This channel is so valuable for people who struggle with being around others. My daughter is super socially awkward and watches these and has really come out of her shell a lot.
I can totally relate. I feel like these videos help because they people to think of charisma like a science, rather than an intrinsic characteristic. If it's a characteristic it feels like something I can't control and it makes me nervous.
@@homad9531 she's 13, so im sure that's part of it as well. Watching these with her though, I've seen her confidence grow a lot because she's a very analytical type person. Like the person above said, these videos make it more of a problem to overcome and not as much an emotional barrier to face.
@@SNinjaQK True, but don't let that create the dynamic or else the conversations will only center around them and they won't be interested in your situation
0:43 - #1: Set a playful tone from the start. 2:45 - #2: Use a self burn with no heat. 4:23 - #3: Tell present tense stories with a variety of voices. 6:00 - #4: Use a "cliffhanger" pause. 7:50 - #5: Be a likeable listener.
Funny enough, I learned some of this in a communications class in college. The professor was a failed comedian and joked about it. The class loved him for his lessons on life and honesty in communication. At the end of the semester I asked about his style of teaching and comedy. He replied: “use FUNNY, not damaging, self deprecating humor to get the audience on your side.” I’ve also heard Kurtis Conner say this too on his channel as well.
If it's something you would tell your closest friend without shame, then let it rip. It absolutely helps if you're not a piece-of-crap person who harms or abuses others (not damaging material). As an old fart, I have to say that life is short, and beating around the bush or trying to hide imperfections is a silly exercise. The sooner you get over that, and the more honestly you can interact with your world, the more you'll attract genuine people.
I get that but I have made comments that are jabs at my weaknesses but I can tell it came off as being insecure or self esteem being low. I never utilize it well. I feel I know what I’m very good at and know where I’m weak and unfortunately a lot of things I am weak in are things I need to do daily at work but I balance it with also being able to showcase where I bring value
@@Romon111 Ask yourself this: Would you make the comment/joke you have in mind about another person to that same person's face? If the answer is "No way!"-don't use it. You'll find you're hyper-diligent about potentially hurtful comments when it comes to other people. The self policing is built in with this exercise.
But they would only get on his case, and it would possibly mean something to him, if he was known for lifting, or trying to lift in contests, or be a big time pro in some sports, or something. If he was known for something totally different it would not matter
What helped me a lot when telling a story to people is telling the story not just in events that happened but also what was going through my mind. Like instead of saying something like ''I jumped over the fence, saw a guard dog and started running'' which would be what happened, you say ''So I jump over this fence, not thinking much of it, you know easy done this since primary school, I land and I hear something. In my mind I was thinking about all the possibilities of what it could've been, then I see a dog walking towards me, and in my mind this the biggest more scary looking dog I've ever seen, So I have a quick second of realization and then I start running like my life depends on it'' Same story through events, but one is so much better to listen to because it makes you feel like you're there because the listener knows the emotions that were going on throughout the story.
"Introvert" is just a label, almost nobody is completely introverted or completely extroverted, its a spectrum. Too many people use the label "introvert" to put themsleves into a tiny box that they have to exist inside. They use it as an excuse every time the get nervous. Guess what? Extroverts are nervous too, they just force themselves to do it until the skill develops, just like it would for any classic "introvert". If you dont want to be the comedian center of attention like Jamie thats fine, but dont expect to become a charismatic magnetic individual if you cant talk, listen, and tell stories with confidence.
I've been using these tips, especially the hand gesture ones, in my RUclips videos and I have felt a huge boost in my confidence and energy. It's much more draining to fake energy than being actually active and in the moment.
My mother was/is a very socially awkward and she used me as her shield…as a result I always walk into rooms with a smile, my presence is immediately known! Once I went to a fb group football party with people I only knew from fb and never met in person! I was so nervous but when I walked through the door I was smiling and I began clapping and stomping my feet saying “ the champ is here” like Muhammad Ali 🤣🤣 that got everyone smiling and laughing and my presence actually got the party started ! Little do people know I’m always terrified when I enter an already filled room!
An incredible comedian, actor, singer, dancer, athlete, super smart, a good looking dude. The list goes on. Most of us don't even have one thing going for us that's anywhere near his level
It is sound advice it seems. I am usually skeptical about 'self help' type gurus but this channel and Coach Corey Wayne are the only ones I really watch
"If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart." -Nelson Mandela
@@brrodyy HIS language would surely come under being a language that he understands unless you're willing to admit that a man wouldn't understand HIS language. Therefore, the quote isn't that good.
@@darkspeed62 people who are eager to complain and argue to prove you're intelligence are ignorant . Just to act smart you make noncritical negative commentary on one of the greatest speakers in modern history and add no bit of anything
The burn with no heat thing is interesting... I’ve definitely said things before which have had too much heat and wondered why the convo took a weird turn where people have to say ‘noo that’s not true ’ or something 😅 love these videos
Yeah, agreed. If the 'no heat' part wasn't emphasized so much I guarantee that many people (including myself) would have attempted this with a comment that either came across as fishing for a compliment or self-hatred, both of which can make people very uncomfortable instead of at ease.
I used to be a very naturally charismatic person. I nearly completely forgot about all the slight mannerisms I had, thanks to depression, covid, a lot of hard things that a lot of hard people face. I’ve been going through your videos like pringles haha. But really, good stuff from y’all thank you; I see improvements already!
You can get back to your old self, Alec! That's who you truly is, a naturally charismatic person! Remember that!! Live life fully, funny, and beautifully! Be well!
