20 Rules For Young Men

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  • @VALUETAINMENT
    @VALUETAINMENT  2 года назад +373

    Click here for the PDF: valuetainment.com/20-rules-for-young-men/

    • @guysumpthin2974
      @guysumpthin2974 2 года назад +18

      #1 there are two types of women , and two types of men : virtuous, and non-virtuous . #2 there is no justice system. The “justice system “ was created to “level”the playing field (balance the scales) by insuring the wealthy wont have an unfair advantage. #3 there are 7 deadly sins , and the owners manual is right. . #4 for a man , your future happiness/success is directly proportional to your womans virtues #5 love is the most important thing on earth. #6 Seek knowledge and wisdom always, wisdom being greater #7 “the best way to pray is in private”. #8 a whorish woman will turn your children against you

    • @leventefaludi-orszagh211
      @leventefaludi-orszagh211 2 года назад

    • @juanpiriz4300
      @juanpiriz4300 2 года назад +13

      No PDF

    • @aditya_it_is
      @aditya_it_is 2 года назад +1

      Giving wrong advice & running propaganda for money is not a good thing. Let people see what is real, don't brainwash them into looking at world in a particular way! Be a man, have some ethics, don't sell your children's to the devil! Be compassionate, allow people to be free, let them grow on their own, in their own way!!

    • @BigRaji1981
      @BigRaji1981 2 года назад +2

      1 don't get married in a western culture
      2. Get a dog
      3 get a passport
      4 repeat steps 1 through 4 while you research the right investment for you to retire overseas

  • @auniquehandle
    @auniquehandle 3 года назад +9175

    20 rules:
    1. Know the difference between love and lust.
    2. It's OK to go to movies by yourself.
    3. Hygiene is more important than you think.
    4. Never date a friend's ex.
    5. Stay informed on what's going on. Don't be a sheep.
    6. Have sense of humor but don't joke about dreams and goals.
    7. Study the type of people who upset you and why.
    8. Stand up to bullies. You'll only have to do it once.
    9. Don't bully people weaker than you.
    10. Learn how to tell stories.
    11. Don't lean on porn to be better in bed. Read the right books.
    12. You never marry a girl. You marry her entire family.
    13. Don't complain - you seem helpless. 80%/20%
    14. Be impressed by the right things. Things that matter.
    15. When coming across a successful person talk / impress less. Ask more
    16. Have a memorable style.
    17. Don't feel guilty for being ambitious.
    18. Be mentally and emotionally ready to lose loved ones.
    19. Always have some cash, condoms, and a power bank.
    20. Be aware of your level of sensitivity.
    21. Regardless of what you get paid per hour, give your best. Effort + Attitude matters.

    • @sathsah1593
      @sathsah1593 3 года назад +76

      # wrt 12.. visa versa . i only like him , not the family. what the hell i got myself stuck into. what was I thinking

    • @nobodynone1297
      @nobodynone1297 3 года назад +380

      Rules for young men .
      #1 don't stick your finger in there
      #2 never pull it out in public
      #3 he who smelled it delt it
      #4 finders keepers
      #5 if it ain't broke dont fix it
      #6 better late than never
      #7 not illegal if you dont get caught
      #8 beaten ain't cheaten
      #9. Deny deny deny
      #10 don't do today what you can put off till tomorrow.
      #11 save the best for last
      #12 always breakup before Valentine day
      #13 work smart not hard
      #14 tricks are for kids
      #15 Homie don't play that
      #16 if you ain't first your last
      #17 never mix dark with clear liquor
      #18 No Fat Chicks
      #19 always Tip 15%
      #20 promises are meant to be broken

    • @darylallen2485
      @darylallen2485 3 года назад +42

      @@nobodynone1297 Ricky Bobby would be proud!

    • @justkaizen1392
      @justkaizen1392 3 года назад +77

      Posts like these promote laziness and the short attention span that people have today.

    • @JohnnyCage333
      @JohnnyCage333 3 года назад +2

      👌🏼Thanks Potato!

  • @IrvOfficial
    @IrvOfficial 3 года назад +9275

    This is the type of education we should have in schools

    • @limyize
      @limyize 3 года назад +67

      Schools are DESIGNED to breed workers not leaders

    • @vasharal38
      @vasharal38 3 года назад +68

      Totally agreeing with this!

    • @arah924
      @arah924 3 года назад +8

      They dont want everyone to be successful

    • @cardcode8345
      @cardcode8345 3 года назад +43

      I'm not sending my kid in that school, I'll rather read philosophers than listening to an MLM marketing guru, as all knows is how pay this employees less than minimum wage, he contributes nothing like there productive value to there business.

    • @Likexner
      @Likexner 3 года назад +44

      They werent made for that. They were made to produce obedient workers, or nowadays consumers.

  • @bladelazoe
    @bladelazoe 3 года назад +1145

    I would add to this, Get out of your comfort zone as much as you can. You will feel awkward, anxious, nervous, uncomfortable....But that's exactly what you should be feeling. Embrace that feeling until it is comfortable. I lived the first 25 year of my life in my small bubble and often wondered why shit wasn't happening. Exposure and repetition are key. You will fail a lot, but you will get better. This could be anything from Skydiving to asking that girl/boy you find very attractive. It's all the same feeling. If you build up that courage and make it a habit, your life will change in ways you can't ever imagine.

    • @ken250k
      @ken250k 3 года назад +50

      I needed to see this, thank you

    • @shmoofgang
      @shmoofgang 3 года назад +18

      Agreed^^ this is inspiring bro. Glad you’re on a better path

    • @Shanodd
      @Shanodd 3 года назад +9

      Woah this gave me chills.

    • @Nesggy
      @Nesggy 3 года назад +19

      I just moved out from my family home 2 months ago, I'm living completely alone in an other continent.
      It's not easy but I enjoy my life, and I'll keep growing.

    • @ponstruck
      @ponstruck 3 года назад +4

      Thank you random internet stranger

  • @jacklan4103
    @jacklan4103 Год назад +1131

    22. Control your emotions and remain calm. If you must be angry, use it out of necessity rather than letting it use you. Controlling your emotions is a sign of strength.
    23. Take a look at yourself first before blaming others. Take accountability and responsibilities for your own actions.
    24. Be willing to walk away from from toxic people.
    25. Have discipline. You are not your emotions. Your emotions are fickle but discipline can be your greatest weapon over it.

