If you're failing after college... you're not alone.
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- Опубликовано: 7 июн 2024
- feel free to use this comment section to vent about how damn hard it is out there... and if you have tips on what's been helping YOU keep your sanity in the midst of it all please drop it in the comments for the rest of us!
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0:00 prologue
0:48 i flopped
1:49 when will my "career" begin?
3:38 i was "that bih"... until
5:33 it's (almost) as bad here as korea
6:14 "culture fit" bs
7:13 what is the bright side?
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self improvement, diary, adulting, life as a young adult, being a new grad in the 2020's, starting a career, finding a job, quitting job, soul searching, life fulfillment, life rant, finding a career you love, self love, navigating my twenties
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9:26 update: we are now monetized :)
Yay! I'm happy for you!
That make sense why RUclips showed to me this video (First I watch from you)
Cheers for you!!!
Congrats! :D
Let's go!
have you tried pulling yourself up by the bootstraps?
People always forget the rest of the quote! - "Jack of all trades is a master of none, but oftentimes better than a master of one." Do your thing girl :) rooting for you!!
It's easy to forget 'rest of the quote' when it's not.
Everything after the word none is not original
@@StephenRoseDuo It has a "Keep digging, Watson." Feel to it
I applied to MIT long ago. I did not get in and went to another IT and ended up with IBM. But microelectronics has changed everything. IBM is not what it was.
The United States could have and should have made accounting/finance mandatory in high schools since Sputnik.
I did not get my ego wrapped up in my job even at IBM. I bought a 4-unit apartment building. Rodding out the plumbing was so much fun, but the tenants paid the mortgage.
Deal with your economics not just your career.
*The Screwing of the Average Man* by David Hapgood
@@StephenRoseDuoit's the hallmark addendum
All I’m saying marry a black guy 🥸
All started when college became not a place for learning but a place you go to get a paycheck later
historically, the primary goal of universities was to segment people into classes (the doorway to the upper class). (so yah, it's always been about the paycheck).
When your employers ask where is your college degrees and what college you graduated from, even before seeing you. So what do you do. You go to college!
Be the employer@@williamlouie569
a place for he/hims
@@1MinuteFlipDocWrong. It was for the upper class only. Everyone else was expected to Apprentice.
My closest friend from grade school got his PhD from Harvard. We're in our mid-30s now. Not that long ago, he was visiting me. He's trying to land a tenure-track job in his field (a common liberal arts field). He started drinking early, and late in the night, he burst into tears.
He shared about how his drinking is causing problems, he can't seem to maintain a stable relationship, things are strained with his family, and he feels like a failure because he's not tenure-track. Big, round tears rolled down his face. He was miserable. I had no idea how much he was suffering. My whole life, I looked at him as someone who had this charmed life. He had achieved at the very highest levels. He did whatever he wanted to do. I'm very proud of him.
I went to community college, and I work a humble job as an electrical engineer. But he wasn't comparing himself to me. He was comparing himself to the best-of-class at Harvard's graduate program. And of course, he wasn't measuring up.
It was a wakeup call for me, too. But professional success doesn't always make you happy.
Oh man you are right on the comparison part. I got my dream job right after college in a location full of people with education like him, I decided to leave all of them 5 years later because I do not see myself living that life forever. Now I live in middle America, a place where more "normal" people lives and my mental health has basically been restored to normal. And yes I work as an average tech engineer too and there is nothing wrong with that where I live now.
@@harveylin3548 I need to find this peace. My father always told me that engineers were idiots that just plugs numbers into formulas created by physicists. He was a salesman/entrepreneur, now I'm a Cloud Engineer/Architect. As a cognitive science major, every mention of Gen AI causes physical pain.
Wtf!! So his misery is your measuring stick of gratification?? You must be a bad friend
Tenure track positions are hard to get. Also, Ph.D programs don't just look at the names of the school, they look at which professor you studied with, what publications you put out. Going to XYZ school doesn't cut it.