CAN I ADD ONE? ☺️ look at his eyes and lips. He always speaks with humor in his eyes and a slight smile like he’s holding back laughing. Psychology shows, if someone is holding emotion, it causes the audience to feel the emotion more (most of the time). That’s why comedians hold themselves back. Or seeing someone’s face twitch before crying makes the audience cry. Fox’s eyes have a stare, and the way he positions his mouth, is great for voice and tone for maximum effect. Great video
The hand expression technique is genius because I get cut off so frequently so I’m used to the habit of saying less. Now I’m confident enough to hold out my stories and explanations longer, thanks 😎
#1: Set a playful tone from the start. (Be louder, more high energy, start by smiling every time you enter a new room) but remember to switch to being genuine and back to playful Great storytelling: #2: Use a self burn with no heat. (Stay away from major insecurities) #3: present tense stories #4: a variety of voices (exaggeration to increase humour helps too!) #5: smile priming (smile with your eyes etc.) #6: punchline pauses #7: Use a "cliffhanger" pause. (Mid sentence) - to not get cut off, have your hand up #8: Be a likeable listener. (“Talk about)
The snap of the Spanx at 3:37 was when I remember losing it when I originally saw this interview. Jamie is one of the most talented people in the world; stand up comedian, improv comedian, producer, singer, songwriter, Oscar-level actor, and one of the best storytellers I've ever heard. What I like most about him is no matter how big he is, he treats other celebrities like he is a fan of theirs. He never takes himself too seriously and is not afraid to fan-boy in front of his peers whose work he really enjoys.
I’m watching this and noticing my speaking habits, and how I could change and add things to it from this video. RUclips really got people out here learning
As I'm normally the center of attention in parties this is a great place to check myself, reflect on myself, be a more true person, I haven't been listening too much last half year. Thanks for reminding me I should. It's not only for introverts. Extroverts, like me, can check themselves if they want to please other people and have everybody involved in the conversation. Having a good story with some good skills, like me, doesn't make your charismatic imho. Listening, like you just reminded me of, does that more. Being interested is more interesting then trying to be interesting. Thanks for the reminder, humility and what not.
So as a young boy and well into my early 20s, I used to be shy around new people and would have a difficult time "braking the ice" and starting up a conversation. I would actually become very defensive and would push people away...but the truth was, I wanted to relate to people and be more social...then, one day I decided to just be more spontaneous and use humor as a way to start up a conversation, I also developed the ability to "adjust on the fly" and change my tone or how "serious" I was given a particular scenario. I'd also poke some fun at myself and that was my way to say "hey, it's all good, we probably have more in common than we may think...let's talk." I noticed changes immediate and I now am able to relate to others, I am more confident, etc...little did I know that those "tricks" are actually taught and used by even celebrities. I can totally relate to this video and how Mr. Fox is able to engage others with just his "silliness."
I’ve been so lonely for the past 2 years and I’m tearing up because I think this video has given me hope I’m being able to talk with people again, wish me luck :)
He also makes immediate eye contact. He never puts his head down unless he is joking or laughing. This puts you at ease right away because it takes away the element of being surprised by your audience through head down and up approaches.
Instead of asking things like "did that feel good?" Ask "how did that feel?" Open ended questions about people's feelings on certain things, especially positive things, will bring a lot more interest and emotion to your conversations.
dont be afraid to spice up your questions by injecting your opinion or observation. say for instance, if you were to say “thats crazy! that must have felt good right?” you give the person the impression that you are actively listening and in tune with the mood of the story, and that you are engaged in the conversation. and one of the easiest ways to build this reflex as a listener and engage people effortlessly is by putting yourself in the person’s shoe’s within the story, and it will automatically begin to trigger your own reaction to the situation. like, if a person is telling a story about being late for work, try to imagine yourself in their position, also being late for work, and you’ll be more in tune with the story as its told, giving more engaging responses. there is right time to do this, and a right time to leave responses and questions more open ended, and knowing the right times just comes from experiencez
I ALWAYS enter every meeting with ‘Hello Beautiful People!’. All the way up to the owner, they love it and it sets the tone for the day. I’m not a manager but people look to me for guidance. But that’s a whole other story, learning to defer to those with knowledge
@@8675-__ - no. I don't even know that movie but I assure you, at 55, unless it's a friggin' old movie, they got it from me. I've been doing that for decades, since around 1994 or 5.
Great Person as well away from the cameras. he offered a passenger or asked for a passenger to get an upgrade like they airlines were going to do for him. He didn't ask for one and he was on his way home from Vegas show. We all were in line and when the crew asked him if he would want to go with them he can have first class, but then for a few minutes when Jamie asked for that request, they ended up, upgrading the both of them. I did hear that he doesn't like to fly and rather have a limo ride for 5-hours to Vegas, it was cool to see him twice on a flight and not screaming: I AM JAMIE FOX. just seems he wants to fit into the crowed for conversations. Great Man, Great Comedian, Great Singer, Great Actor and even a better family man. I am blessed to know in my lifetime people that really care for people. One if them is Jamie Fox. Now if he could just learn to ride a bicycle, maybe I wouldn't mind riding with him. Ha Ha
Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance-wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time.
@@tianalucas8147 People come here with the aim of chasing money more than knowledge and that will damage your progress, trust me. Chase knowledge first and I promise! The money will follow you just like it's following some of us now.
@@juliagoncalves4082 That's very correct And that is why most of them end up losing they money don't be in a haste to invest. Know what and who you are investing to and be sure that the person will deliver before I n v e s t I n g. Learn and get the knowledge first before investing..
@@sabrinaslime4493 Investment is the quickest path to financial freedom, the rich stays rich by spending like the poor yet investing! While the poor stays poor by spending like the rich yet not investing.
@@bogdanalindaragiu1314 That makes no sense. The networks will push anyone they think will drive ratings, which Jamie certainly would. But why would he walk away from a profitable, multi-million-dollar career as a movie star, singer, and comedian to become a nightly talk show host? The pay and prestige would be significantly lower. It would be career suicide for someone like Jamie.
@@kathifuller5332 you would think it makes no sense, but on the bigger picture it does. It's like all stores have one type of snickers and one of them decides to add multiple types to his store and only he has a provider for it. Others would be getting angry for lack of clientele.
Oh brother. “In our next video, becomes more like Superman. 1. Leap tall buildings in a single bound. 2. Use your X-ray vision. 3. Bend steel in your bare hands”
Great breakdown, now let’s see who’s gonna apply this information irl. Gonna be some serious script planning for what Jamie and many others do naturally. You get good at what ever you’re focused on most of the time. Jamie is focused on friendships and good vibes in social experiences. That’s where charisma begins. It’s not forced, it’s genuine.