    • @batboy5023
      @batboy5023 Год назад +30

      thanks

    • @arjunbhardwaj6619
      @arjunbhardwaj6619 Год назад +18

      Thanks a lot bud

    • @elir6149
      @elir6149 Год назад +4

      thanks bro

    • @Ace_The_1
      @Ace_The_1 Год назад

      Cheers mate

    • @benchybear
      @benchybear Год назад +4

      I think it's important to distinguish between not letting anger control you and doing shit you regret and being ok with showing emotion. it should be ok to collapse on someone you need, it should be ok to get passionate about something you care about and it should be ok for a man to cry Infront of people. having the ability to express your emotions like that is the strongest thing a boy can do

  • @catalyst429
    @catalyst429 2 года назад +89

    I've watched a lot of business guys, motivation self help stuff, but out of everybody in the genre that he is in Pat has always seemed like the most genuine and down to earth person on here. I'm 21 right now and I've been listening to you since I was in early high school, now I have an amazing business mentor that I work with and really feel good about my future. You're the man!

  • @lastink444
    @lastink444 3 года назад +2823

    As a young man without a father figure, knowledge like this is extremely important. Thank you Pat for being a fantastic role model for many people including me.

    • @George-ps5
      @George-ps5 2 года назад +41

      Hey, watch Jordan Peterson, he’s helped me a lot

    • @matthewtrenhaile1176
      @matthewtrenhaile1176 2 года назад +17

      Listen to the comment below, Jordan Peterson is awesome

    • @alex47_in_downtown18
      @alex47_in_downtown18 2 года назад +7

      @@George-ps5 JP is dope

    • @bigmike3007
      @bigmike3007 2 года назад +17

      Don’t let it beat you down I’m 34 and I been under the same roof as my father and to be honest I never had the best relationship with him he had his own demons that he is still fighting today. The first thing to do is to erase the thought that he’s not there because of you because that’s not true. Parenting actually sucks in this world because their parents sucked to. Second thing is to use it as some type of motivation and strive to be better and make better decisions and model yourself as the type of man you would want your father to be. It’s easier said then done but if you don’t have kids, you’re already ahead because you have more time to focus on yourself don’t have a kid until you have enough money to put him or her through college twice, not saying college is for everyone but just have an abundance of money saved and building. Third understand that we all have our issues and some people just haven’t worked theirs out yet. I didn’t have a good relationship with my dad but I paid attention to what he shown. He went to work came home put food and clothes on our backs and when we were really young he did things with us, but then he got hurt and he is now disabled from working so hard. I carried around something in me blaming him blaming myself for things and I went out there working hard trying to show for something because I wanted to impress him and two years ago I swear to you the same thing happened to me I hurt my back and I could be potentially disabled from working as well. So I know that void can make you angry but if you apply these tips along with what was said in the video and you don’t have to be rude but you can’t let anyone take you for granted especially women because now that I’m older I see why my dad wasn’t the dad I wanted he went through a rough patch losing both of his parents by the age of 13 and he lost his brother and 3 sisters and my mom has helped him out and they’ve been married for 33 years but it’s not the best because the family on his side disapproved it but people do what they want to but now that I’m older and got to see things with my own eyes I see how one can be overwhelmed with life some people just give up. Im here to tell you don’t ever give up and always take care of your health mentally,physically, emotionally and spiritually and you will be fine! You’re never too old or too young to learn something keep learning young king

    • @milliondesbele6232
      @milliondesbele6232 2 года назад +2

      A young man with out father harder . I wish I laird this when I was 20

  • @gigauniversity
    @gigauniversity 3 года назад +1918

    Bonus: 22. Always beat your prior best in everything you do.
    23. Acting “as if” all the time will eventually require you to become who you’re acting like.
    24. Work for a great leader to shadow and duplicate. The right leader matters more than the
    right industry.
    25. Don’t have too many rules. It’ll overwhelm you.

  • @pantasticodeniro9874
    @pantasticodeniro9874 3 года назад +513

    Played this to my son. Now, he's the head of the family.

    • @error0803
      @error0803 3 года назад +16

      Bruh

    • @evanhdez
      @evanhdez 3 года назад +6

      💀

    • @wuthurer
      @wuthurer 3 года назад +10

      Is your son Roman Reigns?

  • @lokisingh9944
    @lokisingh9944 2 года назад +131

    "Life can suck at times, and suck in major ways" - You put it really well. 14:39

  • @mobilegameadsdontdeserveto6010
    @mobilegameadsdontdeserveto6010 Год назад +16

    "Be mentally and emotionally prepared to lose love ones" - this made me realize just how lucky I have been in terms of most of my loved ones still being here for so long, makes me appreciate them even more, thank you!

  • @actuallybusiness1622
    @actuallybusiness1622 3 года назад +1075

    *Every family has a person who breaks the chain of poverty. I hope you will be that person!!*

    • @RRSLIMEE
      @RRSLIMEE 3 года назад +46

      I’m gone be that person

    • @the-ironclad
      @the-ironclad 3 года назад +15

      My family is only one step ahead the poverty line. But I’ll take it a step further.

    • @id-br1kt
      @id-br1kt 3 года назад +17

      Idk why this comment made me tear up

    • @aarohanyt7374
      @aarohanyt7374 3 года назад +1

      I am that guy

    • @zanderxxx2076
      @zanderxxx2076 3 года назад

      Thanks so much!

  • @HowardWimshurst
    @HowardWimshurst 3 года назад +1295

    Patrick is a mentor to so many young men, including me

    • @XeLYoutube
      @XeLYoutube 3 года назад +9

      and me im 39

    • @fadinaem60
      @fadinaem60 3 года назад +6

      i just started first year of engineering and pat has given me the lesson to go for what i want and not give up

    • @danielrodgers8780
      @danielrodgers8780 3 года назад

      Same

    • @Import_success
      @Import_success 3 года назад

      Broooo, I freaking love your videos man, I learned so much from you.

