If You Want To Be More Attractive, Play This Game In Conversation
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Craig Ferguson has a reputation as one of the most fun, charming flirts in Hollywood. Some female celebrities would go on his show just for the chance to flirt with him.
While Craig has clear advantages, like being a famous TV host, a lot of what he does can be done by anybody who wants to be more attractive in conversation. Specifically, Craig has 7 habits that can help you build chemistry with anyone. Learning just a few of these habits will let you go into any conversation with confidence, knowing people are going to love flirting with you.
⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
0:50 - #1: Start your conversations in a fun, positive way.
1:53 - #2: Use over the top teasing.
3:59 - #3: Be playfully absurd.
4:51 - #4: Create a safe environment for people to be flirty and sexual.
10:23 - #5: Flirt with the world.
11:13 - #6: Have leaned back body language.
12:02 - #7: Get comfortable with your worst case scenario
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me entering the room for a job interview: LOOK AT YOU WOMAN, YOU LOOK SENSATIONAL
Nailed it
You got the job, leave your resume..
Sir this is a zoo.
I didn't lightly exhale from my nostrils reading this ; I almost choked
Your comment is absolutely enchanting
Craig also rips up the talk cards which sends a signal to the person that they are more important than the scripted conversation the network had planned and this makes the person feel very special.
And yet he does it every time so it becomes a cliché.
It’s also what makes him wanted by many with just a few things he says consistently and the way he acts throughout his shows
One of the best pieces of advice I've got from this channel is to "flirt with the world." Have fun in conversation with everyone around you. Guys, girls, older people, cashiers. It helps you practice and it's just more fun anyways.
Totally agree! Practice the art of charm and flirting and eventually you have women giving you hugs for no apparent reason.
So true
I studied this video for a few weeks and I've scored a sit down conversation with HR. Wish me luck!
Best of luck!
So, ho did it go? Did you score a second conversation at your or her place?
🤣🤣🤣
Thats great 😂
Yep, that's exactly where you'd end up today!
damn talking to people is like a whole science
I know, its pretty interesting though right?
What blows my mind is some people have it without even knowing what they are doing.
Between these videos and Jordan Peterson videos, I feel like I’ve actually been terribly awkward and ineffectual my whole life 😂🤷🏻♀️
Bruh
@@baileybrinker5935 IKR I'm like "no wonder most are my friends and the rest know of me but I didn't get many dates"
1) Be confident 2) Have fun 3) Find something good about that person 4) Do not take anything too seriously especially yourself 6) Find something around you that you like and express it to whoever is listening including yourself! If you seek happy thoughts they will become part of your life. The universe will find ways to bless you!!!
I've always felt like a goddam alien trying to assimilate into human culture when I watch these videos but they're so practical and to the point. As corny as a lot of this stuff is to be watching and learning now, most of us need it as we weren't taught // avoided learning it growing up. SOCIAL SKILLS are so important and it may feel so damn cringy watching these videos, you're making good progress. Especially if you actually apply it...
It's kind of embarrassing to have to watch hours of tutorials on being human, but I'm glad I did!
@@oliverford5367Truth is 90% of people can't hold a conversation. And not one in a hundred women know how to flirt for sour apples.
If you learn to just volley a conversation, you're going to be seen as an interesting and more chaing person.
If you guys are single, be confident about flirting. If a woman doesn't like it, you just wink and move on. Other people will see you as just being fun, and see her as a snot.
Let's say two of you are out watching a ball game. Maybe one of you owns a sailboat. Pick out the two prettiest girls, go say hello, start a conversation.
If the girls start to ask questions, say something like:
"Okay, here's the truth, but you can't tell anyone! We're actually aliens, but the good kind. We're grad students here working on our thesis, Earth Babes Are The Hottest.
I mean, that's what a lot of guys around the universe think, but we're doing field research. Of course, those girls on planet Quizzes are, too.
If they ask, say, "Three breasts. One on the back for dancing."
You can lay the alien grad students and "field research' on thick. If they ask anything remotely related, say:
Well, our ship is here, but transformed to a sailboat so it wouldn't be as much in dock fees. Hey, we're on a tight budget.
Yeah, if you want to see it, we plan on going out on it tomorrow. So, you have a big bottle of suntan oil and a bikini?
Hey, it needs energy to run, you know. The sexier the bikini the more energy. And we don't want anything sunburned, do we?
You can usually lay it on thick and the girls will eat it up, probably show up in their skimpiest bikini and want to prove Earth Girls Are The Sexiest.
Don't feel bad. Everyday I meet people who are bad communicators. You'll probably notice it yourself when you become more natural. And most of the time they're not even self-aware!
No need to feel bad! We gotta learn somehow! I initially learned from reading books when I was 17. 32 now and I’m introverted, but great at sales and have had my fair share with the ladies.
