reflections on moving out of my parent’s house
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- Опубликовано: 31 июл 2024
- I moved out of my parents house about a month ago and these are my initial thoughts!
Let me know if y'all want another video on the biggest lessons I've learned so far.
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People who have great parents get the sources to move out while people who have toxic parent is stuck with low income and can’t move out because of parents forcing them with guilt trip. moving out means finding peace and happiness for those who grew up with toxic people, having no negative energy around you is peace. Being safe is a blessing.
this is so real. I really want to move out because this house is so negative and bad for me. But I know absolutely NOTHING about the real world or just anything at all. Like what is deposit? how do I use the trimet bus? what even is taxes?I’m embarrassed to not know but it’s true. So idk how I’ll be able to live alone
@@bethzyrojas I am more concerned about safety if I live alone due to childhood traumas.
I am with the more than normal toxic ones..
@@anewno6240 oh I see :(
If you feel you need too, you could try a therapist or some other form or psychological help, I hear it’s really helpful
Yes! I'm suffering
I m moving out soon, I m afraid of being alone, no roommates, no friends, no family, new palce, new journey, I am feeling like starting an other life and leaving my old one. As a girl, who is related to fam and friends, this step gives me feeling of loneliness and fear. but as a muslim girl, I always remember that Allah is with me in every step.I feel safe even with all the bad feelings.
I know that feeling but you got this! It'll be rough in the beginning but you'll adapt inshallah
@@halalmoaaz Inshaallah, thank you
As a Pakistani I'm curious why do you guys need to move out? Like in our culture, children especially girls live with their parents until they get married. No girl can imagine living without parents all alone.
@@ansarullah2633 I m moving out because of study, I need to go to uni, but in my hometown, we don't have university and my parent are working, they can't leave their work. So there is no other choice.
@@lamiahbt1850 hey sister I think you need a male mahram to go out of your city. I don't think you can go alone
Moved out at 18, 22 now. The one thing i wasnt prepared for is how agonizingly lonely it is. Every day when i come home from walmart i just feel like squidward in that white void. Where do i go from here?
Thank you brother for each piece of advice and experience that you shared. ❤
I’m not ready to move out yet but this video was so beneficial for me. You’re clearly a very smart young man and your parents raised you extremely well. I took everything I needed to from this video. Thank you
You just said what was in my heart since 2 years now. I'm studying abroad, so I've and am passing through everything you said. It's true ; you miss your old self,family moments and friends .but i learnt the hard way that we have to sabr even if it's difficult and be our own cheerleader and parent ,push ourselves and tawakul 3ala allah . Its difficult all by yourself and in a new country especially for a nostalgic girl like me ,but i hope it's gonna be all worth it at the end
You got this! accountability for yourself was a big learning curve for me too!
Good Luck brother!
This was very relatable to me and made me realize even more how important family really is. They are the only people who truly care for you. I think moving away was good, only for the fact that it made me more independent and develop skills that would eventually help me and them, and also to appreciate them for all that they've done. I was living with a older person (mentor) who convinced me that my parents were narcissistic and evil, but in reality he was speaking from his own particular experience and was even financially using me and my parents money for his own gain in another state. Still having trouble accepting this right now.
Thank you for the video, i personally liked the part about friends and choosing your friend. It is good to have that kind of control in your life, cause lately for me i felt like i was forcing myself to be with people i dont feel my best with even if they were good people. I felt i was a bad person to think that way and that it is normal to be friends with someone even though you dont feel good around them , And it is hard to avoid them cause they are nice but i feel drained and not appreciated , but now i have a clear picture thanks to you .
Keep on the good work Moaaz. These videos are extremely helpful and beneficial to the youth and I know exactly how your feeling. I just recently started College and I am trying my best to balance all of things that I want to do in life. One of the things can that really help someone is to enjoy what your doing like enjoy learning and balancing out everything that you want to do throughout the day.
I have 16 and i completely agree with everything that you said, parents are a really important pillar for our mental health, they used to put pressure on me, as a dumb teenager, i got mad at it, but, now that them gave me a little a more freedom, i strongly feel how my discipline, my grades, everything, went downhill, luckily i recovered (guess thanks to who)
All of this freedom that they gave help me understand the importance of their presence.
