in girls much younger than myself. It also permanently cured me of any interest in anyone involved in the so-called "Born Again" movement. My next two relationships were with Filipinas. The first one was fourteen months younger than me, but cultural and language differences eventually killed that relationship. The second one, the lady was two years and nine months younger than me. But this time, all those four things you mentioned lined up. That lady and I celebrated our 20th anniversary last year. We're both now growing older together because our ages are similar. Now I'm not knocking relationships with larger age gaps, but I do think that those four things are much more likely to match up if the age gap is not too much. Another aspect to be considered: When I have been back to the Philippines with my wife, I have often seen Caucasian men in their 60s and 70s getting around with Filipinas young enough to be their granddaughters. I'll keep my opinion of that to myself. But what makes me wonder is, have these girls considered that they will probably find themselves widowed within a short space of time? And after that, it's probably going to be much harder to find someone else because they will be a bit older themselves? To conclude my rant, I know relationships with a large age gap can work - your own relationship is evidence of that. But I think the chances of a successful relationship are much better if there is only a small age gap.
Joel Luna Yes Trust and love are the the most important things for any relationship regardless of age gap. We focused on more age gap related issues that come up regardless of love and trust.
My partner is 25 years older than me. But he is young at heart😊 I am proud to say that we actually get some comments from people we meet saying that we look good together. Maybe I look terrible or he just look amazingly good for his age😂😂 Age gap don't really matter to me since we click in almost everything. I love cooking, he loves eating 😂😂 I have that pride where if somebody says my food ain't good then I'll try to make it good😊 Anyway, coming from different culture we were like cats and dogs in the beginning. But we also knew that we can't live without each other for some reason. He ain't rich as many would say "I wonder why she can't live without him?" With a hidden meaning😊 We don't even go out much and eat in the restaurant like some foreigner and Filipina couple. We maybe go out to eat like four five times a year😁 We are on a budget. Never had maid. I did all the chores at home and more. I really tried very hard to learn to cook foreign food since I do love cooking. I want to live good with him though we are on a budget. I grew up eating dried fish and sometimes we didn't even have dried fish. We sometimes ate rice with cooking oil and salt or sometimes soy sauce. So I love to shy away from such while I can coz I believe that I can always eat those when I can't afford any other food. Food in the restaurant are just too expensive for us. Anyway, as I mentioned we were like cats and dogs in the beginning. No one would really think that we would last til now which is we are more than eleven years of being together by the way. We tried really hard to stay together though we fought a lot. We are really compatible in almost everything. He is pretty dedicated to us and I love that from him. He prefers to be with us than go out drinking. He drinks a shot or two at home. I like to stay home. I actually have peace at home. I just have my phone or tab and music. I'm not very much of a TV person. But I do watch sometimes. He loves his coffee and newspaper. Since we moved back here in Dumaguete he said he don't read much newspaper. We were in Cebu City for almost nine years. My partner goes to the coffee shop drink his espresso and sit there for an hour or two. Meet friends sometimes. Compatibility is not a question. Intimacy is not a question. When it comes to expectations, well I wasn't really expecting much. I just go with the flow. I just really needed him to be with me and be a good person to me. I can't speak for him coz he has his own thoughts about me. Anyway, we live okay though we don't go and travel around the world. Can't afford😊 We have a four year old son now. I share this because I am proud about our love story and I also heard a lot of people labeling us Filipinas with a foreigner to be gold diggers. Just to show that not all are gold diggers. I have three brothers by the way and my family are doing there own thing. My partner don't support them. He had given them small amount a few times but that was it and he did it on his own.😊 Don't get me wrong I do want to help my family but if I can't afford it then there is nothing I could do. I will not also pass the burden to my partner since if he doesn't want to do it then what can I do. At the end of the day if I am with a Filipino he won't be supporting my family too so I treat him the same. All I know that though we still have disagreement sometimes I am still happy to be with him.😊
Agree - you have to let your lady hang out with her friends, and be tuned in to what she is feeling. You have to remember she is younger and has a lot to learn - help her don’t act like her dad. I’m 60 and my girl is 25 - we live in Philippines because family is most important to her
@Christmas Trees Chrissie, most people learn by their mid-20s that the world doesn't revolve around their views and desires. think you still need to work on that concept.
The two of you are a great example of how marriage should be. There's good and bad things in life, life is a journey. Communication is a great building or structure in marriage, be it good or bad, for you to understand each other. Congratulations to both of you and I do hope it will be until death do us part 😊
No matter who you are, where your social status are bonded, your age or the age gap - one thing and one thing only is crusial and that you love your partner unconditional from the bottom of your heart. That includes both sexes. The filipina girl should go into a marriage with one major object on her mind and that is to love and be loved. And that goes for the man too.
But, isn't that what's the marriage is all about? "To Love and be Love"? But, if one person will become a verbal abusive and controller after affew years of marriage? Remember no woman will walk away from a good man. 😉
21 years age difference me and my partner and guess what? We had sparkling intimacy each day, he is my best friend through ups and down. We been together for almost three years now and counting for more. He is the best thing happened to me, and to my adorable litttle boy.
Margie and I have a 20 year gap too. You guys have a great channel and bring up some really great points. We live in different parts of PHL. When we lived in Zamabales for 6 months, we hung out at an Expat restaurant and knew many of the local other age gap couples. Some of those relationships failed and fell apart because of some of the things you mentioned. Great advice!
It happens even between Filipinos. My uncle married a girl 25 years younger than her. Now, they've been married 35 years with two successful kids. So this is not only between Filipinas and foreigners.
When we went to my wife's High School 50th reunion last year in Zambales one of her classmates had married a young pinay and had two kids under 5 years old. it happens
I'm a home body. I drove a truck 35 years. Our gap is 19 years. We have been in a LDR going on 7 years. Will get her papers started next year. When I think it can't get any better, she surprises me.
I want to comment that I really enjoyed your video, it made me feel much better about the age gap. I am currently chatting with a really sweet girl that is 28 years younger than me. We video chat when she can, and we facebook message almost every day. Even though we have only been talking for about a month. I actually can see something happening in the future with her....With everything, I know it will take time, but for the first time in my life, I feel that when I chat with her, she is genuine and truthful. Not like dating girls from the U.S. Thank you so much for posting these videos!
I agree what his hubby has said. Me and my hubby has 40 years of wide age gap. The problem is that, just because they have been existing for 72 years or more. They knew everything but actually they dont. I'm on my 30's. They fail and they wont to admit that they were wrong. The good thing about, age gap is maturity. You will learn so much things from them. While both partners who has mutual interest, they will enjoy the company of each other.
I'm so impressed with the way you two present about this and other topics. I for one have taken alot out of this broadcast to help me and my younger Filipina partner have a even better relationship moving forward.
*You Guys Are Correct: in the past, when younger men have asked ME for a little guidance* on relationships... I've always told them... "The way you can TELL if you .... (if *YOU* ) actually Love that woman, is .... when you guys fight, at the height of the fight (and after the fight) do you merely want her to "Get Away" from you?" (And.then *STAY* away???) ...OR... do you *REGRET* the fight, and rapidly find yourself sorrowful about you two being apart... ? IF you find your own heart ACHING over the fact that you are distant (because of fighting) then.... guys.... do NOT fight - that - urge - ! .... it is called: "Growing Up" .... you must understand it has NOTHING , Zip , zero , nada .... to do with being "whipped". It means (in reality) that you may be willing to do ANYTHING to please your Lady..... you both just to need to clarify HOW it is, that the .... *TWO Of YOU* .... are going to do this, as a couple, working & growing together: @Crazy Filipina Love
Agree with your points, I can attest to them. My wife doesn’t want to be treated like a child or an employee, she wants to be treated like my wife. She has a papa and a supervisor already. Our gap is 27. An older man needs to help her to grow and experience things and avoid unhealthy control.
I am 35 years old my future husband is 29 y/0 from Texas , his definitely single and me got kids , but despite the truth he accept me for who i am , he love me truly and I have never loved like this way before , not until i found him . We're in two years long distance relationship and he came here once and planning to be here again .
Age gap is fine except when an old song comes on like from the 80s or 90s and the guy says "remember this song?". Girl says: "Babe I wasn't even born yet".
My partner is 25 years older than me and I happen to like old songs but I like to give it to him sometimes. I tell him that the song is only for old people like him then I laugh. But I do like old song since it's got more meaning than just swearing and "boom boom boom"😊
@Bill Brown ive been to the PI many times.since my days in the military as a matter of fact.up in Clark.been all over the PI after my service.even down south with the muslims.
Integration is the hardest part of a relationship. That's why I lived with her for 9 months in the Philippines before moving her here to marry her, and we still had time together here before the wedding to insure we had the time with a life together.
I think you wrong age is a big problem because I what to have sex with my husband but old men that cannot have sex with me that’s a big problem so age really a problem
It’s not really the age gap that it’s the problem though. If you have watched the video you will have seen that it’s one of the four issues discussed, that is the problem. You and your husband are not sexually compatible.
