Things The Adejumo's dealt with: 1. Ego 2. Expectation 3 Overfamilarity(See Finish, Best Friend Disadvantage) 4. Needy Partner Syndrome Things that helped them: 1. Making God and His word the Focus, Singing: At the center of it all, Its You that I see, It's You that I see 2. Patience : It takes the patience of Job, sister Tolu loved that a lot 3. Forgiveness 4. Understanding Your Partner's Love Language 5. Stop comparing your marriage with others 6. Communication and Transparency
"If she doesn't get it in d first year she'll get it in d 10th year and if she doesn't get it in d 10th year, I'm willing to wait" ose! shedrack meshack and Abednego🙌(even if God won't save us we won't still bow)lol.. But damn!! That got me. Marriage is sweet when u don't make ur love dependent on the other person's actions or inactions... Babe your glow in this video is nor from here o...u r glowing babes😉. Comman gimmi front hair😭😭. I love you both.. Kizzes😘
You guys are just made for each other. Shows you have good mentors and examples. Knowing that much in a year is amazing. I have been married for over 15 years and just learnt one or two things from you kids. Love your love....and please keep the fire burning. The Lord continues to bless your union.
My name is tolulope,from ondo state,all you are going through in ur marriage is exactly what am going Tru,and we are going through the same solution ur going tru
This is so realistic and resourceful. You two are brilliant! Gbemiga, I like how you look at your wife from time to time and your contributions are smart. Tolulope, you're indeed a complete woman, kudos. I love your hair. I stayed till the end, this exceeded my expectations. So real. Thank you.
I don't know how to react to this the accuracy of it all. I'm not married but experienced almost all in my relationship the needy partner syndrome was very dominant. I've been trying to explain that these will all pass... That we live and we learn. The part where you said it will bring out the things you thought you dealt with hmmm so true eiii!!! I'm so grateful for your video it has made me realise that I'm not a bad person at all. These are normal things and the goal is to get better ❤
Thanks guys for always teaching me something ...... I’m learning for the future honestly ..😃😃😀😀😀😄I am so damn glad that I clicked on this channel I never leaving and I’m showing me other friends this channel as well so we can learn
Overfamiliarity in any relationship sucks, we miss stuff because of this.. Ego though, with the mind of Christ we shall overcome. That was a light alarm right? Lol. Congrats to you guys!
But really PG is so dramatic... You guys are match made from heaven. Happy wedding anniversary. I definitely am not leaving this channel. This is the first time I would be subscribing on a Nigerian RUclips channel and it is sweeting meeeee
May your marriage stay blessed in Jesus Name. Amen. I like it when christian couples show that marriage involves some struggles and that just being a Christian and in love is not enough. There are lots of things and aptitudes required. Big ups to you both.
So remaining Small Tolu's hair will start from her eyebrow.. then some of us have Lagos Ibadan Express on our head!! It's ok. We are not Jealous, We have the fruit of the spirit.. Nice video BTW
I am just here laughing alone, watching you both constantly inspires me, makes me believe marriage surely is a forever journey...I love the mushiness abeg
Expectation is basically setting yourself up for disappointment. Wish my partner would watch this video looool... He needs too especially the part of communication
You both are great. Marriage looks good on you on Mrs Adejumo . I ve been in love with ur mum inlove and now am getting addicted to u Mrs Adejumo. Love u both. More Grace .
You guys are shooking(with yoruba accent) my eyes. I stumbled on your wedding video and it has been on my feed for days and I kept on ignoring. Today I just decided to see what the video was about and that was how I started clicking next and next. And being a sucker for love and a romantic, I have just been smiling sheepishly the entire time. Happy Anniversary and 100 more to come. You just got a new fan!!! Love, Lade
This is beautiful.. He's saying what she's thinking and she's thinking what he's saying.... The bond between them is amazing.. Happy Anniversary to you guys.
You guys are so real. I'm glad you can share your experience after one year in marriage and laugh over it. I'm sure there is more understanding now because I'm watching this 3 years later. I can totally relate as a married woman of two years now.
Brother gbemiga, u can say that again, she's the woman of your life and you will make everything possible to make her confortable. I like this sentence. God bless you oh!!!