Jamie Foxx was a sponsor for my overseas (american) football team. He gave us the greatest pep talk before our playoff game. Really awesome guy and i think you have his public persona down to a T
Man i just found this channel and this is DOPE! These are the EXACT things I do when I talk to people but I've learned wayyyy more tips that I will implement. Good job fam. 👊🏾
Man I've just came upon your channel in the last few hours and I've went on a binge watch since then. Love your channel and advice !! It definitely helps me and I enjoy watching and hearing your ideas and perspective of how to do things. I can have super bad anxiety traits when it comes to conversation and I find your advice very relieving and enjoyable! Any videos on how to act correctly and charismatic around those you're attracted to? When you have horrible social skills and are anxiety ridden?
Jamie Foxx is a walking genius that is humble. Here's a guy that's got so much talent that you could be intimidated and he makes you feel like you're at home in this house in his presence. Freaking amazing
it's funny how being an introvert I managed to develop all these things and are instictive now just because I paid attention to reactions and facial expressions. I always had to overcome my anxiety and in time it got to a point now where it is instinctive. Reading a lot of books helped as well, not for their knowledge per se, but the multitude of words that stuck in my brain help a lot towards expressing myself better.
1. Set a Playful tone 2. Use self Burns (but nothing that can hurt you feelings) 3. Tell stories with different voices (Don't forget to use a story gap first.) 4. Use Cliffhanger Pauses (in the middle of the sentence, and leave your hand up to let them know you're not done.) 5. Be a likeable listener, (ask Talk About Questions, Mirror)
Is Jamie watching this? Cuz this is so true. I always wondered why I liked him so much without him being a Dave Chappelle or Bruno Mars or Denzel Washington, but just ever so close competition to all of them. Just amazing
Eye contact and listening. Really listening. For example, if someone at work mentioned their dog's health, ask again later down the road how their dog is doing? Like be present to people, be engaged. Treat everything like their life is important to you as well. Being non judgemental is also a good way to connect with people. Be well friendos.
Power pauses and making people talk about themselves is key. Also, that slightly self-deprecating humor is disarming to others, allows the slightest dash of humblebrag without being overt, and makes others feel confident. Win-win.
Once I tried to be the person I want to be, rather than doing what I thought others would respond to, I became much more popular. We can't control others but be can control ourselves. Take thier thoughts, which you don't know anyway, out of the equation. See your life as a series of funny stories, a few bad ones, and life is so much more fun and interesting that " THEY" will be drawn to your energy. But who cared what they think, right? Almost every time I feel bored or frustrated, I ask myself if I am doing this because I want to , or am I people pleasing. Spot checking teaches you how much of your life you life for strangers.
you do a really great job of explaining what is on screen. I like it because I can clean or do other daily chores while listening to very clear explanations.
So I’m a people person and I love meeting new people, talking etc but my entire childhood I was really shy and although I’ve broken out of most of that. I still have moments where I’m not 100% confident when I’m in public settings with others who I may not be close with. These tips might just be my lifesaver into helping me become comfortable faster :)
As a fellow comedian with a background in sales and giving love presentations, this is all true and good information. I do this naturally but I also studied, and still study comedian’s delivery.
I do the cliffhanger thing all the time in conversations purposely for dramatic effect, but I find people start acting like “spit it out girl!” 😂 I think it’s different if you are an influencer.
When you invite people to talk about themselves - carte blanch, they tend to take control and assume thereafter that you're passive. And they will subsequently talk over and interrupt you. You have to become quite assertive to compete with them. I've never found this to be a good tactic.
I love your videos! For someone who has struggled with social anxiety from childhood, your advice is invaluable. I do wish you used more examples from charismatic women. Please consider looking into that.
One very important thing which isn't even mentioned: Jamie is totally in the experience -> meaning his gestures are like being in this experience. What for oneself may seem a bit 'overacting' in that very second of telling a story is actually very helpful.
It seems as if most of these tactics require a decent ability to “read a room” upon entering. Like the “Talk about” questions... you are going to have to be able sit back for a few mins to how people react to a variety of topics....then get them to expand on key points of theirs in a nonchalant way.
With Jimmy Kimmel, it looks like he deliberately read up on Kimmel before appearing on his show, unless just by chance through generic news, he got that personal information....
i'm pretty sure Jamie's studied different types of human behavior. He's a smart man and being familiar with various social methods is a necessity for all.actors. most actors don't apply that knowledge to their off screen interactions.
Could you do a charisma breakdown of Ali Plumb of BBC1? He is always commended by the celebrities he interviews and his conversations are always fun to watch.
Bingo!! Being authentic is the key even if you're a sociopath, which would be really astonishing...Phonies are the worst because they are constantly trying to scam others in one way or another and that is the biggest problem we have in our social relationships.
Nailed the humorous self deprecation today at work with a couple of colleagues... 1st colleague commented about a skinny colleague 2 (jokily) saying “Don’t you just hate these skinny girls!” Colleague 2 replied “I’m not skinny!” Looking at me to back her up! To which I replied, “girl! I could eat your body weight!” For the win!
This was a great analysis. Though to be honest, Fox has more talent than 5 talented individuals melded together, also alot of these skills have been built up from his various gigs as a musician, stand-up comedian, and acting.
Poking fun about yourself shows your target listener(s) that you are human and that you are at the very least relatable. That for me tells people that we have more in common than they expected.
Jamie is 90% goofy and 10% serious. Unless you are an entertainer, going anywhere near that level of charisma that often, is gonna fail. So embrace your inner Jamie, but reign it in. :)
Exactly. Same thing applies to Ryan Reynaolds. I'm more in line with Ryan naturally. I've always had that way of speaking since a child before I ever seen him in a movie. Very few people like it.
I've done the silent confidence, face your interviewee and maintain eye contact and use talk about. However, for me, its is so hard to do this on a constant/ daily basis. Even now, after many years, i still struggle to apply these. It actually works but i still struggle.
