REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY! When you hear how ridiculous it sounds to "let someone take over your mind and ruin your day" you'll naturally go against letting that happen!
i dont agree with this, you need to learn to control yourt thoughts, it might not be important in this case but it might be in other more serious situations
Don't get addicted to people. Just really do your business and understand in a stoic way that not everyone you like will like you back. Work on yourself, set goals and work towards them. There is approximately 4 billion men and about as much women on earth. Just seeing every single one of men or women for 1 SECOND would take about 126 years. You WILL find love, but first, find YOURSELF. Be patient.
Detachment is the key. Not, not caring, but realizing there are greater things in life than this attachment. Find peace in accepting what will be will be... To be honest "detachment" is in fact attachment to the Creator which is greater than any thing or anyone. That is true peace.
my wife and i never spent a day apart in ten years.. ultimately past unresolved trauma was our undoing...but if either of us had ignored each other in the beginning we wouldnt have gotten together long term...because if its who you want to be with THE PHONE ALWAYS WORKS...it just does...they know it we know it.the text function works..if its a day and a steamroller crushed it.use a friends phone..the library , neighbor, no excuses...if not it technically is a relationship built on lies
If a man is interested, he will walk on hot coals for you. It takes a few seconds to text. If he doesn’t, he’s just keeping you as a back up plan. 😢♥️ Only when we respect ourselves will we have the love we seek.
@@Martyn_Wolf that’s not the lesson or the goal . The insight is you don’t need Someone like that in your life would be unwise to except someone like that in your life
in the beginning i was so passionate but i thought abt him all day then I honestly got bored. I thought abt him all day until i got bored of always thinking of him
I love this! Lean into the sadness and grief and let it ruin your day….for as long as you need to. And then go outside and play and laugh at all of it! Thank you.
@@SXLEOPARDSKINNED No, love who reciprocates the exact effort you are putting in. Even better, love yourself and grow until you are complete and meet another complete person. That way it's not two halves codependent of each other.
Instead of fighting it I gave into it and it stopped me from wanting him. I gave him permission to to feel what I feel and let him deal with it😂 Thank you🌷
It works - I tried this with my ex after a few days of obsessive thoughts. I decided just to be with the thoughts and let them take their course - they began to fade quite quickly! Thank you.
It’s called accepting your shadow self, and you’re completely right. The world always tells you to fight against your demons, but the correct option will always be to understand and accept them.
If a girl doesn't respond to my texts, I have a life so I have other things I can do. Get a life. If you are completely dependent on one person, you don't have enough going on in your life. Find friends, find hobbies, fine points of interest, explore the world around you. Life is too f****** short.
That's not true. You can be thinking of a person while doing hobbies, doing anything really besides 1 min of free fall during a skydive. But you can even start thinking about them again once your parachute opens
@@spiritualbadbabebossbitch why would you do that? Why would you perseverate on a lost cause? If she's not talking to you, there's a reason she's not talking to you. Move on. Let it go. Get a life. There's more important things to do than perseverate over somebody who's not interested in you. You're welcome to your truth as I am to mine. I don't grovel. I don't need to. I'm maybe blessed that women have always come to me easily and I pick and choose. Women have tease me that my standards are too high but my high standards hasn't stopped me from meeting brilliant and wonderful women. Anyway, you do your thing man. I hope it works for you.
@@spiritualbadbabebossbitch I am sorry I missed your point. I did reread it. And I just don't think about the person like that and it doesn't matter if I'm climbing a mountain or I'm in the middle of a boxing match or I'm in the middle of mixed martial arts match. If I'm hiking through the mountains I'm present I'm there my mind is there. The woman who's in my life will either be next to me and if I'm alone my mind is what I'm doing in that present moment. I'm sure you have an important point and like I said I'm sorry I missed it because it would lead to my own personal growth and maybe a wider perspective on the subject. Thanks for your comment nonetheless. Carpi Diem. Lol. I just realized that I'm cooking dinner that I have been accused of not thinking the woman in my life. Like they will text me or call me throughout the day and I don't do that. I will text him or call him at the end of the day to see how the day went but it does have to do with the fact that my mind is elsewhere. And if we break up it is hard on me but I have moments of reflection but I never perseverate I don't think of going back I just think of the loss. I never had a woman break up with me and maybe that's also the difference? Anyway I appreciate your comment and it will give me something to ponder as I finish cooking dinner tonight. But, by the time 8:00 rolls around my mind will probably be wrapped around whatever book I'm reading and the ideas presented. Have a good life kiddo. And thanks for the feedback.
@@spiritualbadbabebossbitch So true. I was able to have full on complex conversations at work with customers whilst at the same time conversing with him in my head, for months! It was like my thoughts ran on 'levels', the weirdest thing. And yes I thought about him no matter what I was doing. At least now we may have some release for a future scenario.
I feel like I just took him off of that pedestal and put myself back up there, and I know I am okay, living my best life, whether I ever hear from him again or not. It feels like freedom and peace 🥰
Is it just me? After I thought those words and gave myself permission I actually felt appalled and angry at myself for giving control over my happiness to someone else
Nope, not just you. The worst thing you can do is give your power away and allow someone else or the thought of them, to ruin your day. We are all in charge of our own happiness. To depend on a significant other for happiness, will never work & puts way too much of a burden, upon your partner, when you're the only one who has the ability to control your emotions / thoughts. The best you gift you can give anyone in your life, is to be truly happy. Check out Abraham Hicks they talk all about it 😏
This is very true, I actually did this a long time ago with a situationship I had and it absolutely worked. I came back and tried to find this video so I could try it on someone else and I gotta admit! In the spam of 9 months this man is constantly texting me, and begging to be with me. This is very powerful, it was very instance and passionate. Lots of fighting, and strong emotions. He even told me he loved me you guys! It was too much for me and I actually ended up breaking things off and it only got more complicated. I am being dead serious. Why would I come on this video and write this long paragraph!! It is absolutely real and be careful what you wish for ! I barely knew the guy and attracted a very possessive man into my life. Smh! Lesson learned lol
I love this. And give yourself permission to take it personally, too. Give yourself permission to assume there’s nothing in that person’s life that should take priority over texting you at this moment. Give yourself permission to always react to everyone as though they have perfect mental health and free time.