Living in a different country, my gamer friends and me saw each other a lot in our twenties and early thirties. Regardless of university, degrees and the like the outcomes are really good if there are no drugs or alcohol involved. I look like an underachiever with 130K p.a. comparing my income to theirs and a few totally fell down but were not forgotten. Life is more than money and career. But it’s also true that one can still go forward in their thirties or fourties.
girl I relate to you so much. I grinded through my physics degree to stunt on the haters who told me that I wouldn’t make it. now I’m about to quit my job as a data scientist at a big tech company in NYC. I was sooooo burnt out mentally but it wasn’t until I developed medical problems that i realized omg, maybe this is my body telling me to stop. now, I’m not really afraid of “failing”. I remembered how my parents immigrated to this country with $16 to their name and yet they managed to survive here and give me a great life. I’m already in so much more privileged of a position than they were and I’m determined to continue living my best life on my own terms :)
I think no amount of keeping up appearances with worth your physical and mental health. i hope you parents understand, but you need to do it for yourself either way. congrats on realizing, and making it so far already!
omg I can relate. I also used to be a data scientist at a tech company before I got extremely burnt out and developed health problems (then laid off). Still figuring life out, and learned health is soo much more important than any arbitrary measure of success. I'm glad to hear you are choosing the path that is best for yourself!
Oh, data scientist. I was taking a course for data analytics but just went back to writing instead because I can't stand studying and all of that stuff. I might get back into that later on though.
wanna hand me the listing sob😢
i haven't finished watching, but reading through the comments has been a trip. i dropped out of high school due to mental health issues and haven't been able to hold down a job for more than a couple of days. i don't have a future, money, or any sort of 'life' ahead of me. it's existing to exist ig. i'm in my early twenties now and watching people graduate and land 'grown up' jobs and travel makes me want to unalive myself. but reading the comments reminds me that life just kind of sucks right now for everyone in general, and i feel less alone.
yepp we are less alone/different than we might think at first
@sophiazcolley i appreciate you so much bro, rooting for you too 💗
hey dude, fellow high school dropout here and I hear you. I get a lot of crap because of it but seeing the ways things are I really don't see the point. It's honestly a little disheartening but kinda freeing at the same time having lost my ambition to "graduate and go to a good school bs". I'd rather just do what makes me happy than to go through hell again for something that has no guarantees anyway. anyway, hoping things get better for you man, I know what it's like because I'm right there with you.
"culture fit" is definitely their criteria. I've been rejected from jobs that I was extremely qualified for and for what? I most likely didn't fit their personality profile. Here I thought being an introvert was the norm in my industry.
Ok I didn't watch the video yet but "Failing is the norm" hit me like a truck
We “fail” because the system only wants us to “succeed” when it’s convenient for them.
eh, people forget failure helps us learn
I’m an aerospace propulsion engineer now but when I first graduated it took me a while to get my first job. The amount of rejections I got over that time was an insane amount to the point where I assumed every email back was automatically a rejection. I worked as a valet for about a year and a half before I broke in. And that first job sucked too, was a third party engineering firm that got the busy work for bigger engineering companies. And it was boring as hell, anal about hours on each project and underpaid. After about a year I got into the bigger companies and career moving along. Also it’s quite easy to find a job once you have exp in this industry
The long-awaited first job being a sucky firm instead of a big company was my experience too! I often tell others that your first job is just for padding your resume.
Idk why I already have experience for 2 years already as software engineer but looking for bigger companies still hard as I was looking for my first job fresh out of college. I totally get the feeling all the emails coming are automated rejection emails lol.
I never went to college but instead I went to a trade school and into the Marines. A very important life I learned was
“there are lessons in winning, but there are Many more lessons in failure.”
What you do with that “failure” will shape who you are as time passes.
I am an autistic man who graduated from a small public university in December 2022 with a BS in mathematics. I am still working as a part time dishwasher at a nursing home 15 months later. A big part of my problem is that I don't know what specific career path I want to take at this moment. When I went to college to study math, I didn't really have a specific career path in mind. I just did it because it was interesting to me. Being autistic further compounds the issue. I still hope that I will find my passion some day.
Look into quantitative finance.
It's totally fine working a "regular job" like that after graduating, but I would definitely push yourself to explore further specializations in your field. Maybe set up a meeting with a career advisor from your Alma Mater to discuss further options. Also, there are many online certificate programs that can lead you into more specialized areas and possibly give you the spark and direction you need. I wish you the best moving forward.
