Calling yourself a "swinger" when you're really just looking for a loophole around cheating is totally unhealthy. The cheater doesn't love either of you, folks.
Definately 100% agree Though if everyone involved is fully consenting, aware and comfortable with the agreement it can be okay! BUT if it takes a long time to convince someone and you manipulate someone into agreeing then that is just , in fact, unhealthy. Relationships like this can be messy, and you need to understand how it can affect how you and your partner(s) see eachother. Always be sure that EVERYONE is happy with the arrangement, and give them an outlet to talk if they are not
The only time I've spent years trying to convince my partner to do something was over sleepwear. They slept in their jeans when we first got together. I couldn't let that be.
@@ittybittynautilus2468 oh man i used to HATE it too, like i really could not stand it. but after watching 87 chad chad videos, it started to grow on me. i kinda love it now lol
@@Sofia-wh9jr The messed up thing is there's actually a real mother daughter due who do only fans together. However it's even more disturbing when the details surrounding how it happened become apparent.
@@ashtonisvibing4763 Well as disturbing as a mother telling her two young children about her job being an adult entertainer. Then proceeding to suggest years later, to her then barely legal daughter after struggling to find a job after college, to strip with her on onlyfans to rake the money in. Then the daughter saying in a video interview, that anyone who says it's messed up is just jealous of her and her relationship with her mother. If that doesn't scream grooming and reckless parenting, I don't know what does.
Swinging, like any type of non-monogamous relationship, is about communication and boundaries. You can still cheat in a non-monogamous relationship. It's supposed to have open communication and agreement on all sides, not deceit and secrets
@@MultiJordan2005 Ha. I was driving home the criticism you were giving of these individuals, not slighting you. Widening the scope to hammer home how astronomically fucked up they were. Glad you didn't take offense, because none was intended at you!
As a representative of the non-monogamous community I just want to make it clear that we don't wanna claim these people. If your partner isn't comfortable with what you're doing that's NOT polyamory/swinging/non-monogamy... that's just cheating. Those are very different things. Non-monogamy is entirely built on communication and respecting each others boundaries
I have unfortunately seen too many poly people manipulate their partners into agreeing to it, but I know there are LOADS of people in the poly community that are super great to their partners and their partners are super on board. It's too bad people like this make it look weird to everyone.
It seems when I have seen poly couples in the past that someone is always unhappy. It attracts hyper sexaul people and those who don't like commitment. It is going to attract narcissistic types of people.
THIS. I'm poly and my partner is questioning but we both make sure to communicate and respect each others set boundaries. I don't go and try to get together with other people behind their back or bring someone else into the relationship. It's not hard at all to respect that, and It makes me so upset that cheaters will turn and go "well I'm poly actually" to justify their cheating. Like, it's really not hard to respect boundaries. . . Plus, It's just further reinforcing the negative stereotypes, really. Reminds me of when I was dating somebody four years back who had a record of cheating and using that excuse. They even called partners of theirs cruel names if they got upset over it. People like them are just cruel to be around tbh.
I wouldn't say it's that completely black and white. People can be uncomfortable but still open to try for various reasons. When I got together with my ex eight years ago, I really didn't want a monogamous relationship. I told him that, we argued about it, eventually I felt pressured into giving in, and agreed to it. I stayed faithful for years. It was hard. During that time, he cheated on me. More than once, with more than one person. Frankly, I should have just left. But I was younger and dumber then, and we were both otherwise really passionate about eachother and wanted things to work out. So eventually, I felt I had to lay down the law. Since he obviously couldn't respect his own demand for a monogamous relationship, we'd have an open one. That or nothing. I'd hoped that he would become more comfortable eventually, after he'd had time to see that sex with other people wouldn't make me any less devoted to him. Sadly, jealousy and insecurity are not beholden to reality. This went on for about two years. He was never comfortable with it. Eventually it, among other things, broke us up. You could defiitely say I coerced my partner into a poly relationship. But I wouldn't call myself a cheater. I never lied to him, never did anything behind his back or without his express consent. We tried it his way for five years. We tried it my way for two. Neither worked. I think it's tempting for people to see monogamous desires as more valid than poly desires because that's the standard of normalcy that society sets. Nobody ever talks about it being unfair to pressure a poly person into a monogamous relationship, even though I'm sure that happens much more than the reverse. Both desires are fair, both discomforts are fair, sometimes people's relationship needs just don't mesh and there's no way to go about it where someone isn't uncomfortable. I can't really fault people for trying anyways, if they feel strongly for eachother. Obviously there's a point at which they need to recognize that it's not going to work, and me and my ex's should have been a lot sooner, but making sacrifices and attempting compromise is part of relationships. Just sayin'. Context.
@@x.o.x.oooooo Plolyamory is when 3 or more people are in a romantic relationship together with exclusively each other. Monogamy is when 2 people are in a romantic relationship with exclusively each other. Swinging is when two people in a monogamous relationship will swap partners with two people from another monogamous relationship, within agreed upon boundaries. Open relationships is when 2 or more people are in a relationship together but with each individually form different relationships outside of the center relationship within agred upon boundaries. (This is also sometimes referred to as Plolyamory- but the boundaries and interactions are often very different) Any breakage of boundaries in any of these relationship models is Cheating. And it is possible to combine or have a mix of different relationship models. All of them are valid so long as it it with fully informed consistenting adults. Hope this helps!
as a person who's poly and would be fine with swinging... if you need to coerce your partner into those kinds of relationships, they don't want to do it. it's manipulative and awful to do. if you can't respect your partner's boundaries you aren't their partner. sure maybe that person loves you enough to go through the pain and discomfort of you sleeping and flirting with other's instead of potentially loosing you, but if you love them why would you want to put them through that. also let's not turn the constant breaking of trust and hurting your spouse into a "haha i'm so quirky" thing. either get it together, or get a divorce. stop being a self centred ass. i'm surprised how he hasn't divorced her, though she's clearly for whatever reason got a hold of him. people like these put a bad name on open and poly relationships, we're not all like that
My mom is an abusive narc, she introduced us at very young ages (me and my siblings) to the concept of sister wives and swinging, so she could cheat on our dad in front of us without fear of us telling anyone. She groomed and abused us in loads of other ways but yeah. Gross
Thank you for mentioning Larry’s hairbrush. As a 30yo I’m still concerned on a regular basis about his hairbrush status. How does a hairless cuc even lose a hairbrush he never even needed?! Get madam blueberry on the phone, her shopping addiction will sort this out!