Shirley stedman Beauty There are those times when even a young guy can fall short on sexual stamina.... when that happens to me I tend to scuba dive a little more 😂 she loves it and it sends her to the moon
19 yrs between me and my husband. We have been together for almost 10 years. I couldn't imagine my life without him by my side. And to think, we would have missed out on our soulmates if we would have conspired ourselves with the opinions of others and what they may say. Yes, we have different ways of approaching and handling situations & We enjoy different activities due to the generational gap. We are complete polar opposites but we balance each other. I don't think of myself as having "daddy" Issues. However, I have always been attracted to alpha males that isn't afraid to take the ranes and lead. They have to be that to handle me. Someone that isn't afraid to set me straight, tell me like it is, and guide me in getting outside of my own hard head to look at things at different perspectives. I am also an assertive woman. Some people may call it an Alpha female. I do the same to him. Truthfully, in his eyes, it is my greatest asset and what he loves most about me as well. It's difficult to explain and there are not enough words to describe our love for one another. To sum it all up; age is nothing but a number. A successful relationship takes work on both sides despite how easily everything sends to flow. We just click. Two miscut, bent, and broken puzzle pieces that miraculously fit together perfectly, without forcing it. That is us. The Graves'. The perfectly imperfect couple
Age is very rarely the issue. Maturity and similar desires in life (which you mention) at where you both are are key. I've seen altogether too many similar age marriages fall apart when the two aforementioned issues weren't discussed at length before getting serious.
New subscriber here. My husband is 38 and I'm 22, He is Australian and I am a Filipina..He's 6’3 and I'm 5’2. This way people judges us especially my fellow people.. I sometimes heard them say "Hey, Jo, " to my husband Paul, and in every time people see us walking together, I sometimes heard them "Look at the filipina, 4Ms" "Your Husband is so Tall how do You do it, how did you guys f**k? Ohhh God!! I am a small youtuber, sometimes I get rude comments about me marrying a Man 16 years older than me, I'm like he's child.. I don't know why people can't understand the fact that age doesn't matter at all as long as you guys are happy and contented in life, I also don't understand why would people jump into conclusion, that if you married a man older than you it's just because he has Money.. Anyways, thanks guys, applause for both of you.
LAVA FAMILY Generally people will judge when they actually are jealous of what you have. Thanks for you comment! Congrats to both of you. Wish you a lifetime of happiness!
Some people would think the guy is a "pedophile". I had witnessed this when I used to live in California, it happened 4 times, when a lady, police officer, and a group of people would go up to the couple start bashing to the older man because the girl(s) looks like she's 12 years old.
LAVA FAMILY Don’t entertain those type of people. Focus on your relationship and gracefully ignore them. At the end of the day, it’s your life it’s your path, you’re in control. Keep living a happy marriage life.
You know what I find interesting is that these same people will say it’s ok if it’s two movie stars with a 30 year age gap is alright. You have two consenting adults! I find a lot of the negative remarks are from people that are just jealous. One thing is for certain I have never had dull moment in my life even when we don’t chat or talk on the phone for several days. She is the best thing that ever happened to me.
24 yrs difference ...I ve enjoyed the full table of our relationship. We travelled our first 12 of 15 years, because we both love travelling.... I m probably worth less, financially,than any time in my life,but Im happy ;and she has seen most of the world w/ me, AND I ve had a STUNNING travel companion/lover/wife/best friend at my side every step if the way
It's a great video. I am 42, been talking with a 27 yo filipina and was worried about the age gap. Now I feel much better about the idea of meeting her.
Iván Chavarre Thanks for watching. Yes, a 15 year age gap is nothing to worry about. You will click and it will be natural. My wife and I have 20 year gap and we have an amazing bond. Most important thing is that you share similar values and beliefs.
Just found out your channel today. Angelica is super cute and she speaks excellent English. I love how you point out these topic. It's helpful for us dummies lol
Great video; my lady is five years younger than me, I’m 58 and she is 54 so our age gap isn’t that much of a problem but for many I can see a huge age gap needs a lot of work and give and take
Really enjoyed the video and your insight. I am 63 and my last relationship ended a year ago to a western woman in her mid 30’s. like yourself I am healthy, young at heart as I’ve usually been in the company of younger people due to being in a band for many years, and I don’t feel right or compatible with women my own age. It’s not a perverted thing it’s just my mindset. I have a younger mindset and people just don’t understand it. I am in really good shape for my age and having never had children, and regretting now, I would love the chance to remedy this with someone I really love and care about. I’ve always given 110% to a relationship but they ( western women ) never give the same back. I’ve taken on board what you have said in your presentation, which is sound advice. I believe a Filipino woman is the right fit for me as a soul mate. I have been researching there culture and understand that the meeting of mind, body and cultures is the key to success in these relationships but I am still not sure of how to approach this in the correct manner. I need all the help I can get in order to get it right first time. I’m an average guy with an average job but I still believe I have so much to offer and most importantly I would love the opportunity to help someone achieve there full potential as the UK has all they would need to do that with the help and backing of myself. Am I getting this right and for the right reasons ? I could do with some feedback on this. Thank you
Robert Thomson Happy to help in any way I can Robert. Shoot me an email at bryan.howell@crazyfilipinalove.com. I will ask you some questions and you can ask yours away.
Age is nothing as long as you love each other and respect and so on,I am 32 years old and my fiance is 49 years old we are really love each other so much,may God bless you guys .
Age doesn’t matter as long as you are happy, compatible and in love. My husband is 14 years older than me and we are happily married for 10 years. Building a strong relationship is not that easy especially when your culture is different. We went through a lot of trials but we also passed it, there is no such perfect marriage relationship. Just trust each other, understanding and avoid fighting so that the issue does not escalate, and put God first into your relationship.
I am in a very serious relationship with a Filipina. She really is a very wonderful woman, and I truly feel blessed to have her in my life. I am 55, and she is 35. Very early in our relationship, she asked me how I felt about her and I having a child. I have two grown children age 18. I felt like I just spent 18 years of my life raising children, and now I am 55 and want to having " Me Time " But I also understood her point of view that she is 35 and she doesn't have much time before she would no longer be able to have children. On the other hand, she understood my point that I am 55 and if we had a child about a year from now, I would be raising that child until I was 74 years old. Does that mean I will be working until I am past 74 years of age ? That mortified me and it almost ended our relationship. She conceded to me on that issue. she told me that she has been caring for children most of her adult life. ( she is an Au Pair ) Things have changed at my job. I will only be working 15 days a month, or 6 months out of the year. I will be doing about 1/4 the amount of physical labor I was doing...So now I feel a little more open to the idea. She still has many years left in her for work, so maybe in 10 years, I can be a stay at home dad. That's really been the only real issue in our otherwise incredible relationship.
Weng's Man Thanks for sharing. Really appreciate your comment. Its reality. To have more Children or to not have more children is a big deal. If life plans don’t align this can mean heartbreak later on. I was 40 when I met my wife. We talked extensively about children. Currently I have 4 from my previous marriage, 7,9,10,12 and have 50/50 custody so Im in full blown active daddy mode. A little different than your situation. With this being said we discussed trying to have 1 maybe 2 more kids max by 45 or so. I love being an active dad and want to be there for any new kids we have just like my current kids. I want to be here to see them go to college, become an adult, get married and give us grandchildren. Its great that you did debate and really think about this with your Filipina. Wish everyone would. At 55 your still young. While having kids all over again at 55 may seem scary ( god willing and good health ) at least you will be there for the child. 55 is the new 35 right? Hahaha. So you’ll definitely have the energy to be active. Another good point you make is the financial one. Filipinas sometimes do not think about the difference in the cost of a child in the U.S. as apposed to Ph. I say this with the upmost respect for Ph, but the U.S. standard for being a parent and raising kids is very different than Ph. Laws, Culture, Parenting Dynamics, etc. Im very happy for you. We wish you the very best. God bless the next chapter in your life.
Just subbbed! After watching your video, I had to comment! My age gap between me and my fiancè is 12 years. I am a Filipino having been raised in the US. At first, she was reluctant to even talk to me, because in her mind, Filipino families are so judgmental! Well, we'd been exclusive for about 19 months until we finally met in person, and that's when I proposed! Our age gap was something we had talked about extensively, but she was at the age where our life paths were compatible, so that's why we worked! We're currently waiting for the NVC to send our application packet to the US Embassy in Manila, but I just wanted to say hello and give a little insight into your first point!
Hi , I just found your videos and enjoy watching them. It’s a good topic for discussion, and you make some very important and valid points. Age gap relationships can be more successful than the similar age relationships in the Western culture. Just look st the divorce statistics in USA and Europe where people typically marry someone within two or three years of their age.
@@one-clicksolutionssilverfo8977 Chris tends to pull info and thoughts from her personal beliefs that she speaks for all women, every where at all times.
I am 58 and my wife is 32 we become a year older in the same month we will be married 13 years in june 2022 I am very immature in ways mature in others lol me and my wife get along great.we have a child 9 years old.as I'm 59 my sex drive has gone down but still perform when I'm home.oir life styles are perfect for each other.my wife is very patient but also at my age I have become alot more patient than I was 30 years ago. Her and my son are everything to me
I’m 64, I date some Aussie women +30 years younger than I am, so are my friends, the biggest issue is getting old.. if I’m an old broken 80 and they’re a fit 50?
Love this video and so much truth here! My gf is filipina and 19 yrs younger than me but such an amazing person, couldnt imagine my life now without her
My thing is this: age not a problem but I start side eyeing these marriages when it’s not necessarily the finding internet love but the whole international equation. How do you know the person is not just looking for a way to get to the US????
Hi B-rocka! I think that's a valid question and perhsps you might feel that what I'm about to suggest seems to marinalize your concerns. If you feel similarly after digesting my thoughts, allow me to apologize in advance! The same concerns of intent and romantic integrity are ever present regardless of etnicity or country of origin! When one dares to become vulnerable and risk the possibilities of romantic bliss or be devastated by something less then a honorable attempt to build a loving, lasting & monogamous relationship or marriage. I'm of the opinion, that regardless of the stigma attached to Thailand, Brasilia, Russia or the Philippines, we should be as cognizant of a 'scam' or some degree of sexual, emotional, re-citizenship allocations & financial subterfuge even when considering nuptials with US citizens born within our contiguous borders and those newly adopting the US as their new country!
