This touched me so much. I cried so hard. My family hated me because I spoke up after 4 years of sexual abuse by my grandfather. No one believed me and my life was nothing but pain and suffering. I found Allah when I was 31 years old. Before Islam I was lost and just wanted to give up. Allah saved me. He brought me close to Him and changed my suffering into a beautiful life. This Khutbah is something everyone needs to hear. Thank you so much for your message. Keep doing Allah's work.
Omg 😱 sweetheart I hope you are doing oke now. I am sooo sorry that this happened to you. May Allah reward you for your sabr in this life and the next.
I feel sorry that you had to go through such terrible things. You're brave for speaking up! May allah ease your pain and bring happiness in your life. Hope you're doing well
I feel sorry that you had to go through such terrible things. You're brave for speaking up! May allah ease your pain and bring happiness in your life. Hope you're doing well
Sister, I am so sorry to hear that u have to go through this. It's sad ur family reacted like this. Allah is the witness against injustice & criminals. U found Allah which is the greatest blessing of life. U now know that u only have to depend on Allah. U are free from society. May Allah guide u & me more. May Allah give u sabr. And Allah will give u justice In Hereafter.
Recently, I had a trainig to attend. It was about self confidence, trust and mutual understanding. I couldn't participate because I lost those principles in my life. I was so embarressed. I asked Allah to help me but I just fail... . Nothing is going the way I wanted it to be. I'm sad.
@@Amazonproducts2100 Well then why didn't you attend it in the first place if it was for you to gain those principles (self confidence etc). Sadness is a part of what makes us human. No living soul is unfamiliar with it; even our Prophets faced multiple episodes of sadness. For example, Yaqub (AS) wept until he lost his vision and even our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) experienced bouts of sadness upon the loss of his wife and uncle. Hence, sadness is not a sign of weakness in any form. To experience sadness is to be human. Having strong faith, or Imaan, does not render a believer to be an exception to the emotion of sadness. Imaan does, however, equip us with the tools to combat depression and hopelessness. There is nothing wrong with accepting and acknowledging your grief. The strength of a believer is not that he remains strong by dwelling in denial or drowning in numbness, it is that he never loses hope despite all the pain and grief. That in essence is what true faith is.
No soul is burdened with more than it can bear Don’t ever forget that Allah (SWT) will never burden you with something that is beyond your capacity to deal with. Even on days when you feel as if you cannot take it anymore, know that you can survive it- for Allah (SWT) knows us better than we know ourselves and whatever trial you’re facing in your life, know that He also gives you the strength to handle that trial. With hardship comes ease Allah (SWT) promises His believer that “For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease” (Quran 94:5). Trust His word. Even if the suffering feels endless and you feel yourself getting exhausted from the weight of it all, do not lose hope- for there is ease and something even better waiting for you right around the corner. Nothing remains forever, not even hardships. And those believers who hold on to hope and faith in Allah (SWT) and adopt patience amidst their difficult times are then rewarded in ways human beings cannot even imagine. So remember, this too, shall pass. Allah (SWT) is in control, you are not Depression is majorly defined by a sense of hopelessness- in yourself and in the world around you. It is rooted in a sense of sheer helplessness where you feel like nothing is in your control. But that is the truth; nothing IS in your control. It is in Allah’s (SWT) control. Take a moment, embrace your lack of control over your circumstances, and know that the one in control is the best of planners and loves you more than you can imagine. Surrender your attempts to control your life, leave it up to Allah (SWT), and trust His plan for you. Sometimes, the human mind is unable to understand Allah’s (SWT) ultimate wisdom behind every single thing that happens to us. However, by accepting that Allah (SWT) is in control and welcoming His plans for us ultimately leads to the enrichment of our mind, body and soul. Do the best you can and leave the rest to Allah (SWT) Remind yourself that human responsibility is restricted within certain boundaries. All Allah (SWT) asks of us is that we fulfill our duties and do the best we can in our circumstances and leave the outcomes to Allah (SWT). We can only control our actions and duties, not the outcomes. Even Allah’s (SWT) prophets did not have control over their outcomes. A believer is rewarded based on the effort, not the result. Do not dwell on what is beyond your control and embrace Allah’s (SWT) magnificence. Do not make yourself anxious over the unknown outcomes. Play your role the best you can and leave the rest to Him. Be grateful for the blessings Allah (SWT) has bestowed you with During the hard times, we tend to forget the blessings we have around us and instead, we focus more on the things that are going wrong for us. It is human nature. We tend to get lost in circumstantial sources of grief and pain and forget to notice our source of blessings. Whenever you feel yourself being sucked into a dark phase of hopelessness and depression- remind yourself that you have a lot to be grateful for at the same time- whether it is a loving family, supportive friends, food in your belly every night before you sleep, a roof over your head and countless other things. Remind yourself that you are better off than so many other people who do not share our fortune in these domains. Keep a “count your blessings” journal if you want, where you can jot down a couple of things you are grateful for on a daily basis. It really does help in looking at the bright side of things!
I am almost 30 years old woman, and for the first time when I watched this Khutbah, I was not able to control myself, I layed down on the floor and weeping so bad, due to all the trumas that I have from my childhood, teenage and then adulthood from my own parents. Now it hass been almost two years that I am far from them and still receiving no love and care and all those & these behaviours are deeply caused me lots of lots of insecurities and self esteem issues that are killing me inside and out. Now, I am working on my trumas by going to therapists. May Allah forgive my parents and I and all the other parents who are abusive, and they actually don't realise their value of being parents that Allah blessed them.