Hehe everyone practicing being charismatic in the mirror just waiting for the chance to get and use the new social skills! Should be ok, I think everyone will be a bit rusty :)
7:18 Dude that raising the palm gesture for giving the listeners a hint that the pause doesn't mean that m done speaking, its such a hack!.Amazing that is definitely coming in handy
This man had me since in living color. So glad he's getting back to comedy. Would lose it if he did standup again but no one seems to be eager to do that these days lol.
Things have changed. The crowd has gotten tougher. People lose interest really easy these days. That's where being a really good comedian as well as an interesting person has to come into play. Dave Chappelle is one of those people.
@@IbbiAhmed yep I think it's a mix of both. People are a bit more sensitive to certain topics, because of that there are many who are worried what going to hard on the jokes might do. This way of thinking keeps them from trying something new and bold enough to break through to those 'tough' audiences.
Back in the day we called a burn with no heat self-deprecating humor without truly hurting yourself. Communication is 1/2 of Psychology. If you don't observe before you speak, it's harder to maintain any charismatic response. This is called timing and responsibility of the story.
A couple years ago my life completely changed and suddenly people began reacting to me differently. Aside from learning to be self-loving and self-confident without being an arrogant person (took me almost 4 decades to learn the difference), I found myself being crazy magnetic to people like never before. I'm almost 40! 😳 But this helps me to understand what I was doing right. I thought I was just learning to really love myself and other people. But I still believe that's a main foundational factor. But understanding what is that play helps me a lot.
This channel is so valuable for people who struggle with being around others. My daughter is super socially awkward and watches these and has really come out of her shell a lot.
The Amazing Bacon aww that’s super nice 😊
I can totally relate. I feel like these videos help because they people to think of charisma like a science, rather than an intrinsic characteristic. If it's a characteristic it feels like something I can't control and it makes me nervous.
Good to hear dude, hope she overcomes her social awkwardness
@@homad9531 she's 13, so im sure that's part of it as well. Watching these with her though, I've seen her confidence grow a lot because she's a very analytical type person. Like the person above said, these videos make it more of a problem to overcome and not as much an emotional barrier to face.
@@AmazingBacon wish I can be as her,I watch these vids I gain confidence and boom back to normal lol, good for her
“Talk to someone about themselves and they'll listen for hours.”
― Dale Carnegie
how to win friends
@@SNinjaQK True, but don't let that create the dynamic or else the conversations will only center around them and they won't be interested in your situation
How to win friends and influence people, my fav book of all time.
@@skcrd6816 I didn't apply any of it's information cos I don't even like people
@@SNinjaQK I don't think you don't like people ,I think you're just scared of connecting with them which in this case we're on the same side of life.
0:43 - #1: Set a playful tone from the start.
2:45 - #2: Use a self burn with no heat.
4:23 - #3: Tell present tense stories with a variety of voices.
6:00 - #4: Use a "cliffhanger" pause.
7:50 - #5: Be a likeable listener.
Thank you!!
Thank you!!!
Thanks, 'that guy'
And now add the context also :)
I love when people do that I don’t have to watch the full video
Funny enough, I learned some of this in a communications class in college. The professor was a failed comedian and joked about it. The class loved him for his lessons on life and honesty in communication. At the end of the semester I asked about his style of teaching and comedy. He replied: “use FUNNY, not damaging, self deprecating humor to get the audience on your side.” I’ve also heard Kurtis Conner say this too on his channel as well.
That's a good point. I just found it quite to apply it practically though, but O guess you gotta start slow
If it's something you would tell your closest friend without shame, then let it rip. It absolutely helps if you're not a piece-of-crap person who harms or abuses others (not damaging material). As an old fart, I have to say that life is short, and beating around the bush or trying to hide imperfections is a silly exercise. The sooner you get over that, and the more honestly you can interact with your world, the more you'll attract genuine people.
I get that but I have made comments that are jabs at my weaknesses but I can tell it came off as being insecure or self esteem being low. I never utilize it well. I feel I know what I’m very good at and know where I’m weak and unfortunately a lot of things I am weak in are things I need to do daily at work but I balance it with also being able to showcase where I bring value
How to differentiate between funny and self deprecating humour?
@@Romon111
Ask yourself this: Would you make the comment/joke you have in mind about another person to that same person's face? If the answer is "No way!"-don't use it. You'll find you're hyper-diligent about potentially hurtful comments when it comes to other people. The self policing is built in with this exercise.
Silent confidence will take you along way.
Showing your confident without saying a word is an extremely powerful tool.
But first you have to be confident.
... realizing this is the first step in mastering the "The Quiet Swagger"...
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@@miklosernoehazy8678 that's right!
How to be that?
This channel gives you the answers to questions you’re too afraid to ask.
Dude I see you commenting everywhere hahaha
Had to say something.
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“No one cares if he has small legs”
Gym bros: “SHAAAME
do you even lift Broooo
@@gabrielkaam2 lol ion know but I do lol
"lift with your legs"
But they would only get on his case, and it would possibly mean something to him, if he was known for lifting, or trying to lift in contests, or be a big time pro in some sports, or something. If he was known for something totally different it would not matter
What helped me a lot when telling a story to people is telling the story not just in events that happened but also what was going through my mind. Like instead of saying something like ''I jumped over the fence, saw a guard dog and started running'' which would be what happened, you say ''So I jump over this fence, not thinking much of it, you know easy done this since primary school, I land and I hear something. In my mind I was thinking about all the possibilities of what it could've been, then I see a dog walking towards me, and in my mind this the biggest more scary looking dog I've ever seen, So I have a quick second of realization and then I start running like my life depends on it'' Same story through events, but one is so much better to listen to because it makes you feel like you're there because the listener knows the emotions that were going on throughout the story.
That was a great explanation. I think I need to use this more with story telling.
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That can work but my father does that a lot and I often get irritated with him pretty quickly lol
Thank you for taking the time to make and share this fantastic, practical example!
And people think I give too much detail!
