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My Girlfriend Lacks Enthusiasm, Effort & Interest For Me
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- Опубликовано: 28 фев 2023
- What it means when your girlfriend lacks enthusiasm, effort and interest in you and your relationship.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who has been with his girlfriend for 8 months. He found my work 5 months ago and has read 3% Man, twice. His girlfriend doesn’t reciprocate the same level of enthusiasm, effort and interest. He says he’s being too open. He can tell that he is more into her than she is into him. She promises to do things and step up her effort, but then she doesn’t follow through and gets upset when he calls her out on it. He’s mistakenly trying to complain her into complying with his wishes, instead of becoming a more attractive man so she naturally does these things for him that she no longer is willing to because she simply isn’t feeling it.
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I wouldn’t even complain. She knows that she isn’t putting in the same effort, she just likes the relationship imbalance. You just stop contacting her, and if she cares, then she’ll reach out to you. If not, then move on you focus on yourself.
It’s totally easy to say in theory but in practice it’s a whole different story.
@Sam AL you have to actually become it. When you get there you'll know, because you'll test women BEFORE you develop feelings.
@samal not really dude.
@@sam_alimiyour right. It depends on the girl, and the last time you’ve read the book. I’m in a situation similar (but not nearly as bad), and now it’s time for me to brush up on some Corey Wayne to get it back the way I like it.
After watching some Corey Wayne, you feel powerful and clear headed. But if it’s been a while, it’s gonna creep up on you
Don’t waste your time with somebody who doesn’t want or value your time.
kind of vein and unreasonable to expect any human to want your time 24/7 and to value your time over their own.
@@ImmersionCitizenIt has nothing to do with 24/7, or the quantity of the time at all. It’s about how the time is spent, if they are uninterested and dull that is a reflection of their effort and how much they care
"Confident men don't beg, men who have self control won't beg, and men who are a challenge cannot beg" - Doc Love: The System
Cardinal rules
I'd much rather be with a less attractive women that would drive an hour through a thunderstorm to be with me than a more attractive woman that doesn't make much of an effort to spend time with me. When they get complacent I start looking elsewhere.
Yep I agree. Start looking elsewhere
Even the less attractive ones change once they feel u like them
When she is distancing, work on getting a pilots license
I appreciate how CCW always mentions the "providing she is normal and healthy". Sometimes, women have past trama stuff that they need to deal with, and the mask eventually falls. Offer support, it's not up to you to be the fixer.
Yeah I was dealing with a girl that wouldnt talk to me for days. She wouldnt talk to me unless I spoke to her first. Even If I stopped talking to her for days she wouldnt care. I eventually realised she was a narcissist and that ignoring me is a Key behavior of a narc. I eventually broke up with her. Its not my job to be a fixer.
Aways match and mirror her. No matter what. So, you don't feel like you're doing more or feel unappreciated. Thanks, Coach. 💪🏾💪🏾
Match & mirror. I’d done this when she went a bit quiet on me for a few days a year into our relationship. Then get accused of never initiating contact with her. It was around her doing 80% initiating. Didn’t stress it, reassured her and said let’s video call (it was long distance) and put it down to her ‘time of the month’ type of thing, knowing in my head I’d been following the book and never chased or been needy. The polarity was always my focus. She said she was unsure, didn’t want to video call and said she needed time to ‘re-think the relationship’.
This is where I f**ked up in hindsight (but it didn’t register at the time) over the next few days. Because she’d communicated I wasn’t initiating enough, I remembered from the book to surprise her with a text. So the following day I wished her a good day and said I was giving her the time she asked for. No response. After hearing nothing for ten days, I rang her. Didn’t answer. At that point I stopped all forward motion. A week later she dumped me over text.
A couple of mistakes but I didn’t think they were major, I never begged, or pleaded, but, still got dumped.
"Doing your part and ignoring the fact that the other person is not is eventually going to get you dumped". True. There is no sense in spending that immense amount of energy if it is actually pushing her further and further out of reach. Doesn't matter if it's fair. Do what works or do nothing. No sense in reasoning or arguing with that which is outside our control.
Another video where it's the mans fault. FELLA'S...If your girl isn't showing you attention. Isn't putting in effort. Isn't showing interest, it absolutely is SOME of your fault but women have a responsibility to respark the fire as well. You're a TEAM. If you're #1 star player isn't running some plays, AND she won't do anything to help the relationship then it's time to consider a trade.
