I was the same as you, watched as a teenager and I enjoyed it but now I watch as an adult and this scene just hits so much harder. So many moments I've now let pass by.
It shows you that love is complicated. Here I feel he was giving her an opportunity to finally say she loved him. He loves Kimmy, he will dedicate himself to her, but he’s in love with Julianne. He needs to be loved the way he loves though. The smile on his face after they came out from under the bridge looked like acceptance. Singing to her was his goodbye. Just like Julianne dedicating the same song to them at the wedding was her goodbye to him.
The metaphor of coming out from under the bridge to represent the missed opportunity... ETA: I always saw it as Jules missing her moment to tell Michael she loved him, but I see it now as Jules somewhat realizing that Michael had his opportunity to say it then and he didn't because he didn't feel that way about her anymore.
@@EtoTheKay here maybe the most but also overall. He saw her in underwear and was telling her how good she looks and also when she was going to the bar to him and Kimy. Always going over the top with the compliments. The only thing he told Julian Kimy had over her was that she didn't mind PDA. The whole movie was a mess really.
@@cobrakaier238 In this scene he was trying to get her to admit she loved him. But she couldn't do it. Flirting throughout the movie? Maybe. They did have history. The movie wasn't a mess though and is one of the most successful rom-coms of all time.
@@EtoTheKay times have changed. It was a hit cause of Julia Roberts and Rupert Everett. I remember I liked it quite a lot back then but I was 11 or 12 so that explains a lot. And I don't think he was trying to make her admit she loves him, in the end he was shocked she loved him. Remember also the scene where he liked her finger to get the ring. What was that?
@@cobrakaier238 Watch this scene again. Listen to his words. He most definitely was trying to get her to admit she loved him. In the end, he may have been shocked, but his heart had moved on from her at that point. The scene where he swallowed her finger to take off the ring, yeah, that was pretty forward. But you gotta remember, he was broken up with Kimmy at that point. This movie was a hit because of Julia, yes, but the fact that it was actually a good movie was a factor too. Julia has made several bad movies too don't forget - Michael Collins, Mary Reilly, I Love Trouble. So an A-list actor does help, but it's not a guarantee. Rupert Everett? I didn't even know who Rupert Everett was prior to this film lol.
She came to Chicago with the goal of ending things between Michael and Kimmy. She accomplished that, yet still didn't capitalize with Michael. She had countless opportunities to tell him her true feelings, that she loved him and wanted to be with him. No bigger opportunity than right there on that boat ride - he basically gives her a golden opportunity to admit you love someone when you do. Again, she let's it slip. A soul crushing moment, where I was literally yelling at the screen "this is your golden chance, tell him you love him!!" She lets the moment pass. The magnitude of the moment literally has her in tears, yet, she still cant confess her feelings. I know her silence fits the storyline, but realistically, how many girls would have remained silent here?? She doesn't confess her feelings until the bottom of the 9th inning, the day of Mike's wedding, when she kisses him under the gazebo and Kim catches them. Of all the countless opportunities she had to pour her heart out...she waits till THEN? I know the ending was realistic, but I still really wanted them to end up together. 😫
@@nogalistanineties9237 He was the engaged one. She wasn't. The onus was on her. And he gave her a golden opportunity on the boat ride - "When you love someone, you SAY IT!" When she didn't respond, I believe this boat ride was when he gave up on her, and committed his heart to Kim's.
@@EtoTheKay I'm not disagreeing with you My beautiful friend I'm saying it's a two way street it takes two he was acting sad when Julianne and George were so called engaged (Pretending to be engaged) realistically Michael loved Kimmy as a person but he was in love with Jules so in real life if ends up with Kimmy he would have to live with the fact he's only with her because jules didn't want to be with him get over the person who you're in love with first before you try to get with someone cause Michael feelings were obvious when Jules and George showed up together
@kristinamarshall7366 I think she definitely wanted him, she just didn't realize she wanted him until she realized she could lose him. She fell victim to the saying "you don't know what you have till it's gone". She always felt like he would always be there, that she couldn't lose him...until another woman came into his life. I know the ending was the most realistic. But I really wanted them to end up together!!