B-rocka...perhaps I did understand ur soft objection! I can only think that when I se...huh! Love is a RISK as I'm sure you are well aware and especially being a WOC...it's a DEADLY MINEFIELD of deception and attrition executed by little boys with MAN PARTS! The disregard afforded 2 BLACK WOMEN by these so called MEN is a mark of shame that affects change in a woman's life and in the lives of decent MEN (few there may be) who don't treat women as 'Disposable Pleasure or as a 'Cute Distraction'! I'm thrown into the same murky and lacking quality dating pool as the same male trash which has left brokenhearted women like so many accident on the highway of infidelity and deliberate malice against women! I've paid so many times a debt which HAS NEVER been my to bear! My mother is black and from her I should by default seek comfort in the bosom of a BLACK WOMAN! The pain,anger and distrust of me as a black man sadly has keep me from even looking forward to what should be a productive & like sharing experience of monogamy, fidelity & parental solitude with the plethora of beautiful sisters that are available...and yet emotionally damaged because they basically are suffering from 'romantic PTSD'! I've done all of the 'right things' to be prepared to shoulder the responsibilities of an 'Alpha' Black Man! No juvenile or adult criminal records, under, graduate & postgraduate degs,my own businesses in US preparing to expand to Asia &Middle East! As of the writing of this response I'm in Asia presently and have Ben here since Nov 28! I invited 4 Latinas to share 30 days in Dubai with me and brought them over to ring in the NewYear Dec 28 still here! I should be able to have 4 sisters with me!! Why shouldn't these sisters see Bangkok, Phuket, Singapore, Malaysia, Macao, Hong Kong & Taipei! No pay to play just woman I known for few yrs who do more than talk about black men all being FB or worthless 'rakes'. They're really not wrong to think this,but I don't want or need the drama! I just want some peace,enjoy being with ONE WOMAN as I was raised to do, live my best life with her and grow a family! I really don't think I will find that with a sister bc I've have become jaded from their indignation or indictment of me as a black man! Our communities of color are so bifurcation and brown from within! Sorry for beating you up lady! Being happy shouldn't be this difficult! I'll even raise another man's child as my own without calming them a stepchild or some degree of distance bc they didn't come from my seed! B-rocka I have what a woman needs...brainwashed in me by my mom & dad...that being the 'capacity to love without restrictions'! Just built a winter home in Mrtyle Beach,SC... $850K for what...just me! This is all mundane & sophomoric lady! Again, in Kuala Lumpur in a dazzling continual confusion and hopelessness! I need to leave all I built to a BLACK WOMAN. ..not Flipina,Thai,Latina or Singaporean woman!
12:23AM here in Kuala Lumpur. ...goodnight lady! U must be in Asia as well!"lol Don't know when this was sent. Have a good night or great day...probably the latter! Enjoyed the exchange! Hope U cross ur path again!
I just had my 50th Birthday and my beautiful loving Filipina fiance is 25. Ive got her talking about her life path and its a little sacrifice to do what she wants to do. But its ok ! Her goals are obvious and they are compatible with my own. Who is to say that life is better in the USA ? A few years will go by and I am pretty certain that she will want to go home after she has a good sum of money so that she may purchase or we may purchase a good home in the Philippines . Im really nervous . Ive never been married before and this is it. Do it or dont do it ? Im going against western culture on this one because The people in the USA dont know the difference between immorality and morality and are very corrupted in their deeds and their thoughts, Why would I ever listen to anyone from America. They are so wicked!
After struggling with philipino cupid for a couple of weeks, your bar analogy was helpful. I am going to the philippines soon to look for "the one" Any advice on where would be appreciated.
You guys look good together. While your wife is very pretty, you are also a good looking and fit man. I think this is an important point. If you were overweight and boring then you guys would not look like a good match. I'm young at heart and want to be active so maybe I can find a suitable mate in the Ph. with a age gap.
I am happy to find this video. Love can overcome many Boundries. I am Praying to be able to find that True Connection. I thank both of you for your honesty. Plus you both seem to be very down to Earth. May Peace be with you. Happy Holidays & Merry Christmas.
I love to watch your videos because they are educational.Your wife is fortunate to have you.Many Marriage will be transform if it's put into practice what they learn from you.Be bless more.
Thank you. Wonderful video. Very, very true. I'm 70; she is 52........Yep, definitely covered the important points. Another thought, regardless of the age gap, if you REALLY want to make it work, be patient and understanding as you said.
Jackie Morgan Thanks for sharing your comment Jackie. So much support here. Yes, there many times I need to be accepting and patient and vice versa. God bless
Hi We like your style in your videos. My wife is 30 years younger and its been great. My question is the following about housing there. We are moving to the Phillipines in about a month. We lead a very quiet meditative lifestyle. We are looking for a very low budget housing situation on preferably Cebu island (not the city). We don't need running water or electricity. Yes we are the back to basics types for sure. A search on the web seems to offer only very expensive housing for the western lifestyle. Can you recommend other sites or do you know of regions where houses of this type might be available for sale for even around 50000 pesos or less? Is there such a place? Thanks for your help. Maybe we can catch up with you when we arrive.
We have a 23 year gap of my,marriage. But we are married for 32 years. Funny that's the first question he ask me. He said we,need to have compatibility when it comes to bed. .and it's true. My husband died July 23rd this year after 32 years married. Missed him so much..
I enjoyed the video. I like how you laid it out with your clear 4 points and how all 4 points were spot on as what one needs to consider when thinking about age gap relationships. My wife and I planned to be in Bacolod now but the airline tickets were canceled on account of the coronavirus. We would be there looking to enter into a long term committed relationship with a young Filipina. We live an ECNM (Ethical and Consensual Non-Monogamous) life. There are many shades of an ECNM lifestyle. Some think of such a life as being a polyamorous life while others think of it being a swingers life, a non-monogamous life or a life with an open relationship. Whatever one calls it, all shades of an ECNM lifestyle are rapidly growing in the Philippines and we are looking forward to finding a young Filipina who is bi or bi-curious to share our ECNM life with us in a long term committed relationship. Since our trip was canceled we will reschedule to come for 2 or 3 months later in the year. We hope to have a condo we rent year around in Bacolod by the end of the year. We will live in both the US and the Philippines. What do either of you know about any of the shades of ECNM in the Philippines?
You both right.Im your follower in Facebook and even here,your topics always have sense for me.My love one and I is 33 years of gap and I feel that ways.My love one is not a typical man ,he is very smart to planning a life and little strict to my future.He ask me to continue my study to have a better life in future,get a good job and earn money for my self and for my family too.Sometimes I feel confuse.
I'd say the best youtube video on age cap compatibility. Asian woman v Western man. Thank's for sharing & all the very best to you both for 2021 & beyond.
Useful discussion. I agree with you. My two cents on a different tack. More about why the age gap is so commonplace. When a man is young, his underlying priority is to sew his wild oats. A young guy is driven to be with as many women as possible. He really isn't marriage material and the maturity level just isn't there. Let's face it. There is physical age and there is chronological age. Women mature alot faster than men. Sexually women peak in there forties. Men peak in there twenties. Most women who choose an older man do so because they want stability in their life. They are driven to start a family. After dealing with guys their own age what they crave is a man who is stabil. One that can provide for her. Someone who will protect her and be there for her 100%. That loves them for who they are and accepts their human imperfections and isnt jealous and insecure. Let's face it men are more visual than women too. A man isn't going to get all romantic and be able to perform with a woman who has totally let herself go physically and emotionally. He is more attracted to the feminine person. Someone who is nurturing happy and caring. Filipinas are all that and more. They are truly the light of the family. Who isn't attracted to a beautiful intelligent fun and fascinating woman. Filipinas expect a man to be a leader of the family. A provider. Tender and loving to her but still act like a man. It's pretty easy to do with a feminine perfect wife. Older guys aren't going to stray generally and they are more likely to be the perfect husband than a younger guy who wants to drink with his buddies, gamble and run around behind her back.
Same here I'mm a young 55 and she is 30. After talking to each for 3 months I'm finally going to see her and go to Gen San. I can tell she has a lot of pep and Im barely at that point of finally kicking back and taking it easy. I'm still a little hyper but it's slowly going away as I age. It should be interesting.
That's a very good question Mike. One I've given a lot of thought too in regards to my younger Filipna wife. A husband has a responsibility to make plans for that event....even if you're the same age. In my case I have mentored my wife to develop her own successful career so that if anything happens to me she can provide for herself (not to mention two incomes helps a lot). That's the most important step. I also have life insurance and retirement investment that she would inherit should I pass and last we are aggressively paying off our mortgage so that if something should happen to me she will at least have a house to live in. So a man who does not plan for this inevitability when he has a younger wife is just flat out irresponsible.
You mention sexual compatbility ; Married to Pinay who is 36 and I am 58 . She seems asexual ,or , has severe trauma issues because the three years she has been here in USA she avoids sex like it is the plague . She will not counsel , I am highly active , fit and adventurous vegan and love to travel . She is the homebody type content playing games on her phone on the sofa. I have exhibited immense patience with this situation and am at the point of Divorce contemplation. I have attempted talking with her ,,writing her expressive letters , counseled solo , but she seems adamant about sleeping in the living room on a sofa attributing it to PTSD . Our courtship was one year online , then married on my first trip to Philippines( Not the best course of action) we were compatible there, but shift seems to have occurred while we waited on marriage visa approval. At end of patience scale, any ideas or recommendations?