If a man is due to text me and he doesn’t, I just block, for me I want a man from the get go to treat me right, and if he’s starting off FLAKEY, then he’s gone!
No text? Feel the hurt and then never text again. There’s pure power in not needing them. You win, and in rare moments they may come back to you. In that case you send them a “who’s this?” text. Surprised with insignificance, they’ll suffer ever so silently.
My situation was a bit different, he rarely texted me himself, usually I was the one texting him but he always texted back (sometimes really late) What does this mean? If he was interested, wouldn't he text himself or just he likes the attention I gave?? Why guys send mixed signals 🙄
I usually go to pinterest, collect all the savage quotes and save it on my camera roll. Everytime I have the urge to text, I read and scroll the quotes hahahaha
@Chiller 88884 As long as it doesn't bring a person down to a level of ruin or stagnation, because waiting on another person to reach out can be hurtful. Common courtesy is important regardless of who you are dealing with. A person should have the respect to tell you why they aren't available to speak with you. It doesn't take up a lot of time to do this. That being said, I have a Twin Flame who didn't speak to me for almost 3 years. He was going through an Awakening. The difference is, we are telepathically connected. I can hear him in my head. It isn't like we didn't talk the whole time, just not out loud.
@@agapelove4992 Oh, no I definitely understand. Trust me...I've been there. But sometimes it really is just as simple as them being crazy busy and life hitting them suddenly. Family life stress, medical issues, crazy schedules, etc. Life can be unpredictable, especially when you're also neurodivergent, because neurodivergent people like myself have lower thresholds for stress. Not gonna lie the situation sucks, for everyone, especially when the person who disappeared did so because of serious life stress and overwhelm. And knowing logically that likely it's not personal and they've got a LOT going on in their life, and they always explain themselves afterwards, and express how they wanna keep this relationship going, and sometimes even with that anxiety still creeps in. I'm speaking specifically about people who aren't toxic, who try their best in the relationship when they're able like having the time and energy. It really sucks, but sometimes the best thing you can do for now is just wait and keep Remington yourself that they will get back to you eventually, and they do genuinely care. And till then, keep going with your life, and spend time with the people who are available at the moment. People with ADHD can become so distracted we forget about other people who aren't directly in front of us, out of sight out of mind is very very true for us, but that doesn't mean we don't care. Sometimes we'll forget to message back and with the time blindness on top of poor short term memory (almost feels like the thing we forgot never even happened) it could suddenly be days or even weeks later and we wouldn't even notice, because of how our brains perceive time. We don't wanna be like this and feel incredibly bad for doing it, and some go into a shame spiral and are too nervous to reply back because "what if they don't care anymore? What if they're so mad at me they yell at me? What if I ruined everything?" and overwhelm in general can also creep in. And with Autism, people can also be forgetful, but also become so overwhelmed, they kinda withdrawl, sort of a shut down and being too stressed to do anything other than what they need to do. Chronic illness can also effect this. I have POTS, so I get chronic migraines, dizziness, nausea and constant lethargy, etc. So on bad days where the symptoms are hitting very hard, I don't have much of any energy to speak to people. Heck I don't have the energy so play simple computer games. Just kinda stuck on the couch. And also...some advice to anyone who has anxiety about these things, have patience. And don't let your emotions make you say something you may regret, because that person may very well have a VERY good reason for this. Sometimes just letting them know you'll be here, waiting with open arms when they're ready to get back to you. Your feelings are valid, and there are people there for you if you need to talk about it.
I never had someone appear in my dreams so consistently, and it confuses me. But loving this person makes me happy and I’m pretty sure this would be the one If she made some equal effort to reach out
Just went through this. It was wild. I was completely content in my affections. I allowed myself to think about it anytime. It felt joy thinking of them. And then I found a bunch of reasons to not bother. And then thinking of them felt like... a chore.
I am going to try it to see if it works I really want to make it work because I am really tired of waiting and hoping to see the change I believe the only person I can change is myself and nobody else thank you 🙏
Funny, I allowed myself a thought that the person, who left me, was probably in fact the love of my life and it's just never gonna work, what I tried to deny. Interestingly, today I feel more at peace with it.
If you sent text to an INTJ, give him/her the time to reflect. We can take a lot of time to process informations, and texting back. It's our functioning.
You can give permission but still not entertain the thought . Just don't fight it. Distractions help . Helping others and talking to God helps. Meditation. journal any anger. eat well and exercise. let go let God and try to forgive.
So true. Delve into the worst. Feel it. Hate it. Give it space and move forward with your day. Easier said than done at first. Folks with experience of NPD partners after several years, learn to master this skill. It's definitely a learned, not taught skill.
I give in to my taboo thoughts AND actions. Sometimes I let my inner bratty child say some rude shit to someone who isn’t showing up how I want and I don’t care. Looks bad at first, but I feel relief inside. They can be mad if they want to. In love, typically he always comes back, and a lot better behaved too 🤷🏾♀️💋
I did it! ( in practice too😖). The whole bloody weekend i was checking every 5 min for his text, looking at his pic, building him up in my stupid infatuation!😤. Then on Monday as soon as he texted me to mess up with my head again I realised how stupid i was. Blocked, finish, lesson learned. Thank you young lady. ❤
Wow! I needed this. I keep ignore my thoughts and find i cry and feel pain. Ive read you need to feel your painntill you can feel better but not keep dwelling or it toxifies. Thank you much. God bless you for all you do. ❤
I have this person I respect a lot. We started becoming friend and I noticed his 'true' side later on. I dont mind it at first. But im pretty concious and an observant person. He always being rude and making a barrier when it was with me. But being so nice to others. The things that piss me off is when he did text me regarding important stuff. When I replied, it always 'on read' and never an answer. Despite I saw him almost all the time with his phone. I always gets on my nerve. But soon I try my best to remove him from my life.