    • @drummerboyarnold3174
      @drummerboyarnold3174 3 года назад

      we are here

  • @KazzyOfficial
    @KazzyOfficial 3 года назад +1495

    A true channel to help and teach entrepreneurs. It's not just a successful businessman flexing his success and random advice. Patrick takes his time and goes so in depth with his lessons it's amazing. Thank you!!!!!

  • @antbar0200
    @antbar0200 2 года назад

    Thanks!

  • @SkolValhalla66
    @SkolValhalla66 Год назад +3

    I'm 27 now and I lost my dad this past year to cancer and I am proud to say that I was able to speak at his funeral. Cherish them while they're here, but be ready for when they go.

  • @TheGreatEscape77
    @TheGreatEscape77 3 года назад +217

    As a 25 year young man who’s dad isn’t around much I really needed this thanks pat your awesome man I hope I can meet you one day

  • @nivethanvisagathasan1416
    @nivethanvisagathasan1416 3 года назад +435

    The thing I respect the most about Pat is he wins in every aspect of life, not just entrepreneurship.

    • @beatsbythekilo
      @beatsbythekilo 3 года назад +3

      that can be VERY bad, did u see Pat snap on his workers when one tripped on the wire n he though the video was over. but i understood both ends of the plate, he screamed i hired 6 of u f*ckin guys and the #1 podcast in the world has one person that records and edits(speaking because his ego has him on the moon, cause Joe Rogan finally aired Pat's episode, and Jamie does all Joe's Podcast, but not live... someone tripped on a wire!! and whoever Zack is that works behind the scenes had it) now go look at some of his first videos, idk, he literally went crazy for a 30 second ⏸.... yoooooo @hello thats crazy right?

    • @fatmunch6318
      @fatmunch6318 3 года назад +2

      You know him personally and are intimately aware of his family life I presume

    • @lukepollard6498
      @lukepollard6498 3 года назад +1

      @@beatsbythekilo link?

    • @karanacharya7689
      @karanacharya7689 3 года назад +1

      @@beatsbythekilo what is the time stamp for this incident

    • @97JG
      @97JG 3 года назад +1

      I completely agree

  • @ericortiz3371
    @ericortiz3371 3 года назад +528

    I'm a 53yo Hispanic male, and I still found great value in the advice you've given. I'm pleased to say that I have shared this video with my two sons and pray that they too find it meaningful. Thank you for your insight and inspiration.

    • @ALCRAN2010
      @ALCRAN2010 3 года назад +22

      Imagine if people older than 25 had RUclips growing up. Would have made a lot things easier...

    • @AdityaRaj-rh4fm
      @AdityaRaj-rh4fm 3 года назад +5

      You're a great dad, Keep it up king .

    • @juanmccoy3066
      @juanmccoy3066 2 года назад +1

      Why would ur age or u being hispanic affect the value u get from this or even be relevant?
      Im hispanic and it didn't even cross my mind that it'd be a factor. These values are universal for all men

    • @juanmccoy3066
      @juanmccoy3066 2 года назад +2

      @@ALCRAN2010 I mean youtube came into my life when i was about in the 8th grade... so I definitely use it a lot. I know a lot of my older family members scoff at it and the internet in general. They prefer to go to stores and bother cashiers who have no idea what they're talking about. Actually pisses me off because I take the time to research shit and they mock me for it.
      This is why I hate boomers and about half of Xers

    • @ALCRAN2010
      @ALCRAN2010 2 года назад

      @@juanmccoy3066 , so, once upon a time, those boomers and gen xers had good paying jobs to know their shit and sell this shit. Jobs like the Sears salesman pushing the next new gadget. Now a days, those workers at these stores, as you said, don't know shit. And thats because they're not on commission. The get paid regardless.
      The other side of the coin, your older family who still insists on talking to workers at stores, they grew up with the art of conversation. Two humans dialoguing ideas into a spoken word.
      Everything you do online is literally meant to imitate real life.
      Chat bots? Lol.
      Meta universe? Lol
      Tubers reviewing tech gadgets like their paycheck depends on it. Lol.
      The more things change,
      The more they stay the safe.

  • @ryang54712
    @ryang54712 2 года назад +3

    The most underrated video on the internet. Hands down. Every guy needs to watch this video.

  • @beltusnkwawir2908
    @beltusnkwawir2908 3 года назад +606

    "Be mentally and emotionally prepared to lose love ones" - This hit home. I just lost a loved 2 days ago and it sucks really bad. Thank you so much for sharing Patrick. I wasn't ready but next time I'm gonna be.

  • @radcow
    @radcow 3 года назад +359

    I dumped a girl once for joking about my goals instantly realized we had totally different outlooks in life

    • @dotcom2528
      @dotcom2528 3 года назад +48

      Good for you....!
      She was never worth you.

    • @californiahandball
      @californiahandball 3 года назад +80

      A girl that laughs at your goals, is still immature. That's good you realized it early, she wasn't the one.

    • @james271993
      @james271993 3 года назад +22

      You did the right thing. Let her keep joking once you've made it.

    • @vickilau716
      @vickilau716 3 года назад +23

      Same - I blocked a "friend"/long-time acquaintance for poking fun at my goals. I didn't bother ending the connection with him officially - I just cut him off without notice. People who joke about that yet expect you to take their goals seriously do not even deserve the courtesy of a "break-up," in my opinion.

    • @radcow
      @radcow 3 года назад +2

      @@vickilau716 👍

  • @VALUETAINMENT
    @VALUETAINMENT  3 года назад +551

    What else would you add to this list?