Smiling from ear to ear watching you both. I am so happy you both know these realistic steps to a great marraige...I got to know the five love language while in my 14th year of marraige...may God continue to sustain you. I pray many young people learn from you so that the devil is put to Shame. Marraige is indeed sweet depending on the cutlery used. God bless.
I really love your simple, and Divinly ways of going on this journey of marriage, and The Good Lord will see you through as you go.. i love your transparency..you will celebrate many many fruitful years IJMN. Am a grand mother of over 60yrs .. BY God's grace all my children are married but I enjoy ur channel and I 'v told them to subscribe to it and be blessed. LOVE BOTH OF YOU😗😗😙😙
Loved the video. I could relate to a lot of the advice because I have been married a little over 6mths. Shared it with my husband and hopefully we will use it as topic of discussion for our monthly family meeting! Once again thank you!
Thanks for this the Adejumos , God will uphold you guys and make you friends forever (AMEN) .............. You look so pretty with this hair style Tolu
The people that gave this video thumbs down ehnnn.. it is well o. How could you thumb this down! Amazing! Deep! Interesting! Insightful talk!. God bless you sir and ma! 💖
Tolulope,you look great ,i am so in love with your hair style.Marriage is for two forgiven people,today is our 3rd year wedding anniversary.Everything that you guys said is so true.love you both and may the Lord Almighty bless your union
You are a lovely couple. I enjoy watching you guys, I love the love and connection between you two. I laughed at your examples and I can relate with you after 6 years in the business. Love in marriage is really not emotions but a choice and it takes hard work from both to make it sweet and beautiful.
I know it’s been a while but still Happy Anniversary and I pray for many beautiful years ahead and my you both continue to increase on all sides. By the way, I love your hairstyle, so beautiful ❤️
i don't understand, i just decided to watch all the past videos i have missed, and guess what am just enjoying my day,,,,,, love the sincerity i feel from your conversations, that's what keeps me coming yeah
Challenges are real and unavoidable in marriage. More people need to step up and speak about their story and stop being abstract in counselling others. It gets better as the years go by as long as the foundation in christ is firm. Kudos to you two! God bless you❤
Yes, you just hit the nail on the head, a lot of pple are abstract when counseling others about marriage. I'm like if you can't tell me in practicality what and how you overcame challenges then don't even bother. I loveeee this couple for how practical they were in explaining all the points.
I got attracted to your vlog after seeing your traditional wedding video which pupped up while watching and listening to Mummy Adejumo's message- GraceMade. Sincerely, I have fallen in-love with you guys and I can say you are an example of a Christian marriage. I am not married but hopefully waiting on God. I love you Mr and Mrs. Say me hi to your little sis, I love her vibes. Ignore negative comments, they are only there to make you better. I will surely follow you on your social media platforms. Thanks Oluwakemi
You guys are fantastic. Lovely video. Ego really destroy marriage. Mostly Nigerians African men their ego is huge. I got married to my husband 2009, the first three years was war. Quelling/frighting, until something terrible happened that frightened him that made him bring down his ego.
You guys make a lovely couple and I'm happy the lord say you through .I would be blessed to have a you make a vlog on the submissiveness of woman in a christian marraige with some life experiences .
It's funny that I came to RUclips to subscribe to an entirely different channel I saw on Instagram(of which I ended up not subscribing to 😂, I didn't even search for the vlog) I stumbled upon yours and I've been watching your videos for about 2 hours now. I've been grinning ear to ear and I've been blessed too! Thank you. I subscribed already. Love you guys ❤
wao no two marriage can be the same,cos no two human being are ever the same. Sister Tolu,pls always make sure Bro Gbemiga appears in your videos oooooooooo,I like him.
After watching 2 of your videos, I decided I LOVE Tolu. After watching this one, I must seal the deal. This is what good relationships are made of!!!! Let me find the red button!!!!
i so love ya two oooo and ya parents too so elated for ya marriage... May God continue to bless your union IJN amen.. Glad and over joyed ya two read the 5 love language book .. thank you for sharing this and wishing ya happy many more blissful years to come ijn amen
Very interesting n educative n am so much in love with u guys..in love with ur simple and beautiful looks dear,, May God continue to keep u guys in love n bless ur union..