The number # 1 driver of attraction for women is anxiety. If she knows she can have you anytime she wants, then she doesn't want you. If she's not texting you, then don't text her. Be willing to walk away from any relationship or potential relationship. If she liked you enough, then she would be texting. She's not, because she doesn't like you enough. Accept it, and move on.
Actually, insecurity and anxiety has destroyed my marriage. We will get a divorce because ultimately, I do not want to spend the rest of my life in such a horrible state. His attempt to keep me in a constant state of anxiety has only driven me to wanting nothing to do with him. It did NOT make me want to go on loving him, and is was a massive turn off.
Lmao good luck with that if you are dealing with women. Above 24, we have lived far too long to even bother entertaining someone who only brings anxiety in our lives, when we know there are other men out there who will not play games.
Not being texted back is like if you're talking in person and they just give you their back and walk away. It's really disrespectful. I immediatly lose interest in people who behave that way, they just show their true colors.
Wow, that would certainly be an empowering statement for personal growth. Ironically so many people do this on an unconscious or subconscious level, but to bring it to the conscious level is like taking an elevator ride to the top of the Empire State Building! Bravo! 👏
it works. and you are the best psychologist i have ever seen. you really know what I wanna know. if I'm struggling from my problems, everytime I visit RUclips, there, one of her videos are there about how to solve my problem. ( sorry for my English, I am not a native speaker )
I actually like this… I followed your advice.. My thoughts, so what that I’m depress, sad or miserable? I value all my feelings and none of them need correction. My heart is free to feel what it wants, including sadness and depression, all it wants. Because you see, nothing is a weakness, nothing is a coincidence. Everything is meant to be just how it is.. There is a certain strength to just allow… So, thank you.
Dont do it the first advice is more better dont pick the second or else youll end up pedestelizing them😂 distract yourself by texting more than one girl it will make you forget the girl who ignores you.
the result: *I got so confused thinking about his shoulders, his cute eyes and his cute nose* ... that I banged the bathroom dor against my head - now I have a lump on my forehead. Not such a good idea to permit me to think about him
🤣I'm not laughing at your pain but this made me giggle because it's totally something that would happen to me too 🤣 and just the irony here. Talk about getting a wake up call. Here. Here's a door to the face now wake up! Hahahahaha 🤪 Hope your lump has gone down/away by now!
I exactly do this. For me, I see this as ACCEPTANCE of my own feelings, rather than running away from it. My guy recent broke up with me. He is 9 years older to me, but we became best friends first and that led to us coming closer because of our impeccable understanding. While I was back home, he got triggered on a medical issue from past and chose to keep me away and said that he lost all his feelings to be together, out of nowhere. When I was back, I was shattered to pieces. We had insane couple plans when I was leaving, and coming back to a broken relationship made me overthink to no bounds. He asked me to move on and not wait for him. Instead I told him I'll be waiting because that's my choice even if it hurts, rather than accepting the heartbreaking path he chose for us. It's been 2 months, I don't know I'm better or not but atleast I feel at peace with myself for being truthful to the love I carry! ❤ I hope you all face great success and happiness in your love pursuits
Yes very true, it’s about the energy your giving to receive, for them it’s take’s time to re bond with some you hurt, but the at least we are on talking terms now a good start
Omg U are the O Sweet Angel 😅, I’ve been overthinking that he pulled away n whole day checking on him lately but then just in instance I watch this and felt a ton better .. this are magic words ! Thank u ❤
I knew it, the more you detached yourself, the more distant it gets between yous,it even got me to a point,that I'm starting to feel cold towards him, but the moment when I reverse my heart ache back to him what he has caused me,i can c the difference how it affects him. This does work,so I don't go for the detaching anymore... because it drifts us further apart, and once I've reversed it back to him i even feel better immediately, saying to myself I'm not going through this pain alone that he has caused me,he should feel the pain to...it work's, because he tells me out of nowhere that he is feeling sick..
@@janebraun4482 I've been hurt 💔🔪 before, so I said to myself that's it, I'm done with men...i don't deserve this kind of treatment, when I give my honesty and all to one person.. for more than 5years i have kept myself clean.saving myself for the right man just to get hurt again...he loves me but here's this 1girl doing her thing 🤔🤔 making him blind towards me,but I trust that GOD AND THE UNIVERSE will bring us together because nothing is stronger than the BLOOD OF JESUS 🙏🏼 honesty is the best policy ,so I'm waiting on GOD TIMING.....IS THE BEST TIMING, stay blessed, much love 💕 me 😘
I did this same thing when my grandpa died. I walked up to the coffin, remembered all the times we spent together and imagined everything I could remember. I broke down in tears, crying out loud, then walked out and had a long think. Since then, I haven't felt bad at all.
i did this couple of min ago. bro i laughed so fucking hard. my mind just told me "who the fuck is he, stop this nonese girl im not ruing anything nah nah" . it works 🍻
It's easy, know your worth! A person playing games with you is not worthy of you! Leave them be, do you honestly want to give all you offer to anyone who doesn't appreciate you? Period! Play silly games for silly prizes.
Been there. Done that. End up being used, then they put me on the sidelines as a third string option, occasionally breadcrumbing me with a message or two until I am ghosted by them. It might work for you, Miss because you have the beauty and that soft speaking voice that melts guys hearts when you are around them. I am not so fortunate. Enough said.