I am so proud of Nouman Ali Khan, it takes a lot of courage for a public figure speaker from an Islamic background, to talk about such a sensitive subject. I listen to many lectures and this is the first Sheikh I have ever heard to focus on a subject, about the rights of children, especially young children and teenagers, who are sexually abused! A lot of our ‘Islamic leaders’ prefer not to dwell in such subjects. Thank you for being the voice of our silent children! Jazak’Allah khayran
This is so deep. It reminds me of my childhood. True, an abused child will start questioning themselves so much with questions that a child should not even be thinking about at that age and that it affects their mental health like self-esteem and such. I have severe anxiety and have a hard time looking people in the eye. I'm keeping positive and I will get better InsyaAllah.
You will get better bi kudrohtullah. It’s no joke being abused in any way, shape or form. It’s takes the Mercy of Allah to heal from it. Just include it in your every salat to take those I’ll, sad and overwhelming unhappy memories from your head and your entire being. Trust me only Allah can help with this. May Allah make it easy for you as each day pass by. Aameen.🙏
I am crying right now. I was just complaining to Allah about my father. He has has been drinking for the past 30-35 years. He is muslim... He has been abusive, been gas lighting us since we were young. I even once lost faith in God with the way he represented religion and justified all his wrong doings. He is an extremely bad husband..he has given us so much pain..and is giving till now...and I am at that point where I don't want to pick his calls..I want my parents to be separated..all my siblings are older..our own children will not be able to put with him..and I was feeling so guilty because as kids we are taught that parents always have the rights..and no matter what parents do, you are suppose to suffer..I was angry with Allah for not giving us kids rights..I had an extremely abusive parent who has caused me massive emotional problems..to the point where even I don't even want go get married. I just wish every person sees this lecture to understand that if you are a parent, it does not give the license to emotionally, physically abuse your child! Allah will not forgive u if you are doing that!
Your comment made me tear up, my parents got separated and my father was also drinking but we didn't have it easy because our mother had to take care of us in an Arab judgmental society. I also don't want to get married and have children because I fear of hurting my kids and have them go through what I went through. Reading your comment hit close and I hope things got better for you these last couple of years.
Ahh I really really hope and pray that you are doing well. I know it's hard when your own parents who are the medium through which you were brought into this world shows you the most horrendous side of a human being....I also lost faith in my dad as he used my religion to emotionally blackmail me, I was forcedly married off to a really bad person...but trust me it gets better. You learn to get out of it and stand stronger than before. Nothing stays the same for long...
ash gul take care please. You may send me a message if you need any help. I am a counsellor n psychotherapist. Prayers for you. May Almighty give you strength and amazing will power Aameen
anum abid memories may stay but the effect of it can be tackled and leave you unaffected in the end. One deserves the beuatiful moments of NOW without undergoing the pain of past repeatedly. Take care brave hearts.
May Allah SWT bless his graceful soul. His words are gold. I really pray that whoever watches this video learn this lesson for life and never let their children afflict with any form of childhood trauma. Ameen!
You just explained my situation and this really hurts to feel in such a way that you are constantly under fear and silence. I ask Allah that no one sees such moments in life.
I am crying and dieing listening to this khutbah. I till this day gets violence Physically and mentally But I am helpless I only cry to Allah I am old enough but I can't do anything Cause my family mentally and my sister physically and mentally abuse me 🙏
This great human being restores my faith in humanity and gave me a clear view of my creator and me...Ya Allah bless this man gave him jannh al firdous indeed he deserve to be among rightous and above all with prophet SAW .. It is so sad that this channel and this man is so underrated but yes i know in future when centuries will be pasted away his videos will be extremely needed and whole humanity till the last day will be benefited by his videos ..A endless sadaqa-e- jaria no actually the greatest sadaqa-e-jariya..Allah bestowed his greated fazal on this man and through his to us.. Ya ALLAH we are always in need of hiyada plz don't let us astray and make us among your beloved people..AMEEN YA RABBAL ALAMEEN..
Yout right it will be helpfull for the kids and parents of the future, hey you... just remember your rabb is always with you, you can free yourself from the cycle I know you can do it :D
I'm used to it.. to the point I crying to my parent when we have debating something because I love them! Love and hate is very thin ustadz.. ustadz nouman I love you! I never talk to u about this feeling I have but thank youu for making this video, I'm feeling better and can smile as I always see you ustadz ☺️☺️ may Allah give healthy for ustadz nouman. 💜🤗
@@HinaBeg thank you soo much for your kind offer but since English isn't my first language so it's kinda difficult to tell 😅 but please pray for me always sister, may Allah bless you and your family always, aamiin 🤲🏻 luv from Indonesia ♥️☺️
Hijab Mir take care please and if you want any help to get rid of hainted past do send me a message. I am a counsellor and Psychotherapist by profession. Take care
I love u sir uh are great Islamic teacher I'm from Kashmir I listened to plenty of Islamic speakers but I like only 2 Islamic teachers in my life by experience one you and 2nd mufti Ismail menk.....uh are real soliders of Islam ...... thank you for teaching us
This so amazing so inspiring as it prouves how much of the treasures of quraan we ignore. I have never thought, not even once in my life that we can related to this aya " إذا الموؤودة سئلت" never had the brilliant idea that it can be seen the way oustad Nouman explained it. May Allah soubhanaho wa taala forgive us if we ever yelled at some one that is weaker then us, May him forgive us even more if we raised our voices over childern or family and be kinder to strangers then our own family. This has to be taught all over the world, this how our quran will bring us out of the death that we are living in, this way of interpreting the revelation and moving the beleivers to act upon it is capable of bring our oumah light back. And this is what a real khotba is. Thank you so much oustad Nouman, you are a true inspiration.
This hits hard for me because as a child I was criticized about things I were doing wrong, if I did something wrong I'd be told "You're doing this wrong" so much that it's shaken my self-confidence to this day. If your child is doing something wrong be respectful and kind to them or if you point everything out and make them seem as if they can't do anything right it'll be a wound that never heals.