As an introvert, this is the exact opposite of what I want. But I like these videos, so I'll watch.
Yea but being a better storyteller or being funnier are traits that are useful in life and i think everyone should aim for them
Its so hard to be "normal".
This is my nightmare.
You should emulate guys like Keanu Reeves then.
"Introvert" is just a label, almost nobody is completely introverted or completely extroverted, its a spectrum. Too many people use the label "introvert" to put themsleves into a tiny box that they have to exist inside. They use it as an excuse every time the get nervous. Guess what? Extroverts are nervous too, they just force themselves to do it until the skill develops, just like it would for any classic "introvert". If you dont want to be the comedian center of attention like Jamie thats fine, but dont expect to become a charismatic magnetic individual if you cant talk, listen, and tell stories with confidence.
I've been using these tips, especially the hand gesture ones, in my RUclips videos and I have felt a huge boost in my confidence and energy. It's much more draining to fake energy than being actually active and in the moment.
My mother was/is a very socially awkward and she used me as her shield…as a result I always walk into rooms with a smile, my presence is immediately known! Once I went to a fb group football party with people I only knew from fb and never met in person! I was so nervous but when I walked through the door I was smiling and I began clapping and stomping my feet saying “ the champ is here” like Muhammad Ali 🤣🤣 that got everyone smiling and laughing and my presence actually got the party started ! Little do people know I’m always terrified when I enter an already filled room!
Awesome story! Thank you for the honesty and for sharing :)
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One thing about Jamie is that he is a naturally funny guy. He doesnt have to force it like some other people do.
My thoughts exactly. He is literally a comedian, so his ability to tell captivating stories and hold your attention is very strong.
So you know him personally then??
An incredible comedian, actor, singer, dancer, athlete, super smart, a good looking dude. The list goes on. Most of us don't even have one thing going for us that's anywhere near his level
@@SKYSAW59 How does what they said even remotely imply that? Just stop. 😂
That's the thing, if I try emulating any of this, it probably will come out forced and awkward
A self burn has no heat. Ahh... I’ve been doing it wrong the whole time.
HAHAHA! Ironic.
Good example!
Yes, me too! Sometimes I'll make a joke like "maybe thats why I'm so lonley/boring/ugly ect" and jokes like that doesn't usually get me huge laughs
Lmao. But see... your getting it
@@miguelohara9534 Because people can relate to those jokes a bit too well and it doesn't feel good to laugh at themselves.
By eating a lot of iron and shocking myself I became magnetic
For like 2 seconds 'cause that's how long you were electrocuted xD
Get electric eels to bite you
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LOOOOOOOOOVE JAMIE!!! I’ve met him a few times in my lifetime and he’s the most consistent human I’ve ever met!
Many forget or don’t know Jamie Foxx started off as a comedian.
This is a result of years hone his skill of storytelling for comedic effect.
This guys channel is way better than any “self help pickup artist romance guru”
It is sound advice it seems. I am usually skeptical about 'self help' type gurus but this channel and Coach Corey Wayne are the only ones I really watch
"If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart."
-Nelson Mandela
Not the best quote really. The second part could be one and the same as the first part.
@@brrodyy HIS language would surely come under being a language that he understands unless you're willing to admit that a man wouldn't understand HIS language. Therefore, the quote isn't that good.
@@darkspeed62 people who are eager to complain and argue to prove you're intelligence are ignorant . Just to act smart you make noncritical negative commentary on one of the greatest speakers in modern history and add no bit of anything
@@darkspeed62 Nuancé is not your strong point, is it? There is a significant difference. Think about it!
I speak three languages all fluently so I don't understand the quote.
The burn with no heat thing is interesting... I’ve definitely said things before which have had too much heat and wondered why the convo took a weird turn where people have to say ‘noo that’s not true ’ or something 😅 love these videos
Yeah, agreed. If the 'no heat' part wasn't emphasized so much I guarantee that many people (including myself) would have attempted this with a comment that either came across as fishing for a compliment or self-hatred, both of which can make people very uncomfortable instead of at ease.
I usually agree. :) Lol
I used to be a very naturally charismatic person. I nearly completely forgot about all the slight mannerisms I had, thanks to depression, covid, a lot of hard things that a lot of hard people face. I’ve been going through your videos like pringles haha. But really, good stuff from y’all thank you; I see improvements already!
You can get back to your old self, Alec! That's who you truly is, a naturally charismatic person! Remember that!! Live life fully, funny, and beautifully! Be well!
@@camhaw aww thank you random person, that’s so sweet! 🥲
Hard people need not proclaim themselves as such.
Good Energy is Contagious. Your energy introduces you before you speak 🖖
100%
Just remember, he’s doing all that naturally, there’s no conscious physiological decisions here, just him being him. We shouldn’t overthink so much ✌🏻
No, its all planned mate, you totally miss the point.
@@buzzard720 lol agreed and if anything it is simply his thought process behind/about the conversation.
it’s okay to overthink, just make sure you stay rational and logical.
CAN I ADD ONE? ☺️ look at his eyes and lips. He always speaks with humor in his eyes and a slight smile like he’s holding back laughing.
Psychology shows, if someone is holding emotion, it causes the audience to feel the emotion more (most of the time). That’s why comedians hold themselves back. Or seeing someone’s face twitch before crying makes the audience cry.
Fox’s eyes have a stare, and the way he positions his mouth, is great for voice and tone for maximum effect. Great video
The hand expression technique is genius because I get cut off so frequently so I’m used to the habit of saying less. Now I’m confident enough to hold out my stories and explanations longer, thanks 😎
For me it’s a balancing act between this and also keeping your points concise and not feel like you’re just rambling.
Keep your hand out there so you can reach out and slap the person trying to interrupt you
@@tperk This made me actually laugh out loud 😂
@@abbyd254Same 😂
Radiating gratitude is the strongest force there is ❤️🌟
#1: Set a playful tone from the start.
(Be louder, more high energy, start by smiling every time you enter a new room) but remember to switch to being genuine and back to playful
Great storytelling:
#2: Use a self burn with no heat.