    • @Masego_Ntshwana
      @Masego_Ntshwana 3 года назад +20

      Proper Videos,am an aspiring entrepreneur in my 20s,how can i get myself a mentor that will advise me through my journey

    • @bumpercoach
      @bumpercoach 3 года назад +8

      thats the great benefit of this list
      ... bringing up some unconsidered ones
      and inspiring other unconsidered ones

    • @bumpercoach
      @bumpercoach 3 года назад +20

      like I used to tell the schoolkids I coached
      "school is about PAYING attention
      not GRABBING attention"

    • @sultanal-hanna2487
      @sultanal-hanna2487 3 года назад +60

      Working out, realizing your physical potential

    • @godlikearjun2043
      @godlikearjun2043 3 года назад +4

      @@bumpercoach grabbing attention is what will help them in the long run

  • @KakashiSensei-pu1nc
    @KakashiSensei-pu1nc Год назад +9

    I have a father, we have never discussed almost half of the things in the list. Thanks Pat, for being transparent and setting an example for us

  • @anthonywall9639
    @anthonywall9639 2 года назад +15

    Being ready to lose a loved one is a very good lesson that's one of those unconfortable things people try to avoid talking about. I lost my mom unexpectedly at 21, and mentally it set me back years due to grief, denial, and the effect of feeling sorry for myself and making poor short sighted decisions for "relief" at the cost of my longer term goals.
    Being grateful for time you had, and holding onto that perspective and positives is extremely important even when the negatives are hard to cope with.
    Be the person your parents raised you to be in their honor. They are still watching and while their life may be over, yours is not. as Jordan Peterson said, be the strongest man at your father's funeral.
    Much love for this man's content and lessons.

    • @dylanjohnston6825
      @dylanjohnston6825 7 месяцев назад +1

      I’m sorry my dude I just lost my uncle today I’m glad you’ve started to bounce back hope life gets to treatin you well boss

    • @anthonywall9639
      @anthonywall9639 7 месяцев назад

      @@dylanjohnston6825 Thank you my man, i really appreciate that. i'm really sorry for your loss. hope you and your family are doing alright.
      i't's funny, i forgot about this video and comment. A lot has changed in a year- including the birth of my son, my first child. He's a spitting image of me, perfectly healthy. and in all feels like a sign she is looking out. Life is good.
      As my mom always said, This too shall pass. mourn, but celebrate life.

  • @sathirakatugaha974
    @sathirakatugaha974 3 года назад +164

    It's kind of bittersweet watching this video knowing I had to learn a lot of these lessons the hard way, but I'm so glad Pat's taking the time to do his duty to our younger brothers. I still have a long way to go and a lot of the lessons Pat describes for later in life sound very solid. I hope I can do the same when I'm older

    • @ReidRichters
      @ReidRichters Год назад

      Ppp

    • @sinisinsini
      @sinisinsini Год назад

      Lessons for life

    • @Lee-os1if
      @Lee-os1if Год назад

      A lot of the times the only way we can learn is by messing up and going through the situation ourselves; experience is the best teacher.

  • @kagibaker
    @kagibaker 3 года назад +96

    Always feels like you gain 5 years worth of wisdom ahead each time I get to watch Sir Patrick’s content. I’m i am so grateful for your dedication and time. It’s so inspiring 🙏🏾

  • @charly40fication
    @charly40fication 3 года назад +96

    Number 18...I lost my mother this year at the age of 27. Thanks for this one. Much love. - Charles

  • @catalyst429
    @catalyst429 2 года назад +1

    when you complain 80% of people don't care and 20% are kinda glad... that is the most real thing I have heard all year

  • @johndeanconway7931
    @johndeanconway7931 10 месяцев назад +534

    Big ups to everyone working effortlessly trying to earn a living while building wealth. My wife and I we are both retired with over $2 million in net worth and all paid off debts. living smart and frugal with our money, made it possible for us this early, even till now we earn passively with our asset coach.
    Adapt to a lifestyle, be thrifty, set a budget, save money and build more streams.

    • @johndeanconway7931
      @johndeanconway7931 10 месяцев назад

      I resonate with what you said ma’am, you could also take advantage of some growth stocks at the moment, every pro is currently bagging on some digital surge. For me, my coach Deron cirillo my advisor has been using every opportunity to ensure I benefit, well positioned as I’m also privy to improve. It completely changed the approach for me, feel free to write direct to help construct your approach as well.

  • @safetytraininglicense
    @safetytraininglicense 3 года назад +8

    You hit the nail on the head Patrick. I would add "Keep it spotless!" Car, room. workplace, yard, laptop, etc

  • @290revolver290
    @290revolver290 3 года назад +20

    The best sets of advice I've heard all my life from a businessman.

  • @KingandServant
    @KingandServant 2 года назад +364

    Good stuff. As I turn 30 this year let me humbly add some things I've learned in my 20s that I would tell to a 20 year old
    1) go to church
    2) when you find the one you want to marry, don't kick around - marry her
    3) discusses finances before marriage
    4) get out of dept asap
    5) lift weights
    6) don't watch porn
    7) remember when you kill time it has no ressurection
    8) invest your money early
    9) live on less than you make , practices discipline and contentment
    10) remember literally all of human history had it much harder than we do
    11) don't complain
    12) read books
    13) Build a family
    14) build healthy habits early so you have it when your 50
    15) enjoy life

    • @abdulgill5013
      @abdulgill5013 2 года назад +5

      Thank you for your advice, this may help later in my life.

    • @azerria3416
      @azerria3416 2 года назад +40

      "Go to church" No, I don't think I will

    • @zakosist
      @zakosist 2 года назад +13

      The first rule just isn't for anyone that's not a christian (and may actually have made up their mind). The marriage rule I'm skeptical of because there are a lot of either unhappy marriages and divorce (in addition to the fact men tend to lose out in divorce cases, so they should be especially skeptical). It may have worked you personally, but its important to keep in mind the examples that in a lot of cases it does not work. Even if you stay together, it does not work if you're unhappy with it. I think it should already have been a relationship for a long time, and have tried to live under the same roof (unless you dont plan on it at all) before you actually marry. Early on you both could be blinded by emotions that inevitably will fade a bit, and you just dont know them that well yet. Building a family, also is for some people, not for everyone, not everybody wants kids or would be suited to it.
      For "dont complain" I think you should speak up if something is downright unfair or something that should not be allowed. But dont be generally whiny. There may also be cases where you need to ask for help.