I'm currently 24, no bachelors degree, but finally working in the healthcare field as a step in the right direction, as well as able to move out by myself and eventually move in with my partner in a big city. i have had 9 different jobs in different fields, and I can say I am the jack of all trades at this point. I've also struggled with mental health and finances, and it has made finishing my degree so agonizing. then I realized school will always be there for me when I'm ready to finish, as well as my dream of becoming a prosthetist/orthotist. take things day by day, and everything will fall into place. you're not failing, you're living life.
One day at a time, totally agree that education is always there. You got this!
as a fellow recent college graduate, im SO glad that this video popped up on my feed! i am also unemployed and attempting to be a youtuber lmao- it’s been hard asf ngl. i loved your video not only cause it was relatable but your editing/style is amazing (i suck at editing 😅) anyways, good luck on your youtube journey ❤️ you got this!
awww i'm so glad that this video made its way to you! thanks for your kind comment -- wishing you best of luck on your youtube endeavors as well (we're all in this together 😭💪)
me too, job market is tough right now 😭
The problem with an MIT degree - and I have one myself - is that people think you're some galaxy-brain super-genius. It can scare people and they ding your CV before anyone else can see it. So oftentimes it may make the job search more difficult rather than less. Upper management loves it, middle management not so much.
A friend of mine was in a managerial position at a telecom manufacturer. He told me he made sure never to hire anyone he thought might be smarter than he was because he didn’t want the competition.
@@dilvishpa5776 A lot of people think like that.
I have a question about how you cannot find a job with MIT degree ?
@@mehmetkoyuncuoglu1647Never said that. I've been solidly and gainfully employed since graduating. However, this is a nuisance in the job hunt.
@@dilvishpa5776At least he was honest.
I really resonated with this. I graduated from UC Berkeley a year and 2 months ago and have been looking for jobs this whole time to no avail. It sucks but it's made me really reevaluate my life and where I want to go. College is seeming more and more obsolete and doesn't really seem to bring results these days.
I went to Cal too! As a teen, when I made my master plan to succeed in life, I didn’t account for the variable called “capitalists will manufacture scarcity of jobs, hoard all the wealth, and roll back worker benefits.”
The jack of all trades part really hit home! Here’s to getting monetized in 2024 :3 great video
Same
same !
Girl this level of self awareness, honestly and expectations management and validashunnnn!!! All I can say is thanksssssss mannn
I think a lot of the old fundamentals still apply; try to do your best at every task, always show up on time (or early), bring a pro-active, can-do attitude to everything you do, and be persistent . Make sure you are tenacious and always get up when you are knocked down. These are basic principles, but are much more than cliches. If people adhere to these principles consistently, they will create a lot of luck for themselves, even with all of life's ups and downs.
Live life actively, never live life idely, don't wait for your life to "start", don't delay, do what you need to do now, do everything as fast as possible without sacrificing quality, be hyper-active, even when you're lazy or tired or don't have enough energy, be hyper-active still, for the true source of energy comes from the heart it comes from your soul your willpower.
take as much credit for successes as possible & as little for failure as possible. use people. serve yourself first, above all others. stop caring about other people. those are some of secrets of the ultra-successful
@@Mr_Boifriend I disagree. What you are saying sounds like a Satanistic teachings. But Jesus said, live in service to others instead of service to self. At least when in relation to your loved ones. The man the husband takes care the needs of others before the needs of himself. He cares about other people, his wife, his children, the members of his family. Accept Jesus Christ into your heart, and follow his footsteps.
I'm a recent UC grad & this hit home!!! I was grinding to become a software engineer but realized I just don't care enough about mastering this one skill just to get a career. I too am a jack of all trades sort of person too. I also agree with the notion that I'd rather be putting in the hard work towards something that's worth it to me in the end. Of course it's hard being unemployed but I'm having faith in myself as I just really don't want to go back to the grind of tech. :(
Felt. I am a CC student in LA, trying to get into a UC for CS, it’s rough but I’m doing well.
Girl, Rooi I came across your channel and I wanted to share this comment. I went to med school and burned out and got really really sick in residency. I’m not in residency any more and yes. I’m pretty broke. but I am so grateful and happy to be alive and I have a different perspective on my life now. I feel like I went through worse than hell and I would not put my worst enemy in my experience. Just be greatful and happy and live in the moment. I’m waiting for something to come about and for my life to turn around. 🌧️ 🌈
Don't worry, everything will be fine... Just don't give up...☺️
came across this video randomly, and it really helped me with my current situation. thank you for sharing rooi!