Love the vid, cheers and good luck with this new life
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Great advice brother. It's very important to set some rules to yourself, It will really help you stop wasting time. I used to waste a lot of time watching RUclips videos but once I started this new productivity system, it changed alot of things.
I have the greatest mom in the world and I love being with her, but It would be nice to move out when im young and still live near by, just wanna have that experience with being alone in my own house/apartment, but even if I can't move out when I turn 18 or whenever, I dont care cause living with my mom will always be great and she is so supportive!
Very wise, mature and balanced take. Not everyone can handle it.
This is the first video I found, maybe even the first person I’ve heard talk about their experiences moving out and growing up, that feels the same way I do. It’s overwhelming and scary, There are a lot of emotions that I don’t even know that I’m feeling. It’s the first time I’ve ever felt so lost because I was a person who was perceived as driven and diligent and self-reliant , but now I’m starting to realize that even if my parents or teachers or peers weren’t pressuring me, I still was motivated by wanting to impress them. Now that I’m doing things by myself, for myself, I realize I may not have actually been so “self”-driven
For me it’s the opposite,I feel more driven alone somehow.
To work, read, learn, go out and talk to people etc
🥰🥰. Absolutely love this as a mother.God bless the family that raised such an insightful and wise young man❤
Idk what to say, you are talking about your moving out experience & some lessons your have learned but in someway its really motivating me! Alhamdulillah, barakallah fik brother, Ya Allah Yakfi 🤲🏾❤️✨☝🏼
We love you and we are so proud of you and always remember from hardship comes the blessing❤❤
We love you habibi and we are always very proud of you ❤❤
Man you don’t know how much i needed this video
I still live in this house, and over this I did managed to learn how to cook while my mom is recovering. and the thought of being alone and finding out ways in how to live my life is really hard, no ones there to cheer for you, no ones there to treat you in case you get ail, recently discovered about this stage in our lives and its really up to me to decide on how I live for it.
Thank you for sharing your story about moving out! It helped me make my decision and hopefully it helps others
My mom would kill me if I talk about moving out even at 40😂😂
Masha'allah. Moaz we need more vlogs 🙏🏼 they're fun to watch
You always make my day when you are posting a viedeo.
Thos viedeo is biuttifull and it has a lot of tips thank you for that thank you for that brother🤝🏼👏🏽
Love from Germany but i am from Marocco 🇲🇦
The family part...
A year ago I was so excited about moving out because of the errands and yelling and chores. But now I want them all back. I wish I could see my parents and hug them so tight
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bro really appreciate what you are doing
i loved this video
ill make sure to rewatch this when i move out next year inshallah
family is the best in life. A very huge gift that has to be valued and taken care of. Alhamdoullilah
It would be really nice if u make a video about your experience with your moving out ! I think it will help a lot of us 🥰
I want to do this too coz I think it’ll help me develop myself. I have a very ‘productive’ mindset. Its just that one of the reasons I don’t implement the actions/habits I want to master is my unproductive surroundings. I know it’ll be hard without family, it’ll be lonely but I think it’s necessary to develop yourself if you trust yourself enough (like you won’t go on the wrong path)
Sometimes it doesn’t even take moving out to realize you’ve botched your own habits and mindset, it just takes a major change. I started college a little over a year ago (still live with my parents) and developed a severe case of depression. No one was there to motivate me or tell me that I needed to do XYZ, so I started falling into terrible habits. Alhamdulillah things have gotten slightly better, but that learning curve is soooooooo steep. Maybe my case was a little severe, but it’s a classic “I was spoiled and now I don’t know how to take care of myself” case. I wish things could be easier, but sabr is being developed. I just want to take a deep breath and let it out.
Jazakallah khair bro!!! FR FR!!! Walahi this was deeep bro!!! Hope all is well there in texas!!! Miss u brh!
Love this dude and yeah, what's around us eventually makes up what we become, may Allah help us all.