Well, Bro, if you're 20 years older than Angelica - she's either 15 years old or you look at least 10 years younger than you are! I honestly thought that you guys were 3 to 5 years apart in age. You're definitely both "Young At Heart" - and you have a great "Ministry" helping others with your well thought out advice! God Bless!
Me and my Filipina fiance, have a 13 age gap, 1. We are both active and not active depending on the day. 2. We expect each other, to be ourselves, and be happy with it too. 3. We're like a couple of jackrabbits. 4. Patients and understanding is something that we both working on, and doing good. But I must ask. For what it would take for a Filipina and American to happen, what would be the do and don't for the process to actually happen?
This is the most decent and respectful youtube channel one the Philippines relationship
I’m 48 and in a 2 year relationship with my 22 year old filipina fiancé. I’m the only man she’s ever touched and she’s very mature for her age. We have an amazing relationship and I can’t wait to marry her. LDR is tough, but we talk every day and of a disagreement arises, we work it out. As with any relationship, it takes patience, commitment and understanding. Filipina women are AMAZING and are worth whatever effort you need to put into it.
John Thornton Right on John. We appreciate your thoughtful comment. Filipinas are AMAZING.
It's easy for this guy he's good looking do she probably is attracted to him
congratulations brother hope you can visit her in Davao and I'm a soldier here your safe here brother
@@CrazyFilipinaLove congratulations brother
Junior Dunkley believe it or not, most filipina are attracted to a man that is kind hearted, works hard, fears God and treats her right. It’s not always about looks when dealing with the filipina woman. I know it’s hard to understand, but it’s the truth.
Those points work for couples of any age - large gap or not. My Asawa and I have a 3-year age gap and we have been married 30 years. Filipinas are the best!
Thomas Scott 24 yrs here ...if you are fortunate enough to find a gal w/ a good family , she ll likely be an easier match ,w/ good ethics .If she had an abusive parent especially the dad, shes gonna have male trust issues ,just like the gals here. Women are women .... A good Filipina appreciates things for what they are ,at most any age .
My Filipina gf is 25 years younger than I am. It's been over 4 years and it's better than ever! We're happy and that's all that matters. I was married for 20 years to a Western woman 2 years younger - nowhere near as good as what I have today. It's nobody else's business who I choose to have a relationship with.
@Christmas Trees you are making a lot of assumptions. Relationships are based on many different factors, physical attraction being one. Why do you assume that she's sacrificed her happiness and that I'd want to be with someone who isn't happy? Lots of assumptions.....
@Christmas Trees I agree in essence with what you're saying. I'm suspicious of outliers and I don't like to consider myself one. I have no intention of defending myself or my relationship. The point that I'm making is that I object to is sweeping generalizations. I don't think that either me or my gf are "sacrificing" ourselves. Both of our lives have improved considerably since getting together which is what a relationship should do. Perhaps physical attraction plays a greater role for me than it does for her. However, she often comments on my physical appearance as do her friends describing me as "guapo". In the end, it doesn't matter what others think about us or our relationship. We're happy together and our relationship works for us. We've been together for over 4 years and get along better than ever. Maybe it's not the norm nor does it fit the typical relationship model however it works for us as odd and unusual as it may appear to others.
@Christmas Trees no it doesn't. She has options other than me, just like I have options other than her. Her friends tell her that she's lucky to have me and she agrees. I feel the same way about her. You seem to have some notion that since she's 25 years younger than I am, that she must be desperate and willingly sacrifice herself for her family. And that I'm some creepy old pervert happily exploiting a younger woman. I was married for 20 years to a woman very close to my own age. It didn't work out and now I'm happy with someone 25 years younger. It doesn't HAVE to work out for either of us, but it's working now which is all that matters as far as I'm concerned.
@Christmas Trees I understand where you're coming from. It's always sad to see a rich old person exploit a poor young vulnerable person. Even if her circumstances are dire, it's not fair to take advantage of that situation. I'm 60, my gf is 35. She's a teacher and can take care of herself. The fact that we have a 25 year age difference doesn't bother either of us. People may judge us based on their opinion about what constitutes and appropriate age gap. . Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. In my case, I'm happier with someone 25 years younger than I was with someone 2 years younger and she feels the same way, also having been married to someone closer to her own age. At the end of the day it's doing what works, regardless of other people's opinions.
@@pauls4742 If she was multimillionairy, do you think she would choose you?
I have watched not to long ago an documentary on bancroft about age gap.
Reality is unless you are a young foreigner chances are low she is in love with you.
Most likely in love with the idea what life you can provide to her.
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But thats ok. She uses u for money and u her for her youth. 😛
My Filipina wife is 2 years older than me--we have been married for 30 years! She has a great outlook on life and is young at heart.
They never grow up.
My filipina wife is 25 years younger than me, we did move to the Philippines and lived in Manila for 6 mounts and l love it but she didn't so we moved back home to my country Norway again, we have now been together for 3 years and marriage for 2 years, and we have had our up and downs like every couple l guess, but we now have a nice life here and now she is pregnant with our first child l will be 58 years old when the baby is born and she is 33 then, but its just fine we are bout looking forward to this and l am just happy that we are home now because of the corona virus. But l got a new life with my wife again and from before l have 2 grownup children and l am a grandpa as well to soon 3 kids. But life is what you make of it and l mean what is life without children l know l will not live to see all of my new child life but l am happy if l can see it become 25 years old that will make me happy, and l am telling all of you guys out there who are thinking of getting a filipina wife, l say "go for it", and it is all what you make of it man, be happy and to all of you stay safe
jan hansen Happy for you sir ....sounds like my experience
Thank You for the encouragement!
I have found my pina, after having been in contact with messenger for 2 years every day for a few hours. During that time we have grown closer and closer and decided to take the next step. I traveled to the Philippines in April 2019 to meet her,
I had already arranged everything in advance so that we could get married if everything were really the way we felt.
We got married in May 2019 and I really met the prettiest and sweetest woman in the Philippines.
go there again for Christmas and New Year and arrange everything to live in the philippines to be with her every day for the rest of my life. I have never met such lovely and beautiful people I have met many lovely friends so it can really be if you are honest
@Christmas Trees if you cannot take this type of marriage seriously, you should also keep quiet and not condemn it. There are also people who have really found happiness and have not had any bad experiences.
@Christmas Trees YES I AM 51 AND MY GF IS 49
@Christmas Trees Hey dumbass!!! That legislation will never become reality. People are free to marry who they please within reason. By the way does your life totally have no meaning? Are you some radical feminist? Or are you a smartass with a lot of time on your hands. You comment on just about every man here. Wow! Your incredible!!! You should go marry a guy 70 years older and live happily ever after.......or are you a 70 year old guy pretending to be a butt hurt asian woman?
@Christmas Trees That's why it's better to get married in the US instead, if the countries are going to be like that.........AND like a comment up above stated, if a male movie star married a female who was 20 years younger, nobody would think anything of it......... Also, I know SEVERAL American couples where there's a 20 or so(give or take a year or 2) age gap and they have been married for several years.....Again, I'm talking 20 years, which is pretty common, even here in the USA..... I'm not talking about 30 or 40 years, to me that's too extreme and creepy(but to each their own, I'm not judging)..... BUT Filipina women hold their beauty much longer than American Women.....I've seen very attractive 40 to 45 year old Filipina Women...
@Christmas Trees I'm saying that 20 year age gap is more common than you think, that's all........And again, when it happens to movie stars, nobody says anything about it.....
Regarding your "old gross men" comment that you make on several threads, when you are 70 years old, are you still going to think that old men are gross? and if not, why? is it because you yourself will be old and gross then? So if you are old and gross, does that mean, all of the sudden the man is no longer old and gross? or at age 70, will you still consider him old and gross?
Only a 12 year gap? Thats nothing. I have friends who have married a filipina with a 20 or 25 year gap. Dont worry about what people think. If you love each other, thats all that matters.