To people saying if they like you a guy will reach out for sure: it’s important to note as someone with anxiety and overthinking there’s plenty of people I’d love to be talking to every moment of the day, and even the guy I like, I get so into my head or so busy trying to put my life together that I rarely text them so I would argue this is not always true. On that note, it’s still best to try to communicate straight up if you want to be apart of someone’s life more (that’s the best way you’ll know over any silly mind games, trust me, I wasted YEARS of potential based on the “he’ll text first” ish when I found out the guy I liked was waiting for the same thing until it was too late, another girl DID go after him 🙃 plus it’s sexist to put all the responsibility on the guy in that sense). Plus it’s the best way to get peace for yourself and move on if you need to. :) and remember friends: every rejection may just actually be a blessing you don’t yet understand
Thank you for this. So many people say that if a guy liked you he would drop everything and always be texting and always be behaving exactly how you want when that just isn't realistic. People seem to forget people, especially men, have emotions and mental issues and are allowed to isolate. The guy I'm involved with has a lot of severe mental issues and goes months without talking to me but I know it's not my fault at all, it's just him coping. It really upsets me to see how many people swear on their life that if someone doesn't text you back instantly no matter the circumstances, they hate you and want nothing to do with you.
YES! People get busy, some people are disabled, some are neurodivergent, just look up ADHD and autism and withdrawl and involuntary ghosting! And chronic illness, and work, and school, and an unpredictable life. If I don't respond much it's never because I don't care. It's either I forgot and out of sight out of mind cause of ADHD, and I wish my brain wasn't like that, I'm having a bad chronic illness day like migraines, dizziness, nausea, always tired...or I'm busy. Or don't have internet or power, or phone reception. So people, trust me....not being responsive doesn't mean we don't care. I love my friends to pieces and am terrified of ever losing them or hurting them. The only reason I'm usually pretty good about responding back is also due to my anxiety and OCD, which comes with obsessive compulsive checking.
I feel like it's reverse psychology. Just because you gave yourself the permission, now you realise how stupid it would be to actually go through it.
Yes .Taking back control by letting control go/giving it away.
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Right 🤣
Haha right on
Exactly I tried 😂 that’s exactly how I felt! Like Ew it’s not that serious 😂😂😂
If I text them and they don’t answer with in the next 2 days I delete the chat 😂😂😂
Out of sight out out of mind
I wouldn’t t even wait until the first day
us bro but i delete in 2 hours🤣
I do the same or I delete their nr if it feels to disrespectful. To give myself closure.
or just block !
Same here 😂😂 ✋
REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY! When you hear how ridiculous it sounds to "let someone take over your mind and ruin your day" you'll naturally go against letting that happen!
I think Abraham Hicks thing is a hoax with the “channeling.” Please.
Bro, couldn't even think about the man anymore after hearing "ruining my day. "
@morselsofgold exactly!!!!
i dont agree with this, you need to learn to control yourt thoughts, it might not be important in this case but it might be in other more serious situations
@@petergulvas6553well ya😂lol your brain wont fall out, draw a line buddy its your brain duh
Don't get addicted to people. Just really do your business and understand in a stoic way that not everyone you like will like you back. Work on yourself, set goals and work towards them. There is approximately 4 billion men and about as much women on earth. Just seeing every single one of men or women for 1 SECOND would take about 126 years. You WILL find love, but first, find YOURSELF. Be patient.
Very well articulated
Woww to be honest
Your words makes my day ❤️
Awesome!😊
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Thank you. Well said.
Detachment is the key. Not, not caring, but realizing there are greater things in life than this attachment. Find peace in accepting what will be will be... To be honest "detachment" is in fact attachment to the Creator which is greater than any thing or anyone. That is true peace.
right
my wife and i never spent a day apart in ten years.. ultimately past unresolved trauma was our undoing...but if either of us had ignored each other in the beginning we wouldnt have gotten together long term...because if its who you want to be with THE PHONE ALWAYS WORKS...it just does...they know it we know it.the text function works..if its a day and a steamroller crushed it.use a friends phone..the library , neighbor, no excuses...if not it technically is a relationship built on lies
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That's why everyone is on psych scrips
Amen
6 hours later my heart doesn't hurt like it had for the last few weeks. thank you.
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😂😂wtf lmao r u guys serious
feminine ahh 😭
What a load of rubbish this is
@@calabiss4672thats a man wtf
If a man is interested, he will walk on hot coals for you. It takes a few seconds to text. If he doesn’t, he’s just keeping you as a back up plan. 😢♥️ Only when we respect ourselves will we have the love we seek.
Tell that to dozens of people who don't bother to text back 😂 they still won't text back
@@Martyn_Wolf that’s not the lesson or the goal . The insight is you don’t need Someone like that in your life would be unwise to except someone like that in your life
Asking for friend ! Does this work both ways!!
@@scottysteadman5063 yes it does
if you treated him badly and you expect him to respond like a puppy dog . This wont work lol
In order to let go, you need to accept. Once you accept and allow, it goes away
it is simular mind game like we want something what we can not have mostly cus we can not etc
in the beginning i was so passionate but i thought abt him all day then I honestly got bored. I thought abt him all day until i got bored of always thinking of him
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That happened to me too 😂
Boredom is a girls kryptonite
😂😂 same
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This is the first time I’ve genuinely smiled today, thank you so much. I felt a rush of energy and happiness
😊😃this girl
Someone that actually understood the mission
Same
Omg likewise
Yes😭😭😭😭😭😭
Now I believe reverse psychology works😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I love this! Lean into the sadness and grief and let it ruin your day….for as long as you need to. And then go outside and play and laugh at all of it! Thank you.
It's stupid, never give your energy to anyone who gives 0 to you
Yesss
Love whoever loves you!
@@SXLEOPARDSKINNED No, love who reciprocates the exact effort you are putting in. Even better, love yourself and grow until you are complete and meet another complete person. That way it's not two halves codependent of each other.
@@mihailmarcu1892 much needed advice thank you ☺️☺️☺️🙂🙂🙂❤️
Just because they may take time to reply doesn't mean they don't care.
Instead of fighting it I gave into it and it stopped me from wanting him. I gave him permission to to feel what I feel and let him deal with it😂 Thank you🌷
@Kevin Greaney youre on your period?