Don't let people tell you that it's all your fault. Demand more from your woman.
I have to agree, I’ve been watching him for 10 years now and he’s the always the men’s fault. I understand it, take responsibility as a man. But when you notice things like this, you should first address it once. And don’t bring it up again, just put less effort in and if nothing changes then you move on and wish her the best.
2 weeks ago i addressed this to my woman. (Been dating 5 years) I was headed to seattle. She didnt even have any idea because she maybe contacts me once a week through text. I told her there is no effort, no affection unless shes drunk, etc etc. She listened calmly then i left her house. She texted me right after and told me she doesnt want me thinking shes a heartless bitch. Since then she text me every couple days.
You have to hold them accountable at some point and back off to see if they care.
@@magnusabou9350yeah, Cory always seems to put it on the mans fault, and we need to change how we are so the woman puts more effort in. Half the time it is the woman’s fault
a side from girls and stuff, when I'm in doubt in my life I always go back to your videos. I don't know but it feels good and that future is brighter. Thank you.
It’s OK if my girlfriend loses interest or just backs away because she’s bored. It’s not OK if it’s because of another man. That’s when I would say it’s over. Never contact me again.
Can you elaborate? Because if she’s “bored” or “there’s another man” involved, she lost attraction either way it sounds like
Only boring people get bored. Tell her to get a hobby or find a way to spice it up. Women have 🐱 so they think
They don’t have to do anything in a relationship just show up
If you view yourself as a high value male and act like one, you wouldn’t accept her behaviour. There’s more beautiful intelligent women in the world than you could ever meet in a lifetime. Know your worth and remember, a lion doesn’t play with hyenas
Big facts… this info is if you still want to have sex with someone who is playing a tug of war game with you to try to gain power in the relationship. When you can just replace them when they start acting up. Been in relationships when women don’t pull back/act flakey… there out there
I have explored many many relationships and dating coaches over the years and there are some good ones out there but I always come back to Corey. You are a legend my man.
Corey your brilliant. Not only is your information on point but you explain it so well.
It's crazy how this is even a topic. If your girlfriend is not interested in you or attracted to you, why on God's green earth would you want to be with her?
Absolutely spot on every man should watch this
To the author of the email learn from experience, do as Corey says. I was acting exactly like you during my first relationship a few months ago and I got dumped. I did the same mistakes like you of over pursing, following her every whim, complaining and not judging the attraction level and how I can improve it.
Learn from my mistakes and follow Corey advice or she will dump you.
If after he interest and attraction level will be high and she still won't give to you as you give to her it's time to break it and go find someone who appreciates you and matches the effort.
Wow coach you're very inspired, how much wisdom shared in just one single vid i think this is your most important video for every man to watch in your channel ! ' Id say watch this video 10 15 times
"Women are like cats." I don't disagree with that. But if only they were like rational adult human beings instead of cats, how nice life would be. Then this poor guy could simply discuss with her that she is not giving him what he needs and expects in the relationship, rather than having to do reverse psychology in hopes that the mysterious emotions by which she is blindly guided will go in the right direction.
This comment is spot on, man. While CCW is very helpful to get the ball rolling in the right direction, he barely scratches the surface when it comes to the actual relationship psychology that guides our actions. We're not robots, after all.
Abundance mindset. There’s a woman out there you can have that conversation with. Don’t waste your time with the ones who are brick walls.
He already admitted that she was from a broken family. I dated a woman like this for too long, get out
So then how could you possibly settle down under the same roof in this situation. It would be a mess and a roller coaster ride.....eff that.
Ahhh, that was great!! Thanks for showing me what I didn’t want to see Coach. 🙏you’re prompt!!
Yes tough love for sure. This is what I needed to hear today.
Spot on coach!
MR WAYNE.... YOU LOOK SO GOOD AND HEALTHY!!! I am a 25 year old woman from the Netherlands and I have been watching your videos for years... Love the content and wanted to know what men think and what it is like for them. So thanks!
I love you coach. You are like a father figure to me.
If a girl backs away il go sleep with someone else. They know why and what they are doing. No need to explain
I'm not in a relationship but I watch this video twice and will do more because I'm in a situation like this where I met a woman. We dating and I grew to like her way more than she like me and I'm seeing it. I get no energy, barely any attention but only when she want me to do favors for her. Like she knows I'd do anything for her and yet she give the other guys on her roster more attention than me. Two days ago when she kick me out for another dude to come over I stop completely. Only a day later she call me saying where you been? I haven't heard from you no good morning no hey no call.