14 year age gap between my filipina wife and myself. She's 4'11" tall and I'm 5' 10". She is 36 but looks much younger. A lot of people she meets think she is 16. So yes sometimes people tend to judge by what they see. And of course many of the American women are jealous. But like my wife says its not her fault that most of them are very obese and that makes them look much older even the women in their 20's. We have a wonderful relationship mostly because we both have the same mind set on finances and also share the same interests. If you would have told me 10 years ago i will meet and marry a woman 14 years younger i would have laughed it off. But sometimes there are people that only cross paths with you once in life and she was definitely that person. I have never met a more loving, generous and harder working woman in my life........and i never will ever again! Great video😀
@Christmas Trees Yes we are both in great shape. That is a very legitimate point you make. You see a lot of foreigners with young Asian women that probably haven't seen their male anatomy in years because they are so out of shape : )
@Christmas Trees Do keep in mind that most of these guys are giving these people a much better life than they would ever have and their families included. I am very lucky in the respect that my wife has a very good job and was supporting herself and her family before we met. I also did not meet her in the Philippines. We met in Chicago. The positive side for these women is the men will die way before them and most will inherit there money,pensions social security etc. We know several Americans that are married to filipinas and several of them are extremely wealthy. A lot of them are scuba divers and take the women all over the world with them on vacations. So do not feel as if their youth is being stolen. Many of them are living like rock stars : )
@Christmas Trees There is no argument at all. Only someone that is soured on the idea of an older man being with a younger woman. If this is the case then lets comment on guys like George Clooney and many others like him. And while we are at it lets discuss the American so called cougers. If your not familiar these are 40 50 and 60 plus year old women dating and marrying men or as you may call them boys in there early 20s. Just my opinion and that doesn't mean I'm right or wrong. Just putting it out there. I have seen the other side of the world and giving to a charity! Really!! We financially help 150 kids from my wife's province on Cebu. Had we never met this would not have been a reality. Many expats living in the Philippines and abroad that are married to filipinas have very big hearts and along with their wives are doing great things to help people there. We apologize if you are disgusted by the site of these untraditional couples. Remember you do not have to watch these videos. SKIP SKIP SKIP!! My friend: )
@Christmas Trees This is true anywhere in this world. In western society over the past three decades women have used their entitlements in the court systems to bleed men of most of their resources. I know this because i am one of them. I'm a lucky one because i still have enough left over to live a very comfortable life. Do i agree that not all of these men have good intentions "YES" i do. But many of them do have good intentions. I obviously am not a woman and can never see it from that perspective. And to be clear my wife was raised by her mother and taught to cook,clean,manage money and be feminine. According to her most filipino women are raised this way. She is very proud of these attributes and would never trade them to be a westernized materialistic woman. She is a very devoted Christian as i am. We believe in sharing our blessings and we do on a large scale. Watching these videos only tell a small part of what is usually a much larger story. If i told you what my wife's family had to do to survive it would bring anyone to tears. All that i am trying to say is don't put all the apples in one basket. There is a lot of good fruit to be considered.
@Christmas Trees Ok so we can agree to disagree ; ) and lets be clear on something. In western society relationships between men and women are always based on finances and status. That is an absolute truth. You can have a great man but if he does not meet the economic status that most females feel is acceptable he will be rejected. You seem like an educated individual and i respect that.
I found this interesting. I only ever had three relationships with women in my life. All three were long-distance. The first was with a girl in my own country. I was 27 and she was 17. Needless to say, I eventually got shit on, and it PERMANENTLY cured me of any interest in girls much younger than myself. It also permanently cured me of any interest in anyone involved in the so-called "Born Again" movement.
My next two relationships were with Filipinas. The first one was fourteen months younger than me, but cultural and language differences eventually killed that relationship. The second one, the lady was two years and nine months younger than me. But this time, all those four things you mentioned lined up. That lady and I celebrated our 20th anniversary last year. We're both now growing older together because our ages are similar. Now I'm not knocking relationships with larger age gaps, but I do think that those four things are much more likely to match up if the age gap is not too much.
Another aspect to be considered: When I have been back to the Philippines with my wife, I have often seen Caucasian men in their 60s and 70s getting around with Filipinas young enough to be their granddaughters. I'll keep my opinion of that to myself. But what makes me wonder is, have these girls considered that they will probably find themselves widowed within a short space of time? And after that, it's probably going to be much harder to find someone else because they will be a bit older themselves?
To conclude my rant, I know relationships with a large age gap can work - your own relationship is evidence of that. But I think the chances of a successful relationship are much better if there is only a small age gap.
good points.
They forgot one thing, they forgot about the topic of “Trust.” That’s one thing in any relationship that also keeps the relationship going.
Joel Luna Yes Trust and love are the the most important things for any relationship regardless of age gap.
We focused on more age gap related issues that come up regardless of love and trust.
I wish i can find a man who is older than me to be my lifetime partner .
My partner is 25 years older than me. But he is young at heart😊 I am proud to say that we actually get some comments from people we meet saying that we look good together. Maybe I look terrible or he just look amazingly good for his age😂😂 Age gap don't really matter to me since we click in almost everything. I love cooking, he loves eating 😂😂 I have that pride where if somebody says my food ain't good then I'll try to make it good😊 Anyway, coming from different culture we were like cats and dogs in the beginning. But we also knew that we can't live without each other for some reason. He ain't rich as many would say "I wonder why she can't live without him?" With a hidden meaning😊 We don't even go out much and eat in the restaurant like some foreigner and Filipina couple. We maybe go out to eat like four five times a year😁 We are on a budget. Never had maid. I did all the chores at home and more. I really tried very hard to learn to cook foreign food since I do love cooking. I want to live good with him though we are on a budget. I grew up eating dried fish and sometimes we didn't even have dried fish. We sometimes ate rice with cooking oil and salt or sometimes soy sauce. So I love to shy away from such while I can coz I believe that I can always eat those when I can't afford any other food. Food in the restaurant are just too expensive for us. Anyway, as I mentioned we were like cats and dogs in the beginning. No one would really think that we would last til now which is we are more than eleven years of being together by the way. We tried really hard to stay together though we fought a lot. We are really compatible in almost everything. He is pretty dedicated to us and I love that from him. He prefers to be with us than go out drinking. He drinks a shot or two at home. I like to stay home. I actually have peace at home. I just have my phone or tab and music. I'm not very much of a TV person. But I do watch sometimes. He loves his coffee and newspaper. Since we moved back here in Dumaguete he said he don't read much newspaper. We were in Cebu City for almost nine years. My partner goes to the coffee shop drink his espresso and sit there for an hour or two. Meet friends sometimes. Compatibility is not a question. Intimacy is not a question. When it comes to expectations, well I wasn't really expecting much. I just go with the flow. I just really needed him to be with me and be a good person to me. I can't speak for him coz he has his own thoughts about me. Anyway, we live okay though we don't go and travel around the world. Can't afford😊 We have a four year old son now. I share this because I am proud about our love story and I also heard a lot of people labeling us Filipinas with a foreigner to be gold diggers. Just to show that not all are gold diggers. I have three brothers by the way and my family are doing there own thing. My partner don't support them. He had given them small amount a few times but that was it and he did it on his own.😊 Don't get me wrong I do want to help my family but if I can't afford it then there is nothing I could do. I will not also pass the burden to my partner since if he doesn't want to do it then what can I do. At the end of the day if I am with a Filipino he won't be supporting my family too so I treat him the same. All I know that though we still have disagreement sometimes I am still happy to be with him.😊
Agree - you have to let your lady hang out with her friends, and be tuned in to what she is feeling. You have to remember she is younger and has a lot to learn - help her don’t act like her dad. I’m 60 and my girl is 25 - we live in Philippines because family is most important to her
Christmas Trees No, he loves her, that’s all. If he loves her he is willing to inconvenience himself.
@Christmas Trees Chrissie, most people learn by their mid-20s that the world doesn't revolve around their views and desires. think you still need to work on that concept.
I am just entering into an age gap relationship with a Filipino woman. I appreciate you sharing your indites.
The two of you are a great example of how marriage should be. There's good and bad things in life, life is a journey. Communication is a great building or structure in marriage, be it good or bad, for you to understand each other. Congratulations to both of you and I do hope it will be until death do us part 😊
No matter who you are, where your social status are bonded, your age or the age gap - one thing and one thing only is crusial and that you love your partner unconditional from the bottom of your heart. That includes both sexes. The filipina girl should go into a marriage with one major object on her mind and that is to love and be loved. And that goes for the man too.
True
But, isn't that what's the marriage is all about? "To Love and be Love"?
But, if one person will become a verbal abusive and controller after affew years of marriage? Remember no woman will walk away from a good man. 😉
21 years age difference me and my partner and guess what? We had sparkling intimacy each day, he is my best friend through ups and down. We been together for almost three years now and counting for more. He is the best thing happened to me, and to my adorable litttle boy.
Margie and I have a 20 year gap too. You guys have a great channel and bring up some really great points. We live in different parts of PHL. When we lived in Zamabales for 6 months, we hung out at an Expat restaurant and knew many of the local other age gap couples. Some of those relationships failed and fell apart because of some of the things you mentioned. Great advice!
It happens even between Filipinos. My uncle married a girl 25 years younger than her. Now, they've been married 35 years with two successful kids. So this is not only between Filipinas and foreigners.
When we went to my wife's High School 50th reunion last year in Zambales one of her classmates had married a young pinay and had two kids under 5 years old. it happens
I'm a home body. I drove a truck 35 years. Our gap is 19 years. We have been in a LDR going on 7 years. Will get her papers started next year. When I think it can't get any better, she surprises me.
I think your right I think you made a great point about being at different phases
I want to comment that I really enjoyed your video, it made me feel much better about the age gap. I am currently chatting with a really sweet girl that is 28 years younger than me. We video chat when she can, and we facebook message almost every day. Even though we have only been talking for about a month. I actually can see something happening in the future with her....With everything, I know it will take time, but for the first time in my life, I feel that when I chat with her, she is genuine and truthful. Not like dating girls from the U.S. Thank you so much for posting these videos!
On point. My husband is younger than I am. We’re now in our 50s and looking forward to spending our golden years together. Peace and love
I agree what his hubby has said. Me and my hubby has 40 years of wide age gap. The problem is that, just because they have been existing for 72 years or more. They knew everything but actually they dont. I'm on my 30's. They fail and they wont to admit that they were wrong. The good thing about, age gap is maturity. You will learn so much things from them. While both partners who has mutual interest, they will enjoy the company of each other.
I'm so impressed with the way you two present about this and other topics.
I for one have taken alot out of this broadcast to help me and my younger Filipina partner have a even better relationship moving forward.