(Stay away from major insecurities)
#3: present tense stories
#4: a variety of voices (exaggeration to increase humour helps too!)
#5: smile priming (smile with your eyes etc.)
#6: punchline pauses
#7: Use a "cliffhanger" pause.
(Mid sentence) - to not get cut off, have your hand up
#8: Be a likeable listener. (“Talk about)
The snap of the Spanx at 3:37 was when I remember losing it when I originally saw this interview. Jamie is one of the most talented people in the world; stand up comedian, improv comedian, producer, singer, songwriter, Oscar-level actor, and one of the best storytellers I've ever heard. What I like most about him is no matter how big he is, he treats other celebrities like he is a fan of theirs. He never takes himself too seriously and is not afraid to fan-boy in front of his peers whose work he really enjoys.
I’m watching this and noticing my speaking habits, and how I could change and add things to it from this video. RUclips really got people out here learning
As I'm normally the center of attention in parties this is a great place to check myself, reflect on myself, be a more true person, I haven't been listening too much last half year. Thanks for reminding me I should. It's not only for introverts. Extroverts, like me, can check themselves if they want to please other people and have everybody involved in the conversation. Having a good story with some good skills, like me, doesn't make your charismatic imho. Listening, like you just reminded me of, does that more. Being interested is more interesting then trying to be interesting. Thanks for the reminder, humility and what not.
So as a young boy and well into my early 20s, I used to be shy around new people and would have a difficult time "braking the ice" and starting up a conversation. I would actually become very defensive and would push people away...but the truth was, I wanted to relate to people and be more social...then, one day I decided to just be more spontaneous and use humor as a way to start up a conversation, I also developed the ability to "adjust on the fly" and change my tone or how "serious" I was given a particular scenario. I'd also poke some fun at myself and that was my way to say "hey, it's all good, we probably have more in common than we may think...let's talk." I noticed changes immediate and I now am able to relate to others, I am more confident, etc...little did I know that those "tricks" are actually taught and used by even celebrities. I can totally relate to this video and how Mr. Fox is able to engage others with just his "silliness."
I’ve been so lonely for the past 2 years and I’m tearing up because I think this video has given me hope I’m being able to talk with people again, wish me luck :)
He also makes immediate eye contact. He never puts his head down unless he is joking or laughing. This puts you at ease right away because it takes away the element of being surprised by your audience through head down and up approaches.
Instead of asking things like "did that feel good?" Ask "how did that feel?" Open ended questions about people's feelings on certain things, especially positive things, will bring a lot more interest and emotion to your conversations.
dont be afraid to spice up your questions by injecting your opinion or observation. say for instance, if you were to say “thats crazy! that must have felt good right?” you give the person the impression that you are actively listening and in tune with the mood of the story, and that you are engaged in the conversation.
and one of the easiest ways to build this reflex as a listener and engage people effortlessly is by putting yourself in the person’s shoe’s within the story, and it will automatically begin to trigger your own reaction to the situation. like, if a person is telling a story about being late for work, try to imagine yourself in their position, also being late for work, and you’ll be more in tune with the story as its told, giving more engaging responses.
there is right time to do this, and a right time to leave responses and questions more open ended, and knowing the right times just comes from experiencez
If you have to ask...know that you failed. ;)
I ALWAYS enter every meeting with ‘Hello Beautiful People!’.
All the way up to the owner, they love it and it sets the tone for the day. I’m not a manager but people look to me for guidance. But that’s a whole other story, learning to defer to those with knowledge
You stold that!
From "Leave Everything and wander"....Italian couple about to have first baby in Italy.
@@8675-__ - no. I don't even know that movie but I assure you, at 55, unless it's a friggin' old movie, they got it from me. I've been doing that for decades, since around 1994 or 5.
@@8675-__ I wrote '...at 55...' - meaning I'm 55 and have been doing it since my early 20's
Great Person as well away from the cameras. he offered a passenger or asked for a passenger to get an upgrade like they airlines were going to do for him. He didn't ask for one and he was on his way home from Vegas show.
We all were in line and when the crew asked him if he would want to go with them he can have first class, but then for a few minutes when Jamie asked for that request, they ended up, upgrading the both of them.
I did hear that he doesn't like to fly and rather have a limo ride for 5-hours to Vegas, it was cool to see him twice on a flight and not screaming: I AM JAMIE FOX. just seems he wants to fit into the crowed for conversations.
Great Man, Great Comedian, Great Singer, Great Actor and even a better family man. I am blessed to know in my lifetime people that really care for people. One if them is Jamie Fox. Now if he could just learn to ride a bicycle, maybe I wouldn't mind riding with him. Ha Ha
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Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance-wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard work and hustle over time.
Yeah! I agree with you sir.If you want to be successful have the mindset of the rich, spend less and invest More. Don't give up your dreams.
@@tianalucas8147 People come here with the aim of chasing money more than knowledge and that will damage your progress, trust me. Chase knowledge first and I promise! The money will follow you just like it's following some of us now.
@@juliagoncalves4082 That's very correct
And that is why most of them end up losing they money don't be in a haste to invest. Know what and who you are investing to and be sure that the person will deliver before I n v e s t I n g.
Learn and get the knowledge first before investing..
People wants to do what the 99% does but wants to get results that are fit for the 1%, but it doesn't work that way
@@sabrinaslime4493 Investment is the quickest path to financial freedom, the rich stays rich by spending like the poor yet investing! While the poor stays poor by spending like the rich yet not investing.
If you ask me what's better than Jamie's social kills, id tell you the editing on this video. This is impressive work.
Bruh how Jamie not have a prime time nightly talk show. He’d easily be the best since early Conan.
Love Jamie 💓
they never push forward someone that is too good, because it puts others into a mediocre light.
@@bogdanalindaragiu1314 That makes no sense. The networks will push anyone they think will drive ratings, which Jamie certainly would. But why would he walk away from a profitable, multi-million-dollar career as a movie star, singer, and comedian to become a nightly talk show host? The pay and prestige would be significantly lower. It would be career suicide for someone like Jamie.
