EP#31: John Wineland: What Men Crave & What Women Want, The Life Stylist Podcast
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- Опубликовано: 18 окт 2024
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We all want to be loved. I mean at the end of the day, isn’t that the hidden motive behind so many of our decisions and behaviors? When a man posts an image of his Porsche, or Rolex on Facebook, or a woman posts sexy shots of her Chanel handbag and cleavage on Instagram isn’t a desire for love the underlying motive at play? Is not proving one’s social status to the world, after all, just a thinly veiled cry for love? Throughout my life, I have observed that a vast majority of time and energy spent has been in the pursuit of love and approval from others, whether that be directly or indirectly. Perhaps there is even a small part of me sitting here writing this intro that has a desire to appear evolved, or intelligent in order to be well-liked, popular, and ultimately loved.
So what's wrong with wanting love in our lives? There is of course nothing wrong with wanting it. But what do we do with it once we’ve found it? The problem is that once we figure out how to flirt, date, and make love we often find ourselves in relationship with another human with virtually no clue how to navigate that terrain successfully. Do to negative social programming, and misinformation, most of us spend years of our lives endlessly breaking hearts and having ours broken in return, as a result of a fundamental lack of understanding of what makes the opposite sex tick.
Despite the politically correct narrative in our current culture, the fact remains that on a biological level, males and females are not the same. We ultimately crave the same love, but we go about getting and giving it in such different ways.
In this episode, we take a truly intimate look at what men and women want from each other, and how we can learn to give and receive that which is so deeply desired to one another in an honest, and sustainable way. Consider this interview is a lesson in myth-busting, and paradigm shifting. Remember to keep an open mind, but more importantly- an open heart.
Please share this with someone you know who desires more fulfilling, loving relationships in their life. Maybe even that someone with whom you’re currently in love.
Blessings to you and yours,
Luke
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So much of this resonated with me. I have always wanted to give all my femininity, all of myself, but I have never found a man who is intuned. As a single, strong, independent woman I am tired of being treated like a man. Thanks for being understanding of our needs and putting that information out there.
I'm glad that it helped you!
GREAT topics, good point of view! We need more videos like that!
I truly appreciate you both speaking from your hearts with a vulnerability that is genuine and beautiful. Thank you for lighting the path for me and others!
I have been offering this space of vulnerability to the men I have had relationships with, holding a space of vulnerability not submissiveness (don't get it confused) HOLD YOUR FEMININITY LADIES and it will ALLOW YOUR MAN to OPEN. See him for who he is, not the things you expect or judge or know him to be if there's a history. Men respond greatly to this, just be soft, yet state your needs and boundaries in a respectful way "I require this to make me feel this way etc" MEN FEEL LOVE VIA RESPECT and if you can CULTIVATE THE RESPECT without being a BITCH, just state your needs and ASK HIM WHAT HE TRULY NEEDS. Eye gaze, just look at each other, connect in breathing, hold each other without any movement or expecations to have SEX JUST BE WITH EACH OTHER. INTIMACY IS A LOST ART due to our FEARS
Thanks Luke! This is great! I admired it when you said that your life's mission comes first.
Impressive podcast. I appreciated Luke's ability to be so vulnerable. Thank you both for the work you do. Blessings!
Thank you for this, lads. Good conversation! And good messages from John about what women want ...men who have depth...men who desire and worship them... "men whose nervous systems are strong enough to handle a woman's ALL". Carry on, men! LOVE FULLY! About money...women STILL earn FAR LESS in general - - so you must be hanging out with very successful women.
Especially when you factor in motherhood!!!
Thank you! Love this! Looking forward to Part 2 :):)
lots of great stuff. the conversation was rich...i learned so much. thank you!
Thank you both so so much for doing and sharing this, this put so many puzzles in place for me. Much gratitude! 🙏
This is just bringing so much clarity for me at this time ☀️🌠
Wowee this was amazing to hear. Described the man I’ve been longing for for so long. Strong, still and can hold all of me and all I bring. This is the man I would respect. The way he spoke at 54:00 so deep OMG soooo hot!
54:25 John so true of a point. It turned my nervous system on high. Thank you
i could totally do the eye gazing with you :D one of my fav excercises ;)
Wow! was a real pleasure to see u guys share all those preciuous informations. Thank you for healing the masculine and thus the feminine. Namaste
As a woman I do long to be feminine. Have always been "one of the guys" which now I see has made me solid..hard and emotionally blocked.
I appreciate the call to release and be what I know is within me.
This is great. I just found your talks Luke. Love your work. Thanks for your service.
34:35 "A man that stands like a mountain." Well, that's a unicorn 🦄 Show me a man who is solid like that outside of a man circle setting and I surely will savour him forever..
