The Rise Of Weak Men - Breaking Down Toxic Masculinity In America Today
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In this episode, Patrick Bet-David discusses why men are becoming weaker and what we can do to fix it.
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“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.”
- Marcus Aurelius
Why are you reading through Marc’s diary? Kinda sus bro
"Waste no time reposting strongman quotes, we've already seen them"
- Slenderman
Bar!!!
@@Shakspier tell me you’re a moron, without telling me you’re a moron.
Real men don't journal that's for sissys. Oh yay!
- the kool-aid man
It's amazing how easily twelve minutes of truth can wipe away decades of societal lies. Keep bringing it, Pat.
Problem is the very same people who need to watch this video are the ones least likely to do so. They will dismiss it, interpreting the very existence of this video as "yet another example of toxic masculinity and oppressive patriarchy". Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
Hahahahahha... So true it makes me laugh, you said it so perfectly 😂 God bless you
A person with another youtube channel and with the same picture, do not tell me to send you message and try to scam me.
Well Tim, that's bc you are a man. You heard something that makes logical sense so you dispose of your previous assumptions and adopt this new logical position..
Women tend to act more off emotion which can cause more of an attachment, and are more difficult to shift bc it takes an appeal to emotion, where showing a position to be 1% more logical can move a man.
Embrace masculinity
Who is the "They" who are trying to weaken men? Gays, Jews, libs, UFO passengers? I can't stand the use of "They" when the commentator certainly has a target in focus
I learned to swim when my dad pushed me into the deep end of the pool. He told me he was going to do it. I drowned a bit, then came back up. Hated him for years....but I can swim.
My brother learned to ski in a similar way, left him at the top of the ski lift and dad and I went to the bottom and waited. My brother hated Dad for years.....but we are both excellent skiers.
My brother is a CEO of an engineering company, and I am an aeronautical engineer. I hated my dad for years....but in his words "I'm not here to be your friend. I am here to make you tough."
RIP Dad, 1943-2016
Sorry for your lost
Rip good dad😢
Anyone can become a father, it takes a special man to be a Dad.
What about childhood trauma and all the relationships that were affected by it?
I never realized my dad was my role model. He has the best answer for any confused young man like me. I even went to engineering school because of him. When I got distracted over not having time or good looking enough to get a girl, he would always said this and I remember this to the day I die. " do not worry yourself over getting a girl, politics or the world, just focus all of your time and energy on getting the best education and all will fall in place for you and I can guarantee you that, getting a girl will not be a concern any more once you reach financial stability ". 6 years later after getting my master degree in engineering putting all the hard work, a lot of hard work, he was absolutely correct. The best advice that a confused young man can have.
This is the main issue today. A lot of dads are not guiding kids. They don’t know what to teach. People need role models. Today dads are not role models. I don’t think they have been for the past 30 years
@@tonysoprano9370 the children have also turned away from their parents, due to the government taking more and more authority from them + the decline in society (plus that decline drip-fed to said children through social media). It's not easy at all.
Congrats that still doesn’t make you manly. Blue collar workers for the win
with the strong deterioration of the human psyche and family/community values in individuals etc.. there is only one thing of value with concern to "looks". It is taking care of your body/health and weight and keep a good hygiene. Classical physical beauty should be of minimum focus of the contemporary man, because the consequence of choosing a person with deteriorated psyche and/or lacking fundamental values in life, is immense and will lead to a life lost and destroyed. There's no Jennifer Lopez's or the likes in my life, even if I could get them. It is not what I value. Go for the kind, level headed (not boring, don't mix them up) girl next door (she should be smart though). Never entertain the bubbly cool chick at the bar. It is NEVER worth it. And btw, I was and somewhat is one of the popular guys amongst the pretty ladies. They get very bitter and some confused when they see that I am not interested. All the best and have successful 2023
The story about that last place trophy was a defining point!
The problem today is people don't cherish good people, they try to use them.
Not even remotely true. You need to get your mind out of a negative perception.
@F LopezYou are exactly right I am 50 yo and this is what most guys believe! We have become so Machiavellian, that we see people as disposable commodities instead of souls with intrinsic value!
That's just how the world works. People use each other all the time and you are no different. If you take that personally, like it's an "insult", you're not going to go far in life. Being taken granted for, however, is something else. Don't let people walk all over you, set reasonable boundaries when dealing with people.
Or people cherish verifiable weasels and liars like PBD
@@cameronmachado1774 what did he lie about? Or are you just bitter because you’re the beta he’s talking about?
There's never been a great man who hasn't been through a hell of a lot of shit.
A person with another youtube channel and with the same picture, do not tell me to send you message and try to scam me.
There are two pains in life the pain that hurts and the pain that alters
Amen.
I am a father of 5 sons, 53yo and I agree with what you’re saying. Their mother, my ex, was that woman encouraging weakness the whole time. I got through to some of them.
Congratulations on fathering some great guys, they’re going to go far
Excellent job!
@@that_Dominic_guy
The absence of a father's role at home has made American society unfavorable to men these days.
@@that_Dominic_guy
A country that had pursued a male-superior era until the 1970s suddenly became a country where men were discriminated against and persecuted.
Doesn't mean you gotta divorce her buddy they need a mother as much as they do need a father, balance is key
Married my beautiful wife 35 years ago. She has been a stay at home for the past 33 years. Raised 2 wonderful kids. My wife and I are beyond close. I have supported the family and taken the traditional male role. We are both happy. Looking forward to growing old together. Life is truly short and time will go by fast. You need a partner in the journey.