@@kathifuller5332... Take a few mins to reach the realisation... no rush..,.
@@kathifuller5332 you would think it makes no sense, but on the bigger picture it does. It's like all stores have one type of snickers and one of them decides to add multiple types to his store and only he has a provider for it. Others would be getting angry for lack of clientele.
Oh brother. “In our next video, becomes more like Superman. 1. Leap tall buildings in a single bound. 2. Use your X-ray vision. 3. Bend steel in your bare hands”
Great breakdown, now let’s see who’s gonna apply this information irl. Gonna be some serious script planning for what Jamie and many others do naturally. You get good at what ever you’re focused on most of the time. Jamie is focused on friendships and good vibes in social experiences. That’s where charisma begins. It’s not forced, it’s genuine.
Jamie Foxx was a sponsor for my overseas (american) football team. He gave us the greatest pep talk before our playoff game. Really awesome guy and i think you have his public persona down to a T
Did you win the game ?
@@truthseeker881 yes but not the final :(
Remember he was a comedian first on In Living Color so this all comes naturally to him. Mega talented man
I bet you Jamie will watch this video and be like....."Oh, I do that? Cool!"
Man i just found this channel and this is DOPE! These are the EXACT things I do when I talk to people but I've learned wayyyy more tips that I will implement. Good job fam. 👊🏾
Man I've just came upon your channel in the last few hours and I've went on a binge watch since then. Love your channel and advice !! It definitely helps me and I enjoy watching and hearing your ideas and perspective of how to do things. I can have super bad anxiety traits when it comes to conversation and I find your advice very relieving and enjoyable! Any videos on how to act correctly and charismatic around those you're attracted to? When you have horrible social skills and are anxiety ridden?
I also need this. Pretty sure I just messed stuff up with my crush due to this 🤣
i've always liked jamie foxx but he really does seem like a charismatic genius here
Seriously agreed
I think this is more important today because our young people have submerged conversational skills I guess due to texting and emailing?
@@paulwitmer4611 this...
how are young people going to improve their social skills if they don't put themselves out there?
Jamie Foxx is a walking genius that is humble. Here's a guy that's got so much talent that you could be intimidated and he makes you feel like you're at home in this house in his presence. Freaking amazing
I love these videos. They're my daily go-to to feel good and hope I can be a stronger person. Thanks for bringing me this feeling 💚
it's funny how being an introvert I managed to develop all these things and are instictive now just because I paid attention to reactions and facial expressions. I always had to overcome my anxiety and in time it got to a point now where it is instinctive. Reading a lot of books helped as well, not for their knowledge per se, but the multitude of words that stuck in my brain help a lot towards expressing myself better.
1. Set a Playful tone
2. Use self Burns (but nothing that can hurt you feelings)
3. Tell stories with different voices (Don't forget to use a story gap first.)
4. Use Cliffhanger Pauses (in the middle of the sentence, and leave your hand up to let them know you're not done.)
5. Be a likeable listener, (ask Talk About Questions, Mirror)
Is Jamie watching this? Cuz this is so true. I always wondered why I liked him so much without him being a Dave Chappelle or Bruno Mars or Denzel Washington, but just ever so close competition to all of them. Just amazing
I love Jamie Foxx, love to watch him talk, he is extremely charismatic and his interviews show he is amazingly talented
I love your channel! I love learning about psychology, and your channel is so amazing. Helps me a lot in my daily life ♡
Jamie Foxx is an incredible actor. Very profound and inspirational. Shout out from Jamaica.
Eye contact and listening. Really listening. For example, if someone at work mentioned their dog's health, ask again later down the road how their dog is doing? Like be present to people, be engaged. Treat everything like their life is important to you as well. Being non judgemental is also a good way to connect with people. Be well friendos.
I think it's a great idea you included that commented problem about applying what you talk about but also going over success stories
Power pauses and making people talk about themselves is key. Also, that slightly self-deprecating humor is disarming to others, allows the slightest dash of humblebrag without being overt, and makes others feel confident. Win-win.
Once I tried to be the person I want to be, rather than doing what I thought others would respond to, I became much more popular. We can't control others but be can control ourselves. Take thier thoughts, which you don't know anyway, out of the equation. See your life as a series of funny stories, a few bad ones, and life is so much more fun and interesting that
" THEY" will be drawn to your energy. But who cared what they think, right? Almost every time I feel bored or frustrated, I ask myself if I am doing this because I want to , or am I people pleasing. Spot checking teaches you how much of your life you life for strangers.
you do a really great job of explaining what is on screen. I like it because I can clean or do other daily chores while listening to very clear explanations.
smiling when you enter a room helps so much. if you won’t do anything else, do this
So I’m a people person and I love meeting new people, talking etc but my entire childhood I was really shy and although I’ve broken out of most of that. I still have moments where I’m not 100% confident when I’m in public settings with others who I may not be close with. These tips might just be my lifesaver into helping me become comfortable faster :)
As a fellow comedian with a background in sales and giving love presentations, this is all true and good information. I do this naturally but I also studied, and still study comedian’s delivery.
This is beyond charisma. This is a way of life. Love this channel.
Love your screen name!
The most underrated person in Hollywood, Jamie Fox.
I do the cliffhanger thing all the time in conversations purposely for dramatic effect, but I find people start acting like “spit it out girl!” 😂 I think it’s different if you are an influencer.
Maybe it's the timing and frequency.
its a classic manipulation tool, but its tricky, it doesnt works "invisible"... there are other tools i would prefer.
When you invite people to talk about themselves - carte blanch, they tend to take control and assume thereafter that you're passive. And they will subsequently talk over and interrupt you. You have to become quite assertive to compete with them. I've never found this to be a good tactic.
Jamie is smooth af just one of those magnetic personalities.
I love your videos! For someone who has struggled with social anxiety from childhood, your advice is invaluable.
I do wish you used more examples from charismatic women. Please consider looking into that.
You do the best personality analysis down there bro.