@Kevin Greaney the fact that you bothered to response shows how hurt you were
@Kevin Greaney einstein. And you say i had the kindergarden response💀
@Kevin Greaney thanks buddy
@Kevin Greaney if u, a random guy care enough to write this comment, why do u think some other person, who personally knows her doesn't?
Just you saying it made me feel better.
I give too much power to people that don't appreciate my time.
Thank you.
I found this about 30 minutes ago. I cant believe how better I feel and so instantly. Wow, thank you so much
this is really refreshing. making space to feel these emotions exhausts them. the only way out is through, we can't escape our feelings.
It means you need to embrace the pains.Because sometimes the more you go against it, the more intense it becomes
Yes like exposing therapy
It works - I tried this with my ex after a few days of obsessive thoughts. I decided just to be with the thoughts and let them take their course - they began to fade quite quickly! Thank you.
It’s called accepting your shadow self, and you’re completely right. The world always tells you to fight against your demons, but the correct option will always be to understand and accept them.
I claim this!!!
If a girl doesn't respond to my texts, I have a life so I have other things I can do. Get a life. If you are completely dependent on one person, you don't have enough going on in your life. Find friends, find hobbies, fine points of interest, explore the world around you. Life is too f****** short.
That's not true. You can be thinking of a person while doing hobbies, doing anything really besides 1 min of free fall during a skydive. But you can even start thinking about them again once your parachute opens
@@spiritualbadbabebossbitch why would you do that? Why would you perseverate on a lost cause? If she's not talking to you, there's a reason she's not talking to you. Move on. Let it go. Get a life. There's more important things to do than perseverate over somebody who's not interested in you. You're welcome to your truth as I am to mine. I don't grovel. I don't need to. I'm maybe blessed that women have always come to me easily and I pick and choose. Women have tease me that my standards are too high but my high standards hasn't stopped me from meeting brilliant and wonderful women. Anyway, you do your thing man. I hope it works for you.
You missed my point. Its all good
@@spiritualbadbabebossbitch I am sorry I missed your point. I did reread it. And I just don't think about the person like that and it doesn't matter if I'm climbing a mountain or I'm in the middle of a boxing match or I'm in the middle of mixed martial arts match. If I'm hiking through the mountains I'm present I'm there my mind is there. The woman who's in my life will either be next to me and if I'm alone my mind is what I'm doing in that present moment. I'm sure you have an important point and like I said I'm sorry I missed it because it would lead to my own personal growth and maybe a wider perspective on the subject. Thanks for your comment nonetheless. Carpi Diem. Lol. I just realized that I'm cooking dinner that I have been accused of not thinking the woman in my life. Like they will text me or call me throughout the day and I don't do that. I will text him or call him at the end of the day to see how the day went but it does have to do with the fact that my mind is elsewhere. And if we break up it is hard on me but I have moments of reflection but I never perseverate I don't think of going back I just think of the loss. I never had a woman break up with me and maybe that's also the difference? Anyway I appreciate your comment and it will give me something to ponder as I finish cooking dinner tonight. But, by the time 8:00 rolls around my mind will probably be wrapped around whatever book I'm reading and the ideas presented. Have a good life kiddo. And thanks for the feedback.
@@spiritualbadbabebossbitch So true. I was able to have full on complex conversations at work with customers whilst at the same time conversing with him in my head, for months! It was like my thoughts ran on 'levels', the weirdest thing. And yes I thought about him no matter what I was doing. At least now we may have some release for a future scenario.
This worked for me once. I got bored thinking about them all the time obsessively. It happens, trust me.
Haha
I feel like I just took him off of that pedestal and put myself back up there, and I know I am okay, living my best life, whether I ever hear from him again or not. It feels like freedom and peace 🥰
made me realize my worth
Just find another person to focus on.. ain’t nobody got time to let another ruin your day. Everyday is a blessing and rejection is protection
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Focus on yourself
Gosh it worked like a magic lol. I saw this video before shower. When I was eating my dinner, he text me lol
It works because every single time I feel the pain I'm getting stronger and I'm slowly learning to deal with it 💗💗💗
Is it just me? After I thought those words and gave myself permission I actually felt appalled and angry at myself for giving control over my happiness to someone else
Nope, not just you. The worst thing you can do is give your power away and allow someone else or the thought of them, to ruin your day. We are all in charge of our own happiness. To depend on a significant other for happiness, will never work & puts way too much of a burden, upon your partner, when you're the only one who has the ability to control your emotions / thoughts. The best you gift you can give anyone in your life, is to be truly happy. Check out Abraham Hicks they talk all about it 😏
I started laughing
Yeap. I find it hard to forgive myself for being so dependent upon someone.
I bussed out laughing I felt Krazy as hell ❤
This is very true, I actually did this a long time ago with a situationship I had and it absolutely worked. I came back and tried to find this video so I could try it on someone else and I gotta admit! In the spam of 9 months this man is constantly texting me, and begging to be with me. This is very powerful, it was very instance and passionate. Lots of fighting, and strong emotions. He even told me he loved me you guys! It was too much for me and I actually ended up breaking things off and it only got more complicated. I am being dead serious. Why would I come on this video and write this long paragraph!! It is absolutely real and be careful what you wish for ! I barely knew the guy and attracted a very possessive man into my life. Smh! Lesson learned lol
What did you do?
Maybe you didn't understand the video :)
@@Izabela-ek5nh yes I did. But what she did, she didn't mention. Did she lose interest and then he came back?
I love this. And give yourself permission to take it personally, too. Give yourself permission to assume there’s nothing in that person’s life that should take priority over texting you at this moment. Give yourself permission to always react to everyone as though they have perfect mental health and free time.
Very true Sometimes to get our minds to do things we need to use reverse psychology on ourselves
Find multiple people to talk to
... That's what I do. Don't put all your eggs in one basket and just live your life! Don't wait for anyone!
I would never marry a woman that had multiple men trying the locks
BINGO!