I love ur videos man they really motivate me, may Allah swt bless u
Respects to how humble and open you are to talk about your family in such a respectful way and grateful for them. It's not something you see a lot in many youngsters these days who have no respect. So thanks for sharing!
yall say that but you get what you recieve. yalls generation trys shitting on everyone while demanding respect but sorry but thats not how it works
@@rmi2548 nice way to make generalized assumptions without knowing anything about anyone. LOL 😂 maybe do take a chill pill 💊
@@altruex you literally generalized in you initial comment
@@mrmelonman2893 how so?
I want to move out as well. I love my family and I enjoy spending time with them and the thought of being separated from them for just a week is heartbreaking to me. This is the reason why I know that I got to move out because I am dependent on them, but I want to learn real life, I am building discipline. I know that I am going to miss them so very much and it is heartbreaking. However, this is a decision that I have to make for myself in order to function as a normal adult in the real world.
Oh man I feel you. That’s why I came across this video, was because I don’t know how I’m going to do it. I feel like I’m not ready, but I have to
i moved out of my parents house too last year it is been a year and i did not seen my mom dad and my siblings but Allhamdulilah i believe that every thing happened for a reason and i will made dua for every one missing home
its okay to relax too and spend time away from everything to just get away and have peace of mind. you don't always have to be working or doing something constantly, we need a balance.
Been on my own for a month now and I know that's not long, but its still made me realize how important that self discipline is. Damn near starving I'm so bad at cooking. Sleep schedule is ruined cause I can sleep whenever I want. Still got a lot to learn but it helps hearing from someone else who went through it.
Just found out about this channel and I’m loving it ❤
I usually dont subscribe but im gonna subscribe you. :)) mashaallah so happy to see that there are still such gems in our new generation. May Allah almighty increase you in piety and knowledge of deen and duniya, ameen
This man is very authentic to himself, I love that
Ya rajuul😭 when I need it😫 thank you ❤
we are proud of you mooaz keep going
This got me really thinking.. JazakAllah ghair🤍
Bro this was gold
also everyone loves a guy who cooks
moaaz youre killing me
You can do it! Be a person that you want to be! Young people can live a great life! Please don’t think you have to live with your parents, Go out a be the best you can be, You got this!
Gonna be moving out in about a month for the first time! I’m 26 years old. I feel more prepared now than I was at 18 but there will always be a part of me that wants things to never change! But time will move on wether I’m ready or not! And I have a lot of growing up to do! I get homesick easily but I think going through that pain is good and makes you stronger! Thanks for making this video!
Good luck man! 27 and moved out 5 days ago! I know for fact this is the best season of my life!
My parents not allowing
@@JamesGamesTreasureHuntingI’m moving out in October bro, any advice I’m 28
I like your videos and i just want to say may Allah give you strength and reward you akhi ❤️
Maansha Allah moaaz may Allah almighty give you the strength and courage to make it easy for you everything
Ma'Sha'Allah! Keep the great content up.. would love more regular uploads however!
First from Pakistan. love you moaaz and your growth has been quite inspirational for me. Living in adelaide, australia now
May Allah bless you
Thanks bro you give me enough advice I will move out as soon as possible insha'Allah
Moved out a month ago, been at home for 18 years.. Man I can relate. 💔💯
Appreciate your efforts ❤❤moaaz
Recently started watching your videos I really like them ☺️
its so funny how different experiences people have Ive cooked for myself since like 9th grade and my parents never made me do my homework or go to bed on time so I cant relate at ALL moving out went smooth af
I'm probably going to move out in maybe 6 months or so (if I pass the exams lol) but I'm going make sure to learn about moving out before I actually move out from experiences of other people like you. Thanks for all the info you shared, happy days my guy.
As a Pakistani I'm curious, why do you guys need to move out? Like in our culture, children especially girls live with their parents until they get married. No girl can imagine living without parents all alone.
@@ansarullah2633 maybe they want to go to an islamic university
@@ansarullah2633 I think that's good, however, the only adjustment I'd make is creating more space by having separate quarters. That way, there will be less disputes and quarrels over random things. Living alone is not a good thing and in todays day and age it may not even be possible due to the extreme increase in things like rent, utilities, etc.