Crazy you say that because I to AM an ALIEN and HATE the Majority of Humans and feel I have NOTHING in common with the majority of humanity so find no purpose talking to women, maybe also knowing I came from the "gutter" and that majority of girls I am attracted to are to "rich" for me and won't work out, like being from 2 different worlds
I think the fact is Craig doesn't set out to flirt..he sets out to make sure everyone has a great time ..
yeah he's just having fun, getting girls is just an accidental bonus
He know the way to make people forget about their insecurity
Yeah I’m not really bad
yeah, flirting is not fun by default for a lot of girls
Moral of the story is just be yourself
That line “do you wanna do an awkward pause?”is pure genius.
Yeah I'll definitely be stealing that one for next time I feel an awkward pause coming up.
It’s a segment on the show. He literally does awkward pauses with guests as a bit
you should watch more of his videos. He does that all the time for fun.
The mouth organ doesn't go over as well. I would like to see the first guest he did that with, lol.
@@headphonic8 we know
Craig is amazing to watch and I think his being quick witted allows for all of his attractive habits to flow.
Craig is the master of late night talk. I wish his show was still going.
I’m learning to be a human
Welcome to the club.
this comment made my day
Same bruh
Detroit: Becoming Human
Bee Boop. A fellow Hu-Man has en-tered the chat. Ha. Ha. Ha. Ha.
Im finally, 10 years later, starting to understand why my coworker asked me "Why do you flirt with EVERYONE?"
I didn't see it, cause Im a man, and this is basically how I interact with everybody. Its because I was shy for a while and kind of awkward, but I found if I could just get people laughing and talking about their favorite subject (usually them, lol) it wasnt that hard to talk to people.
This is exactly me, man. Like my go-to is jokes and making people laugh to avoid the conversation getting awkward. And don't worry, people like it a lot, I know cause I was very shy, too.
I was a shy kid. As I got older was told I was a flirt when I was just trying to interact LOL 😂
This kind of reminds me how one of my mentors on my nursing placement (I am a male) told me to stop flirting with all the patients. I never ever saw it that way but reading your comment makes sense, I always get the female patients laughing by just doing my job and commenting on my klutzy behaviours. For example half tripping over an observation machine on wheels and just commenting "this is the 4th time and i've only been on for 20 minutes I must be wired wrong!"
Brought a big smile to my face actually.
Any tips my dude??
@@robmyster01 just make people laugh. It will result in you being the fun guy. Which will get you invited to more events, ending in you meeting more girls.
You guys are SO kind to be so helpful to soooooo many people that haven’t figured out what they’re missing by being afraid to engage in conversations with strangers
Striking up conversations with strangers takes practice but in time you get good at it. You got to be quick witted and always smiling. I do it a lot now, it's kind of a hobby for me and a way to brighten my day and hopefully for others. I just had several people laughing with me in the line at the grocery store the other day. ALSO I just recently bought this wild unique looking fake leather jacket at Ross and wear it whenever I am out and it's like people just want to start talking to me! It's crazy.
+W zlo
You would like Jordan Peterson's lectures
Lord, I miss his hosting the Late, Late Show. He was just as brilliant with the male guests. Wherever he is, I wish him the absolute best!
One thing this entire piece is missing is that the women coming to his show have a presupposition of him and are already primed for how they are going to act to him which is generally favourably. This doesn't mean he can't offend them or turn them off, however, it does mean he is starting ahead of the game unlike doing this to a complete stranger on the street.
This
@@aldendiaz1165 You're ahead of the game once you know how to walk into a room correctly.
Yeah its like always having the winning hand and playing poker.
Exactly. And since many of the women had fun in previous shows, women come in with a bit of a guard down. This is not completely applicable to real life strangers.
Exactly. As much as I love (and miss) Craig on the Late Late Show, his charms most definitely didn't work on everyone. Watch his Christina Hendricks interview as an example.
So walk up to girls and ask if they're in Al-Qaeda. Got it!
"Ey girl, you in Al-Qaeda? 'Cause you DA BOMB!"
I'm so sorry. I saw an opportunity and I had to take it.
Actually though... This kind of makes sense? I think girls want things to catch them off guard so they don't immediately have a barrier put up. Something funny or absurd directly out of the gate.
Instructions unclear. Got deported.
well iam middle eastern with a beard, it will sound like i am recruiting...
Now i can flirt and try these techniques in prison with bubba
Fantastic video. I think the most amazing takeaway for me is how some people just do this naturally. No thinking. No trying. Just being. Wonderful.
Craig is an excellent example to pick. He was the very best talk show host ever. You genuinely laugh. And he had a cast of supporting characters equally as funny.