    • @wnadson_tools
      @wnadson_tools 2 года назад +3

      able to learn this before age 18, but most people prefer to make things easy

    • @sxperiorluis
      @sxperiorluis 2 года назад +3

      @@azerria3416 LMFAOOO facts bro i said the same thing 😭

  • @AlexGarcia-vg1iq
    @AlexGarcia-vg1iq 2 года назад +2

    My dad went thru the same thing when his dad, grandpa passed two years ago.. he was devastated but the good memories kept him up, and going!

  • @alvannwanorim6567
    @alvannwanorim6567 2 года назад +12

    Growing up without a father was probably the worst thing that ever happened to me. I am just scrapping through the internet for guides how how to become a man. Thanks for this content. Really great stuff

  • @jonny6738
    @jonny6738 3 года назад +91

    Rule 21: Always be ready for change. Accept and process ALL the information that comes by your life and reject whatever does not make sense or resonate with YOU.

  • @JonathanSorunke
    @JonathanSorunke 3 года назад +98

    PBD hitting us with that knowledge! These are some really great tips.

    • @trentcruise3084
      @trentcruise3084 3 года назад +1

      It's all Bullshit!!!

    • @trentcruise3084
      @trentcruise3084 3 года назад

      @@JC_0007 If you don't have your life together, by the time you're 20, you'll be doomed too wander Earth aimlessly.

    • @trentcruise3084
      @trentcruise3084 3 года назад

      @@JC_0007 Talk to Ted Bundy's Mom, She'll tell you straight out, Mothering is Overrated!!

    • @trentcruise3084
      @trentcruise3084 3 года назад +1

      @Sam Farza Humans are Experts at pointing out flaws in Peoples lives. And Dismal at administering Solutions for those same individuals.

    • @ApexGaming100
      @ApexGaming100 3 года назад +1

      @@trentcruise3084 Whats wrong with you?

  • @davidhuerta3768
    @davidhuerta3768 3 года назад +40

    Pat never disappoints🔥

  • @khimkim8831
    @khimkim8831 2 года назад +22

    1. Stay off social media
    2. Don’t cheat on your spouse
    3. Learn to express your frustrations in a calm manner
    4. Develop good temperament
    5. Listen twice as much as you speak
    6. Learn to cook
    7. Be honest
    8. Don’t be triggered by bad drivers/ avoid road rage
    9. Be a person of faith
    10. Don’t watch too much TV

  • @xraypluto5262
    @xraypluto5262 2 года назад +8

    Dude the effort and attitude is so true. 4 years ago I was borderline homeless and couldn’t cope with my father passing and I had some drug problems. I decided to fully give myself to whoever offered me employment summers ago. In fact I had a job at earth fare stocking drinks, chic fil a taking orders, CVS as a cashier, and I worked at a mover company to make ends meet. I ended up getting 5 promotions with CVS and become a store manager then was offered corporate position for a big grocery store corporate position. One of the lady’s who worked with me while I was a store manager saw my work ethic and gave me a verbal offer for the job. None of this would have been possible if I just stayed the same old person who didn’t want a better life.

    • @jackjack4412
      @jackjack4412 Месяц назад

      That's awesome. Which career did you take?

  • @demproblems
    @demproblems 3 года назад +5

    You have been my mentor for 6 years now, and you never failed on it. Thank you

  • @PrivateEquityGuy
    @PrivateEquityGuy 3 года назад +207

    5 things to quit for all people:
    1. Caring about what others think
    2. Not believing in yourself
    3. Not prioritizing your health
    4. Wasting your precious time
    5. Chasing meaningless relationships
    For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)

    • @mr.brenman2132
      @mr.brenman2132 Год назад

      I'm in my mid twenties and I'm kicking myself for not asking a certain girl out. It's an opportunity I'll never get back. Is this irrational thinking?

    • @curiash
      @curiash Год назад +7

      @@mr.brenman2132 yop it is. If the opportunity is gone, there's no reason to think about that all time, learn from it and move forward.

    • @badado
      @badado Год назад +2

      Not necessarily an irrational thought, if you shift your perspective on it being a lesson that caused you to reflect on it enough to wanna change it in future, by one of 3 ways than it was worth going through. 1: causes you to make an attempt at contacting her again if you can asking her out and see if both of you click to move things forward or not.
      2. It inspired you to ask the right questions tht will create a hunger inside you to learn how to talkbto women better and date more and also learn the pyschology of dating sol. You wont make the mistake of missing out on anothef opportunity with adifferednt girl.
      3. You can be free to focus on yourself your goals and life overall while only dating for casual experience in the joys of sex and human connection or interaction so tht when you feel ready for something serious... You will have a better version of yourself with an even better result or quality of woman, body mindn spirit.
      Any of those three wouldnt have likely happened without having tbese thoughts u had and a self awareness for them to ask another person.
      Hope thg helps. Sorry i wrote alot but im going through a rough p atch myself and most family i have no connectjon with due tontgeur betrayal but i still very much miss my neices and nephews 2 who are about to both be 21. I wish incould talk to them and be part ofbtgeir lives again but busy getting my life in order while helping take care of my folks. Good luck with everything lil homie. 👍👍

    • @mr.brenman2132
      @mr.brenman2132 Год назад

      @@curiash I didn't see your comment earlier and I appreciate the response 👍

    • @mr.brenman2132
      @mr.brenman2132 Год назад

      @@badado It was a first time interaction but I was sitting next to her for a considerable amount of time at a sporting event. I'll never see her again unfortunately. There was no reason for me not to ask for her number. I didn't have a sense of urgency or care at the time. I guess I hadn't hit rock bottom yet. It wasn't until about a month later when my lack of inaction started to bother me. I kind of had a mental health crisis that triggered these feelings of regret. I'm not a teenager anymore and I feel like I need to gain experience with women as quickly as I can. What bothers me the most about it is that it was a perfect opportunity for a shy person like me. She was close to my age. She wasn't there with a dude. She seemed very friendly. She was obviously someone I found attractive. I was also kind of in my element and in good spirits. Like I said, I had no sense of urgency or drive at the time. Maybe I have a hormonal problem, IDK. I kind of just have to move forward and learn from my past mistakes like you said. Easier said then done when you suffer from severe social anxiety. Exposure is the only way I'll get over that I guess. It's certainly motivation but I've been haunted by regret in the past. I appreciate the response. I hope you reconnect with your family. I would be completely and utterly alone without mine which tells you the spot I'm in. I need to progress as an adult in bad way.