You really made me cry today. Sometimes there are things in the past that we'd love to forget and not face, and we just go through it because of negligence. I pray for everyone and that no one has to suffer
When he said “you could be from a different century than them”, I started thinking about the number of people that have existed on this earth. Just imagine. Everyone who has EVER LIVED will be resurrected. The number of people who will be present on the Day of Judgement is unfathomable. Allahu Akbar.
Perfectly captured what goes on in the Desi families. The worst part is if you tell your Aunt or Uncles to help against your parents, they say everybody got it and it's the norm. Don't revolt against it. If somebody got abused and tortured, why is it necessary for others to go through the same thing? What kind of shitty person would allow the self-esteem and mental stability of others, their own nephews and nieces, be attacked just because they went through the same thing from their parents? Is it because it was done through their generations, that makes it right?! Surely they are in grave error and they will have to answer to Allah. The abusers, the ones who encouraged it, the ones who didn't help and even the ones who stayed silent. May Allah grant strength and Imaan to the Ummah, to the youth, to stand up for the right and be better Muslims. Aameen.
Anyone reading this who has been abused please stop living in victimhood, these are test and trials from Allah to strengthen us so we can help others from being in similar situations, so we can recognize abuse others may be going through, it's time to help the helpless especially small children and animals. Whatever abuse happened Allah never forgets, keep that in mind and try your best to help others! Salam
People really need to see this . A lot of people actually do that . Like when rasulallah got abused by a lot of people he didn't victimise himself (saw) what he worked on is putting an end to the abuse and the wrongdoings . He (saw) was very merciful and forgiving , like just imagining instead if he chose to admonish the people for what they've done to him and chose to take revenge instead. Things would've been different. We should learn from him that . To accept what happened to us and chose to put an end to this .
I love the way ustaad Nouman opens up the ayaat for us to connect with and understand the lessons being given. He explains Allah's Words in a manner that's really deep and meaningful. JazakAllah Khayran for all the good you do for us Muslims in knowing our religion better and developing a close relationship with the Quran. May Allah bless you and your loved ones with the best in both the worlds, aameen
Subhanallah!!! This is amazing, Thank you Ustadah. About time a Muslim scholar address this issue as it is a major reality in so many people’s life and has not stopped in childhood but having a spiral effect into their adulthood. The worst part is when the adults involved are not taken to account for their actions. By the way, No One Deserve to be ABUSED! But I believe Allah Azzwa Jahala would take them to account on the day of Recompense and that in itself is a massive punishment for them. For all those who have been abused at some point in their childhood and are now going through it all over again by a spouse, siblings or their children, may Allah SWT grant you Nasra-huge help from this situation. Remember you are not alone an you don’t deserve it. Asalam alaikum warahmotullah wabarakatuh.❤️ May Allah grant Ustadah Nouman Al-Janah Firdausi for this contribution and may Allah heal all those who have experienced abuse in any form either as a child or and adult. Aameeen.
Very important topic and of course very beautiful khutbah. I cried while listening to this. Ustadh you described the situation very practically. This actually happens with many of the children at this time. Alhamdulillah I did not experience any abuse during my chilhood. Although some circumstances make me feel I am worthless; even as an adult. I sometime wish that I should die. This is a poor practice in the subcontinent. :( May Allah forgive us all and bless us to be better Muslims.
Ouch! I felt it. May Allah strengthen me in Sabr. Nouman always deliver the message as always. May Allah make him live longer so that we can listen and learn the way he taught us the Qur'an. Allahumma Aamin.
There's alot of abuse going on or had happened in Muslims families( forget about non muslims for now) and it's all swept under the rug because God forbid the family's dirty laundry is aired..this people are so scared of what the society will think of them they're ready to bury their children alive......it's sickening walahi!
Jazak Allah Khair. Hope this makes all parents and elders who don't give their children's due ,become aware of their responsibility towards their children. Many parents need corrective behaviour towards their children.
May Allah guide us all and open our eyes to better care for our children. May Allah keep us all on the straight path and make us better Muslims in this duniyah and grant us Jannah.
SubhanAllah I've never cried at a NAK khutbah before. I was touched from this video and I'm a grown woman and some of the things he said really hit home and it reopened old buried wounds. SubhanAllah Jazakaallah kheiran for beautiful khutbah. May Allah reward you for pointing out an important topic.
Blessings of Allah to you Mr. Khan... buat yg dr indonesia, fyi search pengajian Gus Baha, berulang2 beliau mengucapkan pemahaman yg sama ttg bgmn ahlak kita kpd anak, 2 org dgn pemahaman Quran yg luar biasa, dgn kesimpulan yg sama. "jgn berlaku sembarangan kpd anak, mereka adalah penerus sujud dan tauhid kita."
Praise Allah I’m so happy a high respected Scholar is Finally telling the truth instead of hiding and belittling the ummah. With if may and perhaps words!
To everyone who was or is made to feel useless by their parents, know that there is healing and a way out. Various forms of therapy exist (not all require going to a therapist), there are self help books, self help online series that deal with trauma etc, therapists who post about action steps one can take on instagram (for free) which can be helpful if you dig around a bit on their feed. Seeking healing through whatever "therapy form" that works for you (even if its without going to a therapists office which i personally don't think is useful for everyone) in combination with tahajjud and recitation of Quran can do wonders. People who were put down a lot by their parents are traumatized so by dealing with it, one can heal and use the bad life experience as a fuel to do good. After healing, one can help others to get out of their trauma. And of course being trialed with such a severe trial puts one in a position where it is easier to have a close relationship with Allah. Nobody should think they are doomed to have a horrible life because of the oppression their parents put them through whether it was physical or emotional or both. Despair is from shaytan and hope is the right attitude of the believer.