*You Guys Are Correct: in the past, when younger men have asked ME for a little guidance* on relationships... I've always told them... "The way you can TELL if you .... (if *YOU* ) actually Love that woman, is .... when you guys fight, at the height of the fight (and after the fight) do you merely want her to "Get Away" from you?" (And.then *STAY* away???) ...OR... do you *REGRET* the fight, and rapidly find yourself sorrowful about you two being apart... ? IF you find your own heart ACHING over the fact that you are distant (because of fighting) then.... guys.... do NOT fight - that - urge - ! .... it is called: "Growing Up" .... you must understand it has NOTHING , Zip , zero , nada .... to do with being "whipped". It means (in reality) that you may be willing to do ANYTHING to please your Lady..... you both just to need to clarify HOW it is, that the .... *TWO Of YOU* .... are going to do this, as a couple, working & growing together: @Crazy Filipina Love
Love it - so true :)
Agree with your points, I can attest to them. My wife doesn’t want to be treated like a child or an employee, she wants to be treated like my wife. She has a papa and a supervisor already. Our gap is 27. An older man needs to help her to grow and experience things and avoid unhealthy control.
Love Beyond The Sea Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Means a lot!
Yes... I super duper agree to your wife..
Correct...
I am 35 years old my future husband is 29 y/0 from Texas , his definitely single and me got kids , but despite the truth he accept me for who i am , he love me truly and I have never loved like this way before , not until i found him . We're in two years long distance relationship and he came here once and planning to be here again .
Crazy Filipina Love , hope i can add you guys on facebook . I really need a lot of question and i know you guys can help us out .
Age gap is fine except when an old song comes on like from the 80s or 90s and the guy says "remember this song?". Girl says: "Babe I wasn't even born yet".
lol.. funny thing, my wife knows franky valley and the four seasons, and that is older than me lol...
My partner is 25 years older than me and I happen to like old songs but I like to give it to him sometimes. I tell him that the song is only for old people like him then I laugh. But I do like old song since it's got more meaning than just swearing and "boom boom boom"😊
if youve been to the PI,you'll hear alot of 70s and 80s songs on the radio and karaokes and young people singing along.
@Bill Brownwhat does that have to do with my comment?
@Bill Brown ive been to the PI many times.since my days in the military as a matter of fact.up in Clark.been all over the PI after my service.even down south with the muslims.
Integration is the hardest part of a relationship. That's why I lived with her for 9 months in the Philippines before moving her here to marry her, and we still had time together here before the wedding to insure we had the time with a life together.
Patrick Murphy Well put. Appreciate your comment! Thank you!
Patrick Murphy as long as they love each other respect each other
Age dosen't matter,love is everywhere ,love is for everyone
I think you wrong age is a big problem because I what to have sex with my husband but old men that cannot have sex with me that’s a big problem so age really a problem
It’s not really the age gap that it’s the problem though. If you have watched the video you will have seen that it’s one of the four issues discussed, that is the problem. You and your husband are not sexually compatible.
Shirley stedman Beauty There are those times when even a young guy can fall short on sexual stamina.... when that happens to me I tend to scuba dive a little more 😂 she loves it and it sends her to the moon
Age gap doesn't matter as long as you understand each other . That's the point of the relationship.
That's right
I am glad the video creators seemed to be a very happy husband and wife. God bless y'all.
Ron B God bless you too, Brother!
19 yrs between me and my husband. We have been together for almost 10 years. I couldn't imagine my life without him by my side. And to think, we would have missed out on our soulmates if we would have conspired ourselves with the opinions of others and what they may say. Yes, we have different ways of approaching and handling situations & We enjoy different activities due to the generational gap. We are complete polar opposites but we balance each other. I don't think of myself as having "daddy" Issues. However, I have always been attracted to alpha males that isn't afraid to take the ranes and lead. They have to be that to handle me. Someone that isn't afraid to set me straight, tell me like it is, and guide me in getting outside of my own hard head to look at things at different perspectives. I am also an assertive woman. Some people may call it an Alpha female. I do the same to him. Truthfully, in his eyes, it is my greatest asset and what he loves most about me as well. It's difficult to explain and there are not enough words to describe our love for one another. To sum it all up; age is nothing but a number. A successful relationship takes work on both sides despite how easily everything sends to flow. We just click. Two miscut, bent, and broken puzzle pieces that miraculously fit together perfectly, without forcing it. That is us. The Graves'. The perfectly imperfect couple
Age is just a number....what matters is how you treat and how you understand each other.....
Our age gap is 14 years. Absolutely perfect. We adore each other.
Age is very rarely the issue. Maturity and similar desires in life (which you mention) at where you both are are key. I've seen altogether too many similar age marriages fall apart when the two aforementioned issues weren't discussed at length before getting serious.
I think these four points are important for any relationship/marriage, not just for a large age gap.
Age gap really doesn't matter...very inspiring LDR story i ever watched. I love it....More power on your RUclips channel guys.
Me too for one... I married with the age gap loving hubby...in 1991 Down Under.. we had a good healthy loving marriage life for 27 years..
New subscriber here.
My husband is 38 and I'm 22, He is Australian and I am a Filipina..He's 6’3 and I'm 5’2.
This way people judges us especially my fellow people.. I sometimes heard them say "Hey, Jo, " to my husband Paul, and in every time people see us walking together, I sometimes heard them "Look at the filipina, 4Ms" "Your Husband is so Tall how do You do it, how did you guys f**k?
Ohhh God!!
I am a small youtuber, sometimes I get rude comments about me marrying a Man 16 years older than me, I'm like he's child..
I don't know why people can't understand the fact that age doesn't matter at all as long as you guys are happy and contented in life, I also don't understand why would people jump into conclusion, that if you married a man older than you it's just because he has Money..
Anyways, thanks guys, applause for both of you.
LAVA FAMILY Generally people will judge when they actually are jealous of what you have. Thanks for you comment! Congrats to both of you. Wish you a lifetime of happiness!
@@CrazyFilipinaLove thanks guys.. More upcoming videos from you😍😍
Some people would think the guy is a "pedophile". I had witnessed this when I used to live in California, it happened 4 times, when a lady, police officer, and a group of people would go up to the couple start bashing to the older man because the girl(s) looks like she's 12 years old.
LAVA FAMILY
Don’t entertain those type of people. Focus on your relationship and gracefully ignore them. At the end of the day, it’s your life it’s your path, you’re in control.
Keep living a happy marriage life.
@@felglo5902 true! Thanks a lot.
Have a good day po.
You know what I find interesting is that these same people will say it’s ok if it’s two movie stars with a 30 year age gap is alright. You have two consenting adults! I find a lot of the negative remarks are from people that are just jealous. One thing is for certain I have never had dull moment in my life even when we don’t chat or talk on the phone for several days. She is the best thing that ever happened to me.
Richard Cole Right on! Thanks for your comment!
Patients and understand very important....especially withered the cultural differences. Good video, thank you
24 yrs difference ...I ve enjoyed the full table of our relationship. We travelled our first 12 of 15 years, because we both love travelling.... I m probably worth less, financially,than any time in my life,but Im happy ;and she has seen most of the world w/ me, AND I ve had a STUNNING travel companion/lover/wife/best friend at my side every step if the way
Every step of the way 🥰
It's a great video. I am 42, been talking with a 27 yo filipina and was worried about the age gap. Now I feel much better about the idea of meeting her.
Iván Chavarre Thanks for watching. Yes, a 15 year age gap is nothing to worry about. You will click and it will be natural. My wife and I have 20 year gap and we have an amazing bond. Most important thing is that you share similar values and beliefs.
Just found out your channel today. Angelica is super cute and she speaks excellent English. I love how you point out these topic. It's helpful for us dummies lol
Great video; my lady is five years younger than me, I’m 58 and she is 54 so our age gap isn’t that much of a problem but for many I can see a huge age gap needs a lot of work and give and take
For me older guy is better at least his more matured... like my man hes older to me almost 10 yrs
But hes very matured person that is one of his character I like on him
@Christmas Trees how about ten years and two months? On the border?
Our age gap was never an issue from the beginning☺️ we have 12 years age gap.
The Eaton Squad your gap is good
Really enjoyed the video and your insight. I am 63 and my last relationship ended a year ago to a western woman in her mid 30’s. like yourself I am healthy, young at heart as I’ve usually been in the company of younger people due to being in a band for many years, and I don’t feel right or compatible with women my own age. It’s not a perverted thing it’s just my mindset. I have a younger mindset and people just don’t understand it. I am in really good shape for my age and having never had children, and regretting now, I would love the chance to remedy this with someone I really love and care about. I’ve always given 110% to a relationship but they ( western women ) never give the same back. I’ve taken on board what you have said in your presentation, which is sound advice. I believe a Filipino woman is the right fit for me as a soul mate. I have been researching there culture and understand that the meeting of mind, body and cultures is the key to success in these relationships but I am still not sure of how to approach this in the correct manner. I need all the help I can get in order to get it right first time. I’m an average guy with an average job but I still believe I have so much to offer and most importantly I would love the opportunity to help someone achieve there full potential as the UK has all they would need to do that with the help and backing of myself. Am I getting this right and for the right reasons ? I could do with some feedback on this. Thank you
Robert Thomson Happy to help in any way I can Robert. Shoot me an email at bryan.howell@crazyfilipinalove.com. I will ask you some questions and you can ask yours away.
Age is nothing as long as you love each other and respect and so on,I am 32 years old and my fiance is 49 years old we are really love each other so much,may God bless you guys .
You guys are right on every point you brought up. Good job.