These tricks definitely work! Don’t need to be a master in every single aspect, but as long as you know how to implement them.
It's awesome channel. Every time I watch these videos I'm inspired and charged to try all these things.
Thank you for your work!
One very important thing which isn't even mentioned: Jamie is totally in the experience -> meaning his gestures are like being in this experience.
What for oneself may seem a bit 'overacting' in that very second of telling a story is actually very helpful.
It seems as if most of these tactics require a decent ability to “read a room” upon entering. Like the “Talk about” questions... you are going to have to be able sit back for a few mins to how people react to a variety of topics....then get them to expand on key points of theirs in a nonchalant way.
With Jimmy Kimmel, it looks like he deliberately read up on Kimmel before appearing on his show, unless just by chance through generic news, he got that personal information....
OK. I've watched the video and am now ready to be as effortlessly charming as Jamie.
What Jamie Foxx has is a gift. Everybody's not gifted like he is.
i'm pretty sure Jamie's studied different types of human behavior. He's a smart man and being familiar with various social methods is a necessity for all.actors. most actors don't apply that knowledge to their off screen interactions.
Could you do a charisma breakdown of Ali Plumb of BBC1? He is always commended by the celebrities he interviews and his conversations are always fun to watch.
Just sprayed a canister of dry ice onto my left arm, didn’t improve my charisma even though I now have a massive cold burn. Wtf man?
I don't have any friends because they are ashamed of the videos I upload. Are they really that bad, dear monju
@Monju Inc. Bruh that joke was straight Boo Boo water how long did it take to come up with it because that joke wasn't it 🤔🤔🤔
@@AxxLAfriku I really wish i hadn't clicked on your channel. I went on a song marathon and now i cant get he she me bee out of my head
But you do have a nice conversation starter
Explain?
*Having the conviction, being kind and committing to ur authenticity with the intention of caring 😊* 🙏
Bingo!! Being authentic is the key even if you're a sociopath, which would be really astonishing...Phonies are the worst because they are constantly trying to scam others in one way or another and that is the biggest problem we have in our social relationships.
I grew up watching him and he deserve more shine as Will did. And dude can sing.
Typically comedians are great storytellers. I love Jamie and I have him on the top of my list for a lot of things.
Nailed the humorous self deprecation today at work with a couple of colleagues... 1st colleague commented about a skinny colleague 2 (jokily) saying “Don’t you just hate these skinny girls!” Colleague 2 replied “I’m not skinny!” Looking at me to back her up! To which I replied, “girl! I could eat your body weight!” For the win!
This was a great analysis. Though to be honest, Fox has more talent than 5 talented individuals melded together, also alot of these skills have been built up from his various gigs as a musician, stand-up comedian, and acting.
Poking fun about yourself shows your target listener(s) that you are human and that you are at the very least relatable. That for me tells people that we have more in common than they expected.
The Ted Lasso changed my life. I catered my new positive approach completely off of how positive and charismatic Ted Lasso is. It’s helped a lot.
This channel and vanessa van edwards are the reason I'm not socially awkward anymore
Jamie is 90% goofy and 10% serious.
Unless you are an entertainer, going anywhere near that level of charisma that often, is gonna fail.
So embrace your inner Jamie, but reign it in. :)
Exactly. Same thing applies to Ryan Reynaolds. I'm more in line with Ryan naturally. I've always had that way of speaking since a child before I ever seen him in a movie. Very few people like it.
I've done the silent confidence, face your interviewee and maintain eye contact and use talk about. However, for me, its is so hard to do this on a constant/ daily basis. Even now, after many years, i still struggle to apply these. It actually works but i still struggle.
People really warm to someone who is genuine, so if you can fake that you'll make a big impression.
The way Jamie deliver his storytelling reminds me the way B.B. King (RIP) deliver his guitar solo. Super tasteful.... 😊
Can you do a video on texting? Or something like "how to stay charismatic during a pandemic" since there's not many social gatherings right now
Hehe everyone practicing being charismatic in the mirror just waiting for the chance to get and use the new social skills!
Should be ok, I think everyone will be a bit rusty :)
Jamie got such a great spirit,and energy.
7:18 Dude that raising the palm gesture for giving the listeners a hint that the pause doesn't mean that m done speaking, its such a hack!.Amazing that is definitely coming in handy
All of a sudden everybody becomes Jamie Fox 🦊😂😂. Be thyself.
This man had me since in living color. So glad he's getting back to comedy. Would lose it if he did standup again but no one seems to be eager to do that these days lol.
Things have changed. The crowd has gotten tougher. People lose interest really easy these days. That's where being a really good comedian as well as an interesting person has to come into play. Dave Chappelle is one of those people.
also the number of snowflakes is on rise.
@@IbbiAhmed yep I think it's a mix of both. People are a bit more sensitive to certain topics, because of that there are many who are worried what going to hard on the jokes might do. This way of thinking keeps them from trying something new and bold enough to break through to those 'tough' audiences.
Back in the day we called a burn with no heat self-deprecating humor without truly hurting yourself. Communication is 1/2 of Psychology. If you don't observe before you speak, it's harder to maintain any charismatic response. This is called timing and responsibility of the story.
Correctamundo 💯
He's so talented. Athletic, musical, hilarious, actor.
A couple years ago my life completely changed and suddenly people began reacting to me differently. Aside from learning to be self-loving and self-confident without being an arrogant person (took me almost 4 decades to learn the difference), I found myself being crazy magnetic to people like never before. I'm almost 40! 😳 But this helps me to understand what I was doing right. I thought I was just learning to really love myself and other people. But I still believe that's a main foundational factor.
But understanding what is that play helps me a lot.
I need to say this again... this podcast is gold.
These points are exactly on point. I'm extremely charismatic, and these points work time and time again. Excellent video!
Saying "I'm extremely charismatic" is the exact opposite of being charismatic 🤮 Or is it irony? 😂
Tue pause is just him thinking about what he’s going to say. That’s how genuine people sound when they talk.
this is more like how to make high quality conversation, not to get people obsessed but to make them listening to you.