Its funny cos Gen-Z can use any word to say 'laughing' like I can be like Im throwing my self out of a helicopter right now😂😂 And people will get it..like tf is wrong with my generation Answer: nothing we are fine :,')
@@ellahughes22 oh, there is so much wrong with gen z I should know, I'm gen z and have terrible mental health and the world feels like it's ending and humans are terrible but hey at least we have chad chad
i used to be in a polyamorous relationship, there was no jealousy because we would always tell each other how we felt or if we were flirting with someone else etc. like that's the whole point of a poly/open relationship, you're supposed to communicate with your partner(s) and that includes respecting boundaries. when i first started dating my current boyfriend (who's monogamous), i asked him about an open relationship and he told me he wasn't comfortable with that. i never brought up the subject again because, as i told him, i knew even before dating him that we'd probably be monogamous and i was okay with that. he told me what his boundaries were and i respected them. open relationships definitely should NOT be something you force onto someone else. if the person doesn't want it, accept it and go look elsewhere. these people are toxic af and it's disgusting.
I'm hypothetically poly (I say hypothetically because I haven't had an opportunity to test that theory) and I brought this up to my last partner. She said she wasn't comfortable with that, and I assured her that even though I was poly, dating just her was enough for me. Unfortunately, months later we had a miscommunication where I thought she changed her mind and I brought it up again, which really upset her (understandably so). I felt so incredibly guilty, and still do when I think about it. We broke up less than two months later, mainly due to general issues with communicating our feelings with each other when something was wrong. I can't imagine how someone would think it's okay to try to force someone into a non-monogamous relationship that they never wanted. What kind of partner are you if you can't respect your partner's boundaries? Not even partner- what kind of PERSON are you?
@@user-zo2jm1vd9u swings switch partners for sexual activities, for instance, you have a wife and a husband. They’ll find another couple, and they’d switch partners. So the wife would do the diddle with the other couple’s husband and vis verses
And poly relationships consists of more than two people in a romantic and/or sexual relationship! They can be open or closed, and can come in all sizes and variations! However, it is extremely important that all parties consent to the arrangement!
As a person with autism and siblings with dyslexia, ADHD, and anxiety disorders. I can confirm the swing works and we need way more swing sets out their!
As someone in a happy polyamorous relationship(not the same as swinging but adjacent) and all these videos are like the epitome of toxic/abusive swinging/poly relationships holy shit.
As someone in a poly relationship, these tiktoks irritate the shit out of me. It's hard enough telling anyone monogamous about how your relationships work without garbage like this infecting public perception.
@@shisah5544 Fun fact: Most poly relationships involve only two people. You can have multiple relationships (each with two people in them) parallel to each other and your partner won't be bothered by that your other partners at all if that's what you negotiated.
"I gotta get Larry a new hair brush" Chad Chad flexing that Veggietales knowledge. As a homeschooled loser I appreciate any veggietales references so much more than I should. -_-
poor man who is gaslighted by his girlfriend, I'm a girl but I've been through the same things before it was awful, an ex who cheated on me and had some kind of situation/relationship with another person and also fantasized about sleeping with our friends used polyamory as an excuse, he was acting like being in a monogamous relationship with me was a sort of oppressions or something💀 he tried for months to influence me to sleep with other people so that our relationship would become open, I felt like my consent was not respected at this point, he was putting himself in the position of victim for being polyamorous now it makes me so angry when I see people forcing their partner to be in open relationship under the pretext of being open minded it's just a manipulative behavior
@@samevans1289 in veggie tales, one of the silly songs is about a soap opera with a character named “Barbara manatee” which inspired the “Barbara lost a man in a t shirt” There is another silly song, where the character Larry sings about loosing his hairbrush and he asks various people if they have seen it
0:21 I actually looked it up what ephesians 12 was so here ya go: For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. what the fuck does this have to do with telling somebody you don't wanna share-
My experience is that in an open relationship it depends on the boundaries set within the couple whether it's okay to flirt with others in front of each other or not, but it's definitely always important to communicate in an open and healthy way about jealousy, instead of...whatever that was
I feel like if you cant do it infront of ur partner then like whats the point? To me that says there is still some jealousy or discomfort about having ur prtner be with someone else. Im not poly but ive known a few poly couples, they were all open and agreeing about it but some of them definitley were sweeping a lot of discomfort and feelings under the rug by doing stuff like that.
It took me longer than I care to admit to realize that the TikToks had off-brand recreations of songs because Chad Chad had to do them herself to avoid copyright stuff.