Thank you for this video
Masha Allah , watching this video made me realize a lot of thinks, love of parents and less of motivation, like it’s been a month since the beginning of the school year and I still haven’t found my routine, how to organize my revisions, my sport sessions… I felt weak and not even able to organize myself like before but I don’t want to put any pressure on myself and I rely al hamdoulillah, on the person I love the most : Allah, with duaas, with the help of my loved ones, I have hope for a better future. So let’s stay disciplined and do our best Insha Allah ^^
you got this inshallah🤍
I'll make dua to Allah to make it easy for you, in sha Allah. I remembered my beginnings when I moved out at 18yo. It was difficult, moving to another city, but hey it all is part of being adult. We are now responsable and we need to think about our actions. But we must never forget that Allah is always by our side if we give our trust in Him!
May Allah make us among true believers, and people of jannah. Amin.
7:37__makes my eyes tear up...i can feel this🥺🥺
May Allah make it easy for you , Moaz. You'll gain a huge experience from this hard time insha'Allah.. and you already grew up ما شاء الله.
we're waiting for ur beautiful videos! 🥰
Thanks for the advice brother
Do it. Do another. Keep em videos coming
“Also everyone loves a guy who cooks..” ✨
Thank you your videos even though I am mother of 6 kids. Please make details about your experiences. This is very beneficial to our Muslim younth. ❤❤I want my kids to watch your kids.
I came across this video and I’m only 5 seconds in and I’m scared to watch it haha. I’m moving out of my parent’s home and to a completely new country to continue my studies. I’m a month away from flying out and I’ve been feeling really scared, anxious, and sorry that I’m leaving them in the first place. I feel like my reasons for going to the country I’ve chosen are not “good enough” and I’m really starting to feel the uneasiness after the high and the excitement. I will not have financial support from them because we’re not a very wealthy family, I will be taking on a lot of student debt which is another thing that worries me. They’ve been very supportive, reminding me that I’m still young and that I always have a home to fall back on but I really want this to work since I dropped out of another university to do this. I’m scared of just attempting to survive on my own out there, but I don’t want to worry them too much. I’ve been trying to treat them as best I can before I leave as if to compensate for the years I’ll be missing with them. At this point I’m just rambling but my best wishes to those who are reading this and are moving out or away from their parents/family, and I hope we can all succeed :,)
Im moving out in like 2-3 days and im like 16. Thank you for the video realy needed that.
@Movie Mania hm ya?
Thank you so much for this video 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 I am suffering same
In Asia the most parents not pushing out kids to move out until get marry,so same time living together and helping parents
Im glad your able to move out despite the cost of living rising very expensive
This might be a good lesson for me since I'm in my 2nd year of college.
Please make more videos on moving out. As i’m facing hard time these days deciding for my career (jobs ) & at the same time processing for moving abroad. I’m a social person so friends & like minded people is kind of a need for me to go with. Sometimes i can be solo. But like minded people will boost me up more. So please do share more of your experiences as i’m also learning Deen & Quran also with more in-depth knowledge & understanding.
Since you moved out your channel has grown📈
Relatable af at 3:50 cuz im watching this at 3am lol Im 20 and I just moved out to a pretty nice home but it’s so empty rn and I can hear every creepy sound rn😅
Dude I just turned 15 and I’m already thinking about this. And it makes so sad because I’m so scared of moving out and my sister is moving to Boise and I’m going to miss her so much.
I moved out at 18 for the military the first time it hit me was when I got sick during bootcamp and realized it was just me myself and I
just gotta say you’re so handsome. could definitely model!
I've been just doing the bare minimum for years and now it's catching up to me. I need to change but the discipline is just not there. My parents don't really know much about what I do with my free time because I hide in my room all day eating junk food and mindlessly scrolling on my phone all day everyday. It just made me realize that I screwed myself over without noticing.
How are you now?
