i dropped out of college...and i don't regret it.

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @VictoriaLu
    @VictoriaLu  7 месяцев назад +13

    Thank you for all the support on this vid, it means a lot :) Will be continuing to share my journey. The next update will be posted mid-April

  • @caitlinanne22
    @caitlinanne22 8 месяцев назад +120

    "But when has anyone's timeline been the same?" is something I remind myself of constantly when I feel behind. thank you for being vulnerable and open to posting this, it was beautiful to watch and inspirational to everyone

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад +3

      thank you 🥺

    • @user-lu6yg3vk9z
      @user-lu6yg3vk9z 2 месяца назад

      @@VictoriaLudon’t stress college is a scam anyways. RUclips Peter Schiff College

  • @Jimmyr1
    @Jimmyr1 6 месяцев назад +124

    I dropped out of college when I was 21 and now at age 29 I’m graduating with my masters degree in 5 days. Things come and go and life ebbs and flows. Ride the wave and you will end up where you need to be ❤

    • @AlbatrossWhisper
      @AlbatrossWhisper 2 месяца назад +3

      Same. Except i just finished my masters at 35. Dropped out at 24

    • @Jimmyr1
      @Jimmyr1 2 месяца назад

      @@AlbatrossWhisper congrats! It’s not an easy thing to do!!!

    • @AlbatrossWhisper
      @AlbatrossWhisper 2 месяца назад +1

      @@Jimmyr1 Congrats to you as well! It was definitely hard but I persevered and waiting on the degree to arrive in the mail.

    • @Jimmyr1
      @Jimmyr1 2 месяца назад

      @@AlbatrossWhisper mine came last month, something to frame and cherish forever now :)

    • @Jimmyr1
      @Jimmyr1 Месяц назад

      @beatle-x2h 24

  • @dry_water
    @dry_water 7 месяцев назад +133

    I’m 19 years old. Have a few thousand dollars saved. Have a part time job. Almost 0 friends. Currently failing all of my classes. And I’m lying to my parents about it.
    I don’t know what I want in life and what I can do in life. Being a good student is really all I have to make my parents proud of me. And it’s been a total lie. My parents have done so much for me that I feel like I don’t deserve. They gave me a beat up car. Pay for my car insurance. Pay for my food. Give me a roof over my head. So much and I can’t even do college the one thing they want me to do.
    I’ve been in community college for 2 years now trying to get an associates degree in Business but I’m no where close. I feel like I’ve lost 2 years of my life when I see all my old friends from high school only 2 more years away from starting professional careers. In relationships, traveling around the world. And I’m just here stuck in life.
    I’ve been told time and time again that I’m just as capable as anyone else and that I can do anything I put my mind to and I 100% believe that this is possible. Almost every start of the semester I feel like it’s another chance to start again and change my life. That first week of school I’m 100% committed to school and get to all my classes on time. Finish all my assignments early. Get to work on time and everything. I’m perfect. But by the 3-4th week I’m pretty much done with school and stopped attending and only go to work for the 10-15 hours per week I get.
    I guess I just keep telling myself that it’s ok if I miss 1 class and that I can go next week but then it just starts to keep stacking up until the point where I feel like I’ve missed too much of the semester I should drop the class.
    They’re about to find out about my grades soon because of a meeting with my counselor and I’m terrified about what’s going to happen.

    • @cuteussoverlah6506
      @cuteussoverlah6506 7 месяцев назад +4

      Redirect love urself keep going

    • @paulinalegun826
      @paulinalegun826 7 месяцев назад +13

      hey! any updates? i’m in the same situation:(

    • @productwithshiv
      @productwithshiv 7 месяцев назад +10

      World the has so much more to offer than just college , hope you find the one thing that you enjoy for rest of your life and even make a living out of it !

    • @imb2022
      @imb2022 6 месяцев назад +21

      You literally just said what I've been feeling for my whole 2 years of community college. I feel like a complete disappointment. I'm struggling. I'm currently in the part of the cycle in which I'm just giving up on my classes. I've been trying to adjust and change the way I manage school but I can't seem to be able to figure it out. TWO whole years have passed by and I just keep failing classes and needing to re-adjust my schedules and retake classes for next semester.
      I want to give back to my parents because I love and appreciate them but I just repeat this cycle of thinking I can do it and then falling behind completely.
      I'm also 19 and I have no close friends in community college and every time I see my old high school friends post about their fun events at their universities I get FOMO. I feel stupid honestly, I wish I could just start over

    • @fellowcomrade7357
      @fellowcomrade7357 Месяц назад +1

      Amen, I'm glad I'm not the only one, this was something I thought I'd never see anyone else relate to. I'm in my 3rd year and still haven't gotten my associates. You know people say you'll figure it out with time, just stick to it, you'll be behind if you don't keep up, but without any passion or drive college feels meaningless and purposeless. I don't know any encouragement or words of advice because I'm in the same boat but I want you to know you're not alone in how you feel.