I am polyamorous (my fiancé is too) in a open relationship and we have discussed and are still discussing about boundaries to not hurt or make the other uncomfortable about anything within our relationship. It's something that is so important for us as we just want to be living happily the way we feel and we're good with that. Funnily enough I've never been really with other people and they didn't either since we started being together. We just didn't feel like it that's it. Our relationship is fulfilling as is it's just that we happen to be polyamorous. We don't feel like seeing someone else is necessarily "filling a void" or keeping ourselves happy which is, to me, such a red flag (like if you feel your relationship isn't fulfilling open or not it seems wrong to me) but mostly we see as the ability to share love or affection (physical or not) maybe. Also people who cheats aren't the people who would be good in that type of relationship... they use the excuse but they are just shitty people who cheats... It feels very wrong to me how they treat relationships and boundaries. Seems very unhealthy.
I'm sorry if the grammar or structure is weird I'm not an native English speaker and I'm tired 😓 Just wanted to share my opinion and experience as someone who lives in an open relationship.
I feel like many people who claim themselves as "polyamorous" and see other people are often just super weak-minded that want to cheat/ get tired of their partner and find a way to make their problem some sort of solution. It's something pretty common in the poly couple that have 1 "true" poly partner and the other just accept their partner demand for love while the other one ( i'll call them the cheater one because in that case it is) have fun with other people while keeping the main partner as a way to always get somewhere to land if they find nothing interesting anymore in the new partners they get I'm tired of labels, especially the one who get overused and miss-used. You get the same problem with people who claim to be Bisexual just for the sake of it but only really date 1 gender. I find it kinda harmful for the real poly ( and bi there), especially when those fake labelled people tarnished the flag they wave
@@froggobaggins3328 sorry to nitpick here but being bi doesn't come with a mandatory has to have dated women and men before. For some people it could have not worked out with one of the genders and that's why they only dated one gender, this doesn't invalidate them but I feel like often bi people get shit for never having dated a specific gender.
@@alicehellsing5505 Not dating because you didn't have the chance to is okay, you don't chose who you are attracted to. But specifically avoiding one gender because one of them did some harm to you at some point or think they will do harm to you is problematic. at this point you need to work on that fear/ hate or don't claim to be bi if you only go toward one specific gender. It's like saying you like all kind of women but avoid everything but one type of woman
I just do not even come close to understanding what could be even remotely appealing about this lifestyle. I wish someone could make me understand but no-one has as of yet.
You're not wrong. Swinging is when both people in the relationship consent to it, and if one person doesn't it is being unloyal. I have a lot of friends who are swingers, I don't mind it. They do what they do safely and consensually.
As a poly person this is just painful. The straights are not ok. I don’t know if I feel better that they are choosing to pretend they’re having an in-cest ous relationship.
@@elderwool6510 why I was just communicating with someone who thinks they are a polygon. I wonder what kind. Probably a dodecahedron. Yeah that sounds cool.
The idea Chad Chad has to make the sounds for music to avoid a copyright strike is so funny. I’m imagining just sitting in a room making mouth sounds into a mic. Waiting for ur cover album to drop. Is ur work ethic an onion? Bc it’s wrapped in layers 🧅 boy!
6:50 This does not sit right with me at all..... like if she was so lustful/ polyamorus (is swinging polygamous?????) and he was monogamous., i don't think it's right for her to try and convince him to step out a VERY clear boundary that was set. And or continously break that boundary(honestly is a promise ) she should not have even let the issue become that big. I don't respect this at all, she seems like a manipulative lady
She's bragging about continuously cheating on her partner and probably gaslit him into staying with her. She leaves a bad taste in my mouth too. When entering into any sort of non-monogamous relationship, BOTH partners need to want it, independent of the others' desires, imho. Well, if one partner is skeptical at first but does research and decides they do want it, that's different. But having to convince your partner to do it makes me feel like they don't want it and are doing it because a. they don't want to deny their partner or b. they get manipulated.
There’s nothing wrong with an open relationship but when you force a partner into it that isn’t an open relationship that’s just cheating. And if your partner just wants to date you but is okay with you dating others, you shouldn’t force them to also date others even if they don’t mind you dating others.
This is some next level comedy writing. I just stumbled across your channel so glad I did. Thanks for the laughs. Frankly I could give a fuck about any of these people, the fact that they have a platform at all makes me deeply sad, but your comedic take on the absurdity makes it all hurt just a little bit less. Stay gold Chad Chad...stay gold!
These videos are so good for me. After being so upset all day about mass shootings and war and poverty and all the other terrible shit, it's good to be reminded that this world needs to go.
My god, when you said (L)Garry needed a new hairbrush, it completed me. It is such a subtle reference for anyone raised with silly songs with Larry. Thank you so much
“I’m that kind of wife.” “The one whose going to prison.” Chad Chad knows what’s up.
@I care I’m not clicking on that
@@lucifertheblackcat4366 just report it, it’s most likely a bot
@@foen oh thanks
I forgot to report
@@lucifertheblackcat4366 lol you're welcome
@I care not clicking on that
Calling yourself a "swinger" when you're really just looking for a loophole around cheating is totally unhealthy. The cheater doesn't love either of you, folks.
Definately 100% agree
Though if everyone involved is fully consenting, aware and comfortable with the agreement it can be okay! BUT if it takes a long time to convince someone and you manipulate someone into agreeing then that is just , in fact, unhealthy.
Relationships like this can be messy, and you need to understand how it can affect how you and your partner(s) see eachother. Always be sure that EVERYONE is happy with the arrangement, and give them an outlet to talk if they are not
@@spoof2803yes but that isnt cheating
@@seanmyers5703It is still cheating if you COERCED someone into agreeing. manipulating someone isn't cute.
@@amiiielston3100 period !
What does swinger mean
"that's not her actual mom" THE RELIEF 💀
Seriously 😭
I thought I was gonna have to buckle down and witness some "incest is wincest" TikTokers do their thing
The question now is who the hell is she? She looks like 20-30 years older than the one girl.