I talk to my wife about these issues everyday and I can say it’s not the same talking to a woman about it. As men we have lost our identity. I always use the example to my wife “imagine your new born baby came out of the womb and didn’t need you, despised you for wanting to be supporting and robbed you of your motherhood experience, that’s what men are going through today. It’s no longer chivalry it’s “oh you think you’re better than me”. I’ve literally had girls get offended that I offer to help them lift something heavy. This society is terrible.
Yeah I’ve stopped holding doors for American women.
@Fearless Joy I see what you’re trying to say my friend but you’re thinking about it too literally. The point I’m trying to define is that men are being robbed of that manhood experience, we’re being taught that being too manly is sexist and we should tone it down. This isn’t about being a good or bad person. It’s about society shaming men. If you’re a bad man and use your strength, money or status to mistreat your wife then you’re not a man in my eyes, that goes without saying.
I taught my two sons manners, hold the door, offer to help carry, lift etc especially older women but men too. At 5yo my tall strong son ran ahead of a grandma and pulled open the huge, very heavy glass door at the bank. She was shocked but sweet and thanked him. That was who he was. In 7th grade he held the door for his woman teacher. Instead of saying thank you, she mocked him and said "I can get my own door". He was so embarrassed he stopped doing it. She was a 60s girl, feminist with no manners herself
@@thefitinvestor8803 I think it depends on the culture you surround yourself in. Where I live, women still appreciate when you hold the doors open for them. It may be time for you to move to a place where you as a man can be more appreciated by your community.
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I was raised by a single mother and by the time I was 14 she no more control. I was drinking and doing drugs with 2 of my brothers and I looked up to them so what ever they were doing I did. Now I’m 42 and starting all over again. If you are young and no father find a good role model because sometimes your own family can be your demise.
It’s better late than never. I had a similar situation, but my dad came back into our life & got sober when I was 12. But by then my brothers were already into gangs, drugs and everything else. They were in and out of juvenile hall.
My mother couldn’t control us, she did her best, but there’s only so much a woman can do when boys are rebellious. A fatherless home is the common denominator within those on drugs, in prison and struggling as adults.
When he came back into our lives I was already following their footsteps, and still had my issues. But I was able to avoid getting locked up and I eventually joined the Army.
I’m still learning to be a dad, and working on becoming a better man for my daughters. I need to be a man that sets the standard and a man they can look up too. At 42 years old (in February), I’m still a work in progress under construction of the Lord.
@@ChinoV You already are a better man. You realized you were going down a bad path and you took action and changed. God doesn't expect perfection, he expects progress.
@@Babygirlly555 Thank you. I give God the glory cause I know I’d be lost without him. I just pray to become more and more like him every day. I know I’m a work in progress until I go home.
Or maybe you just don't respect your mother bc she's a woman
@@AC-ri2ph What are you talking about? When did he say that he didn't respect his mother because she's a woman? You liberal feminists always miss the goal post.
Despite having a dad, he never taught me what a father should be teaching. He is abusive, chain smoker, manipulative, selective and most importantly, never considers anyone especially me and brother, nothing. Kept this video in my watch later months ago, watched now, realised how broken those kids are that don't have a parental figure to guide them through life. Anyways, I have taken my life in my hands and focus on making it better alongside my brother. Today after 5 years of mother's death, the role of my father is absent and more detrimental.
Wow thank you!! I’m raising my three young boys by myself while my husband is in prison, and I worry about being unable to teach them some of the things only a man can. I’m going to have my oldest son watch this. I can’t do everything, but Lord knows I’m trying!
I don't like single mothers but yours is an exception since you don't have a choice do the best you can I'm sure you'll be fine. The oldest son can step in for the others as you mentioned
Have them watch dragon ball z, great series loaded with masculine values not like the modern non sense God Bless 🙏
God will make your path easier, may your children grow to become good human beings with values and courage .
Prove enough. The military today indicates new decry with bones problem. Besides the junk food, no exercise at all.
@@sakibc1787 same. I don’t like single mothers. I like women who abort their children and abondon them. I would do that to
I'm glad these kind of issues are starting to be addressed on a larger scale now. Andrew Tate blew up precisely because men need this kind of message - it's ok to be a masculine man.
What is masculine?
@@tonkajahari3010 Watch the video! Patrick covers it!
@@tonkajahari3010 Masculine - having qualities and traits traditionally associated with men: confidence, assertiveness, leadership, mental and physical strength, courage, independance, ambition, decisiveness etc.
Hope this helps!
@@oll-turny-llo8200 And providing for their loved ones
Kevin Samuels as well
I remember starting lifting weights around 14 to stand strong against bullies at school. After my parent’s divorce my mom got most of the parental rights. She used to tell me I should stop it, that it’s bad for my bones if I do that before my skeleton was fully grown. Of course it’s coming from trying to protect me from harm, but it was discouraging at best. Our mothers deserve a lot of gratitude and credit, but Pat is so right here, so many of us lack a good male role model to balance things out. We need to seek them out and spend time with them and learn from them
As Mark Rippetoe asks, "what about those big strong farm kids who've been moving heavy loads like, forever? Proper heavy weight training will improve your skeletal strength and your overall health.
@@robertlehnert4148 Totally man, spot on
Oh man my mom did the same shit to me and I found out it's bullshit. I mean I'm strong now but have been hamstringed multiple times. Women man, can't live with them can't live without them. Help. Lol.
People should stop trying to find role models and start developing themselves. All of you are so desperate to be guided by something "higher"; by a religion, a culture, a cause, a role model. Sculpt yourself, or simply admit you are too weak to do so & get out of the way of those that can.
@@KevinJohnson-cv2no there is so much self-serving garbage in that it's hard to know where to begin.
"To thy own self be true" is FOOLISH advice, from the fool advisor, Polonius, which Shakespeare's audience got, but many raised in the out-of-context quick-quote era utterly misunderstand. The ancients, and our grandfathers used the power of prior and current examples to chart their paths and to teach their children not just morality, but life habits that worked.