Your video is sooo supportive! I've had the same goals as you at 16 (especially buying a house for your parents), but now I'm reconsidering my plans, I'm on the start of my career and think that corporations are not the right place for me, but I still have to work there because there are no other opportunities
I'm tired of fitting into the society's standards but it's hard for me to ignore them😢
Watched this right when I needed it most. Thank you for being vulnerable and telling us about your story
I just found your channel and your style is very cozy feeling and charming. As a college students, its always nice to remember that there is more to life than just making a lot of money. Thank you for this video
You are so right about money not being the most important thing. Freedom is! Good luck to you
this is legit the best video i've seen today ! failure is necessary for growth ! thanks for reminding me
your vids are so well edited! love the messaging- totally agree that what is considered conventionally successful doesn’t always lead to satisfaction and joy. looking forward to more content and following your journey! :)
Not only are you funny as all hell, you are also extremely insightful. I look forward to seeing more from this hidden gem of a channel :)
Wow, feels just like looking into a mirror. I've graduated last year from to top UK university too, albeit I graduated with an engineering degree. But the struggle to find a job was real and I eventually settled for a startup consultancy. I'm still here and the job is work-from-home so I thought to actually do what I like: Video making and streaming too. But I suppose my videos are a bit more gaming related. Me too often worry about the performance of my videos but I think that whilst performance is important, I'm making this for myself so as long as I'm happy, I'm fine.
I really liked your earnesty and emotions, definitely not something you see a lot of in content creators nowadays. You've another sub and I'll share this video with my friends for what it's worth. It is unfair how genuine videos like this is suppressed by waves of content slops.
E: This video was recommended to me through YT recommendations, so you're definitely getting noticed!
thanks so much for your thoughtful comment and support, it means a lot to me! wishing you best of luck with your creative endeavors as well!!
I’m currently a high school senior and this video was really helpful. I think this year I’ve felt very disillusioned(?) my high expectations of the future and value I placed on money is no longer worth it to me, but I already applied under a major that my parents wanted me to and that I thought would gain me respect/money. It’s nice knowing that I’m not alone in this feeling and that I still have time to explore what I want to do
Down to earth video, good luck in your future endeavors man
Hey, I got reccomaed one of your videos randomly and have been getting your videos on my home page for a few days. So don't worry to much, they are not trying to stop your channel from growing.
So glad I got recommended your channel and video. This hit home in so many ways.
8:00
So relatable
That's why I decided to major in economics, even though I have no interest in it
The desire to prove yourself to the society and to your family puts a big pressure on young people when it comes to choosing their education path
Edit:
I'm transferring majors now :)
transfer to what major?
@@sutejotan5817 idk how it's called in western countries ,but the alternative I've found may be "oriental studies" (?). In my case with the concentration in chinese
(I was econ + chinese before)
Finance is better than econ
@@Sv3rigeexposed Ok. But not every uni has this major
Not in my country for sure
Great content! Refreshing to see someone being genuine and honest. Keep going and surpass any and all limitations!
Your RUclips channel will grow huge I think. You're straightforward and have an interesting way of presenting things (fun mind).
I'm gotta say this but you so real and this relate to me so muchhhhh. Keep doing what you doing
I SO NEEDED THIS YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU
For what it’s worth I relate to this video heavily. Even though I had low expectations for myself coming out of HS because I was convinced I had already failed at life I still forced myself (partially to appease my parents) to go to college for computer science and I literally didn’t even enjoy it half the time. I spent the last year since I graduated aimlessly wandering around for work which I recently found but now I’m convinced I could very well burn out before I’m 30 and find myself a vegabond again for the first half of my 30’s.
This helped me as a recent graduate still transitioning towards a full-time career. I’m figuring out what doesn’t work and what works for me.