The look nothing alike, how would you even fall for that
@@Illlium she could’ve looked like her dad more lol
I hafta admit, I was a bit disappointed.
Mom: Hey let's be swingers
Daughter: If you incest
G O L D 😂💯
that got me lmao
why am i laughing
HAHAHAH THIS IS GREAT
Ohhhh and the crowd goes WILD!!
The way I CACKLED at the sweating cucumber
🍎🍍"How's Evelyn?" 😂
Istg I love Chad Chad so much.
literally i just wanna know what her brain had to do to come up with that skit XD
Same oh my god
omg me too
Same lmfao💀
The only time I've spent years trying to convince my partner to do something was over sleepwear. They slept in their jeans when we first got together. I couldn't let that be.
They must have had a rough upbringing. My ex was the one who got me to start wearing sleepwear, too
Wait really? I can only fall asleep if I'm wearing loose, soft clothing. Couldn't imagine sleeping in jeans. Even buttons annoy me too much 😅
Oh no! Ow!! I've only slept in jeans a handful of times in my life and I've regretted it every time.
What the fuck
i sleep in jeans all the time please explain why you despise jean sleepers /silly
Produce tales has to be the most iconic thing i've heard in a while
Agree
Absolutely!🍍🍎🥒
Chad Chad never disappoints and always looks gorgeous. 🙌
@@LynnAgain83 ikr sooo pretty!
Have you never heard of veggietales? Lol...
@@-xphobia oh haha i grew up watching that hence why this is so iconic lol
I will never get tired of the a 'twiiiiiiiiiiiinge of criiiiiiinge' with harpsichord background music
Agreed
for some reason it really irks me, but honestly that just means it delivers exactly what it's advertising so I can't even fault it
@@ittybittynautilus2468 oh man i used to HATE it too, like i really could not stand it. but after watching 87 chad chad videos, it started to grow on me. i kinda love it now lol
Same
The extra large googly eyes on Rob and the sweat dripping off of Gary had me rolling, you're so funny lmao
The relief I felt when Chad Chad broke the glorious news that they are in fact, not mother and daughter.
I WAS SO CONCERNED
@@Sofia-wh9jr The messed up thing is there's actually a real mother daughter due who do only fans together. However it's even more disturbing when the details surrounding how it happened become apparent.
@@snikrdoodls14 .......... i'll probably regret asking, but how disturbing, exactly?
@@ashtonisvibing4763 Well as disturbing as a mother telling her two young children about her job being an adult entertainer. Then proceeding to suggest years later, to her then barely legal daughter after struggling to find a job after college, to strip with her on onlyfans to rake the money in. Then the daughter saying in a video interview, that anyone who says it's messed up is just jealous of her and her relationship with her mother. If that doesn't scream grooming and reckless parenting, I don't know what does.
@@snikrdoodls14 what in the horrible parenting-
These skits are getting super funny, not that they weren’t before, but now they’re just even better
FACTS! 🥒🍎🍍😆
The last part was the best imo, she’s so creative 😂
@@majaquinn hello
@@majaquinn Lol I just saw your comment early
they used to be funny.
they still are funny, but they used to too
Swinging, like any type of non-monogamous relationship, is about communication and boundaries. You can still cheat in a non-monogamous relationship. It's supposed to have open communication and agreement on all sides, not deceit and secrets
"Swinging, like any type of healthy relationship whatsoever, is about communication and boundaries" FIFY.
@@trianglemoebius I mean I was talking about a specific type of relationship but that's a fair addition!
@@MultiJordan2005 Ha. I was driving home the criticism you were giving of these individuals, not slighting you. Widening the scope to hammer home how astronomically fucked up they were.
Glad you didn't take offense, because none was intended at you!
Hahaha cope. You're still a degenerate.
@@trianglemoebius lol, swinging and deception. Like peas in a pod.
The veggietales intro was SUPER nostalgic
Uhhhh which part
@Just Dope what👨🦲
@@liane6536 I was kidding because you know the handcuffs and ya
With the handcuffs? Yeeesss
I remember the exact episode this happened
I don't think about hairstyles, I literally couldn't care any less. That said, Chad's look in this video is an absolute winner.
Thank you, you actually said that you couldn't care less instead of you could care less. That's very satisfying to me.
@@aztecdubstep189 No problem.
yes somebody finally said "i couldnt care less"
Wait some people don’t care about hair?
Her lips are just mwah.
Hey that's my first pun.
As a representative of the non-monogamous community I just want to make it clear that we don't wanna claim these people. If your partner isn't comfortable with what you're doing that's NOT polyamory/swinging/non-monogamy... that's just cheating. Those are very different things. Non-monogamy is entirely built on communication and respecting each others boundaries
I have unfortunately seen too many poly people manipulate their partners into agreeing to it, but I know there are LOADS of people in the poly community that are super great to their partners and their partners are super on board. It's too bad people like this make it look weird to everyone.
It seems when I have seen poly couples in the past that someone is always unhappy. It attracts hyper sexaul people and those who don't like commitment. It is going to attract narcissistic types of people.
THIS. I'm poly and my partner is questioning but we both make sure to communicate and respect each others set boundaries. I don't go and try to get together with other people behind their back or bring someone else into the relationship.
It's not hard at all to respect that, and It makes me so upset that cheaters will turn and go "well I'm poly actually" to justify their cheating. Like, it's really not hard to respect boundaries. . . Plus, It's just further reinforcing the negative stereotypes, really.
Reminds me of when I was dating somebody four years back who had a record of cheating and using that excuse. They even called partners of theirs cruel names if they got upset over it. People like them are just cruel to be around tbh.