Even hard core "sigmas" learn from others' example and advice, if they don't want to end up in prison or an early grave.
“It’s ok to fight through”
I just gave birth to my first child and boy. I’m so excited to share this with him.
hope she met a Overused LEFTOVERS 🤟
Update me on the progress would like to know, probably would work on a toddler too
This video gave me hope that there are still some real men out there who won't kneel. If you consider yourself such a person, I'm proud to be among you.
As a woman I fully support and agree with everything you’re saying. I used to have the same “feminist” mindset in my teens and early-mid 20s. It wasn’t until I really began to analyze where all my anger toward men stemmed from. It was because I felt weak and powerless as a woman, and I hated feeling that way. I thought Women needed to compete with men in order to be valuable in this world. But now I realize there is no need to do that because men and women were meant to complement each other, not compete. And there is value in being a woman.
Most women think it is easier being a man, when in reality it’s NOT! At least as women we’re allowed express our emotions freely without judgement, while men are told to shut up and suck it up. Society empathizes with women and are quick to help or rescue a woman in distress, whereas men are expected to suck it up and figure it out themselves. Being a woman has its challenges. But so does being a man. And that’s what these women fail to realize.
Did you ever get married?
Honestly I feel sorry for women who are taught this because they run out of time and end up alone. There are many issues with being a man, but one of the great blessings is that you can still build yourself up to be worthy of a family in your 30s and 40s and still conceive - not so for women who simply run out of time.
@@joblakelisbon yes, I’m in my mid 30s now. These women may not end up alone or childless. But they’ll definitely go through life feeling miserable, especially in their relationships with men, never understanding why. They won’t even see how they’re actually working against themselves because you can’t demand men to treat you like a “lady” while simultaneously trying to be just like a man lol.
I think that women like your younger self would be labeled as incels if they were teleported into a mans body and acted with the same mentality.
@@johnnyjohn-johnson7738 You're absolutely right they would.
The only reason they keep it up is because they can get attention even being insufferable. The consequences are long term enough that they can turn a blind eye and pretend they dont exist.
This is why i tell the guys around me to raise their standards, stop having meaningless hookups and stop 'simping' for lack of a better word. Theyre devaluing themselves and enabling the already astronomical ego many of these women have.
@@covegirl06 You are very fortunate to possess the ability to think your way out of your previously toxic feelings. Most people, men and women, lack this ability.
Look into The Root Cause Protocol.
Metallic iron filing overload is a big deal.
Depleted magnesium, retinoic acid (retinol + sun exposure) and copper depletion are big deals.
Read Daniel 2:43-44. The Money Power Families have.
They financed metallic iron filings I to the foold supply in 1941. They taught doctors to load up mothers with toxic iron when pregnant, even though research shows the healthiest babies are born to Moms with 8.5-9.5 hemoglobin.
Nutrient mineral depleted processed foolds pile on the problems.
What you describe is an inability to cleave to a man as a woman.
You learned to cleave.
Those loaded with too much iron can't cleave no matter what.
Great podcast. I am a mother of three young men. What you said is so true. Their father can give the hard love and direction that I am unable to do. Having a male role model in a young man’s life is imperative.
A person with another youtube channel and with the same picture, do not tell me to send you message and try to scam me.
gives us hope. well-balanced young boys are scarce
Real men are scarce. But at least you see what’s happening & what is needed
Thanks Kelly...for appreciating your husband....men need this
Women can give what's called "tough love", ot just may suit very many as well. I've seen plenty of mothers their sons were deathly afraid of for example Evander Hollyfield is one of them who turned out to be a truly great man's man and a champion. But the one thing you cannot give is a male role model or example in general to follow and look to strive towards because it takes a long time for a man to truly become a man and is something that women just cannot fully grasp because it comes from living as a man out in the real world. So yes it is imperative that he have male role models at the very least and is always in good company especially today in this truly toxic environment we live in 👍 👍
It is crazy how I grew up without a father figure and learned everything the hard way. Absolutely everything. Now, I can say i paved the way for the future males in my family.
Bcoz some mothers r not feminists ...they make you do what men actually do....and i am one of them ..mothers in our country who r single parent always teach us to be warrior like men...
My father left me, my brother and mother, he was suffering midlife crisis since the recession of 2008, and I never had strong father figure because he's a beta male. But I watch movies from 80s like Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallon, Jean-Claude Van Damme and Hulk Hogan these Men show me how strong they are. 😢
So you and your family drink bud light?
Sharkys machine and Death wish 1 through 4 were influential to me@@erenjeager9442
@@miraj1805what country are you from
A life lesson I live by.
There are lessons in losing that winning can't teach.
Really important lesson
Failure is the greatest teacher, but it builds you in a stronger version of you!
Agreed. Teaching my kids that failure is just a lesson in how not to do something and failure is when we learn the most about ourselves and what we're capable of.
Don't let failure stop you. Let it teach you.
" Failure builds character, rarely success can offer"
One of the most underrated things to learn in life
Just the other day at work I was trying to explain to one of my coworkers how society today in general was soft but MEN are DEFINITELY softer and weaker than we used to be. He seriously had no idea what I was talking about.
I don't understand what you're trying to communicate with this comment,
of course not everyone cares or will know about muscle strength or masculinity of past vs now.
Sorry, if your comment was intended to be random.
Most people aren't aware of social and cultural trends and issues. They just absentmindedly go with the flow
@@radiofreealbemuth Oh, I kind of take the whole "people not knowing things" that as given these days. That's probably why OP's comment confused me, I mean can you blame me, just look at anti-vaxxers or flat-earthers.