@Helene Steen: Go to most Evangelical churches . . . or Mormon churches . . . or Amish communities . . . or Japan . . . and that's what you'll find, more often than not. But then, I suspect that maybe you'd interpret the Men's "solidity" as being dogmatic or rigid or old-fashioned about Masculine and Feminine roles . . .
Thank you. This is helping me to connect to my masculinity.
Absolutely awesome ! You two gorgeous men are Legends. Thank you.
Love watching you guys. I learned so much. I appreciate your honesty and openness!
Oh my I LOVE this & adore you both for being vulnerable, courageous & sexy lions!!! Thanks so much for sharing this with us all. You are spot on! xxx
Awesome!!
Was a part 2 ever made?
Love to you both! Keep up this necessary work ❤️❤️❤️🙏
PS You would never be asked to sacrifice your relationship to Source by a woman who is awakened herself ...and shares your priority. Miguel Ruiz says it's common VALUES that keep people together, rather than attraction, humor, charm, shared delight...VALUES.
Love hear John do the woman TED talk
I am with you! ❤️ ❤️❤️. I crave for connections!
Let the man speak...John had some great things to say here, but I felt the interviewer dominated the conversations with his own stories and comments...Shame
About the living alone and just being with yourself only part, as sort of a cleanse after a breakup:
What if a guy has been 90% single in his life, and hardly lived with a partner either? Should he be daring to continue to open himself and his life to a woman. Or break up with a woman he loves because he feels he can't do relationships right now, and be alone for however long it'll take for him to be ready? If a guy constantly has background noise and watches movies and comedy, constant stimulation, what does that mean?
Does that advice apply to women? I just got broken up with the man I described above, who said he didn't feel worthy of being with me, and that due to emotional issues in his own life that are coming up (major traumatic and sad childhood stuff), he couldn't handle being in a r'ship.
I think I've been going after a relationship for a solid 3-4 year to no avail. Should I just quit the dating completely for 6 months to a year, entertaining no dating in person or online, and just be with myself, create a life I'd love to live, work and all, and when I'm totally good with myself and my life, then dare to date and be open with a men again? And what if I have lived alone a lot in my life? Not wanted to lived with roommates or a parent and never lived with a boyfriend? Should I start having roommates and live with people I like?
Rebecca Kehl Maybe you are trying too hard. When a man says he isn't good enough for you, he is not interested in a relationship with you. Believe him and move on. He may change his mind!
I'm finding men who are so self absorbed and talking mostly about the job/business on first dates/calls
@excusesbegone: Maybe it's YOU who are self absorbed in not knowing how to talk with Men about job/business so as to relate it to Life values, goals, purpose, challenges, and meaning (?)
Objectively speaking how many men have you surveyed to confirm these?
4:10 Women have gotten very good at saying "Here's what I want" (?) Are you actually good at saying what you want . . . if what you say you want is unrealistic to the point of being impossible (?) No . . . and that's the case with most Women today.
Agree a lot of modern women seem to have unrealistic expectations and they're never open to healing their childhood traumas. The blame game is appalling
beautiful
U are also so skeptical of women. And so insecure. It’s gut wrenching to listen to u. John however is WOW. What a man. Thank u
Matriarchy wooooooo, love this. Alot of truth
WHAT WOMEN WANT! Respect, Honesty, (Don't say you are divorced, when only separated).! Loyalty, Humour, Affection, (Does not necessarily mean SEX!) Integrity. Women used to be accused of only wanting a man for his money. Now they earn their OWN money and don't need a man just for that, Nor a man who just wants to get into their panties. Men don't seem to like it if a woman has an opinion, Just like the song in the first wives club " Don't tell me what to do, and don't tell me what to say" I dated a man for just a few weeks, and he told me I should get a bigger screen T.V. I barely knew the guy!
@Ann Harrison: You say: "Now they earn their OWN money and don't need a man just for that . . ." So you need to explain why Women, no matter how much money they make, still want a Man who makes MORE . . .
Why do men sexually crave a woman, while not being in love with her?
Because men’s sexual desire runs deeper than emotions.
Men wonder the opposite thing about women, why do they only sexually crave a man if there are emotions? I suppose the answer is that we’re just built that way, because idk about you but nothing could possibly change that about me as a man, no amount of childhood conditioning
7 minutes into this video and still no real instructions
26:27 So then you need to explain why Women, no matter how much money they make, still want a Man who makes MORE . .
What I found is that even though they make more, they always want the option to just quit if she ever wanted to, hence the reason they want you to make more in the event they change their mind. A woman’s innate mission is to create a home in the village and provide a warm place to raise children, while the men provide. Woman are just playing these masculine roles because they think they have to, but they secretly resent it.
Mumbo jumbo
You are one of the most judgemental speakers out there. Incredible topics and guests but maybe keep the personal judgements to urself. Credibility ya know.