@@doyoueatrocks you wouldn't even know...lol
Is this about romantic relationships?
@@doyoueatrockssexist
Ok I tried it and I honestly immediately let go. I’m just amazed at how fast it happened 😂 Thank you 🙏🏽 ❤
If a man is due to text me and he doesn’t, I just block, for me I want a man from the get go to treat me right, and if he’s starting off FLAKEY, then he’s gone!
MARIA, I AGREE.I BLOCK WOMEN ALL THE TIME BECAUSE OF THAT
I agree.
Exactly yes
Why block if he isn’t messaging? It’s just a reaction which shows they bruised your ego
@@thisgirl5918 No it's taking your power back
No text? Feel the hurt and then never text again. There’s pure power in not needing them. You win, and in rare moments they may come back to you. In that case you send them a “who’s this?” text.
Surprised with insignificance, they’ll suffer ever so silently.
I don't even bother ask "who's this" I just leave them on read.😂
@Kelvyn Clarke elaborate
My situation was a bit different, he rarely texted me himself, usually I was the one texting him but he always texted back (sometimes really late)
What does this mean? If he was interested, wouldn't he text himself or just he likes the attention I gave?? Why guys send mixed signals 🙄
@@cottoncandace7704 That’s extremely rare. Typically a man doesn’t send mixed signals. You wrote “guys” do this.. Definitely not accurate .
@@Earthtime3978 I feel like attention seekers do this
They may not be interested but they thrive off of the attention they are getting..
Excellent advice holds truth. Control your thoughts 💭 or someone will
I love how she totally used full on siren seduction techniques to deliver this message! Down to even the song choice and camera angle. Nice touch
Food. Food does not text. Food is in my fridge. Nutella is in my cabinet..food does not need a phone..love food..
Merry Obesity 😌
You have any Gryphon
@@jeremyhorn5357 absolutely. That's my field. I breathe it. I also specialize in sarcasm. Are we done here?
Reverse psychology🔥🔥
I usually go to pinterest, collect all the savage quotes and save it on my camera roll. Everytime I have the urge to text, I read and scroll the quotes hahahaha
How about just walking away silently, keeping your head held high. Love yourself enough to not let someone change your mood
Yeah that’ll work.
The whole point of the video is for the people who struggles to do that stupid
Or just being patient and considerate of others and their life circumstances. I'm mostly speaking in regards to people you've been talking to.
@Chiller 88884 As long as it doesn't bring a person down to a level of ruin or stagnation, because waiting on another person to reach out can be hurtful. Common courtesy is important regardless of who you are dealing with. A person should have the respect to tell you why they aren't available to speak with you. It doesn't take up a lot of time to do this.
That being said, I have a Twin Flame who didn't speak to me for almost 3 years. He was going through an Awakening. The difference is, we are telepathically connected. I can hear him in my head. It isn't like we didn't talk the whole time, just not out loud.
@@agapelove4992 Oh, no I definitely understand. Trust me...I've been there. But sometimes it really is just as simple as them being crazy busy and life hitting them suddenly. Family life stress, medical issues, crazy schedules, etc. Life can be unpredictable, especially when you're also neurodivergent, because neurodivergent people like myself have lower thresholds for stress.
Not gonna lie the situation sucks, for everyone, especially when the person who disappeared did so because of serious life stress and overwhelm. And knowing logically that likely it's not personal and they've got a LOT going on in their life, and they always explain themselves afterwards, and express how they wanna keep this relationship going, and sometimes even with that anxiety still creeps in.
I'm speaking specifically about people who aren't toxic, who try their best in the relationship when they're able like having the time and energy.
It really sucks, but sometimes the best thing you can do for now is just wait and keep Remington yourself that they will get back to you eventually, and they do genuinely care. And till then, keep going with your life, and spend time with the people who are available at the moment. People with ADHD can become so distracted we forget about other people who aren't directly in front of us, out of sight out of mind is very very true for us, but that doesn't mean we don't care. Sometimes we'll forget to message back and with the time blindness on top of poor short term memory (almost feels like the thing we forgot never even happened) it could suddenly be days or even weeks later and we wouldn't even notice, because of how our brains perceive time. We don't wanna be like this and feel incredibly bad for doing it, and some go into a shame spiral and are too nervous to reply back because "what if they don't care anymore? What if they're so mad at me they yell at me? What if I ruined everything?" and overwhelm in general can also creep in. And with Autism, people can also be forgetful, but also become so overwhelmed, they kinda withdrawl, sort of a shut down and being too stressed to do anything other than what they need to do. Chronic illness can also effect this. I have POTS, so I get chronic migraines, dizziness, nausea and constant lethargy, etc. So on bad days where the symptoms are hitting very hard, I don't have much of any energy to speak to people. Heck I don't have the energy so play simple computer games. Just kinda stuck on the couch.
And also...some advice to anyone who has anxiety about these things, have patience. And don't let your emotions make you say something you may regret, because that person may very well have a VERY good reason for this. Sometimes just letting them know you'll be here, waiting with open arms when they're ready to get back to you. Your feelings are valid, and there are people there for you if you need to talk about it.
I never had someone appear in my dreams so consistently, and it confuses me. But loving this person makes me happy and I’m pretty sure this would be the one If she made some equal effort to reach out
Have you had a conversation with her? I suggest talking to her about this, discuss your expectations and give her a chance
Just went through this. It was wild. I was completely content in my affections. I allowed myself to think about it anytime. It felt joy thinking of them. And then I found a bunch of reasons to not bother. And then thinking of them felt like... a chore.
We have free Will. To manipulate people in any way is wrong spiritually. 🔥
I am going to try it to see if it works I really want to make it work because I am really tired of waiting and hoping to see the change I believe the only person I can change is myself and nobody else thank you 🙏
Funny, I allowed myself a thought that the person, who left me, was probably in fact the love of my life and it's just never gonna work, what I tried to deny. Interestingly, today I feel more at peace with it.