  • @generatingideas
    @generatingideas 3 года назад +15

    This might be the only valuetainment video that has made me feel good about myself... I'm already practicing most of these rules, but the other videos break me down for sure...

  • @sarang2812
    @sarang2812 10 месяцев назад +1

    Patrick is the perfect father figure this generation needs ❤

  • @ltcajh
    @ltcajh 2 года назад +2

    I’m 62. Numbers 1 and 2: Love the Lord your God with all of your heart, all of your soul, all of your mind, and all of your strength. 2) Love your neighbor as yourself.

  • @ThatCasualZach
    @ThatCasualZach 3 года назад +23

    ADDITIONAL RULE! Every young man should learn how to use a tape measure. The ability to measure the world around you will give you a level of confidence and give others the impression that you are a precise and measured man.

    • @Simon-beast
      @Simon-beast 3 года назад +1

      Lul

    • @juanmccoy3066
      @juanmccoy3066 2 года назад +2

      I mean it's not rocket science.... pretty self explanatory. Not sure this is a rule that needs to even be stated. If u know how to read and do very basic math u can use a tape measure.
      Sorry to burst ur bubble.... it's just not the skill ur making it out to be.
      A better one would be
      "Take part in activities and projects that require measuring/applied mathematics"

    • @ThatCasualZach
      @ThatCasualZach 2 года назад

      I don't associate with grown men that use "ur" in conversation.

  • @JSQUAD01
    @JSQUAD01 3 года назад +97

    Thank you for making this video! I appreciate each rule you talked about

  • @salvadorramirez2507
    @salvadorramirez2507 3 года назад +22

    Thank you Pat I’m 23 and still have a lot to learn. I’m happy I follow a lot of these rules but still helpful to know I’m heading in a positive direction.

  • @bu3241
    @bu3241 Год назад +4

    I lost my dad when I was 13. I missed out on this stuff. I taught myself useless things without a dad. like washing a car, hanging Christmas lights for my mom… But never learned how to take care of myself. Thank you Patrick, Jordan Peterson, and everyone else. We are in this together

  • @slumpguava
    @slumpguava Год назад

    Awesome video man 💯

  • @MrZablon
    @MrZablon 3 года назад +38

    Watching this after a recent break up. I really resonated with the preparing yourself to lose people in your life. I told myself at times throughout our relationship that this may not actually work, but that's okay. We ended things amicably, we agreed we can't be just friends, but we wish the best for the other, and I won't say I'm not sad, but I'm alot more okay than I was after past break ups.

  • @scottzvidzo5564
    @scottzvidzo5564 3 года назад +9

    21 BARS in 19 minutes , Pat is a gem.

  • @rohitshrestha8898
    @rohitshrestha8898 3 года назад +10

    This is exactly what I need to know. I was feeling very low about myself. Thank you for this video.

  • @charshii3745
    @charshii3745 2 года назад +7

    #13 Hits so hard, and is so true. Most people don’t care about your problems. Not only that, they don’t care about your story, or what cool you got to do. It’s sad but true.
    Learn to be someone who cares for others, and find people who also care

  • @lauhityaaashwinkumar
    @lauhityaaashwinkumar Год назад +1

    This is the kind of video which we should save and watch once in a while to keep us in track

  • @LegacyFarmandHomestead
    @LegacyFarmandHomestead 3 года назад +109

    Pat still thinks 1999 was 11 years ago lol

    • @MattMatti3
      @MattMatti3 3 года назад +6

      Haha was about to say the same. 2010 still in his head

    • @VALUETAINMENT
      @VALUETAINMENT  3 года назад +34

      It’s true. Lol. PBD

    • @By.daniieel
      @By.daniieel 3 года назад +1

      It's an old vid

    • @LegacyFarmandHomestead
      @LegacyFarmandHomestead 3 года назад +6

      @@By.daniieel it's not 10 years old..

    • @jsquared1013
      @jsquared1013 3 года назад +3

      The older you get, the faster each year feels like it goes by. It hits when sometimes I'm talking with someone about an event that feels like it was a few years ago, and it turns out it was 8 years or 12 years or more 😆

  • @CycleThePuck
    @CycleThePuck 3 года назад +30

    I love going to the movies alone, not sure why so many people are scared to do so. Even my friends are shocked when i tell them i go alone all the time. Sometimes its good to be alone and get away from everyone.

    • @dickiessantoro3251
      @dickiessantoro3251 3 года назад

      I never went to the movies alone , I always thought it was weird and I would feel like a creeper on a solo mission . But that’s just me being Insecure

  • @brentonwhatley2744
    @brentonwhatley2744 3 года назад +40

    What you have laid out, its good advice. I think it will specially hit men in their early 20s. Being 30 and learning the hard way through life without guidance, I wish advice like this was accessible when I grew up in the 90s 20s. Your thoughts and goals change over the years, and if you can reach them earlier, go bloody HAM and get it done!

    • @obvioushieidude7668
      @obvioushieidude7668 Год назад

      30 is still young. Also age DOES NOT equate to life stage. Everyone hits milestones at different ages. Also 26 and 30 ARE IN THE SAME AGE GROUP!

  • @davidlarson1298
    @davidlarson1298 Год назад

    Patrick I just watched your video on 20 rules for women. I am a entrepreneur in Canada. Still a small businessman with lot’s of experience in business life and travel. Pilot, business owner backpacker now luxury backpacker. Yeah I am that rich! Haha. I am happy and good. You are getting so much better every day that the difference in these videos is pullpable. You are a Legend and I hope you keep your centre as I know you will and keep on being PBD! Thank you Patrick!

    • @davidlarson1298
      @davidlarson1298 Год назад

      Love PBD. If you are a man go watch his rules for women and you will be happier!

  • @BADIDEAPRODUCTIONS1
    @BADIDEAPRODUCTIONS1 2 года назад +70

    Appreciate the time you took to think, write and produce. I know about these things from past experiences but its always good to have a refresher or be able to make bullet points in my own conversations with friends or family. Great video!