Importantly, he was never a 'try hard' type always straining to get a laugh or reaction or hog the limelight. He just let the session run wherever it took him and his guest and team. That ability to throw out the plan and improvise brilliantly marked him out. And you are correct, that leaning away from the guest gives them space and he never seems like a predator. And that creepy Biden example would make anyone afraid.
Evidently u never watched Carson. Makes this guy look like a schlub, not funny or even entertaining. ❤
Craig Ferguson is just being himself so that's why he looks so relaxed. He's obviously been practicing and doing this for a long time. Best advice is keep practicing.
Yp
Craig has venus in gemini. While others can learn, this is 100% effortless for him.
Gemini is a chatty, energetic, and quick-thinking zodiac sign, so when Venus is here, she loves to flirt.
Exactly he’s being himself.
@@LAWSON08 I’m a Gemini (may 22nd 1993) and I only have the quick thinking part. The chatty and energetic isn’t there. What planet is tainting me? 🤣 it can’t be Venus because I’m the most awkward flirt I know.
@@justinthompson5718 I'm assuming you are born in the US. If so you have a near exact Sun square saturn. A pretty serious aspect. You may have some shyness issues? But there's also a sun trine jupiter to help you out...very nice.
Btw
Probable moon in Gemini
Mercury in Gemini
Venus in Aries
Mars in Leo
Craig Ferguson: One synonym for charisma and pure, tangible charm.
Perfect for an actor on stage. Try that in real life - good luck!
Craig is wicked smart and so quick on his feet, takes a lot of smarts to pull that off
Massive Respect to Craig and the medicinal effects of all that laughter he's created for everyone.
The biggest thing about Craig that's not mentioned is he doesn't have an agenda in conversation.
And he doesn't take himself so seriously.
I've found that simply asking someone with authenticity, "How's your day going?"
That's plenty enough to be off to the races with conversation.
Finally, Chris Pine asking Craig if he, himself played the mouth organ, and Craig answering, "How do you think I got this job?"
Laughter was echoing through my house from how that really got me. So Quick! Fun. Fun. Fun.
So, in summary:
"How To Create Chemistry With Anyone"
"Be Craig Ferguson"
Step 1. Be rich
Step 2. Be Famous
Got it boss!
Act like him. I've been doing it with the college girls in the fast food restaurant I work at. It's insane how much positive attention I am getting from the girls.
@@xCoolzxX This all about being funny, playful, and non-threatening. Keep thinking you have to be rich and famous and see how that's going to work out.
There used to be a show called "The Dating Game". A woman had to pick from three guys she couldn't see. Every so often a comedian would be one of the three. They got the girl every time.
Honestly, he sounded slightly repulsive with the repetitiveness of the 2nd point of starting the conversation in a overly fun and positive way. He's just buttering them up for whatever he wants to bring up. It's not even that realistic in the real world. Talk shows are different.
@@a-a-rondavis9438 You'd be surprised how a positive attitude can change the environment. But it's a skill too.
Do awkward stares and nostril flaring count as flirting?
They work if you acknowledge them..😉
ITS THE TWILIGHT REFERENCE FOR MEEEEE
hey .......... how you doing ??
It works on me! :P
Just kidding, I'm a trucker. The only flirting I get is from my truck >.>
Only if you're Mr. Darcy.
These anecdotes, ideas and advice are great. I’m naturally confident and charismatic in social situations, HOWEVER, it’s always good to rethink your approaches. It’s fun to make people laugh and engage. Forever learning. Thank you for putting this together!
I do think Graig is genuinely having fun and letting go of the outcome. He's trusting the process that if he follows his flow of fun while paying attention to the other person and inviting them in a safe way it will all be alright. Just focussing on elements of his approach is overcomplicating that core process. Sure, his techniques are pure excellence but at the core of it all is having as much fun as possible while taking care of the other person.
I just imagine a bunch of dudes running around talking excessively loud to random women at coffee shops lol
WOMAN YPU LOOK SENSATIONAL
@Anonymus X Hey gal, do u wanna do an awkard pause?
You haven't spend a lot of time in Italy yet huh?
*Everything feels uncomfortable at first, but over time, it will become easier*
That's what she said
@@OffCamberShow a million dollars to you sir
Hahhahahahhahahahahahh 😑
Just like with Bill Cosby
Word!
9:43 - is just perfect line, perfect timing, love to see it
I work at restaurant and I like to entertain, share good vibes, make jokes, being sarcastic, funny sometimes with the costumers, or say interesting things, or listen to them and they love to come back, they feel good when they go out. it's good to use methods to get good vibes, learn these psychologic tricks to try them on others also.
remember tried “u looked enchanting” then immediately contemplate why did i chose that word...
