I heard someone once say that having ADHD is like having bees in our brain. That makes so much sense in this context. So the ADHD is the bees, and all the distractions we engage ourselves in are like feeding the bees sugar. They get all hyped up like toddlers at a birtday party, and start multiplying, so now you have even more bees, who crave even more sugar.
This was great, and it was helpful. Please make more videos. As a tech worker with ADHD, I struggle with this constantly, and I appreciate the perspectives and how others cope with their ADHD in the tech industry. The point about RUclips is so spot on too.
Hearing this is gold. I hear this need for more coverage on this topic from tech workers especially and I know that struggle personally. Thanks so much for your comment.
I'm wondering how this could work for people who live in a small space where they don't have an extra room that is relatively empty. I'd say that I could find distractions anywhere in our flat. Even if it's just cleaning it 😅. I think I often take this "time out"time when I wake up in the morning and "don't manage" to get up. Then I look in the air and let my thoughts wander around. The only bad thing with it, is that I usually have a reason why I wanted to get up and this often ends up in me beeing late 😅. Even though I'm often angry at myself for staying in bed and everything I know for sure that my system also benefits from it. Would be great to manage to take that "time out time" consciously - also without being in nature... 😊
Good question. I have the luxury of having rooms in my house where I could be doing this which is a big difference from my apartment in NYC. ...but I don't use that room. I prefer to do this at work and I will actually book a meeting room for just me. It's actually better that I'm not at home with the temptations of home comfort pulling me out of time out. Depending on your work environment, this may not be an option for you either. At which point I would say this is something you'll need to explore more. Is there somewhere you could go that is separated from your usual space? I've also used a shower room without turning on the shower or the couches in the atrium of a neighboring building with my AirPods playing ambient music to drown out noise.
@@AdamGrantDotInfo thanks for sharing. I'll keep exploring :) Even if I would have the "perfect" space and the "plan" to do it, i guess it would still be hard for me to really do it since classic time management is not really my strenth . I mostly get everything done bot often I do many important things during the night. It's so much easier for me to enjoy a calm brain when the rest of the world is asleep:) since that kind of "Rythm" has a lot of disadvantages for me I keep trying to change it. Guess if I would manage to creat "calm time out" setting during the day that would definitely help in getting sleep during the night too 😅
@fifafafo4914 that makes sense you have to find a way that works for you and a time of day that works for you as well. I think this is more like eating your vegetables and going to the gym in that even if it's good advice, it's still can be hard to motivate yourself to do. A lot of times I drag myself to these prescheduled sessions kicking and screaming, but I just try to get myself there
I agree very much with all the above. And i have a few suggestions. Maybe start with just 10 or 15 minutes if half an hour is unachievable. Practice for a bit and see what it does. Also, my first thought was if it was possible for you to set your morning alarm for half an hour early, so instead of laying there, stressing out over getting started on your day, you knew that for the next half hour, you just have to lay there and do nothing. (If that won't impact the amount of sleep you are able to get in too much of a negative way, of course. ) then have another alarm go off at your usual time, and your brain might be more ready to get going. Imo there's a possibility that you might benefit more from the half an hour of timeout, than you would have from the extra sleep. Or maybe the last half hour before bed? It might make a good wind down after the day is done. This might also help with not having a screen in front of ones face right before bed. (I am super guilty of ruining my own sleep with doomscrolling at bedtime.) Try harnessing the ADHD appetite for novelty to try out some different times of the day, and be curious about what it does or doesn't do for you. Btw, i know that none of my suggestions are easy to achieve with an ADHD brain, and i know nothing abt your life, so i might have missed the mark completely, i just think we need someone to come in with a different pov sometimes, to get us unstuck and looking at things differently. It is not easy living with a brain full of bees.
Thanks! What I don't understand yet: how do you know that the 30min are over? Do you take some kind of alarm-clock with you to your "empty extra room"? Of do you set an alarm on your phone, leave the phone outside of the room but on a distance where you can hear it?
Good question. There's a clock in my room but you could also have your smart watch timer go off. (Turn notifications off) or just get a cheap timer to bring with you.
Thanks, Adam! This was a great reminder to be more intentional with honoring my minds need for rest
It's a personal journey for everyone and I'm constantly perfecting my own. Best of luck!
I heard someone once say that having ADHD is like having bees in our brain. That makes so much sense in this context.
So the ADHD is the bees, and all the distractions we engage ourselves in are like feeding the bees sugar. They get all hyped up like toddlers at a birtday party, and start multiplying, so now you have even more bees, who crave even more sugar.