  • @AyubuKK
    @AyubuKK 8 месяцев назад +52

    As a fellow dropout, it’s cool to hear another one’s story. I took a gap year after 2020 and haven’t gone back since. Just decided it was time to go on another path after a few months out.

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад +4

      yeah! it’s great to hear more people’s experiences, makes the whole thing feel less scary. gives comfort that we’re all on our own paths

    • @AyubuKK
      @AyubuKK 8 месяцев назад +2

      @@VictoriaLu 👍

  • @yuriabergt5862
    @yuriabergt5862 8 месяцев назад +26

    Ahh, this video brought me back to when I decided to take my own gap semester (spring 2022). Def needed a break from the burnout/stress that college brought. I'm graduated now, and looking back at that time, I see how far I've come since then. Though life is moving slower for you right now, and maybe it's not everything you wanted/expected it to be, that is exactly where you are supposed to be. Don't waste this season and find joy in the small things! I promise, your perspective is going to change and make you stronger!!

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад +1

      !! yes definitely so good to hear from the other side! will def take advantage of this time :-)

  • @Nadiamilller
    @Nadiamilller 8 месяцев назад +24

    Girl I am in a pretty similar situation rn :’) I just dropped out for career reasons and I’m reapplying to different schools but its so nice knowing that there r other ppl out there dealing with moving out, saying goodbyes and adjusting to living at home again. Wishing u all the best!!

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад +4

      AGHH it’s a diff type of pain🤝ik you’re doing amazing girlie SENDING U HUGS

    • @Nadiamilller
      @Nadiamilller 8 месяцев назад +3

      @@VictoriaLuawwww U TOOO and seriously tysm for making this vid🫶🫶 its been so so scary but im sure things r gonna work out for the both of us!!

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад

      @@Nadiamilller YES QUEEN we got this

    • @princyy824
      @princyy824 Месяц назад

      How u doing now?

  • @evangelinewong6842
    @evangelinewong6842 8 месяцев назад +26

    Victoria you are so strong. I am tearing up watching this 😭😢 your attitude in light of everything is so admirable

  • @fatinshadab5287
    @fatinshadab5287 7 месяцев назад +10

    Bro I am with you. As an undergrad studying in a prestigious engineering university, every moment I am becoming more and more depressed . Send you lots of love and hugs

    • @pulanemolotsi6998
      @pulanemolotsi6998 2 месяца назад +1

      Currently doing my final semester in engineering and I feel that this really isn't for me. So confused though because I am 27, parents have paid so much money towards my degree, I really am so confused right now

    • @Spartanspark404
      @Spartanspark404 2 месяца назад

      ⁠@@pulanemolotsi6998I feel the same way. Just turned 20 and hit my junior year in CS. I have done well in all my classes, but I can feel my motivation slipping away sometimes. And that feels bad because my parents are paying for me to go to school.
      Just gonna try to tough it out for now.

    • @Soccerexgaming
      @Soccerexgaming Месяц назад +1

      Welcome to capitalism 😊

  • @rwdchannel2901
    @rwdchannel2901 8 месяцев назад +7

    Do what you want and when you look back on life you'll be happy. Do what others want and when you look back on life you'll be bitter. Life is too short to be spent on things you don't want to do. I'm in my 40's so I've had a little life experience. I joined the US army when I was 18 and got out when I was 20 then I went to UCSB then I got a job. I've always done what I wanted to do because I'm too damn stubborn to be doing things I don't want to do. Life's been hard at times but good.

  • @hararoy2249
    @hararoy2249 3 месяца назад +11

    Seeing ur video kinda helped me. Was going into my senior year of university this year but just found out some bad news. Financially I won’t be able to pay my tuition for 2024-25 I was literally devastated. I was a good student getting A’s and B’s but had only 1 friends.
    I’m about to turn 21 and I have literally no past work experience I thought once I got my degree it would be the push start to finding jobs now reaching this point of I was so close to getting it working hard too be just not being able to. I balled my eyes out.
    Now it felt like all the hard work was pointless now I have nothing but student loans to pay off with nothing to show for it.