DAMNNNN I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS 2 months ago 😂
If you sent text to an INTJ, give him/her the time to reflect.
We can take a lot of time to process informations, and texting back. It's our functioning.
this has been the most healing and eye opening piece of advice.
You can give permission but still not entertain the thought . Just don't fight it. Distractions help . Helping others and talking to God helps. Meditation.
journal any anger. eat well and exercise.
let go let God and try to forgive.
So true. Delve into the worst. Feel it. Hate it. Give it space and move forward with your day. Easier said than done at first. Folks with experience of NPD partners after several years, learn to master this skill. It's definitely a learned, not taught skill.
I agree because one day you'll be tired of feeling such feelings. In that way, it will be easier and faster to move on and heal.
I give in to my taboo thoughts AND actions. Sometimes I let my inner bratty child say some rude shit to someone who isn’t showing up how I want and I don’t care. Looks bad at first, but I feel relief inside. They can be mad if they want to. In love, typically he always comes back, and a lot better behaved too 🤷🏾♀️💋
This is also a self discipline issue.
I did it! ( in practice too😖). The whole bloody weekend i was checking every 5 min for his text, looking at his pic, building him up in my stupid infatuation!😤. Then on Monday as soon as he texted me to mess up with my head again I realised how stupid i was. Blocked, finish, lesson learned. Thank you young lady. ❤
This magical Girl knows how to get the work done . Once and for all your advices are very effective I feel less burdened . Thank you Miss😊 .
I felt goosebumps and a heaviness lifted.. by the way,thats a good song .i listen to it alot.
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Geez!! After hours from telling that, I confirm that I don’t give a f anymore!!!! Thank you ❤️
Wow! I needed this. I keep ignore my thoughts and find i cry and feel pain. Ive read you need to feel your painntill you can feel better but not keep dwelling or it toxifies. Thank you much. God bless you for all you do. ❤
I have this person I respect a lot. We started becoming friend and I noticed his 'true' side later on. I dont mind it at first. But im pretty concious and an observant person. He always being rude and making a barrier when it was with me. But being so nice to others.
The things that piss me off is when he did text me regarding important stuff. When I replied, it always 'on read' and never an answer. Despite I saw him almost all the time with his phone. I always gets on my nerve. But soon I try my best to remove him from my life.
The number # 1 driver of attraction for women is anxiety. If she knows she can have you anytime she wants, then she doesn't want you. If she's not texting you, then don't text her. Be willing to walk away from any relationship or potential relationship. If she liked you enough, then she would be texting. She's not, because she doesn't like you enough. Accept it, and move on.
Actually, insecurity and anxiety has destroyed my marriage. We will get a divorce because ultimately, I do not want to spend the rest of my life in such a horrible state. His attempt to keep me in a constant state of anxiety has only driven me to wanting nothing to do with him. It did NOT make me want to go on loving him, and is was a massive turn off.
Lmao good luck with that if you are dealing with women. Above 24, we have lived far too long to even bother entertaining someone who only brings anxiety in our lives, when we know there are other men out there who will not play games.
😬😂😂 why is this so romantic???
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this is insanely cute and romantic 😍
Wow. That was shockingly incredible. Like in a few seconds I'm right as rain. ❤ TY
Not being texted back is like if you're talking in person and they just give you their back and walk away. It's really disrespectful. I immediatly lose interest in people who behave that way, they just show their true colors.
when and if they do text back 🤣 just keep going doing ya regular routine 😂 and cash ya ✔️✅ checks !
Oh yes. This is true. I called it surrender. 😌👌🏼 It's okay. You'll be okay. ❤️
Surrender sounds great
My ego prevents me from being treated as a doormat..
Wow, that would certainly be an empowering statement for personal growth. Ironically so many people do this on an unconscious or subconscious level, but to bring it to the conscious level is like taking an elevator ride to the top of the Empire State Building! Bravo! 👏
This applies to every other aspects of life
He left me on read sunday morning . I said this and 6 min later he text me.
Patience works
it works. and you are the best psychologist i have ever seen. you really know what I wanna know. if I'm struggling from my problems, everytime I visit RUclips, there, one of her videos are there about how to solve my problem.
( sorry for my English, I am not a native speaker )
I actually like this…
I followed your advice..
My thoughts, so what that I’m depress, sad or miserable? I value all my feelings and none of them need correction. My heart is free to feel what it wants, including sadness and depression, all it wants. Because you see, nothing is a weakness, nothing is a coincidence. Everything is meant to be just how it is.. There is a certain strength to just allow…
So, thank you.
Long time ago I found your tiktok and I found you on RUclips, can’t thankyou enough for your existence ! ❤
Just found this. LOVE IT
She's sooo pretty 😍 . I love her eyes 💙💚
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Yep, so true. stop resisting and getting upset. The worry and pain will fade even faster this way.
Totally true, embrace it and it will go away
Why I allow myself to let this person take over whole myself and energy?
Dont do it the first advice is more better dont pick the second or else youll end up pedestelizing them😂 distract yourself by texting more than one girl it will make you forget the girl who ignores you.
Omg it actually works, cause when you just say it you will feel (what the hell I am doing to myself) and you will move on
It works amazingly..I can attest!the pain is no more,am at peace now!
the result: *I got so confused thinking about his shoulders, his cute eyes and his cute nose* ... that I banged the bathroom dor against my head - now I have a lump on my forehead. Not such a good idea to permit me to think about him
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you got issues
🤣I'm not laughing at your pain but this made me giggle because it's totally something that would happen to me too 🤣 and just the irony here. Talk about getting a wake up call. Here. Here's a door to the face now wake up!
Hahahahaha 🤪
Hope your lump has gone down/away by now!
@@scottstone1475 I got 'em too 🤣
Just text him, believe me
looking at one of their picture helps i belive mabey it kills the need of wanting to see that person and it reliefs neediness
Or, you can send them a love message, then text ‘oops wrong person’ then they will DEFINITELY text you back.