This problem is endemic, so many people suffering from anxiety and depression also had horrible parents. Verbal, emotional , physical or sexual abuse is a persecution worse than death. If your parents were not consistently kind, then you got shafted on a decent childhood. it's not your fault if you are emotionally screwed up, or had a divorce. if this lecture resonates with you deep down, look up codependency and study narcissistic personality traits. Seek help with therapy, counseling, self help books, and plant medicine ;)
*Two things happen when a man gets abused...* Completely relatable 🥺 Got to learn very much from this... May Allah guide us and correct our mistakes. 💚 Loved this lecture very much
thank you Sheikh @Nouman Ali Khan for this intervention. It aches me thinking that subhanallah there is a huge gap between non-believers parents and muslim parents who do not act upon the messages of islam. Indeed, as Allah said, he will not change the inter situation of a community only if they question themselves. (sorry for the bad translation of the ayah).
SubhanAllah beautiful speach and beautiful advice, may Allah give Ustadh Nouman Ali a long life & the best in life and the best in the here after!! Ameen!! JazakAllah
SubhanAllah this deen may have given the parents their rights but it also caters for children's too! Unfortunately in our culture we teach people it's okay to abuse children as parents and expect them to be quiet since "we are not allowed to disrespect them" and some people even make memes trying to make seem like its absolutely okay and even fun to be abused like that! This islam is honestly everything. I wish people were more educated on these matters too, they are as important as well
It always hurt me when Sheiks talk about parents and their rights and never talk about children rights,it just but a very heavy load on our shoulders,and make us feel guilty when we do not obey our parents even if they mistreat us💔
Yes..some parents instead of bringing up their chidlren in Islam they simply put them into the frame of their own traditions...Islam itself is democracy, freedom ,morality,dignity ,upbringing,patience...all in one...we shouldn't separate one from another...cz it is all in One Islam How btfl Islam is!
May Allah reward you. You are so brave to talk about this. Our kids are being abused even in the hands of the so called Islamic teachers. May Allah forgives us.
This reminded me of the Nickel Boys institution….and also Dr. Phil and also other powerful people who humiliate and exploit young children and teens for their own gain. May Allah protect and heal those kids.
I pray to Allah for as long as i remember, ever since i was a old enough to know about children, For Allah to grant me daughters, as many as i can handle. Even if all i have are daughters i will be the happiest man alive, but if i happen not to have a daughter, i will understand Allah has his purpose but i will be sad.
This touched me so much. I cried so hard. My family hated me because I spoke up after 4 years of sexual abuse by my grandfather. No one believed me and my life was nothing but pain and suffering. I found Allah when I was 31 years old. Before Islam I was lost and just wanted to give up. Allah saved me. He brought me close to Him and changed my suffering into a beautiful life. This Khutbah is something everyone needs to hear. Thank you so much for your message. Keep doing Allah's work.
Omg 😱 sweetheart I hope you are doing oke now. I am sooo sorry that this happened to you. May Allah reward you for your sabr in this life and the next.
I feel sorry that you had to go through such terrible things. You're brave for speaking up! May allah ease your pain and bring happiness in your life. Hope you're doing well
I feel sorry that you had to go through such terrible things. You're brave for speaking up! May allah ease your pain and bring happiness in your life. Hope you're doing well
Sister, I am so sorry to hear that u have to go through this. It's sad ur family reacted like this. Allah is the witness against injustice & criminals. U found Allah which is the greatest blessing of life. U now know that u only have to depend on Allah. U are free from society. May Allah guide u & me more. May Allah give u sabr. And Allah will give u justice In Hereafter.
For those suffering in silence, remember Allah is near
Recently, I had a trainig to attend. It was about self confidence, trust and mutual understanding. I couldn't participate because I lost those principles in my life. I was so embarressed. I asked Allah to help me but I just fail... . Nothing is going the way I wanted it to be. I'm sad.
@@Amazonproducts2100 Well then why didn't you attend it in the first place if it was for you to gain those principles (self confidence etc).
Sadness is a part of what makes us human. No living soul is unfamiliar with it; even our Prophets faced multiple episodes of sadness. For example, Yaqub (AS) wept until he lost his vision and even our beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) experienced bouts of sadness upon the loss of his wife and uncle. Hence, sadness is not a sign of weakness in any form. To experience sadness is to be human. Having strong faith, or Imaan, does not render a believer to be an exception to the emotion of sadness.
Imaan does, however, equip us with the tools to combat depression and hopelessness. There is nothing wrong with accepting and acknowledging your grief. The strength of a believer is not that he remains strong by dwelling in denial or drowning in numbness, it is that he never loses hope despite all the pain and grief. That in essence is what true faith is.
No soul is burdened with more than it can bear
Don’t ever forget that Allah (SWT) will never burden you with something that is beyond your capacity to deal with. Even on days when you feel as if you cannot take it anymore, know that you can survive it- for Allah (SWT) knows us better than we know ourselves and whatever trial you’re facing in your life, know that He also gives you the strength to handle that trial.
With hardship comes ease
Allah (SWT) promises His believer that “For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease” (Quran 94:5). Trust His word. Even if the suffering feels endless and you feel yourself getting exhausted from the weight of it all, do not lose hope- for there is ease and something even better waiting for you right around the corner. Nothing remains forever, not even hardships. And those believers who hold on to hope and faith in Allah (SWT) and adopt patience amidst their difficult times are then rewarded in ways human beings cannot even imagine. So remember, this too, shall pass.
Allah (SWT) is in control, you are not
Depression is majorly defined by a sense of hopelessness- in yourself and in the world around you. It is rooted in a sense of sheer helplessness where you feel like nothing is in your control. But that is the truth; nothing IS in your control. It is in Allah’s (SWT) control. Take a moment, embrace your lack of control over your circumstances, and know that the one in control is the best of planners and loves you more than you can imagine. Surrender your attempts to control your life, leave it up to Allah (SWT), and trust His plan for you. Sometimes, the human mind is unable to understand Allah’s (SWT) ultimate wisdom behind every single thing that happens to us. However, by accepting that Allah (SWT) is in control and welcoming His plans for us ultimately leads to the enrichment of our mind, body and soul.