Thank you for the video! Google showed your video on my feed. I am 65 but very interested in what young people have to go through today. My first impression was, yeah -- my generation had it easier. College tuition was much lower, and jobs were much more plentiful, mostly because jobs were more diverse back then. But on the other hand, based on my experience with nieces and nephews, getting into college in the 70's was more difficult than today (of course, ivy-league and private schools are tough back then too). Colleges accepted less people since campuses and facility was not that large (all of that changed with school decided they wanted to be profitable). There were no ACT or SAT exams -- I had to be smart for my entire high school career. You could not get a student loan unless you proved to a banker that you were a good risk/investment. There was zero grade inflation at the high school and college level and there were no mechanisms to challenge a bad or "unfair" grade. There was also a lot of cultural bias, you went to college to be a doctor or a lawyer, not much else. As far as jobs -- there were not that many jobs where a college degree was considered necessary. Companies preferred to grow their own talent. So yes, in my day things were easier, but there was still a lot of uncertainty. The biggest difference is that in my day, if you did not go to college, you could become a farmer or a factory worker to support your family -- those are no longer options today. Today, I feel that young people are as freer to be themselves, thus you have a lot more options! But for all generations, hard work and grit are still required to build an independent life. Good luck.
This I’m 24 and graduated in May of 22 and am still having a hard time landing something within my field. My mom feel doesn’t understand how rough it’s been cause this job market has been so stressful and her talking about it has intensified the feelings I already had.
Hard relate. Their generation had it vastly different but I think their heart is in the right place
@@foreverskeptical1 yeah we have a great relationship and she personally had a bit of a hard time landing a new job too so I would think she would understand too since she also experienced it
My parents were the same. They didn’t understand the difficulties of the current market until they were laid off themselves. Before that they were blaming all their kids for being “lazy” and not taking “initiative” to find a job, meanwhile my siblings and I had applied to hundreds of jobs lol
Literally me. My mom is like welp, just gonna have to sacrifice working your way up. Yet part of me is like a job that would make me happy is serving ice cream. Like damn.
Thanks for this. I really needed to hear someone else voice the things I've been thinking and not make me feel so lost
9:07 - you have no idea how much this helps me right now, thank you so much Q_Q
ps: I love your editing lol the comedic timings left me wheezing
hey rooi, great video! thank you for sharing your experiencie. It is always nice to know one is not alone
This is great. Many smart people got on a special path very early in life but they don't know what they want.
MIT grad here (2021) who is going through similar struggles!!! I studied meche with focus on product design. I didn’t know that following my interest in softer sciences would launch me into a super competitive field, especially with the current tech layoffs. I also come from first-gen low-income background with dreams to provide financially for my family. I know at least a few other friends going through the same thing. Right now, I work at a nonprofit as a project coordinator and pursue singing and acting when I can.
Older professionals are surprised when I share the difficulty of finding a job with an MIT degree. It’s hard to explain to my parents too - after so much work and sacrifice, should it not just work out?
On the flip side, my time spent traveling after MIT has shown me all the different ways of building a fulfilling life. MIT degree still opens doors for freelancing opportunities, so I can travel and make art and make a living. Time unemployed gave me the gift of time to care for health and really understand what skills I could offer. All this to say - thanks for sharing!! You’re not alone!! We should make a support group for all MIT grads going through this.
Omg…i literally feel u! I think some of our experience are kinda similar…In high school, i thought that top uni is everything you need to land that “perfect” job that u want. Lucky enough, i got accepted to one of the best school in my country, however, during my final year, when i was searching for internship position, no one wanted to hire me in 2023. Long story short, I graduated last Oct 2023, still had no internship experience under my belt. And then, i somehow ended up getting a full time job in a startup. Had i not got it, there would be a high chance that i would probably still be unemployed up until today…although now i can feel relieved bcs i already have a job now, realizing that the tech industry is very unstable these days (lots of layoffs, the job market is not so good rn) sometimes makes me contemplate on whether i should keep pursuing tech job again in the future or not…
i used to think i was an unlucky person, but then i realized things somehow worked out in the end, even if it wasn't a smooth ride 😅 let's hope luck continues to be on our side 😭
Just know that you are incredibly good at talking in front of a camera! That is not an easy feat for everyone! Keep going Rooi! Love your youtube monologues ^^
Very relatable...another part of the convo (for me and many others) is graduating right before the pandemic. I graduated in mid 2019 with no post-grad plan besides "take a little break then look for a job", and obviously I wasn't going to find a job when the world shut down (esp with my somewhat "useless" lit degree), but I still beat myself up for that for about... hmm.. until a couple months ago lol. The times are not in new graduates' favor unless, like you said, you got the right things on your resume and the right people in your corner at the right time. And no one can predict what those "right" things look like, so it's a gamble if you don't have generations of college grads in your family guiding you through the system - which I did not have.