I exactly do this. For me, I see this as ACCEPTANCE of my own feelings, rather than running away from it. My guy recent broke up with me. He is 9 years older to me, but we became best friends first and that led to us coming closer because of our impeccable understanding. While I was back home, he got triggered on a medical issue from past and chose to keep me away and said that he lost all his feelings to be together, out of nowhere. When I was back, I was shattered to pieces. We had insane couple plans when I was leaving, and coming back to a broken relationship made me overthink to no bounds. He asked me to move on and not wait for him. Instead I told him I'll be waiting because that's my choice even if it hurts, rather than accepting the heartbreaking path he chose for us. It's been 2 months, I don't know I'm better or not but atleast I feel at peace with myself for being truthful to the love I carry! ❤ I hope you all face great success and happiness in your love pursuits
⚀what is the name of the background music ???
Yes very true, it’s about the energy your giving to receive, for them it’s take’s time to re bond with some you hurt, but the at least we are on talking terms now a good start
Omg U are the O Sweet Angel 😅, I’ve been overthinking that he pulled away n whole day checking on him lately but then just in instance I watch this and felt a ton better .. this are magic words ! Thank u ❤
How can you reverse psychology your own self...not working for me
I knew it, the more you detached yourself, the more distant it gets between yous,it even got me to a point,that I'm starting to feel cold towards him, but the moment when I reverse my heart ache back to him what he has caused me,i can c the difference how it affects him.
This does work,so I don't go for the detaching anymore... because it drifts us further apart, and once I've reversed it back to him i even feel better immediately, saying to myself I'm not going through this pain alone that he has caused me,he should feel the pain to...it work's, because he tells me out of nowhere that he is feeling sick..
wow, and I agree. I think he is in pain too, like me. Somehow I know.
@@janebraun4482 I've been hurt 💔🔪 before, so I said to myself that's it, I'm done with men...i don't deserve this kind of treatment, when I give my honesty and all to one person.. for more than 5years i have kept myself clean.saving myself for the right man just to get hurt again...he loves me but here's this 1girl doing her thing 🤔🤔 making him blind towards me,but I trust that GOD AND THE UNIVERSE will bring us together because nothing is stronger than the BLOOD OF JESUS 🙏🏼 honesty is the best policy ,so I'm waiting on GOD TIMING.....IS THE BEST TIMING, stay blessed, much love 💕 me 😘
It made me say hell no and let the repeated thoughts go. Wow thank u
When he leaves you on read but you don’t know because he has read receipts off😢
The way she talks is so seductive, and the fact she has great advice only makes her channel more attractive. Instant subscriber.
I have no shame, I double text. I even triple text. Bitch ignoring me, I'm gonna make my presence be known. Ping. Ping ping. 😂😂😂
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Happen to me too 😂
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Y is this so funny
I did this same thing when my grandpa died. I walked up to the coffin, remembered all the times we spent together and imagined everything I could remember. I broke down in tears, crying out loud, then walked out and had a long think. Since then, I haven't felt bad at all.
i did this couple of min ago. bro i laughed so fucking hard. my mind just told me "who the fuck is he, stop this nonese girl im not ruing anything nah nah" . it works 🍻
I think of my woman all the time but then again she is my wife.
u mean it should have been for a different woman ? lol
It's easy, know your worth! A person playing games with you is not worthy of you! Leave them be, do you honestly want to give all you offer to anyone who doesn't appreciate you? Period! Play silly games for silly prizes.
Been there. Done that. End up being used, then they put me on the sidelines as a third string option, occasionally breadcrumbing me with a message or two until I am ghosted by them.
It might work for you, Miss because you have the beauty and that soft speaking voice that melts guys hearts when you are around them.
I am not so fortunate.
Enough said.
To people saying if they like you a guy will reach out for sure: it’s important to note as someone with anxiety and overthinking there’s plenty of people I’d love to be talking to every moment of the day, and even the guy I like, I get so into my head or so busy trying to put my life together that I rarely text them so I would argue this is not always true. On that note, it’s still best to try to communicate straight up if you want to be apart of someone’s life more (that’s the best way you’ll know over any silly mind games, trust me, I wasted YEARS of potential based on the “he’ll text first” ish when I found out the guy I liked was waiting for the same thing until it was too late, another girl DID go after him 🙃 plus it’s sexist to put all the responsibility on the guy in that sense). Plus it’s the best way to get peace for yourself and move on if you need to. :) and remember friends: every rejection may just actually be a blessing you don’t yet understand
Thank you for this. So many people say that if a guy liked you he would drop everything and always be texting and always be behaving exactly how you want when that just isn't realistic. People seem to forget people, especially men, have emotions and mental issues and are allowed to isolate. The guy I'm involved with has a lot of severe mental issues and goes months without talking to me but I know it's not my fault at all, it's just him coping. It really upsets me to see how many people swear on their life that if someone doesn't text you back instantly no matter the circumstances, they hate you and want nothing to do with you.
YES! People get busy, some people are disabled, some are neurodivergent, just look up ADHD and autism and withdrawl and involuntary ghosting! And chronic illness, and work, and school, and an unpredictable life. If I don't respond much it's never because I don't care. It's either I forgot and out of sight out of mind cause of ADHD, and I wish my brain wasn't like that, I'm having a bad chronic illness day like migraines, dizziness, nausea, always tired...or I'm busy. Or don't have internet or power, or phone reception.
So people, trust me....not being responsive doesn't mean we don't care. I love my friends to pieces and am terrified of ever losing them or hurting them. The only reason I'm usually pretty good about responding back is also due to my anxiety and OCD, which comes with obsessive compulsive checking.
That stuff doesn't happen often. If a guy likes a girl chances are he will do anything.
@@sansadrake4133 not true! Men are actually more emotional and anxious than women.
Yeah It really works. Thanks a lot ❣️❣️❣️
Its pretty weak when someone has to rely or depend on others when you are better off independent
He’s cheating and I’m crying my eyes out. It went from “ily