You needed a Scottish accent
It's not what you say is how you say it & what u do
That would be fine if you said it the right way it probably got awkward when you questioned yourself adter
Like that could possibly work but you’d really have to own it
It actually worked for me but depends on how you do it. Made my crush blush calling her that since I worked it in organically
Every Craig Ferguson interview should have a "DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME" warning
Isn’t it weird how if a girl decides she doesn’t like something you say or do, however insignificant, it alerts the whole hornet’s nest and suddenly you’re in big trouble?
Yet when they make an error it’s easily permissible by everyone?
Humans aren’t real
@@honkhonk5181 Okay incel
@@LinkTheHeroOfTime even incel would be a better word than simp in this case. I thought only my life has lost meaning, but it seems like every word has, too.
@@danielbodovs1195 You're right. Incel is a better term
@@LinkTheHeroOfTime oh, you responded. Honestly I thought I was screaming into the void there. Sorry if my reply seemed rude.
I know some people don't want to hear it this way, but women loves when they are being treated like children - and this video is the ultimate proof. Imagine that he is trying to talk to a kid and watch the video
I just love when Morena is on Ferguson's show. Always fun!
No wonder I'm single, this sounds like a lot of work.
Seems nearly impossible.
@@wesleyhurd3574 it's actually not, you just have to add one thing at a time, week by week, until these traits become ingrained in your personality. It takes time. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither was anyone's love life.
just be yourself. the only thing you can't be when talking to a girl is boring, the rest comes by gaining experience
@@MagnoMartinez what if you are or are being boring
@@insanoibro6331 you just talk more and practice. I'm talking from experience. And that guy is absolutely right. While these kind of videos are helpful, all you really have to do is to not be boring, and interesting and unique in conversations
Guy to female co-worker: “You look sensational!”
Human Resources to guy: “We need to discuss some things with you.”
That's a fact. Craig is still hilarious.
it's always the Toby's
@@adamt9935 lighten up Francis. It’s called joking around. Read up on it.
I wish I had a coffee to drink when I read this so I could've spit take
If you say like an hungry animal that can happen yeah
This actually seemed helpful. Nice work 👍
No wait, let me start over. Hey you, video! You look SENSATIONAL!
Stopped in this video that it took me a moment to realize I didn’t like and subscribe right away so you win you really hooked me
“Do you blow the mouth organ?”
“Ugh, ugh do youu blow the mouth organ?”
“How do you think I got *this* job?”
I lmaoed on that
Wow. He's got responses too I really thought he was cornered in on that one
@@confirmhandle he's too quick and sought of a genius to form those responses and turning meaning of the words and also making inneuendos.
Music school it is!
HE'S the LEAN BACK Master...leaning back in the chair has done wonders for my flirting game. It actually might be one of the biggest impacts I've made. When I'm leaning back, she's leaning in, I'm listening and formulating my reactions in a relaxed state of mind. This is an excellent video, great points, and fellas look at Craig leaning back, do that and absolutely remain upbeat with a smile, and a 'touch' louder in voice/deepen your tone...aces guys, aces
Exactly, that laid back posture is disarming I've found and just makes things flow much easier.
In the words of Gordon Ramsey: just a touch
@hppxx You gotta think about things. In an ideal world it would all flow naturally but in reality you've got to learn
I work as a cashier and the chairs we have are terrible, except you can lean back just the perfect amount in order to be more relaxed in a conversation. I do it all the time and not just with women and it really works wonders. You relax and at a counter people won’t lean in, so you create more space between the two of you, which normally is a bad thing, but in this case it’s great, because you usually don’t have the time to get accustomed to the customer. So what you do is create more space, which subconsciously gives both of you more time to answer and because you are more relaxed by leaning back the other person/people will feel that and do the same, thus making the conversation more organic.
Consider also the way Captain Kirk in the original Star Trek sits in the captain's chair: William Shatner affects exactly the same kind of casual confidence. Always worked for me.
I host open mics and I Watched this video years ago and your advice has been so helpful.
Great to see that I know and practice most of these things
“Speaking 20% louder than most people there”
You mean be the guy that everybody hates the most? Lol
People are actually attracted to the louder voice most of the time. It commands the most attention. You're talking about yourself and your preferences, which doesn't align with most people. Why do you think the loudest get the most attention and popularity?
@@TheGeorgeD13 it definitely does align with most people. But okay.
@@TheGeorgeD13 the loudest do not always get the most attention and popularity lmao!
@@chasepotter2376 Studies definitely show it to be true. There's too much evidence for us to know it to be true.
Americans are already about 20% louder than every other nationality.
Craig is by far the best talk show host. Im so glad all his interviews are on youtube now.
Conan is quality as well
@@highestrockslemontree5083 Fax
Yeah him and Conan
He's THE best. Conan and Letterman are close.