I didn't say nothing but I'm like I figured you don't wanna be around me so I'd slowly disappear
Dude, work on yourself and have some self respect.
@@davemaurer7341 well your mother is teaching me some grammar as she pronoun my name
bro " Two days ago when she kick me out for another dude to come over I stop completely. " This is the most disrespectful thing she can do to you besides hook up with another guy in front of you. Do not contact ever again. Practice some discipline and show some self-respect.
@@blair5475 yes. Well as of now I stop showing emotions and stop caring about what she is doing to her other male friends which come on I know she is smashing them. She finally realized I stopped. Checking on me now. But I been talking to someone else now but learning what everyone told me and applying it.
@@allhailzamasu69 remember there's three and a half billion women on the planet, treat her like two dozen of chicken wings hot, she's only one chicken wing, and you got 23 chicken wings left
Always a great reminder! Thank you coach!
100% being honest here, every single man I have rejected, I rejected because he gave too little.
What are you giving him?
@@mikemaryniuk571 Free therapy. The multidimensional value of a woman’s worth and presence, my listening and making him look elevated to society by having my company. That’s what every guy gets but behind that is individuated benefits of being with a woman. I like to massage a man’s hands while we are talking on the couch. I’m an excellent cook for my family and tend to cook extra and share good food with those around me. I can make any space beautiful and comfortable, and elevated in value. I’m a life source. You must be delusional because you had to ask that question… poor guy. :(
@@jillianroselovesfilmandchurros lucky man
Lazy woman
@@uncommonsense7399 verbally/emotionally abusive man?
Thank you coach for sharing your valuable knowledge from your experiences..
Mommy don't love me🙃😂😂
Do the robot 🤖 man it was soooo frickin funny 😆
Email translation... "I've been doing so much for her that my effort appears valueless. Now I don't know why she doesn't value my effort."
Always find myself looking for solutions in dealing with my girlfriend with Corey's videos then coach always adds "assuming she's normal, happy and a giver". Kinda difficult when you're with a girl who challenges you on everything and won't submit.
So conversing issues in a relationship is bad. Just figure it out. Got it.
I don't get so.... if they don't communicate I'm suppose to just deal with it ?
Thank you again Coach, spot on
Love it when CW does the falsetto voice impersonations😂
Thanks!
I was getting upset with my girlfriend because she was getting cold on me. Last night I was gonna talk to her about it.
After waiting forever to confirm she was even going to see me I sat down and watched this video
Whew…. Thanks coach.
I picked her up and we had a nice little meal and I kept my big mouth shut and listened to her talk about herself for an hour. Then we went for a little drive and I took her home. A bit of kissing and off she went. I will see her Saturday night but…. I won’t contact her till an hour before I pick her up.
I’m learning. I’m a 62 year old widower dating a 59 year old divorcee. I wish I knew the stuff when my beloved wife was still alive.
Thank you
I needed this
2 months ago i went through a friendly divorce (thank god), we share 3 kids. i started doing jujitsu… my ex noticed it.. and is acting strange towards me, something is up
I agree with everything you’re saying coach. I’m wondering if the time comes where she asks, is it better to tel her this is the intention, everything you said ?
Yea but the problem i have is if you can't love at my worst you dont deserve me at my best. Why am i loving her right now and doing all the shit she likes at her worst but, men have to upgrade their whole life just to get the same love and attention back. After i upgrade my life she dont deserve me anymore because she wasn't their to love me and care for me when i was broke and depressed. And now im supposed work out get more money and be more attentive to her feelings but not get the same back untill she feels like im worth enough? Hell na.... ima fool cause theirs a huge chance shes just emotionally immature and still wont be the women she needs to be, even after i broke my back to be a whole ass different man. Stay single kings and walk away it will save you time and a headache.
So once you're married and you two see eachother all the time, it's game over!!! eventually it all end in divorce and guy get screwed.
Match and Mirror, To Love is to a Give. You keep saying me me me me.....Maybe you don't love her as much as you are thinking.