Age doesn’t matter as long as you are happy, compatible and in love. My husband is 14 years older than me and we are happily married for 10 years. Building a strong relationship is not that easy especially when your culture is different. We went through a lot of trials but we also passed it, there is no such perfect marriage relationship. Just trust each other, understanding and avoid fighting so that the issue does not escalate, and put God first into your relationship.
I am in a very serious relationship with a Filipina. She really is a very wonderful woman, and I truly feel blessed to have her in my life.
I am 55, and she is 35. Very early in our relationship, she asked me how I felt about her and I having a child. I have two grown children age 18. I felt like I just spent 18 years of my life raising children, and now I am 55 and want to having " Me Time "
But I also understood her point of view that she is 35 and she doesn't have much time before she would no longer be able to have children. On the other hand, she understood my point that I am 55 and if we had a child about a year from now, I would be raising that child until I was 74 years old. Does that mean I will be working until I am past 74 years of age ? That mortified me and it almost ended our relationship.
She conceded to me on that issue. she told me that she has been caring for children most of her adult life. ( she is an Au Pair )
Things have changed at my job. I will only be working 15 days a month, or 6 months out of the year. I will be doing about 1/4 the
amount of physical labor I was doing...So now I feel a little more open to the idea. She still has many years left in her for work, so
maybe in 10 years, I can be a stay at home dad.
That's really been the only real issue in our otherwise incredible relationship.
Weng's Man Thanks for sharing. Really appreciate your comment. Its reality. To have more Children or to not have more children is a big deal. If life plans don’t align this can mean heartbreak later on. I was 40 when I met my wife. We talked extensively about children. Currently I have 4 from my previous marriage, 7,9,10,12 and have 50/50 custody so Im in full blown active daddy mode. A little different than your situation. With this being said we discussed trying to have 1 maybe 2 more kids max by 45 or so. I love being an active dad and want to be there for any new kids we have just like my current kids. I want to be here to see them go to college, become an adult, get married and give us grandchildren.
Its great that you did debate and really think about this with your Filipina. Wish everyone would.
At 55 your still young. While having kids all over again at 55 may seem scary ( god willing and good health ) at least you will be there for the child. 55 is the new 35 right? Hahaha. So you’ll definitely have the energy to be active.
Another good point you make is the financial one. Filipinas sometimes do not think about the difference in the cost of a child in the U.S. as apposed to Ph. I say this with the upmost respect for Ph, but the U.S. standard for being a parent and raising kids is very different than Ph. Laws, Culture, Parenting Dynamics, etc.
Im very happy for you. We wish you the very best. God bless the next chapter in your life.
@Bill Brown I have two...both 18, I love being a dad....I did it because I loves them...
@Bill Brown LOL...what made you such a miserabe person ?
@Bill Brown then why did you come to my comment and tell me about all those things...calling me a breeder ?
Please go away
@Bill Brown another TROLL ! Ugh...get a life.
Just subbbed! After watching your video, I had to comment! My age gap between me and my fiancè is 12 years. I am a Filipino having been raised in the US. At first, she was reluctant to even talk to me, because in her mind, Filipino families are so judgmental! Well, we'd been exclusive for about 19 months until we finally met in person, and that's when I proposed!
Our age gap was something we had talked about extensively, but she was at the age where our life paths were compatible, so that's why we worked! We're currently waiting for the NVC to send our application packet to the US Embassy in Manila, but I just wanted to say hello and give a little insight into your first point!
As àlways saying age doesn't matter,love and respect each other.
Hi , I just found your videos and enjoy watching them. It’s a good topic for discussion, and you make some very important and valid points. Age gap relationships can be more successful than the similar age relationships in the Western culture. Just look st the divorce statistics in USA and Europe where people typically marry someone within two or three years of their age.
Hoping many people will watch this video para to get knowledge about marrying foreigner
Great video I have to agree there has to be physical attraction in a relationship yous made a lot of good points thanks for sharing.
@Christmas Trees how did you manage to get the exact figures for physical attraction only on one side 99% how did you source that information ?
@@one-clicksolutionssilverfo8977 Chris tends to pull info and thoughts from her personal beliefs that she speaks for all women, every where at all times.
Hi! Alex Stewart
@@jeanymaidintheworld1725 hi jeany Lou, how are you?
@@celebrateluv I'm fine thank you.how about you
Awesome video. Are you a marriage counselor. Excellent advice
I am 58 and my wife is 32 we become a year older in the same month we will be married 13 years in june 2022 I am very immature in ways mature in others lol me and my wife get along great.we have a child 9 years old.as I'm 59 my sex drive has gone down but still perform when I'm home.oir life styles are perfect for each other.my wife is very patient but also at my age I have become alot more patient than I was 30 years ago. Her and my son are everything to me
For me Age doesn't matter the important you love to each other hope I found one. Congratulations
5 to 7 years apart is ok but 100 years? hmmmmm
Age gap is not a problem as long as you both comfortable to each other new here ☺️
I’m 64, I date some Aussie women +30 years younger than I am, so are my friends, the biggest issue is getting old.. if I’m an old broken 80 and they’re a fit 50?
Love this video and so much truth here! My gf is filipina and 19 yrs younger than me but such an amazing person, couldnt imagine my life now without her
Love your video. I am an American who recently married a Filipina and we live in Singapore. 27 year age difference here!
My thing is this: age not a problem but I start side eyeing these marriages when it’s not necessarily the finding internet love but the whole international equation. How do you know the person is not just looking for a way to get to the US????
Hi B-rocka! I think that's a valid question and perhsps you might feel that what I'm about to suggest seems to marinalize your concerns. If you feel similarly after digesting my thoughts, allow me to apologize in advance! The same concerns of intent and romantic integrity are ever present regardless of etnicity or country of origin! When one dares to become vulnerable and risk the possibilities of romantic bliss or be devastated by something less then a honorable attempt to build a loving, lasting & monogamous relationship or marriage. I'm of the opinion, that regardless of the stigma attached to Thailand, Brasilia, Russia or the Philippines, we should be as cognizant of a 'scam' or some degree of sexual, emotional, re-citizenship allocations & financial subterfuge even when considering nuptials with US citizens born within our contiguous borders and those newly adopting the US as their new country!
Mace Mace huh?
B-rocka...perhaps I did understand ur soft objection! I can only think that when I se...huh! Love is a RISK as I'm sure you are well aware and especially being a WOC...it's a DEADLY MINEFIELD of deception and attrition executed by little boys with MAN PARTS! The disregard afforded 2 BLACK WOMEN by these so called MEN is a mark of shame that affects change in a woman's life and in the lives of decent MEN (few there may be) who don't treat women as 'Disposable Pleasure or as a 'Cute Distraction'! I'm thrown into the same murky and lacking quality dating pool as the same male trash which has left brokenhearted women like so many accident on the highway of infidelity and deliberate malice against women! I've paid so many times a debt which HAS NEVER been my to bear! My mother is black and from her I should by default seek comfort in the bosom of a BLACK WOMAN! The pain,anger and distrust of me as a black man sadly has keep me from even looking forward to what should be a productive & like sharing experience of monogamy, fidelity & parental solitude with the plethora of beautiful sisters that are available...and yet emotionally damaged because they basically are suffering from 'romantic PTSD'! I've done all of the 'right things' to be prepared to shoulder the responsibilities of an 'Alpha' Black Man! No juvenile or adult criminal records, under, graduate & postgraduate degs,my own businesses in US preparing to expand to Asia &Middle East! As of the writing of this response I'm in Asia presently and have Ben here since Nov 28! I invited 4 Latinas to share 30 days in Dubai with me and brought them over to ring in the NewYear Dec 28 still here! I should be able to have 4 sisters with me!! Why shouldn't these sisters see Bangkok, Phuket, Singapore, Malaysia, Macao, Hong Kong & Taipei! No pay to play just woman I known for few yrs who do more than talk about black men all being FB or worthless 'rakes'. They're really not wrong to think this,but I don't want or need the drama! I just want some peace,enjoy being with ONE WOMAN as I was raised to do, live my best life with her and grow a family! I really don't think I will find that with a sister bc I've have become jaded from their indignation or indictment of me as a black man! Our communities of color are so bifurcation and brown from within! Sorry for beating you up lady! Being happy shouldn't be this difficult! I'll even raise another man's child as my own without calming them a stepchild or some degree of distance bc they didn't come from my seed! B-rocka I have what a woman needs...brainwashed in me by my mom & dad...that being the 'capacity to love without restrictions'! Just built a winter home in Mrtyle Beach,SC... $850K for what...just me! This is all mundane & sophomoric lady! Again, in Kuala Lumpur in a dazzling continual confusion and hopelessness! I need to leave all I built to a BLACK WOMAN. ..not Flipina,Thai,Latina or Singaporean woman!
Mace Mace GoodNight
12:23AM here in Kuala Lumpur. ...goodnight lady! U must be in Asia as well!"lol Don't know when this was sent. Have a good night or great day...probably the latter! Enjoyed the exchange! Hope U cross ur path again!
im 42 my american bf is 34.. we have 10yrs age gap..
You sure?
a 34 yr old woman is not that young
I just had my 50th Birthday and my beautiful loving Filipina fiance is 25. Ive got her talking about her life path and its a little sacrifice to do what she wants to do. But its ok ! Her goals are obvious and they are compatible with my own. Who is to say that life is better in the USA ? A few years will go by and I am pretty certain that she will want to go home after she has a good sum of money so that she may purchase or we may purchase a good home in the Philippines . Im really nervous . Ive never been married before and this is it. Do it or dont do it ? Im going against western culture on this one because The people in the USA dont know the difference between immorality and morality and are very corrupted in their deeds and their thoughts, Why would I ever listen to anyone from America. They are so wicked!