You know what's funny though? If you look at him in other interviews and or commercial spots. He seems kind of... humble and awkward!!! Like really humble how he professed to now be happy to be a citizen of us!? Like his new game show... Is mysterious! But he himself on that show seems awkward! Of course he's like British, so he seems dainty... with women.
These women are on his show because it will benefit them big time and so they laugh at much of his conversation that would get most of us a good slapping, lol.
Aah yes, the standard 3 step advice from this channel:
1. Be funny
2. Be charming
3. Be good looking (not explicitly stated, but a lot of these "techniques" heavily rely on it)
I watched this so I can flirt with my wife. Mental warfare activated
😂😂
Lol 😆 good for u! Please update us on the results lol
DEADBEDROOM Detected
she would be mind-blown, like WTH is he doing?
I do this literally ALL the time. Helps me keep things fresh so we DON'T get a deadbedroom lol. We're on 15 years together, and the chemistry is 1000% still there. In large part because I like trying new ways to flirt with her.
Was an interesting conversation early in the relationship when she first found my history of, "How to flirt with women" videos on RUclips tho lmao
5:42 "If I ask for it nicely." I'm not even a woman and I'm literally crying over this line!
i kinda learned this naturally as i got older, thank god i did hehe. i really enjoy talking to people, and it really can help make an awkward situation much more relaxed
Craig's show and talent had been vastly underrated.
So basically how to confidently flirt with women:
Step 1 - be confident
Step 2 - flirt
Haha, yeah 🤣. Amazing, woman like confident alpha males? Lol. A good posture also goes a long way
Probably you have new girlfriend every day
then wait for the charges.
you forgot hot and/or rich.
You make it sound simple
I got on a Craig Furgeson kick about 7 years ago and he was my favorite ever since. He's like a little boy who knows he's being naughty but everyone can't help but be charmed by it.
Same!
And watched him till the end...
And reading that piece about him coming to that bridge & the end.....I can relate.....
I have always absolutely adored Craig Ferguson.
each word of this video is amazing
each word
thanks man
"Make sure your question is obviously absurd like being in Al-Quaeda."
Me: *laughs awkwardly*
FBI OPEN UP
100% more likely to talk to a guy who's asked me how long I've been in Al Qaeda than a guy who says I'm the most gorgeous woman he's seen and he'd kick himself later for not talking to me.
Doesnt work in Afganistan
@@LednacekZ lolol
@@LAGallerina literally if someone said that to me, I'd tell him to go and f himself lolol. Even if just to mess with him, for my own amusement :')
me, convo starter: "hey.. you are absolutely gorgeous.."
her - reaching for the pepper spray in her bag.
"Aaarrrgggghhh, I'm a bear!!" (while she's pepper-spraying you)
*being playfully absurd
I’ve done it some times now. Believe me, that’s not what happens. If you are confident and not creepy, she will either like it and continue the conversation, or don’t like it and just walk away.
'gorgeous' kind of defeats the purpose of what is said in the video, doesn't it?
It's a very common word.
'Positively Noble', 'Sensational', Captivating'
None of the above words are used in usual conversation or complementation and so become so much more viable than
your run-of-the-mill usage of "gorgeous".
@Heiliger Katholik Whose normal conversation?
Maybe if you are from east coast old money and born in the 1950's.
But the largest recent generations hardly say words such as that (boomers, gen-x, millennials).
Certainly if you'd like to prove your point, jump into the metrics on google.
Or you could have some fun with it, jump onto 6-10 comedian standup when they speak about beauty/dating.
And of course positively noble is two words. But positively is an adjective, which we can see Ferguson demonstrating in these clips.
@Heiliger Katholik Sorry, I'd offer Spanish but that probably wouldn't communicate what its supposed to.
I can hit you in many forms of slang? The likes of which have years of efficacy confounding nearly everyone outside its applicable culture grid and while simple to me may very well seem complex to you.
So let's clear it up.
I do not care about your measure of what is normal, simple, or non-simple. It is clear that you are disconnected.
Another thing that is clear, is that two exchanges complete and you've already tried veiled but direct insults.
I guess your complex linguistic skills reveal your simple mind.
No matter though, I'll get my kicks from the fact you said this publicly.
Because ultimately, you are typing on a website that uses American English as its interface(by default), commenting on a video where an educated American English speaker speaks.
The funniest part?
The entire website is written in a computer language which reads as English and is oriented towards American English.
High chances that the story is the same for the device you are using to access this website.
Everytime I watch Craig I cry laughing. He EASILY had the funniest late show ever. There is endless hilarious footage. For anyone to think they can approach conversation like him is an unattainable goal if you don't already have the natural skills.
Craig's interactions with Robin Williams are otherworldly
I agree with you but we can all improve our game if we practice and are not afraid to fail. If we can laugh at ourselves that helps a lot, in all aspects of life.
@@free2roam674 Facts.