@@radiofreealbemuth.... Yep. Unfortunately I have to agree with you on that.
most people arent aware about this
Absolutely love this video Pat!! I’ve been feeling that all of this has needed to be said for YEARS and you’ve said it perfectly. 💪🏼 keep speaking the truth!
I love these valuetainment videos cause they present hard truths in a positive way.
I refuse to let my son become a weak man. As his father, I'm teaching him about responsibility, accountability, success, failure and the ability to accept things that are out of our control. More importantly, I tell him that a victimhood mentality is absolutely not allowed in our household. Make men great again! 🇺🇸
Spot on. Doing likewise with my son. Teaching him that kindness is imperative and doesn't make a man weak. Be someone people can count on. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
My daughter when she was 15yo she said daddy im not a boy LOL and I explained to her you now know how boys/men need to act. So I started to give her standards for men and thats how she chooses mates.
Well done
Then you NEED TO GET HIM IN SPORTS. Need. Not should.
@J C why was Christ a pacifist? He could have easily destroyed his enemies instead was sent to the Cross
The walking on eggshell comments are very on point. Manhood is not only under attack by certain groups but also by weak men. I had a father figure but he wasn't around. I had to find my manhood alone and that's very tough. Looking back, a lot of my issues are connected to a lack of a father figure.
You're not alone. Mine abandoned me as an infant and it's taken many years of self analysis to realize how much the lack of father affected and impacted my life. Be strong and break the cycle.
100% agree
Same with me,my father committed suicide when I was 4 (I'm 26 now),I don't have a single memory of him,the only thing I have is a few pictures,I have alot of mental issues and I think not having a father figure is part of it
@@calebdawson8690 , wow. Sorry to hear about that. My brother committed suicide and I can’t imagine your pain. I’m 41 and I can tell you that despite him not being around, you can still find role models and move forward. Knowing the source of our pain is good but what makes the difference is our response to adversity.
I was in 8th grade when my dad disappeared, parents had been divorced for 6 years at this point.
I think he used us (my brother and me) to get back at my mom.
I like to think of it in terms of how bad would it have been if he stayed? I mean, it could be a good thing he took off.
A lack of a father figure was rough. My mom tried, big brother's, Scouts. There is no replacement.
Had she dated, again, she could have found herself an abuser.
Life is what it is.
Thank You for putting this out there Patrick, we need to hear this more.
We lead.
We respect.
We improve.
We love.
One of the biggest gaps in society- lack of a Father that leads. Great words of wisdom. Thank you.
Society is engineered to be that way.
It takes someone like Patrick from a country outside the USA to really show this perspective. Every time I travel outside the usa, for example to Columbia or Dominican republic, the men are being themselves. They're not supposed to cower down and be afraid to express themselves etc.
Wrong. It takes a mirror to reveal such perspective. Wake up, fellas. You’re being systematically neutered as you play fantasy football and simp for your spoiled wives. Pathetic.
@@_h_r_1_ He was born in Iran, and then when the Shah was removed lived in a refugee camp in Germany until his family moved to USA. So he is indeed, not 'from" the USA
And any man who “cowers down” and is afraid to be himself isn’t a man. He’s a eunuch. They can stow that shit up their new normal right along with their rainbow flags and their “equity”..... whatever the hell THAT’S supposed to be.
Get on your little merry go round ponies and ride.
Excellent observation.. yes, not caught up in performance with something to prove either. Just be yourself and confident being who you are.
Nothing more attractive than a man that knows who he is and what he wants in life and love... doing everything to better himself, learning from his mistakes, gaining wisdom-skills and pursuing his goals in life. 😍✌️
@@chriscristah9178 Goals? Yeah sure. Goals are important.... but so are priorities. My priority “goal” has always been not to take any crap from anybody. I sure as hell didn’t get rich and i sure as hell never will at this stage of the game... but I didn’t cower and when I let myself get trapped I got out.
Goals?
Don’t take any crap and know when you’ve screwed up and it’s time to walk. The rest is mostly luck and timing. Draw the line that NObody is allowed to cross. NObody.
..... and don’t fear failure... or death.
“Know thyself”.
End of story.
Wow, you speak the truth!! Refreshing to hear the others side.
I’m sharing this with my church’s men’s group!! We need to hear this, as older brothers, Godly men, husbands, and fathers!
Says the guy who comes from a cowards stock. Pat ran from Iran to come to the United States. Pat is a compliant little tippy toer, because He fears the establishment. Being a coward is not masculine.
@@banewillrise6818 annnnnd?? I’m sorry, but being masculine doesn’t mean being stupid. If you’re in danger, you flee. If you need help, you ask. He’s a leader, and that’s one of the greatest attributes of masculinity.
@@bigboyjeans9198 Pat is a compliant little tippy toer. He advocates for running from issues, rather than facing them, fighting them, and pushing back. He will always be a coward. He will always justify his cowardice by saying he has a family, kids, and has employees that depend on him. He then calls this type of behavior being smart, or having wisdom. It's not either of those things, all this guy does is talk this compliant BS to an audience of other sheep. He's a coward, he's a pussy, he stands for nothing, he's slave to the matrix. He ran from Iran in order to go get feminized in the west. TATE = masculine, Pat = feminine. Pat has no business speaking about masculinity. He needs to stay in has lane. Talk about being a compliant, feminine, tippy-toein money maker in the matrix, and delusionally call yourself masculine. The dudes a joke. He literally ran from Iran, instead of fighting for what he believed. Then he takes his bitch-made ass to the US talking some masculine bs. How are you not seeing this. Jesus Christ did not run from his crucifixion, he faced it head on. Jesus knew the pain he would have to endure, and he didn't RUN and find some lame excuses for why he couldn't do it. Ask your so-called mens group, what would Jesus do.