I love this content . Me and my husband have big age gap but we are really happy because we have chemistry . We like the same thing .
After struggling with philipino cupid for a couple of weeks, your bar analogy was helpful. I am going to the philippines soon to look for "the one" Any advice on where would be appreciated.
Lets helping each other
Hello Mike Wiggins I'm Jeany from Philippines.and I'm looking a serious relationship here.i hope you can read my comments.
mike wiggins peak me! LOL. Hope you find ur the one!
You sir look like you've spent most of your life in a gym..Your Lady a doll. Not many older men are in your class of healthy, your built like a rock.
When I was 32 I was dating a 46 year old Filipino woman. She taught me more about sex that I ever knew!
You guys look good together. While your wife is very pretty, you are also a good looking and fit man. I think this is an important point. If you were overweight and boring then you guys would not look like a good match. I'm young at heart and want to be active so maybe I can find a suitable mate in the Ph. with a age gap.
Hi Sam!!! If you are still interested in finding a Filipina, we just launched our newly built dating website! You can sign up to crazyfilipinalove.com
Thank you so much for this. I am 56, and my filipina girlfriend is almost 39.
I am happy to find this video. Love can overcome many Boundries. I am Praying to be able to find that True Connection. I thank both of you for your honesty. Plus you both seem to be very down to Earth. May Peace be with you. Happy Holidays & Merry Christmas.
thanks, guys. Your video is a true gift from the heart. Thank you.
Hello David Walker
I have a question off topic how would a Filipino woman react two of them husband who was emotional are sensitive who might even cry from time to time
cry is normal brother
people who cry is real people
I love to watch your videos because they are educational.Your wife is fortunate to have you.Many Marriage will be transform if it's put into practice what they learn from you.Be bless more.
Thank you. Wonderful video. Very, very true. I'm 70; she is 52........Yep, definitely covered the important points. Another thought, regardless of the age gap, if you REALLY want to make it work, be patient and understanding as you said.
Jackie Morgan Thanks for sharing your comment Jackie. So much support here. Yes, there many times I need to be accepting and patient and vice versa.
God bless
Hi We like your style in your videos. My wife is 30 years younger and its been great. My question is the following about housing there. We are moving to the Phillipines in about a month. We lead a very quiet meditative lifestyle. We are looking for a very low budget housing situation on preferably Cebu island (not the city). We don't need running water or electricity. Yes we are the back to basics types for sure. A search on the web seems to offer only very expensive housing for the western lifestyle. Can you recommend other sites or do you know of regions where houses of this type might be available for sale for even around 50000 pesos or less? Is there such a place? Thanks for your help. Maybe we can catch up with you when we arrive.
I just stumbled on to your video, you guys are totally real! Excellent video, great advice, going to be looking at other ones. Thank You...
Love this.. We have 22 years gap with my boyfriend... This help a lot for me lol.. Thanks.. Keep up the good work..
Jane Trapal Sorry to disappoint you but Christmas Trees disaproves.
We have a 23 year gap of my,marriage. But we are married for 32 years. Funny that's the first question he ask me. He said we,need to have compatibility when it comes to bed. .and it's true. My husband died July 23rd this year after 32 years married. Missed him so much..
You seem like a great couple! Your life path advice is spot on.
I enjoyed the video. I like how you laid it out with your clear 4 points and how all 4 points were spot on as what one needs to consider when thinking about age gap relationships.
My wife and I planned to be in Bacolod now but the airline tickets were canceled on account of the coronavirus. We would be there looking to enter into a long term committed relationship with a young Filipina. We live an ECNM (Ethical and Consensual Non-Monogamous) life. There are many shades of an ECNM lifestyle. Some think of such a life as being a polyamorous life while others think of it being a swingers life, a non-monogamous life or a life with an open relationship. Whatever one calls it, all shades of an ECNM lifestyle are rapidly growing in the Philippines and we are looking forward to finding a young Filipina who is bi or bi-curious to share our ECNM life with us in a long term committed relationship.
Since our trip was canceled we will reschedule to come for 2 or 3 months later in the year. We hope to have a condo we rent year around in Bacolod by the end of the year. We will live in both the US and the Philippines.
What do either of you know about any of the shades of ECNM in the Philippines?
You both right.Im your follower in Facebook and even here,your topics always have sense for me.My love one and I is 33 years of gap and I feel that ways.My love one is not a typical man ,he is very smart to planning a life and little strict to my future.He ask me to continue my study to have a better life in future,get a good job and earn money for my self and for my family too.Sometimes I feel confuse.
Marina Marquez We appreciate your comment. An interdependent relationship is very healthy. It’s most fulfilling and balanced.
Very well said guys! My husband and I is 17 years gap..and doesn’t matter because we love and care each other❤️ love following you guys!
I'd say the best youtube video on age cap compatibility. Asian woman v Western man.
Thank's for sharing & all the very best to you both for 2021 & beyond.
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My husband and I are 17 years Gap we been married almost 12 years now
Age is doesnt matter its come love...because my partner is 58 and me is 35...
Celine Dione, the famous Canadian songstress-- wound up marrying her Manager. (20 year age difference) They OBVIOUSLY (passionately) Loved each other.
isabel Dela cruz ok lang yung gap niyo is good enough
Women are at their sexual peaks in their 30s. Is he able to give you complete satisfaction? Do you desire to have more than what he provides?
Useful discussion. I agree with you. My two cents on a different tack. More about why the age gap is so commonplace. When a man is young, his underlying priority is to sew his wild oats. A young guy is driven to be with as many women as possible. He really isn't marriage material and the maturity level just isn't there. Let's face it. There is physical age and there is chronological age. Women mature alot faster than men. Sexually women peak in there forties. Men peak in there twenties. Most women who choose an older man do so because they want stability in their life. They are driven to start a family. After dealing with guys their own age what they crave is a man who is stabil. One that can provide for her. Someone who will protect her and be there for her 100%. That loves them for who they are and accepts their human imperfections and isnt jealous and insecure. Let's face it men are more visual than women too. A man isn't going to get all romantic and be able to perform with a woman who has totally let herself go physically and emotionally. He is more attracted to the feminine person. Someone who is nurturing happy and caring. Filipinas are all that and more. They are truly the light of the family. Who isn't attracted to a beautiful intelligent fun and fascinating woman. Filipinas expect a man to be a leader of the family. A provider. Tender and loving to her but still act like a man. It's pretty easy to do with a feminine perfect wife. Older guys aren't going to stray generally and they are more likely to be the perfect husband than a younger guy who wants to drink with his buddies, gamble and run around behind her back.
Lovely couple. The age gap is not showing between you guys tho. Don't get me wrong but I was thinking she is even older than you. God bless you two
Same here I'mm a young 55 and she is 30. After talking to each for 3 months I'm finally going to see her and go to Gen San. I can tell she has a lot of pep and Im barely at that point of finally kicking back and taking it easy. I'm still a little hyper but it's slowly going away as I age. It should be interesting.
This topic goes for ALL coupling relationships, even with the girls next door from you, not really just for dating/marrying a younger Filipina.
Michael Charette Yes indeed it does go for ALL relationships. Appreciate your comment!
One question, what will the Filipina do once the old man dies. I seen Filipina widow with nothing. I live in the Philippines I seen it over and over
That's a very good question Mike. One I've given a lot of thought too in regards to my younger Filipna wife. A husband has a responsibility to make plans for that event....even if you're the same age. In my case I have mentored my wife to develop her own successful career so that if anything happens to me she can provide for herself (not to mention two incomes helps a lot). That's the most important step. I also have life insurance and retirement investment that she would inherit should I pass and last we are aggressively paying off our mortgage so that if something should happen to me she will at least have a house to live in. So a man who does not plan for this inevitability when he has a younger wife is just flat out irresponsible.
You mention sexual compatbility ; Married to Pinay who is 36 and I am 58 . She seems asexual ,or , has severe trauma issues because the three years she has been here in USA she avoids sex like it is the plague . She will not counsel , I am highly active , fit and adventurous vegan and love to travel . She is the homebody type content playing games on her phone on the sofa. I have exhibited immense patience with this situation and am at the point of Divorce contemplation. I have attempted talking with her ,,writing her expressive letters , counseled solo , but she seems adamant about sleeping in the living room on a sofa attributing it to PTSD . Our courtship was one year online , then married on my first trip to Philippines( Not the best course of action) we were compatible there, but shift seems to have occurred while we waited on marriage visa approval. At end of patience scale, any ideas or recommendations?
Very well said, yes that true.if we follow the Guidliness of being understang each other relationship will work .
Well, Bro, if you're 20 years older than Angelica - she's either 15 years old or you look at least 10 years younger than you are! I honestly thought that you guys were 3 to 5 years apart in age. You're definitely both "Young At Heart" - and you have a great "Ministry" helping others with your well thought out advice! God Bless!
@Christmas Trees Don't get out much, eh, if you think a small to no "age gap" is rare.
@Christmas Trees Yes, this is kinda true. But expats don't make up the entire world of Anglo/Pinoy marriages. Just a small subset of them.
Me and my Filipina fiance, have a 13 age gap, 1. We are both active and not active depending on the day. 2. We expect each other, to be ourselves, and be happy with it too. 3. We're like a couple of jackrabbits. 4. Patients and understanding is something that we both working on, and doing good. But I must ask. For what it would take for a Filipina and American to happen, what would be the do and don't for the process to actually happen?
Love the video. Very informative.