I was in a situation where someone who I'd just met was trying to introduce me to an attractive woman. They couldn't remember my name. It was a social/professional situation, and I wasn't interested (I was taken). I just introduced myself, saying "hi, I'm Frank Sinatra". They both laughed and relaxed. It was just something spontaneous and fun that broke the ice & diffused an awkward moment.
That’s a good one! Super funny.
Noone cares.
Are u Frank sinatra?
This guy is like a pick up artist disguised enough that mainstream doesn't get offended
Well not really. Cuz what pick up is basically faking traits of a valuable man. He actually has high social value
PUAs are god damn nerds tho
The likes of Craig is what PUA nerds try to imitate and refer to as the naturals.
@@argop4518 but those are the old PUA nerds it has evolved now
He is pickup.
I do think Craig has MORE fun trying to amuse himself, than be spontaneously flirty (which in return comes off as the perfect chemistry). He *consumes* the pressure like a vampire from the person he's talking too. Which makes interacting with this sort of personality IDEAL. Everyone likes having a friend that speaks their mind and amuses themselves, and not at someone's cost.
Wow, that's why I like this guy he can make you laugh and feel comfortable, DILLY DILLY
*Here we go boys, introverts no more*
*socially anxious no more, you meant
nothing here for girls :-(
@Gray Jedi social skills are still very important at least if you want a lasting relationship.
@@KENNETHTXMMA it is not. if you can't talk to people and have fun in groups though you are missing out. Having a lack of social skills is blatantly bad though.
@@KENNETHTXMMA it is not. Most people are not extroverts. Introverts does not refer only to socially awkward people who don't have friends, it refers to normal people that just do not feel the need to be in the center of attention all the time or to always be surrounded by people. Being extrovert does not make you neccesarly more attractive but having social skills does. So don't try to be what you are not (works both ways). Be you and work on your social skills that's the most important.
If you can start a conversation with some boldness, observational humour or positive playfulness in the moment, you set yourself apart so much it's crazy. Plus that whole conversation and connection is built on an amazing foundation, so it's way more likely to be a great interaction! It's like starting your day well.
I feel like these skills people are less aquatinted with nowadays. Back in the day these daddys that somehow catch many attractive girls exist but we see few of them and might good time to exploit that scarcity.
watching the ferguson videos before going out is honestly such good advice
I'm going to die alone.
I feel you brother
Then you have nothing to lose and might add well go for it
@@jamiehurricane my man, the moment i show a little of attention for anyone is the exact moment they lose any attraction to me, but if i act like I don't care they try to get close and intimate, i just can't handle another broke heart.
I used to watch his show all the time. It was amazing and he is always hilarious. I never realized women would go on the show just to be flirted with. The chemistry he created with the ladies was always flawless.
The accent also helps a lot. I have a Scottish accent and I find getting women outside of Scotland a lot easier... despite my chat being crap
That’s the Jamie Fraser effect.
@@etinkhamJ exactly
the combination of the accent and being in the black watch makes me the luckiest bastard in the world. the women just queue up 😂😂
@@etinkhamJ I guess thats why Claire got so in love
TRUTH
"How do you think I got this job?" Effin' made my day!
Make it a HABIT to initiate jokes/observations/compliments, and, if desirable, conversations with everyone around you. Best I heard recently: A woman walked up to me at a social event, stuck out her hand, and said: "I'm sorry you haven't yet had a chance to meet me." Just perfect.
This was great. I'm not interested in meeting somebody, but I'm VERY interested in improving my interviewing capabilities.
He is also socially accepted as a funny guy, so there is a constant feeling telling yourself "if you don't laugh with him, you are the one to blame". Aaaaaand also, they know beforehand what they are going to find when in the interviews, so there is no surprise and evaluation when he starts throwing sexual comments or things like that
good observation w/ your first sentence.
That’s a good point. If you approach a girl on the street they have no idea whether you will be funny, smart, creepy, etc. so it’s harder to break the ice. With Craig, they know the kind of person he is and know what he’s going to talk about, so it’s already easier for him.
This! Let's be honest...most of his jokes wouldn't work if he didn't have his own show or labeled as a comedian.
@@jdm8503 It's easy to tell you're an incel as well as the people who liked your comment... this dude would do pretty well with his looks, accent and personality in random night clubs and bars without any fame
0:54 1. Starts almost every conversation in a fun positive way.
1:55 2. Over-the-top teasing
4:05 3. Being playfully absurd
4:54 4. Create a safe environment for people to be flirty and sexual
10:34 Flirt with the world
11:29 Leaned back body language
12:05 get comfortable with your worst-case scenario.
Great summary.
