Q&A: Anxious In Open Relationship
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- Опубликовано: 4 окт 2024
- My first ever gay relationship advice Q&A video! A viewer wrote in an asked about feeling anxious, insecure, or jealous in an open relationship. It's his first time being in a gay open relationship while his boyfriend has been in open relationships in the past. He's looking for some tactics on how he can work through those feelings and feel more secure in his relationship.
What about you? How do you handle feelings of insecurity in your relationship?
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Attached - amzn.to/2LISfxX
Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg - amzn.to/2JnqZ6q
Video series on nonviolent communication - bit.ly/2NJ51iI
Is an open relationship right for me?
The Ethical Slut - amzn.to/2LISMQt
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What about you? How do you handle feelings of insecurity in your relationship?
Whoah, I'm learning so much over here! Added those books to my cart. Thank again man, you are a lifesaver. I'm a gay man who's seeing somebody who does not believe a monogamous relationship can last/work. I know it will challenge everything I was raised with, ideas, beliefs, etc. But I am willing to learn and am open to new things. I know transitioning won't be easy, but you definitely help so much! so stoked to check out your other videos!!
These books are all great! I should do an updated video because some new ones are out now that I’d recommend even more.
Poly-secure by Jessica Fern and
Multimamory by Jase, Emily, and Dedeker (check out my recent interview with them)
Those are open relationship must reads!
I'm not gay but your video still helped me a lot and brought some very interesting questions, I feel less scared, thank you!
I'm glad to hear that Mathieu! Thanks for letting me know.
And yeah, most of the concepts are the same regardless of your sexual orientation.
How does all this hold up for mostly straight people… Or bisexual woman? From your clients experience? (Or are the majority of your clients Gay men?)
Great question Alexandra! I address a lot of my videos to/from gay guys because (surprisingly!) a lot of the open and poly resources aren't really for or by us. I do work with women and straight people, too. That said, the same basic principles are at play regardless of the gender or sexualities of the partners involved. One thing I'd watch out for in relationships with partners of different genders is how gendered expectations (for instance "It's ok if my girlfriend hooks up with women but I'm the only man she can be with") and interpretations ("You're anxious because women are more emotional") play out. Though, I probably don't need to tell you that ;)
Thanks for the response Brian! Of all the content I’ve consumed on this topic your POV has been most helpful. 😊
so glad to hear that :)
Most ... I say most are not ready for open relationships... just be friends... that way you can go and come as you please ... no harm no foul ... why do you need a "relationship"
"why do you need a relationship?" is a great question for all of us to ask. Thanks Mario!
For me, I appreciate the partnership, the knows-me-very-deeply, the there for each other through thick and thin, and also the sex! I also have parts of that with my friends, family of origin, and chosen family. Having a life full of different types of relationships makes it meaningful to me.
@@thisisbgm Thank you Brian for the reply - I REALLY appreciate you sharing all this information with everyone, it's a tough TABOO topic and you are brave = ) watching your videos has confirmed to me that it's definitely not for me but... just because it's not for me.. doesn't mean it's right or wrong. Thank you Brain.. I'll keep watching... always continue to learn is my motto = ) xo Mario
@@mariobarrera9052 knowing yourself and what you want is SO important!
A better question is: Why do you need to be married and have children if you want an open relationship? It's not the same commitment and responsibility in a relationship when you're just boyfriends than married, than married with children. @thisisbgm @mariobarrera9052