WAOH. happy to watch this also i can see that you are both playing your role well, it obvious physically. sis Tolu has added weight likewise bro G may God sustain you both. AMEN
Thank you for sharing this video. I’ve been blessed by this. As for that door ...I think the solution is to change it or fix it. Unless you both have become attached to the door because of what it signifies. Lol.
Thanks for sharing the bitterness and the good part of marriage. It takes two to tango that is to say if both agrees to tango together by giving each a chance in the name of love.
I am one of your followers on IG but i have never watched your youtube video, however I am glad I did watch this as a first time watch. Just what i needed and i learnt a lot. Keep up the great work
Thank you so much for this vid. i can relate so much to most of the things you spoke about wowwww i was just laughing that i had send the vid to my hubby to watch and he loved it . Welldone sis!!! keep it up. love from Leicester UK #Subbbie
Beautiful couple ave been following for two weeks now from Kenya.Your husband is quite funny tag him along in most videos and you both are wonderful souls
Things The Adejumo's dealt with:
1. Ego
2. Expectation
3 Overfamilarity(See Finish, Best Friend Disadvantage)
4. Needy Partner Syndrome
Things that helped them:
1. Making God and His word the Focus,
Singing: At the center of it all, Its You that I see, It's You that I see
2. Patience : It takes the patience of Job, sister Tolu loved that a lot
3. Forgiveness
4. Understanding Your Partner's Love Language
5. Stop comparing your marriage with others
6. Communication and Transparency
I like you summary. It is usefull... Continue to do it... Thank you
Lovely couple, I admire you.
Thanks for summarizing all
"If she doesn't get it in d first year she'll get it in d 10th year and if she doesn't get it in d 10th year, I'm willing to wait" ose! shedrack meshack and Abednego🙌(even if God won't save us we won't still bow)lol.. But damn!! That got me. Marriage is sweet when u don't make ur love dependent on the other person's actions or inactions... Babe your glow in this video is nor from here o...u r glowing babes😉. Comman gimmi front hair😭😭. I love you both.. Kizzes😘
Since I found this channel, I've been addicted to it wish you more love and God's grace in your family+ you got a new subscriber
Lovely couples. May u do 70years anniversary together. God bless
cool gamer IF JESUS TARRIES & IN CHRIST JESUS & GODLY HEALTH.
Amen and amen
Amen
Amen nd amen
The man is very matured and he speaks wisdom
You guys are just made for each other. Shows you have good mentors and examples. Knowing that much in a year is amazing. I have been married for over 15 years and just learnt one or two things from you kids. Love your love....and please keep the fire burning. The Lord continues to bless your union.
They have a great role model and teacher in Pastor Mrs Adejumo👍👍
Tolulope smiling at 13:10 when you know you’ve found a Godly relationship . One day I’ll have this , God will protect your family In Jesus name .
Amen
Amen. Thank you
Mojibola Adeyeye AMEN
Amen.when u wish others well, I will surely be blessed tooo
Amen
Tolu you look fabulous here,Uncle Gbemiga is taking good care of you o
Yet to get married but I can apply some of this to my friendships 👊 Great video
My name is tolulope,from ondo state,all you are going through in ur marriage is exactly what am going Tru,and we are going through the same solution ur going tru
This is so realistic and resourceful. You two are brilliant! Gbemiga, I like how you look at your wife from time to time and your contributions are smart. Tolulope, you're indeed a complete woman, kudos. I love your hair. I stayed till the end, this exceeded my expectations. So real. Thank you.
I don't know how to react to this the accuracy of it all. I'm not married but experienced almost all in my relationship the needy partner syndrome was very dominant. I've been trying to explain that these will all pass... That we live and we learn.
The part where you said it will bring out the things you thought you dealt with hmmm so true eiii!!!
I'm so grateful for your video it has made me realise that I'm not a bad person at all. These are normal things and the goal is to get better ❤
Thanks guys for always teaching me something ...... I’m learning for the future honestly ..😃😃😀😀😀😄I am so damn glad that I clicked on this channel I never leaving and I’m showing me other friends this channel as well so we can learn
13:08, marriage is sweet it depends on the cutlery you use to eat it!