U are a lifesaver
Thank you
Thanks this guys talks too much
0:00 Be the attractive wealthy popular host of your own TV show
0:01 Invite attractive women to be on your show
You very eloquently and intelligently explained the worth of this show. It's entertaining AND educational and, at the same time, hilariiously ridiculous. Master stuff!
This video has made me realize how much of a legend this guy is
he is a glib, fake calculating scumbag
- Hey I think I’ve never met you, I’m Ben
- Hi Ben, I’m Karen
- Oh im not actually Ben, that’s just my starter phrase
Well when your name is Nasty, you gotta have SOME kind of backup >.>
No!, No!, NO! You have to understand that (faux) lying to them is SEXY! She wants you to create some MYSTERY in her head, so use a name that's not so ridiculous as to be easily dismissed, but fake enough to raise some doubt in all but the certifiably brain dead. "Did he just lie to me about his name? OMG! I wonder why? Is he pulling my leg?". Admit to lying about your name too early and there's no challenge for her because you haven't awakened her curiosity. It's not about chasing women; it's about irresistibly baiting the snare!
@@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry that’s actually a pretty nice advice, I mean my joke doesn’t really relate to it, but you’ve got me considering this a pretty nice way to start a conversation with someone to be remembered and make it fun from the beginning. Next time I’m meeting someone I’ll tell em with a serious face that my name is Bebop or Dude or smth
@@levmade Bebop Dude-Smith! Double-barreled names ALWAYS impress! And tell them your mom was a jazz musician- you were raised on the road in smokey bars. Good luck!
Good opener, a good follow up would be, instead of "my starter phrase", say "That's my pickup line (pause) ya it needs work."
Other words for “your looking good” enchanting, sensational, gorgeous as always, fantastic, ravishing, remarkable, terrific, fabulous, heavenly, radiant, charming, phenomenal
Or use the most overused adjective of the 21st century - amazing.
Or pair it with the most overused adverb of the 21st century - absolutely amazing.
Does tasty work? 🤔
or mess up and say the look terrifying
I understand better why I mostly have success ^^
And I understand where I could improve ...
Thats a real quality video !!!
The "hey I know this is totally random but you're gorgeous, I'd be kicking myself for the rest of the day if I didn't find out more about you." Is way too much of a line and is nothing that Craig Ferguson would do. He's much more carefree with his flirting. This is a direct approach. Putting her on the spot to respond.
Charisma on demand. Answering the questions no one wants to ask.
Dude. I see you everywhere😮
@@nathashaxavier6850 fanboy
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I’m a bot 🤖
@@CaseyBurnsInvesting Lol🤣
On command*
Just being funny and smiling makes anyone instantly more fun and attractive
I tried this and I went from being ignored, to getting a strong reaction.
Anyway, I'll update you all and let you know when I'm due in court.
Yeah, that worked great hall and all your advice. The view from my cell is beautiful. I guess I’ll just try harder when I get out.
"How do you think I got this job?"
DAMN that line was so good. You can see the guest already bust out laughing before Craig even opens his mouth because he sees the smile spread across Craig's face, he can tell whatever Craig is about to say is going to be PERFECT. That sequence was so good!
Craig has a LOT of great lines and comebacks. Still that is absolute number one.
9:39
What makes it brilliant is how fast he got it 😂
I misheard "How do you think I got this young [looking]?" and got a bit confused.
I have always loved Craig Ferguson he's just one of the funniest talk show host out there
*2020:* Lock down.😷🔐
*Me:* Time to brush up on some social skills! 🙈😂💃
Oof you definitely need to work on being funny 😐😬
🤣🤣🤣 yup me too
That htc mindset always growing!!
You practice now, so when/if the world opens back up you're ready
@@xitcix8360 OOP ANAHAGWGWG
Love all the Hank Moody clips.
So good and fast! its impossible to reach that level
he is a genius
Being handsome, rich and having a cool accent probably helps a lot too.
stop looking for excuses
Its the most important factor
@@danielbrawner3677 nah confidence is the most important factor
How do you think he got the job if not being comfortable in his skin, funny and confident.
you sound like an insecure incel
It's a 50/50 effort. They're actually responding and giving feedback and going along with him enthusiastically. Any guy who has spent time in the dating scene will have at least a few experiences of doing everything right, but sitting with a boring woman who has no energy, no interest, and will laugh at your jokes but not ever add anything to the conversation.
Then why bother with them 🤷♂️
That's when you've got a serious bathroom issue and need to leave immediately, so sorry. Lovely to meet you. Take care.
When I first started reading I thought you must have done something to turn her off but if she's laughing at your jokes than you're doing everything right.
and then when both go to your homes she wonders why you didn't kiss her.
Thats very true! But, technically thats a victory too, because any woman that has no sense of humor (or at least doesn't enjoy yours) is probably not worth a long term relationship anyway.