Do the best you can and leave the rest to Allah (SWT)
Remind yourself that human responsibility is restricted within certain boundaries. All Allah (SWT) asks of us is that we fulfill our duties and do the best we can in our circumstances and leave the outcomes to Allah (SWT). We can only control our actions and duties, not the outcomes. Even Allah’s (SWT) prophets did not have control over their outcomes. A believer is rewarded based on the effort, not the result. Do not dwell on what is beyond your control and embrace Allah’s (SWT) magnificence. Do not make yourself anxious over the unknown outcomes. Play your role the best you can and leave the rest to Him.
Be grateful for the blessings Allah (SWT) has bestowed you with
During the hard times, we tend to forget the blessings we have around us and instead, we focus more on the things that are going wrong for us. It is human nature. We tend to get lost in circumstantial sources of grief and pain and forget to notice our source of blessings. Whenever you feel yourself being sucked into a dark phase of hopelessness and depression- remind yourself that you have a lot to be grateful for at the same time- whether it is a loving family, supportive friends, food in your belly every night before you sleep, a roof over your head and countless other things. Remind yourself that you are better off than so many other people who do not share our fortune in these domains. Keep a “count your blessings” journal if you want, where you can jot down a couple of things you are grateful for on a daily basis. It really does help in looking at the bright side of things!
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Dont stop what u do
Muslims like u make a world a better place Ma Sha Allah
I hope u get success in this life and in the next
@@cOnfidentialcOrp Ameen! What you said Means a lot to me, may Allah Grant you success too
I am almost 30 years old woman, and for the first time when I watched this Khutbah, I was not able to control myself, I layed down on the floor and weeping so bad, due to all the trumas that I have from my childhood, teenage and then adulthood from my own parents. Now it hass been almost two years that I am far from them and still receiving no love and care and all those & these behaviours are deeply caused me lots of lots of insecurities and self esteem issues that are killing me inside and out.
Now, I am working on my trumas by going to therapists.
May Allah forgive my parents and I and all the other parents who are abusive, and they actually don't realise their value of being parents that Allah blessed them.
I am so proud of Nouman Ali Khan, it takes a lot of courage for a public figure speaker from an Islamic background, to talk about such a sensitive subject. I listen to many lectures and this is the first Sheikh I have ever heard to focus on a subject, about the rights of children, especially young children and teenagers, who are sexually abused! A lot of our ‘Islamic leaders’ prefer not to dwell in such subjects. Thank you for being the voice of our silent children! Jazak’Allah khayran
This is so deep. It reminds me of my childhood. True, an abused child will start questioning themselves so much with questions that a child should not even be thinking about at that age and that it affects their mental health like self-esteem and such. I have severe anxiety and have a hard time looking people in the eye. I'm keeping positive and I will get better InsyaAllah.
Don't be upset. At least Ustadh Nouman Ali acknowledges our situation and Allah will be on our side in Sha Allah
May Allah(swt) grant you ease in overcoming your psychological issues and grant you an easy path in life.
May Allah make it easy for you
You will get better bi kudrohtullah. It’s no joke being abused in any way, shape or form. It’s takes the Mercy of Allah to heal from it. Just include it in your every salat to take those I’ll, sad and overwhelming unhappy memories from your head and your entire being. Trust me only Allah can help with this. May Allah make it easy for you as each day pass by. Aameen.🙏
May Allah make it easy for you❤️
May Allah Grant Ustadh Nouman Firdous Al A'la.
Ameen
امين
Ameen ya Rabb 🤲😥
Ameen !
Ameen!
I am crying right now. I was just complaining to Allah about my father. He has has been drinking for the past 30-35 years. He is muslim... He has been abusive, been gas lighting us since we were young. I even once lost faith in God with the way he represented religion and justified all his wrong doings. He is an extremely bad husband..he has given us so much pain..and is giving till now...and I am at that point where I don't want to pick his calls..I want my parents to be separated..all my siblings are older..our own children will not be able to put with him..and I was feeling so guilty because as kids we are taught that parents always have the rights..and no matter what parents do, you are suppose to suffer..I was angry with Allah for not giving us kids rights..I had an extremely abusive parent who has caused me massive emotional problems..to the point where even I don't even want go get married. I just wish every person sees this lecture to understand that if you are a parent, it does not give the license to emotionally, physically abuse your child! Allah will not forgive u if you are doing that!
Seems Allah has brought to this Khutbah for some reason
Don't be pessimistic, you learn from other peoples mistakes and you never repeat them in your life. May Allah have mercy on you and your family.
Your comment made me tear up, my parents got separated and my father was also drinking but we didn't have it easy because our mother had to take care of us in an Arab judgmental society. I also don't want to get married and have children because I fear of hurting my kids and have them go through what I went through. Reading your comment hit close and I hope things got better for you these last couple of years.
Ahh I really really hope and pray that you are doing well. I know it's hard when your own parents who are the medium through which you were brought into this world shows you the most horrendous side of a human being....I also lost faith in my dad as he used my religion to emotionally blackmail me, I was forcedly married off to a really bad person...but trust me it gets better. You learn to get out of it and stand stronger than before. Nothing stays the same for long...
This khudbah should be translated to every language n shown to every Muslim
i cried a lot while listening khutba.... so many bad memories from abusive childhood..........
ash gul take care please. You may send me a message if you need any help. I am a counsellor n psychotherapist. Prayers for you. May Almighty give you strength and amazing will power Aameen
@@HinaBeg JazakAllah Dear
ash gul my email id is hinabeg@yahoo.com
I feel you completely!! The memories stay forever
anum abid memories may stay but the effect of it can be tackled and leave you unaffected in the end. One deserves the beuatiful moments of NOW without undergoing the pain of past repeatedly.
Take care brave hearts.