    • @vestabelt
      @vestabelt 3 месяца назад

      Sorry to hear that! Keep pushing on.

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  2 месяца назад

      Keep pushing on man, good things are coming. Sending love

  • @0zniugnep904
    @0zniugnep904 8 месяцев назад +5

    I rarely comment on youtube videos but this one was really inspiring. I was shocked at how well made this video was, you're definitely going places with filmmaking. Your message was really touching, and I'll keep these insights in mind as I attend college this Fall. (I'm a senior in San Diego waiting for decisions, got into UCLA so far!) Enjoy your time in Vancouver, don't be so hard on it, I thought it was one of the most charming cities I've ever been in when I visited it last Summer. I hope you find everything you're looking for.

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  7 месяцев назад

      thank you! comments like these always make me happy to keep creating :-)
      wishing you the best at UCLA or whichever college you're planning to go to! first year is so exciting and has some of my fondest memories.

  • @gabriellengia6729
    @gabriellengia6729 8 месяцев назад +5

    already crying :( you are so strong, so wonderful, so sweet. cal lost a good one (for now) and i miss my best friend sm ❤️

  • @justinthethigh4928
    @justinthethigh4928 7 месяцев назад +2

    The editing and shots on this video are amazing. I love the hopeful message and wish you the best!

  • @carolynklin
    @carolynklin 8 месяцев назад +7

    im crying watching this; vic ur so so strong and i love u sm

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад

      🥹ty for supporting

  • @Catness007
    @Catness007 6 месяцев назад +10

    First time seeing your video. Your video brought all sorts of emotions in me. I'm a drop- out too. I am not one of those "in the end" succes stories of going back to uni after a break. I dropped out because of mental health. My sexual abuse I had been pushing down and ignoring finally caught up to me when I was in Uni. Got a massive mental block and suddenly I was unable to study or focus and now more than 10 yrs later, I still have that mental block and no degree. Years of therapy has got me no where education wise. I tried school again a few times after but I kept failing.
    Now in my 30's, I do jobs that I don't like. For decent jobs I need a degree, otherwise they don't hire me. I feel very unhappy. Sometimes I can't believe this is my life now. I don't even see how I can change my future. Even if one day I'll be able to study again and actually get a degree, I can't afford it anymore. In the past years I've been earning just enough to pay rent and to get by.
    My family don't know about the abuse. They see me as a failure, told me numerous times. They are ashamed of me. I moved far away because I couldn't handle it anymore. It's hard hearing people's comments about me and seeing everyone, even my littlest cousin finishing university, getting a job, be succesful and start a family. It hurt so much that I had to go, I just couldn't take it anymore. Now I am on my own feeling more lost than ever.

    • @LoganBeauchamp-nd3pr
      @LoganBeauchamp-nd3pr 6 месяцев назад +4

      @Catness007 Stay strong 💪 🙏🏼 God has plans in your life!

    • @staargirle
      @staargirle 6 месяцев назад +3

      If ur doing wht u love to do u will enjoy it and u will earn money. Also use law of attraction. Im sure u will be successful

    • @girlofflinez
      @girlofflinez 4 месяца назад +6

      you being human is enough. its enough, never compare your journey to anyone else especially when ur comparing ur lows to someones highs. ly lots and sending you love

    • @saddestsisyphus2080
      @saddestsisyphus2080 24 дня назад +1

      This also happened to me. This year is year 10 of complete mental block. What sucks is that I really wanted to achieve great things, as I think you also did. Sadly, success stories only exist for young people (20s). Now we are invisible to society.
      Hope everything goes "not that bad" for both of us. It's probably the best thing we can aim for

  • @Mishapindisguise
    @Mishapindisguise 7 месяцев назад +2

    I have a similar situation now, thank you for uploading this video, it really helps in this moment.

  • @wongvlogz
    @wongvlogz 8 месяцев назад +5

    Just one chapter of your journey! Much love Vic 🫶

  • @zaracikunjau7445
    @zaracikunjau7445 25 дней назад +2

    This is exactly what I would like to tell my mother, but I just don't have the heart to disappoint her or myself. My mother is a single mother, with an incredibly accomplished life and to fathom that I can be anything less is really hard for me. You see, I was the kind of kid adults always said that I would do great things (it sounds cheesy I know), but I genuinely believed that. However a recent string of events have revealed to me that I might just end up a washed up human being who had all this potential to be great.