Lately I'm also turning to creativity via making videos to bring joy back into my life, and I'm also taking the next best guess at what I want to do, since the whole writer/editor/marketer thing I tried for 2+ years just isn't viable or particularly interesting to me anymore. Which (also similar to you with math/science) was hard to let go of because it's the thing I'm good at and has always made me stand out in school, so I thought I was throwing away my potential by not chasing a related career. But now I'm shifting to the mindset of finding work that suits my personality and my lifestyle goals instead of just trudging through job muck to find a writing-related job I probably won't even like, based on my previous experiences.
idk why this spoke to me so much - but it did. Keep it up!
Great video Rooi, I enjoyed hearing your thoughts. It's particularly nice hearing from another Korean-American about failure, haha. I had so many plans for myself in high school... and no one of them worked out. Having lived in Korea, I sometimes feel sorry for what my relatives, friends, and colleagues had to/have to endure in the relentless "bali bali" culture. Then I remember that I'm not doing amazingly myself, and that maybe they should feel sorry for me, lol. I hope you get the RUclips success you're looking for! Hopefully 2024 is the year that we all take off in the ways we hope to do. If not, well, maybe we just need to be a little more patient and resilient. 화이팅!
This video is so crucial. Thank you for making it.
this video deeply resonated with me omg :( i have quit two jobs already out of college because its so exhausting for me to collaborate 😭 i always feel like there’s something wrong with me because i hate talking to people when im working. and i hated relying on others to compelte tasks. I felt like an outcast. knowing that theres someone out there who share the same work style feels comforting yet sad at the same time :( my 1-1 with my prev boss always include a feedback on how i have bad people skills, and yes im aware of that. It was just so frustrating that i cannot tell her that it physically, mentally and emotionally pains me to be someone i am not. Being a corpo girlie just aint for me 😭 so i quit. im currently on a break rn, tryin to find myself again. Somehow i feel hopeful upon stumbling on your vid 🥺 keep up the good work! And i wish you goodluck 🤍
I feel you. I wish I could just do my work with no one bothering me and without having to interact with people or relying on them to do what needs to be done.
aw thank you and i'm wishing you good luck too! hope you find what you need during this break 💛
Life and career could be a rollercoaster.
Beautiful video 🙌
I had exactly the same life plan that you did as a child and I'm graduating in 2 months LOL. I know everyone yearns for the freedom to do whatever you want after college but it's kinda scary not having a path to follow for the first time in my life. It's kinda comforting to see someone else who did everything they were supposed to, went to a highly ranked college, got a good GPA, did internships etc. and still doesn't have it all figured out.
Hi Rooi, thanks for sharing your ramblings and validating the new-grad-in-the-2020s struggle. I love how this video is edited. I can tell you worked hard on the tiny little things (like subtitles, sound effects, timing the title cards, etc.). Hope you one day get monetized!
Thanks so much 🥺
I saw this video on my recommended feed, even though I don’t watch a lot of creators like you and the topic sounded interesting so I watched. Then I watched your first video since you mentioned it, checked out your instagram and saw your art is really great too.
All this is to say, I think your first lucky break has already come and you’re barely 10 videos into your channel. Good luck!
We literally have the exact same experience apart from going to MIT! Thank you for the reassurance, I needed it. I've been unemployed for the past 5 months but I'm working on getting a job through salesforce where there's plenty of opportunities to get hired, especially since I have 2 friends from college working there. When you mentioned the jack of all trades part, I totally agree with you. I have so many hobbies I want to experiment with but there's no funding so that's been put to a halt for now. Anyway, I wish you the best!
Underrated channel for how good the production quality is
thanks for sharing your story and advice! excited to see your next step
thank you for watching!
i loved this so much - i graduated the year before u during COVID and it was so bad… still is bad
Wow, the amount of courage to post this! You and I have almost the same life! Graduated from UC Berkeley focusing on environmental science thinking that there would always be an opportunity for a job in that field since, when I was choosing, I was told that green jobs would be blossoming. I ignored all the other parts of me that just made it hard to get hired. I was a jack-of-all-trades person too, had a secret artistic passion, and was secretly an autistic introvert. I became the extrovert who specialized in one thing and ignored the hole growing inside me. I did this because I thought that eventually if I suffered a little more, I would finally be able to support myself and my parents only to be passed up for a promotion I really needed. I couldn't hold out any more and I got severely burnt out. I quit my job, looked into tech to find a job that fits my lifestyle, and now realize that the grind is just as much if not even harder there. It's like there is no winning. I created a blog in the meantime and am looking into making my own creative works.