Get a new gf bro
My god this guy is the boss
15:40 this guy needs to contact me cus I went thru this. I created Space, distance and it works. Whomever wrote this email but me up
Let’s keep it real here. Reading a book slowly and comprehending it 1-3 times >>>> rushing through it 10-15 times. You can expect someone to read a book that many times in less than 5 months. Cmon man. People are busy
It's not doestevsky. You can read it like 2x a week if you make time.
How many times are you going to say “you didn’t read my book enough”
This reality is hell
Yes...
Only jesus christ loves us...
Question i have been dating this girl for 4 weeks now and i sometimes see her at the gym... what do i do? Approach her? Or just smile and wave? Or wait intill she approaches me? Been thinking about this any advice?
Hey coach do you plan on making another “3%” book? I’d happily buy it.
I’m confused… I’m another video about little sex, you say you should stand up for yourself and say that your needs aren’t being met… that you both signed up to be each others lovers and your not feeling desired…. And yet this video you say you shouldn’t bring it up…. What’s the answer here?
Do both see what works
But when you do come from a position of strength and confidence not whining and complaining
I am in the same boat as this guy
Is it ever “too late” to go back the other way around?
If I “back off” now,do I risk her thinking that I’m seeing someone else?
Got that right that's not feminine energy at all, A girl that's running away...
A woman can lose interest because the man is emotionally unavailable. It can be a mirror of the man.
There is a difference between emotionally unavailable i.e. ignoring her and not communicating with her than a man that's being a rock and being there when she needs to communicate and emotionally connect
Guys, when my Girlfriend broke up with me I cried in front of her and feel like fu*king bitch.
It was hard year and my emotions just overwhelmed me.
I really feel ashamed and have not texted her or begged her to come back.
Any way to recover from this weak behaviour?
You can’t undo the past, it no longer exists. Work through the pain and continue to focus on bettering yourself and life in each moment. Take time for prayer and meditation a few times per day and do what comes out of that. Be grateful throughout the day, even for the breakup and how it’s benefiting you.
Yeah.. you recover by reading Corey’s book 10-15 times until you can give a lecture on it. Your life will be changed!
OK, so let me get this straight. Instead of taking the lead in the relationship, you're saying that we should let them lead and we need to adjust our efforts accordingly in order to preserve the relationship? Think about it. When we have to adjust the length of our messages to her because she adjusted hers, or if we have to back off and leave her alone when she grows distant, it puts her in control of the relationship and you just have to follow her lead, except that you're doing it without telling her what you're doing. I can't imagine that kind of dynamic is healthy or will last very long.
Spot on! Especially when she's distancing because the man is emotionally unavailable. She's doing so to mirror his own low effort.
No it’s not putting in effort into someone who won’t put in effort with you, when she does you reinitiate set dates and talk, but if she doesn’t put in as much effort have self respect
I took audiobook. is much easier to read it 15 times if you listen :)
When it comes to snapchatting good stuff t women and sending memes an stuff, do you consider that pursuing?
Does this apply to lesbian relationships?
No because they are both women
If women dont want the power, then how come you say the relationship is the women department?
She's for the streets. Get a cat 😾
I guarantee you she has dropped a million hints if not communicated directly about what he could do to make her happy and he is withholding these things from her and she lost attraction.
Hints? How about she actually asks like an adult and communicates?
@@ivanjefferson1806 well we do that too but if you were honest in reflecting on how a woman’s words influenced you, would you say that you took her at face value or would you say that you took one thing to mean another thing? Kudos to you if you are the rare and honourable man who can actually trust what a woman tells him. Most men make alternative presumptions.
@@jillianroselovesfilmandchurros I completely agree. But for the sake of time wasting and other things, what I'm saying is that it would be easier if most women could communicate it directly rather than dropping hints. It might come as a surprise to you, but men can't read people's minds. That's my point. Communication is very important in order to keep the relationship going
@@ivanjefferson1806 in my experience, any needs communicated in a direct and mature way were intentionally withheld but that’s not to say I wouldn’t communicate directly again with someone who had better character and better intentions.
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Whoa, no. Women don't seek validation from men we seek validation from other women. Women are just trying to find someone they can talk themselves into nurturing. Most of the time when I lose enthusiasm for a man it is because I had high hopes he would wine and dine me and then it simply turns into a relationship where he complains about work and asks me out on dates that serve his interests only. Time to contemplate for a while and attempt communication before most likely moving on to give a better man the chance to date us better.
😂 you sound like a treat