@@ArsHaD-dg1gb I'm working full time and going to school full time. I started working out, but when I started school again, exercise went right out the window. I'm so tired, I slipped back into my addiction to sugar to cope, and everything just sucks right now. It's too much, my anxiety about turning in things late is killing me. I tell myself it'll be better once I finish my semester and I can take a break, but idk if it will. I think I need help
@@wayneisname4544 I think you need to get there step by step, don't think of the next week or month or year, focus on what you can get done in the next 24 hours. Also social media can really add to the stress instead of helping you free your mind. Try to think of other ways to free your mind and take a break, like even talking a walk or something
@@wayneisname4544it's a step by step process, it may take time, just acknowledge that
love the video brother
Im 18 n I want to move out because I lived in a very toxic environment. My parents wouldn’t allow me to work even when I am able to. They were saying that I was too young to work and blah blah. The only choice I have was to leave them behind. Disclaimer: when you’re young and you live with your parents, don’t leave unless you have to because it’s scary out there and no one knows what can happen to you especially if you don’t have money to rent your own place.
Be patient brothers..
When it hurts and feel demotivated,Come to Moaaz videos 💚.You always motivate me thankss💙,discipline>>>>>>>>>motivation.
5:15 hited me differently 😂🖤
7:16 made me cry😭💙
First one 🥰from 🇸🇴
Awesome video I’ve been wanting to make RUclips videos since I moved out but idk I guess I’m camera shy
Right now im broke but if i had money you'd see me going to gym.Still working on that dough.
Subhanallah i want to watch the video right now!! but i will save it for letter it will be a waste to watch it right away Inshallah tomorrow with a good coffee. So excited. May Allah SWT bless everyone. Aslam alkum.
I'm a new follower and I love watching your video and the topics you talk about ❤️
And I hope you will put a translation in Arabic so that everyone can understand your words ❤️
Hope you don't ignore my comment ✨
If am gonna take anything from this video its gonna be "drink your OJ." Haha jk (or am I?). We need more of these reflections please. It helps us alot more than you think. Trust me with that.
You already knew 😂
Surly Best advice for someone’s living abroad
You should definately make an in depth about moving out.
Look bro, I grew up with parents that made me feel the same way. Always needing to be doing something to keep yourself distracted is a trauma response, for the first time in your life you are being YOU! This voice in your head of why aren’t you doing something or go be busy is not your own internal monologue, it’s actually been hijacked by your parents from years of belittling and being overly critical of you, so now you are repeating to yourself are the same things they said to you growing up, the kicker is that eventually you convince yourself these are your own thoughts. You are too strict on yourself it’s OKAY to stay up late sometimes, it’s OKAY to want to be in bed the whole after a stressful week, it’s OKAY to play games till 3 in the morning if you really want to that day, you are doing these things now because these are the same things that you had been deprived of and wished you could do growing up. Embrace these feelings don’t fight them, society is so backwards, accept and learn from what you are feeling don’t push it away or try to rationalize it to fit your current perception of who you are.
hey you dont sound okay. i agree its good to take a break and you dont need to be "busy" in that stressful way all the time but using your time wisely is so important and taking care of your health. some might think that staying in bed the entire day or staying up late playing games is good for their mental health or is a good way to take a break but in the long run you feel drained, and your physical health goes down the drain.
you sound like your projecting your experience with your parents onto Moaaz when neither of us even know his life or his experience with his parents. parents will generally nag, obviously theres a line between yelling and forcing you and nagging in the way that they love you and want you to do better. but his parents sound more like the latter as he said himself.
not everything is a trauma response bro and society isnt backwards for saying its unhealthy to play games till 3 in the morning.
yes please make a more detailed video🙌🙌
Ur mature kid and very wise n intelligent
I’m not ready to move out but I don’t think my mother wants me to stay with her anymore. I just wanted to save up some money after I graduated college but the cost of living keeps rising. I feel like her life would’ve been easier if I was never born some times..
18, my gf and mother of my 6 month old son is 19 I plan to move us out of her parents house by next year. I do not want my child around this negativity or toxicity
I moved out for three years now I’m back saving money and I have to move out again In winter. The most hard part is having to buy food 😂 like saving money for that is ridiculous