The message of this movie seems to be one of right person at the wrong time, but it also can and should be seen as a great example of a woman placing a man into the friend zone and only wanting him when she can no longer have him. If at anytime prior to Michael meeting Kimmy, Jules had busted a move, Kimmy would have had no shot. But that is not what Jules does. She puts Michael into this zone where he is there for her, but she does not want him romantically and sexually. When he is going to marry Kimmy, suddenly she wants him... Now, Michael would probably be somewhat to blame too, as he probably simped for Jules. But either of them could have changed things at anytime, and then Michael does, but it is too late. And any man in Michael's position for the movie should marry Kimmy. Be that loyal man who keeps his word, because Jules is chasing only feelings, and feelings are fleeting.
@@queenbutterfly4888She came to Chicago with the goal of ending things between Michael and Kimmy. She accomplished that, yet still doesn't confess her love. She had countless opportunities to tell him her true feelings, that she loved him and wanted to be with him. No bigger opportunity than right there on that boat ride - he basically gives her a golden opportunity to say you love someone when you do. Again, she let's it slip. She doesn't confess her feelings until the bottom of the 9th inning, when she kisses him under the gazebo and Kim catches them. Of all the countless opportunities she had to pour her heart out...she waits till THEN? I know the ending was realistic, but I still really wanted them to end up together. 😫
I used to think that too... but now I think he realized, at this moment, that she can never be what his heart needs, and his soon to be wife... was all of that ❤ he didn't settle - he chose
@@jenntate9726 Nah he was telling her “the moment will pass you by” - he was waiting for her to admit that she loves him too but she was too stubborn to do it smh
Love can take half a lifetime to come. Some finf it in youth otherd do not find it until adulthood. But when it comes you remember when it was gone and those years withput it. When love comes your grateful it found you . And do not let go of it because as it comes it leaves like a season of spring.
I have a mantra in life. Life is hard. I am hard - always have been. Everything else should be easy without need for explaining too much. If you have to explain all the time the moment passes you
This is Julian's moment but he let it pass by..if only she soeaks out umder that bridge..and tell him how much she loves him, the ending would be different... I still can't move on that they didn't end up together 😞 He just gave her the last chance but she let it slip away..😢
Ugh, lame. She was stringing him along for her own pleasure. Maybe him too? It's twisted regardless . He found someone that was WAY better than her. Why was Kimmie better? Because she didn't play around with his emotions.
This kills me every time I watch it.
My favourite scene from my favourite movie..like two ships passing in the night, the right person at the wrong time..
Impossible not to feel a sadness when watching this scene, something everyone will feel at least once in their lives.
@@MB-hv6hwsome not all
Well said. That moment comes between 2:05 and 2:18.
This movie came out when I was a freshman in high school and I didn't really understand it but now I finally do. Such a beautiful movie.
I was the same as you, watched as a teenager and I enjoyed it but now I watch as an adult and this scene just hits so much harder. So many moments I've now let pass by.
@@MB-hv6hw yup I agree with you
Exactly!
It shows you that love is complicated. Here I feel he was giving her an opportunity to finally say she loved him. He loves Kimmy, he will dedicate himself to her, but he’s in love with Julianne. He needs to be loved the way he loves though. The smile on his face after they came out from under the bridge looked like acceptance. Singing to her was his goodbye. Just like Julianne dedicating the same song to them at the wedding was her goodbye to him.
😢 you're so right. Beautiful scene analysis.
You're right..Maybe if Julianne speaks up her heart at this moment, the ending would be different 😢
@@fredelynmacanaya5281 It could mean she didn't really want him back. She only hated losing him, the same way I've cried over exes I dumped.