Men here are too focused on things like being tough and being a leader. Not all men are meant to be leaders. Some women like shy men and find them adorable and attractive. Some men like take-charge types of women. It's not being pro-male to disrespect certain men because they aren't born with the "right" personality.
@friendlyTroll I wouldn't say Patrick is promoting worldliness. Take Jesus for example. Jesus was the ultimate masculine man. God put him through dying on the cross, the worst pain and suffering possible to glorify God and to save many on earth. Jesus' life would have been meaningless if he didn't put himself through the cross.
I am a married father of three children I am 53 years old. I study martial arts and lift weights, it is not something that is toxic it is something that will hopefully allow me to enjoy my time with my children when I’m much older. It’s imperative to stay in shape
Its refreshing to hear you speak!!
SO much of what you said is 100% on point, Pat. THANK YOU!
I was married for 20yrs (3yrs divorced) we have a 13 yr old boy...
I'm constantly day by day staying on top of him making sure he understands what a real man is. It's my responsibility as a father he needs to be strong emotionally, mentally and physically... that's an order!!!!!
You need to lead by example. Not just order them around.
Don't forget to remind him to reinforce the status quo at school by bullying nerds.
@@digiocha896 of course! I'm my son's role model.
your wife divorced you so you already failed
@@Thagomizer don't bully others unless you want to be bullied. What goes around comes around
"Men are not the enemy"..I love this
I love your fact filled videos that are red pill but not biased for no reason
Preach brother!!!
Really glad I found this channel
Embrace masculinity. If you have a son, teach him the same. So many people think that means being an asshole, but it's the ability to have power over others and not abuse that power.
Sometimes being an asshole is part of masculinity. Men aren’t robots.
@@aks1993kumar for that reason, I say don't abuse the power. Never said don't use the power.
@@billyherrera9187 To abuse power you have to have power in the first place. Being an asshole is power. Being an asshole all the time is abuse. The biggest freedom is the freedom to be stupid. That’s the backdrop to being smart.
Nah i like being an asshole it's what made me elevate in Life compared to be Soft
@@aks1993kumar Being an asshole is power? Ok, I'd disagree, but go ahead with that because you can be a powerless asshole. The main difference being that the powerless asshole would get his ass kicked or lose capital or be alone. Remind me of this when your wife is banging your "nice" friend that can kick your ass or when your kids hate you.
I have 14 horses that I broke and trained myself. For years now I have been watching boys turn into girls. Every young man should listen to your words here they are truly on target. I watch your stuff all the time. I think you are doing a great service for all of us.
Thank you for being a man's man.
If this is true, it's probably 'cause they've been watching w with male anatomy in po rn- which has been brought to the world by m.
I am sick of watching boys turn into girls also
Who decided that is ok ?
Going against your natural instincts and then get depressed
Letting gay people and transgenders adopt children , i feel sorry for the child really
They say all a child needs is Love.
Love won’t help you cross the final line . You need more than that a lot more
Rainbow flags and lgbt agendas are everywhere
Men becoming drag queens W T F
How can men be real men ???? How?? there is no way if this continues
Wake up people
WAKE UP
Proud and afraid men like you still make the world go 'round. Quit yer bitchin.
Words of truth! Keep up the great talks Pat!
This video is absolutely gold.
Thanks you so much 🔥🔥
LOVED IT PAT! I’m in my early 50s, a combat veteran, and was a fireman for 25 years before injuring my back during a stairwell collapse and having to beat stage four lymphoma, and stage one bone cancer. I’ve had six major chest surgeries in the last four years my left lung is gone. Fighting to get everything back and I’m out able to hike up to 4 miles at once but I do go out and hike at least 2 miles three times a week. I’ve earned the right to be able to say I don’t give a shit what people think about me I thought that way my entire life and will never stop. I try to tell young men you can never give up you always have to improve yourself. I told them every day is a day to make yourself better than you were the day before. I absolutely loved watching that video
As a young man that was admired by my peers growing up to now being broke, alone, and moving back home with my parents, this is 110% accurate.
hey man. It's going to be okay. It doesn't matter if they don't admire you anymore, but how do YOU see yourself? The good news is that you can get back out there and dominate, but don't hurt yourself emotionally from all the negative self-talk you're probably putting yourself through. Work with yourself, not against. Men still need kindness and love, ESPECIALLY from yourself and other men. You have my full support man. Just dig into what this time was supposed to teach you, remember to be grounded in God (depending on what you believe) go back to the drawing board and come back stronger than before. I believe in you, man.
Keep going and create strong boundaries with them. Focus on your independence. They will not respect that so becareful telling them your plans. They will seek to destroy you. Know how much you can allow them to know about you.
Focus one thing, get certifications or back to school for any on-demand field and start gaining experience. You have to do hard work now otherwise it will be impossible later on. Endure the pain of hard work, whatever you do that will shape you and teach you discipline. The hard work will shape you to be responsible and competitive.
The bigger issue as I see it is that men don't support other men enough. We look upon each other as competitors instead of brothers. It's like it's not manly to reach out to another man when he's hurting and vice versa. I consider myself to be a man's man, an Alpha male and a stand up guy, but sometimes we need that support and encouragement from other [manly] men. Just like when a soldier marches in the battlefield, he doesn't go alone, he does it with his comrades
90% of men will support women no matter what. Women will support women 100% of the time, no matter what, meaning that society supports women, and their causes 95% of the time. Men, on the other hand, only support their male counterparts 20% of the time, while women support the cause of men only 10% of the time, meaning men only get 15% airplay, and support, from society. In general, men love women deeply, and will die for them, but women use men for their utility and would not intentionally place themselves in harm's way defending a man. The squeaky wheel gets the oil.
it's easy to begin with. Talk to men, ask them, encourage them, make jokes. I worked in a shop for a while and often spoke to customers more than I had to. Most of them, especially men, are grateful for that. The empathy gap to the detriment of men can be bridged very well, at least in personal dealings. So we enjoyed working more and the shop was very popular. We worked in the technical area and mostly had male interns. Since the topic is important to me, I was able to open the eyes of many young men, because up to now they have only been told about great and strong women. I particularly enjoyed supporting them in their identity and self-confidence
Facts
@@jacksquat4140where did you get those numbers from?