  • @sandrapaim4107
    @sandrapaim4107 3 года назад +21

    I had been missing the blackboard format. Thanks for bringing it back.

  • @The-truth-boy
    @The-truth-boy 3 года назад +5

    PBD you’re the dad I never had and I’m in my mid 30’s and raising my children. I hope you reach many young men across the globe.

  • @karimzaharrealestate
    @karimzaharrealestate 3 года назад +4

    can't believe this is free, thanks PBD

  • @marinaroach6364
    @marinaroach6364 Год назад +3

    I’m a woman watching in 2023. Good video for everyone. Learning to lose a loved one is particularly poignant. It’s not taught and I had a good friend lose her mind, her job, and her life when her mother died. I need to prepare my kids. We all do. So many good tips.

  • @derickesong9039
    @derickesong9039 11 месяцев назад

    Patrick is the Dad many young men never had. Bless him

  • @Commaoligarch
    @Commaoligarch 3 года назад +116

    Hey man. I just wanted to thank you for the motivation and the insights into being a leader and all of the tidbits that came along the way. I lost my business during Corona. My life became absolute crap and I was in a depressed state of mind for about a week. Then I came across your channel and you motivated me to be a man and accept that life will throw obstacles at you and you will have to overcome them. I did. 1 year later , I do my own high ticket sales network , I have 5 employees who generate more than 60k USD each (in the last 3 months) and I’m on my way towards achieving the most success I’ve ever had. Thanks for the value that you have added to my life. Ur like the dad I never had. And I am truly grateful. Lets freaking gooooo

    • @Your_Daily_Scroll
      @Your_Daily_Scroll Год назад +2

      being depressed for only a week? damn i'd kill for your brain

  • @georgeg2369
    @georgeg2369 3 года назад +13

    Old school Patrick
    Laying on the value
    PBD excels at these lists
    Power to you, Sir

  • @tonyrosales915
    @tonyrosales915 3 года назад +24

    Enjoyed you on the JRE show, you my friend are a wealth of information and very grounded opinions. By far one of my favorite podcasts this year. Keep up the good work.

  • @chrispaul3778
    @chrispaul3778 2 года назад +166

    When you invest you're buying a day you don't have to work

    • @christopherhobb7702
      @christopherhobb7702 2 года назад +2

      I advice everyone to start investing and never rely on just salary. No billionaire made it through salary

    • @cassiejacobs4197
      @cassiejacobs4197 2 года назад

      @pop Sarah absolutely 💯

    • @cassiejacobs4197
      @cassiejacobs4197 2 года назад

      @pop Sarah Warren buffet says "if you don't find a way to make money while you sleep you will have to work hard until you old".

    • @thomasdooley3702
      @thomasdooley3702 2 года назад

      This is not the first time I'm hearing about Catherine woods and her trading exploits but I have no idea how to reach her

    • @thomasdooley3702
      @thomasdooley3702 2 года назад

      How much is okay for a start?

  • @bilaldrndoyoutubeaccount9559
    @bilaldrndoyoutubeaccount9559 2 года назад

    The most impressive thing about Pat is that he does the whole 19 minute video in one take. No cuts

  • @johnjenkins129
    @johnjenkins129 3 года назад +5

    This is Without a Doubt, "The Best Video" You Have Released thus far Patrick!!
    Advice Solid as Gravity Itself 💯
    Absolutely Perfect!!!

  • @MyAkachi
    @MyAkachi 3 года назад +129

    Me, a 24 year old lady, taking deep notes cause these are all life lessons that every adult needs to know and practise. Patrick is always spitting facts.

    • @MyAkachi
      @MyAkachi 3 года назад +37

      @prometheusrex1 "Stay in your lane. This one's not for you" reeks of misogyny and God knows what else. Why? Because everything Patrick says are great self-development principles that are admirable in all adults, and things that many high-achieving men and women live by. But oh well ... forgive me for being here, since it's "not my lane" - whatever the hell that means. Let me go look for a makeup & beauty video to watch (or something you may deem more appropriate for me). Goodnight and God bless.

    • @MiguelAngel-ep9vt
      @MiguelAngel-ep9vt 3 года назад +27

      @prometheusrex1 Man, that is a narrow way of thinking.

    • @Jason.cbr1000rr
      @Jason.cbr1000rr 3 года назад +1

      @@dickiessantoro3251 i agree wtf fk the bvtch its a mans world

    • @andyhawkins7988
      @andyhawkins7988 3 года назад

      Can you elaborate on the "deep notes" you took. 😂😂😂

    • @NW34832
      @NW34832 2 года назад

      @@Jason.cbr1000rr it’s a man’s world but you ain’t a man. You’re a low value bully. Alpha men has many followers including women so we’re allowed to watch his content because he’s a true alpha man unlike yourself

  • @eliseocarrillojr
    @eliseocarrillojr 3 года назад +13

    Love this. Having my son listen to it. Thanks

  • @thoughtfullmind1238
    @thoughtfullmind1238 2 года назад

    Discovered this channel 20 min ago and let me say, I spent the most informative 20 min of my life.

  • @jasonhensley903
    @jasonhensley903 2 года назад

    My man doing Gods work. I hope tons of young men watch this

  • @R33fth3b33f
    @R33fth3b33f 3 года назад +14

    Its so sad that all these men, myself including, aren't just sat down and taken the time to be told these things. Thanks alot.

  • @TheDaft2011
    @TheDaft2011 3 года назад +7

    I was suggested this video and assumed it was going to be another grifter pandering to insecure young men but am very impressed. This advice is very meaningful, practical, and honest.

  • @ChinoTejas
    @ChinoTejas 2 года назад +9

    this is the type of information we should be passing to our youth and younger men cause these newer generation of kids are growing up in a horrible world and have no respect for others. That’s why it’s important for us older men, I’m only 21 but always pass knowledge to kids younger than me who look up to me and they are truly grateful and actually respect me a lot of them grow up without a father figure and I’m glad I’m able to be like a older brother for a lot of these younger kids and teach them things that education won’t teach them in the outside world. Wonderful video man I’m grateful this came up on my recommended you got yourself a new subscriber my friend!