You got tell how you feel right away because we cant read minds @fredelynmacanaya5281
I can’t watch this without crying 💔
I can't even watch the whole movie without crying 😭
Me to 😥😥💔
The metaphor of coming out from under the bridge to represent the missed opportunity...
ETA: I always saw it as Jules missing her moment to tell Michael she loved him, but I see it now as Jules somewhat realizing that Michael had his opportunity to say it then and he didn't because he didn't feel that way about her anymore.
Exactly what I was thinking, he was talking about himself. At the end he realizes he doesn't love her anymore.
3:31 Omg I just noticed he kissed her 🥺
oh yeah!
@@Rose_19911Love to see it
Very memorable scene. One of the best scenes ever. ❤
He was flirting way too much with her. I can't believe people think this is OK.
In this scene u mean? Or the movie overall?
@@EtoTheKay here maybe the most but also overall. He saw her in underwear and was telling her how good she looks and also when she was going to the bar to him and Kimy. Always going over the top with the compliments. The only thing he told Julian Kimy had over her was that she didn't mind PDA. The whole movie was a mess really.
@@cobrakaier238 In this scene he was trying to get her to admit she loved him. But she couldn't do it. Flirting throughout the movie? Maybe. They did have history. The movie wasn't a mess though and is one of the most successful rom-coms of all time.
@@EtoTheKay times have changed. It was a hit cause of Julia Roberts and Rupert Everett. I remember I liked it quite a lot back then but I was 11 or 12 so that explains a lot. And I don't think he was trying to make her admit she loves him, in the end he was shocked she loved him. Remember also the scene where he liked her finger to get the ring. What was that?
@@cobrakaier238 Watch this scene again. Listen to his words. He most definitely was trying to get her to admit she loved him. In the end, he may have been shocked, but his heart had moved on from her at that point. The scene where he swallowed her finger to take off the ring, yeah, that was pretty forward. But you gotta remember, he was broken up with Kimmy at that point. This movie was a hit because of Julia, yes, but the fact that it was actually a good movie was a factor too. Julia has made several bad movies too don't forget - Michael Collins, Mary Reilly, I Love Trouble. So an A-list actor does help, but it's not a guarantee. Rupert Everett? I didn't even know who Rupert Everett was prior to this film lol.
Love this scene ...they look so beautiful together.... my favourite movie ❤😅
If you have not found love do not give up. Sooner or later it will find you. It will find you.
She came to Chicago with the goal of ending things between Michael and Kimmy. She accomplished that, yet still didn't capitalize with Michael. She had countless opportunities to tell him her true feelings, that she loved him and wanted to be with him. No bigger opportunity than right there on that boat ride - he basically gives her a golden opportunity to admit you love someone when you do. Again, she let's it slip. A soul crushing moment, where I was literally yelling at the screen "this is your golden chance, tell him you love him!!" She lets the moment pass. The magnitude of the moment literally has her in tears, yet, she still cant confess her feelings. I know her silence fits the storyline, but realistically, how many girls would have remained silent here?? She doesn't confess her feelings until the bottom of the 9th inning, the day of Mike's wedding, when she kisses him under the gazebo and Kim catches them. Of all the countless opportunities she had to pour her heart out...she waits till THEN? I know the ending was realistic, but I still really wanted them to end up together. 😫
He had plenty of time to tell Julianne he was in love with her too
@@nogalistanineties9237 He was the engaged one. She wasn't. The onus was on her. And he gave her a golden opportunity on the boat ride - "When you love someone, you SAY IT!" When she didn't respond, I believe this boat ride was when he gave up on her, and committed his heart to Kim's.
@@EtoTheKay I'm not disagreeing with you My beautiful friend I'm saying it's a two way street it takes two he was acting sad when Julianne and George were so called engaged (Pretending to be engaged) realistically Michael loved Kimmy as a person but he was in love with Jules so in real life if ends up with Kimmy he would have to live with the fact he's only with her because jules didn't want to be with him get over the person who you're in love with first before you try to get with someone cause Michael feelings were obvious when Jules and George showed up together
@@nogalistanineties9237 I agree. The both should have confessed. I love this movie, and while I hate the ending, it was realistic.