So relatable, also started uni in 2017, seemingly with a bright future ahead. Been at home for over year without a job in what I wanted and before I knew it, I had lost interest, about to try other things now and enjoy life without putting so much effort with the thought that that will land me a good job. Uni days feel wasted but I don’t regret it yet
Damn in the same boat hope you’re doing well this is very inspirational, I think what we all really want is having freedom whether time or financially
Damn a video critique current state of job market and society. Thanks for consolidating many things I see and agree into one video
So much of my life I found in your story!
Almost exactly, felt like talking to myself lol
Thanks for sharing this!
First video I'm seeing, and I just want to say - you are so effortlessly charming. SUBSCRIBED !!
Thanks a lot, I’m currently 16 and I can relate a lot. Good luck and keep it up :D
thank you! This made me feel a whole lot better.
Thank u for posting this!
This is great to hear as a junior in college. Great job on the video
I did my first master's in Geography and it was really hard to find a job. After 3 years of working in a not-so-nice job, I quit and started another master's in Computer Science. Now I can have every job I like. What I want to say with this is that you should not just study anything (as I did with my first degree) - pick a subject that someone will pay you for that knowledge. My bf studied also Geography and he became a researcher and makes good money - so yes, there will always be people studying "useless" things and making a good career but mostly it's bcs these people are the best and/or have a special social talent. The better your skills the more money you will make. The harder it is to get a degree the easier you will get a job bcs only a few people will be in that competition. It took me 10 years to understand that but I'm happy I found my way before becoming 30... :) Wish you all the best!
You are the smartest most sweet human being on the planet rooi!
Nice video. You restored some of my hope in humanity.
great video and i’m glad you got more than a couple of views !! keep it up
I don’t comment on videos normally. But I just wanted to say that as someone who is also a totally independent working, Jack of all trades style employee in the tech space, who also clawed their way up from the bad part of town to grind 12 hour days 6 days a week from their tiny luxury apartment, I appreciate you trying to communicate to others what you’ve learned. You don’t learn the faults in how you aspire and dream in school. You learn them the hard way, by getting as close as you can to the pie in sky and realizing the plotted trajectory of your goals actually lead to misery and competitive isolation. All that being said, you seem like you’d be an absolute joy to work with. I hope you keep doing your thing, whatever it may be or become.
So relatable. Just liked and subscribed. I am brazilian and I just got out of college with that feeling of not having figured out nothing. This video help me realized that i am not alone.
Wow love that intro 😱 also your color scheme and aesthetic 👌✨🥹
I love your sense of humor!
I liked listening to ur thought process
Your video resonated with me. I was rarely “head of the class” in school but I knew how to work smart and outwork most of the competition. I had my own family issues also (narcissistic mother, issues with relational aggression, etc.) and it affected my self-worth.
Today, I have a law degree, a masters degree, a bachelor’s degree, approximately 7 years of underemployment, 3 biological kids as well as 3 soon-to-be adopted children (brother-in-law has some legal troubles, long story), a happy marriage to my high school sweetheart of almost 13 years…and no career to really be proud of.
I’m learning to see the bright side as well.
Damn bro, as a recent Software Dev bachelors graduate I feel this in my bones. I hope we all find a way through the bad times, I'm sure we've been through worse.
This video came to me at the right time. I am currently interning for an international organization after a quite tiring selection process, going to graduate from a top school in Asia (and the world), yet I am scared and anxious asf that I'm not going to land a job. I am overworking myself everyday at an unpaid internship because I hope to impress my supervisor enough I get an offer after finishing the internship.
Why is life nowadays so incredibly competitive?
"Doki-doki for the future" is a sentence that I never thought someone would actually say. It's funny though.
TBH my parents also really wanted me to be rich from college, despite them having no idea how the system worked. Instead I joined the Army and learned to go pew pew for a bit. And that hardworking, intense, disciplined environment made me want to never work again. So on my time off I literally thought of ways to never work again. Like... I would have to get up for 1 or 2 hours a day in the middle of the night for guard duty. And I just spent that time thinking on how to make money without a job. I did that instead and am free. But I also have no purpose in life anymore.
anymore?