Thank you for saying this so clearly.
I wouldn't say it's that completely black and white. People can be uncomfortable but still open to try for various reasons.
When I got together with my ex eight years ago, I really didn't want a monogamous relationship. I told him that, we argued about it, eventually I felt pressured into giving in, and agreed to it. I stayed faithful for years. It was hard. During that time, he cheated on me. More than once, with more than one person. Frankly, I should have just left. But I was younger and dumber then, and we were both otherwise really passionate about eachother and wanted things to work out. So eventually, I felt I had to lay down the law. Since he obviously couldn't respect his own demand for a monogamous relationship, we'd have an open one. That or nothing. I'd hoped that he would become more comfortable eventually, after he'd had time to see that sex with other people wouldn't make me any less devoted to him. Sadly, jealousy and insecurity are not beholden to reality. This went on for about two years. He was never comfortable with it. Eventually it, among other things, broke us up.
You could defiitely say I coerced my partner into a poly relationship. But I wouldn't call myself a cheater. I never lied to him, never did anything behind his back or without his express consent. We tried it his way for five years. We tried it my way for two. Neither worked.
I think it's tempting for people to see monogamous desires as more valid than poly desires because that's the standard of normalcy that society sets. Nobody ever talks about it being unfair to pressure a poly person into a monogamous relationship, even though I'm sure that happens much more than the reverse. Both desires are fair, both discomforts are fair, sometimes people's relationship needs just don't mesh and there's no way to go about it where someone isn't uncomfortable. I can't really fault people for trying anyways, if they feel strongly for eachother. Obviously there's a point at which they need to recognize that it's not going to work, and me and my ex's should have been a lot sooner, but making sacrifices and attempting compromise is part of relationships.
Just sayin'. Context.
As a pastor's kid, I fully approve of this Veggie Tales homage.
I'm a kid of a church secretary, and I also approve
Sunday school teacher here, I approve
Daughter of a couple of Sunday School teachers and I also approve
Another pk here and yes.
Just waiting for bible man now... 😅
Liberty University student here, and my community group approves as well
Spoiler warning
The absolute RELIEF I felt when you said she’s not actually her mom is immeasurable lmao 😭
IKR I WAS SO STRESSED OUT AND DISGUSTED 😭😭😭
I was ready to forget everything I've ever seen this
No but for real, now i'm just scared of the ppl who thinks is real and enjoys it
hey spoilers!!
My "eewwww" turned into "whew"
The fact that Rob’s eyes got bigger after seeing Garry’s funtime toys is just…. I have no words. Simply impeccable.
There’s a huge difference between polyamory and trying to justify being a cheater
just to clarify, polyamory and swinging are not inherently the same thing.
Yea polyamory and swinging are not the same but are adjacent and sometimes overlapping things.
@@MommahKat I'm confused can you tell me what's the difference between both of them please?
@@x.o.x.oooooo
Plolyamory is when 3 or more people are in a romantic relationship together with exclusively each other.
Monogamy is when 2 people are in a romantic relationship with exclusively each other.
Swinging is when two people in a monogamous relationship will swap partners with two people from another monogamous relationship, within agreed upon boundaries.
Open relationships is when 2 or more people are in a relationship together but with each individually form different relationships outside of the center relationship within agred upon boundaries. (This is also sometimes referred to as Plolyamory- but the boundaries and interactions are often very different)
Any breakage of boundaries in any of these relationship models is Cheating. And it is possible to combine or have a mix of different relationship models. All of them are valid so long as it it with fully informed consistenting adults.
Hope this helps!
Mainly consent on both parties
This sounds like a concept only Alabama could come up with
Completely agree. I could see a solid South Carolina too
*i forgot the lyrics*
*sweet home alabama??*
@@voosgoose much classic
@@AaronYorkYT South Carolina is definitely a solid contender
your pfp is sus
as a person who's poly and would be fine with swinging... if you need to coerce your partner into those kinds of relationships, they don't want to do it. it's manipulative and awful to do. if you can't respect your partner's boundaries you aren't their partner. sure maybe that person loves you enough to go through the pain and discomfort of you sleeping and flirting with other's instead of potentially loosing you, but if you love them why would you want to put them through that. also let's not turn the constant breaking of trust and hurting your spouse into a "haha i'm so quirky" thing. either get it together, or get a divorce. stop being a self centred ass. i'm surprised how he hasn't divorced her, though she's clearly for whatever reason got a hold of him. people like these put a bad name on open and poly relationships, we're not all like that
Chad Chad doesn't realize this, but her videos are curing everyone's boredom
Fishing for likes? Bc you’re early?
@@charmstewart7381 I know you're talking to them, but what are you talking about?
She does realize this. Which is why she makes the videos & why they’re successful
Fr
always looking forward to a new chad chad video
My mom is an abusive narc, she introduced us at very young ages (me and my siblings) to the concept of sister wives and swinging, so she could cheat on our dad in front of us without fear of us telling anyone. She groomed and abused us in loads of other ways but yeah. Gross
she's that kind of mom
ew
this doesn't seem the place to post about this. Isn't group therapy, better for you?
@@lullobiertje well it’s on topic but yeah it was very heavy
@Sukuna simp no I live in a place that has socialized medicine.
Thank you for mentioning Larry’s hairbrush. As a 30yo I’m still concerned on a regular basis about his hairbrush status. How does a hairless cuc even lose a hairbrush he never even needed?!
Get madam blueberry on the phone, her shopping addiction will sort this out!
i paused my existential crisis to come here. i don’t regret my decision.
Bitch. Same
🙌
Shit... you can pause yours?