That point about collateral, wow! Ose Pastor Gbemiga! Love you guys & your simplicity❤
Overfamiliarity in any relationship sucks, we miss stuff because of this.. Ego though, with the mind of Christ we shall overcome.
That was a light alarm right? Lol. Congrats to you guys!
You have a supportive husband some men would not allow such topics on air
Can I like this video more than once? 🤗I think RUclips should add love button 😍😍😍😍great video guys and happy wedding anniversary
Wow!! She looks great here. She don really chop up. Wawu. Gbemiga kudos to u for taking good care of Tolulope. God will take care of u too
But really PG is so dramatic... You guys are match made from heaven. Happy wedding anniversary. I definitely am not leaving this channel. This is the first time I would be subscribing on a Nigerian RUclips channel and it is sweeting meeeee
May your marriage stay blessed in Jesus Name. Amen. I like it when christian couples show that marriage involves some struggles and that just being a Christian and in love is not enough. There are lots of things and aptitudes required. Big ups to you both.
Please do a hair tutorial. You look gorgeous. Congratulations to you both. 😍😍😍
Love this, you guys are so real.
You're an inspiration.
God bless you.
So remaining Small Tolu's hair will start from her eyebrow.. then some of us have Lagos Ibadan Express on our head!! It's ok. We are not Jealous, We have the fruit of the spirit.. Nice video BTW
Anu Adejoro 😂😂😂 nice one ma’am
LOL
Anu Adejoro 😂😂😂😂🙌🏽
Haha thank u
hahahahaha Lagos Ibadan Express...hahaha my my!!!
I am just here laughing alone, watching you both constantly inspires me, makes me believe marriage surely is a forever journey...I love the mushiness abeg
Expectation is basically setting yourself up for disappointment. Wish my partner would watch this video looool... He needs too especially the part of communication
To*
Love watching y’all. You have such a great personality and the both of you have such s great friendship. I pray God keeps it all!
Thank you for sharing, it was enlightening i.e. for those of us who are unmarried. Love the way you always look at him. Welldone you both.
I'm coming back to watch this video again after 5 years, and all I can say is that these videos are old, but Gold❤
You both are great. Marriage looks good on you on Mrs Adejumo .
I ve been in love with ur mum inlove and now am getting addicted to u Mrs Adejumo. Love u both. More Grace .
You guys are shooking(with yoruba accent) my eyes. I stumbled on your wedding video and it has been on my feed for days and I kept on ignoring. Today I just decided to see what the video was about and that was how I started clicking next and next. And being a sucker for love and a romantic, I have just been smiling sheepishly the entire time. Happy Anniversary and 100 more to come. You just got a new fan!!! Love, Lade
This is beautiful.. He's saying what she's thinking and she's thinking what he's saying.... The bond between them is amazing.. Happy Anniversary to you guys.
happy anniversary, the good lord will keep your home. well done guys xx
You look so beautiful in this video.
You guys are so real. I'm glad you can share your experience after one year in marriage and laugh over it.
I'm sure there is more understanding now because I'm watching this 3 years later.
I can totally relate as a married woman of two years now.
And I'm here rewatching at Year 6.
God bless the Adejumos.
Happy New Month- August 2023
Brother gbemiga, u can say that again, she's the woman of your life and you will make everything possible to make her confortable. I like this sentence. God bless you oh!!!
Smiling from ear to ear watching you both. I am so happy you both know these realistic steps to a great marraige...I got to know the five love language while in my 14th year of marraige...may God continue to sustain you. I pray many young people learn from you so that the devil is put to Shame. Marraige is indeed sweet depending on the cutlery used. God bless.
Amen
I really love your simple, and Divinly ways of going on this journey of marriage, and The Good Lord will see you through as you go.. i love your transparency..you will celebrate many many fruitful years IJMN. Am a grand mother of over 60yrs .. BY God's grace all my children are married but I enjoy ur channel and I 'v told them to subscribe to it and be blessed. LOVE BOTH OF YOU😗😗😙😙
Appreciate your kind words Ma.
I like that word " sto...p" you say. I heard your husband say it for the first time today. It makes me smile. God bless your union.