  • @NhiHuynh-rg6ow
    @NhiHuynh-rg6ow 8 месяцев назад +2

    victoria you are such a inspiration

  • @tarynmccarthy7760
    @tarynmccarthy7760 8 месяцев назад +4

    beautifully made and shot video! this deserves more views and recognition

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад

      🥺updating y’all rlly soon

  • @rice
    @rice 3 месяца назад +5

    This video really resonated w me. This year, I applied to 15 colleges and got rejected from every single one of them, except for my state school, and UCLA. In the beginning, I was really excited to attend, but as I think about it as it get's closer, financially, I don't think i'll be able to afford it. Since a few months ago till the time I leave for college next month, I've been taking risks and returning to my past to look for options to somehow make the money to afford college. TBH though, it always works out in the end, and I mean, the best things come at the last second

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  3 месяца назад +1

      @@rice totally relate to your comment. I’ve been having similar thoughts as the next school sem draws closer & im also hoping the best things will come when it’s meant to happen 🤝
      wishing you the very best man! we’ll make it through🫶

  • @BBaiaman
    @BBaiaman 7 месяцев назад

    Thanks, you aren't alone, remember, stay strong, believe, don't stop to feel, notice and dream , your hard work will pay off 😊

  • @JEANKARLO
    @JEANKARLO 8 месяцев назад +1

    AWWW VIC!!! my hearttttt, i am so proud of you and your resilience. ill be rooting for you!!

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад

      rooting for you too jeankarlo!!

  • @YotopianWanderer
    @YotopianWanderer 5 месяцев назад

    Very inspiring to hear your story, thank you for sharing!
    I'm currently living in the Australian countryside doing farm work part time while about a year into my course, facing the realisation that my true calling, the path forward, is elsewhere and does not involve going to university.
    Academics have always been my very important within my family and I always did my best to make my parents proud. I am thankful for all they have done for me, but now its time to move forward in a new direction.

  • @emilyluo5810
    @emilyluo5810 8 месяцев назад +2

    so proud of u bb, you’re doing great 💕💕

  • @reejy342
    @reejy342 Месяц назад

    this is a cinematic masterpiece. I exited full screen fully expecting to see that your video had 1 million+ and was shocked to see 19k! This video is just so well made!! Thank you. You're actually a creative genius.
    Ps. everything will work out just fine, trust me! :)

  • @howlpendragon36
    @howlpendragon36 2 дня назад

    I literally went to college for 2 days and dropped out, that place honestly felt like it was sucking out my soul

  • @dalneynavalha4586
    @dalneynavalha4586 8 месяцев назад

    This was such a great video, I loved hearing all you had to say and felt so inspired by it! You definitely got this!

  • @carolynklin
    @carolynklin 8 месяцев назад +2

    always here for u I LOVE UUU

  • @krystalchung1485
    @krystalchung1485 8 месяцев назад +1

    u are one of the strongest people ik

  • @fernanda..e
    @fernanda..e 8 месяцев назад

    Beautiful storytelling and beautiful shots!💕

  • @DonkeyKickingMC
    @DonkeyKickingMC 7 месяцев назад +2

    This takes me back to dropping out of college in April 2021, during COVID in NYC, same time I decided to enlist in the Air Force.
    After a year, getting my mind and body right and earning what I can to help out my family, I shipped out June 2022.
    Sometimes things never go as planned and that’s okay. Take it one day at a time.

  • @sindhuvenkat1220
    @sindhuvenkat1220 8 месяцев назад

    I m so excited to see your progress in the following year .lots of love from me❤❤❤❤❤

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад

      🥺excited to share the journey w y’all

  • @AlbatrossWhisper
    @AlbatrossWhisper 2 месяца назад +6

    Taking a gap year is not the same as dropping out. Title click bait

  • @alina-jv6xr
    @alina-jv6xr 2 месяца назад +2

    Please help me. I got into a university my parents wanted for me, i studied there for a year and then dropped out even though they were against it. I spent year to prepare for exams to get into my dream university and succeded. And now im not sure what im gonna do if i dont like it, what if i wont make it? I am a type of person that doesnt like to suffer for long, i dont want things to be too owerhelming and stopping me from doing my favorite activities. I cant trade my life for suffering. I just want to be happy

    • @Fjdndjdm
      @Fjdndjdm 2 месяца назад

      I am in a similar position I just found a similar course that didn’t require a degree. Which will give me the ability to work and figure things out along the way. Shit advice I’m sorry

  • @FarziaNayazila
    @FarziaNayazila 22 дня назад +2

    I'm not exactly in the same situation, but I am confused and scared as I don't know where I am going with my life. I have a question though, when you drop out like that, can you actually enter again later at the same semester? Or at least not start over again?