I can relate
@@mushroomdestroyer hahaha only momentarily. we’re in the same boat
“I SAID STOP MICHELL” I’m defrosting omggg
I'm telling you!!! 🤣🤣
Pffft
Its funny cos Gen-Z can use any word to say 'laughing' like I can be like
Im throwing my self out of a helicopter right now😂😂
And people will get it..like tf is wrong with my generation
Answer: nothing we are fine :,')
@@ellahughes22 oh, there is so much wrong with gen z
I should know, I'm gen z and have terrible mental health and the world feels like it's ending and humans are terrible but hey at least we have chad chad
@@ZimLikesPastaAnimation fr, gen z is the best and worst generation
i used to be in a polyamorous relationship, there was no jealousy because we would always tell each other how we felt or if we were flirting with someone else etc. like that's the whole point of a poly/open relationship, you're supposed to communicate with your partner(s) and that includes respecting boundaries.
when i first started dating my current boyfriend (who's monogamous), i asked him about an open relationship and he told me he wasn't comfortable with that. i never brought up the subject again because, as i told him, i knew even before dating him that we'd probably be monogamous and i was okay with that. he told me what his boundaries were and i respected them.
open relationships definitely should NOT be something you force onto someone else. if the person doesn't want it, accept it and go look elsewhere. these people are toxic af and it's disgusting.
I'm hypothetically poly (I say hypothetically because I haven't had an opportunity to test that theory) and I brought this up to my last partner. She said she wasn't comfortable with that, and I assured her that even though I was poly, dating just her was enough for me. Unfortunately, months later we had a miscommunication where I thought she changed her mind and I brought it up again, which really upset her (understandably so). I felt so incredibly guilty, and still do when I think about it. We broke up less than two months later, mainly due to general issues with communicating our feelings with each other when something was wrong. I can't imagine how someone would think it's okay to try to force someone into a non-monogamous relationship that they never wanted. What kind of partner are you if you can't respect your partner's boundaries? Not even partner- what kind of PERSON are you?
Poly and swinging are very different lifestyles. These people are jokes.
What r swingers actually??
@@user-zo2jm1vd9u swings switch partners for sexual activities, for instance, you have a wife and a husband. They’ll find another couple, and they’d switch partners. So the wife would do the diddle with the other couple’s husband and vis verses
And poly relationships consists of more than two people in a romantic and/or sexual relationship! They can be open or closed, and can come in all sizes and variations! However, it is extremely important that all parties consent to the arrangement!
@@starsiadraws this is polyamory, right?
@@kimmel636 Not really. The closest to polyamory these folks reach is probably unicorn hunters... Which isn't a compliment.
As a person with autism and siblings with dyslexia, ADHD, and anxiety disorders. I can confirm the swing works and we need way more swing sets out their!
yeah me too! i love to swing on swing sets it's so calming:D
I KNOW
@@rei-nf1tz swings are so fun, makes me dizzy though so i rather slide
exactly!!! I swing literally every day because I have a swing-set in my garden. It's amazing.
absolutely
As someone in a happy polyamorous relationship(not the same as swinging but adjacent) and all these videos are like the epitome of toxic/abusive swinging/poly relationships holy shit.
Idk what $wingers are but it sounds like they love swings..I’m still confused they love their moms and their swings?
indeed
@Just Dope no❤️
@Just Dope is this a rickroll
@@cheesec4kecat it's basically an islamic religious video. i risked it all for u lmaooo
@@kristinepinlac2796 lol thank you for telling us
That off-brand VeggieTales gave me flashbacks to my friend saying Larry would be good in bed.
God didn't like that one-
fellow baal lover ?
@@pluto-zi7ss not quite baal but..
@@pluto-zi7ss hell yeah. She made me lose being an f2p
Is she wrong tho?
@@aried2089 nope not one bit. I wanna know what he do to me ahahaha
As someone in a poly relationship, these tiktoks irritate the shit out of me. It's hard enough telling anyone monogamous about how your relationships work without garbage like this infecting public perception.
You can’t have a real relationship that will ever lead to a stable and secure future with more than 2 people
@@shisah5544 proof? Any sources to back that up? Or are you just talking out of your ass?
@@shisah5544 why not
@@shisah5544 lmao based on what?
@@shisah5544 Fun fact: Most poly relationships involve only two people. You can have multiple relationships (each with two people in them) parallel to each other and your partner won't be bothered by that your other partners at all if that's what you negotiated.
"I gotta get Larry a new hair brush" Chad Chad flexing that Veggietales knowledge. As a homeschooled loser I appreciate any veggietales references so much more than I should. -_-
Ayye homeschool gang ✌️✌️
Dang I wasn’t homeschooled but this was defo something played in church and in the car multiple times😅
My 42 year old parents still play this show at night and all my three siblings watch with them.
Btw, they’re 19, 16, and 11
@@DannyDevitoOffical-TrustMeBro never too late for some vegetable shenanigans.
@@matilda6341 exactly 😂
The scenes she does in the beginning are beautiful.
poor man who is gaslighted by his girlfriend,
I'm a girl but I've been through the same things before it was awful,
an ex who cheated on me and had some kind of situation/relationship with another person and also fantasized about sleeping with our friends used polyamory as an excuse,
he was acting like being in a monogamous relationship with me was a sort of oppressions or something💀
he tried for months to influence me to sleep with other people so that our relationship would become open, I felt like my consent was not respected at this point, he was putting himself in the position of victim for being polyamorous
now it makes me so angry when I see people forcing their partner to be in open relationship under the pretext of being open minded it's just a manipulative behavior
**cheats on partner without consent or confirmation that it's okay with them in any way**
Yeah, I'm that kind of wife 🤪
chad is having too much fun with the green screen isn’t she?