Find your pack ! You will never get along with every men, you will never be brothers to random men. It's always team against another team, tribe A vs tribe B... You have your brotherhood to love, care and be loyal to, you also have your competition to destroy and keep you on top by being the best you can
One of the most amazing videos I’ve seen in my life
Dude, you're right on many levels. You had to go through your life and make difficult decisions based on observation. I admire that and I'm glad you succeeded.
It's not just divorce that contributes to men not having a good role model or an exemplary male role model. I was raised in a two parent household with an older sister, yet my parents had lost a child between me and my sister... something that my parents really never got over. My dad dealt with the loss by losing himself in work. He was also afraid to get close to me, so this did all sorts of things to me early in my development. Now in my mid 60s, I can see all of this and therapy in my 40s helped with this a lot. Love this video, Patrick!! I'm grateful for your level-headed advice on so many levels.
Thank you for sharing your story, Jim. I'm happy to know you have overcome to a degree. Big hug for a brighter future.
@@aztlanplay... Overcoming is something that happens in degrees. To do so took a very difficult divorce at the end of my second marriage along with having to walk away from nearly everything several years later. It was the tough times that helped me in such a process. I feel that the best part of all this is the fact that if I had the opportunity to do it all over again, I'd really not do things any differently because to do so would prevent me from being who I am today and I quite like the man I've become, in spite of some very dark times in my life.
@@jimrogers7425; that's a great way to view the process of Life. Thank you!
I'm a residential electrician and I've been to so many fatherless broken homes - to do state funded work- it's so goddamn depressing.
🥺 Leave a blessing at each house you're at 🙏
That’s good you are employed to do that, and remember try not to judge those people. Also remember, just because the father isn’t in the home, doesn’t mean the father is absent from the child’s life.
@store 1k96 what are you even talking about? That was a very emotional response… because what did I say that was wrong. I just said, try not to judge those people…. And where did I say a mother can be a father or vice versa. I said, just cause a father isn’t seen there, doesn’t mean the father is absent from the child’s life or that the child’s life is broken. I personally know a good amount of fathers who are very present in their child’s life, but just so happen to not be with the mother.
As a father of a one year old boy and another boy on the way, I am genuinely glad I came across your channel and this video specifically. Very informative and helpful
EMPOWERING & UPLIFTING THANK YOU 💯🎯
This is great advice. Only thing I disagree with is "try having s*x." Sex is not companionship and it can leave a man feeling more empty at the end of the day, especially if it's with multiple women. Might be better instead to either work toward having an actual relationship with grounded woman, or find a group of like-minded men to have support, stability and possibly mentorship. Either way you're not alone and not left wanting for connection. Both is good actually. Outside of that, awesome video. We need more strong men pulling up other men 💪 thank you for all u do.
Absolutely, thank you for expressing this.
Nope. Sex have other psycho and physiological effects then what you wrote.
He means to have confidence in real time. Not a keyboard warrior.
@@thecerebralexplorer Have all the sex you want, within the bounds of marriage. A real marriage, not the hijacked scam that is running in secular states with gynocentric laws. This makes daddy government the authority, and removes the authority of the man from the home, all by design. That is why women are oppressing men, they don't need them anymore. Marriage is sacred, and we are not animals.
not rue depends on how you have sex multiple partners with a intimate connection you don't feel empty
I was on Twitter years ago (pre covid days) and I remember joining an argument about how guys should step up, to be more a man and learn self defence. This lady joined the message board to tell how us men are toxic, she is teaching her son to talk to her on any issues he has in school and to avoid all conflict as it unnecessary and creats hate. A lot of us didn't agree to her statement and warned her the negatives its creating to her son's confidence. She laughed and brushed it off saying a mother's knows best for her son, a year or two later she posted her son commited suicide due to a girl rejecting him and how the toxic men are responsible for cock blocking him.
These womxn have zero self insight.
Lol. She got what she deserved.
Certified modern single mother moment.
Certified bruh moment and a really sad one too.
That’s what listening to women will get you as a man. Man self destructed trying to compute her advice and logic everyday. A truly torturous experience it must’ve been as it always is.
Wish I had found Patrick earlier on RUclips. Love his podcasts.
Thank you so much for making this, a lot men are just lost today
The second part about the mother telling her son to come back home is so true. Multiple times i had to move back home because of coming from a single parent house (had my father but on weekends). It always embarass me to have to come back, and follow the same mentally abusive rules. The last time i had to move back home at age 32 and i was hellbent on just sleeping in my car, my father over the phone cried, and told me to move back in with my mom and i had two kids and couldn't abandon them. Right then, i knew this would be the last time i ever move back home. 4 years later, i have a place, making a good salary, consistently learning, and started investing in the stock market. I will never go back to the mentally weak person i was back then.
amen brotha
Good stuff! Cheers 🥂
The majority of the prison population come from single mother family - what does it tell you that so many would rather commit a crime to go back to jail than have to deal with their toxic mother
I feel u Fam. Stay up
Thanks Pat. The number one problem in todays society is there not enough of man’s man.
11:14 people pleasing is an addiction that left alone will dominate you. I’m a people pleaser in recovery. By the way, I’m driven my advancement. Thank you for sharing Pat.