May Allah SWT bless his graceful soul. His words are gold. I really pray that whoever watches this video learn this lesson for life and never let their children afflict with any form of childhood trauma. Ameen!
You just explained my situation and this really hurts to feel in such a way that you are constantly under fear and silence.
I ask Allah that no one sees such moments in life.
I am crying and dieing listening to this khutbah.
I till this day gets violence Physically and mentally
But I am helpless I only cry to Allah
I am old enough but I can't do anything
Cause my family mentally and my sister physically and mentally abuse me 🙏
This great human being restores my faith in humanity and gave me a clear view of my creator and me...Ya Allah bless this man gave him jannh al firdous indeed he deserve to be among rightous and above all with prophet SAW ..
It is so sad that this channel and this man is so underrated but yes i know in future when centuries will be pasted away his videos will be extremely needed and whole humanity till the last day will be benefited by his videos ..A endless sadaqa-e- jaria no actually the greatest sadaqa-e-jariya..Allah bestowed his greated fazal on this man and through his to us..
Ya ALLAH we are always in need of hiyada plz don't let us astray and make us among your beloved people..AMEEN YA RABBAL ALAMEEN..
Allahoema ameen
I also felt the same. It's the copy of my thoughts
Ameen. He truly is amazing. A wonderful and strong person.
Yout right it will be helpfull for the kids and parents of the future, hey you... just remember your rabb is always with you, you can free yourself from the cycle I know you can do it :D
(Referring to taqwa)
When a husband badly mistreats his wife.its also burying her alive I think
Cried every second of this khutbah...
Yes, I as well. Very powerful, mashaAllah.
I'm used to it.. to the point I crying to my parent when we have debating something because I love them! Love and hate is very thin ustadz.. ustadz nouman I love you! I never talk to u about this feeling I have but thank youu for making this video, I'm feeling better and can smile as I always see you ustadz ☺️☺️ may Allah give healthy for ustadz nouman. 💜🤗
Sartika D
May Allah bless you sister.
Love from The Netherlands
Sartika D take care and you may send me a message in case you need help. Prayers for you 🤗 I am a counsellor n psychotherapist by profession.
@@narjisel8430 aamiin 🤲🏻 thank you, may Allah bless you too 🙏 luv from Indonesia ♥️☺️
@@HinaBeg thank you soo much for your kind offer but since English isn't my first language so it's kinda difficult to tell 😅 but please pray for me always sister, may Allah bless you and your family always, aamiin 🤲🏻 luv from Indonesia ♥️☺️
Sartika D prayers for you always 🤗
It literally made me cry as I do have a haunted past
Hijab Mir take care please and if you want any help to get rid of hainted past do send me a message. I am a counsellor and Psychotherapist by profession. Take care
I cried so much too. I understand you.
I love u sir uh are great Islamic teacher I'm from Kashmir I listened to plenty of Islamic speakers but I like only 2 Islamic teachers in my life by experience one you and 2nd mufti Ismail menk.....uh are real soliders of Islam ...... thank you for teaching us
Me too
i am from india(tripura)
what is the real conditionbof kashmir
descrive briefly please
sameee :D
FFIND. YT u r from azad Kashmir or from occupied? How's situation over there?
Situation is not good in Kashmir it's very critical.....and I'm not in Kashmir before 1 month I came to Himachal Pradesh
This so amazing so inspiring as it prouves how much of the treasures of quraan we ignore. I have never thought, not even once in my life that we can related to this aya " إذا الموؤودة سئلت" never had the brilliant idea that it can be seen the way oustad Nouman explained it. May Allah soubhanaho wa taala forgive us if we ever yelled at some one that is weaker then us, May him forgive us even more if we raised our voices over childern or family and be kinder to strangers then our own family. This has to be taught all over the world, this how our quran will bring us out of the death that we are living in, this way of interpreting the revelation and moving the beleivers to act upon it is capable of bring our oumah light back.
And this is what a real khotba is.
Thank you so much oustad Nouman, you are a true inspiration.
Alhamdulillah,alhamdulillah,alhamdulillah...finally someone talked about this vital issue...thank u so,so much brother...may ALLAH bless u..
This hits hard for me because as a child I was criticized about things I were doing wrong, if I did something wrong I'd be told "You're doing this wrong" so much that it's shaken my self-confidence to this day. If your child is doing something wrong be respectful and kind to them or if you point everything out and make them seem as if they can't do anything right it'll be a wound that never heals.
May Allah Strong Our Faith In This Fitna's Time.
Aameen
".... strengthen ...." :-)... Aameen.
You really made me cry today. Sometimes there are things in the past that we'd love to forget and not face, and we just go through it because of negligence. I pray for everyone and that no one has to suffer
When he said “you could be from a different century than them”, I started thinking about the number of people that have existed on this earth. Just imagine. Everyone who has EVER LIVED will be resurrected. The number of people who will be present on the Day of Judgement is unfathomable. Allahu Akbar.
Perfectly captured what goes on in the Desi families.
The worst part is if you tell your Aunt or Uncles to help against your parents, they say everybody got it and it's the norm. Don't revolt against it.
If somebody got abused and tortured, why is it necessary for others to go through the same thing?
What kind of shitty person would allow the self-esteem and mental stability of others, their own nephews and nieces, be attacked just because they went through the same thing from their parents?
Is it because it was done through their generations, that makes it right?!
Surely they are in grave error and they will have to answer to Allah. The abusers, the ones who encouraged it, the ones who didn't help and even the ones who stayed silent.
May Allah grant strength and Imaan to the Ummah, to the youth, to stand up for the right and be better Muslims. Aameen.
Life-remembered motivational speech by Nouman Ali Khan!