I mean I would lol
"Barbara lost a man in a t-shirt, and I gotta get Larry a new hairbrush" is the best joke I've heard in a long time. I cackled. Thank you.
I don't get it. Could you explain pls?
@@samevans1289 in veggie tales, one of the silly songs is about a soap opera with a character named “Barbara manatee” which inspired the “Barbara lost a man in a t shirt”
There is another silly song, where the character Larry sings about loosing his hairbrush and he asks various people if they have seen it
we need this version of veggietales aired now
No we don't
The black and red hair looks pretty nice, Chad Chad
@Just Dope no why
You know Chad was homeschooled when she starts out a video not only with a VeggieTales sketch but references multiple other VeggieTales bits.
“Barbara lost a man in a T-shirt” an immaculate joke that ALMOST went over my head
it totally went over my head 😥 what does it mean?
@@milkeyway7105 There’s a song from veggie tales called “Barbara Manatee” :>
@@milkeyway7105 its a reference to Barbara manatee, another veggietales song!
@@neamt9200 aah thank you sm! I've never watched veggietales haha
@@faithcamire8713 thank you sm!
Damn shawty, these intros are getting real high quality writing (I mean they always have but still)
love your content 💖💖💖
1:07 can’t believe you made a “where is my hairbrush” reference. I would never expect that in a million years
love your skits that are plastered throughout the video
they give my theater kid self life
Me: I'm very open minded, how bad can it be?
"What about my mum"
* Sound of my brain tearing *
I feel like this is why polyamorous people get a bad wrap this is scary 😭
Chad chad's humor rivals Kurtis Conner
Wdym rivals? They're basically siblings when it comes to comedy. I'd love to see a Collab between them at some stage
They're so similar, I half expected Chad chad to say "Swinger? I hardly know her."
They should be besties
They are arch nemesis and I need to see a RUclipsr boxing match between them haha
@@castlegarden2999 same 😭
I bet the hubby finally gave in bc they probably have kids together & he doesn't want his kids to suffer by getting a divorce.
Oh, that is so sad. And those poor kids..... having a parent with such poor communication and boundaries is not a good thing.
@@ritasprinkle5098 But it's progressive tho
@@MK_ULTRA420 huh? What do you mean?
i was thinking he consented and its just a k!nk thing that he complains and acts like hes not comfortable with it?
1:57 you missed the perfect opportunity to say "nailing it"
Never thought I'd see a cucumber sweat 😂 Also appreciate the hairbrush inclusion
The start of this video is immaculate
Yess
The “I’m sleeping with your mom” at the end had me rolling 💀
Dear Chad, please save us from not so part of the human race called tik tokers, bless us with your mercy and grace
9:53 "I'm sleeping with your mom"
I love that 💀
I love it too 😂
0:21 I actually looked it up what ephesians 12 was so here ya go:
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
what the fuck does this have to do with telling somebody you don't wanna share-
6:43 THE FILTER ON HIS FACE 😭 😭
My experience is that in an open relationship it depends on the boundaries set within the couple whether it's okay to flirt with others in front of each other or not, but it's definitely always important to communicate in an open and healthy way about jealousy, instead of...whatever that was
I feel like if you cant do it infront of ur partner then like whats the point? To me that says there is still some jealousy or discomfort about having ur prtner be with someone else. Im not poly but ive known a few poly couples, they were all open and agreeing about it but some of them definitley were sweeping a lot of discomfort and feelings under the rug by doing stuff like that.
Solid people don't do any of this open relationship stuff, no kind of it is normal
Boundaries are like rules, sooner or later they'll be broken.
@@oreocarlton3343 it actually is lol
@@oreocarlton3343 And it never will be, no matter how many people scream themselves blue that it is
2:55 I don't want to see ever again
Same
please never let me see your pfp again-
these skits will never get old💀💀
I mean I'd definitely watch some more of that "producetales" show... Rob and Gary look like pretty good actors
It took me longer than I care to admit to realize that the TikToks had off-brand recreations of songs because Chad Chad had to do them herself to avoid copyright stuff.
6:15 the fact that's they're watching the third hotel transylvania makes too much sense
I noticed it too 😂
Dang, we’re really getting spoiled by these high-effort, high-quality skits and I’m living for it
9:31 This is exactly how I imagine tiktoker's act in real life.
the eyes growing big at 0:40 💀
I am polyamorous (my fiancé is too) in a open relationship and we have discussed and are still discussing about boundaries to not hurt or make the other uncomfortable about anything within our relationship.
It's something that is so important for us as we just want to be living happily the way we feel and we're good with that.
Funnily enough I've never been really with other people and they didn't either since we started being together. We just didn't feel like it that's it. Our relationship is fulfilling as is it's just that we happen to be polyamorous.
We don't feel like seeing someone else is necessarily "filling a void" or keeping ourselves happy which is, to me, such a red flag (like if you feel your relationship isn't fulfilling open or not it seems wrong to me) but mostly we see as the ability to share love or affection (physical or not) maybe.
Also people who cheats aren't the people who would be good in that type of relationship... they use the excuse but they are just shitty people who cheats... It feels very wrong to me how they treat relationships and boundaries. Seems very unhealthy.
I'm sorry if the grammar or structure is weird I'm not an native English speaker and I'm tired 😓
Just wanted to share my opinion and experience as someone who lives in an open relationship.
I feel like many people who claim themselves as "polyamorous" and see other people are often just super weak-minded that want to cheat/ get tired of their partner and find a way to make their problem some sort of solution.