This so enlightening and beautiful! Thanks guys! GOD Bless your marriage and union even more in JESUS' Awesome Name!
Loved the video. I could relate to a lot of the advice because I have been married a little over 6mths. Shared it with my husband and hopefully we will use it as topic of discussion for our monthly family meeting! Once again thank you!
Thanks for this the Adejumos , God will uphold you guys and make you friends forever (AMEN) .............. You look so pretty with this hair style Tolu
Love you guys..awersome couples, i do admire you....i tap into that grace in Jesus Name
The people that gave this video thumbs down ehnnn.. it is well o. How could you thumb this down! Amazing! Deep! Interesting! Insightful talk!. God bless you sir and ma! 💖
Tolulope,you look great ,i am so in love with your hair style.Marriage is for two forgiven people,today is our 3rd year wedding anniversary.Everything that you guys said is so true.love you both and may the Lord Almighty bless your union
Thank you and happy wedding anniversary to you and yours.
The video quality, the content and everything😍😍. I’m glad I found this channel and I’m a new subbie😌😌
You are a lovely couple. I enjoy watching you guys, I love the love and connection between you two. I laughed at your examples and I can relate with you after 6 years in the business. Love in marriage is really not emotions but a choice and it takes hard work from both to make it sweet and beautiful.
I know it’s been a while but still Happy Anniversary and I pray for many beautiful years ahead and my you both continue to increase on all sides. By the way, I love your hairstyle, so beautiful ❤️
i don't understand, i just decided to watch all the past videos i have missed, and guess what am just enjoying my day,,,,,, love the sincerity i feel from your conversations, that's what keeps me coming yeah
Happy Anniversary.. More blessed years of joy ,love and grace.
May God bless your marriage in Jesus name.
Well done guys, I just love your genuine expression of your life experiences in marriage. The Lord will continue to bless your home.
Patience and tolerant my beloveds. I’m 8years in marriage and my marriage is still blissful daily. Good luck to you
awww so sweet and encouraging...may God continue to bless your union
Challenges are real and unavoidable in marriage. More people need to step up and speak about their story and stop being abstract in counselling others.
It gets better as the years go by as long as the foundation in christ is firm.
Kudos to you two! God bless you❤
Yes, you just hit the nail on the head, a lot of pple are abstract when counseling others about marriage. I'm like if you can't tell me in practicality what and how you overcame challenges then don't even bother. I loveeee this couple for how practical they were in explaining all the points.
I got attracted to your vlog after seeing your traditional wedding video which pupped up while watching and listening to Mummy Adejumo's message- GraceMade.
Sincerely, I have fallen in-love with you guys and I can say you are an example of a Christian marriage. I am not married but hopefully waiting on God.
I love you Mr and Mrs.
Say me hi to your little sis, I love her vibes.
Ignore negative comments, they are only there to make you better.
I will surely follow you on your social media platforms.
Thanks
Oluwakemi
Your videos can make someone cry....it is very deep, laden with wisdom and speaks to my soul
Happy anniversary. May your love never wax cold in Jesus name. Continue to shine
YOU’RE BOTH REAL AND BEAUTIFUL. May you see many more years of God’s cover, purpose and grace. Lots and loads of love!!!!
You guys are fantastic. Lovely video. Ego really destroy marriage. Mostly Nigerians African men their ego is huge. I got married to my husband 2009, the first three years was war. Quelling/frighting, until something terrible happened that frightened him that made him bring down his ego.
Blushing hard on this ....thanks for sharing. Always a fan 😉😉😉
You guys make a lovely couple and I'm happy the lord say you through .I would be blessed to have a you make a vlog on the submissiveness of woman in a christian marraige with some life experiences .
It's funny that I came to RUclips to subscribe to an entirely different channel I saw on Instagram(of which I ended up not subscribing to 😂, I didn't even search for the vlog) I stumbled upon yours and I've been watching your videos for about 2 hours now. I've been grinning ear to ear and I've been blessed too! Thank you. I subscribed already. Love you guys ❤
Esther Popoola Awwww how sweet. Thank u
congratulations.Love you both! more grace and wisdom upon you. keep impacting lives...
wao no two marriage can be the same,cos no two human being are ever the same. Sister Tolu,pls always make sure Bro Gbemiga appears in your videos oooooooooo,I like him.