Anyone reading this who has been abused please stop living in victimhood, these are test and trials from Allah to strengthen us so we can help others from being in similar situations, so we can recognize abuse others may be going through, it's time to help the helpless especially small children and animals. Whatever abuse happened Allah never forgets, keep that in mind and try your best to help others! Salam
Yes I fully agree with U
People really need to see this . A lot of people actually do that . Like when rasulallah got abused by a lot of people he didn't victimise himself (saw) what he worked on is putting an end to the abuse and the wrongdoings . He (saw) was very merciful and forgiving , like just imagining instead if he chose to admonish the people for what they've done to him and chose to take revenge instead. Things would've been different. We should learn from him that . To accept what happened to us and chose to put an end to this .
I love the way ustaad Nouman opens up the ayaat for us to connect with and understand the lessons being given. He explains Allah's Words in a manner that's really deep and meaningful. JazakAllah Khayran for all the good you do for us Muslims in knowing our religion better and developing a close relationship with the Quran. May Allah bless you and your loved ones with the best in both the worlds, aameen
Subhanallah!!! This is amazing, Thank you Ustadah. About time a Muslim scholar address this issue as it is a major reality in so many people’s life and has not stopped in childhood but having a spiral effect into their adulthood. The worst part is when the adults involved are not taken to account for their actions. By the way, No One Deserve to be ABUSED!
But I believe Allah Azzwa Jahala would take them to account on the day of Recompense and that in itself is a massive punishment for them. For all those who have been abused at some point in their childhood and are now going through it all over again by a spouse, siblings or their children, may Allah SWT grant you Nasra-huge help from this situation. Remember you are not alone an you don’t deserve it. Asalam alaikum warahmotullah wabarakatuh.❤️
May Allah grant Ustadah Nouman Al-Janah Firdausi for this contribution and may Allah heal all those who have experienced abuse in any form either as a child or and adult. Aameeen.
Al hamdou li ALLAH i have 4 daughters who give me 3. grandaughters and i am so happy with them and thank ALLAH FOR them
This is a very good Kutbah, very enlightening and may Allah continue to bless you brother.
Very important topic and of course very beautiful khutbah. I cried while listening to this. Ustadh you described the situation very practically. This actually happens with many of the children at this time. Alhamdulillah I did not experience any abuse during my chilhood. Although some circumstances make me feel I am worthless; even as an adult. I sometime wish that I should die. This is a poor practice in the subcontinent. :(
May Allah forgive us all and bless us to be better Muslims.
This made me cry so hard. Thank you Ustadh for being one of the few brave people to tackle this issue.
May Alllah forgive us and make us better parents to our children and protect them by His will and mercy.....Allahumma Ameen!
Ouch! I felt it. May Allah strengthen me in Sabr.
Nouman always deliver the message as always. May Allah make him live longer so that we can listen and learn the way he taught us the Qur'an.
Allahumma Aamin.
I have some habits to learn, and some to unlearn. Alhamdulillah.
Wooo now i get smile on my face when i see u because i was waiting since 1week..
waiting for 2 weeks
@@salauddinbapary4723 yes yr r right in last week there was no Khutbah came.
Same. It makes me happy to see a new Video of nouman ali Khan
Jazak Allah my brothers and sisters may Allah grant us hidayah and hungryness of Quranic knowledge.. ameen
Childhood abuse is real. I’ve been through. Everyone beat you, neighbors, parents, your school 😢 it’s still a nightmare for me 😢😢
Thanks for sharing 🙏
There's alot of abuse going on or had happened in Muslims families( forget about non muslims for now) and it's all swept under the rug because God forbid the family's dirty laundry is aired..this people are so scared of what the society will think of them they're ready to bury their children alive......it's sickening walahi!
Thank you for bringing the truth to light.
Jazak Allah Khair. Hope this makes all parents and elders who don't give their children's due ,become aware of their responsibility towards their children. Many parents need corrective behaviour towards their children.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 this video deserves a round of applause.
May Allah guide all of us to the right path and always remember and fear Allah
Ameen
May Allah guide us all and open our eyes to better care for our children. May Allah keep us all on the straight path and make us better Muslims in this duniyah and grant us Jannah.
Ameen ya Rabb
Nouman Bhai, Allah aapko do jahaan mein saath aafiyat ke rakhey. Aameen.
always love and dua from Bangladesh🤗🤗🤗🤗. really heart touching khuthba that should be talked all over the world
Excellent khutbah as usual ! SubhanAllah
Nouman brother dripped out. Mashallah.
موضوع الخطبة على الجرح صراحةً 😪
مرحلة الطفولة مرحلة حساسة
بس كثير كثير ناس ما تهتم 😥
الله يكتب أجرك 💐💐💐💐
Islam is surely a mercy to human being
SubhanAllah I've never cried at a NAK khutbah before. I was touched from this video and I'm a grown woman and some of the things he said really hit home and it reopened old buried wounds.
SubhanAllah Jazakaallah kheiran for beautiful khutbah. May Allah reward you for pointing out an important topic.
AstaghfourAllah. So many people have problems in this life, but Allah is just, ma3adAllah 🤲
Blessings of Allah to you Mr. Khan...
buat yg dr indonesia, fyi search pengajian Gus Baha, berulang2 beliau mengucapkan pemahaman yg sama ttg bgmn ahlak kita kpd anak,
2 org dgn pemahaman Quran yg luar biasa, dgn kesimpulan yg sama.
"jgn berlaku sembarangan kpd anak, mereka adalah penerus sujud dan tauhid kita."
i Love this kuhtba. i really enjoyed to listen to it. may ALLAH swt. forgive us and guide us the right path.
ما شاء الله
بارك الله عليكم
بارك الله فيكم
زادكم الله من أنواره وعلومه
آمين يا رب العالمين
You spoke so much truth, may Allah grant you jannah inchallah, alhamdoulillah
It made me cry so much ....& I thought I alone going through the situation...
May Allah Subhanawataalaa gives you much blessings,jazakallahu khairan katsiron!!