It's something pretty common in the poly couple that have 1 "true" poly partner and the other just accept their partner demand for love while the other one ( i'll call them the cheater one because in that case it is) have fun with other people while keeping the main partner as a way to always get somewhere to land if they find nothing interesting anymore in the new partners they get
I'm tired of labels, especially the one who get overused and miss-used.
You get the same problem with people who claim to be Bisexual just for the sake of it but only really date 1 gender. I find it kinda harmful for the real poly ( and bi there), especially when those fake labelled people tarnished the flag they wave
@@froggobaggins3328 sorry to nitpick here but being bi doesn't come with a mandatory has to have dated women and men before. For some people it could have not worked out with one of the genders and that's why they only dated one gender, this doesn't invalidate them but I feel like often bi people get shit for never having dated a specific gender.
@@alicehellsing5505 Not dating because you didn't have the chance to is okay, you don't chose who you are attracted to. But specifically avoiding one gender because one of them did some harm to you at some point or think they will do harm to you is problematic. at this point you need to work on that fear/ hate or don't claim to be bi if you only go toward one specific gender.
It's like saying you like all kind of women but avoid everything but one type of woman
I just do not even come close to understanding what could be even remotely appealing about this lifestyle. I wish someone could make me understand but no-one has as of yet.
You're not wrong. Swinging is when both people in the relationship consent to it, and if one person doesn't it is being unloyal. I have a lot of friends who are swingers, I don't mind it. They do what they do safely and consensually.
I’ve never gotten this lucky to see a video five minutes after upload. Why do I feel starstruck 😄✨
me: i wanna watch veggietales
mom: we have veggietales at home!
veggietales at home: 0:05
Honestly when I saw the first clips of this it truly made me light headed and then when you clarified I felt a HUGE relief.
Chad, my absolute beloved, thank you for this video, I needed a reason to not sleep
Same here
her new hair is so beautiful 😩
As a mom who shows her son VeggieTales... I approve of this intro 😂 dear God, that was gold.
her version of veggietales was so funny, i cant stop laughing
As a poly person this is just painful. The straights are not ok.
I don’t know if I feel better that they are choosing to pretend they’re having an in-cest ous relationship.
Ok heathen😃
@@senorpepper3405 wtf is your problem
@@elderwool6510 why I was just communicating with someone who thinks they are a polygon. I wonder what kind. Probably a dodecahedron. Yeah that sounds cool.
@@senorpepper3405 okay honestly i think that this is a pointless argument. I hope you can improve your close minded opinions in the future
@@elderwool6510 I like rectangles. What you talkin bout?
When you're literally choking from laughter in the first minute of the video, you know Chad Chad has something good for us! XD
I would binge watch producetales and not complain a bit..
4:58 the way she screamed here, it's like I can see all her traumas in her life of Michelle. . . .
The idea Chad Chad has to make the sounds for music to avoid a copyright strike is so funny. I’m imagining just sitting in a room making mouth sounds into a mic.
Waiting for ur cover album to drop.
Is ur work ethic an onion? Bc it’s wrapped in layers 🧅 boy!
6:50 This does not sit right with me at all..... like if she was so lustful/ polyamorus (is swinging polygamous?????) and he was monogamous., i don't think it's right for her to try and convince him to step out a VERY clear boundary that was set. And or continously break that boundary(honestly is a promise ) she should not have even let the issue become that big.
I don't respect this at all, she seems like a manipulative lady
She's bragging about continuously cheating on her partner and probably gaslit him into staying with her. She leaves a bad taste in my mouth too. When entering into any sort of non-monogamous relationship, BOTH partners need to want it, independent of the others' desires, imho. Well, if one partner is skeptical at first but does research and decides they do want it, that's different. But having to convince your partner to do it makes me feel like they don't want it and are doing it because a. they don't want to deny their partner or b. they get manipulated.
There’s nothing wrong with an open relationship but when you force a partner into it that isn’t an open relationship that’s just cheating. And if your partner just wants to date you but is okay with you dating others, you shouldn’t force them to also date others even if they don’t mind you dating others.
4:52 so relatable🤣🤣🤣
This is some next level comedy writing. I just stumbled across your channel so glad I did. Thanks for the laughs. Frankly I could give a fuck about any of these people, the fact that they have a platform at all makes me deeply sad, but your comedic take on the absurdity makes it all hurt just a little bit less. Stay gold Chad Chad...stay gold!
8:28 "your husband asks why he can't see your location". What? People share their location? That's intrusive as hell. Huge red flag.
I think it's about that feature on snap
TikTok is degenerating our society.
The very beginning is a disturbing episode of veggie tales.
These videos are so good for me. After being so upset all day about mass shootings and war and poverty and all the other terrible shit, it's good to be reminded that this world needs to go.
8:11 What do you mean the phone appears to be perfectly secure in your grip? **tremendous laughter ensues at my very funny joke**
7:14 achievement unlocked: That kind of wife
4:01 I can breathe again
00:52 "how's Evelyn?" caught me so off guard...my name's Evelyn....
BRO SAME!!! XD
1:16 CHAD CHAD WHATRE YOU GONNA DO TO BOB-
Arrest him
@@poopiepoopyes1966( not really )
My god, when you said (L)Garry needed a new hairbrush, it completed me. It is such a subtle reference for anyone raised with silly songs with Larry. Thank you so much
Admittedly polyamorous relationships sound cool at times but I just crave having one woman to like me 😢
Absolutely LIVING for these Veggietales references, like that Barabra manatee one? 11/10 Love you Chad-Chad
I CRIED WHEN I HEARD: "AnD i GoTtA gEt LaRrY a NeW hAiR bRuSh" 😔
if we can have an end credits mini episode of producetales every upload, i would love that.
We gave the same phone case lol
holy shit kat watches chadchad