Rejection is Redirection

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I’m going to share something with you that's contrary to typical "dating advice" from the gurus who are here to convince you that you need to play games to "get his/her attention"
They will try to sell you text scripts.
They will try to sell you "strategies".
They will tell you not to come off as needy.
Want the truth? Those tactics MAY land you a date, but the caliber of person you will catch in your net with these types of strategies might not be the kind of partner you want.
Expecting communication and being forthright with your own desires, dreams, and goals is NOT needy.
Being direct from the get-go about what type of relationship you're ready for is NOT needy.
It's totally ok to give space when you're first dating and let the energy flow both ways.
But when you're not playing games, there are no set time limits between texts. There are no "read between the lines" conversations. There are no weird seductive tactics or subtle power stances.
You don't need to use strategies to get them to text or call. If they're integrated and authentic, they will text or call you when they feel like it.
It won't feel like a power trip where they only reach once every few days or weeks, fall out of communication mid-chat, frequently cancel your plans, or have all kinds of excuses.
Of course, if you start calling and texting a new person 5X a day when you first meet, you might scare them off - you'd scare ME off! Haha :) But don't fall into the "you need to trick them to keep them" trap.
You want to be able to be YOURSELF from the get-go.
To feel totally relaxed and comfortable in your skin.
To feel confident telling new people who you are, what you want, and what's important to you.
They will either align with your values and dreams, or they won't - and that's how we "prune" away the ones that aren't a match for us.
Rejection is redirection. You have permission to embody your truth when dating.
Remember - YOU are the chooser. You are not out there fighting to be "chosen". Tune into your body.
Come back to your core values.
Honor your desires.
Be authentic. 💕
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[@realninja561]

For example I got rejected from my 1st university of choice (UOT) but now 5 years later, I'm doing a PHD degree at Harvard university in Fiancaial economics. This helped me see that redirection does exist

[@arianebilodeau9925]

omg just been rejected by a new date with whom I was really authentic. And I know it's not my fault. It still hurt. But this video made me feel strong.

[@analeal5349]

Girl, saaame. I needed this video today. I need to change my perspective and look at it as a redirection instead of rejection

[@analeal5349]

We are all in this together, stay strong ladies! 💪🏼

[@Sprinklesofspirit]

Know that what’s yours, will come to you🙏🏻✨✨✨ you got this!

[@JasonGafar]

OMG. Wonderful message! Thank you!
My mom kicked me out when I was 20 and has been absent since. This woman always rejects me and puts me down. I now know it's time to let go and find an Angel Mother.

[@realninja561]

When you said that"" Iam the chooser"", i felt something strong and cant explain what it is. I felt very enlightened. It was as if light from heaven came down

[@AshleyNord]

Your content is incredible. I quote so many of your posts in my own videos, as I think sharing these messages is SO important. The game playing stuff these gurus promote honestly makes me ill. Thank you for what you do! 🙌🏼

[@RisingWoman]

Thank you Ashley! So happy you're here and that you are seeing through the illusion. Authenticity is key :) Sending love. Shay

[@Sprinklesofspirit]

Beautifully said! 💜🙏🏻and so important, what’s for you will never need to be rushed, forced, or manipulated ✨✨✨

[@shreejeni8062]

I needed this badly

[@MrGoncaloFigueiras]

You are powerful in a very simple and honest way, you just gave me hope to find someone like this after my healing is complete. What i want is to be a Man who has what it takes to have a woman like you by my side ( i know it sounds creepy haha but i am healing from a so called covert narcissistic relationship and i really need to know that there "virtuous" women out there

[@sun_rose123]

There are a lot of good women out there. Good luck on your way 🍀

[@TheDirtyCaller]

Stick with it brother, I feel the same way. The best advice is to be the person you want to date and spend your life with, and that person will come along.

[@kymgarcia09]

thank you so much. I really don't understand why some people will give advise on how to play games just to get someone to stay, I mean how can you sustain a relationship if you aren't being genuine with your feelings..

[@Lil-Be]

100% ❤️ You have such a beautiful voice. I am a hypnotherapist and I can tell that with your voice and knowledge, you would be able to hypnotize people very well and help them a lot. Please record some guided meditation for us 🥰

[@katarinajurcic1305]

Yes! Great advice 👌🏻

[@jasmin1773]

So powerful.

[@di_hibbert]

Thanks, Shay! I so love this because I’ve seen and heard so many of the game playing strategies from a number of gurus! You really just need to be your authentic self.

[@Memelys0]

Lov it!!!! totally agree!!!! Ur value doesn’t depends on anyone but YOU!!! u deserve the best!!! 100% attention, commitment and Love 🥰❤️ everything starts with you! #DoYOU

[@scarletavalon1979]

I love this!

[@carleyschandlen1075]

I am so thankful for this point of view.

[@robin-y9w]

You are incredible ♥️ thank you for reminding me I’m the chooser

[@Angelica-243]

I love this ❤️💯🙌🏻 Thank you

[@heartfullofhippies]

Much needed, thank you 😌💕

[@marciasibeles2194]

Absolutely!!! Love it!

[@shivichand8582]

Thank you. Absolutely needed to hear this today ❤🙏

[@anitakirkland8454]

Can you do more of these please? I absolutely love you but I don’t have an Instagram & Instagram use to let me view the rising woman Instagram without an account but doesn’t let me anymore & I refer to your writing SOOO much!

[@RisingWoman]

Anita Kirkland hi! Yes, I will make more videos 💕🙏

[@lm5608]

Thank you 😢♥️

[@billscott6819]

This is solid advice.

[@franciscapoynder-meares5403]

Yes absolutely thank you ♥️

[@kritikagupta6869]

Beautiful ❤️

[@lizzomso8816]

Thank you 🙏

[@breegwinner1043]

This is great! Thank you.

[@apoc3037]

Great Video but super hard in todays society where 90 percent of people dating feel like they are just on a power play

[@dakulight5211]

Thnak you. ❤️

[@anitabubic6094]

That is easy sad when is not you child whom reject you.

[@Catherine-zq1kb]

💛

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[@deitykush]

what does itmean to be intergrated...

[@M0RPHOBIA]

I wanna like 2 times xD

[@scaboi]

Rejection is a failure.

[@prairie_rose]

Love this!!