Ameen
This brought up soo many emotions I don't know how to deal.
What a powerful message! MashaAllah. May we all implement these lessons in our daily lives
Sonia Benhamed start from you sister your beauty belongs to your partner alone
Desi aunties and uncles hitting the thumbs down 🤣
Mashallah An amazing speech it inspires me to create a campaign to stop child abuse
Hafsa Muktar
I agree 100% even schools need to be tought
I want to help too .
Thank you for this lecture
Eye opening
Subhan’Allahi wa bihamdihi Subhan’Allahil Azweem❤️❤️❤️
Praise Allah I’m so happy a high respected
Scholar is Finally telling the truth instead of hiding and belittling the ummah.
With if may and perhaps words!
Thank you Ustad & Bayyinah team!was waiting for the khutbah!❤
You are the hero quranic explaination
Ma shaa Allah....
This is worth listening.
Jazak Allah khair Ullf khair .
😎😎😎🤩🤩🤩😎😎😎🤩🤩🤩😎😎😎🤩🤩🤩
Wow!!!! Im speechless. What an excellent reminder!
Assalamu aleykum from Azerbaijan. U go into small details, to be more exact u analize every single word.That makes ur speech enjoyable.
Maa shaa Allah
Such a good khutbah
To everyone who was or is made to feel useless by their parents, know that there is healing and a way out. Various forms of therapy exist (not all require going to a therapist), there are self help books, self help online series that deal with trauma etc, therapists who post about action steps one can take on instagram (for free) which can be helpful if you dig around a bit on their feed. Seeking healing through whatever "therapy form" that works for you (even if its without going to a therapists office which i personally don't think is useful for everyone) in combination with tahajjud and recitation of Quran can do wonders. People who were put down a lot by their parents are traumatized so by dealing with it, one can heal and use the bad life experience as a fuel to do good. After healing, one can help others to get out of their trauma. And of course being trialed with such a severe trial puts one in a position where it is easier to have a close relationship with Allah. Nobody should think they are doomed to have a horrible life because of the oppression their parents put them through whether it was physical or emotional or both. Despair is from shaytan and hope is the right attitude of the believer.
Totally agree.if you don't stand up against any abuse,you are as much responsible
Masha Allah very beautiful kutuba 💯 nicely explained ❣️❣️❣️
25:38 😆😆😆 OMG, this guy came out of the ipad, He is real
This problem is endemic, so many people suffering from anxiety and depression also had horrible parents. Verbal, emotional , physical or sexual abuse is a persecution worse than death. If your parents were not consistently kind, then you got shafted on a decent childhood. it's not your fault if you are emotionally screwed up, or had a divorce. if this lecture resonates with you deep down, look up codependency and study narcissistic personality traits. Seek help with therapy, counseling, self help books, and plant medicine ;)
*Two things happen when a man gets abused...* Completely relatable 🥺
Got to learn very much from this...
May Allah guide us and correct our mistakes. 💚
Loved this lecture very much
I love the way he begins❤️👌🏿
Fajr prayer on time is equal to success all the time
Allahu Akbar. I got scared. Jazakallahu hayrann
May Allah bless you with goodness and jannah
Thanks for explaining the marriage issues because a lot of girls I know depressed about that
Best Khutbah ever by Nouman Ali Khan
thank you Sheikh @Nouman Ali Khan for this intervention. It aches me thinking that subhanallah there is a huge gap between non-believers parents and muslim parents who do not act upon the messages of islam. Indeed, as Allah said, he will not change the inter situation of a community only if they question themselves. (sorry for the bad translation of the ayah).
Alhamdulillah. So powerful. Reminds lots of my childhood. Thank you Ustadz for bringing this.
Khutabah is on fleek Wallah!
Jazakallah khair
Thankyou for sharing this eye opening khutba
SubhanAllah beautiful speach and beautiful advice, may Allah give Ustadh Nouman Ali a long life & the best in life and the best in the here after!! Ameen!! JazakAllah
SubhanAllah this deen may have given the parents their rights but it also caters for children's too! Unfortunately in our culture we teach people it's okay to abuse children as parents and expect them to be quiet since "we are not allowed to disrespect them" and some people even make memes trying to make seem like its absolutely okay and even fun to be abused like that! This islam is honestly everything. I wish people were more educated on these matters too, they are as important as well
Dear Brother. May Allah accept this. Ameen.
Jazāk Allāhu Khayran
It always hurt me when Sheiks talk about parents and their rights and never talk about children rights,it just but a very heavy load on our shoulders,and make us feel guilty when we do not obey our parents even if they mistreat us💔
Yes..some parents instead of bringing up their chidlren in Islam they simply put them into the frame of their own traditions...Islam itself is democracy, freedom ,morality,dignity ,upbringing,patience...all in one...we shouldn't separate one from another...cz it is all in One Islam
How btfl Islam is!
I have no words to say 😢😢This teared me so hard 💔
Excellent talk Mashallah and something that needs to be said over and over. We are failing our children :(
May Allah reward you. You are so brave to talk about this. Our kids are being abused even in the hands of the so called Islamic teachers. May Allah forgives us.
This reminded me of the Nickel Boys institution….and also Dr. Phil and also other powerful people who humiliate and exploit young children and teens for their own gain. May Allah protect and heal those kids.
I pray to Allah for as long as i remember, ever since i was a old enough to know about children, For Allah to grant me daughters, as many as i can handle. Even if all i have are daughters i will be the happiest man alive, but if i happen not to have a daughter, i will understand Allah has his purpose but i will be sad.
Barakallahu fiek amazing lecture 🤲 may Allah swt make us strong on his path ameen. And forgive us and grant us Jannat al Firdaous ameen ya Rabb
Muslima Alhamdoulillah aameen
May ALLAH protect you brother Nouman. I wish may ALLAH forgive us all for not being muslims
The way ALLAH wanted us to be.