@@EtoTheKay Micheal was constantly beating around the Bush trying to get Jules to say she loved him
My favorite scene in the movie
Honestly they should’ve been together I just didn’t see him with Cameron Diaz😂
She didn’t actually want him, she just thought she did.
@kristinamarshall7366 I think she definitely wanted him, she just didn't realize she wanted him until she realized she could lose him. She fell victim to the saying "you don't know what you have till it's gone". She always felt like he would always be there, that she couldn't lose him...until another woman came into his life. I know the ending was the most realistic. But I really wanted them to end up together!!
The message of this movie seems to be one of right person at the wrong time, but it also can and should be seen as a great example of a woman placing a man into the friend zone and only wanting him when she can no longer have him. If at anytime prior to Michael meeting Kimmy, Jules had busted a move, Kimmy would have had no shot. But that is not what Jules does. She puts Michael into this zone where he is there for her, but she does not want him romantically and sexually.
When he is going to marry Kimmy, suddenly she wants him...
Now, Michael would probably be somewhat to blame too, as he probably simped for Jules. But either of them could have changed things at anytime, and then Michael does, but it is too late.
And any man in Michael's position for the movie should marry Kimmy. Be that loyal man who keeps his word, because Jules is chasing only feelings, and feelings are fleeting.
He was waiting for her to admit she loved him too but she let the moment pass by and that’s why she’s crying while they dance
@@queenbutterfly4888She came to Chicago with the goal of ending things between Michael and Kimmy. She accomplished that, yet still doesn't confess her love. She had countless opportunities to tell him her true feelings, that she loved him and wanted to be with him. No bigger opportunity than right there on that boat ride - he basically gives her a golden opportunity to say you love someone when you do. Again, she let's it slip. She doesn't confess her feelings until the bottom of the 9th inning, when she kisses him under the gazebo and Kim catches them. Of all the countless opportunities she had to pour her heart out...she waits till THEN? I know the ending was realistic, but I still really wanted them to end up together. 😫
He gave up on her and her arrogance after this - he wasn’t sure it would be right with Kimmy but settled for her after this moment
Wow! Just realized that... He wanted to be with her too...but gave up here... 🥹😥
I used to think that too... but now I think he realized, at this moment, that she can never be what his heart needs, and his soon to be wife... was all of that ❤ he didn't settle - he chose
@@jenntate9726 Nah he was telling her “the moment will pass you by” - he was waiting for her to admit that she loves him too but she was too stubborn to do it smh
Love can take half a lifetime to come. Some finf it in youth otherd do not find it until adulthood. But when it comes you remember when it was gone and those years withput it. When love comes your grateful it found you . And do not let go of it because as it comes it leaves like a season of spring.
saying goodbye
I have a mantra in life. Life is hard. I am hard - always have been. Everything else should be easy without need for explaining too much. If you have to explain all the time the moment passes you
This is Julian's moment but he let it pass by..if only she soeaks out umder that bridge..and tell him how much she loves him, the ending would be different... I still can't move on that they didn't end up together 😞
He just gave her the last chance but she let it slip away..😢
Poor Kimmy
Seems he trying to his her a chance but she miss them
What is the song at the background un 3:31?
The way you look tonight by Sinatra
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@@micajbbieber99 you’re welcome! You can also type the words he’s saying in google and it will pop up :)
@@micajbbieber99oh but it’s not the « background » song, it’s what he’s singing
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Ugh, lame. She was stringing him along for her own pleasure. Maybe him too? It's twisted regardless . He found someone that was WAY better than her. Why was Kimmie better? Because she didn't play around with his emotions.
I don't understand what he was getting at here.
powerful scene
julia roberts was delicate and exquisite
dermont mulroney was... tender and charming 🤍
Sad but true