“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”
Wow amazing stuff! Jist wrote my notes, now meditating on how to apply them 👌👌👌💪🏻
A motto I have lived my entire life by is “when you settle for less, you get even less than you settled for.”
If you don’t go after your goals and dreams with everything you’ve got- you’ll look back with regret one day and wish you’d have tried harder. Men need to be pushed in order to grow and achieve their maximum potential. Men need other strong men in their lives to lean on for support and guidance. None of us are perfect in every area of our lives. We become better men by helping each other and encouraging one another to push past their limits.
Meeting PBD last week at Valuetainment was a huge honor. I’ve wanted to meet him for years. He’s just as genuine in person as he is on RUclips or while speaking on stage.
Keep making great content. You’re a much needed voice of reason and balance in today’s society.
A person with another youtube channel and with the same picture, do not tell me to send you message and try to scam me.
Well said 👍🏼
Hello Mr. Bet David, I don’t normally comment on RUclips videos because it often isn’t worth my time to do so but I am feeling compelled to now. I am a 20 year old aspiring entrepreneur based in Florida, and I just wanted to let you know how much your content is changing the course of my life. Growing up I was raised to believe that college is the only successful track in life, and that business is more of a lottery and no one like us can ever really make it in business. I hated school and felt absolutely miserable in college until I eventually dropped out, causing strain on my relationship with my parents. It wasn’t until I found you that I found the light, a side to the argument I never really heard before. Because of you, I have been reading and learning about useful and relevant topics, I have been making it to the gym everyday and I have been feeling much more disciplined than I ever could’ve imagined I would become! Thank you Patrick for putting in the effort to create such amazing and informational content, because it really does do a lot of good for people like me. It is my mission to become successful enough to appear on your radar and to be able to get an interview from you. I have my sights set on becoming so good at something that you will have no choice but to ask me on to the set of Valuetainment! This is my declaration to you, as well as to myself. I will meet you. Again, thank you Patrick. You will see the fruits of your labor in me someday.
GO GET 'EM CHAMP!!!
I’m already proud of you❣️
Don’t give up when the going gets rough n things don’t turn out exactly as you planned. It’s part of of the learning process. I’ll pray for your success young man.
God bless 😘
Great post! And you didn't complain about your mom. Double points. I wish you best of luck!
This show was so good I viewed it twice..Patrick great work as always
Great interview! Wonderful points. All young men should see this
You Beauty Sir. Honoured. God Bless YOU with all the Awesome People, Experiences and Things.
Regarding the single mothers raising children without fathers - I can’t judge on the reasons for the father’s absence (could be a tragedy for all I know), but one thing is crystal clear: kids react way differently to their fathers than their mothers. Without teaching him, my son looks to Mom for nurture and care, and he looks to Dad to test physical boundaries. Obviously each parent needs to contribute emotionally, physically, and even spiritually, but there’s no question that my son comes to me to test his physical capabilities. Rough play is necessary, and I believe that fathers for the most part provide that better than mothers.
Ben, when I was a kid in the early 60's, my grandmother told me and my brother that govt agents were in the neighborhood telling women that they could get a cheque every month BUT they couldn't have a man in the house!! My bro was about 17 and asked what happens to the father, husband, does he have to rent an apt?? We looked at each other because we hadn't seen many ever because in her neighborhood and ours had front yards, basements, backyards etc. It was over my head but I did listen. Years later I realized that the authorities knew exactly what would happen, and that it was just part of the pervasive racism and hate black folks have always faced,THEY WANTED TO DESTROY THE BLACK FAMILY AND EMASCULATE THE BLACK MAN. Thats why fathers are absent!! Nobody Anywhere would do this out of anything like love, would they??
It feels like (to me at least) this conversation is starting to be more talked about and I love it. Having a society of strong, masculine men is good for everyone!
Men should be honorable, the women should be virtuous, the family should be strong, while the bonds of love, for one another, should be sacred.
Absolutely amazing content. Going to do my part to make sure I’m active in my future kids life 🔥
Brothers, I've lost it all many times. Woman, children, business'. Everything
I went hungry to feed my son
My finger has rested on the trigger
But I am still here, rebuilt again
I am you my brother
And we are still here.
Keep going 💯🌊
I taught middle school for about 10 years and, without fail, every boy who continually misbehaved was raised without a father in the home or, in rare cases, a father who was abusive. But more often than not, the boy was being raised by a single mother.
One minute into the video and I am already liking it. Bravo
Hey mate, you're right. I like what you say it's refreshing
As a 80 year old combat veteran.. size and strength don't matter. The biggest cowards were always the biggest guys.
I don't agree with you on many things, but Pat, I couldn't agree more with you on the need of children for fathers.
Men may not be able to tolerate the mother, but that doesn't invalidate their right to be a parent to these kids nor does it negate the child's right to be raised by their father.
I agree on all points. I was fortunate to grow up in a farm in the 80s where I was taught how to handle hard work mentally & physically. Skills that have served me well throughout my life.
Somebody needed to bring all this to everyone’s attention. It’s about time. I’m so glad you are bringing awareness of this HUGE issue to light. Great content Pat
it's a good thing we are getting rid of manly men, we don't need them anymore.
smart people like me create machines that do the hard work that primitive men used to do, and the machines do it 100x faster.
so we don't need those ape men anymore, it's called evolution folks.
I’m 41 and made all the mistakes that come from having a mother coddle me. It’s time to become a man’s man. But I wanna go home for Christmas. Thanks Pat! This video changed my life. 🙏🏾
You're not alone, brother. I had an overprotective mother and i internalized a lot of her shit. Not anymore.