I get you. I studied extremely hard in HS, got a full tuition scholarship, and then when I arrived to college...felt burned out and made the minimum effort. Just opening a book now gives me nausea, tbh. But little by little Im trying to learn stuff I like to see if I can get back to my pre-burnout studying capacity. Best of luck!
Thank you for making this video
I haven’t gone to college yet, but I hope my future self will remember the wonderful messages in this video! I’ll live life on my own terms and keep making guesses. Thanks!
Your videos are funny, relatable, well edited. I like how you talk about things. I really hope you're gonna be successfull on YT. I relate to the part "jack of all trades". At 31 I feel like Ive failed at everything, but actually learned many things. How am I gonna do all that? Who knows. I'm trying YT but apparently Im failing at this as well. I'm searching for jobs but there's nothing I like out there tbh. What Id like to do I either dont get hired cuz I am not that person (acting) or they think Im overqualified. Probably I should start making a different kind of content on here but until I live alone I don't feel the freedom to do it the way I would like to.
thank you for stopping by! i will also be searching for jobs soon so i can stay afloat... although i'm not so excited about it 😅 i hope things work out for you too!
Haha you found ur audience of unemployed uni graduates struggling with the job search. I am a NYU CS 2023 grad (math minor too lol), but moved back home since it was hard to find new grad roles in US due to how bad the tech market was for internationals (even with my research/internships experiences). Been looking since Sept 2023, and currently doing some interviews.
This unemployment period has certainly been transformative for self reflecting. Decided not to pigeonhole myself to just tech roles since the tech market in my home country is even worse/smaller than USA for juniors. But I do think it just takes time and patience, since I started getting more interviews starting this year so fingers crossed haha.
Also hard relate with everything. I feel much less alone. We are all indeed so similar while being different. Loved your nuanced takes and editing aesthetics. Proving myself to or comparing with others and craving social validation led to so much suffering. Had a midlife crisis few months back which helped to disillusion myself and be more grounded/stable in my self-worth (reading Buddha's works helped too).
- a fellow generalist, Asian, who also went to college full ride, and also fantasizes to buy their immigrant parents luxury things as a thanks
I didn’t have a job for 9 months after graduating with a cs degree… it was brutal but also taught me a lot bc i ended up stumbling into the startup scene which I never considered before as my plan was always to work in big corps with a cushy salary but I found more growth opportunities in startups. :)
❤Thank You for being so relatable!!!😊
as an MIT graduate living in NYC I have the exact feelings and am planning out my next move. This video is super helpful in feeling normal and not alone, as someone making a 6 figure salary but not the high kinds that all my other mit friends are making
Poor you. Delusional.
Late 40s Asian here. You came up in my feed probably because i was visiting a buddy recently and we had discussed whether college is still worth it especially with the current exorbant cost of it. Interesting content. Curious to follow your journey and see how it turns out! Good luck!
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I struggled to put myself through a medical specialty degree, struggled through my boards, and now work in a large hospital and am literally in the position I had dreamed about for over a decade. I've also had two major panic attacks in the last year, barely sleeping, and now have to set timers to remind myself to eat because the stress is too much. If I had told my younger self that this is where we'd be, they would have laughed (cried?). Its time to make a change for the better.
we got this 💪
My baby boomer parents got jobs in the 1970's by simply applying to a newspaper ad for a dream job. No references. No buzzwords. No certifications, no prior experience. Just hey I want to work here and can learn can you train me? They all started (union jobs) with the equivalent of 100k a year with a highschool diploma after adjusting for inflation if you had any skill. They paid 15k for their house and we get to hear how hard it was and how we are spoiled. They worked at a McDonalds for 1 summer to pay for college and man what a sacrifice ....
no cause this video is 🔥please please make more !
This video cracked me up and made me cry. Subscribed.
i was inclined to write an essay on how heartfelt and profound this was for me but i'll just keep it simple instead. thumbs up, this was awesome and will have (had) a major impact on me going forward.
thank you for your support, and reminding me why i create 💛
I Loved the video ! I wish the best in the future
i loved the part about finding something that's worth the grind
True, but what if you never find it?