Wonderful couple. So open.devil hate openness. God will definitely keep your home.keep the flag flying.
u looking so nice in this video Tolu.Thanks for sharing!
You guys are amazing honestly. You just hit the nail head. You know I love you guys
After watching 2 of your videos, I decided I LOVE Tolu. After watching this one, I must seal the deal. This is what good relationships are made of!!!! Let me find the red button!!!!
i so love ya two oooo and ya parents too so elated for ya marriage... May God continue to bless your union IJN amen.. Glad and over joyed ya two read the 5 love language book .. thank you for sharing this and wishing ya happy many more blissful years to come ijn amen
Thanks it’s great. Continue to be blessed.
I just love the way you look at each other. God bless your marriage. Thank you for the video.
Happy Wedding Anniversary! Loved your video as always!!
I'm always blessed after watching!!
God Bless !
Thank you for the transparency. You two look good together. .Happy Anniversary!
Thanks so much for this sis. I am trusting God for a godly marriage to a godly man, who will be my friend as well. I believe It will happen
Happy Anniversary!!! The discussion was on point 👌. Lovely hairstyle.
Very interesting n educative n am so much in love with u guys..in love with ur simple and beautiful looks dear,, May God continue to keep u guys in love n bless ur union..
Happy Wedding Anniversary! Love you guys😙😙😙
WAOH. happy to watch this
also i can see that you are both playing your role well, it obvious physically. sis Tolu has added weight likewise bro G
may God sustain you both. AMEN
I love the way you both play together. More wisdoms ijn amen
oh, how this video blessed me. so educating! Thanks and God bless you both.
I’m just saying God bless you even though I have never watched the video before
Thank you for sharing this video. I’ve been blessed by this. As for that door ...I think the solution is to change it or fix it. Unless you both have become attached to the door because of what it signifies. Lol.
Thanks for sharing the bitterness and the good part of marriage. It takes two to tango that is to say if both agrees to tango together by giving each a chance in the name of love.
I’ve been married for over 2 decades and I learnt a lot from you guys but pls don’t sweep things about sex under the carpet it’s major
Happy anniversary Tolu darling, you are blessed!
I enjoyed watching this. Thank you for sharing great lessons.
Great video as always.. but I really don't like the way the sex related topics were being waved off. It's also a major part of marriage I think
Peace Okeke but not everybody is comfortable with talking about sex online 😊
Peace Okeke they are church pple , they don’t want pple to know they do “it” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Blessing Alfred Hello Sir/Madam. I do disagree. Thank you.
Tolulope, you looking lot more fresh and beautiful. Thumbs up. Marriage is swt
elong lartey ...its the guy or the girl
elong lartey very true... more beautiful a tremendous after marriage
Learning already, thanks a lot for this video by the way you guys are so cute together
Wow Tolu thanks ohh if I don't watch you a day I get sick thanks for sharing it helps a lot team solution oyehhh
You guys are great and I learned a lot from you today. Wishing you more fruitful years ahead in Jesus name amen
I am one of your followers on IG but i have never watched your youtube video, however I am glad I did watch this as a first time watch. Just what i needed and i learnt a lot. Keep up the great work
Great words of wisdom. May they Holy Spirit continually impart you both. Love y'all. Cheers
No two marriages are the same! 👌
Happy anniversary gbenga and Tolu, I thank God for your lives. Thank God for being truthful and being realistic. I love you both and hope see you soon
Thank you so much for this vid. i can relate so much to most of the things you spoke about wowwww i was just laughing that i had send the vid to my hubby to watch and he loved it . Welldone sis!!! keep it up. love from Leicester UK #Subbbie
You all are really helping me to gain wisdom. Thank you for being so honest and open. God bless you all and your families.
THERE ARE NO PRIVATE MATTERS IN MARRIAGE!!! EVERYTHING IS PUBLIC 🔥.. Communication and transparency is key🔥👌
Loved this! Insightful and helpful. Thank you two👍🏾😊
Happy happy anniversary. God bless your home continually.
Beautiful couple ave been following for two weeks now from Kenya.Your husband is quite funny tag him along in most videos and you both are wonderful souls