This is a class on the dissection of Craig Fergusons conversational skills? Do you really think that can be learned and duplicated? He’s a natural, do you really think he was able to learn it himself? It’s spontaneous
Craig is flirting in front of 20 million viewers . He is already known and trusted. You do what he's doing in a bar with a stranger ...
As a high functioning person on the autism spectrum who’s practiced at social interactions for years in order to fit in better, I think this video could actually be incredibly educational for socially awkward people to learn from even for just day to day interactions.
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I dont think so dude. I think its better for yourself seeking tips to A PSYCHOLOGIST or a therapist instead of using PUA videos.
As an autistic this video would be useless because you can't read social signals.
One thing I have found useful is to lean on awkwardness and say something that you know people find interesting or funny from past experience. It's more natural for socially award person to start this way, and requires less need to read social signals quickly. It's interesting to watch Craig, but understanding how a power lifter can lift 900lb, does not mean I can repeat the same.
@@zaftra you can learn it dummy
"If you are watching this video, then you probably interested in meeting someone..." NO.... i'm watching because it is CRAIG Ferguson
So ur not interested in meeting anyone?
@@giacomocasanova2418 romance is overrated. What we really want is REAL ESTATE
@@dianeaishamonday9125 and that's a fact in a perspective
Ferguson is a master class in flirting. Started watching near the end of his run and was kicking myself for not appreciating him sooner. You can catch most of it on YT.
Don't know why he shut it down so early since he was also a very good host.
Honestly it works I had a friend who was great at one liners (jokes) and being around him seeing how he did it I was able to do it without even thinking about it. It also helped me flirt with a girl I liked without even trying.
Im a big flirt. Coming from a shy introvert who was physically insecure, I leaned on my humor a lot. Once i started working on my physique and attractiveness, the segue to charismatic and charming was easy. I always enjoyed making people laugh and the lines get blurred so quickly. I can definitely testify to the power of laughter. Getting other people to laugh will get even the most standoffish women open to being approached
Same. There's a reason unnatractive people aren't confident, they have no reason to be. Since building my body I've noticed the charisma is flowing easier.
If a guy can master humor with a woman, he has already done 50% of the work. It doesn't mean that she will be attracted to you physically or want to date you, but it puts you in a better starting position.
@@waynepayne9875 There's plenty of reasons for unattractive people to be confident. You have a very shallow view of people based on your comment.
Also, one of the most attractive things you can do is come of as confident even if you "shouldn't be". There's a lot of chubby confident guys out there that are hooking up with the "hot chicks", cause of humor (charisma) and confidence.
They're probably chubby and handsome. No one is completely unnattractive and pulling hot chicks unless its a financial thing.
@@waynepayne9875 Not handsome, just not ugly
1 Start Convo in Fun Positive Way (compliments OR “Hi my name is...”)
2 Over The Top Teasing (rhetorically be absurd Ex: You must be from the mafia then! OR Call Out Cliches & Call Out Yourself!)
3 Being Playfully Absurd (convos aren’t for info exchange but emotion exchange)
4 Create A Flirty Safe Environment (use sexual joke about someone else not them at first OR playfully misinterpret something to be sexual OR Innuendo technically innocent but could have a double meaning)
5 Flirt With The World (interact with everyone like you interact with women to make more natural and avoid creepy ness)
6Leaned Back Body Language (makes people comfortable)
PS keep physical touch using high fives, shoulder touches, & hugs
7 Get Comfortable With Worst Case Social Scenarios (MakeThem Seem purposely Awkward to be funny Ex: Awkward pauses, mumbling, mess up pronunciations, talking to more people)PS don’t do 7 in excess only when necessary
8 Teasing, Absurdity, Misinterpretation, Innuendo, and more just practice what you like the most and have most fun with. Playful State Of Mind
Also u can watch 10 -15 min of Craig Ferguson videos & be Comfortable in (worst case scenario) uncomfortable situations to convo prep, remember to use platonic modified versions of these techniques with friends too! Don’t forget: Convos are EMOTION EXCHANGE !! Not Info Exchange. Most importantly....USE THESE TECHNIQUES FOR YOUR OWN AMUSEMENT NOT OTHERS!!!!!
You rock!!!!
Always loved Craig lol he's brilliant
Also you walk on subtle details , on the balance of it all .
The tease of yourself for example , is a great tool to avoid the loudness of the whole exange, it balances the target count me you .
If you dont make fun of yourself during the time , preferably in the begining, you can make the interlocuter feel diminished, threaten .
The whole psychology of this is absolutely intriguing! Life is meant to be fun and whimsical! Put yourself out there (the correct/moral way) and have fun!
Damn up until that last part I was ready to go out there and commit tax fraud. Now you made it all boring with "correct/moral way."
@@lastmanstanding7155 taxation is theft. Take your money back!!!!