  • @Bikkufootballtalks
    @Bikkufootballtalks 10 месяцев назад

    to all young men who are in teenage . follow this guy man. at our time we didn't get this kind of guidance

  • @IndependentLogos
    @IndependentLogos Год назад +1

    Content like this is gold these days

  • @suzanneb6002
    @suzanneb6002 3 года назад +4

    What a great guy to take the time out to give some pointers to young men out there. Great advice!

  • @Manneeyy
    @Manneeyy 2 года назад +4

    I respect this man sooo much, he’s been soo influential to me

  • @alexman378
    @alexman378 3 года назад +14

    I’m in the last half of my “young man” stage (25), and to me, being young is about doing as many of the things you want to do, so that you know what to avoid and what to go for, for efficiency. I am excused if I mess up now, but I won’t be in 10 years, so right now I need to figure out all the ways in which I can mess up, so that I know exactly how to move later on. I also have the energy to keep going for what I want again and again, and I know I won’t have the energy or time to do it later on, which is another motivator to not get complacent now.

    • @obvioushieidude7668
      @obvioushieidude7668 Год назад

      Curious, when do you think one stops being young? Also what exactly can you do now that you can't do in 10 years? I only ask because I believe age does not equate to life stage once you are an adult. Everyone has their own timeline.

    • @alexman378
      @alexman378 Год назад

      @@obvioushieidude7668 People do have their own timeline, but one doesn’t have the same responsibilities in every stage of their lives. Example; I want to have a family that I can provide for. Since I made this post I took some risks that could financially ruin me, but they were extremely rewarding. It was a calculated risk, in that only I would suffer the consequences of those actions if they backfired.
      I wouldn’t risk doing so with a family behind me. People do have their timeline, but there is a timeline. Flipping to different career paths, learning new stuff, starting over, taking massive gambles, those are things I can afford to do while I’m on my own in my 20s. In my 30s, or worse, 40s, it’s just sad if I’m not yet on a course to get to where I want, since there will be younger people by that point who will have a lot of additional experience on me.

  • @stefandinic-j8o
    @stefandinic-j8o Год назад

    Value right here. There are so many people that will benefit from this video

  • @kunalmaheshwari7234
    @kunalmaheshwari7234 Год назад

    i lost my mom 2 months ago and this content made me feel I was there with my mom for 23 years.

  • @mr5timewcwchamp
    @mr5timewcwchamp 2 года назад +99

    #18 is real. Lost my grandpa almost exactly a year ago, so my first death of someone close.
    I have a picture of us on the front page of my Bible, and I still can’t really think about him without tearing up.
    Love that man with all of my heart, and can’t wait to see him again one day 🙏🏾

    • @Coral333
      @Coral333 Год назад +4

      I know he's very proud of you and always watching over you🙏❤️🙏

    • @Valtinho22he
      @Valtinho22he Год назад +1

      I know your hurt! I lost someone about 8 a helf years ago, and even today, I feel bad for it. Your grandpa should be very proud of you!

  • @RANDYORTONbest1
    @RANDYORTONbest1 3 года назад +9

    Key point regarding #1 rule: Remember gents, she's not yours. It's just your turn. Be on your purpose, kings

  • @thefreeaussielad7292
    @thefreeaussielad7292 3 года назад +7

    You’re a a legend Pat
    I just wish you were around when I was in my twenties

  • @sampletext3433
    @sampletext3433 2 года назад

    Be prepared to lose loved ones - best advice so far. Once you accept that everyone is going to die eventually, you can then choose between being endlessly bummed about it or embracing it and being grateful for the moments you have, and not be stuck in the past.

  • @chrisjchaos
    @chrisjchaos 2 года назад +2

    This vid is mind blowing, I already know all this things, but he clears everything up and puts it in a list to note it down

  • @christianbarrow4846
    @christianbarrow4846 3 года назад +6

    And Damn Patrick!! WHEN YOU MARRY A WOMAN YOU MARRY THE FAMILY. Smartest thing I’ve ever finally heard a man say. It’s so true. I learned this the hard way. I taught my sons this.

  • @stevencall3968
    @stevencall3968 3 года назад +4

    Outstanding straight talk content Pat! America needs leadership like this for the upcoming generation. Constant negative and perverse bombardment is taking its toll on America and this is some fresh air!!

  • @BigPoppieSeed
    @BigPoppieSeed 3 года назад +13

    Great list Patrick. Thank you. One thing that I would put in the number one spot that I didn't hear is "The Golden Rule" which is : treat others as you would like to be treated. I'm thinking you do this already just thought I would mention it.

  • @Minasdelalian
    @Minasdelalian Год назад +1

    pat you teach me so much you became like a father figure to me

  • @Myhope12.
    @Myhope12. 2 года назад +2

    I have never seen a video showing specifically useful advice to us, the young men who are struggling to find our way. You are one of the wisest content creators that I have seen on RUclips. In fact, you are talking to us like you could do with your sons.💪🙏

  • @gregoriovalladares7052
    @gregoriovalladares7052 3 года назад +8

    Good stuff Patrick! Keep it up brother!
    I am a boxing coach for young teenagers and it's a challenge working with them. The reward is awesome when you see them walking along those teachings in life.
    I totally agree with you. 👍

  • @jeyaxelerod7327
    @jeyaxelerod7327 3 года назад +24

    Patrick you can’t believe I’ve been waiting for this video for 3 years 😅

  • @legoboy-ox2kx
    @legoboy-ox2kx 3 года назад +12

    I would honestly add "work on your willpower" to the list. If you can increase your willpower even a small amount it can make a big difference, it can impact your relationships, discipline, hygeine and a lot more.

  • @chipomwika6824
    @chipomwika6824 2 года назад

    Rule 15 (When coming across a successful person talk / impress less. Ask more ) is my favourite rule . I have never heard anyone say it before but it is such an important way to take advantage of such a rare opportunity of meeting a role model. I cant wait to start implimenting it.

  • @jasontapia8501
    @jasontapia8501 Год назад

    Patt is the dad we all needed