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  22 дня назад +1

      hey! depends on ur school. for berkeley they have specific deadlines for readmission applications (one time before spring sem and one time before fall.) i believe u can't enter again later at the same semester

  • @jasmineren
    @jasmineren 8 месяцев назад

    I’m so proud of you

  • @0kur123
    @0kur123 6 дней назад

    this is beautiful

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  5 дней назад +1

      @@0kur123 🫶thank you

  •  День назад

    I'm so sorry, college rates and tuition are just way too high rn, which is why is just best to choose the cheapest college to attend.

  • @RYANCHEAH
    @RYANCHEAH 8 месяцев назад +1

    keep going vic!

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад +1

      thanks ryan!! hope you’re doing well

  • @lilbaughwow._.2
    @lilbaughwow._.2 8 месяцев назад

    MISS U VIC

  • @jackyue2466
    @jackyue2466 7 месяцев назад

    You should be a full time youtuber, you're so good at film making!

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  7 месяцев назад

      hahah got to beat the algorithm first! 🤓

  • @lleheer752
    @lleheer752 6 месяцев назад +4

    what so you didnt even drop out? just took a pause?

  • @sayturn8510
    @sayturn8510 8 месяцев назад

    KEEP IT UP! ❤

  • @LillianWong-xt7qj
    @LillianWong-xt7qj 8 месяцев назад

    lots of hugs

  • @Pap3rKoI.
    @Pap3rKoI. 8 месяцев назад

    cool thing you made friends, im in my second year of uni and have made non

  • @charlielin7340
    @charlielin7340 8 месяцев назад

    You got this!!!!

  • @sylvielam
    @sylvielam 8 месяцев назад

    i love u vic

  • @kevinchhuon7373
    @kevinchhuon7373 5 месяцев назад +2

    Graduating from college doesnt promise a good job. Many gradyates are underemployed doing jobs they did not major in

  • @TryingtoTellYou
    @TryingtoTellYou 2 месяца назад

    Universities are businesses. Their goal is to make money. I find myself at odds with the idea that education should be sold. I respect the time it takes people to build skills and that they want recognition for that, but the fact remains that the moment you begin to sell your skills is the moment you are no longer incentivised to share those skills.

  • @Kunaltries
    @Kunaltries 4 месяца назад +1

    I dropped out this month. I have 0 subs and earned 0 dollars from Filmmaking. Im scared lol

  • @sulaymankone6139
    @sulaymankone6139 3 месяца назад

    I just dropped out too and I feel good

  • @gabbynic7971
    @gabbynic7971 8 месяцев назад +1

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @SleepyLotusFlower-bl9ed
    @SleepyLotusFlower-bl9ed 2 месяца назад

    I like your filter of the camera, what type blog camera is it

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  Месяц назад

      sry i completely missed this msg! this was filmed on the canon g7x mark ii

  • @lilbaughwow._.2
    @lilbaughwow._.2 8 месяцев назад

    waiting for you to make your triumphant bdc return

    • @VictoriaLu
      @VictoriaLu  8 месяцев назад

      LOLLL already on my radar 🤩

  • @krystalchung1485
    @krystalchung1485 8 месяцев назад

    this shit made me cry hella

  • @acgames1880
    @acgames1880 7 месяцев назад

    I’m going to have to dropout after this semester for financial reasons as well. If anyone has advice on how to make money that’d be greatly appreciated

  • @Harsha-D311
    @Harsha-D311 7 дней назад

    I dropped out after 2,nd year
    I went back n got my degree

  • @a.m.6847
    @a.m.6847 7 месяцев назад

    I think you sai that you are a media studies major. What do you want to do with that degree?

  • @sqiggle
    @sqiggle 8 месяцев назад +1

    💕🌸🌻

  • @SunshineJxssie
    @SunshineJxssie 8 месяцев назад

    Cool vid

  • @jasmineren
    @jasmineren 8 месяцев назад

    This video.

  • @horsermchead2504
    @horsermchead2504 8 месяцев назад +2

    You’ll regret it soon enough

    • @jelly2983
      @jelly2983 7 месяцев назад +9

      She dropped out for financial reasons. Maybe someone who lacks the attention span to watch a 9 minute video shouldn’t be making comments on how other people live

  • @CoverageAwarenessStudio
    @CoverageAwarenessStudio 3 месяца назад

    You dropped out because you spent too much time to party and spent all your money, you couldn't handle it.

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    Best regards,
    Kartik kumar

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    @helenp703 7 месяцев назад

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