You actually need a mother cuddle tho
Are you working out now and starting your biz 8 days after?
bro this is so important. mind right, body strong, thats where we belong!
Great message for young men today! Its great someone is promoting men to be proud of their testosterone, its a good thing!!💪💪
Glad you spoke on the topic
“Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.”
This quote gets reposted so much people don't even know what it really means anymore "it sounds cool brah"
@@ghostingwhileblack and we are living in the last part of that quote.. weak men era aka soyboy snowflake..
@@ghostingwhileblack it means challenges and getting uncomfortable consistently produces strong men. When men are strong then society thrives because the strong man is a natural leader. When men don't get uncomfortable consistently and just indulge in comfort then it produces weak men and weak men cause society to suffer.
@@ghostingwhileblack 😁😂😈😈😈😂😂
Stupid men, mostly in government, create hard times.
You earned my like here Pat. These videos are what your audience wants to see, look at the views and likes! More like this Pat. You’re a great role model and we appreciate these videos. Well done 👍🏻
Thats a dope video. Amazing Patrick. Thank you sir and well done
Really love your content, from the political reporting episodes to the male values videos!
Great content!
I remember your channel really blew up with the interview of Michael Frazese and other people from different fields!
Great channel!
I was trying to loosen a bolt on a dog bed; at my shelter job; that one of the dogs had trashed. I asked this 20ish kid if he could help me. I saw him start turning the bolt to the right, to loosen it. I was shocked that he didn't know that you have to turn bolts to the left, to loosen them. I told him the age old mantra "lefty loosey, righty tigyty" and he got this wounderous look in his eyes, like I had said the most profound thing he had ever heard. He had never heard that before. I don't know the kid's home situation, but that was so sad to see. All boys should know how to tighten and loosen bolts by the age of 10. It's sad that boys are growing up in to young men, without knowing even basic mechanics/repair. When the bottom falls out, these femenized boys are going to be relegated to being in the rear, with the gear, while men are going to have to do all the heavy lifting. Unfortunately, I think the other shoe is going to drop, sooner rather than later.
I'm 22 my dad asked me to help him with mechanical/repair stuff every couple yrs in my teens I forgot pretty much everything in between, but I realize it is my fault I should be trying to do stuff by myself. I just felt no desire or need to growing up. I had youtube and I didn't teach myself. I feel useless
@@zainm5919 Don't feel too bad. Just learn the basics. Get manuals for repairing stuff. They have Haynes and Chilton manuals for every yr/make/model of car you need. I always get a manual for each car I buy, just in case. The only issue with relying on YT, is if there is a power/network outage. As long as you know basic stuff, you should be o.k.
How did he get his twist top drinks open? 😂 50/50 chance each time?
Thinly veiled ‘I know how to loosen a bolt’ post
I’d like to say something about the college applications dropping. A lot of men have realized that college can be a scam you don’t need it to be financially successful. Majority of women are plugged into the matrix and want to live by standards of society hence that’s why they tend to go to college and because society tells them too. Just my observations Brotha
On the money. True.
so true truth be told the only things holding college up at this point is Lawyers, Engineers, and Doctors and Architects but these aren't just degrees they are disciplines so they should be classified as something else it's not just a trade but its a mix of trade + discipline so it could be classified as just a trade
Good point!
Yeah the women all go to college and get their soft degrees and then end in government jobs, teaching or the HR department further contaminating the pool. The female mind front loads this pink molasses of empathy and 'feelings' onto every decision before considering reason and practical. Which explains a lot of the disfunction and where we are today. Look at any big city with a woman in charge and see how well that has worked out.
Couldn't be that its getting more expensive, and people are poorer. Couldn't be. Must be...the matrix.
I'll be back in a year with an update. This fired me tf up.
God! I love this channel....followed PBT since before podcasts. You are awesome sir!👊👊
People say that my directness can be offensive. I tell them my directness tells them what they need to hear and saves us all from wasting each other's time.
This man just gets better and better at connecting with his audience. Thank you!
You are the Pat. I thank you for your information. A bunch of years to late. Better late than never. Keep being you! Thank you again.
Good video, I think we should compete over who can do the most good, and help people the most.
A true man throws himself upfront to protect others. I'm sick of being critized for sacrificing myself even by those who benefit from my sacrifice.
Really? Other guys criticize you for that?
Playing cod is not sacrificing
@@american-professor cod?
@@unbezo398 Call of duty.
Says the guy who comes from a cowards stock. Pat ran from Iran to come to the United States. Pat is a compliant little tippy toer, because He fears the establishment. Being a coward is not masculine.
You’re literally describing my life right now PBD. I feel very put on the spot and your advice kind of adds some clarity to the situation.
I seriously enjoy your videos and I am learning a lot, thank you.
As someone who is now 36 and a fledgling business owner to say, politely, your video was very refreshing to hear and see, and as someone who was once homeless, and also messing around with drugs, your words couldn’t be more truer
Thank you for bringing this to the forefront, Patrick. So many young men NEED to hear this message.
Weight training at age 13 through today at over 60 , i control my physique and my enviroment not vice versa with "spill over " effect . Thank you , Arnold Schwarzenegger for the advice.
Thanks Patrick
See ya in Orlando
thanks man from a guy who never met his father these videos help me alot
Very true video. Too many young men have been conditioned to please others, especially women. They should invest in their own physical fitness and their career/business. Once they've achieved a certain level of success in these two areas, other aspects of their life will fall into place. Get plenty of sleep, eat a proper diet, and spend only 12 hours a week in the gym. Do whatever is necessary to further yourself in your career/business. If you need additional education/training then go get it. Do these things for yourself, not in pursuit of women.
REEAAAALLLY? Everywhere I look I see men who only look out for themselves.
true