Love this analogy.
This was great, and it was helpful. Please make more videos. As a tech worker with ADHD, I struggle with this constantly, and I appreciate the perspectives and how others cope with their ADHD in the tech industry. The point about RUclips is so spot on too.
Hearing this is gold. I hear this need for more coverage on this topic from tech workers especially and I know that struggle personally. Thanks so much for your comment.
Thanks! I'll try to try it (no promises!) :D
Let me know how it works
This is great
Thanks for watching. I hope you find this useful. Let me know if there are any other topics related to this you'd like to see covered.
I would like to see your take on task paralysis. It's something I deal with where I have a million things to do but i end up doing absolutely nothing.
@StephaniaBonnet Great suggestion. This might be one worth getting an expert involved too. I'll add it to my board.
Thank am going to give it a go hopefully my memory improves too I have become very forgetful!
You got this!
I'm wondering how this could work for people who live in a small space where they don't have an extra room that is relatively empty. I'd say that I could find distractions anywhere in our flat. Even if it's just cleaning it 😅.
I think I often take this "time out"time when I wake up in the morning and "don't manage" to get up. Then I look in the air and let my thoughts wander around. The only bad thing with it, is that I usually have a reason why I wanted to get up and this often ends up in me beeing late 😅. Even though I'm often angry at myself for staying in bed and everything I know for sure that my system also benefits from it.
Would be great to manage to take that "time out time" consciously - also without being in nature... 😊
Good question. I have the luxury of having rooms in my house where I could be doing this which is a big difference from my apartment in NYC.
...but I don't use that room. I prefer to do this at work and I will actually book a meeting room for just me. It's actually better that I'm not at home with the temptations of home comfort pulling me out of time out.
Depending on your work environment, this may not be an option for you either. At which point I would say this is something you'll need to explore more.
Is there somewhere you could go that is separated from your usual space? I've also used a shower room without turning on the shower or the couches in the atrium of a neighboring building with my AirPods playing ambient music to drown out noise.
@@AdamGrantDotInfo thanks for sharing. I'll keep exploring :)
Even if I would have the "perfect" space and the "plan" to do it, i guess it would still be hard for me to really do it since classic time management is not really my strenth . I mostly get everything done bot often I do many important things during the night. It's so much easier for me to enjoy a calm brain when the rest of the world is asleep:) since that kind of "Rythm" has a lot of disadvantages for me I keep trying to change it. Guess if I would manage to creat "calm time out" setting during the day that would definitely help in getting sleep during the night too 😅
@fifafafo4914 that makes sense you have to find a way that works for you and a time of day that works for you as well. I think this is more like eating your vegetables and going to the gym in that even if it's good advice, it's still can be hard to motivate yourself to do. A lot of times I drag myself to these prescheduled sessions kicking and screaming, but I just try to get myself there
I agree very much with all the above.
And i have a few suggestions.
Maybe start with just 10 or 15 minutes if half an hour is unachievable. Practice for a bit and see what it does.
Also, my first thought was if it was possible for you to set your morning alarm for half an hour early, so instead of laying there, stressing out over getting started on your day, you knew that for the next half hour, you just have to lay there and do nothing. (If that won't impact the amount of sleep you are able to get in too much of a negative way, of course. ) then have another alarm go off at your usual time, and your brain might be more ready to get going. Imo there's a possibility that you might benefit more from the half an hour of timeout, than you would have from the extra sleep.
Or maybe the last half hour before bed? It might make a good wind down after the day is done. This might also help with not having a screen in front of ones face right before bed. (I am super guilty of ruining my own sleep with doomscrolling at bedtime.)
Try harnessing the ADHD appetite for novelty to try out some different times of the day, and be curious about what it does or doesn't do for you.
Btw, i know that none of my suggestions are easy to achieve with an ADHD brain, and i know nothing abt your life, so i might have missed the mark completely, i just think we need someone to come in with a different pov sometimes, to get us unstuck and looking at things differently. It is not easy living with a brain full of bees.
Thanks!
What I don't understand yet: how do you know that the 30min are over? Do you take some kind of alarm-clock with you to your "empty extra room"? Of do you set an alarm on your phone, leave the phone outside of the room but on a distance where you can hear it?
Good question. There's a clock in my room but you could also have your smart watch timer go off. (Turn notifications off) or just get a cheap timer to bring with you.
@@AdamGrantDotInfo thanks :)